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sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 50 (view)

Saying I love you for the first time Posted: 11/10/2009 7:01:00 PM
It's funny. Since he's gotten used to saying it to me, he now says it to his mom beore he hangs up the phone, his step-mpm, his sister...I told him how in my family we always say 'I love you' as the last thing we say to someone whenever we speak, because you never know if that's going to be the last time you talk to them, ever, and 'I love you' should be the last thing they hear from you. It has always been an important thing in our family, and I love the fact that he does it now too. Beth Hey Beth, that is exactly what I do & other members of my family & friends for just the same reasons you've expressed....So here's a BIG right on! for you....

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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Saying I love you for the first time Posted: 11/10/2009 6:58:27 PM
My advice - don't say it. I know I know you really want to. But don't. Women show it. And men feel it. But allow him to say it first. Otherwise? It will mess up what for now and for you? Feels good. So don't take that step. Sorry but I have to go with my gut on this one. I completely agree with the above quote.....As a guy I'm reluctant to say it, and if I heard it from the woman first I might feel an obligation that I'm not ready for & that might scare me off.

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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peeking on dateing sites Posted: 9/13/2009 1:56:25 AM
Interesting development Forum123.....its so much more real hearing the 'other' side of the story......I wonder, though, how do you know she was online too?.....I know 6 weeks doesn't sound like a long time, but if she is as hot as you describe, men will be all over her...... I think she really likes you, but I don't think she loves you enough for the relationship to last & I think you already knew that. She is using the lying/trust issue as an easy way to end the relationship. I laugh when I hear people say, "he lied, dump his a$$", when they don't even know the whole situation. It blows me away how some people are just so perfect that their lives & minds are an open book. Don't you just love having a spouse living inside your head?

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

What Would You Do? Posted: 7/2/2009 9:58:32 AM
you are guilty of 'over thinking' rather than going with what your body was telling you..... you missed an opportunity because you 'out thought' yourself......Live & learn however, she is probably not done dating & most likely will not stay with whomever she is with currently so all is not lost........ Next, go with your feelings & do what you must to try to make it happen....if the timing is wrong or it doesn't work out, then move on......their are millions of women in the sea so don't despair.....

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Please clear this up for me. Posted: 7/2/2009 9:46:43 AM
Unbelievable!!!! Not that some B!tch went thru your computer without your permission....that has happened to me & I kicked that B!tches butt outta my house so fast you could hear the door reverberating on her a$$ .....what makes this all the more unbelievable is the women posting here...... "it was wrong, but you should not have been flirting with another woman!!!" Unbelievable.....any woman that thinks they have the right to comment on anything that you wrote on your computer needs their head examined......at least i know which women here i would never date...... Really simple people.....Going into someone else's computer & looking at their private stuff is WRONG!!! pretty simple idea....its WRONG, get it "WRONG"....and anything they have to say about what you wrote is NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS!!!! it is irrelevant to anything....because by that time their A$$ should be booted out of your house.....you do not have to defend yourself......just take out the trash & move on

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Would you move to another are or country because you loved someone from there Posted: 4/27/2009 3:45:02 PM
No, I wouldn't relocate....for the same reasons already discussed.....my kids & my family are all here......i won't even date more than 25 miles from me....

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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How aggressive do you like a Person to be who likes you? Posted: 4/27/2009 3:31:39 PM
I prefer when a woman contacts me first, especially via email.....I would say that is about what happens 90% of the time & is usually most successful in starting a relationship...... when I contact the woman first, it may lead to a conversation & date though the percent is much lower...... I guess women know what they want better than I do

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 162 (view)

Why are so many attractive people divorced? Posted: 4/24/2009 1:55:35 PM
Why then are so many attractive people divorced? I don't think attractiveness has much to do with divorce....... I know I would rather be single than be in a bad relationship......And now that I am single I know I will never put up with someone trying to control me or change me or belittle me......I think sometimes relationships become possessions..... I think more relationships would last if people knew what their needs really are and how they want to live their lives......understanding oneself and what would be a good fit for us is so important when it comes to making the right choices.....

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 406 (view)

why do men always have to look at other women!! Posted: 4/24/2009 1:30:47 PM
I guess there is looking and then there is 'gawking'.......like many others have said we all look......I'm definitely a people watcher & I would venture to say most people do the same......As far as looking at a person flirtatiously or with desire, there are times when that would be appropriate and times where it is not.....hopefully, you all can tell the difference.... However, I am definitely a visual creature......I love photography, nature, and animals so I am gonna look.....and I do have enough common sense not to be looking when I'm with another women unless its just looking....

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 77 (view)

Being a gentleman, going slow. Is it the kiss of death? Posted: 4/23/2009 11:13:10 PM
It seems to me that women quickly lose their image of you as a desirable man if you do not make it understood early that you expect a physical relationship. I completely agree.....If I am feeling the chemistry on a first date I will make sure to show her I am interested on a physical level.....I will usually touch her arm or just take her hand in mine..... If she is comfortable with that, I will make sure she gets at least a goodbye kiss with a discussion of a second date..... I don't really want to waste my time or her time......I think its important that I show her i'm interested if I really am ....if she is not interested I will get the message and back off...... and i do agree with you.....as a guy ya gotta make some move, but don't get hasty........the best things in life are enjoyed slowly and deeply with appreciation....

