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spot4username

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after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 11/18/2009 5:03:40 AM
Over 50 or under 40 a good looking woman can find a date in a heart beat. Damn, even mr.evil with his wacky rant puts me in the crap demographic. I still refuse to give up. As far as all the buying your drinks crap... maybe some younger women play that nonsense but I know that in my circle of friends we buy our own drinks. We often take turns buying rounds for our group but we don't walk around getting random guys to buy drinks. I have some very attractive friends and well... they still buy their own drinks. I never understood that gripe anyway. I mean is someone holding a gun to a guy's head forcing him to buy a drink for a stranger? Is he doing it out of the goodness of his heart? Or does he hope to gain something perchance?

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after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 11/17/2009 7:30:45 AM
Unlike you I have truly not been on a date in years Where did I say I have been on a date. I said the last three times I was supposed to meet someone I was stood up. In my world that does not count as a date. So what you consider dating hell I would love to experience. You want to be stood up? you had not gone on any good dates Again, what dates? There is the difference between man and women, you guys get to look don your nose's at us and pick and choose while us stupid guys just have to hope some woman will not reject us. Guilty as charged. I reject the 21 year old boys and the 61 year old men. I also reject the men who live a thousand miles away. I recently rejected a very attractive, articulate, funny, close to my age, living in the same town man. His only flaw is that he is married. Shame on me for being so darned picky! A woman's life is one of choices, even if she doesn't like any of the choice's she is presented with and a man's life is one of rejection More rubbish. Every rejection is the result of a choice that the rejected person made. See... choices. We all have em. You think women don't get rejected? I have never sent a first message that was not rejected. I get rejected in person all the time. I still get up every day and put on my big girl panties. Tonight I am hosting a Live Trivia Show. I guarantee there will be at least one man there who will peak my interest. Will I chat him up? Yes. Will I let him know I am interested in getting to know him? Yes. Will I be rejected? Who knows? Is it the chance I am willing to take? Damned straight. Signed, Single Woman (13 yrs) Who Refuses to Become Jaded

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after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 11/17/2009 6:33:19 AM
Wow, funtunes74 you have had far worse luck than I can imagine. Luckily I have been able to spot any married ones before passing out of the email stage. I am pretty sure that one of the guys who stood me up has a girlfriend... make a lot of sense when I put all the pieces together. Being stood up stinks but I count myself as blessed in that instance. cw35 was the "crap attitude" comment for me? If so I am confuzzled. I actually have a great attitude. Am I frustrated and disappointed by the lack of interest from men our age who are not in prison or hundreds of miles away? Yeppers but I still keep initiating contact online and in the real world gasp I will keep smiling at men, making eye contact, saying yes when they ask me to dance and having a full social calendar without "dates". If I end up alone I will make peace with it.

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after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 11/17/2009 3:39:18 AM
Well SPot let me ask you, have you be ask out on any dates in those years? Have you been hit on or have you even been approuched by a guy? How about those attractive and interesting friends you speak of, how would they answer all those questions? If by asked out you mean emails that say they want to "hit it" and the 20 yr olds who have "always loved older women" and the retired guys who " can afford to pamper you" .... sure! If you mean actual guys who can respond to an email that has a question meant to generate conversation and then carry on witty banter leading up to a meeting. Sure! Of course the last three stood me up. Does that count? I mean technically they did ask me out. I get hit on by the same sort of men I described in the previous paragraph. Do men my age who are unattached approach me? No. I work in social settings so I am out often. Men do not approach or talk to me. I smile, make eye contact etc. I have no issue approaching men. You do have to be very careful doing so in a small town such as mine s0 I tread lightly. My friends would answer the questions just as I have.

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bad first date Posted: 11/15/2009 12:44:07 PM
It is truly awkward to find yourself with no attraction whatsoever to the person sitting across from you. I still can' t imagine just getting up as if to go the restroom or her lame excuse and never returning. Some people's children. she had done a runner I now feel a need to watch Logan's Run.

