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123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

Breaking a Date...By Text Message Posted: 11/22/2009 5:11:04 AM
I find this a bit tacky too....If he had time to text, he had time to call...at the least.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

He's still fishing after dating for 4 months... Posted: 11/22/2009 5:01:35 AM
Personally, I don't think we have the right to demand anyone to refrain from communicating with others regrardless of the venue. The two of you have just recently met and while you are both enjoying being with each other and have agreed to be exclusive, that is not a reason to take control of the other person's desire to continue to talk with others (be they male or female). I personally think that demands are very harmful and it would lead me to believe that a man who asked that of me is too possessive. Instead, just enjoy the moment: you have met a great man. you say, who spends time with you and calls you often so why not just enjoy that. Give him the opportunity to continue to get to know you and see if that strong emotional bond develops. Is so, he will elect to remove himself from this site. That is when you will know he has become very serious about your relationship.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

WTH was he thinking? Posted: 11/21/2009 4:42:01 AM
I would have told him that you would do him the favor of looking in the yellow pages for motels/hotels where he might stay if he can't control his drinking............

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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She said im different... Posted: 11/4/2009 5:40:10 AM
If I can't "read" him and he won't open up, then I'm not wasting my time. Simple as that !!!

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

are we all here because we hate the opposite sex??? Posted: 10/30/2009 3:23:11 PM
It's sad that "some" others let the actions of people in the past play into their possible futures or to blame all of one sex for the actions of a few of the same gender. Online dating is not significanly different from regular dating, it seems to me. There are those that you will meet and feel somewhat attracted to only to find that once you begin to get to know them that they have lost their luster; especially after you have spent some time with them. Personally, I give the men that interest me a chance until such time as they may prove they don't deserve my time. I also try to select carefully who I will meet in person after many many phone calls and e-mails. I doubt that anyone is here to "hate' anyone of the opposite gender; what an ridiculous waste of their time. It's probably that they have met a few people that have clouded their opinion of the others they have talked to or met. I think it requires keeping it all in prospective. The same things that happen online happen in real life. It's just the nature of the beast called "dating'.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 44 (view)

Dating a couple people but not having sex at our age Posted: 9/12/2009 5:25:36 PM
I date several people at one time and have done this at periods throughout my life. While I do this, I am not intimate with any of them. But, I will not put my life on hold until I meet the "right" someone. It's fun to date (and,I don't expect the man to pick up every tab). When I meet the "right" man and we develop an emotional and loving bond and collectively want to be exclusive, then it will happen. Until that time, I think it's nice to spent fun times with the opposite gender.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

I need mature advice on restarting a relationship. Posted: 9/12/2009 5:14:39 PM
If you have just gotten back together, I would have tested his "staying power" for the second time before I entered into an intimate relationship with him. I would assume if I were going to share intimacy with someone I would be sure he had the staying power...I hope, though, that everything does work out as you wish...

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 1083 (view)

I caught my date peeing in the shower!! Posted: 8/24/2009 7:17:28 PM
So, what's the problem? Did you know that urine is sterile until it leaves the body...It's probably better for you than the water with whick you shower............

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Is it because i have 4 kids that i cant get a date Posted: 8/24/2009 6:13:54 AM
This is a joke, right????..............or he has a loose screw loose...how can he open a "pity" post such as the one he did with the profile he has? This guy doesn't have a dating or relationship problem; he has a screw loose somewhere. Does he think we are all stupid and we don't know how to read his profile? Each day is worth living if we learn something new....today I learned there is yet one more strange person in the world.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Why do workaholics seek relationships? Posted: 8/24/2009 5:54:25 AM
I actually agree with most of this....Dating is becoming a thing of the past. I think that our dating world, especially among those who have been there-done the marriage/relationship thing and found most of them semi-tolerable at best. More and more I see friends of mine that have just the type of relationship (I use the term loosely) in their lives. (Me, I have taken a hiatus from all this). While the question related to workaholics, I think it also related to those who are not. It's just the new way of dating, enjoying being together but sending the person home after the "real" fun has been had. No emotions, no broken heart and the rest of their time is theirs. Just another realm of the "me society" which our generation helped to create.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

Smart Chemistry Posted: 8/13/2009 6:49:29 PM
A friend of mine from college used to say, "There is a seat for every a$$". So if you find the seat that fits your a$$, then I say ' go for it!!! " !!!! It's an individual thing....

