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mz_sunshine

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Just a little help. (take two) Posted: 6/16/2009 7:14:55 AM
Hey, work with what you got...get to know some of the retiree's.....they are bound to have kids/grand kids that are single....you never know. Hit up a few bingo nights:} You're profile is okay, I would work on a new picture...something outdoors or just a bit more natural. And Smile:) that always gets my attention...a great smile goes along way. Happy Dating :P

mz_sunshine

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Why Do Women Live to Text Posted: 6/15/2009 11:18:36 PM
I think texting is fine for short and sweet Q/A type of things....but it may not be the best form of "communicating" with someone. Sometimes I think people have forgotten how to have a conversation because they are so used to texting/tweeting/blogging/messaging. I'm with you CowboyEnuff...they have taken it wayyy too far! ..... Happy Dating :P

mz_sunshine

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Profile help - Constructive Criticism, please! Posted: 6/15/2009 10:01:41 PM
You're pics are good, clear and show you having fun...happy pics:) The description is probably a bit wordy. Just depends on who is reading it, but most woman are going to only read about half of it....then look at you're job and kid status. That's just our nature, we can't help it:) You're job status makes it seem as though you don't have a direction, a job jumper of sorts. But I read you're whole description, so I was able to understand that you are more of a freelance worker/writer type and probably do those other jobs to pay the bills....not necessarily you're "career" You might want to put something like "entrepreneur" in that section, just looks better. Overall, you're profile is fine, you'll do fine on POF. Happy Dating:P

mz_sunshine

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Dinner on the first date? Posted: 6/15/2009 9:32:16 PM
I agree completely. I think a short and sweet meet on the first date is ideal. It gives you a good intro to the person instead of a lot of awkward moments at a long dinner. Long drawn out date 1's usually bring out a lot of Q/A sessions out of nervousness and lack of alot to really talk about. This gives a very awkward feel, like its an interview or something. If there was any chemistry...it may even die out because either party begins to feel like they are on trial or something. Keep it short and sweet...that doesn't always have to equal cheap, but can equal date 2 success. As for you're "date" ...seems like she absolutely did you a favor by showing her true colors. If it acts like and smells like a gold digger....it probably is! Happy Dating :P

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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What does your 30's mean to you ? Posted: 7/30/2008 11:28:41 PM
My 30's have been great so far, 3 years in:) I think the 30's are a great time to be young and have a blast, but with a more mature perspective and idea of fun....sort of the best of both worlds :)

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Jokes, Jokes, Jokes!!!!!! Posted: 7/30/2008 11:16:59 PM
A condom tells a tampon "You always stop my business for a week".....The tampon says back to the condom "Yeah, but when you **** up, I lose my job for 9 months" :P

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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~~Best & Worst Pick Up Lines~~ Posted: 9/20/2007 3:41:13 PM
"Are those your eyes or contacts?" (I was wearing my glasses at the time...lol)

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Life Goes On Posted: 9/20/2007 3:34:00 PM
Well Said....nice poem!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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POF Bottomfeeders Posted: 9/3/2006 11:07:38 PM
Yeah, it's amazing that they don't fathom the possibility that their significant others just might come across their profiles!!! Very sad, but the saddest part is when you see these "bottom feeders" are on several peoples favorites lists.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Getting to know someone on POF Posted: 9/3/2006 10:59:29 PM
A man wanting to meet me, should know that: I'm an intelligent woman looking for a best friend!!!! I like good conversation, the kind of conversation you get lost in and don't realize it's 4 or 5 in the morning. I like a man who is not afraid to tell me what he's thinking and cares to hear what I'm thinking as well. I'm a woman who will treat you like the king that you are and expect to be treated like the queen that I am. A good way to approach me would be to: Just be yourself, be witty and charming, be cute and funny, be shy and reserved, be forward and intriguing....whatever you are, just be you and you'll have my attention!!!! A bad way to approach me would be to: even mention anything sexual....it would definitely be GAME OVER for you!!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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WHY CANT THE BROTHA GET NO LOVE Posted: 8/4/2006 9:46:31 PM
and then there was htown....lmao