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Good things about Bad Dates ... Posted: 11/14/2009 2:57:02 PM
Dates? What dates? I haven't had any - good or bad. For many of us this is a moot question.

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after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 11/14/2009 7:07:42 AM
That just proves my point more........For women dating is a cake walk. On average women have a much easier time getting dates becasue the current dating system is unfair and broken, we need some rules changes. Sorry, but that is pure rubbish. I have not been on a date in years. I have a lot of attractive and interesting friends in the same position as myself. It is not a cakewalk.

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Female Tool of the Trade Posted: 11/14/2009 6:55:07 AM
I do not have any of this stuff. Do not need it. I am already a super sensitve person, and prefer the real deal. I laugh when men are shocked I do not have toys. But I don't. Ditto.

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MATCH.com V p.o.f Posted: 11/14/2009 6:44:59 AM
Like some of the other posters I have had a profile at pretty much every dating site there is at some point or another. I currently have a match profile. I am a quarter of the way through my free 6 mos. I have not met anyone from any of the dating sites. When I say not met I mean I have not had one single date in well over a year (maybe two). No coffee, dinner, drinks, walks in the park, etc. I am not in a large area. I find that the same men message here and at match. They usually don't recall. They are just playing the numbers. Rather depressing to know they are just sending messages to members at whatever site they belong to without a thought behind them. At this point I am just waiting for my match to expire and I hang out in the forums here. shrug

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Open mic night... Posted: 11/10/2009 9:43:50 AM
I see what you did here. Why troll on the forums? Just put "I am a size queen" in your profile.

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Bypassing the phone, is it okay or not? Posted: 11/6/2009 5:06:41 AM
OP - I am with you. I detest the phone. I keep mine off most of the time (unless working) and got rid of my home phone ages ago. You only have to give your number to the wrong guy once to learn your lesson. Blocking it doesn't always work. If emails and messaging is going well I had just as soon meet for a quick drink or the equivalent. If I want to see him again he gets my number. If this is a dealbreaker for a guy then so be it. If the guy is insistent you can use services like yahoo and skype to talk with people. I have done that before.

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saying to me ever dated a black man? Posted: 11/5/2009 9:47:00 PM
Every so often I get an email that asks if I would date a man of color (black, middle eastern, etc.) . I figure they are just cutting to the chase so that no one's time is wasted. I have never gotten one that I found to be offensive until tonight. The entire email was as follows Would love to secretly date a white lady.. interested? I did respond to him but I don't think it was the response he was looking for.

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Is it too late? Posted: 11/2/2009 2:17:28 PM
If you are 35+ and have no ties or obligations (family, financial or otherwise) from a former relationship I would think it would be even easier to get out and meet someone And just how do you suggest that we do that when there is nothing available out there. All the women that are out there have some kind of university degree, and some of us men have barely high-school, there is not even a glimmer of hope for a guy like that, since no women would even want anything to do with somebody like that. Not that I am blaming them, but the end result is the same, and when you are over 40, it is too late to get anything to compete with those that have university degrees Are you saying there are no women anywhere near you? Not one? Every single woman in your entire area has a degree? Every one. Wow. You know every single woman? That is amazing! You sound like a broken record. I don't have a high school diploma and I live on an island. I am dirt poor and have a car that is so unreliable that I don't dare RSVP to anything. I still refuse to give up. My mother always said "can't never could". I just applied to school at 43. I have no idea how I will pay for it or when I will go but... I am still going to try. You should delete your profile and move into a cave somewhere. I mean, what's the point? You have given up. So sad.

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Is it too late? Posted: 11/2/2009 11:31:50 AM
It is too late if you determine that it is too late. A defeatist attitude does just that... it defeats any chance you may have. Some of you guys sound like a ton of fun to be around, real laugh a minute types. /sarcasm If you are 35+ and have no ties or obligations (family, financial or otherwise) from a former relationship I would think it would be even easier to get out and meet someone.