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 162 (view)

Beauty over 45 - Susan Boyle Posted: 8/13/2009 3:18:45 AM
Susan Boyle showed the world that you can't judge a book by its cover. We are so often quick to make judgments and offer our opinions with "just one look". This often plays over into the dating world where so many people are seeking "the pretty people". It's not to say that alot of pretty people possess wonderful personal traits; but it goes further to say that looks are tied to the heart, soul and goodness of all people.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 70 (view)

What do you think about men our age with small kids?? Posted: 8/13/2009 3:14:21 AM
I dated a man in his mid-50's with two teenage children who was a GREAT father. That is part of what made him so endearing to me. It meant that we did not see each other on those "every other weekend" or Thursday nights when the children were with him, but it was such a small price to pay to be able to see a father who takes his role seriously. Since I haven't been exposed to dating someone with small children, I am not sure how I would feel. It surely would be an adventure !!!

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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A Walk in the Park Posted: 8/9/2009 8:03:23 PM
I live on the ocean, so, yes, I have taken walks along the oceanfront with dates. It's a nice time to walk, holding hands and having uninterupted time to get to know each other. With so much "mental traffic" in today's world, it allows for time alone even when there are others walking by. I also ride my bike every morning on the paved walkways that follow the shore and, when alone, I will go for a jog. It's one of the greatest places I ever lived and fits perfectly with my my active lifestyle. On some summertimes evenings, police on horseback ride along the waterfront too, especially on Thurs evening when there are free concerts in the little park.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 163 (view)

Do women cook anymore?? Posted: 8/6/2009 9:33:42 PM
OP....if you think women should could because they are better cooks than men, then you need to come to my house just once...you will change your mind in a hurry as you run out the door to the nearest pharmacy for some Pepto.................It's really a conspiracy, though. I am a good cook; but if I warm men as I have warned you, most would rather offer that we go out to eat. There is a reason for my madness..................

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Ladies: Boxers or Briefs Posted: 8/6/2009 9:16:28 PM
...I prefer them on the floor...................just kidding (well kinda)....I actually like a guy in cotton knit boxers...they don't show his "pantie line" through his trousers either..............

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

Health issues and finding a partner at our age Posted: 8/6/2009 9:15:19 AM
I want to meet someone who has the "biggest" heart on this earth...it may be damaged slightly and it may need some medications to keep it at optimal functioning...but as long as it can still "feel", that's all I need. I run two to three miles a day, does taebo a few times a week and rides my bike at least every other day along the waterfront. Would it be great if I could find a man my age who could do all of these with me? Yes, it would. But if I meet that "right" someone who is unable to do ALL of these things as often as I, I will still cherish the times that we spend doing other things. We could take a slow walk instead....or we could be just as happy sitting on the deck watching the moon rise over the water as it sends its beam of light onto the tips of the waves creating a shimmering path that seems to lead to back to the moon itself. There are all sorts of activities that you can do together; not all have to be physical...the most important thing is that each appreciates the time that they share...

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/6/2009 8:32:34 AM
I'm from Boston too, damassteel, and I have seen at least a thousand more men your age that look as good if not better than you. I also think you need that 50+ eye exam because ALL woman past 50 do not look matronly !!!! You may have a good body; I don't know, it's not worth my effort to check out your pic but you need to watch carefully for weight gain, because your inflated ego is going to add those lbs right on to that "tremendous body" ??? YOU say you have...

