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Joined: 6/23/2007

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Sex...Hurts? Posted: 11/6/2009 3:54:05 PM
Sometimes times the simplest things are the hardest to see.. Instead of spending loads of money and repeated Doctor visits… Could we take a little test.. for about 5 dollars.. and we can answer or remove a couple of things as possibilities .. or reasons for your pain. Go down to your local hardware store and buy a roll of either Packing or Duck Tape 1 ¾ or two inches wide …. take it home and with a hammer beat down the round outside edge .. now cover it with a cloth.. leaving the hole in the middle like a donut … Or you can go to your local 99 cent store and buy some hair squenchies (sp) that ladies put their ponytails in… get enough that when you stack them they measure 1 ¾ to 2 inches high.. Next time you try the act.. first place either the cover Tape or the Squenchies on him and use them as a buffer so he will not bottom out on you.. Yes it will be odd and the Squenchies might work better.. But afterwards ….. if you don’t have the pain.. We have answered some questions.. 1. His bottoming out on your cervix cause you the pain 2. There is nothing wrong with you inside 3. He now understands he is the one causing this and he needs to back off 2 inches. 4. The used Buffer will teach him how far he can go in.. with out causing you pain 5. The male’s sensitive area is all within the first 3 inches anyway ..there is nothing down at the end of the trunk 6. And last but not least.. If he will NOT even at lease try this for your sake.. then he just into it for himself… One other point.. if he can’t get the roll of Duck tape over himself and the inside of the Duck tape roll is 3 inches in diameter .. You have more and bigger issues then length.. Above all talk with each other.. In my life I have had a couple of ladies who said I bottomed out and it was like being punched inside.. That is when you NEED to think about the lady’s well-being and use some control… Always remember the act of love or sex is the exchanging of pleasure giving and receive between two people and finding a way or ways to do that.. Not beating each other up.. and saying “what is your problem” Try thinking of it this way….. as in a long trip in the dark.. You are only concentrating on driving the distance the headlights……. light up… not the whole journey .. simply take it inch by inch and forget about the thing as a whole

Joined: 6/23/2007

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do young women lust after older men?? or is this a mith?? Posted: 11/3/2009 1:44:48 PM
TRIAL RUN... is that like a.......... "TEST DRIVE" where you take him out .......kick all four tires, see if the radio works and check if ALL...... the windows go up and down smoothly .. or get hung up.... Question .....do you do this on the first meeting or do you let the old car warm-up first???? and the big question.. what happens if the Old Classic Car runs great.. and knows the road?? Just wonder

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Are LTRs doomed to degenerate into lukewarm coexistence, if not worse ? Posted: 9/18/2009 4:23:21 PM
How I see romance and love. Lust and passion starts with a look or a spark… in two people, that have just met, when they both have the freedom to engage. Passion and lust run hand and hand exploring the newness of our fines. Our emotions and bodies swing all over the charts, sometime unable to be rained in. The new discovering and exploring our counters parts body’s, turn on’s and pleasures drives us further into the dance. The physical need to look, touch, taste and stimulate is all empowering and all consuming. The need to be accepted and at the same time be a pleaser and be pleased… brings us close to insanity in the world of give and take.. Time with…. and time without… seem to pass in chunks, the wait is too long & the togetherness is to short, leaving us with a craving for more. Anticipation and hopes push us forward to what we have only hope and dream of in our past, and allow us to disregard or overlook problems that would have stopped us cold days before. But the intensity of the fever cannot hold our all-consuming thoughts forever or we would burn ourselves out…as a wick with no wax. As passion and lust softens….. Trust, Caring and Respect start to grow and a new emotion takes its lead in the Sharing Dance. When a common level of Giving and Receiving, Understanding and Acceptance is reached a new ease and contentment follows. And with the building of Trust and Respect,…. Love goes from fruit to blossom and beauty, and our Lover….. becomes our best friends. As a relationship (after the Lust and Passion stage) grows is like a child who is learning to walk with each advance and recovery. Relationship have needs, have wants and is more like a living animal ….. which has to be worked with on a ongoing daily routine to succeed. A relationship is like a beautiful lawn… Your flatten out the area, you add a good top soil, you turn the ground over, you throw out the grass seeds, you water, you wait, you add fertilizers, You may put small holes in the ground to help get air into the soil, you may add shade, you may cut away other plants to get more sunlight on the lawn, you may trim some areas of the lawn, and re-water… You do all this for a lawn … Then why did you think a relationship should just work without any work on your part. Romance is like a foreign language, from day one you have to try and open your own willingness to accept the other’s interests and advances….. even if you don’t see the merit in doing so. You need to be playful from the start and accepting the willingness of the other to be engaged in the dance. Romantic Expressions … that don’t start at day one ….. Will never show up months later. If you down play the other’s expressions, they will feel out of place… by making them and withdrawal their interest in doing so. If in-turn you open up yourself and participate in the dance of expression the act will grow and will become more a part of you as in speaking a foreign language. The more you engage yourself in accepting Verbal Stroking, the more you and your partner will bond together. As in the guy who always remember to bring flowers home on special days for you, always opens the door for you…If you short cut his need to be Romantic…he will have no need to be Romantic and emotionally withdraw.. Leaving you without…

