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tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Funny First Meet Blunder! Posted: 8/8/2007 8:52:54 AM
Could we be getting it all backwards and deleting the right one/s ? Its very possible... but most people who delete someone do so based on their pictures. Not based on their profile words... most people who are serious on here are great people who have everything we are looking for in personality and philosophy... it really does come down to sexual attraction most of the time.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

What do you think about lower back tattoos? Posted: 8/8/2007 8:00:31 AM
Yes, tramp stamps. I'm not a slutty kind of girl in the least bit, but my lower back is one of the places that I'm considering getting a tattoo sometime in the near future. It would be nice to get a few opinions from some of the men out there. Maybe before they were popular people thought that but now it seems like the majority of younger women have them. I don't see them as slutty or makes you a tramp. 16 year old girl next door just got one done, looks great too... (wonder if her mom has one? ) anyways... I dont see anything wrong with getting one and with all of them out there you'll just blend in better lol, I actualy notice more now when a girl doesn't have one. Point, aim, shoot! Sorry, couldnt resist It would be funny to see a girl put "Here please, not the hair" in her "trampstamp" lol

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

men and oral sex... Posted: 8/8/2007 7:48:00 AM
That was read totally wrong. I don't ask or expect to be gone down on. If you re-read it...it says "I prefer men who are WELL ENDOWED, than the man who can "pleasure me with his tongue". I'm not in this for ANY oral pleasure, going either way. Soooo you feel the need to express all this in your dating profile? Hmmmm and people bash men for "being just about the sex". If you're looking for a serious relationship then his penis size shouldnt matter to you, its the same as me saying I only want a woman who is tight... ...and YES women are most certainly different sizes. Some are large and some are small... women should really get over that size thing because you could be the one who is just plain loose. Seeing how you say you prefer a man who is wide, maybe its not the men you date that are the problem. You could try excersizes to tighten yourself back up and stop using those toys that are the size of a porn star, you're ruining the sex you have with men by over using entirely too large of toys. As far as being clean, it applies to women and most airheads dont even think twice about it. The chances of a woman smelling are much more likely then a man. If you don't like it, dont do it... OR go get a hand towel and wet it with warm water and come back and wash him down first... most men won't give a damn at the insinuation that he's not clean because he's too excited you're about to go down on him... like he's gonna get mad and stomp away? Puhlease! You've obviously never had sex much in the first place if you'll think that lol Somewhere in here is a really good blonde joke... I just have to think up a good punchline.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

A well read man isn't necessarily an intelligent man Posted: 8/7/2007 8:03:58 PM
Was that statement ignorant by other people standards? Unlike a few other replies, I understand your question and yes I too find it an ignorant statement. We had a similar discussion last week that the moderators chose to lock the thread when it ran off inot a discussion about knowledge and intelligence and the ability to spell and some thinking they were all the same thing. Yes it was ignorant by my standards, I know many well educated people who are also ignorant and lack intelligence. Being a spelling and grammar expert and articulate makes it easy to appear intelligent but doesn't mean someone is. I should say that this assumes what you mean by stupid as in the less fortunate to have a strong education.... there are stupid people and there are dumb people... there's a difference. Racists are an example of stupid people that I personally dont have patience and tolerance for either... doesn't make me ignorant, quite the opposite in my opinion.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

taller women to good 4 shorter blokes Posted: 8/7/2007 6:27:14 PM
Personally, for me, it's a sense of protection to have the man be taller/bigger than me. Just a "sense", not actual protection itself... if you knew that height has no relation whatsoever as to how well a man can protect you, you'd still probably not date a shorter man. The feeling of protection is a false one, its not reality. But most women wont believe that. :) OP, who cares if a woman doesn't want you because of height or for any other reason... you don't want someone like them anyways, its a personality trait that has a lot of other insecurities as well, not just about height of her man... Stop letting your height bother you. Stand up and be proud of who you are :)

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Interested perhaps? Posted: 8/7/2007 6:10:51 PM
Would this say he was in it for the moment? or is he being manly and trying to not come off so strong? I'll probably get stoned for the thread but that's okay lol. Some people are raised with different terms for saying the same things. It sounds like he was being honest but stumbling over his words a little... I've done it before lol "It was a good time" could have been what he meant... You should ask if he wants to go out and do something... not go back to his place again, or you might end up doing more then a little kissing :) Hehehe, silly girls always trying to read what a man says... Men say what they mean... Women say weird stuff and expect us men to interpret... lol

