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 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 46 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/19/2009 11:27:12 AM

what amuses me is that you keep all the stuff that could cause permanent damage or a slow and painful death just out of reach of your child etc... but you keep all the stuff that could kill them pretty much instantly with in arms reach...*sigh* heh


Like what?
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/19/2009 11:02:29 AM

Yes they where!!!!!

(This is silly and childish. If you disagree, support with figures, not by shouting.)


That was not shouting. And the link I provided already proves that they were not on the decline. If he had actually read it he wouldn't have made a comment as absurd as this.


But they aren't trying to get here for the vaccines you know. It is not the vaccines that make this a great place to live.


I never said it was the reason. But I think we all agree they ARE trying to get here and they are not vaccinated and the diseases are still active in these countries.


Really, there has not been a case of someone drinking a household cleaner? Are you sure of that.


Ugh. I know that it does happen. I was simply trying to point out that having a number for something doesn't mean all that much.


So it is incorrect to state that a few unvaccinated children will cause a mass outbreak.


It starts with a few and then more and more parents buy into the hype and then next thing you know it has caused an outbreak.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 41 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/19/2009 10:19:21 AM
Because the black mamba kills you quicker than you could GET to the vaccine! Why even bother?

Please find actual numbers on how many people have contracted polio from the actual vaccine. I would love to see this!! You probably know 1 out of the 10 it has ever happened to.


The most dangerous of these diseases were on sharp decline when people started vaccinating.


No they weren't!!!



It starts off with an assumption that requires me to buy into the entire "vaccine" theory


And yet you have been suckered into believing that vaccines cause autism. Is that just easier for you to believe? Show me studies on this proving that it does. you can't. because it is all theory and untrue.



By developing countries, they mean filthy, disease-infested, unhygienic, unsanitary countries.


The very countries that population are doing everything possible to get HERE!!



n the rare event that you or your child has a serious reaction to a vaccine, there is a federal program that can help pay for the care of those who have been harmed. For details about the National Vaccine Injury Compensation Program, call 1-800-338-2382 or visit the program’s website at www.hrsa.gov/vaccinecompensation[/quote

Household cleaners also have numbers to call in case someone drinks it. Just cause they have the number doesn't mean it happens.Not to mention all the parents are screaming at them and blaming them for their child being autistic now!!
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 38 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/19/2009 9:04:19 AM

Im still wondering about the difference between the 2 H1N1 shots... anyone?


Lol. I have no idea. I decided years ago not to get flu shots so haven't even bothered to research them any.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/19/2009 9:01:25 AM

I question the accuracy and validity of that statement. In fact, I say it's false.

Please provide evidence that not vaccinating my son could have a harmful effect on others. I'll be waiting forever and ever for your evidence, because you have none. You're simply parroting a belief programmed into you by propaganda which you cannot possibly back up, and being rather dramatic about it: "huge outbreak of some horrible disease ... lets get the plague back!!"


Are you seriously trying to argue the fact that these vaccines protect against COMMUNICABLE diseases?! If your child is not vaccinated they have a higher risk of becoming infected. FACT! If your child becomes infected they very much could infect other children. I don't have any idea how you can possibly call the fact of communicable diseases and how they are contracted as "propaganda" .

Dramatic or not these diseases caused mass destruction and death. They were all pretty dramatic in their time. And they will come back if we allow it. Or rather if uniformed anti-vaccine people allow it.

Here..read this. Just the section on measles alone is terrifying and reason enough to bring my child in for the MMR.


According to the World Health Organization (WHO), nearly 900,000 measles-related deaths occurred among persons in developing countries in 1999. In populations that are not immune to measles, measles spreads rapidly. If vaccinations were stopped, each year about 2.7 million measles deaths worldwide could be expected.


http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/vac-gen/whatifstop.htm
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 29 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/18/2009 7:14:59 PM
I'm not heated at all! If you think that is heated than you haven't been around long enough!


You know... I think you guys are being really rough on OpenHeart.


Make sure you don't use any tylenol or anything else on that precious little kid either. We Have far less reasearch on the affects of every day medicine then we do vaccines. If you are going to start a crusade then make sure you go all the way and don't allow any of those "poisons" into your kid. Oh- hope you are doing totally organic foods as well. I've heard TONS of horror stories about the affects of all the steroids on kids.

