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Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 104 (view)

girlfriend that doesnt drive Posted: 4/15/2009 9:48:29 PM
If you're willing to break up over transportation issues only, and you don't live on the other end of the planet, that seems like you're calling it quits for the wrong reasons... If she's worth it, things will work out. You two will find a way. Personally, I do not drive, and have no intention of learning to drive. It's just me. If that's something my boyfriend couldn't accept, and was going to break it off with me for that reason alone, then it wouldn't be my loss, and it obviously wouldn't have been much of a relationship if the other breaks it off over whether or not someone drives or has a job. It is hard times for most people. It doesn't hurt to talk to her. Communication is key.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

Why Can Women Critic Women but Men cannot critic Men on Appearence/Sex Appeal? Posted: 4/15/2009 9:41:11 PM
I see no issue with men critiquing other men. If they do, they're very comfortable in their sexuality, and that is sexy, and shows maturity and a well educated guy.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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The shaving craze Posted: 4/15/2009 9:40:20 PM
It's actual very unhygenic to shave down there... like completely. It's there for a reason. Trimming is always good. Yeah, thanks to the porn industry we have all these people, guys and girls who are obsessed with the clean shaven look. It's kinda disgusting when you think about it.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 303 (view)

why dont most men keep it trimmed ?? Posted: 4/15/2009 9:37:00 PM
Maybe they are scared of the razor? After all, it's hard to avoid doing damage if you don't know what you're doing. True, females can have this issue too, but you know what I mean right? There's isn't hard to miss, like at all. It would be nice if more guys did this though.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 356 (view)

What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 4/15/2009 9:34:52 PM
No glove, no love! Unless he's allergic to the latex, which now they have alternatives for people who are allergic to regular condoms, then ditch 'em.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

How long to wait? Posted: 4/15/2009 9:33:17 PM
Wait as long as you need, until you are comfortable. Why do something you are not comfortable with? It could be great, and it could be something you'd regret. It can honestly go either way. The previous poster that made a comment about women expecting men to wait, was pretty ignorant. You can take their view if you like, or you can look over it to other peoples, mature, well educated responses. A guy who will wait as long as it takes, could be completely worth it. They could not be too, it could go either way, but I believe if the guy is willing to wait until you are ready, they clearly have more on then their mind then what's between their legs and how soon it can come out.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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People I need your advice Posted: 4/15/2009 9:23:00 PM
Communication is key. Ask her how she feels, express how you feel. There's no way to be sure of anything unless you ask. Asking us may help you in a way, but ultimately it is she, who you need to ask.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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how do u handle being a virgin past 25 Posted: 4/14/2009 10:21:27 AM
"I have a profound respect for him for keeping his virginity. He treats ladies very well and is by far one of the best people I have ever met. Don't sweat it if you still are. I wish I could turn back time and take mine back." I second that. There is nothing to say you are not a man/woman if you choose to wait. For those that do, I respect them, and definately wish I that I did. For those that don't, I have no ill thoughts towards them either, I just wish more would respect others who choose to wait, for whatever their reasons. It most certainly is those sorts who wait, who are often the most kind, gentle, generous, loyal people you will ever meet. It never fails to amuse me when I hear/read the ignorant, closed minded comments like "oh please, that's girly sappy shit" and like minded comments in regards to someone who chooses to wait. Why the hell guys are branded as a wimp and a girl is assumed to be pure, is beyond me. And yet a guy is expected in many cases to go spread his seed all over the world, because that is what men do, and men should be proud to have as many sexual partners as they can. However, when a woman is active sexually it is frowned upon and she is slaughtered with such hateful, derogatory assumptions. There's a lot of stereotypes and expectations that are just purely ridiculous, that really need to be banished from this world, including this one. That you're a wimp/loser if you haven't had sex, and you're waiting, or say you are waiting. Seriously, for those who claim others are wimps/losers, etc. you have some insecurity issues of your own to deal with.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 353 (view)