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Standards too high? Posted: 8/7/2007 3:34:44 PM
I was in the top 2 % of high standards.... which was rough.... but it was where I belonged. Too bad I didn't realize this long ago... would have been nice but I guess all things happen for a reason. I'd say you were closer to the bottom 2% myself :) OP, there are no leagues, there are no "standards" you should follow... approach who you're attracted to and see if they are interested the same. Never assume someone is beyond you're class. Anyone who tells you to stay in your own league is a snob with an arrogant personality.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 93 (view)

exotic dancers Posted: 8/7/2007 3:17:04 PM
however .. i found that most people judge me based on my occupation .. does a job defien who you are? should it ? Well I'm not sure but I think your reference to the fire department visit in your profile suggests that you have something you like about firemen, I'm guessing even you prejudge men based on their profession. How does being a firefighter make a man, honorable, sexy, good man or desireable? Many women get wet just thinking of firemen. Even if you aren't like that, then lets just use them as an example. I know a LOT of firefighters and MANY of them are scumbags who have no honor and are not good men, and a lot are not sexy unless you like potbellies. If women could see what firemen say behind their backs they'd know being a firefighter doesn't mean crap about a man for choosing an "honorable" profession. There's a lot who won't run into a house to save a person, they are just there to put the first out so it doesn't spread and burn their house down too and to make a good paycheck and benefits/retirement package. By NO MEANS do I disrespect ALL Firefighters, many are great guys... but using the profession to assume something about a man???... dead wrong, same with being an exotic dancer/stripper. (Yeah lets skip the PCness and call it what it is... a stripper and lap dance/teaser... bellydancing is "exotic dancer"... they dont strip their clothes off.) No offense, I dont assume who you are nor disrespect you for stripping, just being honest.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

profile name and comment Posted: 8/7/2007 3:00:22 PM
And honestly I don't care if you were born in '69, unless you're going to put the full year, leave it out. Even then, it's questionable.... Awwww I was born in 66... I put it at the end of mine... does that mean I like spooning?

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

guys and porn Posted: 8/7/2007 2:57:31 PM
I mean, we think..... what's wrong with me....... we have a great relationship. It makes us feel rather inadequate. Should we be feeling this way? Should men feel inadequate when their GF has toys? From what I understand, most women do. How should a man feel if his GF has toys that are bigger then he is? Why would watching porn make you feel inadequate? I don't think you should feel that way, its no more real then your toys.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

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can u have 2 much sex? Posted: 8/7/2007 1:48:53 PM
Guys how many times a day would u say is 2 much sex, if a woman has a high sex drive can u keep up? LMAO can I keep up? If I meet a woman I like and she asks me that I'm gonna laugh at her... then have sex everywhere, anywhere and as often as possible... then when she's passed out from exhaustion... I'm gonna wake her up and start another round. Such a silly question to ask men... You can have sex a couple hours of the day, every day... but can you keep me entertained when we're not having sex? Thats what makes a great relationship that will last a lifetime. Its not just about sex... just an FYI :)

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

does an average guy have a chance Posted: 8/7/2007 1:08:01 PM
Average what?? Just all around mediocre?? Are you actively taking baseline comparisons of guys looks, wealth and smarts.....and you fall in the median in all three?? I think the problem is some sort of self esteem issues that qucikly come out. I'm with Jonnyboy here... Define "Average" what? I'm above average in many aspects, except height... that doesn't bother me at all, I can't change my height (well except if I started taking HGH I might gain a couple inches) but it isn't on the top of my "to do" list, if women won't like me for who I am, then being a few inches taller isn't going to matter much, and if thats what it takes to get a certain woman then I probably don't want her type anyways. I'm thinking that you have some self esteem issues, unless this question is more to provoke responses and get see how many women boost your ego by telling you how handsome you are. I'll go read your profile and come back if I see any major issues you might want to change... spelling and grammar are important if you want a woman to think you're semi intelligent. Typo's are one thing, bad spelling is another.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Fights Posted: 8/7/2007 5:58:36 AM
So what about you? if you're out with your boyfriend and a group of girls initiates a real nice beating on you, do the rules of guys never hitting girls go out the window? Oh heck yes that rule goes right out the window. Now if its one on one and my GF picked the fight and started swinging first I'd let her get beat up a little or beat up the girl a little then break it up... if it was unwarrented fight on her part I'd probably consider breaking up with her.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

why are you here? Posted: 8/7/2007 5:43:19 AM
When it says "looking for friends" and "not single/not looking" what is it exactly that prompts the question "why are you here?" cause I get it a lot. Well I've written a couple of women who had "friends" as the reason they were here. I just commented on something in their profile. Just a read/delete even tho we had things in common like interests. My assumption is they are really here for dating and are sort of playing headgames with that "why you're here" option. If you really wanted to just be here to make friends then why not say hello when someone emails you regardless of what they look like... you might make a friend. So from now on I assume "single not looking" and "friends" mean they are trying to reduce the number of emails they get but are really interested in dating/LTR. Could be they just changed it after none of the people in their area interested them and got frustrated with the constant emails. Or they prefer to initiate contact themselves. If I emailed you would you say hello back?