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 256 (view)

What do you think about people who see therapists? Posted: 4/23/2009 11:01:42 PM
I have a therapist that I've seen off and on for 3 years now......she is amazing and helps me get my head on straight.....its so nice to have a professional, objective person who knows me well......her clarity guides me when my life gets foggy & unclear....... I am the happiest I've ever been in my life......i know there is so much more worth exploring, so much to discover & experience........ and this comes from learning to understand, accept, & love myself...... Life is good

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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The instant chemistry demand Posted: 4/23/2009 10:45:30 AM
I agree with the woman that said she can tell If there is chemistry in 5 minutes. I've always said I can tell by the time I finish my drink and if I'm not feeling the attraction I can drink fast. I also believe most women can also tell within minutes. No matter how well you get along if you are not physically atrracted to that person then continuing tio see them is a waste of time

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

Why would you want to remain friends with an ex Posted: 4/23/2009 9:56:22 AM
My last girlfriend and I were together for 6 months. We were also the best of friends. We decided to remain friends after the brekup and I'm glad because she is still a friend and a wonderful person.

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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What's Expected Of Me? Posted: 4/21/2009 12:10:25 AM
the only thing I expect is to make love in every room of the house & outside on the patio..... after that we can go out for a bite to eat....... the rest we can deal with later

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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starting a new relationship Posted: 4/20/2009 11:54:52 PM
For me the hardest part about starting a relationship is wondering if she feels the same chemistry I feel.....i can usually tell by the way the conversation goes & the way she looks at me......once that first physical connection is shared then it becomes even more exciting......i love the stage of getting to know her & spending time together....just talking & laughing & smiling & holding hands......starting a relationship can be fun......i think becoming part of someone else's life is like opening a door to a place i've never been & looking out to see the beauty of this new world & wanting to go out and explore it.....

sunlightblue2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Why are you EXCITED about being Single?!?!?! Posted: 4/10/2009 11:55:55 PM
I'm free and single to find a good match for me. I'm not stuck in a bad relationship or struggling to make someone into what I want."or having someone try to do that to me" you said it perfectly

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Do relationships still have romance? Posted: 4/8/2009 11:55:34 PM
romance really in its core is about appreciating each other and showing it. This sums it up for me....thank you KTDID.....it makes the person feel special, desired, wanted.....loved

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

Cuddling and Boundries Posted: 4/8/2009 11:32:22 PM
Cuddling is love's golden touch....a sensuality of shared emotions....its about being so close, so near, that her very breath, her very presence, creates fireworks that sends shivers throughout my body....

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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Guys - when do you 'expect' sex? Posted: 4/8/2009 11:12:12 PM
What do you think of women that have sex with you on the 1st date? The only way I would have sex on the first date is if the chemistry was so strong & our feelings developed within a few hours.....Personally, I prefer to hold back....Something to look forward to in the near future.... How many dates before you think sex is appropriate? Never a set amount of dates. Probably within a few would be nice. Do you prefer a bit of a chase? Do you lose interest if you have sex without a chase?Not really into chasing. I do love romancing. Candlelit dinners, live music, moonlight, twinkle in her eye....

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 1158 (view)

Hi Everyone! Posted: 4/6/2009 7:17:40 PM
Hi Everyone....Jayson here from SoCal.....Los Angeles area.....drop by & say hi sometime......its been absolutely beautiful here lately........Anybody see any good movies lately?

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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Good qualities you look in a person plus strong chemistry-is it enought to commit? Posted: 4/6/2009 2:22:39 PM
if she is the complete package then i have no doubt I would be in love with her.......I would have to be in love with her or forget the commitment part......

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 260 (view)

Have you ever been caught Masturbating? Posted: 4/6/2009 1:02:36 PM
When I was in high school I had an English teacher that was really hot. The guys would get hard ons in her class all the time. One particular day she was wearing a zip down blouse that was lower than usual & just enough cleavage was showing to create a male flood. When she passed by me she looked down while I was practing volleyball. She looked at me stone faced & told me to stay after class. I remember it was lunch right after. When everybody left she said to me, "well since you are so good with zippers maybe you could help me with mine." Her zipper was actually stuck in that lowcut position. I took hold of her zipper & could feel her breasts against the back of me hands..........I was able to get the zipper fixed......and had to completely unzip it to free it up....... i didn't expect to see that she wasn't wearing a bra........................

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 310 (view)

men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies? Posted: 4/6/2009 12:43:27 PM
It wouldn't bother me......I'd just tell her I have had only one partner & she had aides.....

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

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When you have a long sex break is your drive goes up or down? Posted: 4/6/2009 7:35:12 AM
when I was younger having a long sex break would increase my drive.....now when I have a long break my sex drive diminishes......I prefer the company of one as in a mutually exclusive relationship and won't just date around....so it is not unusual for me to go dry for periods of time

skyblue2nu2

Joined: 6/23/2007

Msg: 134 (view)

What makes a bad impression on a first date with you? Posted: 4/6/2009 7:25:57 AM
there are some really good ones I've been reading here......I don't date around much....I prefer to communicate & get to know someone first before going on a first date..... I think lack of sincerity makes a bad impression on me......someone who isn't really in touch with themselves.....they tend to say & do things that show their 'true colors' With some people saying goodbye is better than saying hello......

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