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How to Dress for Coffee Date? Posted: 5/27/2009 7:27:36 PM
I appreciate all the input, except from the asinine prick who, from a peek at his profile, is trying far too hard to impress everyone with his "encyclopedic knowledge" of all created things found within the universe. Additionally, I am always wary of people who put so much energy into creating such a carefully constructed self-image. Mr "look-at-me and my cool comment". Now, back to being a normal guy and being humble enough to simply ask for suggestions: First, know that I've always dressed in classic wear, as it never goes out of style. However, I'm looking for classic, but with a touch of some style, as there are a lot of new twists and turns, especially when it comes to SHOES, which is my greatest weakness. What works good with jeans? Loafers, no socks? Brown? Black? There are all types of styles and combinations. So, what are my options are in the SHOE department? And remember, I'm wearing jeans. Thanks you!

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How to Dress for Coffee Date? Posted: 5/27/2009 3:52:57 PM
It's been awhile. I'm using this old profile, that I had forgotten about b/c I met a nice woman on here and we're too meet this weekend. It's casual, so I'm wearing jeans. But what would you suggest as to shoes and shirt? Style and brand here. Even cologne. It's been awhile since I've been on a date and I want to make a good first impression and hopefully one that gets me a second date. Oh, and I'm 49, so dress me for my age and not a twenty-something. Go for it. Thank you, ladies!

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Miscellaneous Dating Questions by Me. Posted: 5/30/2005 9:15:12 PM
Moondreamer: Also keep this in mind: Nearly all single people are having a tough time in this day and time in finding a keeper. We are living where for the first time in our country's history there are more single people than married people. It's not considered abnormal anymore NOT being married, NOT wanting children. People are more self-absorbed than every before, in their jobs, in their hobbies, in everything. There used to be basicically just 3 sports and 3 channels on the TV and a movie theatre with one movie playing. And just basically a few choices of foods. Now, we have choices, choices, choices and no one can seem to agree on who or what can fit or they will allow to fit into their perfect world, as anything off a tiny bit and it disturbs their equilibrium. And, it carries over to choosing a life partner. Everyone has become so individualized and communication has expanded with more options of people to talk to with anyone anywhere, which just makes it all soooo complicated to make a decision about anything or anybody. Why choose this person if they don't quite match up perfectly with your lifestyle, if you can meet 50 new people next week? It seems life has just become a series of temporary attachments, whether it's place of residence, city one lives, career, company, friends, marriage partners, kids. We're living like normads, wondering from relationship to relationship. Soon, we expect nothing to last and invest little. It's become a crazy madness for all of us. So, did that help in making you quite worrying about your previous issues? Good! Well, I'm going to go slit my wrists now. :)

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Miscellaneous Dating Questions by Me. Posted: 5/30/2005 7:08:02 PM
Moondreamer: I don't know your size, but you obviously aren't a twiggy skin and bones since that's what seems to annoy you about men. I've been on the forums for awhile and this is not the first time weight has been an issue (usually posted by men). My question and I think it is valid is: Whatever your size (and I don't care, you be who you want to be), do you measure up to the standards you are searching for in a man? If you are, for eg, 20 lbs overweight, are you open to dating men 20 lbs overweight? I for eg, am not spring chicken anymore. I have some wrinkles, have lost muscle, don't go to the gym 6 days a week like I did through out my 20's and early 30's. It goes quickly. So, I don't expect nor would want to be with a woman who is in perfect shape. If I meet one, it will be about her mind and heart first, and if she likes me and happens to be in perfect shape, then I'm certainly not going to refuse her for that. But, if she likes a buff guy better, then I understand. That's a lifestyle choice for her. I keep my weight reasonably normal, so I just expect that in return. It's a little bit of work, so I expect someone to do the same in return and within reason. I basically just want someone where I don't feel they are getting the short end of the stick or vice-versa, once again, within reason. I want someone where I feel we are in the same place emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, physically, etc, within reason. Something, maybe, to think about.

