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jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Would it be possible to get rid of the concept of money all together and would it be a good thing? Posted: 10/1/2009 12:25:28 PM
You know, I once came up with this idea and it seemed like a great idea at first. But then I thought further into it and asked a question or two. Why get rid of money? I mean, whats the motive? To get rid of envy, get rid of poor versus rich? Unfortunately, getting rid of money will not be the solution to these or the host of other issues that go along with it. People will always and forever be envious/jealous/spiteful/ or just downright hate someone else. No matter what one group of folks do, there will always be another group that'll be their polar opposites. Guaranteed. Get rid of money, there will be something that takes the place of that. And this doesn't resolve the issues where people make bad choices, choose the wrong path, or are simply uneducated or lazy or whatever. Again, get rid of the money equation, this will not resolve the human nature to be envious or hateful or spiteful or whatever else.

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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HELP!! what is so wrong with my profile? Posted: 10/28/2008 10:55:30 AM
Wow, I did not realize there was a cetain "stigma" to some regarding red heads. I truly wonder what he story is behind it. Here in the states some guys are "reserved" to go out with red headed ladies because there is a retation that preceeds them that redheads are hot heads (short temper, gets angry and when they do, watch out!!). Could that be the same stigma there in your country? Anyway, you are correct. Avoid those types lik ethe plague. You can definitely do better! Sorry to hear those that inquired to you and the one you sent an email didn't pan out But keep n keeping on, something will come about soon enough!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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HELP!! what is so wrong with my profile? Posted: 10/27/2008 12:07:01 PM
So I checked out your revamp. I will still stand by my original assertion.... I like your second picture the best to be used as your primary. It just just better, cleaner and nicer. I also forgot to ask, what is it about being proud to be "ginger" or 'ginger leo'? Being from the southern US and you in the UK, I am certain this is just a nationality or speech thing. But I am always open to learning new things, so please do share if you would. There is still a great deal of vagueness throughout your profile and if you are comfy with it, so be it. Just remember that when you leave something vague and open to interpretation, odds are most people will go to the more negative, darker, less optimistic side of things. That's human nature as a whole. "Subtle Naughtiness" is one of many examples. Your "subtle" may be someone elses brazen or bold. Or their sybtle may be crude, rude and dangerous. That's all that I mean by not being too vague. I suppose however that once a conversation is engaged with the fairer sex, you can explain and discuss these vagueries further. On second thought, perhaps this is a sly thing on your part to ensure questions from the other side of the proverbial table. That's slick!! So good revamp and again, if you are comfy with it, go with it. Congrats also on getting two "cold" inquiries. You beat the odds on that one. Best of luck to ya on those!!!!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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HELP!! what is so wrong with my profile? Posted: 10/26/2008 5:57:28 AM
Dude, I feel your pain. Without even looking at your profile (of which I'll do shortly) I am going to tell you two things that may hint as to your lack of success here. It can be summed up in one sentence you wrote... "i have never been contacted by anyone" 1) "i"?? Seriously, SPELL CHECK! 2) and more importantly, you will NEVER be initially contacted by a women here on POF. Sure, there are exceptions, but for the most part the standing rule is guys make the first move! Forget womens rights, equal rights, feminism and so forth. It don't mean jack here on POF. The women expect us guys to make the initial contact. PERIOD. So your profile may or may not suck, but the profile is only half the battle. Your initial email is the other half. If you have the absolute best profile, but your initial email is one sentence to the likes of "hey, how are you, i like you, email me please", you're gonna strike out. you will crash and burn quickly and get frustratedand disheartened quickly too! A third, a bonus if you will! Try going into the forums and strike up conversations on various topics, Chime in and just 'spress yourself. It wouldn't hurt as this would be great interaction practice. Heck even start a thread asking folks what their first initial email on their thoughts on a first approach email. Get POF to work for you. Just a few thoughts for ya!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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What impression do I give? Posted: 10/26/2008 5:51:00 AM
Hey 080808 I caught your profile to see what the deal was. You asked simple what impression your profile gave off versus advice/opinion as to what may need to be tweaked. Here is my opinion, take it for what it is worth. Your picture, you have a real Tom Berengerthing going n with your main pic. You got more similar to that? Definitely one or two more with you smiling, the chicks dig that!! You have a sense of humor, it shows through at times in the profile. Its a good mix! Just add in a "ha ha" or "lol" here or there, just so some with a lesser sense of humor make take note. It's a "Nice" profile in all. You aren't a braggard, I man a shallow narcissistic type. More of a self depreciating sort. I would be surprised if you didn't get a few good replies to your initial emails to 'da ladies. Your Lollipop theory... great way to close out the section!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Profile review please Posted: 10/25/2008 12:15:33 PM
"special"? Does that mean they take action? If so, dang, why am I wasting time here in the southern US?!! lol