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 75 (view)

Guys - what are major turn off's for you that we WOULDNT guess at? Posted: 8/7/2007 5:34:38 AM
what other things really turn you off a woman quick fast? stuff she might not even be aware of, or aware that you find unappealing???? Finger nails that are chewed down. Being snobbish to a guy who approaches them, just because they aren't attractive. (Its a huge sign of her personality, how she treats men she isn't interested in. Not lying to get him to leave, like saying she's taken when she's single, then turns around and tells me she's single. Lies are lies, I wont start a relationship with a woman who does it.) Ripped clothing when thats not the style she happens to be going for lol, no I dont mind bluejeans with the frayed areas all over them. But if she's wearing a dress or nice skirt/shirt and she didn't bother to check it before wearing it and sew it then its a turn off. Treating strangers with disrespect, unless they deserved it (happens sometimes) Being comepletely wrong and deluded about political issues, sort of like treehugging far left liberal fanatics ( a few far right ones too) I love your first choice of obvious's... shows you know it matters even to women and not afraid to say it like many women. I'm wagering a bet you dont bash men for being that way either. I'll think about this question today at work and see if I can think up other little things that matter.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

when rejectees get hostile Posted: 8/7/2007 5:25:00 AM
What the hell were the other REAL men doing, while this was happening? They let this go on? I am speechless! I can honestly say that any boyfriend of mine would have knocked the living daylights out the "chaser" for being such a complete a$$. Even just as a bystander. Normal men don't let other "boys" bully females, period! Drunk or sober, this completely insane. Where I'm from the other men around would have intervened, and have. I've done it and so have many other men I know. I'll even step in between a couple I know are together but only if the man is being physical. Often women can be the problem where they start fights with their BF when they get too drunk and it turns into a shouting match.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Doomed? Posted: 8/6/2007 7:01:12 PM
To be honest... you may have just met the man you would be perfect with. I've been compared to a 1920's housewife for my "old fashioned" take on male/female relationships but that's just the way things are for me. Someday some guy will appreciate it. :P He gave you a a handshake, thats touching... men will not touch someone they dont like. They only way you can be sure is to call and leave a message or tell him on the phone that you enjoyed your evening together and how he was respectful towards you, be sure to tell him you'd like to go out again. Hopefully if your too shy to do so, then he asks you out again. If he liked being with you he WILL ask to go out again, its the first asking that is sometimes hard to do, once a first date happens there is no reason for any man no matter how shy to ask again, unless he doesn't want to go out again.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

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What does he really want? Posted: 8/6/2007 6:55:05 PM
I know what I want, I'll know if you have it when I meet you and get to know you... simple as that... do you know what you want? can you tell just by looking at a few pictures and reading a few self written lines if the man is what you're looking for? Perfection is being someone you can spend the rest of your life with... it really can't be a list of things to achieve but the person as a whole. You'll never know until you get to know someone in person.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

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very curious why guys do the hand on her head thing...... Posted: 8/6/2007 5:35:09 PM
Its so if she starts dragging her teeth you can grab her hair and yank her off you fast lol Girls do it too... its just habit I guess... being polite and holding your hair so it doesnt get messy? Just dont' stop till I'm done or I'm gonna be pissed... same as you would if I stopped too early lol

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

When do I give out my phone number? Posted: 8/6/2007 5:12:40 PM
I am then the one in charge of when and if the communications proceed to a phone call. I also view it as a guy recognizing and respecting the fact that women have safety concerns. In the beginning stages of getting to know someone I've met online, I'd rather get his number than give him mine. Men have the same safety concerns. If I'm going to give you my number I will not answer the phone if you have your number blocked. Share numbers or move along to someone else. Beginning any relationship without trust is a waste of time in my opinion. OP, It depends on the person and how comfortable you feel but I'd say at least 2 or 3 emails back and forth and at least offer to IM either here or thru another IM service. If you wanted you could put in your profile that you prefer talking on the phone after 2 emails... that way women know upfront how you feel and can make the choice to not even waste your time if they are paranoid. Having you're IP addy which is easily obtainable online is no different then having a phone number... safety concerns are blown right out the door the moment you logged online for those who want to take the effort to find out anything about you. Giving a phone number is just a way to say yes I'm interested in a little more then just email.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