You know the difference between avoiding medicine and processed foods in order to keep your kid healthy?!?! It doesn't possibly affect MY KID!!! You not vaccinating could affect others! It should be illegal. maybe another huge outbreak of some horrible disease will make them pass more stern laws. Hell...lets get the plague back!! That should do it.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 24 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/18/2009 12:42:37 PM

Yes.

She was a perfectly healthy child. Then she was vaccinated for polio and contracted polio almost immediately. It wrecked her childhood and to some extent her entire life. The next 5 children her mother had were not vaccinated, and none of them got polio. The entire family knows the full story in living detail and now none of them will "vaccinate" a child, no matter how much programming and indoctrination they receive from well-meaning but misinformed people.


But do you not understand the chances of THIS happening are slim to none! Do you have any idea how many people polio affected when it it was at its peak? THOUSANDS of children every year!!! I'm sorry for your friend but I would rather a handful of people who are susceptible to the vaccine to contract the disease then to allow it to be widespread again. I can't see how one persons misfortune is less valuable than THOUSANDS of people.

And how many times do you have to be told that the link between vaccines and autism is UNFOUNDED!!! There is absolutely NO proof. And again...lets say that yes..there is a chance that autism is caused by vaccines. I would rather 1 child end up autistic than 50 children end up with polio.



I pray that never happens to your family, truly. I know it will not happen to mine.


You do not know that it won't happen. Your child is not protected against MANY diseases to protect them from 1 possibility. Seems a little unreasonable and irresponsible to me.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/18/2009 11:45:29 AM
I don't need to read a book. I have seen first hand what some of the diseases do to people that these vaccines protect against. Have you ever known someone that was struck with polio? Get to know someone and then tell me why you are willing to help bring back debilitating diseases like this.

By not vaccinating you are helping to set back the human race by decades. And I am glad I live in a state where they don't allow parents to lie about religious beliefs and go without vaccinating their children because they are uninformed about the risks of the diseases far outweighing the risks of the vaccines.

Do you believe everything you read? Does decades of history and saved lives mean nothing to you?

PS- My very much vaccinated daughter has never been to the doctor outside of regular check ups and is very healthy!


When you do, you will never "vaccinate" your children again and will begin to question how you got caught up in your erroneous, fear-based belief system.


Isn't this what YOU are doing? Your fear of the very much UNFOUNDED risks of these vaccines keeps you from protecting your child. My child is protected from very REAL and well documented diseases that knowingly killed people!! And the people they didn't kill probably wish at times it did!
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 19 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/18/2009 8:43:34 AM

In California you can get a waiver if it is against any of your personal beliefs...There are a few specifics involved and can't quote them exactly but have had a few kids at the school I work at that have had no immunizations, ever.


That is terrifying. I will be checking into this here in my state but so far everything I have read says it is required with no exceptions. I will be making dang sure of this.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Explaining to a Child why a parent is absent
Posted: 11/18/2009 8:39:20 AM


I wish a DNA test would say she didn't give birth but that one would be a tough one being that I was there for 2 of them, lol


Lol! One can hope though!
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Explaining to a Child why a parent is absent
Posted: 11/17/2009 12:47:16 PM
I know with DHR here they will back date it to the day you filed. No earlier. I filed immediately with my daughter and still missed out on a month for some reason. I have a friend in Cali though that swears that her husbands ex could take him back at any time and get child support going all the way back AND that they take her income into consideration when she files since they are married. I think that is just crazy. I guess every state is totally different.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/17/2009 12:24:38 PM


Then why do you care so much about what I've posted here? Why even bother saying sh!t to me?? This kinda points towards the whole crush-thing again. If that's the case, let's just be adult about it and get it right out in the open!


Aww. Everyone knows my forum crush is Sling Dad.

I have openly admitted several times that I come here for the BS. I enjoy it.It is just hard for me to believe that YOU truly believe anyone will take your negative replies and turn their lives around! But so be it. That is your story and you are sticking to it.

OP- I think people say it because they have nothing better to do than worry about other people. I also think some people do need to stop whining so much about the past and focus on the present and the future. Yesterday is gone and all you can do by dwelling on it is ruin today and tomorrow.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Explaining to a Child why a parent is absent
Posted: 11/17/2009 11:08:29 AM
Gah...I insisted on A DNA test praying that somehow someone elses sperm had magically found its way into my cervix....no such luck. But he still had to pay for it. Sucks for him I guess.