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Miscellaneous Dating Questions by Me. Posted: 5/29/2005 8:24:15 PM
Random with his wit. :) My turn to put my head on the chopping block: A) Why are so many men adamant about not wanting kids nowadays? They might be too young? j/k Actually, I don't look at men's profiles so I wouldn't know about there feeling on that topic. On the other hand, you probably don't look at women's profiles and it seems to be a trend on both sides, as surprisingly many women list on their profile either that having kids is questionable or they flat out don't want children. Personally, I do. About 10 of them. B) Why is it so hard to find a guy to hang out with that doesn't think you'll get "emotionally attached" because you went out for a beer or movie as friends? Because EVERY woman who has made that presentation has wanted more emotionally, without exception. C) Why do older men (yes, I realize there are exceptions) seem afraid of younger women that are independent? Well, an independent woman is exactly what I am looking for. I am so content being single that it scares me. I have hobbies that are enriching to me and every girlfriend I've ever had wants more of my time than I want back. I love to spend time with women, especially a girlfriend or I would not be with her in the first place, but ALL THE TIME? That's been my experience and I can't think of an exception, whether they have been much older than me, a little older, my age, younger, much younger, embarrasingly young, or illegal. :) D) Why do men in general say they want an intelligent woman, but when they realize that you actually DO have a functioning brain and an IQ over 120, they attempt to tell you they're smarter than you and split? Last girlfriend scored well over 140 on IQ. Great connection. Sexiest thing about her was her mind. Average girlfriend before her. Bored silly. May be because men like a woman like their mother, who if you think about it, has been the greatest female connection in their lives and who they would naturally relate to. My mother was extremely intelligent. Her father was a physician and his father, etc, for four generations. I don't know how smart I am, but it's what I am used to relating to. Last, but not least: E) What is it with men 25-30 and this whole twiggy/anorexia appeal??? I'm not in that age bracket, but maybe it's because dining out is cheaper or maybe you get to eat the full plate of food they pecked around at just when the server is about to take away.

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Anyone Tried the RUSSIAN thing? Posted: 5/22/2005 5:34:18 PM
I was in a grocery store recently and ... uhm hit on a woman. I could tell she was Eastern Blok European .. I dont' know how, but I just know them when I see them. Anyway, I was so sure, I just blurted out, "Excuse me, you have to be a European woman, I can just recognize you women." And she, in her heavy accent, "Yaise. I em. Eeastern Bloak Europeein, from (I forgot what country)." Me: "So, you speak pretty good English. How long have you been here in the US?" She: "I bein hee-ah foe fi-eve years?" I asked what brought her here and she said she met her husband through an agency and that they were very happily married. We talked for awhile and I asked her, what was about them that made it so distictive to pick out. "Amaericun weemon vairy spoiled. We Rooshum weemen are vairy down to earth and appreshiate Amaericum meeen. Mooch moire then Amaericun weemen." Very very pretty, too. So, I say, if you are serious, save your money up, find a reputable agency and go buy you a good Russian woman. They're beautiful and waiting to spoil you rotten. BTW: She did fire out of the parking lot in a brand new '05 BMW. :)

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Pet Peeve! (look at word games forum also) Posted: 5/22/2005 5:16:23 PM
One way to look at it: We guys get zapped all the time when we write you ladies. There's always a little of a sting no matter what for me, but keeps me humble and you'll learn to forget it about 1 minute later at most (hopefully). Regardless, I think it's good for you ladies to write and to especially to get a little rejection on the front lines because getting zapped on this thing is nothing compared to real life in-person rejection. But, I will say most nice women are so polished at shunning guys that, well, for me, they're so good I hardly know it happens until it jolts me later on. But that's okay. Remember, it's not personal. They don't really know you. And no one is insulated - everyone gets rejected (So, don't forget! It's just not personal.)

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Scared, but I am asking. :) Review me please. Posted: 5/22/2005 3:14:17 AM
I don't think you are THAT obvious. I'm just good at taking tests maybe. Or, if you think about it, it's common sense when you read between the lines about what a woman is supposed to want: responsible man vs. irresponsible fun man. In actuality, however, most women end up with the opposites on the list, if forced to choose an extreme. Most are extreme and easy. But, say, the Valedictorian vs class clown. On first impression, you'd think Valedictorian stereotype = boring; class clown = fun, so most would think fun guy over boring guy. But, it could be a valedictorian who is also funny or a class clown who is responsible. Given that those two extremes with no more info, and a girl will choose the responsible guy. In real life, however, it could be either. Probably the class clown, although it's the extreme that made me choose the valedictorian. A guy who always jokes is wearing. A valedictorian is automatically assumed to have it together including in general ways. I'm rambling, but you see the points? Read between the lines and it's sort of obvious.