When a girls says: I'm taken Posted: 8/6/2007 5:08:09 PM
But that doesn't mean lying to every guy is necessary of course. But if you know they'd react badly, it's probably a better idea. The problem with it moontress is that he may tell his friends you're taken, and one of them may be a guy you really like and wish would come up and talk to you... by saying you're taken you are sometimes ruining a chance with a great guy. Occasionally men will have a friend approach a girl and chat with her... reason? Because he's not interested in you and can feel relaxed and just chat with you and see how you react. Yeah men get tired of rejection they also get tired of talking to women who are jerks... yes some women are just as bad as men. Being nice/mean is not gender specific so if you have someone else go talk to a girl for you then you can get a different perspective/opinion then your own which is sometimes blinded by your lust for a girl. Yeah sounds odd or cowardly of a man to not just approach a woman on his own but its not always that he's shy, its just something that happens. I've had friends say they liked a girl who was with her friends but he wasn't sure if he should go talk to her or what to say so I've walked right up and started talking with the girl he liked (since I'm not a chicken chit lol) it made him feel more comfortable coming over since I was already at her table and talking with her friends. Yes it can work if you have a friend with you to help you approach a woman... Now if a girl tells me she's taken, I'm going to tell my friend so he doesn't have to deal with the pain of rejection... Just find another way to let a guy down then telling him your taken. Just be "honest" and say "Thanks, I'm flattered but I'm not who you're looking for" if the guy can't take rejection thats his problem... As for safety, most bars/clubs have bouncers and "ARE" watching every man in the place who is approaching women... (bouncers are sober and doing their job, which is watching everyone in the bar all at the same time)

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

What are you attracted to 1st? Big jugs or pretty face? Posted: 8/6/2007 4:19:38 PM
I have large breasts and a very pretty face and I find the first thing guys notice are my big jugs then my gorgeous face? If you're so gorgeous, how come you have no pictures posted? You really should put some up if dating is why you're here. It's been my experiance that those who dont post pictures have a low self esteem and think of themselves as fat and ugly... its easy to post how large your breasts are but just about every obese woman has large breasts... who cares how large they are if your butt is large too. I know a lot of guys who stare at big girls breasts, its because they are trying not to look at the rest of you. You're waiste size needs to be smaller then your breast size to be physically attractive, you know... that hourglass shape regardless of your weight/size. I know I know, I'm gonna look like a jerk for saying this but oh well, no one said honesty was always nice.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

Are too many favorites a turn off? Posted: 8/6/2007 12:26:43 PM
Nope doesn't matter to me. I put a bunch of women into my favorites, I saw them and liked them. Not all are ones I'd date, some are too far away or something else is a stopper for dating but I liked something about them. Some I just email with alot and chat... I've met a couple cool women so far on here :) If you see someone added you and you like them, odds are they liked you too, go ahead and email them. You really never know how your going to meet a great guy, could be from seeing they added you to their favorites... say HI! lol

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

put out first date? Posted: 8/6/2007 12:14:07 PM
Would you? What do you think of a man who puts out on the first date? Would there be a second for you? Would you go out with someone again if they put out that easy? Some of the longest lasting relationships come from sex on the first date... Its not the same as meeting someone at a bar and going hom and having sex within the first 4 hours of knowing the person. Online dating has changed it a bit... we talk for weeks in emails and IM's then talk on the phone for a few days if not longer then we meet and BAM! desire for each other... is it bad? Not in my opinion. Just because there isn't sex on the first date doesn't mean there will be a second either... but yes first date sex does decrease your chances of a second date... because sex sometimes sucks with them lol

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

What are you attracted to 1st? Big jugs or pretty face? Posted: 8/6/2007 12:05:23 PM
I already know majority of men love big boobs so you don't have to fill me in on that. Total misconception by women... the majority of men I know really don't care much for large breasts... smaller well shaped is the most commonly liked ones. Yes, if you're not comfortable about what yours look like then go see a surgeon and ask about cosmetic surgery and if very small then adding a small increase like one cup size is fine... Pamela Anderson might be fun to crack jokes about... but its not what the majority of men want. Now in comparison, pretty face vs nice breasts... if we're looking for a GF then its a pretty girl all the way, no question about it... the size of her breasts doesn't even matter, large medium small we love them all :)

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

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have you ever withheld sex Posted: 8/5/2007 10:23:40 PM
Have any of you ever withheld sex for any reason? If so, what was the end result? Did you get what you wanted or did the guy become more distant? Did it cause a fight or break-up? Withhold? You're not "entitled" to sex Its a privilege that you share with each other... if they withhold it for too long, find a new person to date. I've withheld it before because my GF said we would only have sex when she felt like it (she was very serious)... I stopped having sex with her, she flipped out twice within a week and punched me in the face. Left me with a fat bloody lip... So I packed the few clothes she had at my house and put them in bags and left them on the doorstep. Had some nasty messages on my answering machine for several weeks too. Was kinda funny watching her try to be all seductive, went out and bought a wild nighty and tried tearing my shorts off me... thats when tried walking into the livingroom and bam! right in the mouth... ouch! lol Amazing how some women think they have total control over their BF when it comes to sex. Next...