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Ladies… have you ever just asked for "IT" Posted: 9/11/2009 3:58:41 PM
Ladies ….. Has it ever seem like things were going to slow for you and you simply just asked for it? How did you Ask? or get your request known? And Guys learn .....as we grow up.. how to accept rejection . Have you ever been rejected or shot down for that night because you Asked ....... just to soon??

Joined: 6/23/2007

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why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers? Posted: 7/5/2009 3:09:25 PM
The little Devil guy on my shoulder made me post this… Because most guys under 35 can’t count that high When counting teeth…..Sorry dumb joke

Joined: 6/23/2007

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Long vs short hair Posted: 7/4/2009 1:01:56 PM
I get questioned and rejected because of my hair often. At lease I have some.. I look at it this way.. If they are willing to make that kind of a judgment then they are not going to be secure enough with their own self, to work as partners in the long run.. If I reversed the rolls and Said [as may ladies have].. “Do you still have those highlight in your hair or that reddish tint” Or .....if I asked a lady “ You seem to be very interesting and I liked your profile.. would you mind dying your hair color to black and cutting it.. I might have an interest in meeting you” I’d get laughed at.. I was even rejected once with…. she said…. “It would be easier for her to date and deal with a Gambler and someone with a Drinking Problem than my love of Singing Music and my hair.. go think.. I don’t worry about it.. at this age I am NOT going to change who I am to try and get a date........... I am who I am.. I am OK with being rejected for who I am Better to be rejected that way….Than trying to be something I am NOT and still being rejected for that image. Lean to love yourself first and accept other for what they bring or add to your life..

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Cuddling and touching after sex Posted: 6/19/2009 1:59:00 PM
After being “Intimate” with my significant other. I want our bodies to relax and our beating hearts to slow back down….with her in my arms and then just let the world pass “US” by.. Touch is a very important primal non verbal sign of affection and acceptance in my relationships.. It’s reestablishing our caring for each other softly as lovers. After driving each other to our limits physically …

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Good Condoms Lost at Sea Posted: 6/18/2009 6:12:11 PM
First be a Gentleman and tell her is a nice calm voice what happen. LET HER KNOW Then tell her you are very sorry that this has happen.. And you’ll help her through this.. And in my case…. I’ll simply tell her that she’s NOT going to get “Pregnant” since I have been Clipped,, and all my STD test have come back clean.. Be a man and understand what has just raced through her head.. Show some compassion in a kind calm voice.. That what you need do.. And next time think a little bit about her.. needs If it was so dry and tight enough to rip the cover off.. then it must have NOT be enjoyable for her at all..

Joined: 6/23/2007

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Any women willing to admit having had great sex with a married man? Posted: 6/6/2009 10:46:08 AM
Years and years ago I was played. I was very young and I met this lady, She didn’t wear any rings at all. We meet for a drink and I asked her straight out “Do you have a Significant other” and she said without any hesitations “NO’ We saw each other for four weeks One day she called me and said “You can’t call me this Weekend” I asked “why” She replied “ My Husbands back in town” I then asked.. “What part of a Significant Other is a Husband NOT” She came back with.. “ He’s a Tuna Fisherman and he’s out to sea 90 percent of the time.. in 15 years we have only spent 6 Christmases together and 5 New Years and they haven’t even been the same years” ..I said ….”Ok the weekend after He leaves…I’ll come over we’ll have dinner together with your kids and them we’ll go up to your bedroom and spend the night.” She said “You can’t do that” I asked “Why” She responded with.. “Cause I’m married” My final statement was… “That’s the point.. You Are Married… Don’t call me ever again.. Good bye…” The point … A married partner always has a backdoor out.. They are married with or without kids ..they are not making the same investment of emotions.. They might even hold you at arms length emotionally but jump into the physical … Or they will completely jump in emotionally to build up their own self worth or value.. They are playing a game that they already have limits in.. They can’t completely give their heart and soul away …because they have already made that bond that with someone else.. Good or Bad.. Right or Wrong.. Happy or Sad.. they have bonded with someone else.. and they now have limits

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Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?! Posted: 5/31/2009 1:23:08 PM
Every time I get in my car… I put on my seatbelt.. I am not planning to have an accident but just in case. I would rather be as safe as I can. It NOT only protects YOU But it also protects ME…… remember.. Someone who doesn’t protect themselves … will NOT care if they protect you.. Your protection is always left ……simply up to you.. Safe sex can be worth the cover...