Anyways- I don't see why you would bother to explain it to him at all at this age. I'm pretty sure that when he is older he will know it and then if he asks questions be honest about it. You really can't answer why he isn't there though. Only the father could answer that truthfully so that is exactly what I would tell him. That you don't know why he is present and then make sure to let him know that there are still plenty people who ARE in his life who love him and want to be a part of his life.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/17/2009 10:58:10 AM

I mean, if someone kept hitting themselves in the head with a hammer and then complaining about constant headaches, would you then not suggest that they just quit hitting themselves in the head with a hammer?


Honestly i wouldn't say sh!t to them. Why do I care? Maybe you should go into social work since you care so much about others.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/17/2009 10:52:11 AM
Navigator- Who are YOU to say what someone elses right is?! I can b!tch all day, every day about every little thing and guess what!? I have every right too and really if I were that kind of person the only thing your negative posts will do is cause MORE b!tching.

The difference between me b!tching about my life and you telling me to shut up already is that it is MY life I am talking/complaining about. It does not affect you at all and yet you seem to have the desire to intervene and put your .02 in.

So I have to ask why does it bother you so much? Why do you even care?! I just don't understand why you are so hell bent on "reminding" them at all. I am 100% positive that every single person with some horrible ex story realizes that yes...they dated them. They maybe did or didn't have a kid with them. Them and only them made the conscious decision to be in a relationship with said horrible ex. They KNOW this.You aren't switching some big light bulb off in their head. I'm so sure that there has never been a time that you did something and then later thought "WTF was I thinking"

All the OP was asking is WHY you feel the need to do this? So why do you? As I've stated you are not making them realize anything that they don't already know and you aren't going to stop them from doing it again if they choose to.(Which I believe is what you said was your hope in reminding them of their poor choices- that they wouldn't make the same mistake or something) Never going to happen. So why all the effort in being negative?

I don't see why these boards CAN'T be more positive. I have been on a lot of parenting boards over the past 3 years and by far this is the most negative one EVER. Everyone masking rudeness with honesty. Please. You are being rude and there is no reason to be other than you get a kick out of it. At least own up to it and admit that is what it is.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/17/2009 10:31:16 AM
open-heart- Are you planning on home schooling your son? God I hope so. and I don't know about Michigan but here in Alabama schools require a blue card proving that children have their vaccinations before being allowed to attend school. Even in daycare this is required. I do not want my child sitting next to any little unvaccinated plague monkey so please keep yours at home.

About the flu shots- Neither me nor any of my immediate family will be getting them.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/17/2009 7:26:14 AM
I think anyone who makes a point to throw negativity out is just a negative person who is inviting drama into their life. No matter how much anyone says differently. if you say things like "You chose him so deal with it" or "you made your bed now F'n lie in it" those have very negative connotations and you deserve the drama it gets. What would you expect from a person that you said that to face to face? It is easy to grow a pair online and be all honest but I doubt the majority of you are that "honest" in reality. Why even bother to say anything at all? Oh that's right....you really think by saying something that this person will see the light and the error of their ways all because you were "honest" with them. Yeah...ok that is going to happen.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Birthday party dilemma
Posted: 11/13/2009 1:34:21 PM

^^ At 2! Of course not! But then, 2 year olds really aren't good bowlers, either. Infant/toddlers, absolutely, parents must attend. But schoolage up, it's drop off city!



Gah. I am sooo looking forward to school age!! lol.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Birthday party dilemma
Posted: 11/13/2009 1:10:54 PM
Lol. yeah I might feel very different in 5 years and it seems halfway manageable at 7 and 9 but I would be in the corner in a fetal position crying if I got left alone with 8 2 year olds. Either that or...

Plus I only go to parties of friends kids at this point (at 2 they really don't make friends of their own lol) so we take the time to socialize and hang out.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Birthday party dilemma
Posted: 11/13/2009 1:00:23 PM
How old are your kids? Maybe that is the difference. My daughter is only 2 and therfore most of the children invited are that age or a little older. I couldn't imagine everyone dropping off their 2 year olds and leaving!!!
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Birthday party dilemma
Posted: 11/13/2009 12:57:54 PM
Well..being a parent yourself you have to know how much is going on at birthday parties. Youa re running around trying to get everyone together for the cake, the presents, and like you said activities. And adding the responsibility of being in charge of someone elses kid is just added stress that is unnecessary. And also as a parent I would be worried as to how good of an eye another parent could keep on my child while watching lets say on average 8 other kids.

