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Thread: I message her she views my profile but no response
SweetlilNative
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I message her she views my profile but no response
Posted: 10/16/2012 9:50:16 PM
the way it went was
1) You messaged them,
2) they got a message and
3) checked out your profile to see if they would be interested in replying
4) they decided they were not interested and therefore did not message you.
it happens to us all!
Though I haven't looked at your profile - if you want profile advice go to profile review forums.
SweetlilNative
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Dating Within Your Industry
Posted: 10/16/2012 9:45:26 PM
I would not pursue this at all.
but if you leave the company (for a unrelated reason) then the rules change.
SweetlilNative
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I don't understand what she wants
Posted: 10/16/2012 9:43:10 PM
I don't think she knows what she wants either.
I'd leave her alone - sounds unstable to begin with it wont get any better from here on in.
SweetlilNative
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Dating someone who isn't in good health
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:57:04 AM
On a dating website I don't think I'd go for someone who has health issues.
In real life I did meet a guy who was great and we got along really well - he had a health issue where he was limited to a wheelchair only. I would have dated him if his family wasn't so against the idea of me.
SweetlilNative
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Viewed Me - How to decide
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:51:54 AM
What is the deciding factor for you to message someone? I'm looking for a few key success stories from using these tactics.
I have first messaged guys who I find attractive that have common interests with me on their profile I know mine isn't as informative as some but it serves its purpose. - Basically I message guys who I could see myself meeting? yup.
I've replied to guys who've taken the time to look at my profile and used bits to ask interesting questions (and I find attractive)
SweetlilNative
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Girls who message me first, then don't reply.
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:41:56 AM
I have done this when I can't remember messaging the person - because of time or minimum level of interest.
Its totally possible to message a bunch of guys and not one reply back because of some reason or another so if I don't get a reply in a decent time frame I shrug and move on.
Timely reply - if its not within a day or so of my message then he's not interested in me or doesn't check his pof regularly enough to care.
minimum level of interest - I message guys who I find attractive and there is something in their profile that I find interesting, if there wasn't too much to go on I will message and if their reply wasn't something that also interests me then I might not be inclined to continue the conversation.
SweetlilNative
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Just curious really
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:33:41 AM
She's not into you and doesn't wish for you to contact her again - ever.
Basically what blocked implies.
SweetlilNative
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Timing?
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:31:13 AM
In the past
I've been asked in the first day that we've been talking and have agreed to go out.
I've been asked after a week of talking and have agreed to go out.
I've been asked after about 2 months of back and forth and agreed to go out.
Been asked after about 4 years of being friends on IM and have agreed to a visit (Long distance friends).
it all depends on the context of conversation? I mean this is a dating site.
I'd say Too soon is the first five messages - unless they were really long in-depth messages or something.
SweetlilNative
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What are your complaints about those people who've rejected?
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:06:08 AM
I agree with Tia and Cowboy
1) I'm terribly judgmental with looks - the first thing to put me off is looks. I won't reply to people who I don't find attractive I'm not here to cater to egos besides my own.
2) profile - interests and info if you don't sound like someone I'd get along with why bother?
3) perverseness in first message = no.
Beyond first contact. I've turned someone down who I didn't click with though I liked their look and shared common interest we didn't really sync together. it seemed like he was looking for something else that I wasn't prepared to give to someone I had just met.
Along with that if my gut tells me no I'll follow my gut.
Maturity level I've met and talked with people who can carry on good conversations and then the next minute act like a total and complete child which is a real turn off. There is a time and a place for everything but some behavior is just unacceptable.
Selfishness, sometimes they treat me in a way I don't like to be treated or make assumptions about me that I didn't contribute to in anyway.
I don't stand for bs.
sweetlilnative
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Girl with low self-esteem
Posted: 10/11/2009 12:55:17 AM
I'd say tell her it makes you uncomfortable when she puts herself down.
And if you do call her on it and she does something dramatic like starting to cry she's just looking for MORE attention. Don't fall into the trap of trying to comfort someone who has a problem that you can't fix.
If she says this is just how I feel about myself. Then its still something she has to deal with.
Really I don't see how its your responsiblity to make her feel cute. Sometimes people need professional help.
sweetlilnative
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First Date Gesture
Posted: 10/11/2009 12:37:21 AM
No gifts for the first date.
sweetlilnative
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Date movie recommendations?
Posted: 10/10/2009 6:23:22 AM
There is a new Zombie movie that I heard was good.
But really you should just ask her what she would be interested in.
sweetlilnative
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Catching someone nude by accident...