Is it ok for your GF to hang out with Ex boyfriends? Posted: 4/11/2009 7:47:47 PM
It can be a sticky situation, that I will admit. .. kinda going through that, though I trust him completely. It is hard for anyone to completely get rid of a relationship. Thing is, some people still hold onto friendships that were very strong, even after breaking up. There are people out there who apparently can retain a friends only relationship after dating in the past. I don't think anyone has the right to say who she/he can't be friends with. There are certain things or places one can go that would be inappropriate and may raise red flags, but if you truly trust her, and she truly trusts you, there should be no real problems. Yes, there may be insecurities, but if you have a real good thing, don't let something like this get in the way. It is true that they are exes for a reason, but having met a bunch of people who have exes who are all friends, it is strange as all heck, but it happens, and it can stay that way and everyone accept it and have fun, and live a honest life. It's just hard, very hard in the beginning.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 2/9/2009 7:13:49 PM
Past tense for a reason. I would respond yes, because they did take the time to message, regardless of how poorly they presented their message, I would respond. However, I may not take them very seriously...

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Which is HARDER for you.. to give away your body or your heart First Posted: 2/2/2009 12:44:18 AM
I agree with the statement you have heard. You can have a million showers, and it makes it easier to forget you gave your body to another person. But when you give your heart, it doesn't matter how many showers, or personal cleansings you go through. When your heart is involved, it hits the very core of your being, a place where no bandage can reach. In time you do heal, but it happens on its own, it cannot be forced. At least, that's the way I see it.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Putting your friends in detention Posted: 2/2/2009 12:25:53 AM
I would be an unbiased mediator, if that was honestly possible. I would try not to take sides, not unless I absolutely, without a doubt knew one was seriously in the wrong. Even then I would try and work things out between the two of them. If they can't find mature common ground, then I would not take sides. I would just not encourage us all to hang out, until they can resolve things on their own.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Cuddling Posted: 2/2/2009 12:23:53 AM
Cuddling is great clothed or not. Over time if you end up with someone though who isn't jazzed for that stuff because they get hot easily or fidget, well that sucks but ya have to respect that and adapt.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 284 (view)

I am a man and I refuse to shave my pubic hair. Posted: 1/29/2009 11:36:57 PM
If men expect or want women to shave themselves, or wax, or whatever tricky painful method they come up with, then why the heck is it so hard or wrong to want and or expect men to do it too? This goes for both sexes. I do not believe that you should have to ever, unless you truly want to. However, if your partner is willing to do it for you (it's no fun for either sex is it?), then why is it so hard for them to do it as well? No one should demand it. I do not believe men are emasculated who shave, wax, or what have you down there. I actually find them gutsy, because you can really hurt yourself when it comes to down there, if it's not done professionally. Even then I have heard horror stories.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 204 (view)

How can anyone feel comfortable enough to have sex? Posted: 1/29/2009 11:29:34 PM
It's funny how Christian/Catholic teachings have you believe that sex is dirty, and wrong, etc. And yet, that is the way you procreate, and yet, that is what they encourage you to do. Wait until marriage for sex. It's a double standard? Very confusing. They should really be more clear about things... lol I see what you are saying. Thing is, once you're there, and you're either so heated you're ready to have sex, or you're so madly in love with the other person you are with, and you want to express how much you want to be with them, in the most physical, mental, spiritual way possible, then all those teachings about being dirty, and being evil and sinful and all that such, will leave your mind. You may rethink it all over when everything is said and done, but if you're right with yourself, and confident in yourself and your own actions, why the hell would God judge you any differently? That is the way I look at it. There is a lot more carnal things to do in life, besides having sex. Strange how those evil things are made private and accepted among the Christian/Catholic world. That is until the media gets wind of it, and then they relocate a priest or two.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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How long for cunnilingus? Posted: 1/29/2009 11:21:39 PM
Some women take longer. The spot you want to hit, is not as easy to find and pay attention to as it is for a guy. If one thing doesn't work, try something else. Or if you're aware she like certain things, which usually is told by her breathing, and such, then you change it up. Variety may be a nice, depends on the women. Props to ya for being a trooper though. :)