PS- you aren't there to watch the OTHER kids. You are there to watch YOUR kid.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Birthday party dilemma
Posted: 11/13/2009 12:39:10 PM
On a related topic- do people really just drop their kids off at parties?!?!? I would NEVER even think to do that and would be like "Excuse me? Where the F are you going?" if someone tried to bail and leave their kid with me!!! Wow. That is just crazy to me!!
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/13/2009 12:33:18 PM
I think whining in GENERAL is human nature. Don't get me worng...I don't like it either but seriously...if you have any type of social site you are on (myspace, facebook) then how many times do you hear positive "updates" and how many are whining or b!tching about everything from members of the opposite sex to how lunch was prepared that day. People are whiners. Its just a fact. There is no way to weed them ALL out of your life unless you become a hermit. Even just being on here is allowing negativity and drama into your life. So trying to say that you don't have it, invite it or want it in your life is a crock. You are very much inviting it and drawn to it by simply responding to people on this board!

I always laugh at the people who claim to hate drama because they seem to be the ones that have the most of it in their lives. At least I have the balls to admit that on occasion I like to take a ride on the drama llama. I ride it right up into Crazy Town Square. I don't try to come on here and stand on my "I'm so above all of you" pedestal. And aren't you whining about people whining? It all sounds like whining to me.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/13/2009 11:59:27 AM
Navigator- I think that is basically what the OP is trying to say. That many single parents do own up to making a mistake with the person they partnered with. Some of them learn from it and of course some of them don't but I would hope the majority of them do. I know I became much more selective of partners after having my child. For my sake and hers. I understand not wanting to hear the whining about the ex but I think that is just human nature.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/13/2009 11:56:41 AM

Well unlike you fab, he doesn't bad mouth his ex.


I think you are mistaken. VERY mistaken. I have never said anything much at all about my ex much less wasted my time negatively talking about him. And have never done anything but accepted that i f*cked up. I am all about taking all the blame in my life for my stupid actions. So maybe you need to direct some of that snotty posting to someone else wondering.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/13/2009 10:44:26 AM
^^^^^ So why are you divorced navigator? I mean if what you say is true and no one actually changes and you don't ignore red flags then what happened in your marriage? Or are you simply excluded from the STFU and lie in it group because you don't bad mouth your ex?
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Birthday party dilemma
Posted: 11/13/2009 10:40:25 AM
I think you did the right thing but I think the other parent should have offered to pay for any extra expense incurred because of her other child.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:59:34 AM

How sad that you people watch Harry the Pot head as if it's a documentary ....


I have never seen nor read any of those books but you obviously have if you are saying unicorns are in there somewhere.

And as far as the cursing...I'm not God by far. I'm not perfect.I've said and done far worse things than. Obviously.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 90 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:57:03 AM
And freetime- I believe in a way this is what happened to the bible. Men twisting it to what they want it to say. Translations being wrong. All kinds of things. But for me, God is the creator. No matter how much we humans try to screw it up he started it all and I owe everything to him.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:49:38 AM
Sorry freetime..the first part of that post was directed at you the second one was directed at that other guy...I can't even remember his name at this point. Sorry for the confusion.

*edit* it is the badmonkeyf*cker* guy
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 140 (view)
 
Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:42:28 AM
^^^^I'm sorry...are you saying that it's very hard for a woman to own a home without a man? Why in the world would you think that?
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 84 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/11/2009 8:29:06 AM
Organized religion is man made and the Bible has been so altered by translations it is very logical to think that some meanings have got lost in those translations. I don't see why you think that someone should have to believe in all 3 in order to what? Be a true believer? I can assure you that I am a VERY true believer in God. I am not however, a believer so much in the accuracy of the bible or the need to attend church, although I do because I enjoy it.

PS- Unicorns are goats and through folk lore and story telling turned into what we now think of when someone says unicorn. The beautiful white horse with the single horn. So...yes, unicorns did indeed exist. Not as you picture it but that is your problem...not the unicorns.
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 27 (view)
 
Plan B for a teenager
Posted: 11/10/2009 2:43:37 PM
I once seriously tried to convince my parents i was a lesbian so they wouldn't question when I was out with guys. Laid it on pretty thick. They didn't buy it...they knew I was and always have been boy crazy! lol
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 25 (view)
 
Plan B for a teenager
Posted: 11/10/2009 2:14:07 PM
Oh man....lets see... On the hoods of cars. In the front seat of cars. Of course the back seat of cars. back of trucks. In public bathrooms at the movies. And God knows it wasn't marathon sex. We needed a total of maybe 10 minutes! Oh...you need us to run to the store and pick up some milk? Oh let me go do that!! And then bam...have sex and bring the milk back in enough time that you think we must have been speeding! lol.