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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isn't it obvious? Posted: 8/3/2006 3:30:35 PM
(quote) I am an older white fat boy born and raised right here in Texas .....that's the first problem.... (quote) this is not a jive-hip-hop minority rule country ..... ummmm, what country do you live in....YOU white idiots are the MINORITY now....all the shades of brown rule now....GET USED TO IT~! (quote) this entire country was settled and founded by English speaking white boys ...... You mean it was STOLEN from an innocent group of Native Americans....STOLEN by ignorant English speaking white boys!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Does anyone else feel that dating is a lot of work? Posted: 8/2/2006 11:34:24 PM
Yeah it's work....but isn't anything that's worth it gonna take some effort! I think we make it more complicated than it needs to be (us ladies, that is) We go all out and try to impress men, and by the time it's over we resent them for having to go to such extremes (lol at the fairness in that)....and they probably don't even care about the little detail that we stressed over!!! How boring would dating be if we didn't though....something to ponder!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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WHY CANT THE BROTHA GET NO LOVE Posted: 8/2/2006 11:24:02 PM
*dated** for the OCD spell checkers

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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WHY CANT THE BROTHA GET NO LOVE Posted: 8/2/2006 11:23:01 PM
LMAO at all the ignorant racist comments I just read....it's sad that there are still people out there with those kinds of beliefs....sad, sad, sad. I have date black men, white men and hispanic men and they all have their positive and negative qualities, it has very little to do with race....men are men and women are women, you have bad apples in every bunch, you just have to keep sorting through them and hopefully one day you'll find a good one! As for sirgreatness....your a cutie and i'm sure by now you have had better luck, either on this site or elsewhere....just be patient. Good Luck!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Anyone from Texas HERE ??? If so introduce yourself Posted: 7/16/2006 11:09:31 PM
Kingsville Texas here.....Down South!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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SORRY GUYS HAD TO POST THESE, BUT I STILL LUV YA Posted: 7/16/2006 11:08:28 PM
Why is psychoanalysis quicker for men than for women? When it's time to go back to childhood, he's already there. LMAO>>>>>Loved that one!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Here's a riddle for you Posted: 7/16/2006 11:06:03 PM
Ha, good one, I would have never got it

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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20 dollar Posted: 7/16/2006 11:03:05 PM
HILLARIOUS>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Why do strong women scare men so? Posted: 7/16/2006 10:57:02 PM
I think that some men are intimidated by a woman who isn't "needy". She can be as intelligent and assertive as she wants to be, as long as she makes him feel like he is needed to some extent, everything is fine. It's the primitive caveman syndrome, they have to feel like they are in control of something. Just my opinion!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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is getting cheated on 6 times by the same man and still caring about him ridiculous? Posted: 7/16/2006 10:45:19 PM
And everyone else....stop being so judgemental!!!! If you don't like her choices and can't find anything supportive to say....find another post to read, it's that simple!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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is getting cheated on 6 times by the same man and still caring about him ridiculous? Posted: 7/16/2006 10:42:05 PM
All of this advice is much easier said than done. It's hard when your used to a certain person being in your life, that's understandable. The thing is, that you and your children deserve what I call the "Life after a Loser" It's the best thing in the world and once you get there and you will, eventually, you will feel this tremendous weight lifted and your children will too. The thing is that when your in a chaotic and riduculous situation for so long, it starts to feel normal and until your completely out of it for some time, you don't appreciate peace and quiet again. Just remember that YOU are never so stuck that you can't wiggle your way out of something. Get a plan, get support and GET OUT!!!! You can do it!!! Good Luck!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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IS THERE LOVE AFTER TWO ABUSIVE MARRIGES? Posted: 6/29/2006 9:05:57 AM
Congratulations for getting out of those two relationships, it takes strength and courage....that many people don't have. The best thing you can do is what someone said before, have a GOOD friend screen guys for you. Sometimes we don't even know we are picking losers, we just do!!! So if you have a friend that you trust enough to do that, then try it!! Good Luck