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Profile review please Posted: 10/25/2008 12:08:17 PM
Your profile... better definitely! good work on the pic too! I am still hesitant about the vagueness of your interests, but you did go a little more into detail in the about me section. Good work! Are you satisfied with the profile? Of course you do realize that the profile is only half the battle. Now comes the time you send out emails!! Thats the true test!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Will anyone take me seriously ? Posted: 10/25/2008 12:05:07 PM
WBisME ok ok, so here is my two pennies. Keep in mind this is only my opinion and partly bgaswed on what I have found/learned/heard from my time on POF. Your headline, "Prizes Inside". lol, it's got potential, definitely an original! Good way to grab someones attention as to the possible promise of a bribe! ha ha It's good, unless you can come up with something better. Remember, your headline needs something that will catch someones eye. To really grab 'em by the sruff of the neck and say READ ME!! "Prizes Inside", do you really think that stands out and grabs someones attention? You are a "somewhat young" (lol) guy, and seem smart. Get creative, let loose and use an equal amount of smarts with sense of humor, which I suspect you also have lots of! Your picture: Ok, in your profile you indicate you are a photog or otherwise enjoy pictures, yet you only have one picture on your profile. Bad. The pic you do have shows you looking backwards. Bad With shades!, the worst. Women like a guy who smiles, and a guy whose eyes they can see. Fix the pic, have more pictures!! Your "Interests" list is great, really have a good list there. BUT (you knew there was a but coming, didn't ya?! lol) try searching the profiles of women with the search word "movies", or "reading". You will see that these are too vague a description because everyone puts this in their profiles. But now think to go even more specific, like instead of "movies";"reading; how about "Old Black and White movies", or"reading Poe". Heck, even be specific, like with "music" you listen to "36 Mafia", "Garth Brooks" etc etc. You had other specific stuff ("Sex IN the City", "Sopranos"). Expand that with the other interests! "About Me" section... Try to stay positive in this section, negativity will only be amplified here. And definitely use your sense of humor, some of it was peeking out. Good job with it, just tell more about yourself and a little about who you seek. Reformat the way you wrote to put these sentences into a paragraph or three eh? And again, list those things that make you YOU but also put some things in there of what you truly seek. In this case you are looking for friends. Cool! So.... what makes you a good friend? All in all your profile is ok, but it can use a little tweaking here or there. You have a cool sense of humor, I get that for sure. Just keep the negativity out of it! Just one guys opinion!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Profile review please Posted: 10/25/2008 11:47:50 AM
MrDerbyMysterious Interesting name there! lol This is just one guys opinion, so do not take offense and overall take it for what it is worth. Your profile, your headline to me more precise. Lose it, it reeks! Again, in my opinion, you need something that will catch someones eye. To really grab 'em by the sruff of the neck and say READ ME!! "Welcome to My world...", do you really think that stands out and grabs someones attention? You are a young guy, and seems smart. Get creative, let loose and use an equal amount of smarts with sense of humor, which I suspect you also have lots of! Your pictures... I have to say there is only one that is worthy of using. The second one (you are stitting down, a nice pose). I would also recommend finding/taking a picture or two of you smiling. The chicks love that!! Your "Interests" list is great, really have a good list there. BUT (you knew there was a but coming, didn't ya?! lol) try searching the profiles of women with the search word "films" or "movies", or "reading" or "chatting" or "travel". You will see that these are too vague a description because everyone puts this in their profiles. But now think to go even more specific, like instead of "chatting";"films";"reading;, how about "confabs", "Old Black and White movies", "reading Poe". Heck, even be specific, like with music you listen to "36 Mafia", "Garth Brooks" etc etc, and laughing, try "George Carlin Humor"... you get the point. "About Me" section... Try to stay positive in this section, negativity will only be amplified here. And definitely use your sense of humor, some of it was peeking out. Good job with it, just tell more about yourself and a little about who you seek. Your points of amusement, doesn't make a lot of sense and is on the negative. Again, do not concentrate on the nots, only on the do's!! "What I do not want..." is always irrelavent. those who possess those not wanted qualities will more than likely lie and make a play for you anyway (thus wasting valuable time) and reply to your ad. Your About Me section isn't bad, just a little tweak here and there, that's all! Again, no negaives, and a little humor mixed in with what you are seeking and who you are. A tip... use your "Interests" list as a sort of outline, then go into a little more detail in this section. Welp, there ya go. One guys opinion!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Profile review please Posted: 10/25/2008 11:33:22 AM
"do you want Children". I gotta warn you, this is a trick question!! Many many women in the past have shared with me that not only is this asking if you wanna have a kid, but also are you open to women who have kids. Again, this is a tricky question. Your best bet? Answer "Yes", then explain a little more in the "About me" section as to what you mean. And be more specific. I'll check out the rest of your profile in a sec