Posted: 10/10/2009 5:46:42 AM
I'm naked under my clothes!
I've been caught a couple of times.
Once by my land lord, just got everything into the apartment and wanted to take a shower. walking down the hall nude the front door opens. Heyy I brought you the second key. Oh!
Several times by my siblings (different ones not the same one repeatedly), the result of sharing rooms.
Once by my (ex)boyfriends brother while I was again getting ready for the shower. There were two doors to the bathroom one from the bedroom one from the hallway, and I forgot to lock both of them. He suggested we get together when my boyfriend wasn't around! lol.
The most interesting one was a
party with a couple of girlfriends during the summer so we were semi-naked dancing wildly to music in the bedroom. (I have crazy friends, and no not a room full of lesbian/bi girls we were just having fun) And one of my friends Dad walks in to tell us to turn down the music. Ahem under age
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sweetlilnative
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How to meet women.
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:39:37 AM
I generally see just regular t-shirts and jeans. You could wear like maybe one piece that is slightly more fancy if you wanted, tux need not apply unless its a more snazzy club.
As for talking in clubs. You realize that clubs sometimes have Booming music that makes having long conversations almost impossible? If you want to get into the groove of talking with people in clubs its best to start with asking them to dance. Talking is more for Social-like events. I encourage you to join college groups or something like that. And really Clubs are not the end all solve all place for meeting people.
And the whole 19 college + living with parents (from the original post) I wouldn't see that as a problem. I'm 21 and in college and everyone in college has money problems I swear. I'd still be living with my parents if I hadn't gotten it in my head that I wanted this thing called Independence. Little did I know that came with barely reaching ends meet, paying whole ton of bills I previously never knew existed. Anndd cleaning the freaking toilet myself.
sweetlilnative
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Tired of being clueless.
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:24:18 AM
if #1 treated you like shit before he will probably do it again. He sounds like a two-face jerk.
#2 if you aren't really attracted to him then don't go out with him.
Neither, find someone else you are actually interested in, who hasn't messed it up already.
sweetlilnative
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I don't know why I even bother.............
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:17:31 AM
If she says she's dating someone else it shows she's not really being serious about relationships.
I'd say she just wants to have a good time right now and is not looking to commit to you. It isn't really a commitment problem its just how she feels about life right now.
I would not think of her as a potential relationship. If she is dating someone else and is still seeing you on the side.. what does that say about her?
sweetlilnative
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How to meet women.
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:13:49 AM
You can't really look older very well.. it comes off as playing grown up. You just have to hold yourself with more confidence, that's all I can suggest.
sweetlilnative
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How do you deal with other people in your relationship???
Posted: 10/10/2009 12:34:34 AM
Drama drama drama.
Since you you are in a relationship with each other and the whole being on a singles site is messing with that I'd suggest Stop using the site. For both of you. Issue gone! Solved! hurra!
If you insist on continuing to use a singles website to talk to other people about your personal issues then.
I'd say have her tell him that in no way does he have a chance with her relationship wise.
and I also would not go broadcasting any relationship problem I have to an interested guy. Sounds like bad form.
sweetlilnative
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What kind of guy do you want to marry?
Posted: 10/10/2009 12:20:30 AM
Want:
Someone who is compatible with me. Who accepts me for who I am, weirdness and all. Who I can accept weirdness and all.
Someone I can be honest with, and who will be honest with me. Same for truth and trust.
Someone who would be willing to work together and commit to a life together.
Someone who will listen, and talk with me.
Someone who cares and I can care deeply about.
Someone who makes me want to make Him happy and who wants to make me happy.
Someone who understands sometimes I need time alone.
etc etc...
Not want:
Lying, abusive, short tempered, ignorant, who doesn't listen, who doesn't care, who doesn't want to contribute to the relationship. etc etc.
As for thinking seriously about marriage you should (as stated before) look at your own values and beliefs for the things that you would want in a man. What is important to you? What do you value most in others? What sort of things could you NOT put up with?
sweetlilnative
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How to meet women.
Posted: 10/10/2009 12:13:28 AM
1. Where do I go to meet women who have similar interests as my own (concerts, music, sports, history, and much more.)
Concerts, Music stores or events, College sport events, History I have no clue(maybe a history club with the college??), basically activities that relate to your interests. And I'm pretty sure that you can meet a number of women in your college classes.
2. Does going to a club ever work to meet decent women? I'd consider going if it was possible.
Decent women do go to clubs, yes.