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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when a ex boyfriend wants to have an affair and he is married Posted: 6/29/2006 8:50:21 AM
It is completely understandable to still have feelings for him, he's familiar....BUT....it seems kind of insulting for him to think your good enough to have sex with as "the other woman", but not good enough to be in an exclusive relationship with. All this would do is make you feel like a mess afterwards, because those tiny feelings you have now will multiply into mega feelings after and he will just get his thrill and run back to his wife....so do whats best for YOU and tell him that you have more respect for yourself than that!!! Good Luck!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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so, my son has a brother! what now? Posted: 6/25/2006 9:53:56 PM
Wow, drama drama drama....but let me tell you, the best revenge in the world is making them think that this thing is not bothering you one bit...never let them see you sweat. The bottom line is that this is your son's half brother and you'll have to set aside the circumstances behind the situation and just get past it. I wouldn't even give the friend a second thought, she was just trying to be messy and get under your skin. As for the other mother, she at least apologized for her friend's ignorance....that's a step, so she opened the door to the beginning of a cordial co-parent relationship. So my advice would be to be the mature one and do your best to encourage a positive brotherly relationship for your son's sake. Good luck.....oh and hopefully the "guy" is out of the picture?....

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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3rd Coast Toast, June 9th, Bayfront Plaza Corpus Christi Posted: 6/1/2006 6:28:14 PM
Sounds like some fun at the Bayfront.....ladies, what are you wearing....lol?

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Why can't people at least call when they stand you up??? Posted: 1/29/2006 6:53:25 PM
bright....that's definitely messed up and your absolutely right, what would it have hurt to simply let you know that he changed his mind. The problem is we want rational actions from irrational people, we want consideration from inconsiderate beings. They can't help it, they just don't know any better....sad but true! Live and Learn and keep looking, someone will come along that has an ounce of common courtesy and will show up!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Friend interfering with Relationship....HELP Posted: 1/29/2006 6:46:56 PM
Thanks Ron...and everyone else who offered their advice. I'm gonna kick back before i do anything and try to see what is at the root of this problem. Thanks again, all of the advice was great!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Friend interfering with Relationship....HELP Posted: 1/28/2006 8:45:15 PM
Who knows where she gets the info...I guess she just assumes stuff on her own. She recently started talking to my b/f's brother and that's where she is trying to get info from now, who knows why. At this time, she is just dating different people. Nothing serious or steady. As for going with my gut, the thing is my gut is very confused. It's like she has two sides, the side i like and would consider befriending and then this hateful vindicitive side i could do without. My gut tells me that friends are hard to find, but at the same time with friends like that....you know the rest. At times, i am truly torn between how to feel about this.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Friend interfering with Relationship....HELP Posted: 1/28/2006 6:45:07 PM
Thanks JW....and your right, I have spent alot of time with her and still don't feel entirely that close to her. I mean, i should be able to trust that confiding in her about anything. Shouldnt have to pick and choose what i can and can't talk to her about, if she was a true friend, i guess i wouldn't have to. Thanks

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Friend interfering with Relationship....HELP Posted: 1/28/2006 6:41:47 PM
Thanks Angel....I am gonna start that process and at least take a break from her, she's wayyyy too much drama for me right now. crystalise....your right on about the past experiences and current ones. She has had some major issues with men in the past cheating and in the present treating her like poop, so it makes sense that she might be doing it for that reason. I didn't ask her why, i was so angry and shocked that I just responded with asking her to stay out of it and left it at that. At this point, I still haven't talked to her, so maybe if i do anytime soon, i will ask....but maybe not, cause i'm gonna start the phase out process...this would be a good opportunity to start.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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I need some advice... Posted: 1/28/2006 6:34:26 PM
Your feeling neglected a tad bit and that's normal, when guys change their usual routine, going from spending all their time with you to hardly any, it's hard to understand where they stand. But I think that it's too soon to jump to major conclusions about what this means. The best thing you can do is just be patient, maybe he wants to see if your gonna turn out to be "needy", wanting ALL his time, most guys will be turned off by this. They seem to want girls who have a life of their own, but are willing to work them into to it somehow. I think if he's really a great guy and all else is in place, just step back for a bit and enjoy having him in your life. Best of luck to ya!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Friend interfering with Relationship....HELP Posted: 1/28/2006 6:25:43 PM
How do you phase someone out of your life? That sounds like a good idea, but how exactly is that done?