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 126 (view)

lmao I'm in the wrong? Posted: 1/29/2009 11:06:20 PM
What a sleaze bag! Nice way of testing him, hahaha. Classic. Unfortunately there are people out there who cannot be honest, and for those unfortunate persons, we have to test them. If they fail, it's better they failed our tests, instead of finding out weeks/months/years later they were cheating, lying, sleazy people. ^_^ Men, you are free to do this too.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Advice (Repost because posted originally in wrong place) Posted: 1/29/2009 11:00:20 PM
First, you are a great person for what you have done, how you stuck by her and made so certain you would not scare her. But unfortunately, this is not as easy an issue as if she were a druggie or an alcoholic. Unfortunately this strong issue she has was born from a very, very disgusting thing that happened to her, that tore at her soul and because of that she may never allow herself to completely trust anyone, ever again. It happens too often. It is hard to say goodbye, but the first step to helping someone cannot be met if that person is not willing to help themselves, and actually wants the help. Unfortunately over time she has developed a security blanket that is crippling her life, and she doesn't even know it. You were an admirable person through all of this, and to stay a friend is possible, but you have to set boundaries, and stick to them. Otherwise, nothing will change. Unless you have the courage and certainty that you want to end all ties with her, that may be hard, but it may be in your better interest. It is very hard to go on with your own life, when someone you love/loved is hurting themselves so badly, but sometimes it has to happen that way. Over time it will become easier for you to let go, if that is what you choose to do.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

strange situation Posted: 1/29/2009 10:46:00 PM
I would express how you feel to him, and how you notice a change in his behaviour, and it feels like he is pulling away and loosing interest. Let him know you are not, if you in fact are not, and ask him if there is something on his mind? Let him know that if he needs his space you respect that, but you would like to know what is going on. A follow up to that, if he does not communicate with you at all, then you may need to call it quits or have a break. I would advise strongly, do not waste years on someone like this. If this is naturally them, you cannot change them. Maybe it's a side you just didn't see yet. Maybe he's the sort of guy that has too much pride/immaturity to talk about his problems, or express what he is thinking and or feeling. If that is the case, I would bail out before you get too hung up on him.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Which one do you prefer??? Posted: 1/29/2009 10:44:03 PM
Well, if I cannot have the billionaire... Then I'd have to choose a self-made millionaire. Those sorts of millionaires have proven they know how to manage money, earn money, and keep money. They likely save a lot too. Which means you're less likely to get lost in that pitfall known as debt.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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ruining a relationship Posted: 1/29/2009 10:39:37 PM
Borderline nutcase. I would realize the red flags are building up, and not going away. Wow. I am so sorry you had to go through that, you sound like a modern gentleman. It's too bad this woman hasn't enough confidence in herself to realize when she has found something tangible, instead of focusing on one night stands and all that such. You really do not need someone that obsessive and controlling in your life. If she's like that now, what the heck would she be like if you lived together? She could ask you to go to the store, or you could go and forget to tell her, and you're gone a bit longer then normal because you spot a magazine you want to check out, and then you get home and she freaks on you and has hers, or worse, your bags packed? Wow. Get on your sneakers and run.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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I think I am the woman in our relationship.... Posted: 1/29/2009 10:35:19 PM
Very cute, I do not mean this directed in a harsh way, but people should get over stereotypes and grow with the times. Let the age old stereotypes of the roles men and women play in a relationship be put to rest.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Meet this girl. Dating a few weeks. Questions Posted: 1/29/2009 10:30:48 PM
Have you hung out with her friends more then once? The first time is so her friends can get a feel for you, first impressions and all by an unbias party. If she's had you hang with them more then once, you're probably somebody she'd like to continue seeing. I know you said you're in your 30's, but what does that have to do with having to be intimate? Also, what does her dressing comfortably equate to in your eyes?? Seems like you are not looking for a growing relationship, but maybe a booty call? I could be completely wrong, but it sounds kinda like it. If there is chemistry between hugs and kisses and hand holding, then there most certainly should be with any other form of intimacy that may follow.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Registered Sex Offender?!? Posted: 1/25/2009 7:09:45 PM
Wow, that was posted in 2005????? I hope she packed her bags, and bailed out. It's one thing to be accused, then maybe it's wrong... but when you are REGISTERED, that is a whole different thing. That is serious. Where on earth do you get registered as a sex offender by grabbing someones bum? I understand you may be listed under pervert, but normally sex offenders I thought, were seriously accused, and proven guilty of horrendous crimes.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Dating Someone I Met Online Posted: 1/25/2009 7:06:27 PM
I would confront the issue... This sounds kinda fishy to me. I would just bring it up in casual conversation.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Something About Stereotyping when Dating Posted: 1/25/2009 7:01:21 PM
I have heard about this stereotype, and I really do not understand it. I am dating someone with a background in engineering, and that is what they're pursuing so... Huh? I just don't get it. I may keep an eye on this thread, not so I can follow the stereotype, because I try not to follow stereotypes in life, but this subject is interesting. Uh, okay stereotype. Why wouldn't you want to date an engineer? If anything, that line of work has so much potential and promise, and usually pays incredibly well. Am I wrong on that?