3. What about older women? I'm attracted to them just the same, if not more, than women my own age. And I would think that they're more mature than the younger ones.
Maturity comes with age, kinda part of the definition. Though it would be harder to meet and develop a relationship with an older women because of the age barrier, I'd assume.
But if you don't work up the courage to talk to strangers you wont get anywhere very fast.
sweetlilnative
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Does a womens favortie childhood love story have relivence in adulthood.
Posted: 10/10/2009 12:03:55 AM
Didn't read love stories... though I did like pretty much all of Dr. Seuss' books I liked green eggs and ham, because it gave me the idea to refuse certain foods.
sweetlilnative
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Men wearing jewelry
Posted: 10/9/2009 11:53:29 PM
Very simple jewelry is ok. Like a chain or a plain ring or two.. Wearing too much jewelry isn't tasteful for anyone though.
Nothing that could be described as "bling bling"
sweetlilnative
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Single... does it equal weird?
Posted: 10/9/2009 4:33:19 PM
No I'm weird ALL the time.
sweetlilnative
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The myth about guys only wanting sex and girls wanting love.
Posted: 10/9/2009 4:06:57 PM
^^ Tina hit the nail on the head. Everyone is different and this includes what people are looking for. Lying and honesty isn't limited to one gender or the other, both have the ability to lie and to be honest.
as for.
I mean I once had a woman want to cyber me. I ended up being the one more interested in talking then she was.
If I didn't have my mail etc settings so high. I guarantee you I'd have at least 5 guys within an hour looking to just cyber with me. More if it was late at night. This phenomenon isn't limited to just me either.
As you have already stated society isn't fair to women. Women are less likely to ask about just having sex then men because its not socially acceptable. You Already Stated That.
As for the crossing gender confusion. You know that Mars and Venus book? Ever wonder why someone would write a book like that and other people buy it???
In general males have a hard time understanding what motivates females and the same vice versa.
Also I actually went back and read that novel of .. the implied question rant thing you wrote.
I'm still a virgin and have never been in a relationship and even back then even though.
Since you are still a virgin I don't really see how you can even begin to understand how sex affects a relationship with *most* people. Don't knock it till you try it.
I think its safe to say that the majority of the people on POF are not virgins and have experienced relationships in the past where sex was just another part of the relationship.
Though sex shouldn't be the most primary part of a relationship, it is an important factor. Most certainly for long term relationships.
So for feeling burned because you feel ladies are just looking for sex. Welcome to my world. Just change 'ladies' for 'men'.
The Myth part. Yeah its just a myth. There is no absolute statement you can apply across the board for everyone. Everyone is looking for something different then the next person to a degree.
I also suggest taking your profile to that profile review forum place. That might help.
I think that is a sufficiently long enough of a response to equal that of your question-rant-thing.
sweetlilnative
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Something i always wondered
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:48:20 AM
it doesn't mean anything. I'm always brushing my hair out of my face or doing something with it absent minded.
sweetlilnative
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rules of engagment?
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:25:52 PM
1. Texting is new to me it seems that every girl does it and it seems wrong to me to text a girl to go out? do you girls mind it or should we call you?
- Best to call to set up a date. Texting is for not very serious topics.
2. If you ask a girl to go out but she says she is busy and says another time, how long do you wait to ask her again and how many times should you ask before you should take the hint she isn't interested?
-if she says another time I'd give it about a day or so before asking her again. And then asking when she'd be free to do something, so you can figure out a time to go out together rather then assigning a specific time for her to turn down.
-If she turns you down three times in a row without too much explanation I'd ask if she actually does want to go out.
3. First date, should you do something as a group or alone?
-probably depends on the person but in general I'd say alone.
4.If you had a good first date, what next? ask her again soon or wait?
-This to me depends on how much you were communicating before the date. If the date was good just keep up the communication and say hey last weekend was great want to do something again this weekend? or something. probably a few days to a week before a next date-setup is a good measure.
sweetlilnative
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Why a sudden stop to replies?
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:05:23 PM
1) She lost interest
2) She found someone she liked better
3) She died
4) She was kidnapped and sold into sex slavery.
^^Sums it up pretty well.
If she stopped replying something might have come up in her life where she doesn't have time or want to log on to answer her msgs? Orrrr maybe she just doesn't like you like 'that' .
As for something that could make me react like this is just a general disinterest.
sweetlilnative
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A sophisticated lady
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:02:10 PM
I'd say just be you. Her beauty is 'just' a part of her.
Has she mentioned any concern about how you dress? If she's seen you and not mentioned it I wouldn't think its a problem you have to be concerned about.