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Got time to go through? Posted: 10/25/2008 11:31:18 AM
ok, so I checked out your profile to see what the deal was and to see quite honestly if you truly needed any help and if so, to what degree. This is just one guys opinion, so do not take offense and overall take it for what it is worth. Your profile, your headline to me more precise. Lose it, it reeks! Again, in my opinion, you need something that will catch someones eye. To really grab 'em by the sruff of the neck and say READ ME!! "Educated, Classy...", do you really think that stands out and grabs someones attention? You are a young guy, and seems smart. Get creative, let loose and use an equal amount of smarts with sense of humor, which I suspect you also have lots of! About your pictures.... jeez, do you ever smile?!! There are two, maybe three pictures that are fairly decent (shirt and tie one should be your numero uno pic!) but you also need a few with you smiling, laughing or otherwise demonstrating you have more than one look on yoru fae. Chicks dig guys who smile!!! Next up, "do you want Children". I gotta warn you, this is a trick question!! Many many women in the past have shared with me that not only is this asking if you wanna have a kid, but also are you open to women who have kids. Again, this is a tricky question. Your best bet? Answer "Yes", then explain a little more in the "About me" section as to what you mean. Your "Interests" list i sgreat, really have lots listed. BUT (you knew there was a but coming, didn't ya?! lol) try searching the profiles of women with the search word "family", or "conversation" or "humor" or "music". You will see that these are too vague a description because everyone puts this in their profiles. But now think to go even more specific, like "political conversations", "Sarcastic Humor", "Rap/hip hop Music". Heck, even be specific, like "36 Mafia", "Black Crows Music", "George Carlin Humor"... you get the point. Some of thye things you listed does not really make much sense in this area. Your interests include "confidence"?? In yourself? Others? Instilling it? Breaking it down in others? lol "Environment"? What kind? Where and why? And some of the things listed is better to reveal later, once the first contact has been made andsome regular interaction is going on. Like your interest in Body Language, CoD4, Q3, etc. WTH is CoD4 and Q3 anyway? Will the avergae person know? This may look like you are a little arrogant and****. Bad first impression. "About Me" section... Lose the first few sentences? Why bother with that? Many women will find it offensive, I am sure of it. Even thse who have a brain and not big boobs. Try to stay positive in this section, negativity will only be amplified here. I would like to see this section start with the paragraph, "I am a 22 year old..." Good stuff in that paragraph! The next paragraph, about the girl you want to meet, well, tweak it up some as it seems to be negative. A lot of what you do not want. Stay with the stuff you do want! Use the "Interests" section as an outline, then go into a little more detail. Example, "I'd hope to meet a woman who enjoys conversations ranging from complexities as world politics and quantum physics, to more simpler forms like contemplating ones bellybutton". Inject a little humor in there, this would be a good spot!! Question" Why point out that you ar every picky about cars and women? The only purpose this serves is for peple to make assumptions of you based on that sentence. And I guarantee you most will make it a bad assumption. You are a car junkie and a Himbo, a playa. Is that where you wanna go? After your nice little Armed Forces tribute, well, drop it all after that. Its junky and you dont need that. Plenty of material to use for a conversation eye to eye instead of on your profile. Save some of the mystery, eh?!! So there ya go, one guys opinion!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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What is the right war? Posted: 10/25/2008 10:58:30 AM
I just caught this thread and thought to add my two pennies.... A few questions come to mind: 1) Is a "necessary war" an oxymoron? Kinda like Army Intelligence? ha ha Necessary to one may not so much be necessary to another. Guess it just depends who is doing the warring! lol 2) Can you have peace without war? For me personally, I think a "necessary" war would be one where I am imminently threatened first, and my friends or family threatened imminently secondly. The leaders on both sides of the Iraq war made decisions based on info we were never (and never will be) privy to entirely. Why did Iraq ignore the UN resolutions for so long? Why did the Bush Administration go in without better communicating the reasons to the American People? This WMD search was just one of 13 reasons, why was it the only thing the MSM paid attention to or that the current Administration let be paid attention to?

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Can we really believe the Bible? Posted: 1/21/2008 5:21:35 PM
Would it not be better to understand that the Bible is to a lesser extent what Wikipedia is today? It is books written by people over time. Some are parables, some tales, some true stories.

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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How/Why is it important? Posted: 1/21/2008 5:19:25 PM
This question is in part a result of watching American Idol the other night, where this 20 year old kid felt it necessary to tell the host he had never kissed a girl because he didn't believe in it as he was a Christian. My question is why did he (or anyone else in that position) feel it necessary to announce to the world this fact and open themselves to ridicule? What business is it of anyone, and what does it accomplish to say you are a virgin or have never kissed a by or girl?? Obviously I am missing something, so perhaps some on this group can clue me in.

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Suggestions Posted: 10/10/2007 7:42:42 AM
I just have a couple of suggestions regarding the profile information that is offered. More specifically: Kids: The options are only "I want kids/havekids/dont want kids/not sure" Why not add something to the effect of "Open to those who have kids" You know? I encounter many people who may misinterpret "I dont want kids" as they do not want to be around them versus not wanting to make any new kids, know what I mean? Drugs: Why bother having this at all? Seriously, those who have something to hide or otherwise open to lying will indicate "NO". All others will say No. Rarely have I ever seen anyone admit they do drugs. And some do not believe pot is a drug, therefore once again, they'll answer "NO". Why not replace this with "Do you or have you ever done illegal drugs" or something? Not that the results will be any different. Whats the deal with the type of fish one is? Who came up with that idea? I hate it, make it go away! It stinks. I do not wish to be know as a Dolphin or a Shark or any other sea creature. Someone should have thought this through a little more, or at the very least put up a link or option for the user to put up a little text as to why they believe they are like an ocotpus. Just a few thoughts I wanted to share. JM

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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do men prefer womens with make up on or no make up? Posted: 10/6/2007 3:31:36 PM
Women with light make up on for me. Definitely not those who spackle layers and layers on. They look spooky and unreal.

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Most likely conspiracy theory Posted: 10/6/2007 3:21:37 PM
Personally, I Like the JFK conspiracies to be the most likely.