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What's up with the term It's Complicated? Posted: 11/1/2009 11:07:51 AM
My ex husband's girlfriend (of 3 years) has that as her facebook status but his status states that he is in a relationship.

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what a gemini girl wants ? Posted: 11/1/2009 11:05:03 AM
Good lord I want a million different things at once. You can't possibly expect me to sit still long enough to write them all down. I find it quite interesting to see which of my fellow posters are also Geminis. Fascinating.

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who e-mails who first Posted: 11/1/2009 11:01:53 AM
As soon as I find someone I am interested in I will gladly make first contact.

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Jokes not aloud? Posted: 11/1/2009 10:49:08 AM
hands you a dictionary Start with the simple stuff and then try for humor. Head to profile review and take a thick skin with you.

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Sending a gift? Posted: 11/1/2009 10:29:30 AM
I am not impressed by pixels. I do agree with what was said about there being a bit of pressure to respond when one is sent. I guess it is just the manners that my grandma taught me. I feel I need to say thank you. I would be impressed if a guy actually showed up. My last three meets stood me up.

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Occasional Crying with an Orgasm... Posted: 10/24/2009 8:49:45 PM
You mean you aren't supposed to cry? I think I am doing it wrong. Damn.

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Images above Inbox are from hundreds of miles away Posted: 10/24/2009 7:09:11 PM
Yup... happens to me as well. I get lots of profiles from the Atlanta area or down south showing up when I try to surf local. Maybe it is an evil plot against the sunshine state.

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Forum personality impact on dating life Posted: 10/19/2009 4:51:30 PM
Yes.... I am sarcastic and very dry witted in person. Often on the forums I come across as a btch. Often in real life I come across as a btch. In other words most people don't get me in real life and I find that here as well. shrug

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looking for profile advice Posted: 10/18/2009 3:44:47 PM
The "prefer not to say" on children is a deal-breaker for most. Just make up your mind and choose something. It can always be revisited if need be. I know that with most women our age having the age restriction so as to exclude all but those younger than yourself makes us giggle. I get a lot of emails from men who have me restricted. I would never be able to contact them but they contact me. I just roll my eyes and say no thanks. Get rid of that. I have a lot of friends you might like but I can't email to tell you....

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Better off being single Posted: 10/17/2009 8:42:53 AM
People who go from relationship to relationship don't really strike me as single. They are just waiting for the next best thing. I am single. I have been since '96. I have not had a boyfriend or anything that even resembles a relationship in that time. I have not held hands with a man I care about or been kissed by a man who cares about me or shared a moment with a man who has love for me in over a decade. So yes - I think some of us are just destined to be alone. I am to a point where I am making peace with it.

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I need to talk to a moderator. Posted: 10/13/2009 9:35:47 AM
Clive Owen is on here too and Jerry Seinfeld actually contacted me!!

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My own worst enemy....help! Posted: 10/3/2009 9:12:40 AM
I have been single for 13 years. I like what I like. It is really far less complicated than many make it. I am also big on the "not wasting someone's time" thing. If I get a message from someone and then see in his profile something that excludes me (like wants more children) I just mention it in my response. Most of the time they don't respond back knowing that they never should have contacted me in the first place. Same thing with distance. I get a message from someone hundreds of miles away and when I point it out they say oh, I didn't realize where you are. puzzled look There is nothing wrong with being picky about who you spend time with. I might suggest that rather than just delete or ignore that you take my approach if you find yourself attracted/interested in the least. Just respond with a nicely worded question about the thing that you find a dealbreaker. If it is the spontaneous travel thing just say Wow! I would love to be able to drop everything and run off for a weekend but I have a job and custody... maybe we could do just the least bit of planning and pretend it was spontaneous? Etc. Of course this is just what I do and my .02. Do what works for you and ease up on yourself.

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Why are we here? Posted: 10/3/2009 8:59:27 AM
I live in a very small town. My pond is shallow. This is just another iron in the fire so to speak.