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

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what's more important, looks or being the guy your looking for? Posted: 8/5/2007 10:05:38 PM
If they only knew what they were missing out on. I don't cheat, I'm totally against it. I don't lie, theres no reasoning in it. I cooked for a living and know my way around a kitchen and get this ladies..I clean! I'm snickering at this thread... no offense OP, but if you read some of the questions I posted in this forum the last week, you'd understand much more clear. Looks get you the first date... Personality gets you all the others... Why would any of us bother considering someone to date and looking deep into their personality if there was no sexual/physical attraction? You can't make a successful relationship out of it... anyone who tells you that you can is in denial or lying. Yes looks can be "acceptable" for the right personality in a person but there has to be something there looks wise in the first place. Don't worry, out there somewhere is a few great women who think you're hot!, keep lookin...

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

Hmmmmm Posted: 8/5/2007 9:57:31 PM
Tell me what that bloody patio thing is all about!!!!!!!!!! She's gonna laugh at you when she scrolls to bottom of your profile and checks this thread... with you posting all her emails. To me it sounds like a lead in to continuing the conversation and get away from the stalker issue. Curious if you own a house or have an appartment nice enough to have a Sunday brunch at maybe? Or afternoon tea? I'm wondering if you need flirting lessons? Improve your conversational skills maybe? Sometimes things people say dont make sense at first because we try too hard to figure it out.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Approaching women out in a mixed group Posted: 8/5/2007 9:48:57 PM
Yeah Ubkobalt, it often makes me look like a total jerk too... most of my good friends tell me I'm one of the most abrasive people they know. But they respect my passion for being honest when most people won't say anything at all or will sugar coat things... which just makes everyone confused. I figure get it out in the open and lets stop playing games as a society. Too much Political Correctness has hurt my ability to be compassionate and gentle about the truth. I'd rather make a lousy first impression and then impress a woman when she takes the time to know me instead of trying to make some wonderful first impression only to find I have some flaws and get discouraged later. A "come here!" hand motion is pretty much all you need. I've had this done to me a couple times actualy... I'm good friends with one of the girls who did it to me, actualy came to me when she saw me looking at her... eye contact does wonders... she took my arm and led me back to her table and we talked for several hours barely paying much attention to all her friends. We see each other every couple of months and always pick up where we left off, like it was that very same night.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

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Approaching women out in a mixed group Posted: 8/5/2007 9:19:02 PM
Well since this is a redundant thread I'm going to copy and past what I just wrote in the other girls thread... This is what the other girl asked... almost an identical question... but your thread makes it even harder for a man to approach you... -------------------------------------- My question is, men what is really going through your head when you see women at night clubs, or bars? Are you really that shy? Why don't you approach us!? We see you looking! I say this all the time... Do women belong in the kitchen slaving over stoves, washing dirty mens clothes, cleaning the house up after them, chasing his kids around while he earns the money? No, womens independance happened 50+ years ago... so why is it, women are still stuck on this "its a mans job to approach women" Get a CLUE! Grow up and go ask a guy to dance and STOP CRYING they didn't ask you... In the 1920's women lined up along walls at clubs and waitied for men to approach them... they were stuck with ONLY the men that chose them... this isn't the 20's anymore... women HAVE A CHOICE who they date or dont... if you want to choose the men you will date or just dance with, then you have to actualy GO ASK THEM to dance. Time to grow up. Or just take what you get and shut up and stop crying the men you want dont come ask you to dance. I am not being rude I'm sticking reality into your face, if you don't like it thats not my problem. Agressive and to the point? Hell yes I am and I'm tired of asking woman after woman out only to be turned down 75% of the time then see women cry that men dont ask them out. If you can't take rejection, then take ONLY the men who approach you... and quite crying about it. Or get off your asses and go ask men to dance. Chicken chits! --------------- Now Nurse... don't take it personally but please... get real, we don't know which of you has their husband or boyfriend there... are you suggesting we end up in a brawl in the middle of a bar????????????? Puhlease!... YOU have to approach men... you have NO CHOICE now... so you have to get up the nerve to go talk to a guy or you are delusional to think men will approach women with other men around... We want to go home at the end of the night not end up in the hospital or jail cell for the night. Some women really are clueless now adays...

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

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Hmmmmm Posted: 8/5/2007 5:11:43 PM
Damn dude, get a sense of humor Thats called sarcasm, wit... trying her best to be funny but it just went right over your head. If I got that I'd give her at least credit for trying. You think writing first emails is easy and try to be original at same time... I wonder what some of yours look like lol I wanna be stalked... by a hot woman who I like alot... puhlease! stalk me!