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Most likely conspiracy theory Posted: 10/6/2007 3:20:50 PM
Triple Threat How much do you believe what you said? Are you willing to put your actions behind your words? Let's say by January 22nd of 2009 if some small country is not annihiliated by nukes, you have to state on a whole new thread how wrong you and your like were? In turn, if indeed we do, I'll be sure to do the same thing!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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non sexual relationships Posted: 10/6/2007 11:08:47 AM
oh yeah they exist. I had one of those before. The last three months of my relationship with my last serious g/f before I gave her the heave ho. It exists, but I wouldn't reccommend it

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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My girlfriend has a friend Posted: 10/6/2007 11:03:59 AM
(written before I read through all of the posts) Time for JM to chime in here to your interesting situation. I read your post and those who responded. I gotta agree with those who say you should seriously consider cutting her loose. In my mind, this is why: 1) You have only been dating for about 6 weeks. I assume things are well between you and the chemistry is there. 2) The mere fact she has a friend, I will also presume he is good looking, after you two got together, suggests to me that she is entertaining all of her options. He may be her fall back guy in case things dont work out between you and her. 3) Maybe, just maybe, things with her and you aren't as great as you may believe, which would explain why she is already (or contining to) playing the field. The mere fact you do not trust her on this one instance is in itself reason enough to either talk to her directly about it or cut her loose for both of your sake!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Heart Walk in October Posted: 10/6/2007 10:46:01 AM
awww thanks, thats nice of you to say!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Go ahead ladies, hit me Posted: 9/11/2007 4:56:18 AM
Sorry 'bout that Lakerlvr. email me at knights68@yahoo.com, thats cool. Glad I could be of some help. Sounds like your bud has some great insight....

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Go ahead ladies, hit me Posted: 9/10/2007 11:20:05 AM
I really hate to break it to you, but in all honesty, "There were comments on my picture...well, yeah. its there for a reason. Its called a filter :) If you are afraid of getting sweaty, getting dirty, repairing stuff, then this photo will turn you off." then you will not get a lot of responses, but also I believe you may be under a misunderstanding. The picture does not denote to the average chick that you are hard working car guy, it indicates lower intelligence car monkey with a crimson neck. Though I totally applaud you for your attempt at "Don't judge this book by it's cover", I am afraid that in POF this is often and commonly lost in translation. It would be better to have a profile with no picture, then you know at least the "shallow" ones will leave you alone for the most part.

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Go ahead ladies, hit me Posted: 9/10/2007 11:17:10 AM
Nice profile, good picture (although I'd recommend adding a few more.... for variety) Your "About Me" section seems reasonable although I would advise to stay away from the negatives and the "what I don't want" stuff. And honestly, for those that fit your list of "Don'ts", do you really think they'll be honest with themselves or with you and admit they're like that? Nope, they will not. So don't waste time and space addressing the trolls of POF. Express more of your attitude toward life and love, and throw in more of your sense of humor. Not a bad profile, I'd give it a B+ So now here is the question of the day. You have a good profile, how many guys have you emailed first? A good profile only gets you so far ya know?!!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Go ahead ladies, hit me Posted: 9/8/2007 7:14:01 AM
Short-order, I like the way you think. "Cut to the chase",

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Go ahead ladies, hit me Posted: 9/7/2007 1:23:57 PM
ok, my last review for the day and I had to do yours. Dude, what were you thinking. Seriously. With all due respect, please lose your hillbilly picture (you in front of a car with it's hood up.... you trying to find a match for you or your car?!) I like the second picture, that should be your main pic. Try to get a few more up there, some of you in various settings and maybe even smiling. The chicks dig that!! "Interests" is ok, although I think you could be more specifics in some of the things you listed. Biking? What about it? Where have you been, or how far do you bike? Cars.... ok ok, your screen name and the pic shows you are a car head. Thats the first impression people will get. Well, the second will be that you're a redneck with that picture you have up now. "Conversations", hey, thats great! Chicks love a talker. "Current Affairs", isn't that redundant? In your "About me" section, the first few sentences I'd lose. Kinda rambling and of no real use. This is the part of the whole profile that you sink or swim. This is where you really want to catch someones attention. to grab 'em by the collar and say READ ME, or in worser ways, AVOID ME. Please try to remember to stay far far away from anything negative about yourself or anyone else. Keep on the light and positve side. Don't go the route of "if you're looking for a guy that'll kick your ass then make sweet monkey love to you.... move along", it never works and is quite presumptious. Honestly, I'd start this section off with your paragraph that starts, "love bikes and cars...." Followed up with the part about your musical tastes. Lastly, in the "First Date" section, too much written. Keep it simple and direct. The ladies love it when guys are definitive on what the first date may be like. ok, so that sit for now. Remember, a good profile is only half the battle. You also have to send out emails too, the women expect nothing less. We guys have to make the first move.