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Scared, but I am asking. :) Review me please. Posted: 5/21/2005 6:02:13 PM
Beautiful pics. Great intro. The quiz ... hmmmm ... could be taken as fun or too much intensity. But, then, if you like that kind of thing, then you'll probably like guys who like that sort of thing, so it might be a good way to weed people. Which you will need to do anyway. But, the test is sort of a no brainer, right? Let me see if I can guess what you are looking for. Don't worry, as 99% of the people who will write you aren't on the forums and so I will not give away anything. Here goes. Out of the list, here's what YOU want, I am guessing: 1. Wants a big family (wanting fam includes wanting you, obvious answer) just wants me 2. wants kids (responsible answer) acts like a kid (irresponsible and wrong answer) 3. Blunt instrument Diplomat (Tough one) 4. sees the sites (guy who is on the ball; your type) sits on the beach (beach bum, reflects too much; no ambition, no way) 5. Picks up the bill (no comment, so obvious) splits the bill 6. board games (Y that's basically almost what this test is and a you thing, so this guy) video games 7. quiet dinners (don't want an immature guy; happy hour is draws in the alcoholics) happy hour 8. valedictorian (nice guy, boring, but you want anyway, as it's the proper response) class clown (funny yes, but clown is too much and the giveaway; not responsible) 9. wash and go clothes (as long as responsible, you like this guy, right?) tailored and dry cleaned (too nit-picky in this case) 10. likes to plan (you have planning written all over you) wings it 11. Skin Care Big bear 12. Rocks out (conjures up images of immaturity; too strong an image) Appreciates opera (sophisticated, you) 13.Buldging muscles (too much of a meat head) lean and mean (doesn't spend too much time in the gym, because he's responsible and using his mind, your choice) Bet I got them all right. If so, get another test. Too easy to figure out and I didn't even read all your profile.

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Do you look young for your age? Posted: 5/21/2005 9:46:55 AM
To think about "acting your age" for a moment: I don't like to see women or men who dress or act a certain way to try to fool others that they are younger. They end up looking foolish to me. For eg, Harrison Ford looked very foolish when for awhile, he wore an earring and he's in his 50's. We get used to this stuff and it should shock us, but we adjust slowly without realizing it and find it acceptable. Put in another context to regain the shock effect: Think of someone like Cary Grant wearing earrings, at any time in his life. If you are a man, after about 28, give em' up. My opinion only. It's one thing to try to look or act young when you're really acting immature for your given age. However, I think none of us should ever give up the playful kid inside. Big difference between the two.

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who the hell has a problem with me? Posted: 5/21/2005 9:36:38 AM
Thank you, acburbank, I thought so, but wasn't sure. My apologies and thanks for the compliment. Same to you, my friend.

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Do you look young for your age? Posted: 5/21/2005 9:23:56 AM
I don't think it's all about looking younger for your given age, but looking good for your age.

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men and their hair Posted: 5/21/2005 8:59:12 AM
Here's what I've learned from this thread so far: Men need to organize "hair clubs just for men" where we all meet for like an hour or so and talk about our hair and excellent hair products and compliment the ones who have strived to reach their "good hair" goals for the week and give sensitive advice for newcomers. Then, at the end, a big group hug and until next week we all think about and work hard on our hair. Secondly, I learned from this thread is how to stare effectively at different areas of people's heads and faces to accomplish something ... I'm just not sure what, but it sounds like a fun thing to reflect on and perhaps use as an effective strategy with the opposite sex one day if she seems to getting the upper hand.

