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Good Things Come to Those Who Wait... Posted: 2/21/2008 7:56:35 PM
Sorry for the misunderstanding, I thought mentioning that we lived together would insinuate he and I were together in writing this. But I felt silly writing the stuff he wanted to say about me. I met "Moufpiece: Symba looking for his Nala" on POF, we are happy. He would write from his account only he deleted it after we met... I kept mine because I enjoy the forums... Hope this clarifies any confusion. LOL

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Good Things Come to Those Who Wait... Posted: 2/21/2008 7:27:19 PM
Niether of us were believers in that quote when it came to relationships... but in the end it prove itself true. We just wanted to say to all of you out there that keep giving up, or letting the no replies, liars, cheats, playas and idiots of the world draw them from this site... your giving up too soon. Personally it took me 6 months, 6 fun months... I had the forums, the funny profiles to look at, met some crazies, and met some awesome people. In the end this site is really what you make of it. I had fun with the hopes of meeting someone special and now I am living with the funniest, most understanding, entertaining, loving man I have ever met. Does it happen for everyone? I have no idea... but its worth a try, cause if your lucky enough to find it - its worth all of the trials and tribulations it took to get there. As so many have said before us, we both would like to thank POF!!!!!!!!

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Damaged beyond belief... Posted: 1/8/2008 7:50:03 PM
Welcome to dating... its a risk. I say next time regardless of what someone tells you they feel, stick with your gut. It is easy to fall in love with love... they keep falling further, you fear losing them because you are "held up". If it is real, they would wait for you to find your feelings in the end. In this case, you rushed yourself and seemingly had good reason to wait. My advice to you, in love and life, don't doubt your first instinct. Go with what makes you happy and comfortable in every situation. That way, you never have to go through this again. I am sure you are not crying over losing him, but more so, losing yourself in him... letting him make you feel more than you were ready to reveal. Love is not a race. In the end, you will know it is real when you both meet there, not arrive at the same time. Good luck and chins up, its life sweety. Time to move on! E*

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she is hot ...but wow look at her friend! Posted: 11/13/2007 6:23:32 PM
I do not think it is a big deal. But do it nicely... find a legitimate reason, some of her interests or something that makes her not a match for you, then just be inquisitive about her friend. Maybe while doing the investigation on her profile, you will find her looks brought you to her profile for a reason and what she has to say is nice and her interests are a good match to yours. In the end, whomever your preference winds up being... know there will always be someone "better looking", but that falls into "the grass is greener catagory." If it still remains this lady of mystery is more appealing, go for it, never hurts to ask especially if done nicely. I have a single Best Friend, I love her and want her to be happy too; on top of that, have plenty of married friends whom would love to hear someone complimented her, just for shits and giggles!!!!! Happy E*

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I need some dating advice Posted: 11/13/2007 4:17:43 PM
OP, you didn't give too much info about what you are doing, but you are getting numbers which is more than some people can say... but from a woman's point of view... maybe listing paintball as an activity you like is fine, cooking is great, internet is obvious (we are all on here, LOL) but what else are you looking for, what other interests do you have? What type of women are you emailing? When you go out are you always with a group? When you call these women are these wrong numbers or are you actually making contact but the conversation goes nowhere. In the end the best advice I have for anyone is be yourself, be patient, and try to just have fun in the mean time. A confident (not****) man having a good time always makes me want to join his party... Good luck

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Am I over-reacting... or is he being insensitive? Posted: 11/13/2007 3:49:00 PM
Athulatha... I totally agree. OP, you are being too sensitive. It would be a whole different story if he sat there hounding you or repeatedly asking you for it. It doesn't even sound as if he pressured you. Remember there is 'No harm in asking for something you want" worst case scenerio the answer is no. You said no and it sounds like he respected it. You said you are just getting to know him, as he is you... remember a lot of people start of with some kind of boundry or limit, but in the heat of the moment it goes further then maybe either of them anticipated, not the end of the world. You didn't, good for you. It was also only your second date, take your time, get to know him before you jump to any conclusions and try not to focus so much on the small stuff. Good luck to you both.