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STD Testing - if you want to know about the process as of todya Posted: 4/12/2009 8:30:47 PM
I am going to restate this again... While having all my test done, here is something I learned about the HIV test *******Have this test done anonymously .. DO NOT have it done through your medical system.. A bad test will be listed in your medical records and if you lose your medical coverage and need to fine new coverage in the future.. YOU JUST MIGHT BE DECLINE.. SECOND.. Because it’s on your record.. YOU might NOT be able to get LIFE INSURANCE ever again also...

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Who won't sleep with anyone untill they go get tested? Posted: 3/29/2009 7:45:47 PM
3 weeks ago I had the blood test for Herpes 1 and 2 through Kaiser.. so yes there is a blood test.. And I was trying to just make a point ......... about bring up the testing question and their past exposure sooner than later.. I understand .....maybe the First phone call or the "Meet and Greet" is way to soon.. and will turn a lot of people off.. But plesse bring these questions up before you turn off the lights.

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Who won't sleep with anyone untill they go get tested? Posted: 3/29/2009 6:47:12 PM
With these questions you will find out who is really here to ......find a true relationship, and those who are here to play.. Do you want to be played??? I am looking for the whole package.. and it begins with openness and honesty about who you are today and what you have done.. I just need to know about the last 5 years Not your whole life story Ok let me put it this way.. If they said they had these conditions and STD's Would you be willing to be unproductive with them?? Or would you want to date them for 6 weeks and then ….after you have built major feeling.. find out and know this RED FLAG is a Deal Breaker? Just ask the questions and learn what kind of person they are from their Answers.. you can learn a lot.. by how they answer..

Joined: 6/23/2007

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Who won't sleep with anyone untill they go get tested? Posted: 3/29/2009 6:02:29 PM
I just had my yearly test done And all were negative.. I had them test for Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Syphilis Herpes 1 and 2 Hepaticas A, B, and C And the Hiv test. Which was the blood test Some basic points... I..... Have used condoms for the past 15 years Except for oral.. ALL other times it’s been covered. 2.... I understand about the 6 month window regarding the blood test for HIV so I must conceder that I was OK as of 6 months ago 3.... And I will contuse to use condoms in the future until the relationship has passed the 6-month point and .....we have both had no other partner , and then both of us get tested together. But here is something I learned about the HIV test *****Have this test done anonymously .. DO NOT have it done through your medical system.. A bad test will be listed in your medical records and if you lose your medical coverage and need to fine new coverage in the future.. YOU JUST MIGHT BE DECLINE.. SECOND.. Because it’s on your record..YOU might NOT be able to get LIFE INSURANCE ever again HERE is the major point of this all... YOU need to ASK** these questions up front when starting a relationship long before you ever get to the point where the subject needs to be talked about.. In other words.. DON”T be waiting until you are talking off your close to ask. .....Some people will just avoid the whole subject at that point or just give you a quick ..”I OK’ ...... trying not to end the mood.. or their chances.. Both Men And Ladies ASK these questions right up front maybe in the first phone call or the "Meet and Greet" Before they or you have build any feeling to have them like you.. People who want others to like them...... often hedge their answers.. And be real questionable with people that feel this is an invading their life.. if they are NOT upfront there maybe something they are hiding. beside is that the relationship you want with someone who will NOT be open and honest about who they are..NOT ME.. So Ask these upfront. 1.... How long have you been out of you last major relationship? 2.... Have you had at lease two other physical relationships since your last major relationship? No one wants to be that rebound partner and get used. 3.... Who many sexual partners have you had in the last 5 years that you used NO protection.. Or how may unproductive partners have you had in the last 5 years. 4.... When was the last time you were tested? and what was tested and the answers were? 5.... And DO you have ANY.. and I mean ANY THING that will either shorten or curtail you own life. OR you could give me if we had unproductive sex.. Any including Herpes Please learn this and if I can help just one of you I’ll be fine.. ......If your partner hasn’t respected his own life by using protection.. Why would you think they would care about your life? No mater what someone says..It up to you to guard your own life and safety.. The first 5 weeks ......... we/you think this is it.. the real one. But look back at your own history and how many of those first great five weeks ended and the six week you were no longer even talking.. ........Lust is powerful and sex is lust right hand but as strong as they show up ...they disappear just as fast ......if you can’t move them to respect, caring, and love..

