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ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Why is friends first so bad? Posted: 7/10/2009 6:07:00 AM
Friends first aint a bad thing i have alot of male friends and i have had relations with sum 2 and we still get on great together but every women is diffrent, I mean there is sum that if they did ask i wouldnt as because if anything went wrong and you split up and its a clean break then you havent even got the friendship left

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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My son fell in Love for the first time Posted: 2/13/2009 4:35:56 AM
You have to let your son make his own mistakes all you can do is be there and help him when it all goes wrong

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Ex-husband driving me to surgery appoinment (is it wrong?) Posted: 2/13/2009 4:33:42 AM
On that one people might freak out you but the kids will see that theyre dad still looks out for theyre mum and wants her to be well for them, it also shows that you are still able to get each others help when its needed

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Are their women out there that would like a male friend only? Posted: 2/13/2009 4:29:36 AM
Yeah, but in any friendship everything is equal.

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 141 (view)

Girlfriend has a GUY friend..... what do you think? Posted: 2/13/2009 4:27:43 AM
Women can have guys as friends but bounders have to be set, whats the idea of hiding it from his wife simply because he will be found out and it will be worse for him.

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 471 (view)

Can women really go without sex???? Posted: 12/23/2008 6:05:34 AM
All women are diffrent not all can keep there legs shut

ClaireStewart

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Msg: 36 (view)

Should I stay or should I go? Posted: 12/23/2008 6:00:20 AM
Too many excuses i think he is just stringing you along

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Age difference too much? Posted: 12/23/2008 5:55:20 AM
Age difference shouldnt be a problem if you like each other, with an ex of mine there was 18 yrs between us x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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me and my x girlfriend Posted: 10/22/2008 2:01:32 AM
Honestly i think she is cheating or she has just got bored of being with the same person all those years n felt she wanted a change, but he cant be much of a friend if he is seeing your woman behind your back

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man? Posted: 9/19/2008 4:23:39 AM
Reading people comments about that its a failure in the making could be wrong when i was 18 i was seeing a guy of 34 yrs old and we worked out ok but then it went pair shaped after i moved in with him!!! After 9 months i left and had to rebuild my life, so i dont personally dont think she is missing out on anything if she is happy

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Should I stay with him? Posted: 9/6/2008 12:14:03 PM
5 months into a relationship is far too early to be thinking of marriage and thinks i think you should both get to know each other abit more before making life changing disishions

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Can you have sex with a man and not be together, but still be friends? Posted: 8/26/2008 4:23:34 AM
I think its fine as i have had a couple of relationship like that in the past and it was enjoyable while it lasted

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Is it okay for a woman to hit a man? Posted: 8/1/2008 3:21:07 AM
I would never condon any sort of hitting of a man or woman but if a man or a woman hit out then i do think they deserve to be hit back x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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WRITING TO PRISON PENPALS..YR THOUGHTS Posted: 8/1/2008 3:18:39 AM
To be honest i think she could be with you to pass the time but i think if she has never met the male in question then you have nothing to worry about!

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Big and bold girls Posted: 7/15/2008 5:13:13 AM
That aint true at all am not big big but am not small... My opion is that guy has no respect for himself or his wife if thats what he thinks

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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If the apology were sincere enough, would you take back your ex? Posted: 7/15/2008 5:10:23 AM
No he hurt you once he will do it again

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Am I wrong for always focusing on the past Posted: 7/7/2008 4:21:20 AM
Holding onto the past is only going to hold you back the best thing to try and do is put the past behind you and try making a fresh start.

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Girlfriend not affectionate Posted: 7/7/2008 4:16:48 AM
Out of complete honesty i doubt that she has feelings for you, i have been in a place where you are now, and he was loving and everything else and i just got fed up with the fact he was always showing affection, in the end we split as it couldnt take it anymore and feel out of love with him. Try and make a comprmise if possible that you are both happy with x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 359 (view)

18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man? Posted: 6/23/2008 3:28:03 AM
I had a relationship where there was nearly 30 yr age gap it might work but i can see it failing there is a number of reason as to why she is with this man it could maybe be that she is scared of growing up and still wants a father figure in her life or she just thinks that guy her age aint worth the hassle