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Guys hogging your time with no intentions Posted: 8/6/2009 7:33:10 AM
Soldier...I've been reading your posts for a month now...I'll tell ya, you just have to start changing your ways.............lol...you're starting to become one of those "bad boys" that our Mothers warned us about....lol

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Guys hogging your time with no intentions Posted: 8/6/2009 7:31:43 AM
June....just set your own standard. Perhaps that is: If a man cannot decide to meet in person within a specific timeframe, then let him know that you feel that your correspondence is becoming a time snatcher for you. We all have busy lives and have alot of places to focus our time. It's a good way to weed out the "phone boys" from the men who are truly interested. Personally I would rather meet sooner than later so that I don't end up spending wasteless hours on the phone. If it is problematic for us to find a mutual time and place for the initial meet, I see that as a red flag (and who wants to start a potential relationship with all the hassle)....

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/5/2009 1:05:34 PM
Petrified....you're a braggard.........lol

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/5/2009 1:02:56 PM
Virility to men is the same as infertility in women...meaning people who have these condidtions are unable or do not reproduce. There are several causes in each gender. Men who suffer from the inability to have or maintain an erection, whether continually or occassionally, are diagnosed with erectile dysfunction. Some of the causes are anxierty to perform, stress, hypertension and condictions that affect the blood supply to the area. Erectile dysfunction can happen occassionally or continuously, depending on the type and severity of the causes. Depending on the cause erectile dysfunction can occur occassionally or continually. There are a number of treatments for this depending on the causes (although not all men respond to the treatment in the same way), including penile implants and medications.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Health issues and finding a partner at our age Posted: 8/5/2009 12:40:32 PM
Another perspective......you may meet someone who has no significant health issues and all of a sudden after a year-long relationship might be diagnosed with some type of medical condition, be it acute or something that may become chronic. Chances with some diseases is that sometimes ithey don't not exhibit distinctive symptoms right away; therefore, he does not yet know he has the condition So what would you do; dump him?

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

Why I quit asking women out in person... Posted: 7/31/2009 11:55:20 AM
I absolutely agree with what Caroline said at the near beginning of this topic....We have to go into relationships with the concept that they are meant to be successful; otherwise the fear of potential failure will become a self-fulfilling prophphecy. I think, though, we also need to take some time to getting to knowing each other quite well before we are truly ready to express feelings of love. So often the "L' word is said but lacks the true feeling to support it.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Frustrated by not getting to see my girlfriend more Posted: 7/31/2009 11:43:25 AM
Perhaps she just has too much on her plate right now (work and a single Mom) to be able to get too involved at the moment. It is a tough road to plod everyday being the breadwinner and both Mom and Dad to a child, especially a young one who is so dependent on their Mother. She also may be a bit reserved about getting involved with someone for awhile. Sometimes that does that to people who have been through a "not-so-good" marriage. They need time to recoup their own lives before they become too entangled in someone else's life. The only thing that you can do is to let her take her time and if you feel that you don't want to make it an exclusive "dating-ship" until she is ready to commit more, then that's your privilege. But, be honest with her that you are dating others too.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 479 (view)

Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles Posted: 7/31/2009 7:34:26 AM
If a man asks a woman for a date, it is usually his decision on where they will go. If it's a first date, perhaps taking a woman that you don't really know is not such a good idea (especially to a 5-star restaurant). However, if YOU invite her out and selected the restaurant, then YOU SHOULD pay. If you don't want to outlay that much cash, then perhaps you need to become more creative on first date venues. I actually prefer NOT to go to dinner on a first date; rather, I prefer lunch, a run along the beach, a free summer concert, a shared bike ride....afterwards we can perhaps sit with some fresh lemonade or a drink and get to know a bit more about each other. Early-on dates should be simplistic.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

Is it ok to for a guy to window shop whilst out on a date? Posted: 7/31/2009 7:23:28 AM
I'm much less tolerant of this behavior than all of you (especially because it was not just a glance at one female but a trail of them. This happened to me once and I just excused myself to go the ladies room, left out the front door and hailed a taxi to take me home. Rudeness such as this on a "first" date or any date to me is indicative of the true character of a man and I won't waste my time on that type of man.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 63 (view)

No Confidence... Posted: 7/27/2009 2:19:39 PM
I think that God created a variety of people to walk this earth. But, the best creations he made are not the "pretty" people but those to whom he bestowed the biggest hearts...