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Proselytizing Posted: 9/16/2009 4:11:28 AM
Once upon a time ago I had a profile that I was actually hopeful would help me meet someone (and it was not hidden). I know... this is the part where I lose all credibility.... what was I thinking? Anyway, I am an atheist and had a couple sentences that were short and sweet about religion. I merely said that I chose non-religious because I am not religious and that if religion was a large part of your life we would not be a match and to please take that for what it is and best of luck. I just wanted to stop people who are religious from wasting their time and mine. No harm, no foul. Right? Not on POF. I received messages all the time (at least 3 a week) trying to save my soul and often being downright nasty. Okay, always being nasty and rude. As a rule they were poorly written and rambled incoherently. So yes OP I have found it to be an issue here. I have compared notes with friends from my area who have profiles and they have met with the same sort of thing. I will never understand why one person feels the need to contact another person for the sole reason of being negative and rude.

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Why are girls with a lil extra weight wilder in bed the average or tiny girls? Posted: 8/23/2009 3:46:59 PM
Newsflash. You don't have to be fat to have curves. I have no idea what women are like in bed, I sleep with men. Generalizing in general is stoopid.

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Help me here - what to do after meeting a psycho? Posted: 8/23/2009 6:02:03 AM
How could someone have this much information about you when you have only met in person once? This is a perfect example of why I do not share a number before I meet someone in person. Email (on here). Maybe IM. Meet. If I want to see him again he gets a number. I will send the url of this thread to the next guy who gets whiny about it. Put a block on her for all electronic accounts. Document the frequency and times of her contact. Unfortunately I know that the authorities pay attention to those details. They will want as much detailed info as possible about the contacts and attempted contacts. At this point they won't do anything but getting it on the record is a good idea. Insist that it be documented. If you get an officer who doesn't want to listen and take you seriously ask to speak to someone else. Sometimes you have to be very persistent to be taken seriously about this sort of thing. BTW this is not stalking. When she shows up everywhere you are and is parked outside your house you are being stalked. When you get 100' s of calls a day from her; that is stalking. When she begins to cause so many issues at your job that you are in jeopardy of losing it; that is stalking. Right now she is just annoying. It still would not hurt to go to the authorities. If you are lucky someone will make a formal report. OP - more than one profile? Sketchy.

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what do you see when you look at a 'viewed you'? Posted: 8/21/2009 4:14:49 PM
You said facial shot. heh heh heh Seriously.... thread search.

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Flowers? Posted: 8/21/2009 7:07:53 AM
I have never gotten flowers from a man I am not related to or worked for. I would probably do an old fashioned swoon. That doesn't mean that once I came to my senses I would still think it was awesome. Too soon would probably be weird.

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Atheism in the South... dating suicide? Posted: 8/19/2009 11:25:42 AM
Yes - people will tell you it doesn't matter but around here it does. I get at least one "save your soul" message a week. Too bad those people don't practice what they preach. All I can say is good luck and have patience. A dose of tolerance won't hurt either.

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Have you Started an Odd Profile Photo Collection?? Posted: 8/17/2009 9:48:46 AM
I have a collection of "private" photos that I have been sent. Mind you I have never asked for any of these photos. Now when some guy asks me for a "private" photo (usually within moments of beginning to chat) I just send one of the photos from my collection. No need to tell them off or block them, the pic does the trick quite nicely. Of course some of the men are intrigued..... those guys scare me.