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Top 10 or 3 Ways You've BLOWN lol a DATE Posted: 5/21/2005 8:44:34 AM
Rory: I SO agree with you about keeping with the post topic. Here's what's so scary to me: Assuming we are all human beings, then we all qualify as being imperfect. So, yes, ALL OF US have probably made mistakes at some point in our lives and that includes on a date and where we blew it. In other words: If you have any social self-awareness at all, then you should know when you have screwed up on a date. If all you have is stories of other people being the screw-up, I would personally be hesistant about wanting to go out with you. I've got plenty of screw-up stories, nothing pathological, but still times I shared stuff prematurely and thought: "Sh*t! Might as well take her home after that stupid statement." Or whatever. It's healthy to be able to laugh at yourself and not take yourself too seriously. That's what I see this thread being about. Show some vulnerability and share something you did stupid. It's okay! Join the human race! Rory, am I not wrong?

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Top 10 or 3 Ways You've BLOWN lol a DATE Posted: 5/21/2005 8:32:19 AM
Thanks, Grubeci! But, to be honest, I think she was far from being a virgin and in writing that story, it did bring up great regrets. Who knows, though? She might have had herpes or something. Probably didn't, but helps to imagine so. What a loser date I was. Oh, well. At least a good real and badly blown date story to share with my kids and grandchildren one of these days.

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Top 10 or 3 Ways You've BLOWN lol a DATE Posted: 5/20/2005 3:32:42 PM
In college, I was a senior and was asked out by THE freshman class beauty, who I didn't know and which shocked me, but to go to her sorority event. Double-dated with a couple I was extremely uncomfortable around AND this girl intimidated me. So, on the way there we were all drinking and to ease my extreme social anxiety, I drank straight bourbon and on an empty stomach. By the time we were there, I was out of my mind and feeling very ungrounded in my thinking and coordination. Anyway, and this is a classic moment, I remember standing in a group of her crowd and everyone was talking. I remember this one guy talking and amusing everyone, and then suddenly the urge to throw up and actually did. With no food in my stomach, however, I literally coughed up a projectile of black stomach bile that shot over and stuck on the guy's hand. Because I was not participating and just lingering there, no one knew what happened. But, I'll never forget this guy's reaction: There he was, in command, the center of attention, chatting away and suddenly, "DAMN! WHAT THE HELL IS THIS ON MY HAND?" And nobody knew what the brown blob was or where it came from but me. Then, I felt sick, went outside and passed out in a car before the event even started. She never spoke to me again. Heard she hated me with a passion. Can't say I blamed her. Oh, and heard before hand she had had a crush on me and was a very wild and sexual girl. Blew it badly.

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men and their hair Posted: 5/20/2005 3:18:33 PM
If you want to drive someone crazy, stare at them right above their eyes ... on their forehead. It will feel like to them that you are making eye contact, but something is just off and it will bug them but they can't quite put their finger on it. But fun to watch them get uncomfortable. Not recommended on a first date or job interview.

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Dating Experience Posted: 5/20/2005 3:12:15 PM
Could be worse: I mean they could be a congressman or something. :)

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What would you consider a perfect first date? Posted: 5/20/2005 3:06:11 PM
Not quite in the first date catagory, because this is a two-couple up for grads potential partnering kind of thing, but used to get two girls, go to a buddies in the summer and we'd go water-skiiing for the afternoon, which is very invigerating and fun out on the lake and in the sun. Sometimes just turn off the boat and float around and talk. Then head back to his place where we would shower and cook out steaks and a great meal. Being out on the water always makes you hungry, the shower revitalizing and it would be cool dusk and so relaxing for everyone, with no "date" pressure. Then, afterwards, we'd make some special blend of coffee and sit out on a cool deck with the stars out and the ambience was perfect for deeper conversations, especially being full and contented feeling after the meal. This all came to a stop when I got serious for 3 years with a particular girl, but we plan to resume this summer, except my friend has a double-twin engine plane in an airplane community where the runway is a couple of hundred yards off. So, a late night flight over all the city lights of Atlanta would be the perfect way to end the evening.

