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Joined: 7/16/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Not sure what to do??/ Posted: 8/16/2007 8:40:02 PM
Wow. He calls you names. He says what do you want/need when you call him Doormat phase? The first date should be the last date. Enough said.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Would you do you? Posted: 8/16/2007 8:13:56 PM
Yes I would....and I have and I will again! I don't know or care how others see me, I don't think I am great or anything and I'm not into myself, but yeah.:)

Joined: 7/16/2007

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WHAT DO YOU DO Posted: 8/15/2007 8:26:17 PM
He is using you for sex. At least at this point in the relationship. You go there and do what?? Talk, watch a movie, have sex, sleep, wake up and leave cause he says he's got work to do? I'm not being mean and I may be wrong, but just going by what you said that is what the scenario sounds like. Ask him to take you out to dinner or something and then don't put out every time. See what happens. If he won't take you anywhere then don't mess with him unless you just want to be his release.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with? Posted: 8/12/2007 8:49:10 PM
You can, but why would you? If you truly love someone you might feel attracted to lots of people, but you wouldn't ever actually go after it. I couldn't anyway.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Never marry someone you wouldn't want to be divorced from. Posted: 8/12/2007 8:45:31 PM
The stats are sad, but true aren't they? First husband I was 19 yrs old, if not for having my daughter from that marriage I would have skipped it. Second one (and last one) I would have done it all over agian. We are best friends and he is a wonderful exhusband. I love him forever and will always be there for him as he will be for me and my daughter. He's a good man.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Eyes closed?? Posted: 8/11/2007 10:28:48 PM
""Paint eyeballs on your eyelids, that way you wont feel bad and you can keep them closed... "" HAHAHAHAHA!!!!! Now that is funny! I think I close them (trying to remember, here) or half close them more like it.

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Dog Person anyone? Posted: 8/11/2007 9:40:57 PM
I do! I do! :) I trust my dogs (all five of them) with my life and the lives of my family. They are so loyal, loving, happy, protective and funny. Why can't I find a man like them? Who knows. If my dogs don't like someone, I know that person is bad. I gauge my dogs reaction to strangers. Someone said " dogs have died waiting for their owners to come back, but no one has ever died waiting for their dog to come home". Dog spelled backward is God. :)

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Love others for their faults... Posted: 8/11/2007 9:08:24 PM
Nobody is without fault (except me) but it depends on how big and ugly those faults are. If I truly loved someone I could learn to live with some things they couldn't change. IF the things they couldn't change were minor irritations. It depends on the weight of the fault and what the consequences would be.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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do younger women want to be pounded like a jack hammer? Posted: 8/11/2007 5:11:58 AM
Didn't want it when I was young and wouldn't want it now. It's no fun when your head hits the headboard or wall over and over again. There's a difference between 'getting into it' and 'just going at it'. In my experience it seems the guys that did that were trying to prove something....what that would be I have no clue.

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Guy Roomate. Posted: 8/10/2007 9:42:15 PM
I had a guy roomate once, separate bedrooms- weren't friends beforehand, but got along well. Weird at first, had one bathroom and he did walk in on me while I was in the tub, but you learn to be more careful or you don't. I'm neat, he was a pig.... If you're already good friends it should be ok. You never reallllllly know someone till you live with them though!

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Wierd attractions Posted: 8/7/2007 10:31:35 PM
A guy's smile His teeth (not perfect, but not gross either) how he moves his eyebrows when he talks hip bones adam's apple (oh my God...YES) tensing up his lower jaw (another big turn on) dimples or scars around his mouth (I have no clue why) cleft in his chin squinty eyes (not naturally squinty, but in expression) hairy chest belly button and hairline receding hairline (love it) guy with legs crossed (ankle on knee, not like women cross legs)

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talking to your ex Posted: 8/7/2007 12:03:54 AM
Look, you were friends before he got a girlfriend. He doesn't have a problem with it, she might, but that can be worked out. Why lose what you had/have because his current girlfriend might not understand? Show her there is nothing to be jealous about.

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you're fired! Posted: 7/30/2007 10:47:05 PM
Jesus! They bleeped out c-o-c-k-tails???? OY!!

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you're fired! Posted: 7/30/2007 10:44:07 PM
Oh yeah. When I was about 18 years old I worked in this really upscale restaurant. We were supposed to carry these big ass trays on our shoulder to the table and someone would set up a tray jack (the rack to set it down on) next to the table. Well, I had a table of about 8 people..they all ordered steak and lobster tails with drinks from the bar oc course. Got them their drinks, put their order in etc. Brought this huge tray with 8 dinners and sides out on my puny shoulder (mind you I was 5'3" and about 102 lbs) just made it to the table and there was no jack. Asked for help from the manager standing there, no dice. One of the customers jumped up to help me out and knocked the whole tray over on the floor. I felt like I could die, he was beside himself, everyone at the table was trying to clean it up and saying "sorry" etc. bus people helped me clean it up, I got them some more****ails, said I would re-order their dinners and when I went to get their "new" dinners, the cook just rinsed off the food and re-arranged it on the dishes. I got sick to my stomach and told him I couldn't serve them the food that was all over the floor. The manager got mad and demanded that I get back out there and give them their dinner ( hair stuck to it and all?) I refused to do it and he fired me. I started to cry, cause I am a girl and I got fired...on the way out I made a point to tell the people I was leaving and why. They said we're leaving too and the man gave me a fifty dollar bill as a tip. That was so nice and it made me feel so much better about getting fired! HA That was the only job I got fired from (thank God)

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Men With Excessive Facial Hair Posted: 7/27/2007 9:23:21 PM
I love goatees!! I have no clue why. I also like that reallly thin sideburn-going into-beard look too. Like that guy from Everlast (what's his name) has. Not excessive facial hair or body hair......I literally gag if I see a guy with a bunch of back hair. I know that wasn't part of the question, but I couldn't hold back :)

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Women- why can't you be friends with a guy, after you break up ? Posted: 7/27/2007 9:12:53 PM
I can only speak for myself, but I have stayed friends with a few of mine. The ones that didn't shit on me, that is. If we had an amicable break-up we will most likely stay friends. I love deeply when I let someone in my life and I might not want them sexually anymore and vice versa, but I want their friendship always.