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Is SEPERATED a Death Sentence ?? Posted: 8/5/2007 4:06:37 PM
Pretty much yes... go get a divorce ya lazy bum... there is an option in settings to block mail from married people, it blocks seperated too... such a shame... get a divorce already. You're STILL MARRIED! wakey wakey! Reality check! Stop making excuses and claiming its over and should be no concern... get a divorce for cryin out loud... Can't stand people who make excuses for their own failure to do something then expect people to just accept it.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

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What is wrong??? Posted: 8/5/2007 4:03:36 PM
Ok... lose weight. I can't get much more blunt then that. Profile is fine... Guess what?... welcome to the dating world, welcome to rejection... us men have been feeling it for many years, especialy since we know women will sit in their homes waiting for men to come knocking on their doors, we get far more in one year then any woman will get in her lifetime. Maybe now you'll have some sympathy for men. Look on the bright side, you can lose weight and be attractive to men, I can't grow any taller, I can only get women who are fat and have no choice but to include short men in their options. :)

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

Unattractive Body and Love? Posted: 8/5/2007 3:59:12 PM
Can you overlook an unattractive body if everything else ticks the boxes? Would you feel as if you could do better? For his sex drive, no... for his happiness, yes. If you want him to be excited sexualy, then go get surgery to remove excess skin after losing large amount of weight. People will tell you all this BS about love, heart, romance, caring... yes they all mean alot... but sexual satisfaction? Get in good shape, period. Making excuses and asking if you should or shouldnt bother is a cop out... go talk to a cosmetic surgeon if you think you coud be more sexy for the man you love... he'd do it for you, why wouldnt you do it for him? People who won't make the effort to be physically attractive to their spouse make me wonder if they even care about them in the first place or are they just a placemat for financial stability and sharing housework... (someone to mow the lawn and take out the trash for you) Just my opinion.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Preference or Something More? Posted: 8/5/2007 10:30:21 AM
I don't know any men that date based on this. Every guy that I know is an equal opportunity dater. Then meet me, I'm particular in this sense as some ethnicities I'm not attracted to the majority of... such as black (african american if you want to be politically correct) although there are some that I am but the majority I'm not. Its just just one its most non white. Maybe its just from my upbringing, or even something genetic I can't say for sure. But stillsweetstillsingle raises an important point that I fully agree with about the difference between physical attraction and racism. I think if someone is truly racist, they won't take the time to talk to you or respond to you at all. I think a more accurate description of racism is hatred of an entire race, and believing your race is better than all others. Discrimination and prejudice occur as an effect of racism, but...if someone were truly racist, they would not even deem you worthy of talking to. If I was racist then I wouldnt even give you the time of day, male or female. I have friends of all race's... I don't choose who to like or who not to by the color of their skin. But dating I do have a preference, but its not defined by skin color either... I wont have a relationship with someone that is overweight... would that be the same as being racist? No, as I have gone on dates with overweight women the same as I've gone on dates with women of many skin colors... its about more then what someone looks like, its about interests/hobbies, personality, lifestyle, philosophy and a variety of other personal virtues that will attract me to someone. Please OP don't confuse the difficulties of finding a match for you with racism. Almost all of us are having trouble finding someone to date. I get read/deleted's too, just like you do... we all do, some more then others. Imagine being short like me lol, talk about rejection rates! the vast majority of women dont like short men... even short women don't. The majority wont even give me the time of day just because I'm short and they dont want to give me a false impression that they are interested. Thats life :)

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

OK, be straight with me here.... Posted: 8/5/2007 8:50:54 AM
If it helps you any, being beautiful doesn't mean she's a great person... there are plenty of pretty women who would date you... and there are plenty of ones you'd call ugly that won't date you. We all have a slightly different opinion of what is beautiful to us. With decent personalities who we date is not affected by our own beauty, with shallow men and women they try to find a date that is beautiful to everyone not just themselves. Basicly, some women will not date you even tho they may find you attractive because others wont see you as attractive. If a serious relationship is what you want, then you DONT want a woman that is beautiful but wont date you because you dont meet a standard of beauty... because her personality sucks for doing that. If you want a trophy wife, then go make more money and flash it around with an expensive car, a nice house you OWN and lots of expensive clothes and some obviously expensive gold chains around your neck then carry wads of 100's and flash them around bars/clubs and buy rounds of drinks for the whole place and any woman is within your reach... but dont expect love. But that just makes you materialistic and shallow. Decide what you want in life, and go get it... many women that are 10's can be bought. But some can't, the ones that can't be bought, you still have a chance with but you need to know what they want from a man.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

Research shows recently that men are not attracted to humor in women. Posted: 8/5/2007 8:34:40 AM
Is that a joke? I missed the punchline... maybe you should stick to sarcasm. Just kidding I like women with humor, but its not the same women to man as it is man to women. With women if you make her laugh you have a good chance you can get a date with her, where as women need to catch a mans attention with food... knowing how to cook his favorite meal. The way to a womans heart is through her mind, the way to a mans is through his tummy.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

Clueless Posted: 8/5/2007 8:29:24 AM
Has that ever happened to you before? I mean offline... meet someone and talk for a while but you felt no connection yourself so when something came up you didn't think he needed to be informed of your personal life outside of friendship?