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 215 (view)

Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that? Posted: 6/23/2008 3:23:56 AM
Most of my mates are male and its just that i get on better with males than i do females, and yes there has been a couple that i have been attracted too and they have felt the same but it you value your friendship then you dont do anything about it, yes we always look out for each other. Plus i understand men more as im always around them

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 130 (view)

Difference between Making Love & Fcking Posted: 6/11/2008 6:55:22 AM
Yeah there is a big diffrence a **** is wild and passionate with no feelings attached where as love making is slow and tender and it shows the person you are with that you really care

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 101 (view)

Anyone else get really bitchy... Posted: 6/11/2008 6:53:15 AM
I hear ya i have been the same but i get over it now x

ClaireStewart

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Virgin at 26? Posted: 6/11/2008 4:41:12 AM
Here being a virgin at your age is amazing i wish i waited and im 20 i know a few ppl alot older than you and they are virgins its best to keep until u feel ready

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

Your Pet or YourRelationship? Posted: 6/11/2008 4:37:14 AM
A pet is for life not just for christmas

ClaireStewart

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Is It Possible To Become Gay? Posted: 6/10/2008 4:44:16 AM
Its called being confused

ClaireStewart

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Should I give up on him? Posted: 6/9/2008 7:06:54 AM
I think from what u have said the guy loves you but at the same time he is depressed and maybe also scared of commitment of moving in together as it is a big step, so personally i wouldnt give up on him just yet. just tell him you will be there no matter what, but you think you should slow things down and start again, seperate beds and no sex for a few weeks or whatever long you want seems to work. i hope you get through this togetger as a couple x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 305 (view)

The mind of an abuser Posted: 6/3/2008 1:22:57 AM
I think some people can control it but others cant!!!! Its all do with if they can undermind the person they are with i think x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Which is the worst form of cheating? Posted: 5/16/2008 5:06:35 AM
Both are as bad as each other

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Wife wants me to find a friend with benifits Posted: 5/16/2008 5:04:19 AM
My ex told me the same thing. I done it and it was the wrong thing to do it just wrecks the relationship and trust that you have with your current partner/wife/husband. I think at the end if the day if you are that frustrarted use your hand

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Would u re-locate if asked by someone u were serious 4? Posted: 5/16/2008 4:59:39 AM
No i would too much hassle, i done it and within 9 nines i was back in Scotland

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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She is a complete mindf*uck Posted: 5/13/2008 3:55:09 AM
ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT. I'm sorry but i think the best thing is to move on and stay with the woman you are with, as now that your ex has broken your trust how could you ever trust her again? The lack of trust in any relationship will just tear you both apart

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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When is a good time to walk away.... Posted: 5/13/2008 3:49:44 AM
I think you should try putting your feelings a side and work on your friendship than your feelings because if you dont you will lose a very good friendship by the sounds of it and am sure you wouldnt want that? as they says whats for you wont go by you, so if its meant to be it will happen in time x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Can men and women be friends without sex? Posted: 5/6/2008 5:15:07 AM
Yes you can it all depends on the people

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Your first love... Posted: 4/22/2008 5:24:55 AM
Lifes hard but you seem like a nice guy so its going to be her that loses in the end

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 4/22/2008 5:17:44 AM
He maybe a great guy in all but i would tell him to sod off as i have been in the same posistion as your friend, my ex and i had and arugument and he txted me after 9 months of not talking and said get your weight back down to a say 12 and i will get back with u, by that point i was a size 10, we got back together and i moved to england to be with him but then i left as it wasnt working. If your friend is happy with in her body then tell her to do what makes her happy not whats going to make him happy.