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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ive been crying for two hours now what should i change Posted: 9/7/2007 1:13:09 PM
aszbuzster OMG, WTF!??? Are you serious with this profile? Seriously, are ya or are you just goofing around to see what bites your line? I mean no offense, really. I am just here trying to help those less successful POF'ers with this profile stuff. I am no pro, but I have had some good success at POF, so I thought that I'd share a few thoughts. First, I'd recommend you ignore those on this thread who have bashed you. Dont hold it against them though, some are responding directly from your profile, which will result in similar (if not way way worse) reactions. The Pepsi man and me, listen to us. We're just trying to help. So here are my thoughts about your profile itself: First, your pictures. Come on guy, do you not have any other pictures? Three of the four pictures you have the same exact shirt, hat and pants on. If you have no other pictures, then I'd recommend keeping the first two pics (cool dog!) and lose the other two as they are either distant or fuzzy or otherwise does not show you. "Profession", is your job really a "de-programmer" or is it a "de-programer"? I know, it's really irrelavent. Sorry, My mind was drifting. ok, "Interests" The word "anything" is a kiss of death. Why? It's vague and open to interpretation. And that is always a bad thing. Specifics, thats what you need. Surfing, good!! How about in the "about me" section, add in a setence of places you've been surfing or maybe what you like about surfing. Lose the "Lying in bed all day", your attempts at funny failed. Perhaps instead put something like, "Vegging out on a lazy Sunday, playing catch up with my DVD's...."? "Swimming" is ok, but what about it? Details, specifics! "Building Stuff". What have you built? "Creativity". Ok, I'll give you half a credit for this. There are a lot of things that fall into this category, care to expand? Your "About Me" section tells nothing about you except that yoru sarcasm is put-offish. Are you sarcastic to perfect strangers you meet in the bank or at the supermarket? I am willing to bet not. You need to get to know people first before you give 'em both barrels of your sarcasm. If they do not know you, they wont know you're just yanking their chain. So might I suggest putting in this section what makes you Y-O-U? What are your thoughts towards life and love. What do you seek? Stay away from anything negative about yourself or anyone else. For now, remember this is your final shot, in this section, to catch someones attention. I am betting you have a bit of an off the wall sense of humor too. Why not use that (versus sarcasm) in this section too? "First Date", just lose the whole dang thing and just keep " as long as were bolth laughing and having a good time" ok, so there ya go. Good luck to ya!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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Go ahead ladies, hit me Posted: 9/7/2007 12:56:43 PM
I gotta agree with Pepsi. Dude, your profile is in urgent need of an overhaul. I'll come back shortly and give you my thoughts if you are interested.

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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whats wrong with my profile???????? Posted: 9/7/2007 12:55:08 PM
Hey Geone, So I checked out your profile. I gotta say first and foremost, your pics are 'da bomb! About as close to perfect as you can get! Good job! But then you get a little lost (or should I say "vague") in your "Interest" section. Come on guy mix it up a little. Every other profile will show guys who like reading, restaurants, walking, and movies/cinema. Be more specific. What do you read.... and why? What kind of restaurants do you frequent.... and why? Walking? Where? Bars? Not really the best thing to put. I'd lose this one unless you own the bar, in which case you need to be specific. "Traveling"?? Where and when? Where are some of the places you've been. Just think it out some, you get the point. Before long, you'll have a list of 20 more specific things and that means you are 20 times more likely to catch someones eye! Your "About Me" section, well gosh, what can I say. First thing, watch the spelling, Even though you are in England, I am certain "What" is said and spelled the same way there as here in the states. Stay positive, write more about what makes you Y-O-U! What is your attitude and outlook on life and love? Do not even think of mentioning the negatives about yourself or what lack of luck you've had in the past at POF. That just smacks as failure. Remember, the profile is designed to hold someones attention. To catch someones eye long enough to make an impression. A good impression. So I guess you should lose the first two sentences.\ Hey, define "batty in a good way". Don't leave yourself open to interpretation as most people will go the negative route quicker than the positive route. "I'm caring in this increasingly careless world".... yeah, you can use that!:o) Go more into your musical taste, and flash a little of your sense of humor. The chicks dig that. Combine your sense of humor with your awesome pics, dude, you'll be halfway there in no time! Please remember to check for spelling but also grammar (periods and spaces and such). And please remember, a good profile is only half the battle. The other half is to actually send out emails. Yes, that's right. We, us guys, are still expected to make first contact. Almost every woman at POF has this expectation. Whether right or wrong, whether we like it or not (I hate it), it is as it is. Play along or you'll freeze in the cold vast space in POF. I promise. OK, so thats it for now. Not a bad profile. At the moment I'd give it a C+, and your pics, thats the way to go!! JM

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

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whats wrong with my profile???????? Posted: 9/7/2007 10:16:13 AM
Ed, bbuuuddddyyyy! Your profile is so much better now!! Your interests are still a bit vague (travel: "I've been everywhere", but where exactly?) In the about me section, seriously, you want to have: "Won't kill ya to drop me a line give us a chance and see if we can get a fine from the city for setting off fireworks without a permit" on there? nnnoooooo, delete that sentence or perhaps reword it to make the same statement, just in a different way. Ok, so your profile has went from a D- to a damn B+, good job! But wait, the profile is only half of the equation. Hate to break it to ya but there is a second part (of which I really hate). You have to email the ladies. They expect you to email them first. Extremely rare cases will a woman actually email you first. I know I know, we're supposed to be in a progressive society, equal rights and all that jazz. And it may be true out in the world in some places. But here at POF, for some reason, women expect us guys to make the first move. So put together a good intro email (brief is good) and start emailing. JM

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 8 (view)

whats wrong with my profile???????? Posted: 9/7/2007 4:29:44 AM
Ed, You may have rode the short bus in school, but unless someone knows you and your (warped) sense of humor, especially when it is a first impression you are trying to make, self depreciating humor to that extent will only backfire on ya. I guaran-damn-tee it! geone You are right to an extent, luck does play a role in POF, but I also believe in making my own luck. I suppose you can fit me into that "elite few: out there that has had success here at POF. Truly successful people, however, will have no need for POF anymore therefore, I do not believe they'd be easy to find.

jack mack

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whats wrong with my profile???????? Posted: 9/6/2007 12:54:47 PM
Two VERY valid points I forgot to mention! Good job Pepsi40!