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Describe yourself as a teenager. Posted: 5/20/2005 2:53:54 PM
I was very introverted, had a small circle of good friends, was athletic and in a rock band. I was the kind of guy who was never ever in a clique, but rather a close friend with a particular person in this clique or that clique. Really didnt know much about anything or who the hell I was. Our high school had the number one drug problem in the state and even being in a band, did not know what pot looked like or ever smoked it or did any drugs. Had a steady girlfriend I was madly in love with who later shattered my heart when she cheated on me. I scored in the top 2% of the nation on the ACT, but hated math, wrote a short story that won an award although I hated English. Don't remember ever cracking a book. Sort of a wandering generality. Thus, college came as a total shock.

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Why do people think I am stupid?? Posted: 5/20/2005 11:06:23 AM
Random nailed it. Couldn't even come close to putting it so clearly. Just one other thing, though. Every marriage counselor will tell you about couples who are in love and see only the brightest future ahead. Especially young couples. Most who get married are right back in their office 6 months later ready to divorce. And stats support this, unfortunately. At least 50% divorce rate. I'm not trying to be negative, but realistic. Remember, with the couples I mention above, they have at least spent a great amount of personal, one-on-one time with each other DAILY, and you haven't even gotten to this point and are thinking of moving to another country. And even these couples still end up in the 50% catagory! But, who knows? Could work. Just take your time and many precautions and listen to what Random said. Wise man.

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who the hell has a problem with me? Posted: 5/20/2005 10:47:58 AM
acburbank: I don't know if you were cutting or complimenting me. If a compliment thanks. If cutting, please understand, I normally enjoy and don't want to kill a wildly entertaining thread, but this is a young girl and what we older folks say she could take to heart and young hearts are pretty vulnerable. So, I opted to be sincere for a change. Thought it might do her good. Also, to clarify: My message could have been misconstrued to say all of us are so insignificant that none of us matter. Nothing is further from the truth. I don't know this girl, but I care about her. I'm concerned about her concern about her situation, but not concerned about her situation. Im just trying to communicate that she shouldn't be either. It will be forgotten. So many of us are controlled by what other people think. Especially when we are young. To be freed of this is very liberating. The route to enlightenment is realizing that most of us are so busy with thinking about ourselves, since everywhere we go we can't escape ourselves, that we generally aren't so wrapped up with others and they aren't with us, and we don't need to fear what they think because, chances are, they are not thinking about us. They are thinking about themselve and their lives. It's freeing. Today, for example, I will be forced to think about me and my bills, my work and those issues, my family and their problems, the traffic, the weather, what I'm doing for the weekend, who with, what's on the tube, what I'm hungry for, chores, fixing my car, etc. I will watch the news and be bombarded with pictures of war, hear political issues that irk me, hear of another murder, and on and on. See, as you apply this in your own life just now, all of you are have just forgotten thinking of this girl and how mean those guys were to her. My point was she shouldn't be worrying about them either and should forget them too, as they, like all of us, have completely forgotten and are so wrapped up in themselvs that they, like all of us, have probably moved on to their issues and after I finish this sentence I will have, too.

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Younger Women - Older Men Posted: 5/19/2005 9:51:34 PM
Twenty good years and a hefty life insurance policy. She'll be fine. Seriously, maturity is, after a man or woman has gotten out into the work world, sort of a fixed thing, to a large degree. I've known women and men who haven't grown emotionally for 15 years and who are still very immature. Haven't changed a bit. Same issues. Same personalities. On the other hand, I know younger men and women who are unnaturally mature for their age. So, for me, age is pretty much a number. Only caveat is that such an age gap might pose some problems in regards to compatibility, such as what kind of things your enjoy doing (type of music, for eg) and how you want to spend your time together (she wants to go out, you want to stay in, eg) and energy levels, things like that. Should carefully explore these issues. That's the kind of stuff you will be asked about if you were to do premarital counseling. No magic. Common sense stuff. But important if you think about it.