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Friend interfering with Relationship....HELP Posted: 1/28/2006 6:17:08 PM
Yeah, that's what another friend of mine says about her, that she's selfish and only cares about her own needs. I really don't know why I haven't just moved on...I wish I could have a friend makeover, lol...it's just hard to make new friends these days, and hard to let go of old ones that aren't that great. In a way, I feel like if i let go of the friendship and then things don't work out between me and my b-friend, then I will regret letting this interfere. But at the same time, it might be the best thing to do either way!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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What do you think............. Posted: 1/28/2006 2:09:14 PM
Happy Birthday and congratulations for looking so Grrrrreat! My guess about your man is that he's just clueless in the romance department. Someone suggested sending him a book....I think that might be a good idea....if he makes any effort from there.....then there's a chance, if not...then move on. There's plenty of men that will sweep you off your feet romantically and you deserve ROMANCE...we all do!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Friend interfering with Relationship....HELP Posted: 1/28/2006 2:01:05 PM
Wow.....that was all GREAT advice....THANKS. Okay....Does she have a man...not at the time, she's dating here and there, but nothing serious. We were both at that point for a while and then he came along. Do I still make time for her. I actually do still spend alot of time with her and talk to her all the time. He really doesn't interfere with that at all and is very understanding about me having a life outside of him. Do I complain about him to her....I haven't really had any complaints...I would talk to her about him before, but she would mostly bring the subject up by asking if i had talked to him or done anything with him, that sort of thing. But lately, when she asks, i'll just lie and say i hadn't talked to him, to avoid the "bashing session" that will most likely begin. Were we joined at the hip before....yeah, you could say that. WE did alot of going out and doing the "single" stuff before, which of course slowed down quite a bit when things started getting more serious. But I still make time to do things she likes to do, just not as frequently. Does she have other friends...yeah, but none that are really close or that she hangs out with much. Update: I actually tried the suttle approach to telling her to back off. She emailed me yesterday to let me know that she had talked to his brother (who she has recently become "friends" with) She said she had started asking him questions about my man, like where he was the night before and basically tried to get info. from him about his whereabouts. I was very shocked....cause i certainly didn't ask her to do that and I felt like his brother would assume that I had her spying on him. I was upset and emailed her back and asked that she stop "investigating" through his brother. I said i appreciated the effort, but would rather her not ask him questions about him cause i really didn't want it to get back to my man and make him feel i didn't trust him, since i didn't initiate any of this. Her response was, thats fine, if i find out anything, i just won't tell you!..... I don't know what to think about it...I havent talked to her since then and didn't respond. So now what...I think she has crossed a line here...but I don't know how i'm supposed to proceed!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Friend interfering with Relationship....HELP Posted: 1/26/2006 3:39:45 PM
Okay, I am in a fairly new (6months) relationship and things are going pretty good so far. The only problem is that my best friend seems to be trying to make me mad at him all the time. She picks out any little thing to try to make me have doubt in his trustworthyness. I have been lied to and cheated on in the past, so it's hard not to listen to this, but at the same time, I am trying to start fresh with him and give him a fair chance, without jumping to conclusions everytime she says something. Keep in mind that this is my best friend and of course the time i spend with him now, interferes with time i previously spent with her, so I can understand some of it, but I don't know what to do. I shouldn't have to choose and I don't know how to approach the situation without either ruining the friendship or the relationship. HELP!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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DON'T PUNISH ME FOR WHAT HE DID Posted: 6/29/2005 10:15:42 PM
I think the problem is the "jerks" are more accessible...they're usually "there", nice guys don't usually hang out where woman go out "looking" for guys...like bars and parties. The nice guys are at home, which leaves our options pretty limited to the jerks who actually came out to play. I personally have dated both jerks and nice guys and definitely prefer the nice guy, but WHERE IS HE...it's like finding Waldo in those crazy books...lol. On Topic: As for woman punishing the next guy for what the last one did, that's just wrong, I mean how hard is to comprehend that every relationship will be different and must be given a fair shot. Leave the baggage at his house and move on with a clean slate...that's my motto. Happy Dating to You