jack mack

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Msg: 5 (view)

Help me please Posted: 9/6/2007 12:54:00 PM
Juiceman I caught your thread and thought I'd chime in. I had a thread review posting once upon a time, people seemed to take what I thought to heart. Pictures: The first picture I'd lose... too boring and "average. The other pictures, pretty darn good I'd say. Maybe have the fourth one as your main pic. Perhaps get a few more pics where you are SMILING. Chicks dig that! Interests: you have some good things listed (poker, Randomness (funny!) Family Guy (I dont get it but it is unique) & cooking. Not bad, good to be specific. This will ensure your profile will stand out. And that is one of the secrets to success at POF. In your about me section, well sir, it's a toughie. People have short attention spans and your job at POF is to catch attention and hold on to it for a sec or two. You really should start this section out talking about yourself, your attitude and maybe even expanding some on your interests. What is your attitude towards life and love. Break up this section some. For God's sake have a blank line or two in there to separate the paragraphs. The content of this section is good though, don't get me wrong. Stay with the upbeat, positive message you're trying to convey, and steer away from the expectations and hopes of what you think will happen (6 fig salary, house, etc etc). Stay in the present tense. Great at going into further detail about your musical tastes and why you like tennis and b'ball. Also shows you are active, which chicks dig too. The one big error I think you made in this section was referring to yourself in a less than positive light, especially about your previous relationship. Don't do that, it's the kiss of death. Hold that topic of conversation for some face to face conversation later.... way later. No one wants to read a profile that extolls the fact that they failed at a relationship. Reason or no. One more note, being specific is one very important aspect of profile success. But I hate to tell ya, there is another aspect, an unspoken truth at POF that us guys have to deal with. Women expect guys to email them first. If you honestly are waiting for a girl to email you, you are in for a very long wait. For whatever reason, no matter what socio-economic reagion a girl is from, no matter how progressive or independent she claims to be, they certainly await the guy to make the first move. I hate this fact with a vengence, I really do. But it is a fast of life. You will have to send out an email to get things going. A clever, funny (and short) email to start things off. So there you go, my advice to you. Now, just in case you're wondering, I have been on POF for some time now. I check out the forums often and over time, I have actually met someone on POF and had a long (2.3 year) relationship with her. It was great. My point is that I got a little mileage out of my profile, so hopefully that'll ease your mind some. Best of luck to ya bud!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 3 (view)

Help does it stink! Posted: 9/6/2007 12:41:51 PM
SWEET DEVIL 70 I caught your thread and thought I'd chime in. I had a thread review posting once upon a time, people seemed to take what I thought to heart. ok, about your profile. First red flag: your spelling. Watch the spelling. You have a few mispells and such in your profile. Try writing the profile in Word first, spell check, then copy and paste into your profile. Just a thought. Pictures: The first 2 pictures are about as perfect as you can get. Lose the other one and maybe get you a few more pictures, perhaps with some of your tats or better yet, Some more pics where you are SMILING. Chicks dig that! Interests: you have 5 things listed. And of those, honestly, all but 1 of them is like every other guys profile. Come on, mix it up. Put something unique in there! What particular food or dish do you like? Cook or eat? or genre do you like? What about camping? Where have ya been camping? What about long drives? Where have ya been on one of them long drives? In your about me section, well sir, it's a toughie. People have short attention spans and your job at POF is to catch attention and hold on to it for a sec or two. You really should start this section out talking about yourself, your attitude and maybe even expanding some on your interests. What is your attitude towards life and love. Break up this section some. For God's sake have a blank line or two in there to separate the paragraphs. The content of this section is ok, although I'd advise you to steer clear of the philosophical aspects. Try to keep it upbeat, positive and good and avoid writing about what you are NOT or what you do not seek. I am not sure what you were trying to accomplish with the last part of your profile. Was it a poem you forgot to credit the author? Something you wrote? Whatever it is you were trying to accomplish.... it didn't work! Lose that part! Lastly, be specific, thats my point. And show some of your sense of humor in your profile. That is my last bit of advice/opinion: Use some more of your sense of humor and down to earthiness. It seems to be at the tip of your finger tips and kinda comes out a little in your profile, but then it gets lost again. So there you go, my advice to you. Now, just in case you're wondering, I have been on POF for some time now. I check out the forums often and over time, I have actually met someone on POF and had a long (2.3 year) relationship with her. It was great. My point is that I got a little mileage out of my profile, so hopefully that'll ease your mind some. Best of luck to ya bud!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 2 (view)