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Why do you take honesty so hard??? Posted: 7/26/2009 7:47:34 PM
I prefer straightforward honesty. How else can I make a logical decision as to whether I want to spend my time with someone knowing it has little chance of going anwhere, especially if I am exceptionally attracted to him. What I ran across once was a man who wanted to take our "relationship" into the bedroom but didn't want any kind of commitment. I guess that is what is referred to as a "friend w/ benefits"? Obviously, that didn't happen and the next day I sent him an e-mail and told him I wouldn't be interested in seeing him again.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 98 (view)

GF boring in bed getting to point where i'm not interested in her at all Posted: 7/21/2009 2:45:59 PM
So........what have you done recently to "spice up" the relationship???? The ownership is on both of you, ya know !!!!

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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how many emails before meeting Posted: 7/20/2009 7:45:25 PM
I actually like to meet quite quickly after talking with someone. Why waste your time if once you meet that you find you don't have that special "click" with the person...

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Do men ever say I love you first ? Posted: 7/19/2009 8:59:02 PM
Yes they do but the real question is, "Do they really mean it"? ...........................

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

The lonelies! Posted: 7/18/2009 3:12:02 PM
Sometimes I get lonely but I can always quickly replace those feelings with things to do. I live in a great large city (Boston) as well as on the ocean. When I feel lonely, sometimes I just hop on the "T" and take the train into the city; other times, I throw on a pair of running shorts and and t-shirt and head out for a run along the water (this has become a daily thing since I live on the beach itself). I also have returned to my daily exercise programs (from pre-last b/f) and it always gives me a high when I've completed it. Now that it's summer, there is always something going on at the beach. This weekend is a sand sculpting event on Revere Beach (I was there two days ago watching the scuptures being designed.) Sometimes I do things with a few of my single friends. It's enough sometimes just to go to a small restaurant/bar down the street a bit and snack on seafood snacks. Usually, there are others who will stop by and talk. With others we do a night out on the city. I have been attending alot of plays in small venues. I also love to read (and never had enough time to devour the books I wanted to tame) so I make it a point to always having one close by when my time is void of activity. Because I have my own business doing independedn healthcare consulting on a contract basis, there is always work for me to do. I have always loved my career so, for me even though I am working I am loving every minute of it. The end of my last relationship was very difficult but I have learned that life goes on and how we proceed is all up to us. I am glad that I did my mourning for a period of time and have finally begun to move on. It does, though, still leave a bittersweet thoughts in my mind. Life has become good again and I look forward to encountering my next adventure.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 1043 (view)

Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 7/4/2009 10:05:55 AM
I certainly would NOT be intimate with someone unless I was dating him exclusively and he was exclusive with me !!!! I think that's another good reason to perhaps go out with others until such time as both of you are ready to make it an exclusive relationship. There is such a thing as personal pride and integrity..........

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 1036 (view)

Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 7/3/2009 8:05:37 PM
If I have not made a commitment to a man nor him to me to date exclusively, I will date others. When I first meet a man it takes me a while to get to know him well enough to decide if I even want to be in an exclusive relationship with him. I don't trust those "beginning date good behaviors" to predict future behaviors. I want to see him when he is faced with disappointment perhaps in his job; when he has to negotiate a child care issue with his ex-wife; as well as how he handles when I might have to cancel plans with him when "work calls". I also want to see if he still shows me the respect he showed me when we were first dating and if my opinions at least count when we need to negotiate something. These are some of the issues (or a multitude of others depending of the two people involved) that may be faces. If not these, there will always be others...I also want to see if he tends to be consistent; meaning, can I count on the way he acts on will be the way he will be for the long haul...or is he just acting this way to stay on my "good" side. It typically takes me about three to six months (perhaps more) to get to know a person well enough to decide whether or not I am ready to proceed to exclusiveness to determine if we have the staying power for something more permanent.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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How Important is proper grammar, spelling and punctuation in making a good impression? Posted: 6/30/2009 8:42:26 PM
I've worked with physicians for years and I found that they know how to spell IF you can just figure out their writing....very sloppy. However, now with most hospitals using handheld units that the md carries with him/her from patient to patient, spelling is not such a large problem because the programs use quite a few drop-down lists from which a doctor can select answers, thus eliminating his need to spell correctly and write legibly. On POF, I usually can figure out what is intended in the message even when words are misspelled. However, I have difficulty reading written text that lacks punctuation. A period at the end of a sentence is only one finger stroke; how difficult can that be?