Joined: 6/23/2007

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Who won't sleep with anyone untill they go get tested? Posted: 3/29/2009 6:02:05 PM
I just had my yearly test done And all were negative.. I had them test for Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Syphilis Herpes 1 and 2 Hepaticas A, B, and C And the Hiv test. Which was the blood test Some basic points... I..... Have used condoms for the past 15 years Except for oral.. ALL other times it’s been covered. 2.... I understand about the 6 month window regarding the blood test for HIV so I must conceder that I was OK as of 6 months ago 3.... And I will contuse to use condoms in the future until the relationship has passed the 6-month point and .....we have both had no other partner , and then both of us get tested together. But here is something I learned about the HIV test *****Have this test done anonymously .. DO NOT have it done through your medical system.. A bad test will be listed in your medical records and if you lose your medical coverage and need to fine new coverage in the future.. YOU JUST MIGHT BE DECLINE.. SECOND.. Because it’s on your record..YOU might NOT be able to get LIFE INSURANCE ever again HERE is the major point of this all... YOU need to ASK** these questions up front when starting a relationship long before you ever get to the point where the subject needs to be talked about.. In other words.. DON”T be waiting until you are talking off your close to ask. .....Some people will just avoid the whole subject at that point or just give you a quick ..”I OK’ ...... trying not to end the mood.. or their chances.. Both Men And Ladies ASK these questions right up front maybe in the first phone call or the "Meet and Greet" Before they or you have build any feeling to have them like you.. People who want others to like them...... often hedge their answers.. And be real questionable with people that feel this is an invading their life.. if they are NOT upfront there maybe something they are hiding. beside is that the relationship you want with someone who will NOT be open and honest about who they are..NOT ME.. So Ask these upfront. 1.... How long have you been out of you last major relationship? 2.... Have you had at lease two other physical relationships since your last major relationship? No one wants to be that rebound partner and get used. 3.... Who many sexual partners have you had in the last 5 years that you used NO protection.. Or how may unproductive partners have you had in the last 5 years. 4.... When was the last time you were tested? and what was tested and the answers were? 5.... And DO you have ANY.. and I mean ANY THING that will either shorten or curtail you own life. OR you could give me if we had unproductive sex.. Any including Herpes Please learn this and if I can help just one of you I’ll be fine.. ......If your partner hasn’t respected his own life by using protection.. Why would you think they would care about your life? No mater what someone says..It up to you to guard your own life and safety.. The first 5 weeks ......... we/you think this is it.. the real one. But look back at your own history and how many of those first great five weeks ended and the six week you were no longer even talking.. ........Lust is powerful and sex is lust right hand but as strong as they show up ...they disappear just as fast ......if you can’t move them to respect, caring, and love..

Joined: 6/23/2007

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Funny sexual experiences Posted: 3/29/2009 1:40:07 AM
Years ago while in a relationship I got up to use the bathroom, I ran back into the bedroom jumped into bed … And slid across the BLACK SATIN SHEETS and fell out the other side of bed with a thud ......Landing on my butt.. She could stop laughing the rest of the night, and all she could say was.. “Can You do that again” as I am laid out on the floor next to the bed.. with nothing on... Ha Ha Ha.....

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What kind of music do you like when having sex? Posted: 3/19/2009 9:20:49 PM
**Delerium, Enigma, Funker Volt, Riza Dj,Velvet Acid Christ, and to slow it down Van Morrison, Govi, Ottmar Liebert**

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Which is HARDER for you.. to give away your body or your heart First Posted: 3/15/2009 8:40:15 AM
Have you ever given your heart and then gave your body .. and learned that you had a major problem...Now You fell in love and now.. learning the body match was never going to work.. How did you back out??