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Beautiful Words To Remember; They'll help you catch the BSers. Posted: 8/7/2009 6:06:42 AM
Another I particularly dislike is: "I don't know what to put here... so just ask me!" Yes! It is right up there with any variation of "just checking this place out" "just seeing what is here" "just looking" gak

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Wierd Habit? Posted: 8/5/2009 8:32:58 AM
OP - I am the same way. I am just not one of those people who can be pursuing or be pursued by more than one person at a time. I like to email with someone and then meet. If it doesn't happen quickly I move on. I was never the sort who dated several people at the same time. We aren't all wired the same. I have friends with profiles on here and am always amazed when I find out we are all talking to the same guy. Blah. No thanks. I know it is the way a lot of people do this online thing it is just not the way I feel comfortable. shrug

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At the risk of digging a BIGGER hole... Posted: 8/4/2009 4:38:00 AM
Another poster gave a list Read+ respond= interest Read/delete= no interest Read/no response = no interest Unread/ for several days or weeks= no interest Unread/delete= no interest This is her list and may be true for her but not for all. The same list is different for me. I will expand her answers to include mine. Read+ respond= interest or I am being polite (this often backfires) Read/delete= no interest. I only do this if the email is especially crass. Read/no response = no interest or I am checking mail on my phone (often) an am not able to take the time to respond. I put in my profile that I don't always respond in a timely manner. Unread/ for several days or weeks= no interest. I travel. I am not always able to spend time on here. Sometimes I am in a place with really sketchy internet and my precious moments of working webtime are spent on work and family related issues. Unread/delete= no interest. I would not do this. I don't think the previous poster is wrong and of course my answers are right for me. My point is there is no way to be inside another person's head. Like the wise woman said... go into your sent box and delete all. Concentrate on the responses that you do get.

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Think you are HOT.. Posted: 7/27/2009 2:58:59 PM
MOM! Grandpa's trying to use the internet again. /fail

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NOT shy and NOT NERVOUS about first dates/meetings. Posted: 7/27/2009 2:56:58 PM
Yup. That is me. I am not nervous about first dates/meets at all. I used to be but so many of them went nowhere that .... I don't even get excited at the thought. Now - a second date. That is different. Since that pretty much never, ever happens I do get sort of excited and just a bit nervous.

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Think you are HOT.. Posted: 7/26/2009 10:13:14 AM
Oh so you want an actual response.... Other members who have marked your profile as where they consider/think you are HOT yet when attempt to thank them for the compliment,you find out that you have already been "blocked" by that member without any prior contact yet your profile meets all their "MAIL SETTINGS". What is your opinion towards this as why being blocked....or for the one's that have "marked" other member's/profile as "HOT"...the reason you have blocked prior to any contact would be??? The first thing printed on the Women/Men who think you are hot page (before the pretty pictures) is Our system predicts that the following users are the most attracted to you. These users are Men who have not yet contacted you and maybe not even viewed your profile. No one "marks" a profile as hot. The only way one person can mark another person's profile is to favorite it. It is just an another algorithm this site has in place to assist in making matches. You can have similar interests and still not meet the criteria a member has in place as filters therefore "blocking" you from messaging them. You are not blocked by them until you message them and they click "block". I don't set a lot of store by the matchmaking algorithms here. All I have to do as look at "My Matches" to know they are out of whack!

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Think you are HOT.. Posted: 7/26/2009 8:07:59 AM
The "real feel" temperature was 100 yesterday. My thermostat needs to be replaced and every so often the AC quits and the heat cycles on. Hopefully I am home to go "jiggle" it and fix it before my house becomes a sauna. I know I'm hot.

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Serendipity Posted: 7/25/2009 7:49:32 AM
Like this? "I was tired of my lady We'd been together too long Like a worn-out recording Of a favorite song So while she lay there sleepin I read the paper in bed And in the personal columns There was this letter I read: If you like pina coladas And getting caught in the rain If you're not into yoga If you have half a brain If you like making love at midnight In the dunes on the cape Then I'm the love that you've looked for Write to me and escape I didn't think about my lady I know that sounds kinda mean But me and my old lady Had fallen into the same old dull routine So I wrote to the paper Took out a personal ad And though I'm nobody's poet I thought it wasn't half bad Yes I like pina coladas And getting caught in the rain I'm not much into health food I am into champagne I've got to meet you by tomorrow noon And cut through all this red tape At a bar called O'Malleys Where we'll plan our escape So I waited with high hopes And she walked in the place I knew her smile in an instant I knew the curve of her face It was my own lovely lady And she said, oh it's you Then we laughed for a moment And I said, I never knew That you liked pina coladas And getting caught in the rain And the feel of the ocean And the taste of the champagne If you like making love at midnight In the dunes on the cape You're the lady I've looked for Come with me and escape If you like pina coladas And getting caught in the rain If you're not into yoga If you have half a brain If you like making love at midnight In the dunes on the cape Then I'm the love that you've looked for Write to me and escape Yes I like pina coladas And getting caught in the rain I'm not much into health food I am into champagne I've got to meet you by tomorrow noon And cut through all this red tape At a bar called O'Malleys Where we'll plan our escape..."