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When is it ok to show cleavage Posted: 11/6/2007 9:10:00 AM
LOL, What is this 1950? Who in the hell cares what you show, its how you act that should give people impressions. It does draw attention, so do it when you want that, feel like it or just love a certain top and want to wear it. Dress for yourself and forget about worrying what others think.

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How to when you're on top.... Posted: 10/29/2007 3:09:50 PM
Hey OP, if your man is too big, which can make it difficult to move your hips... strattle him in a squatted position remaining on your feet, not knees, this is a great leg work out (LOL), basically just the movement of going up and down, it feels good for you, not much C**T action, but all of your muscles are tightened in this position so you can imagine how it will make your partner feel. Over time you'll be able to last longer, turn around, and have killer legs to show off! Have fun exploring! (Also, I agree, porn can be fun to watch with your partner, but it can also be a great teaching or idea tool!)

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question about interracial dating ... Posted: 10/18/2007 2:58:32 PM
Its as simple to me as a preference, some men like larger women, other small, some women like tall and slim while others want a teddy bear... I do not think it is something you actually decide, atleast for me it is not. Growing up the only black man I knew and was friends with was about 2 inches shorter than me and a bout 20 lbs smaller, he was fun and was a friend... When I got to highschool and saw a world of difference in age and ethnicity...I have been attracted ever since. Its my preference, it means no disrespect to other races, including my own, I have dated outside of this attraction, due to personality or connection but as I have fine tuned what I am looking for (as I get older and more serious about settling down), I find my main attraction is to a specific type of person. I have narrowed the search is all. I know what has worked in the past, what I liked and loved; for most of us this is not uncommon when it comes to personality traits, why not physical ones as well? How is this so different or confusing? I had a great interracial relationship for five years... I do not see color in life or friendship, I do not judge others on religious or political beliefs, but when it comes to me and what I am attracted to, regardless of the small minded individuals of the world I have encountered, I still like what I like... the guy likes the BBW, the woman likes the tall and slim, I like the BBM (beautiful black man)... to each their own.

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boobs Posted: 10/18/2007 2:25:22 PM
One thing about women... you have straight hair,you want curly... you have smaller breasts, you want bigger breasts... we are constantly thinking wishing whatever, if my hair were thicker, if my hair were longer.. we do the grass is greener all the time. I have nothing against implants, my mother has them. Myself, I have DD's, I like my breasts, but I hate how it is hard to find the right tops, or a tank top that would look so cute and sexy on you looks slutty on me... just make sure in the end you do it for yourself. Now you have had relationships, your obviously a beautiful girl just the way you are... men are attracted to more than just breasts, you need to remember you are more than a chest... you are a person with a sense of humor and personality worth knowing. Sexy isn't just how you look, people can be shallow (but avoid those people), focus on those that enjoy you for you and maybe take some notes... in the end your an adult, your going to make up your own mind. I just don't want to see you with a forum post in a few months asking why men don't like fake breasts that much... everyone has their opinions, which is why it is so important to make sure you do it for yourself, you will never make everyone happy.

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I need to know..... please! Posted: 9/28/2007 11:37:21 AM
I have what definitely feels similar to an orgasm whenever I have to pee and have held it. It has never interfeared with work or anything else, it feels good, I wouldn't say it is as strong as intercourse big O's... I just thought it was normal and noone spoke of it, LOL or I was alone and kinda lucky Your situation is definitely different, it really only happens to me when I have had to hold for a period of time. Is this every time you pee? I am just curious, and if so is this something new that has just recently began? It does seem wierd to me that this would begin all of a sudden...

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Does he really mean it? Posted: 9/20/2007 7:29:46 PM
grneyedcaligirl... LOL, thanks for the feedback, but let me clarify... It takes me about 10 minutes to do my makeup, mascara being 5 of that, LOL... the rest of the time is on my hair, it is naturally wavy but I wear it straight and have a ton of hair, so between the blow dry, blowing out and then straightening, a good 30 minutes flies by fast. I just wanted to clarify I am definitely not wearing enough makeup that it would take me 45 minutes to do!!!