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Dating after a month...she wants a commitment Posted: 1/25/2009 6:58:22 PM
Do you mean commit as in be dating exclusively, or like marriage?

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 88 (view)

About the Friendship First Posted: 1/25/2009 6:57:00 PM
It all depends, in this instance maybe she was saying, we're just going to be friends, there is no chance of otherwise. But, I for one am a strong believer that the best relationships come out of friendships first, unless you develop a strong friendship while you're dating, then that works too. I've just heard about so many relationships that didn't last, because the two really didn't have that friendship bond, where they truly cared for each other and knew each other so well.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 103 (view)

Is having online sex considered cheating on ur partner..views pls Posted: 1/25/2009 6:53:29 PM
Unless you are having online sex with your partner... Yes, it is cheating. It may not quite be physical, though your heart/head/body is into it, and therefore it is cheating.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Scientists: True love can last a lifetime Posted: 1/25/2009 6:51:57 PM
I would really hope this is factual, but Science changes so much, that we may get a different result of they try this again in twenty years. I really hope this is true.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 1/25/2009 6:48:57 PM
I wish more thought this way. Honestly, if someone is so worried about loosing their partner, then why the hell do they allow themselves to cheat? Unless it was forced upon you, you're a cheater, and did so willingly. How anyone can knowingly cheat on someone they supposedly care for, is beyond my understanding. Frankly, I believe I will never cheat, because I have strong morals and would be far too disgusted with myself, to live with myself if I did.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Not different planets, just different neighborhoods Posted: 1/25/2009 6:45:43 PM
I think as long as the stereotype of what a guy is, and what a girl is supposed to be remains as it is, then finding commonalities between the two worlds would be kinda hard. Not everyone bases their life on those stereotypes and lives by them. There are girls who are colder, who hide their feelings, and there are men who are more gentle and express themselves through intimate conversations, about their feelings and all that. A steady balance of both for both worlds might be nice. Not too much either way.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 116 (view)

question about interracial dating ... Posted: 1/24/2009 2:59:18 AM
For me it is not racism or prejudice of any sort. I just happen to be absolutely enthralled/fascinated/adoring of the East Asian race as a whole culture. So naturally I am more attracted to East Asians. People have preferences based on so many things, I believe it is individual to that person, and there's no real way to figure why everyone is like that, because not everyone is the same.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Am I reading too much into her texts? Posted: 1/24/2009 2:48:26 AM
Texting, unless you two are going to be thorough about it, is not the best way to communicate over plans and that sort of thing. If you were invited, she should have asked you. Nothing should or can be assumed from "I am going to a party...." besides just that.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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am i being used or what? Posted: 1/24/2009 2:45:30 AM
A lot of relationships start before any real "dating" occurs, and then once that happens, not much "dating" occurs then afterwards. If you want to go out someplace different, maybe suggest it would be nice to do that sometime this month, or next.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

A word between like and love Posted: 1/14/2009 11:37:58 PM
Has it been said yet? "adore" "infatuated"