Now I'm old....trying to do it in the car would end in hospitalization. Lmao!
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/10/2009 2:08:51 PM
Awww...but farting in a jar made sense to the crazy old man. It "made sense" to Manson to kill all those people. A lot of crazy ass people had theories that 'made sense". It makes sense to you that we came from a big explosion (what explosion have you ever known that CREATED? Every time I've blown something up it was destroyed) but whos to say you aren't bat sh!t crazy? I don't judge really....that old farting man I am pretty sure was bat Sh!t crazy as well but he had tons of followers! i'm sure you will be ok.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/10/2009 1:41:46 PM
PS- I basically believe that the big bang could very well have happened. But I believe God did it. He put it all there and made it go bang or maybe not. Maybe he pointed his finger and it was just there. Who knows. But I do believe that scientific evidence has proven that something happened. But scientific evidence can't say what STARTED all of it. We know the ice age happened. We know it altered the earth and many species forever. I believe in evolution. I believe humans, animals and plants evolve continuously. But I believe God allowed us to do that.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/10/2009 1:38:00 PM

What can I say I am a realist. I expect my "theories" at least to be plausible and somewhat make sense.


Again...plausible to YOU. Not to me and many others. They don't make sense at all! A big bang created life....wow. ok. Well what put everything there to begin with? How did the stuff that went Bang get there? Um...that's right....no one KNOWS!!! It just happened....yeah ok.

I will take my God and my unicorn and leave now thank you very much.
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 62 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/10/2009 1:23:09 PM

Sounds like a bunch of hoopla to me.


Beats your imaginary guy sitting up in the clouds watching every move you make idea

hey look!! a UNICORN.... did you see that.... ?


Totally a matter of opinion. I see your opinion on it and I have mine. No need to battle which one is more realistic when neither one have been proven. It would basically be comparing unicorns and dragons! Only an idiot would argue theories. It's a losing battle.
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 21 (view)
 
Plan B for a teenager
Posted: 11/10/2009 1:20:15 PM

this is not helping me feel better
:-)


Lol! I am sorry! And trust me you are doing something right because I would have NEVER in a million years discussed anything with my parents at 15! Which happens to be when i started having sex myself. I think after this scare your daughter will be much safer.
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 18 (view)
 
Plan B for a teenager
Posted: 11/10/2009 12:57:42 PM

It is not as though they have much opportunity to be -ugh- "doing it", and they will have even less now...


Oh if my parents only knew how little time AND space I needed to "do it" when i was a teenager!! lol
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 17 (view)
 
Plan B for a teenager
Posted: 11/10/2009 12:56:39 PM
I've heard the bone density thing for depo too but I was told that you can still get it but that you should only stay on it for like a period of 3 years.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/10/2009 12:43:41 PM
And the big bang THEORY has no more weight than your "dream" theory or God freetime. It's a matter of what people choose to believe. You obviously choose to believe in the Big bang THEORY. I don't see how believing in one unfounded theory can be any more stupid than believing in another one.

YOU see it as more plausible. I really don't. lets see....everything is floating along...all good and chillaxin...then BAM!!!! Once the dust settles...Oh damn!!! Look at that!!! We have organisms! And wow!! Look at this...billions of years later these organisms turned into all the plant and animal species all over the world! It is....a MIRACLE!!! lol

Sounds like a bunch of hoopla to me.
 taken fab-mom
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/10/2009 12:37:38 PM
I have to agree with package...I didn't get knocked up at 18 or even 25 but I'm not going to chastise someone who did. Mainly because..well...I just really don't care but also because I realize that not everyone grows up in the same circumstances or has the same life or teachings.

