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brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 3776 (view)

virtual love Posted: 9/18/2006 7:56:33 PM
I know from direct experience about virtual love. Christopher W. Herbert has truly mastered the art. His is a new poetry that has not fully been realized anywhere in the world yet. He uses the internet to pry out the feelings of the "other" and describes those in the most extremely powerful and sensous way. I know of no other poet that has used this medium to be the catalyst for such a large array of romantic topics. I know America and the world are his next stops toward eternal renown. Careyann

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

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what makes a pic so important???? Posted: 9/2/2006 12:21:50 PM
To those who feel a pic is so important in the beginning they are missing the essentials of a person. But the first impressions seems to be a picture or a visual view of the other person for most people. If you are confident with yourself you need not buy into that and let the others see your profile and judge you there first. For the visually stimulated robots who but into the media age wisdom, let them pass you by. You will be the winner every time. Careyann

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

How do I tell someone I'm NOT interested? Posted: 8/2/2006 1:50:49 PM
These are the words: "I am not interested"......What is difficult here? Nobody can be interested in everyone and should she or he be. The person receiving the information should be mature enough to know that is a fact of life and it is good that we are diverse and have different interests. Anyone who thinks she or he is interesting to everyone has severe problems in reflecting on oneself. It is never personal. It is always simple.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

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How important are looks? Posted: 7/22/2006 12:07:44 AM
I enjoyed the ideas presented by JustaGuy06. As someone who is considered quite pretty I can say with authority that it can be a blessing or a curse. If I attract men on just the basis of their visual stimulation and the media hype that surrounds beautiful people, they are usually not deep enough and intellectually challenging enough to be with me. I find that the inner personality that fires up a male or female because of that certain connection it brings with it is more important than the exterior. But you make a good point about how many people are single and the media hyping totally unreal kinds of body types. Runway models often look very ill and not appealing at all. Playboy types are buxom and may not be able to hold a tennis racket or surf. This is all an individual thing, but I would think that the defense of marriage act that the Republicans are trying to pass is not going to be the vital thing that keeps people together. We need to redefine what marriage is and how people should grow together. We need to have better wages for more people so that doesn't come in the way of people getting along with each other and bringing up their kids. We need to have universal health care so that people wouldn't have worry about getting injured or sick and have to go bankrupt paying off the doctors and pharmacy. Having gotten that off my chest, I must say that looks have made the really important things about human beings difficult to get to for most people. True....I get a lot of attention, but I would hope it is from people that are challenging and not visually hyperactive.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

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is there something different about me Posted: 7/21/2006 11:49:06 PM
You must write in a way that catches the eye. People are reading so many of these profiles and if you present who you are and what you want directly the ones you want will come. The ones you don't want will pass you up only if you are truthful and let them know your tastes and what you enjoy. I am different in some ways. I am very muscular and beautiful and that might be intimidating to some guys. If it is they might not want to chance trying to know me. That is not a good thing, but it is better for them to go to someone more comforting than to be uncomfortable with me.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

WHy is it so hard to find love? Posted: 7/5/2006 10:54:49 PM
You think that your are over your former girl friend who "broke" you apart. you are not. When you are seeking love it is something that will not be like seeking a book or a movie. There are some pretty unique things that you will need to have going with another person for that to happen. Why not try seeking friendship and female companionship? That may turn into a love situation. But seeking love is not profitable in terms of what you are asking.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

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is there something different about me Posted: 7/5/2006 10:50:06 PM
There are so many people here that once your profile is given time to circulate you will get more replies. I think that you have not given enough information about yourself to make yourself distinctive enough for someone to feel compelled to reply to you. I would not exaggerate or lie, but I would show more of myself to make myself stand out.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 45 (view)

How important are looks? Posted: 7/1/2006 3:25:28 AM
The issue is really what we mean by looks. It is inherent in our nature to view somebody else in a certain way and classify them and categorize them according to our prior experiences. Looks, therefore, are in the eye of the beholder and we cannot devorce ourselves from our visual imagery. However, we must get past this first and superficial view to entertain the total personality and energy of the other to give us the real sense of his or her looks. Once past the initial visual we are thrust into the next step of someone in motion and with spirit. The first impression might change and be transformed by the real spirit of our partner and our evolving impressions should take over to give us a more dynamic personna to look at. I am convinced that love is a function of the greater interaction with the total personality and rarely the result of a first picture.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