And you don't want to base your relationship on anything other then who you are, because it becomes a bigger burden later in the relationship.
As to how you talk to her? Just like any other lady you might be interested in. Just because she's beautiful doesn't mean she's not human or something.
sweetlilnative
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are we being crazy?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:47:03 PM
I don't think your being crazy.
Its perfectly normal for (some) people to want to be exclusive from the get-go with dating. Personally I don't want someone I'm dating to be dating anyone else because it shows he's not all that interested in a relationship.
Becoming exclusive just shows you both are ready and willing to have a chance to get to know each other and such.
sweetlilnative
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Here's your chance to disect dialogue, what does this mean?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:40:10 PM
I'd say you can date 'other women' because she doesn't think she's dating you.
You are probably someone who has potential for later but right now she doesn't sound like she's into you that deeply. She's keeping her options open.
sweetlilnative
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Problems with the Past
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:33:25 PM
If its 'just' problems from the past that have no direct influence on the here and now I would probably keep that till later.
If its something that you feel you have to say so they know about it, that's slightly different. like saying "I've just got out of a bad relationship and I want to take it slow." that applies to the here and now since you want the relationship to be slow.
If its something that you feel changes how you interact with them and affects your current relationship. It would probably be O.K. to mention it
lightly
when you first begin to be intimate.If its something your still dealing with and need help dealing with, then of course that should be mentioned and discussed with your partner.
If it doesn't seem to affect you Currently (say in your sexual life or preference) I'd probably say keep it till later. About a year or more. It gives your partner time to get a better feel of who you are, and accept you for that. Past sexual abuse is a part of who you are. And if they are already accepting of who you are today they will probably take that information better then they would earlier in the relationship.
sweetlilnative
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What to do when someone keeps canceling plans ?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:08:09 PM
Talk to him about it and maybe forget about him or give him some time to deal with his own busy life for now.
sweetlilnative
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Would you date a cheater
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:06:37 PM
No I wouldn't date a known cheater because I've known several and they all seem to have a trend of
doing it again.
sweetlilnative
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Do i stick with it for the kids
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:56:48 PM
Don't stay in it just for the kids. It creates a bad atmosphere to raise them in.
sweetlilnative
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Sex with ex who has a boyfriend
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:55:05 PM
If you feel bad about it then stop doing it.
Tell her that it was a mistake you don't want to repeat again, and if she makes a fuss then stop hanging out with her at all.
sweetlilnative
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What Are the Fundamental Tools of Building Emotional and Mental Intimacy?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:39:22 PM
Respect. I was raised to respect my elders and I could never be with someone I don't respect and who doesn't respect me. To me it means someone we honor and recognize as equal to ourselves and it gives the relationship a more solid feeling. You would be less likely to mistreat someone that you respect.
Honesty/Truth. I have been lied to before, all of us has, and I don't like it. to me a relationship should encourage the participants to be as honest as they can with each other. It helps you trust one another.
Trust. If you believe your partner to be truthful and that they care about you and wouldn't want to harm you, you have to Trust them with this belief. You have to trust that they will be there for you. And trust their integrity. I would not date someone I didn't trust.
Communication. There is no relationship without communication.
Cooperation. A relationship is about two people together, not one person or another. It has to be about Both parties.
Basically these fundamentals for me tie in together to create the basis of a relationship.
Because these set the path for emotional and mental intimacy to be shared, and once both of you create a past of sharing it will be easier to do more of it in the future.
sweetlilnative
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What's my next step?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:27:48 PM
Ask her when she's free to do something, and then ask her out to an activity. (coffee most likely)
If she says no again then she doesn't like you, since you know she's free to do what you asked.
sweetlilnative
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wondering what girls really see
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:22:49 PM
If a guy has to point out that he is a "good guy" it makes me wonder why.
When a guy is *really* a good guy the proof is in the pudding so to say. It doesn't really need to be mentioned because it will come out in the long run.
And if its a lie, which I automatically think it is. That will come out in the pudding too.
sweetlilnative
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When does the dating stop?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:17:49 PM
Dating is more or less testing the waters till you find someone or reach a point in your life where you feel you want to commit to something more solid and long term.
Dating vs Long term is an individual choice. A switch can be made while in a dating-relationship to a long-term relationship. It matters how attached you are. (And the willingness of the partner)
It can also be a conscious choice to find someone to share a big part of your life with.
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What to do if she just had bad relationship?
Posted: 10/8/2009 8:13:13 PM
You probably want to time it right.