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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When a profile says here for Dating Posted: 6/30/2009 8:28:30 PM
How does one expect to possibly get to long-term without dating first?????

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Beating the heat at our age Posted: 6/30/2009 8:22:23 PM
I wear short running shorts in the mornings when I go running. When I'm just hanging out in warm weather I find a skirt (approx 3-4" above the knees) is much cooler than shorts (maybe better air circulation). I live on the beach on the north shore of Boston and there is usually some breeze coming off the water. Having lived in the south much of my adult life and only moving here two years ago, I don't think 85-95 degrees is hot. It has been "crappy rainny" much of this summer; can't wait til this weather pattern changes.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

Hassle free dating Posted: 6/29/2009 2:08:17 PM
I'm a "hassle free" dater.......When it becomes a hassle, it is no longer any fun to date. To me, going on a date means that I have been asked to go/do some event with a man I like and we mutually do something together. For me, dating, becomes an opportunity to get to know someone better, to enjoy each other's company and to have fun with what we have planned to do (no more, no less). I believe it is okay to go on dates with several men simultaneously at this point if you are both upfront with it and both agree with this. I think it is referred to as the "getting to know you" stage. This being said, when I have met and had dates with someone and over time we decide to become mutally exclusive in our dating, then we stop going on dates with others so we can focus our attention on perhaps developing a relationship. Depending on where this goes will determine whether or not the relationship will be an intimate one. I want to know he has substance and emotional staying power before I become any man's "mattress monkey". (kidding about the monkey name)....

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 314 (view)

Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen Posted: 6/27/2009 8:38:28 PM
I think it is just "human nature" to be attracted to whom we are attracted....Some people prefer tall, some blondes, some educated, some religious..you get it, it's just what we find appealing. (Think of it as the same as people having different preferences on how they like their burgers). When it comes to overweight men, I will admit that I set a limit even though I realize there are lots of nice overweight men out there. It is not that I don't think they are nice men; it is that they would not be able to participate in my very physically active daily lifestyle and that's important to me. Of late, I typically date men who will join me for a run or a 5-mile bicycle ride. There could also be some issues with shared intimacies (I currently weigh 108 lbs....(you get the picture). I am sure there are alot of women who would be delighted in meeting and falling in love with you regardless of your size, especially if they could enjoy mutual activites together. It just doesn't work for me in a relationship. Would I be your friend? Alsolutely....In fact, one of my best male friends who I know from my college days is quite large. We get together about once a month for lunch or perhaps see a play but he would never be able to go on 5-mine bike rides... You may have to look a little harder, but if you are the gentleman that you say you are you will eventually find someone who will think you are just perfect to them. Don't give up.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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The appeal of the unambitious/unemployed type? Posted: 6/26/2009 5:29:37 AM
I agree that most women are not attracted to the unambitious/unemployed men....However, I would like to pose another question related to this....... In this current time of financial discord, the elimination of many jobs, more and more people receiving pink slips and a plethora of people just like them applying for the same jobs, how do you know that your "ambitious and working" man is not going to be one of the numbers.......He may be ambitious and look and look and look for another position but if they are not there to be had, would that change your opinion of him?

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

too many oposite sex friends..... Posted: 6/24/2009 8:30:13 PM
My motto is: Never let anyone treat you as an option when you should be a priority.....I live by this and would never let a man treat me as this guy has done to you. But, then again, shame on you for allowing him to do it.......