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Are you against the War? Posted: 1/29/2006 6:41:30 PM
As a military man you identify with the war in a different way than if you were not in this brave and courageous group of patriotic Americans. I can understand your defense of the war and of President Bush. Just a few hours ago Bob Woodruft of ABC News the co-anchor who took over for Peter Jennings who died of lung cancer was very seriously injured covering the war. A bomb exploded and his head and body were seriously damaged along with his cameraman's. I think that the reasons for going to war were wrong, the reasons for staying there are wrong, and the people have been lied to over and over again about the future of this adventure into preemptive war. The reasons have shifted from wmds and possible nuclear damage to the United States to Saddam is a bad guy to spreading Democracy. All of these are lies and if you need to kill 30,000 Iraqis and over 2000 americans to get democracy in a country you are really in deep trouble. Democracy is not something an imperialist power exports. It is something that evolves. And we see that it sometimes goes the wrong way for us. The Palestinians voted democratically to put in a man who heads the Hamas group which is bent on terrorism and killing Israelis as well as Americans. This government has had the worst foreign policy agenda in this century. Even George Bush Sr. was against this foolhardy war that has killed so many for so little in return. Our next adventure will be Iran and we now don't have the troop capacity to involve ourselves where we are truly being threatened. That is the shame of the lies of our government and the gullible people who accept it. Perhaps the media will wake up as it starts to feel some of the pain of war and it stops being susceptible to the worry of whether its advertisers will back it when it tells the truth and relates the real government agenda. The owners of the networks are part of the wealthy class that is getting all the benefits from the Bush Jr agenda. It is their solicitude and appeasement to lying that has made all of this possible. It is not bad to be liberal and honest. It is horrible to be neocons and dishonest. The Republicans are not conservative...they are led by an extreme group of neocons.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 1222 (view)

Are you against the War? Posted: 1/6/2006 2:03:44 AM
just got a call from the government...this blog is now declared out of bounds. The discussion ends now. from your governmental spy

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

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Are you against the War? Posted: 1/6/2006 1:54:05 AM
I have been reading very carefully the posts to this blog. Some very interesting comments on both sides of the issue. For we who are stateside it is a discussion. For our brave troops fighting and dying it is real. I just pray each day that they come home soon and the killing stops.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

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Tell me ladies, what is wrong with my profile? Posted: 12/18/2005 8:00:14 AM
You asked the question. Now you read it and be self critical. It is in the eye of the beholder and the confidence of the messenger. It is wrong if you have to ask and right if you don't. Intelligent people will know that what you wrote represents what you want and nothing can be better than asking for someone who represents the true partner of what you want. Summation: Nothing is wrong with it. If you want to find someone differerent than you can tailor it to that audience. If you want to find someone special, forget what others think. Careyann

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 404 (view)

Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 12/18/2005 7:48:26 AM
The picture is a detriment to learning about the other person. It blinds all the other instincts and mental operations. That is why the divorce rate in Hollywood is so high. The people here look at pictures in their mind and set up expectations that are immature and never met. I am extremely beautiful. I put my picture on the web once and got hundreds of response. Not one of them listened to the real inner me. They were operating from a sense of their imagination about how I would provide them with the "trophy" wife or girl friend. Or how I could complete them by fulfiilling their insecurity about themself when they would be able to be seen with such a beauty. I find that a chat and some correspondence does wonders for the way we "see" each other. In the old days before television and photos people wrote their love letters absent a visual stimulus. Those letters gave rise to an truly spectacular image that was unrelated to purely physical stimulation. In our mentally challenged society intellectual challenge and imagination are rare to find in a man or women. We look for caricatures of people in their exterior personnas and lose the "real essence" of the inner person and beauty that resides in the spirit.' So I don't only have the courage to get in contact with a person without a picture. I prefer it. The picture is a shortcut and detriment to inner chemistry.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

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When did you begin to know what love really was? Posted: 12/18/2005 7:39:52 AM
From the very beginning. I grew up in a family where unconditional love was prevalent. It was something not earned, but truly always just there for one's being. The love of a pet is unconditional and one doesn't ask for anything in return. The love of g-d is unconditional and one just prays for her guidance. If you begin to separate romantic love from pure love you are creating a fictious compartmentalization that is not of reality. The only thing that romantic love adds to the equation is a sexual and spiritual component. That creates the seed for marital bliss and procreation. Children come into the world from love. Therefore, I've known love ---true love----for a very long time. When I meet the man who excites me mentally and challenges me I will be able to transfer that love into a mature one that leads to marriage. You are out there...I know.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 43 (view)

Ok, I am thoroughly confused! Posted: 11/26/2005 6:08:37 PM
She seems to be thoroughly unstable and should probably get some therapy to find out what it is she does want out of a relationship. And you are playing this game at your age....don't. It doesn't become a mature male to not know when the other party is not a real potentially good mate.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 37 (view)

A question about phone calls how many are too many??? Posted: 11/26/2005 6:04:38 PM
The question is not really about the number of phone calls, but the reason behind them. If the gal is so insecure as to need to call so often and keep tabs on her male friend, then it is annoying and very immature. However, if the calls are part of a mutual understanding that both people want to be in touch with each other often and like to hear about the other party's day, there is nothing wrong with calling more often. Bottom line: Be considerate of someone else's time as you would want them to be of your own.

brightskies

Joined: 3/23/2005

Msg: 44 (view)

too nice a guy ... Posted: 9/21/2005 3:09:03 AM
Any gal who doesn't want a nice guy is missing the point. Many of us go after what seems to be unattainable and that kind seems distant and uncaring. The nice guy often is overlooked because...guess what he is not out of reach. It is like the girl next door syndrome for the guys who overlook them. As a model and someone who has dated some of the handsomest guys around and the richest....trust me....i will take the nice guy any time. careyann:

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