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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long distance... Posted: 1/14/2009 11:22:37 PM
I believe long distance relationships can work, I have to. I am not sure though how long the distance is between your residence and the guy you have feelings for is. I believe, if you two care for each other that much, you will find a way to make it work. If it works, then perhaps it was meant to be. It sounds like there is a strong possibility since you two had a friendship that has potential to develop into more. I think those are the stronger relationships, when you have become close friends first. As others have likely stated, communication is key to making things work, no matter how short or long the distance in a relationship is. Well, whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/11/2009 11:05:16 PM
Whatever happened in the past when women removed all their bustles, corsets, waist cinchers, etc? Well the corsets and cinchers, if they were real bone, would do their damage, but when they're not. No one has a waist like that, or boobs that compacted together, not unless maybe they are fake. I do understand what you are saying though. I would say if the guy has issues with it, meh. Find a guy who doesn't. If a woman wants to use body shapers, etc. she shouldn't feel guilty about it. Many have worn padded bras, push up bras and water bras for the longest time. Nobody seems to be complaining about that so far.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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First Meeting Place Posted: 1/11/2009 11:01:22 PM
Yeup, a guy from this very site nagged the heck out of me, a few actually, about meeting, and I said if I was to ever consider it (never became comfortable with the idea) then it would be a public place. One accused me of, accusing him of being some psycho, and acted like he was very offended. Apologized later on, and acted like he understood why I would say a public meeting place. But still, it was a HUGE red flag. If a guy/girl will not meet you in a public place, and I mean absolutely refuses and even goes as far as to make you feel guilty for not trusting them etc. THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME. You could actually be playing with your life.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Exclusivity Posted: 1/11/2009 8:55:51 AM
NEVER ASSUME. TALK/ASK. The two of you will either agree, or not agree to an exclusive relationship. You could say something like, "I don't want to make assumptions, but you're the one I want to be with. Are we dating exclusively?" or something like that. Get it out in the open, and say it in a way so that you do not sound like you were assuming anything, because you could be wrong no matter what you assume, if that person does not feel the same way, or is offended or surprised by the question, then hopefully they won't be bothered that they were asked, when they may have assumed exclusivity because of the intimate level the relationship has reached.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Profile or pic? Posted: 1/10/2009 12:12:40 PM
It all depends if you're trying to attract someone whose more visually inclined, or someone who actually likes to read and research. Heh. Personally I think profiles are better when they do expose some info about the person, instead of just something like "ask and you will receive" or something. I only do that on websites when I don't want people to know personal info about me, like gaming forums and that. I don't care what they think of me, and I only make a profile cause I have to. But for this site, a profile is your selling point. It's like a resume/portfolio all in one. A decent picture, and a decent amount of info about you will attract the right sort of person, well hopefully. Sometimes that is not always the case. It has potential to catch the attention of someone who shares similar interests and views on things, if that is included in your profile. Never expose everything though, you want some mystery and to have something they can find out about you that is intriguing after you meet too.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Is it OK to say that I still love my ex? Posted: 1/10/2009 11:52:42 AM
Naturally, because I am a woman, I would have the thought of uh... jealousy in the back of my mind. Especially if I was uncertain if the guy I was with, could ever love me, knowing full well he was in love with someone else, once. They say no one can replace your first love, your apparent true love, and the love you had for them would never compare or be as strong and as intimate for anyone else you fall in love with. Is this true? I suppose if it ended smoothly and respectfully this applies, but so many people seem to have ill feelings towards their exes. I can't imagine those sort "love" their exes out of any respects. I understand the concept of love out of respect for the mother of your children. It does make sense, and there are most likely more men out there like you. There is nothing wrong with that. So, in a nutshell. I'd be both jealous (sorta/at times) with knowledge of the guy loving his ex out of respect, also understanding of why, and trust the reassurance that there is no chance of a rebound with the ex. I mean, if there was clearly no hints or clues of that happening.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Ever heard the saying.... Posted: 1/10/2009 9:31:57 AM
Some people who have been a cheater, be it once or numerous times have gone to therapy or seen someone about it, and have apparently really turned themselves around -- to quote loosely, Cheaters, hosted by Joey Greco. Most though, never shed that slime skin they have, and continue to cheat, and then eventually in life they wonder why they are alone and old, and why no one trusts them.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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What do you do? Posted: 1/10/2009 9:29:27 AM
Confront the person, ask them why they insist on trashing your reputation/name. Confront them in front of EVERYONE. And do it in the most mature, calm way. That way, the ex whose talking bad will look like a real... After confronting them, if they have not quit, then all you can really do is ignore them. I mean unless it is life threatening or you live in one of those states that allow you to sue for slander of someones name, then there's not too much you can do unfortunately. *holes will be *holes. They should certainly know better then to talk bad to children. Ugh...