And my babies (when i have another one) will have different biological fathers. Meh. Again...I don't see why anyone would care if I don't. It doesn't affect you in any way. People worry too much about other people. Take care of yourself and hold true to YOUR beliefs and stop worrying about other people so much.
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 13 (view)
 
Plan B for a teenager
Posted: 11/10/2009 12:33:16 PM
I would do it for sure if that is what she wanted. And I suggest going with the depo shot. Very easy and I was on it for YEARS and never got pregnant and couldn't get pregnant when i tried for years after I got off of it!!! lol.
 taken fab-mom
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Msg: 12 (view)
 
extended family visits with other side of the family
Posted: 11/4/2009 1:00:00 PM
In my case the dad had nothing to do with the child. His parents wanted to spend time with their grandchild. I saw and still see nothing wrong with that even though now she is adopted by my husband. Anyways, we struck up a deal while she was still young (few months old) that we (me and his parents) would take turns. I would bring her to them and visit then they would come to us and visit. My turn was first. I drove the 2 hours with a 3 month old and stayed the night. Next time they talked me into doing it again. The baby HATED being in a car. The drive was awful. But I did it. For the sake of "family". Well they never bothered to take their turn. Although I did get cards in the mail up until last year with notes talking about how much they loved her and how no matter how I felt about her father I shouldn't keep her from them...yeah. All that and it was still my fault they didn't see her. Did I mention that I work full time and was in school at the time and the mother doesn't work at all?!

I think family is very important but that is is different in every situation. If they want to be a part of the childs life there should be equal effort to accommodate that want and need. If not then whoever is on the end that is slacking is at fault.
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Msg: 11 (view)
 
Muwahahaha Happy Halloween
Posted: 10/29/2009 12:57:57 PM
My two and a half year old insisted on Tinkerbell. I thought I had at least one more year of picking out her costumes But she is an adorable Tinkerbell!! We are doing a Trunk or Treat at a local church with hay rides and a petting zoo and all that good stuff. I unfortunately have became ill as of yesterday. Very sick today too. Just hoping it gets better by Saturday :(
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Msg: 148 (view)
 
An unofficial look at CS payment amounts.
Posted: 10/29/2009 7:56:24 AM
child support is bullcrap. if a woman did not have children she would still need...a house, a car, gas in the car, food (and let's face it if you make hamburger helper for 3 instead of 1 how much more is that really), she needs electricity even if alone, water, and cable tv. so what is child support really. let's say the kids have 200 dollars every 6 months in new clothes. 150 extra a month for food, 200 for extra curricular activies a year. let's say 50 dollars more in gas to drive them a month here and back to soccer practice. 50 a month for school lunches. so a person needs a house, car, electricity, water, gas in there in tank, anyway without children. so roughly the incremental cost of raising a child is about 3,000 dollars a year. now, the ex is responsible for let's say 40% of it. so the guy should pay 60% of that incremental cost of raising a kid. so about 1700 a year. or about 140 dollars a month. now if there is daycare for a toddler then he should pay half that cost or 300 max more a month so about 440 max a month. now if the child is a teenager, then there is no law that says that dad has to pay if they want a cell phone or a car or car insurance. those are luxuries and i had to work for that when i was a teenager. so that shouldn't be computed.



So its crap but before daycare I was allotted $200 a month. Which is pretty damn close to what you deem reasonable. After daycare it went up to I think like $700 a month. Keep in mind that this was due mainly to his arrears he had accrued because he felt $200 was too much to pay. I think at least $200 a month was for arrears. So lets say it jumped to $500 a month. So again, $300 dollars a month for the daycare expense. And this is the norm for how child support goes around here. I don't know who all these women are who are getting this extravagant amount of money that all you bitter ass men are whining about but I doubt it is as common as you would make it out to be.
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Msg: 80 (view)
 
Single parent brag!
Posted: 10/27/2009 11:07:52 AM

I pay all my own bills and all on time, manage my own 2 BR apartment, own my 2008 car outright, my son even said I do a "better" job of parenting and keeping things clean than his other parent (I dont even call him a "father" since he doesnt act like one or treat him like one), I will have an MISM degree in 18 months, and am a stay at home mom for the time being, all without ever asking anyone for a dime!


I'm just curious on how you pay bills if you aren't working and don't get money from anyone.....I would LOVE to know that secret! lol.
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Msg: 78 (view)
 
Single parent brag!
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:44:27 AM
No you didn't. You came through as being realistic. And yes, the reality of the situation is that I could very well be screwed. I am aware of that. But then again, I could not and would not marry another man that I did not trust completely 100% and that was in love and in business relations. Just like opening a business with someone...you have to trust that person. And if I didn't then I wouldn't get married. Trust is broken everyday, I know this too, but what marriage (or business)would ever work or be successful without the trust in the partners?

Not callous at all. Just your concern for one of us reformed evil, dirty single mothers is contradictory to everything else you post.
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Msg: 77 (view)
 
Single parent brag!
Posted: 10/27/2009 9:22:19 AM
Lol again. Thank you for your concern. Really....
 
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