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Does he really mean it? Posted: 9/20/2007 12:10:54 PM
Agentangi... that is exactly what I am tryong to avoid!!! LOL Thanks!

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Does he really mean it? Posted: 9/19/2007 7:45:27 PM
I have been dating someone casually for the past 7 weeks, due to our schedules we mostly meet up during the week, we do a lot of BBQ'ing and cooking at home, which I love; and although I dress slightly more casual than I would for a restaurant, I definitely like to do my hair and make up. Both of us work out after work, he obviously takes a lot less time to get ready than I do for our night... now here's the ?????? He tells me he will be here around 7, I often push it back, tell him 7:30 or even 7:45, because I want to get my makeup and everything done, now he has started saying stop that it doesn't matter, don't do all of that for me... So I ask... Do guys really mean that? He said he has seen me in the morning and I looked the same to him, he didn't like the idea I put so much effort into just us hanging out, he wanted me to be relaxed. I have to admit, a night of the gym a shower and just him would be nice, but I still don't know if he means it, or if it means I am already letting myself go?? LOL Any advice would be appreciated. (I am asking because I really do enjoy looking good for the man that I like, but if I could get away with it from time to time, I just might )

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Can a man really be too afraid? Posted: 9/19/2007 7:27:45 PM
He said: You are also in my heart, you are, but I always think that there may be something better around which is totally stupid I know He has already told you everything you need to know. So either care for him on his terms (which you have been doing all along) or move on... If I cared for a guy whom said he thinks there was even a small teeny tiny chance that something better might be out there, I would wish him the best of luck finding it. Why wait around for him to (one day) prove himself wrong, while you wait, or leave you when he finds he was right? I just wish people looking for committed relationships would seek people looking the same, it would save them a lot of confusion and time. Good luck

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SO HARD FOR ME?? Posted: 9/19/2007 7:14:36 PM
I really feel you on this one, I used to have a really hard time and became the queen of all fakes!!! But I bought a "rabbit" it is awesome, had it for years now, it stimulates the clit while also penetrating and vibrating, so now when I am having sex with my partner we both know that the only way for me to find the big O is if my clit is being stimulated, so I tend to get on top when I feel I want to go, this is "my position" its guranteed... except when I am distracted or uncomfortable... so check yourself out "down there" find what works and maybe think back on the past times you had great sex but came up empty, who were you with, what was going on in your relationship, in your life, with your family... maybe it is mental? Sometimes just knowing you can't do something sabotages you from getting it?? Just a suggestion, Good luck and happy happy hunting

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Morning Sex vs Evening/Night Sex Posted: 9/19/2007 6:54:07 PM
I was going to say sex for me is the complete opposite than hers, mainly because fo what puscifer wrote... night is more of everything fast and slow and additional rounds; while the morning is "I still want you atleast one more time before I have to get up:... but it is more like a wham bam good morning, now I have to pee. Lets face it we just have more time and energy at night.

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Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep? Posted: 9/7/2007 3:42:28 PM
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love this question by the way! I don't know if it is because I do not have children or that I am a woman who tends to be the care giver but I am soooo guilty of this, and it has been an issue with men in my past. But my dog has a bed right next to mine, he sleeps inside everynight and often chooses my bed over his own atleast for an hour or so, he is such a snuggler, which makes me love him even more. He is and I do refer to him as my "baby", LOL. He is a beautiful 90lb black lab, that drools and and swims constantly (which can make him stinky as all hell) but I like he wants to be close to me. Between work and life in general he often doesn't get the attention he deserves, he is more than just a "dog" to me, I guess thats why it is important he feels he has his space and gets the closeness he obviously loves! I say the same thing all the time to men I date, you really must love dogs, even drooling, goofy, spoiled ones like mine:) Maybe it really is just a woman thing.

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