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Is it true that women prefer a guy who already has lots of sexual experience? Posted: 3/15/2009 8:28:52 AM
I don't talk about my past loves I simlpy use this ....... Sweet... If you don't tell me what you want or need You will get from me... what others in MY PAST have accepted... from me..and didn't object to. If it's NOT right for you... You need to tap me on the head and tell me what you Want, Need and Desire.. or how ..........YOU LIKE IT... If you are not willing to speak up and communicate.. don't get upset, that you are NOT getting it YOUR way.. Please remember the act or Art of Love is the desire to give pleasure to your mate.. It starts with the first night,, and can last a lifetime. The number that came before you is irrelevant as Clay Walker sang * I may not be you first love But I'd love to be your last* You only need to get it right.. with the one your with .. Right Now Simply...Give her the chance to voice what she like Her Needs, Wants, Desires and Pleasures are all that matters ....NOW She is who I am totally focusing on not some long past love Today Living in the Now

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50+ Partners Posted: 2/20/2009 5:48:31 PM
She 27 and she dating a guy for 3 years And just because he turn 50+ years old They can date any more.. Oh wait a minute … NEVER MIND SNL..... To young went over your head? Maybe this SONG will answer your question ************ If I had it my way This would be the first time that you made love I’d be the first man that your hands touch We both done our share of live’in Taking chances we were given I’ve never been big on looking back I don’t care if I’m your first love But I’d love to be your…. LAST If I could do it over. I’d of waited for this moment To give my heart to you unbroken But if our mistakes brought us together Doesn’t really mater where We were Saint or Sinners in the past I don’t care if I’m your first love But I’d love to be your…. LAST All I know is what I see, when I look at you And all I see, is what I feel down inside And all I feel is this I finally got it right When I wake up tomorrow I am gonna throw my arm around you Thank my lucky stars I … Found you I know your heart had ..So much more than Any man had touched before hand Nothing maters more to me than that I don’t care if I’m your first love But I’d love to be your…. LAST ************************* I placed it on my POF profile music playlist It’s untitled.. Look for #1 Track 11

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What a Kiss can tell you. Posted: 2/7/2009 7:36:54 PM
I could find a million words to say How your touch... would make me feel But they wouldn’t tell me ... half as much ... as YOUR kiss would reveal So…to make this long story short I would use a thousand words to say What I got on my mind But the use of beating round the bush Wasting words ... Just wasting ....our time Boring you with talk ... ain’t what I want So I’ll try to get... right to the point To make a long story short Baby just Kiss me. There is nothing like walking up behind a young lady gently pulling the hair away from the right side of her neck and gentle lowering my lips … letting her feel the warmth of my breath on her skin and then tasting the fine salt of her skin.. And then.....I gently take that mussel that runs up the side of your neck and ever ever so softly bite it. You.....feel your shin flush with those goose bumps which you try and hide, go right down your body ….. and Just as your knees give out.. I catch you from sliding to the grown. … Well then …when you finally turns around and looks up in my eyes. normally She has the softest eyes and proceeds to melt into my chest.. The forbidden kiss is always more cherished Than a kiss given away..

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Which is HARDER for you.. to give away your body or your heart First Posted: 1/31/2009 11:44:33 PM
Which is HARDER for you.. to give away your body or your heart First When starting a new relationship.. So My question is when you are starting a brand “NEW” relationship, that you HOPE will grow into something special.. A lot of us see Heart and Body taking place at the same time.. BUT really .......one goes normally a little sooner than the other, So…. Is it Harder to give away your heart first.. or is it Harder to give your body physically to the other first? I have heard some Ladies say.. "If I give away my body and it doesn’t work.. I can walk away and recover.....And I’ll be OK.. BUT.....If I give my heart first and fall in love and t he physical part fails, I am lost.. Because now I am in love with someone and it just won’t work.. Which is harder Ladies ....for you.. Giving your Heart or your Body first??

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Baby talking to your Pets while talking on the phone Posted: 8/2/2008 7:22:09 PM
No…. when I started this line I made sure I added the “some women,” and In no way am I saying all women do this.. And since this had happen a couple of times before I had mentioned to her days before .. about how.. when we were together, she seemed to multi task in front of me.. Maybe she didn’t get my message.. and maybe by bring it up… as a simple statement Wasn’t enough.. So I’ll take part of the blame.. I just wonder if it annoyed, anyone else.. It’s like being on a date and your date has to answer all of their incoming calls regardless what you are doing

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Baby talking to your Pets while talking on the phone Posted: 8/1/2008 8:09:14 PM
When A man phones a lady, Why do some ladies need to have a second conversation, going on… at the same time . ** With their pets..? ** And Why do some ladies find it necessary to talk baby talk to their dogs, while at the same time they are talking with you. "Oh!!! do you want your belly rubbed..show me your belley.. He wants his belly rubbed.. he so cute... "give me a kiss..." Or add a additional conversation ……when somebody walks by.. and they don’t even know them.. as in.. ” Is that your dog, yes ….you can pet my dog.” Don’t you ladies find it outright rude if we men are unwilling to turn down the T.V. while you have called US?? Why is this Ok for ladies to be inconsiderate? But guys are just rude for the same action??

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