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 107 (view)

Dogs in the bed Posted: 8/4/2007 6:34:30 PM
No I dont mind dogs, but their place is not in my bed, nor do I let my cat sleep on my bed either... they can come up once in a while but I wont let them stay on bed. I won't date a woman that shares her bed with her dog. If I go to her house and see dog hair all over the couch and bed I wont be dating her for long. Placing children above the person your dating is expected... putting your pets above them? Come on people, get real! lol

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Define doormat Posted: 8/4/2007 6:11:17 PM
Its the guy who keeps calling a girl and leaving nice messages on her answering machine even tho she rarely returns his calls and the only time she does is when she wants a designated driver to take her and her gf's out on the town... and he does it! When she is hungry and wants lunch at an expensive place she calls him for lunch and he takes her out then drops her back at home because he's just a doormat. He brings her to a clothing store and buys her that new dress she loves yet he never gets to see her wear it because she's out with some other guy when she puts it on because he's just a doormat. He buys her birthday presents but never gets one back on his b-day because he's just a doormat. He sends roses by the dozens on Valentines day but never hears from her till a week later because he's just a doormat. He always wants sex but never gets it even after a year of dating, because he's just a doormat. While he sits at home on weekends, she's out dating other men because he's just a doormat. Then during the week, no one else wants anything to do with her she calls him and repeats it all again from the top... because he's just a doormat. I'm a wanna be doormat... but I can't :( But you knew all that :)

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Had a GF when you met him, doesn't now... Posted: 8/4/2007 3:52:13 PM
If I were to receive a note like that it would score huge points for (a) being polite enough to respond in a timely fashion and (b) having the balls to be 100% honest... even online I'll reply whether I'm interested or not... I like to chat. It's not so easy to find ways to reject someone without hurting their feelings. A good person will try tho... those who don't its probably better that way anyways, you most likely wouldnt have liked them once you got to know them. Most of the time its physical attraction for the lack of response. Or, can we assume that hes just playing the numbers game, or isnt doing very well, and comes back to you as a last resort? Yes Devils, you can assume that if you want, you may be correct too... but then again, you may not. i'm tired of these 'hidden agenda ' threads, Enough already with the patronising, please. Merely my opinions, I'm not always right. If you have such trouble with debates and conversations that you don't like, then make a note of my screen name and ignor any threads I post. :) You can assume all day long what a persons reasons are for not responding to you right away, or why they view you but dont mail you for a month or two later... but why pass up a man just because he doesn't fall head over heels for you and start spamming your mail box daily? Your choice to agree or disagree... like I said, you can ignor me anytime you want. No one forces you to read what I post :) As for being "sneaky" lol... as if women are not more sneaky then a man? Hope it doesn't irk you too much to have a man push it back on women for a change... I could just go hide in a corner and be boring and predictable like a lot of men

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

ladies, would you date a man that doesnt drive? Posted: 8/4/2007 2:56:10 PM
They changed the laws here where I'm from, now just 5 tickets in a 3 year period and they take your license away for 60 days PLUS now require you to take an 8 hour drivers re-education course thats either two nights 4 hours each or 8 hours on Saturday. The classes are barely once a month in a city thats a half hour drive away... hard to get a class scheduled... I've been able to get my license back for almost a month now but having a hard time scheduling the class and then getting a ride to take it. I work with a friend right now who lives in same city so he just picks me up for work, which I've done even when I had a license. Definately makes dating a little more difficult and getting out on weekends... but I'll get around to getting it back soon, then re-register and insure my cars. Could be part of the reason I post so much on here lol... I have two cars, they sit in my driveway collecting dust and rust :) Would I care if a woman didn't have her license? Depends on the reason... repeated DUI's would bother me... but for the most part nah it wont bother me... I've dated a few girls who didn't drive because they lost their license. I'm a little biased answering this... but who cares? If you like someone will you really not date them for something so minor? Maybe its not them being without a license but its you who thinks you should only date "perfect" people... good luck with that.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

What is Baggage? Posted: 8/4/2007 2:08:50 PM
Baggage can also be non-emotional, and be things like kids and debt as mentioned before Again... children are NEVER baggage... please see my post above for what should happen to people that think they are. Children are NEVER baggage, period. Are YOU baggage?

