A few years ago, a couple of women from New York City.............one was a psychologist, the other owned an online dating service.............wrote a book about Online Dating.

In this day and age, many people have forgotten about what it means to "Date".

"Dating" is not much different than being an employer interviewing prospective candidates for a job. You're looking for someone that matches your goals and interests. The difference is................so are they.

So, Dating is what Dating is.


That being said, these two women talked about a online dating technique which they pushed really hard................and which I now swear by.

It's called "Bulk Dating". Here is how it works...............

1) You go through various online dating sites and membership directories (Yahoo, MSN, AOL, etc.). You scan through them using Advanced Search criteria, and you contact as many as you can. Make sure you provide AS MUCH detail as possible about who you are, what you want, and what you have to offer, without violating your own comfort zone. This way, the people you contact have a chance to see if THEY feel any compatibility with YOU.

2) Eventually, you build up a contact list of 40 or 50 people to talk to. Talk with them online using Yahoo Messenger, AOL Messenger, MSN Messenger, or any Instant Message program that has archiving ability (you'll want to be able to recall past conversations after talking with that many people). The object is to get to know them to see if any are compatible with you, and you with them. BE HONEST IN THAT YOU ARE DATING OTHERS!!!

3) From that set of 40 or 50 people, you narrow it down to 5 or 6 that you're willing to talk on the phone with. Again, you continue to weed through to see if any are compatible with you, and you with them.

4) From there, you narrow it down to 1 or 2 people you're willing to go out on a first date with. If the first date works out, you go out on a second date. If that works out, you go out again and again until you decide you want to see that person exclusively, or that it isn't going to work out for you.

5) If things work out, then the technique worked. You contact others on your list, and say you met someone and will be dating that person EXCLUSIVELY and you thank everyone for their time. If things DON'T work out, then you set aside the ENTIRE list, and you start the whole process again from scratch.


Try to remember that the three keys to the success of this technique is that
- You're honest with ALL you talk to and go out with that you are talking with others.
- You're honest and up front with what you want, what you're looking for, who you are, and how you feel about the person you're talking with.
- That you stay the course and don't get too discouraged along the way.

Trust me when I say that this technique DOES work, and you WILL have far more luck with meeting other people. I know a lady that I told this to, and she found her fiancee using this technique inside of 4 months.

Sincerely, Mitch