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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Why So Long???? Posted: 1/9/2009 4:22:50 AM
I had a fair amount of pushy guys on pof messaging me like that. Some didn't show their true colours until I let them add me on messenger. Deleted them shortly after. ^_^ People who are pushy like that, I don't get it. Maybe they have a deadline? Like they must have a girl/guy by 9 o'clock on Sunday. It was a huge turn off for me as well. Consequently, I have never met any of them in person. The guy I finally met was nothing like them. He actually spoke with me for quite awhile before I brought up the idea to meet.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Still online? Posted: 1/9/2009 4:08:13 AM
I would say that I agree with a previous poster. You are starting to sound needy and paranoid, though I understand where it is coming from. When you've come out of a bad relationship, and already have trust issues, you naturally keep up your guard and try and be as cautious as you can be, in hopes you will not get hurt again. Life is a gamble, more so at times of dating then other times. So, as early as it is with you two, I would say you should try and relax and enjoy the time you have. Wait and see if it progresses to something more tangible. If the two of you have been dating for over a month, and you still see he is on this site a lot, or any other "dating" site, then I would inquire about it. Because it could be innocent, like visiting the forums (which is what I do), but what he is doing may also not be innocent. If the two of you last that long, and he does continue to visit this site, there is the option to test his trust. Ask if he will show you the messages he gets on here, and what he sends out. Only a few of the most recent ones should alert you to any wrong doings behind your back. That is, if you last for a month or more, and it really seems serious. One thing that is best to do, though I have no idea if you have done this yet, and it may be too early in the relationship to do this? Is to establish whether or not you two are dating exclusively, just the two of you, no one else in the mix. If he agrees to this, and you as well, then you're in a committed relationship for however long it lasts. Now may be too soon to ask that. However, I brought up the question to my guy at a very awkward time, and I have no regrets.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

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On dating the friend of an Ex Posted: 1/8/2009 10:19:25 AM
If all parties involved (two who like each other plus the ex) agree that it is alright, and give their best wishes towards it, there's potential that things will not start on such shaky ground. If the ex does not agree upon this, or the girl who is friends with the ex doesn't, etc. this may never work. Personally, I do not believe friends should date ex's friends, etc. It can be so complicated, and there's so many other people out there who are not friends with your ex's, why tread on that territory. There are however relationships like that that work.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Ladies...now the rug can match the drapes...... Posted: 1/8/2009 10:11:01 AM
Okay it's bad enough that guys want you to be clean shaven (COMPLETELY) and now this?? Oh my. The guy can dye his too right? HAHHAHAA Well, hopefully whoever does this tries out the strand/patch test first, so they don't get any allergic reactions. And hopefully this product has been fully tested, and has no side effects, and is completely hygenic. Otherwise, the results could be horrendous.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

no sex = no dating? Posted: 1/8/2009 10:03:11 AM
True condoms and the pill, etc. are not 100%, but you do bring up the percentage by having the guy use a condom, and having yourself use protection at the same time. However, nothing is 100% guaranteed in life. If there is a guy who is worth you being with, he will wait for when you are ready, whether it be after marriage or not. It is your right to make the decision. If he cannot wait, he's not worth your time. I believe you will find someone, although it may be a hard venture. Just be true to yourself, your morales and your beliefs, and you'll find what you seek when life is ready for you to. Best of luck.

Autumn Marie

Joined: 7/11/2007

Msg: 861 (view)

Is oral sex cheating? Posted: 1/8/2009 9:55:54 AM
To each his/her own... But I believe if you are receiving from someone, or giving any stimulation to someone, that goes beyond friendship and innocence, it's cheating. Example: Foot and or back massage versus hand job or oral. Two could be innocent and friendly, two are clearly not innocent or just friendly!! Many may not agree, or many may. I have no idea. Frankly, I'm amazed these days what is NOT considered cheating. Text I consider cheating. Depending upon what is typed, and the feelings and thoughts of the sender and receiver. Why the hell should you go to someone else for oral stimulation when you're in a relationship? UNLESS it's an open relationship, I guess it'd be acceptable, but wow.

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