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who the hell has a problem with me? Posted: 5/19/2005 9:33:40 PM
Cookie: My two cents: I used to worry about what people thought about me or what I've done or not done, but I only worry now if I have wronged someone. People's opinions, such as these guys who sent nasty email stuff to you doesn't really matter. Here's why: The fact is, and I'm not trying to be mean, but no one really cares about your situation, but you and those few guys. This should come as a relief to you. Chances are, in fact, that they are worrying about some other girl right now and have forgotten you. Entirely. None of us are that important. The only reason why anyone cares enough to write on this thread is that life is frustrating and we're pretty much bored silly and this is just something to do. After tonight, maybe tomorrow, latest, no one on this thread will think of your situation or this thread ever again the rest of their lives. So, you shouldn't either. If you choose to remain on here, then maybe some peope will get to know you for your good merits, hopefully, and you will make some friends and they will remember you, if you are lucky. But, those guys, chances are they will never think about you or your shunning them for the rest of their lives. The fact is, no one really cares. And this should be liberating to you. Just to be fair and see the bigger picture: I can guarantee you there's not ONE person on this site who is going to be thinking about me or what I've written here five minutes after this post. Why should they? Who am I? Who really cares? If I'm honest and everyone else, we're just writing on here because we want to feel heard for maybe a second. Then we move on. That's just life.

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Monet? Rodin? Frazepta? Whats your fav? Posted: 5/19/2005 8:37:35 AM
Fragonard's "The Swing" and "Love Letters"

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would you date a guy with long hair Posted: 5/18/2005 10:43:49 PM
No, I would not date a guy with long hair.

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favorite type of sex Posted: 5/18/2005 10:41:18 PM
Well, we begin with a little bit of tender kissing and biting. A little nibble on the ear or neck and here and there. Then we move into a little bit of foreplay, but usually I am bashful and playfully coy and pretend embarrassment and say things like, "Stop it!" and "Behave yourself!" and pull her hand away a few times. Slowly, however, I give in and allow her to get to second base. You wouldn't think this is significant step, being that I am a male and hence, without boobs. But, it's an important part of foreplay, and I know this to be true, especially when she becomes slightly more aroused at discovering how hard my nipples are. Third base is typically off limits for me. But, if she is persistent, without being too agressive, then I might let her touch. Sometimes, though, I get mad and just get up and can't believe she would try that and have been know to cry at times. Once, though, we did get carried away and even went all the way. I told her we couldn't do that anymore or I would break up.

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Would you rather have a partner with lots of sexual experience or someone inexperienced and naive Posted: 5/18/2005 10:09:56 PM
This thread is getting boring. More interesting question: MEN: same question above, but if you were in prison? :)

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Would you rather have a partner with lots of sexual experience or someone inexperienced and naive Posted: 5/17/2005 10:07:44 PM
Real Brun, the baby-sitter looked like you. So, I had no will-power. In fact, I was powerless. And would be, if you know what I mean. :)

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favorite type of sex Posted: 5/17/2005 10:03:27 PM
Actually, many years ago when in my teens and at a drive-in theatre, my buddies and I saw a movie with those particular scenes in it. Who knows, probably f'd me up to see it so young and one reason why I'm still single. :)

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favorite type of sex Posted: 5/17/2005 9:49:10 PM
I dress up in a giant c*ck outfit and she dresses up in a giant hen outfit and I chase her around clucking and feathers flying. Real fun. Or, if that just seems too lame... I lie in a coffin, pretending to be a corpse. She comes into the room in a white wedding dress with "Here Comes the Bride" by Mendelssohn and then she pays her respects and cries and then proceeds to give me oral sex.

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Would you rather have a partner with lots of sexual experience or someone inexperienced and naive Posted: 5/17/2005 9:35:36 PM
Mommy2... I've probably had women who had contempt for me because I ruined the moment and others who had comtempt for me because I ruined them for life. :)

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MALES: Have YOU met anyone from HERE or ANY site??? Posted: 5/17/2005 9:14:28 PM
Somehow, through some kind of crazy mix up in the computer system, I ended up meeting a guy off a site, by accident. His name was Bruce and surprisingly, after the shock wore off and with a little adjustment, the experience really wasn't all that bad. I mean, although uncomfortable, we were both polite enough to at least go through with the date and surprisingly, we had a great time. In fact, it was the most successful date I've had so far off a dating site! We still stay in touch.