And she might not even be interested in a new relationship right now.
Its probably a good idea to be there for her and keep doing things that encourage her to think of you outside the 'friend zone.' The best time to make a move I'd say is when she's emotionally stable in her life again.
Someone else could always be the rebound, and you could come after that? It matters how long you want to wait too.
sweetlilnative
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How many is too many?
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:47:44 PM
Do you mean partners accumulated from past interactions or partnerships at the same time with multiple people??
At one time I'd say 2 would be enough handful already without adding more people.
And over a period of time it depends on your own values for what you find acceptable. Though I do believe that it is more widely accepted that men will be more promiscuous in comparison to females.
For myself I'd probably feel uncomfortable if the over time number was over 100 or so just because it makes it more likely to have caught something along that long line of lovers. For a normal 18-19ish person.
sweetlilnative
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How often do condoms really break?
Posted: 10/8/2009 7:41:05 PM
I've only had a condom break on me once and I use them regularly.
It when I didn't know that much about How to use one. So we probably did something wrong.
Used properly, I haven't had one break in a long long time.
sweetlilnative
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Going back with an ex...
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:51:32 AM
I believe in second chances.
I have in the past gotten back together with an ex. We broke up because of some sort of drama or another or the relationship was at a wrong time/situation in our lives to continue having a relationship.
None of the times where I got back with an ex worked out though.
sweetlilnative
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men in uniforms
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:34:20 AM
Not just any uniform..but...Military...Firefighter and Police uniforms
I agree specific uniforms that give a sense of power to the wearer are hot to me.
sweetlilnative
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What is your number one fantasy?
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:31:26 AM
This may sound stupid on a dating site, but I have a boyfriend and he's my number one fantasy. No seriously, he is.
Though to clarify I'm the type of person who has fully explored my sexuality and sexual ideas to the extent that I've satisfied my desires for fantasies. So now my fantasies are all generally about my boyfriend and whatever we might try or have done.
Both fantasies and what he's willing to do are within reason and self moral and ethical boundaries. ie what *I/he* think as a fantasy May be vastly different from what *You* or any other person might think or want to do. So please don't try to label me as a freak and assign me whatever taboo sex act you think I might have tried.
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any ideas for masturbation ?
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:21:20 AM
I'd say take a break. If its not working then stop trying so hard. It might not be working because you *Are* trying so hard.
Over stimulation and constant stimulation can cause a kind of numbness where you wont feel *anything* in that area as intensely as you otherwise would.
After a nice break try some of the previously suggested methods.
sweetlilnative
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Why are the young people on here?
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:14:20 AM
I wanted to put myself out there to date people that I wouldn't normally meet in my local (and small) community. and/or people who wouldn't normally come up to me and talk.
Now I'm still on pof because I like the forums.
sweetlilnative
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When do you broach the topic?
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:07:41 AM
At least with Pof I agree with putting it on your profile. With the internet there are people who are instant gratification types who will get mad at "wasting their time" on someone who wont "put out" Since it seems like your looking for a longer and lasting relationship, you wouldn't want to date that type of person anyway.
Just be honest.
In general budding (non-internet spawned) relationship wise I would say somewhere in the beginning. Being chaste is not popularly accepted or practiced in this day and age. So since its something that many people would expect participation in later on in the relationship, you want to bring it up BEFORE that point in the relationship. About the 2nd or 3rd date.
Also it depends on the person your trying to have a relationship with.
sweetlilnative
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When Sex is on Your Mind..
Posted: 10/7/2009 3:53:57 AM
Yes during a long dry spell I have used POF to look for people to have sex with.
Though I didn't make it seem like I was trying to date these people. I told them up front that I was interested in no-relationship sex. And I didn't do it often or frequently. More or less to get that overly obsessive 'urge' out of my system.
This was during a time in my life when I had semi-recently gotten out of a long and overly complicated and dramatized relationship. I didn't really want to jump right back into relationships.
So Yes I met them, Yes we had sex, Yes we used protection and No I have no clue where they are now.
No I don't do it now.
Why? I wanted my friends to stay friends. Past drama to stay in the past. And I didn't want random people from the local area to go hey.. I remember you?? for one night stands from bars. And the majority of people from the local area weren't that attractive to me.
Also I have no problem with the idea of casual sex. Out of a serious relationship of course.
SweetlilNative
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Have you ever had sex with a person you didn't find appealing...
Posted: 10/21/2007 2:46:18 AM
Once but.. It was more I was already in an interesting position, so it was like what the heck. But it was stupid and bleh.
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