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sacrificing your ideals for casual sex.... Posted: 7/21/2007 9:39:07 PM
You need to get laid so you can go on with your f'ing life? Go on with your f'ing life and be selective, you will find someone special who will sleep with you. Unless you have some really bad hygiene or a full body oozing rash you will get laid. Trust me.

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Forming relationships while being gone 80% of the time Posted: 7/21/2007 9:21:07 PM
Oh a thought, maybe you could offer to fly her in wherever you are at? Being a pilot, you can afford it and probably have many perks, no? I wish I would have taken him up on going to Hawaii when I had the chance. Boy, what a loser (not him, I meant meeeeee)

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Forming relationships while being gone 80% of the time Posted: 7/21/2007 9:14:52 PM
You could just date stewardesses? No. Depends on if the woman can handle the separation. Some women like/need a lot of space and if you prove to be faithful over time it won't be an issue. I dated (had a LTR) a Navy guy for a year what was stationed in Hawaii. We'd call eachother numerous times a day (he was on base/ hospital duties) He'd fly in whenever he had leave and we'd spend a few days or a week together depending on his schedule. It was HARD ( I mean being apart) heh. It worked for a year and came to an end when I found out he had a wife and kids in another state. I felt terrible and I still do. Be honest. It is very hard to maintain, but if someone wants ya bad enough you two will find a way. Good luck (I typed good lick by accident) I'm really tired :(

Joined: 7/16/2007

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A woman's sexual past Posted: 7/21/2007 8:57:40 PM
No, I wouldn't want to know how many he had, but maybe what they DID to him that made them memorable. I wouldn't want my boyfriend to ask me "how many guys have you slept with?" What's the magic number? None? One? Ten? How about the truth? For the record, I would tell him if pressed, it's not a lot and I am comfortable with it and I doooo hope the numbers grow at least by one :) Race does not matter to me, boob size either and he shouldn't ask about the size of my past relationships either. None of our business to eachother. Does not matter anymore because we are not there anymore. If he wanted to share something important to him or funny that would be cool with me.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Missionary position and woman on top Posted: 7/21/2007 8:07:53 PM
I personally love man on top because I can see his face, kiss, bite his neck and ears, smack his ass, pull him closer, wrap my legs around his waist or shoulders, dig my nails in...that's just my preference. That feels normal and loving and sexy. Other positions of course, but no shit,piss,puke,nothing up the boo-boo. Kinky sex can be dangerous and embarassing.....ask any radiologist what kinds of things they've found shoved up someone haha.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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scent of a woman.....or man Posted: 7/21/2007 7:44:55 PM
Oh yeah. Rose scented perfume reminds me of my grandma and some kind of powder, can't think of the name of it...brings back memories. I LOVE perfume (just a little dab here and there and SOMETIMES there too..) change it up, always wear it or Victoria's Secret body lotions...they are great. :) On men, yes I love a man that smells good. I was in an elevator once with a man that smelled so freaking good, I almost jumped his bones, but that is not like me. I wanted to though...just from the cologne he was wearing and he wasn't my type either. I am a very scent oriented person I guess. :)

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Something that I've always wanted to know Posted: 7/20/2007 11:13:35 PM
"I don't wear makeup and dress nicely. I live around farmland and people would laugh their asses off to see someone dressed up. I guess if I had to say a reason to look nicish and presentable, I like to look in the mirror and feel confident" Oh yeah! Around here they would ask "who died?" I always try to look presentable, but I need to be comfortable...jeans/tees. Makeup if I'm going out, but other than that I don't care what other people think.

Joined: 7/16/2007

Msg: 167 (view)

Why do men stare at womens boobs & think we don't notice ??? Posted: 7/20/2007 3:51:08 PM
I don't know, but it's annoying. I don't have a "big chest"..C cup, but I was at a job interview once and the man preparing to interview me looked me in the eye when I reached out to shake his hand, then just literally talked to my tits. At first I tried to answer his mundane questions without getting to nervous/annoyed and I crossed my arms, but it only made my cleavage obvious.... "blah, blah, blah can you start on Monday?" I said "Well, let me ask the girls....Sherry (my left breast) would you be free on Monday? Ok, and Mary (my right breast...don't make fun of Mary, she's slightly smaller than her sister) would you be free to start on Monday? Monday's NOT good for either of you?" then I just walked out of the office. He never said a word.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Where did you meet your last boyfriend/girlfriend? Posted: 7/19/2007 8:31:29 PM
I met him through friends, we married 6 months later and divorced after 6 years. We continue to be great friends so all is not lost. :) Last boyfriend at a football game. I usually meet guys at work ( I work in a hospital) and through friends, although their "ideal guy" sometimes isn't mine....but their bf wants a date for his friend.

Joined: 7/16/2007

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Do you ever get jealous? Posted: 7/19/2007 7:53:14 PM
In my 20's I admit to being very jealous out of insecurity, imaturity...etc. I don't get jealous that often now, but I still do in certain situations. If I am dating a guy and someone is flirting with him as long as he's not responding other than finding it obvious/funny....it's cool with me. If I get up to use the bathroom let's say and he's getting her number when I get back...then I'd just thank her for doing me the favor of finding out he's a jerk and leave.

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