May I have a review. Thanks in advance. Posted: 9/6/2007 12:31:49 PM
psinoob I caught your thread and thought I'd chime in. I had a thread review posting once upon a time, people seemed to take what I thought to heart. ok, about your profile. First red flag "Processer". Watch the spelling. Shouldn't that be "Processor" or am I missing the boat? Just asking. Pictures: The first picture is about as perfect as you can get. Lose the other one and maybe get you a few more pictures, perhaps with some buddies or what have you. Something where you are SMILING. Chicks dig that! Interests: you have 5 things listed. And of those, honestly, half of them is like every other guys profile. Come on, mix it up. Put something unique in there! What particular movie or genre do you like? Same goes for Books. What about anime? What is it about the mall you like? In your about me section, well sir, it's a toughie. You try to describe yourself (good opening sentence) but then the "hanging out" and going for "long car rides" is both vague and open in interpretations.... which most of the time is less than positive. Why not put something in there about places you've been in your car rides, or what you do when you are simply hanging out? Your description of who you seek is also a bit vague. Lemme ask ya this. If some 400 pound, one eyed chick emailed you and said that she knew how to have a good time (again, "good time" is vague... define what you think a good time means) and can kick back and laugh at the simple things in life, would you respond? ha ha. How about skeletor woman (60 pound chick with thinning hair) responded? What if ones definition of a good time was club hopping and being the center of attention while taking jello shots off of her ample double D's, versus someone elses definition of a good time is sitting in front of the TV watching reruns of CSI while tending to her 21 cats? Again, be specific, thats my point. And show some of your sense of humor in your profile. That is my last bit of advice/opinion: Use some more of your sense of humor and down to earthiness. It seems to be at the tip of your finger tips and kinda comes out a little in your profile, but then it gets lost again. So there you go, my advice to you. Now, just in case you're wondering, I have been on POF for some time now. I check out the forums often and over time, I have actually met someone on POF and had a long (2.3 year) relationship with her. It was great. My point is that I got a little mileage out of my profile, so hopefully that'll ease your mind some. Best of luck to ya bud!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 2 (view)

whats wrong with my profile???????? Posted: 9/6/2007 12:22:30 PM
Hey Ed! I caught your thread and thought I'd chime in. I had a thread review posting once upon a time, people seemed to take what I thought to heart. ok, about your profile. First red flag "Separated". Chicks do not touch that status almost as much as us guys avoid chicks with that on their profile. This generally indicates unfinished business as well as perhaps an evil ex lurking somewhere guaranteed to cause drama. Now whether that is truly the case or not doesn't really matter. Most will ASSUME the worst before the best. How long ya been separated? That may play into things a bit too. 2 years separated? 3 maybe 4 years? Way way too long. Pictures: The first two pictures are about as perfect as you can get. Lose the rest as they are dark, fuzzy or you are at a distance. Interests: you have 5 things listed. And of those, honestly, every one of them is like every other guys profile. Come on, mix it up. Put something unique in there! What particular movie or genre do you like? Same goes for music. Traveling (watch the spelling), what about it?? Where or what? In your about me section, well, it's quite wordy. People have short attention spans and your job at POF is to catch attantion and hold on to it for a sec or two. Break up this section some. For God's sake have a blank line or two in there to separate the paragraphs. The content of this section is ok, although I'd advise you to steer clear of the negative parts. Try to keep it upbeat, positive and good. Maybe expand a little on what makes you you, explain your attitude towards life and love. No need to mention you have kids or that you may or may not want to get married. My last bit of advice/opinion: Use some more of your sense of humor and down to earthiness. It seems to be at the tip of your finger tips and kinda comes out a little in your profile, but then it gets lost again. So there you go, my advice to you. Now, just in case you're wondering, I have been on POF for some time now. I check out the forums often and over time, I have actually met someone on POF and had a long (2.3 year) relationship with her. It was great. My point is that I got a little mileage out of my profile, so hopefully that'll ease your mind some. Best of luck to ya bud!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 1 (view)

Heart Walk in October Posted: 9/6/2007 11:55:36 AM
Come on, have a heart. Lets go for a walk. Ok, so here is the deal! I am helping the American Heart Association by participating in the Heart Walk. 4 miles of fun in the sun in late October for me! But I need your help. I'll do the walking if you do the donating! I need help with donations to this cause, to help me contribute to the fight against the nation's leading causes of death. Come on, don't be shy or hesitant. Donate $10 or more towards this noble goal. Please make a donation so I can reach my walker dollar goal. I have set the goal of $200, but I believe we can exceed that amount in no time. Come on, you donate and I'll walk! You want pictures? I'll throw some in for free of me and the thousands of others that'll be walking that day if you'd like! You just let me know what I can do to help you consider donating to this great cause. Follow the link below and donate. Don't worry about the "platinum", "Gold", "Silver" or "Bronze" designations. Just ignore 'em and proceed to the donation section beneath it. You can help me reach my goal by making a donation online. Click on the link below and you will be taken to my personal donation page where you can make a secure online credit card donation. If you prefer to donate less, you can do so by posting a payment to me via paypal (msanderford@yahoo.com) Your donation will help fight our nation’s No. 1 and No. 3 killers—heart disease and stroke. You are making a difference. Thanks for your support. Sincerely, Marvin PS, don't be afraid to spread the word and get others to donate too. The more the merrier! And if you'd like to come walking with me..... thats great too! http://heartwalk.kintera.org/faf/r.asp?t=4&i=211598&u=211598-188916042

jack mack

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Msg: 104 (view)

Raleigh/Durham Area get together Posted: 9/4/2007 10:25:02 AM
Doesn't sound like this group has had much late as of late in meeting up. Maybe have a better venue than Carolina Ale House? Perhaps something at a lake on a Saturday afternoon (very public spot) with a potluck and people bring along some sporting things like soccer or volleyball, or even frisbees. Signage wouldn't hurt either I supppose. Any new meetings taking place soon?