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

What is Baggage? Posted: 8/4/2007 2:06:13 PM
I consider "baggage" as anything you carry into your next relationship... Basically any issue that could cause problems in the relationship. From kids to emotional problems to financial debt. Children are NEVER baggage, period. Baggage is things that are negative and will adversely effect your next relationship... such as psychotic ex's with a violent revengeful personality that the person hasn't had a restraining order placed against because they are too scared or have some demented thought that they should be nice to their ex. Baggage is that pending court case you have where you're going to get 20 years in prison for killing your ex, cutting them up into pieces and feeding them to the sharks at sea. and ok, baggage can be that low self esteem you got from being dumped and gaining 50 extra pounds that went straight to your butt, hips and thighs... but that can easily be fixed. Baggage is NEVER children and anyone who thinks so should be cursed to a life being alone and unwanted. :) Just my opinion.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 3 (view)

Is he cheating?... your opinion please! Posted: 8/4/2007 10:48:42 AM
Sounds like he has a really good friend thats a girl, possibly a fwb type girl. Can't be sure but would seem weird he would tell another girl he's dating that he's out on a date unless he wants to make her jealous, which also doesn't fit because he doesn't say it with you also. Just because he's texting a friend doesn't mean he's dating her or even having sex... Maybe you should just be honest and tell him you have a feeling he's dating other women, just a gut feeling and that you really dont want to be dating a man who's sleeping with more then one woman at once. If he says he has female friend he text messages, then maybe you could be included when he goes out with his friends (where she is there as well) Then you can talk to her directly and ask her if there' anything between them. You're probably going to cause the end of your dating tho... sorry to say. Trust is critical to any relationship, and you dont trust him, and he's not going to trust you once he finds out you checked his cell phone.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Am I acting inappropriately? Posted: 8/4/2007 10:40:18 AM
I always read that men like the mysterious, quiet type. I have no desire to be mysterious or quiet or demure. It's just not my personality. But maybe I should try? Would any of you be attracted to the friendly, funny, cute girl in the office? Or would you rather have the mysterious brown haired girl with glasses? Men like all types. Don't change your personality... Although, when you do find a man that you really like, try this... be totaly different to him then you are to everyone else in the world... even try being a little mysterious, and actualy make an effort to"flirt!" with him unlike everyone else, and make it obvious. He'll notice you treat him different then every other man and hopefully be bright enough to get the hint. If he doesn't... grab his arm gently and ask him to go out for a drink to relax after work.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

Ladies, You Are To Easy Posted: 8/4/2007 12:16:22 AM
I don't mean to laugh, but when guys go on about how they have us women figured out I think I have some good insight into how people work in general, women and men... have women figured out tho? no way... women make no sense, how could a man ever really figure them out completely?

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

I'm Confused?? Posted: 8/4/2007 12:09:01 AM
Why people are in such a rush is beyond me... slow down, relax, dont rush. People need space even at the beginning of a relationship. Usualy the faster and harder to dive into something the faster and harder you dive right back out of it. Take your time, dont expect instant coffee, fast food drive through service when dating. Expecting ALL NOW or "you're obviously not into me" is unreasonable and often ruins any chance of a possibly great relationship. She gave you some of her time you gave her some of yours... calling "too much" makes you look clingy and possesive... not calling at all makes you look disinterested. You said you just wanted dating and didn't want to rush into anything... Maybe she really does like you a lot and doesn't want to scare you away by charging after you on a daily or weekly basis. Once you leave two messages, you can't call again... otherwise you're harassing her. If she doesn't reply to the first two she wont reply to more. Just my two cents.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

He's missing in action... Posted: 8/3/2007 11:54:41 PM
I think it would be pretty freaky though if I just started writing to random men for advice Actualy thats a really good idea... first of all it gives you practice engaging in conversation with men you dont know. Second of all, you'll get advice, some good some not so good... but its advice... just select people that impress you, even if they aren't someone you'd date but people that seem like they are giving good advice to others. Ubkobalt is one, he posts alot here... and there are many others in the forums you can email and ask questions about, just be upfront and let them know you're looking for personal advice and not a date from them lol But be prepared for answers you might not have wanted to hear... thats how life goes sometimes. If you want honesty you have to be prepared to accept it as well.

tim0066

Joined: 7/2/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Do women say yes because he's attractive? Posted: 8/3/2007 8:21:25 PM
The most attractive thing a man can do with me is to really listen and take cues from what I am sharing. I fall hard for guys who pay attention to the details. A blathering guy, handsome or not, is never gonna get on my radar. Will you give a man you consider ugly the chance to listen and pay attention to the details? I can guarentee, you do not even think about dating when talking to or listening to a man you consider ugly. No matter how nice he is, no matter how much he listens to details... if he's ugly, you won't go out on a date with him, but if he is handsome you will consider it. Looks are, step one. I'm curious, if the man is handsome will you pay attention to the details he is saying?, and take cues from what he's sharing? Or is it all about you and what you have to say? I've met a few women who daydream while I'm talking, yet demand my attention when they are talking. Not saying you do that, I'm just curious :)

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