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Ask weight & measurements before meeting- ignoring photos? Posted: 7/24/2009 1:03:55 PM
I date my photos as well as list my height and weight. I don't have anything to hide. If a man asked me for my size I would just laugh since I know it depends on the article of clothing and the brand. Not much can be determined from a "size" except that perhaps you are single or double digits. Most of the people who ask these questions ask them because they have had a bad experience with online dating (who hasn't?). Perhaps they see a picture(s) and the body choice the person has chosen and it just doesn't mesh. I look at average and a few pounds people all the time and wonder where they buy their mirrors. I won't even address those "athletic" folks. You don't have to respond to the questions. Free will is a wonderful thing!

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amazingingly sad Posted: 7/22/2009 5:42:45 AM
OP - head over to profile review and take a thick skin with you. There are many wise and brutally honest fish over there. Remember when you post on a public forum it is just that... public. You cannot control the responses that you receive. There is no guarantee they are all going to be sunshine and rainbows. You have to take the good with the bad and decide what will work for you. Now, but you big boy pants on and post a thread in profile review.

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OMFG I am NOT a love toy! Posted: 7/21/2009 9:57:12 AM
That's weird, you don't look like any love toy that I have ever seen. Hmmmm perhaps you should change your name to Snactch62.

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asking for phone number more than once, is it creepy Posted: 7/12/2009 12:11:30 PM
I don't give out my number. I don't care to talk on the phone. It gives me a headache. I will do yahoo chat or something (when I can find my headset) but... it also gives me a headache. I am just not a phone person. I will meet a man and IF I want to see him again I will give him my number. Everyone is different, yanno?

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Womens likes in profiles Posted: 7/10/2009 7:25:33 AM
I have to laugh every time I read a post by someone who is trying to come across as smart and they don't know the difference between there, they're and their. I won't pick the rest of it apart. It isn't worth it.

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How many of you still hit up the bars regularly? Posted: 7/7/2009 8:50:56 AM
I host trivia a couple of nights a week. I also go play with a large group of friends when I am not hosting. We often end up hitting some of the local bars after trivia. No big deal. If I am bored I might decide to go out and have a drink. Being such a small town I am bound to know at least one person - usually several. Usually about once a month or so we head into Jacksonville to "get off the island". I am not the pick a guy up sort regardless of if it is a bar or the grocery store. I always read that people are "over the bar scene" or something to its equivalent. I am not sure how you ever get over hanging out with friends and enjoying yourself. I think it actually means something completely different when someone says they are tired of bars. They need to examine their own behaviors. A person can go out every night and not get drunk and not ever go home with a person. I have never found that being in a bar could cause me to be someone that I am not.

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Question for the ladies Posted: 7/6/2009 8:01:03 AM
I get the "you are intimidating" line a lot. I don't believe it. I think it is bs that a guy spews because he is not interested. I can't imagine what about me would be intimidating. I am frustrated by men who will look but not approach. I always make eye contact and try to find a way to say hi if I am interested. I have never understood what is so hard about that. shrug

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Msg: 17 (view)

The parting shot Posted: 7/6/2009 5:39:28 AM
Well, see.... you have to date in order to have a break-up and be either the giver or receiver of a parting shot. I can't get a date so this leaves me out of this one. cries

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