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Any one from South Texas here...Corpus Christi, Kingsville, Alice...surrounding area Posted: 6/29/2005 10:06:58 PM
I was just in your neck of the woods this weekend, at a wedding...not my own (thank goodness...lol) I was in McAllen, it was really fun, we even hit Gram Station..that was an experience to say the least, but I had fun. Oh, the wedding was fun too...lol.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Any one from South Texas here...Corpus Christi, Kingsville, Alice...surrounding area Posted: 6/29/2005 2:17:00 PM
Hi Liz...yeah, enjoying my summer too. I have met a couple of people from Corpus, but mostly San Antonio and yeah, Canada is definitely the majority of the site. Well, hopefully we'll get some more locals soon...TTFN.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Any one from South Texas here...Corpus Christi, Kingsville, Alice...surrounding area Posted: 6/28/2005 9:43:39 AM
Hey all, just getting back online, haven't been on in a while. Man, summer is long when you don't have to work...lol. How is everyone....Do we have any new south texans on POF yet!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Too much masturbation... Posted: 6/28/2005 12:03:07 AM
Maybe you just gotta change it up a little, get a different type of toy and some stimulation creams, there are some that are real good at adding that little zing you might be needing. Good Luck!!!

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Any one from South Texas here...Corpus Christi, Kingsville, Alice...surrounding area Posted: 5/7/2005 4:57:25 PM
Your a bit far sweetie...but thanks NEway....

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Any one from South Texas here...Corpus Christi, Kingsville, Alice...surrounding area Posted: 4/30/2005 12:06:50 AM
Your such a sweetie....thanks for the compliments.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Under what conditions would you date a single parent? Posted: 4/24/2005 8:58:53 PM
I would prefer to date a single dad, without conditions about "what kind" of child they have. I guess your getting some negative feedback on the way it sounds, honestly it sounds kind of shallow to base feelings about someone on whether or not children are well behaved. But at least your honest about how you feel about it, so that's a plus. I want to find someone who has children because they would understand the parenting role more so than a person without children would.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Have you got the perfect single parent job? Posted: 4/24/2005 8:51:44 PM
I have gone into teaching this school year, so I would say that is the perfect job being a single parent. We are all on the same schedule all year round. So it's great, plus I love teaching so far...it's really rewarding.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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full-time single dads Posted: 4/12/2005 9:13:30 PM
I have decided that I will only date single dads....because they will understand the whole kids come first thing...I just don't think a guy that does not have children would ever understand or accept coming second to my children....so Single dads in texas...Where are you????

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Any one from South Texas here...Corpus Christi, Kingsville, Alice...surrounding area Posted: 4/9/2005 4:23:08 PM
Yeah, I haven't come across too many local friendly's, but I really like this site so far...hey, coincedence, I am a teacher too.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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kk guys arent any better?? Posted: 4/9/2005 4:19:51 PM
Yeah, the 30+ crowd of single guys are no better....but I say if you can't beat em join em...get some and send their asses home....lol.

deb2005

Joined: 4/3/2005

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Would any of you Ladies date fat guys? Posted: 4/4/2005 8:57:17 PM
Big guys usually have big hearts...I would definitely go for that over skinny and full of himself. Big guys get a bad rap from ladies most of the time, but then those same ladies get stuck with the "pretty" boy that is so apparently more insecure.

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