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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Why is it so hard? Posted: 6/24/2009 12:07:59 PM
I doubt you would find many women who are willing to give, give, give you what you have listed and not expect anything in return. That is, unless you meet a woman who posesses no self esteem or self worth. When you expect someone to give, most people want those same things returned. I suggest you just don't date; just sit around and grow old wishing about what might have been sounds like a sad life to me.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Who really cares if a guy calls them or not.... Posted: 6/22/2009 5:04:58 PM
OP, I look at it in exactly the same light as you do. I never go out with a new man expecting anything except perhaps that we have fun doing whatever we have planned. If there is mutual attraction and we plan a second date, that's great. However, there are times when you meet someone (in person and online) that, after you spend a bit of time with them, you know it's just not the one. If you both agree, you might become casual friends and get together once in a while for some event but you know it's not going anywhere. Sometimes we may find some commonalities that will pique our interest enough to meet and perhaps go on a few dates, but this "new" friendship is a time to determine whether or not there is attraction. If not, hopefully we will both feel as though we had a good time and mutually understand that the "spark" is just not there. Nothing more, nothing less.

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Goodbye? Posted: 6/19/2009 7:03:53 PM
He said, " I love you, Carrie !!!" I said, "I love you too, J." He said, "I don't love you, Carrie." I said, "I can't see you any longer, J." He said, "Then return the gift that I gave you." I said, "I will when I no longer love you." ..........

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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a few questions Posted: 6/19/2009 6:32:25 PM
Is not a guy but I would like to respond to your post. I think that today's dating world is very difficult to navigate. There is such a double standard loomin overhead. What you are finding is men that want you to lower your standards to meet theirs. If you don't they won't call you; if you do, they are all over you til they get what they want. Then there are the other guys that will respect a woman for who she is. They look further than the outside and find a wonderful treasure beneath that skin. Not only are they thrilled to find such a treat, but they treasure you and respect your personal values. The decision, in reality, is that the woman are really in control of their own destiny and how you present yourself (in pictures and in person) is how you will be perceived until someone truly takes the time to get to know you. On a dating site such as this, the first impressions often starts with your profile and your pictures. As such, a woman has to carefully manage the message they are protraying in their profile as well as their pictures. Done correctly, the type of men that you seek will want to get to know YOU, the person. We all have control of our own destiny by the decisions we make....

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

When should you not ask for what you want in a relationship? Posted: 6/16/2009 3:34:42 PM
Never allow someone to treat you like an option when you should be treated as a priority. It sounds to me that this guy has you sitting on a shelf and takes you down to play only when he has nothing better to do. YOU have the power to stop this !!!

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

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So close yet so far and I cant seem to find middle ground Posted: 6/16/2009 11:40:04 AM
Perhaps you just have to find different avenues for meeting new poeple. How about a health club, a bowling or softball league in the community? This woman, while she probably did join your interactions just didn't see it as any more than friends from the beginning. It sounds to me that you saw her as nothing more than a friend/drinking partner. I am sure if you look within the organization that you can find others to do things with. Why not ask your personel director if she could give you some information on the community; another place would be the city offices as well as the internet. Perhaps there are co-ed softball leagues coming up...or a bowling league (am not sure how large of a community you live in). Just get out and about where there are other young people like yoursself engaged in fun activities. I bet you will have alot of friends in no time at all. Good Luck !!!

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Would you be freaked, or cool? Posted: 6/12/2009 11:12:41 AM
I jog too almost everyday along a paved jogging trail along the beach here. Probably 50% of the people who jog in the morning regulars. We all say 'hi' or nod to each other now as we pass and oftentimes I will finish ast the same time as one of them. There have been times when we have agreed to go to a local cafe to grab some fresh OJ or to just walk together in our "recovery time" and end up just sitting and talking a bit. A few I have taken me to lunch or dinner and with one I attended a concert (date). It's a great way to meet someone with whom you have a shared interest !!!!

123carrie

Joined: 7/25/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Ladies, what are you looking for on a 2nd date? Posted: 6/11/2009 2:20:07 PM
I would advise "do not" take her to a movie. You can't talk in the theatre and, therefore, you really won't get much of a chance to know her better. I suggest something more active. How about bowling, or a walk on the beach if you live near one, or maybe an improv comedy club? You could also perhaps go to a jazz club or someplace similar for a night cap and then call it an evening.

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