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 5 (view)

Karl Rove Resigning!!! Posted: 8/13/2007 10:39:55 AM
Newguy "Gotta give it to Rove though, the man was a political genius" I disagree. For someone so "brilliant", he advised poorly, and his advisement resulted in many missteps and miscues, and that doesn't include the "wonderful" communication that Rove was responsible for. It is good that Rove is leaving. He had a shot. Let somebody else give it a go!

jack mack

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Mitt Romney defends sons not enlisting in military Posted: 8/13/2007 10:36:53 AM
"Any politician supporting any war should be willing to put the blood of his own family and friends on the line before expecting any common citizen to give his life" The only problem with that is our military is voluntairy. Why is it so important that a parent tell a kid to join or not to join when in the end it is the kids decision to make.

jack mack

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Russians Claim North Pole Posted: 8/11/2007 1:38:36 PM
I really hate to break it to the conspiracy nuts, but you're never gonna believe this: http://swenglishman.blogspot.com/2007/08/russia-fakes-north-pole-flag-mission.html The planting of the Russian flag is a hoax! Spotted originally by a 13 year old kid whose parents called their local news station, the video of two submersables were in fact clips (and phtoshopped flag) from scenes froma dive to the Titanic/ How funny!! Here are more links: http://www.christianforums.com/t5877602-video-of-russian-north-pole-flag-plant-was-from-titanic.html and from Reuters themselves.... http://media.guardian.co.uk/site/story/0,,2146373,00.html

jack mack

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Msg: 8 (view)

Raised Posted: 8/10/2007 6:39:49 AM
There is "Close" and then there is "CLOSE" to ones parents. I have known women of both caliber and I would prefer a woman who is "close". But then again, the earlier in the relationship the parents get involved, the more suspicious I would be of motives, regardless how close they are. I think a comfy time frame in a serious relationship would be beyond the six month mark. I think that seems reasonable.

jack mack

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Msg: 20 (view)

What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 8/10/2007 5:07:28 AM
aw thanks April. Oddly enough, I too am a writer!! And you're right about the essay portion of the profile. It is a bit crowded. I'll work on it. Thanks!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

What is wrong with the persons profile above you in this thread? Posted: 8/8/2007 12:04:09 PM
hhmmm, A) She hasn't emailed me yet B) A long profile name.... but doesn't explain in the profile anywhere the logic behind such an unusual name. Bonus points for the unusual name though! C) Not enough about her in the "About Me" section. Writers note: Put more of your sense of humor in the section and share more of how you think or your general outlook.

jack mack

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What is the best thing that's happened on this site to you? Posted: 8/8/2007 12:01:11 PM
Sweetpink, That sounds like a nice story and the saddest story.

jack mack

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Msg: 5 (view)

Raised Posted: 8/8/2007 12:00:00 PM
Ah yes, what a set up. Speaking from the other side of things, I have found that generally, women introduce the guy to the parents for one of only two reasons: 1) Get approval from them 2) Piss 'em off #1: They are close to their parents, which in of itself may be a bad sign. Especially if they feel the need to get the parents approval in order to proceed with the relationship. This should tell you that the person is incapable of making a decision or doesn't trust themselves, OR it should tell you that they go to their parents often on a variety of things, which means they may not be as independent as you may have been led to believe. #2: They introduce you to the parents to get a rise out of the parents. A lashing out at the parents or an otherwise thumbing their nose at the parents. You are a tool. Between the two options, it is much easier to deal with option #1

jack mack

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Msg: 20 (view)

insurance companies to make overweight people pay for their fat issues... Posted: 8/8/2007 11:36:02 AM
Smelly (interesting name ya got there by the way) But wait, the insurance companies already chooses their customers and how much to charge. It already costs more for a smoker to be insured versus a non-smoker. It already costs more for someone who is chronically sick versus well. I am just waiting for it to cost those who sky dive and cliff jump way way more than couch taters! Yep, in a perfect world.... in a perfect world!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 70 (view)

I’m separated … is this a problem to get a new love… with out divorce???? Posted: 8/8/2007 10:00:28 AM
Song Sparrow I never said it was "Fair". But it seems to be the rule of society. Sure, there are exceptions to the rule and for both sides. But the majority of times the case remains that when a person is separated, that tells everyone else that there is unfinished business, baggage and headaches to come and to just stay away. There is also the rebound equation I pointed out earlier too. Separation/divorce aside, would you like to be the rebound gal for a guy just out of a marriage? Unless it is strictly to date and hang out, a rebound relationship rarely works out. "Separated" is today what divorce or even the scarlet letter was way back when. Fair or not, that's simply how it is. So for you I would suggest find those people who do not subscribe to societal dictation, who do not go along with the general rule, and hang on to 'em as long as ya can. And sorry, I am unavailable

jack mack

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Msg: 16 (view)

insurance companies to make overweight people pay for their fat issues... Posted: 8/8/2007 9:21:10 AM
With all things being equal (in a perfect world) then women should have higher insurance rates than men, Blacks higher than whites (heart disease and violence) and anyone over 45 years old or under 25 should have sky high insurance rates (based on health, accident stats, longevity, environment, habits, etc etc). Should skinny people have lower insurance then? The skinner the healthier, right? Is that the thought process the article is taking?! how funny!

jack mack

Joined: 3/28/2005

Msg: 99 (view)

are some guys intimidated by girls that have facial piercings? Posted: 8/8/2007 9:18:15 AM
I am curious, why would anyone be intimidated versus find it simply unappealing, unattractive and maybe even a bacteriafest waiting to happen? For me, I am not intimidated, just turned off and a little bit grossed out (depending if we're talking noce versus eye brow or something to that effect)

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