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Would you rather have a partner with lots of sexual experience or someone inexperienced and naive Posted: 5/17/2005 9:02:53 PM
Has she had lot's of experience with multiple partners or lot's of experience with one man? And if with multiple partners, does she have STDs? And are you okay with having the experience to know that you're, at best, only average? Or, if lot's of experience with one man, did he have a larger unit? Was he a better lover than you? If she's had no experience and thinks your the greatest, because you automatically are by default, but you really suck, think of the possible disillusionment and contempt she'll have for you later on. On the other hand, if you are a superior lover, think of how you've may have ruined her for life with mediocre guys later on. Tough question. Tough question.

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so what is it that men really want????? Posted: 5/17/2005 8:45:17 PM
If there were no women, men would be happy doing pretty much nothing. We could be happy living in caves. The reason we bath, go to jobs we hate, step foot into malls with females, drive fancy cars, compete with each other, etc, is to win women's hearts, to be respected and loved. So, we tie work/money to winning a woman's heart. Consequently, too many men fear failure in what they do and opt for mediocricy. Just default to nice guys and try to get ahead as much as possibly while playing it safe. Become boring. Hate ourselves. Love us unconditionally. Give us the freedom to fail in our work, to do something of significance, to take risks, to become wild at heart, without fearing your abandoning us if we fail. Do this and we'll conquer the world for you. Do this and we'll give it all to you. Respect us and we'll cherish you.

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Odd pick up lines Posted: 5/17/2005 8:12:23 PM
Side note: Too many more of these and I'm going to puke.

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MALES: Have YOU met anyone from HERE or ANY site??? Posted: 5/17/2005 8:06:56 PM
When I was on Match a couple of years ago, where there were about 10,000 female members active locally. Out of the 10,000, about 10 - 12 women wanted to meet me. The first seven or so I barely recognized from their pics. At that point, I decided I might as well meet women without pics since it really didn't wouldn't make much difference, anyway. Plus, it would eliminate their having to lie. But I found that these women didn't post their pics for sound reasons. Still, out of that batch of 12 ladies, one woman did look exactly like her picture when we met. She was a cutie but unfortunately, possilbly the most militant human being I've ever known. In fact, she had an email waiting before I could even get home after our very first meeting that said something like, "I have Tuesday from 7pm-8 open, Thursday, noon from 12 - 1. Please let me know something by tomorrow, as these slots will fill quickly." Something to that effect. Now, you're probably thinking that I ran as quickly as possibly. But, truthfully, I just felt so lucky to have met someone who didn't misrespresent themselves, that I actually tried to go along with her little tight controlling agenda. Needless to say, it just didn't work. So, I'm a little bit cynical about meeting off the Net.

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Odd pick up lines Posted: 5/17/2005 7:41:27 PM
Walk up and grab her butt and say, "Excuse me, is this seat taken?"

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Odd pick up lines Posted: 5/17/2005 7:40:23 PM
Do you come here often? Or wait till you get home?

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( Exstreamly Inappropritate Dating Questions ) Posted: 5/17/2005 6:02:03 AM
kj is jk about last post. Pleasssssee.

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inappropritate dating questions Posted: 5/16/2005 11:30:09 PM
Inappropritate dating questions and comments: Gesture at her loin area and say, "Sooooo ... I bet you have a lot of mileage on that ole odometer, huh?" If she gets mad, reply, "Hit a sore point, did I?" "You know, if you just lost 25lbs you'd be gorgeous." "You must look great when you're wearing make-up." "May I take your picture? I need something to jerk-off over." "If I weren't married, I think we'd be together." If she asks what you think of her new dress, ask her how much it costs. When she tells you, wince. If she makes a joke, after the punchline: "And what happened then?" "Have you put on some weight?" When she denies it, express surprise. If she expresses her opinion on anything, reply, "Always have to be the center of attention, don't you?" If she shows tomboyish tendencies whatsoever, furrow your brow and ask, "Have you ever had a boyfriend?" "You strike me as the type of woman who spends a lot of her spare time masturbating." "I bet you're a real nymphomaniac."