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Men in their 30's with no children Posted: 4/22/2008 5:09:09 AM
Alot of the time women want kids but in your case it has been diffrent, maybe asking your wife to leave was a bit as you could have looked at other things like adopting and fostering, i know it wouldnt be the same as having your own kids but at least you would have given another child a better start in life x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 264 (view)

Never married & no kids Posted: 4/22/2008 5:04:17 AM
I wouldnt question anything as there could be a number of reasons why they havent married or have no kids x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Parents giving sex talk and im 24. Posted: 4/22/2008 5:00:25 AM
I would tell my parents where to go. your old enough to make your own choice and marriage aint everything these days, yeah respsect your mum and dad and theyre wishes but just say to them that you are old enough to make your own choice and reassure them that you use protection x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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One for the girls.... Oral sex after intercourse Posted: 4/22/2008 4:52:20 AM
I dont find it that great a deal to do but i do make him wash before doing it x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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SEX WHEN THE WOMAN IS HAVING HER PERIOD. Posted: 4/22/2008 4:49:26 AM
Personally i tryed it and thought it was horrible it was too wet and messy but yeah i do agree that most us women want it harder at the time of the month but thats maybe because we get alot more hornier round that time.

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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No sex outside marriage? what would you think? Posted: 4/21/2008 6:25:08 AM
I agree with leeanne. Its a double standard but its up to you at the end of the day if you can last without the sex that long then good luck

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Being Honest about your Past Posted: 3/20/2008 7:58:12 AM
If your boyfriend cant handle the fact that you had a life and a past before him then he has to grow up, every1 has a past and if there new partner cant handle that then that is his/hers problem, you should be able to open up to ur partner then being scared to open up an say, if he wants to know what happend in ur past tell him to grow and act like a man instead of getting upset it about as everyone has a past

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Being Honest about your Past Posted: 3/20/2008 7:58:03 AM
If your boyfriend cant handle the fact that you had a life and a past before him then he has to grow up, every1 has a past and if there new partner cant handle that then that is his/hers problem, you should be able to open up to ur partner then being scared to open up an say, if he wants to know what happend in ur past tell him to grow and act like a man instead of getting upset it about as everyone has a past

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 153 (view)

single men in their 30s living alone with a dog Posted: 3/13/2008 5:48:51 AM
I think for guy to live on his own with or without a pet, its amazing coz they pay all there own bills do there own washing and everything else, they dont rely on women to do everything for them which i have seen and been there when it is happening, i think modern relationship/marriages work that way aswell if u live apart, as it means you still have your own space

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Marriage vs. Living Together - your views and why? Posted: 1/29/2008 3:03:14 AM
I would say that you are better living apart. All u get is greif and moaned at.

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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I want you to come home. And mommy cries. Posted: 1/29/2008 3:01:15 AM
I think that is a hard one but i would just say that you both love her all the same even tho you dont live in the same house,and that u could arrange it with her mum, that u could get regular access like days out and things as u have brought her up as ur own, because her real day aint around she will always see u as her dad, as for the mother agree to stay friends if thats what u want but dont have a relationship with her x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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Broken hearted too Posted: 12/27/2007 5:11:08 AM
Seems to me that the guy was wanting u all to himself but u had to do the running and he didnt like the fact that your son was nice enough to help his mum see his partner! I mean im 20 yrs and i would help my mum if i could I would just wipe him u can do better than him x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

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how long does a break have to be? Posted: 8/19/2007 10:49:13 AM
I have been in the situation before and it wasnt that long ago,i moved to england from scotland to be with my now ex partner,i never knew any1 where i was apart from him and his family and it was hard,my ex made ever attempt to make me happy which dont get me wrong i was,it took me a while to get use to where i was living and living with my partner,it soon went into arguments and i wasnt allowed to go out without his say so.I also use to come bk to scotland for a weekend every 6 wks or so,and my friends use to txt me from scotland and he would check my phone thinking i was cheating but i wasnt,in the end after both of us going through depression and the problems of our reltionship i went mad and ended it as i couldnt even go to work without being told i was sleeping with sum1 in the work,we tryed sorting the relationship and the problems but it just didnt work.so maybe what im trying to say is try sticking in there and it mgt sort itself out but if u are still having sex stop that for the time being and it could make it stronger x

ClaireStewart

Joined: 7/21/2007

Msg: 1321 (view)

Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met? Posted: 8/4/2007 5:47:37 AM
I know how u feel as this has happened to me i thought i was falling in love with a guy we had been talking to each other for about 3 years... we got on really well and then we met and i moved down to england to be with him and i was living with his family and him,but after 9 months it went wrong and i returned to Scotland,,so yes you can have feelings for someone you havent met but when you do meet just take things slow as people can make out they are something that they arent.. Good Luck Claire x

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