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inappropritate dating questions Posted: 5/16/2005 9:03:37 PM
Inappropriate dating behaviors (slight modification, sorry, but real first date story, worth telling): First date. With a real model. Attraction level: 9.1. Went and saw The Grudge. Frightened her badly. Came back to my place. I go to kitchen, within range of her vision: "WHERE YOU GOING? DON'T LEAVE ME ALONE!!!" Minutes later, she grabs me by the arm and pulls me along down the hallway. "Where we going?" "I've GOT to go to the bathroom and I'm scared." I think, okay, I'll just stand out ... "NO, YOU'RE COMING IN." Pulling down pants, "TURN AROUND AND DON'T YOU DARE LOOK!" I obey, with "I can just stand out here..." "NO!" Peeing sound (Actually, sort of turned me on in a mild way). Peeing ending. Me: "Okay, so you feel better, I'll just be out of.." Her: "Well, not really." SOUND EFFECTS: Plopping and splashing sounds. omg ... is this really happening? Then the STENCH. I reach for something, I can't really remember, as I nearly passed out, and fight my way out. Real model. Attraction level now -983. Looks can fade fast.

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When Is It Appropriate NOT to Be Honest? Posted: 5/16/2005 8:12:17 PM
With your children about what their mother was really doing that caused the divorce. With your pastor if that really was you leaving the massage parlor. With the POF person called "buttuglymad" if she asked you if she is an overall attactive person, including personality (obviously fake profile, so I'm not being mean; especially becomes clear when you read her threads).

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Funny Name Combinations: Give It Your Best Shot Posted: 5/16/2005 1:19:53 PM
Jim Bagg

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Do you know the meaning of your name? Posted: 5/15/2005 10:09:11 PM
Ophelia: Hebrew: means, "My hands are on.." Butt: Latin: means, "your rear end"

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Funny Name Combinations: Give It Your Best Shot Posted: 5/15/2005 10:06:15 PM
Here are some funny name combinations I've collected in memory. I've heard better ones, but this is all I can recall: Ophelia Butt Tim Buhr Hugh Tellem Geri Attricks Diane DeKay Lena Genster Justine Case There's got to be some creative people out there. Come on:

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Would you date someone with a mental illness? eg:Bi-polar and manic depressive. Posted: 5/15/2005 4:35:36 PM
"""""Speaking as a person who has several mental issues...(manic depression, OCD, a picking dissorder, post-partum depression, border line personallity dissorder)... I had my happiest relationship with a guy who had a lot of major problems.""""" Purity555: Borderline Personality Disorder is serious. I really hope you are seeking treatment. Also, it's the most commonly misdiagnosed disorders of all mental disorders. Please don't walk around with that label in your head unless you know for sure and for God's sake, don't just tell people. Get help and stay in therapy for 5 years. It WILL take that long IF you really are a true borderline. But, it will be worth it. And make sure you get a good doctor. Nine out of 10 are worthless. But do it because you are young and life will be hell and hell for others if not treated for many, many years. Do something now.

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Would you date someone with a mental illness? Posted: 5/15/2005 4:28:26 PM
The way I look at the mental illness/dating issue is that that person who is mentally ill, by definition, is just simply not ready to be in a relationship. Of course, much of it depends upon the type of mental illness and the degree, whether they are on meds, etc. If it's a personality disorder, then that's serious because these people rarely seek treatment because it's not perceived by them and a personality disturbance will disturb a relationship in a great and mighty way. If it's something like depression, that they are aware of, and in which by being aware, can take meds to help them while they work through it (if they will work through it), then they are date-able WHEN they work things out to where they can manage their depression or whatever it is. Unfortunately, most people resist change and never do unless they finally hit rock bottom or reach out and get help.

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What's your favorite erotic movie?Not necessarily porn Posted: 5/15/2005 2:07:38 PM
There was this one episode of "Gilligan's Island" .... whoahhh ... can't even begin

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Faith and beleif Posted: 5/15/2005 1:53:39 PM
ABSOLUTELY! What you believe and who you believe in affects every area of your life: your identity, your sense of place in this world, your values, etc. In fact, ulitmately, it collectively creates our worldview and that's so important in choosing a person to spend our lives with, as with each differing view, there's a good chance for conflict over what direction our lives are heading.

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