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my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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pregnant and dumped by text Posted: 9/21/2009 1:32:26 AM
This is why women need to protect themselves.....men can go and spread their semen and not feel responsible for the one that works. Women should smarten up to this and use contraceptives because he can be as sweet and loving one minute and go sniffing other women the next. Your NOT in high school anymore and should have been educated enough to use birth control until your READY to have babies.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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my first relationship....over after a week. what happened? Posted: 9/20/2009 3:45:10 PM
What you get is what you got.......she hangs out at bars and picks up guys. What did you expect? A home cooked meal after your shift at the bar? Baking brownies? She is a loose goose when she is drinking.....you liked that I assume..but when it comes to monogamy? She is not the best choice if you want someone to settle down with... Maybe a local gal on POF could help you out.....any takers?

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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WHy is it taking so long to get over such a short realtionship? Posted: 9/11/2009 1:09:01 AM
I know where your coming from kiddo...those short but sweet connections can bite just as much as ten year relationships. I think it's the ego that falls flat.....you think your someone special to them ..but find out you not. .......do something for yourself...hit the gym and work out the kinks.. All I can say...

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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I'm just really pissed off Posted: 9/11/2009 1:04:42 AM
Stay away from drama queens....and stick with the plan man.....get a degree in SOMETHING ..and become all you can be...kapeesh?

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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After five years how much time will it take? Posted: 9/10/2009 3:10:28 PM
Your still in school...your both growing up and it really sucks that you have to grow up one day and realize that it's time to let go.... Time spend should be on your studies so you can be all you can be....wait a few years ..do not contact her..once you graduate and get that great job..look her up..if it's meant to be ...it will happen.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Divorced women Posted: 9/9/2009 1:32:26 AM
You often wonder...how you can live with a man for TWENTY FIVE YEARS..and let it go to pot? .... But then......people do change ..and turn inward on what they want to be when they grow up? The women I have know that have raised families..seem to be doing well. Sure there is a grieving process. But in the end..they do well without him.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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What am I doing wrong? Posted: 9/9/2009 1:23:26 AM
>>>"I still hold a grudge against my mother" I say there are two sides to every coin..I don't think your 100% innocent in how you treat your ladies...you have childhood issues that you refuse to let go of... Marines don't whine ..............and turn to drugs and alcohol. Marines get there ya' ya's out on work outs' .. and being tough. So step it up...grow up and be all you can be...because your not ready for a relationship yet...so dump that idea once in for all.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Letting go of someone you don't love Posted: 9/8/2009 12:38:54 PM
"I don't want to damage our relationship or hurt her...." So basically, you want a friend w benefits relationship with her but continue to seek and meet other women. Stop having sex with her...make sure whatever your doing with her..it does not end in the bedroom. Let her know you want to keep her as your best friend and can't lead her on like you have been doing. Your exploring other friendships and having sex with her is disrespectful. OR just leave your computer on...with POF on..she will get the hint.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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gonna break up with my gf Posted: 9/8/2009 1:30:28 AM
Better to get all your ya ya's out now ...than wait until your 40 years old and still have relationship problems. Still to your plan with college courses...be all you can be..and dump the drama.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Serial monogomist vs never been in a relationship. Posted: 9/3/2009 1:30:24 AM
Too many people thinking they have it better than you....I don't think this is a case of serial monogamy........I call it serial daters....bait and switch. They send out a profile that they are looking for THE ONE...yet once they find THE ONE....they shrug ..throw them back into the POF pool . Wafflers, cheaters.... On the other hand....people who have been single all their lives have an issue with "space"..........they like their "space" and finds someone a "pest"....if this person is attracted to them and would like to spend more time than the single persons' used to.. Either way............there should be a compromise..people don't like compromise these days...it's my way...or the highway.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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How do you deal with other people in your relationship??? Posted: 9/3/2009 1:23:27 AM
"I admit our issues are partially my fault" I call it ...bait..and bawl. You both are baiting each other ....getting online and chatting with members of the opposite sex. YOU are chatting with other women and I am sure YOU seek advice too.. It's just that YOU can't get another woman to say.....awwwww so sorry your in a messed up relationship....here let me take all your worrys away. Maybe it's best that you both seek OTHER entertainment beside the singles sites.

my2cntsin

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Been cheated on Posted: 9/2/2009 1:58:27 PM
Because they were cheating behind your back anyway...and any little thing..they will bring it out in the open. Once a cheater....always a cheater.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Going To Tell My Girlfriend It Is Over Posted: 9/2/2009 1:55:01 PM
Why is it your responsibility to support your niece & nephew? Where's the parents at? Why can't you just compromise? ...because at this rate...I see a lot of lonely days for you if you decide to break it off... I am sick of guys that are not all that and a bag of chips..thinking they can upgrade and do better... Go ahead loverboy........make her day.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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How do you get over the hump of friendship, and avoid being timid? Posted: 9/2/2009 1:27:36 AM
I would communicate this to her.....let her know that if there will be anything physical ...she will be the one to initiate it. Your a gentlemen and will wait for her to make that decision. The communciation has to be there before you can get over the "hump"

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Broken Trust ? Posted: 9/2/2009 1:22:22 AM
This guy has some serious issues to be obsessed with listening to a recorded tape ..why does it makes HIM feel better knowing you were sad. There is a a psychological twist to this ..and why would he go for a "walk' while your were there???? and not ask YOU to accompany him? He was BAITING you to snoop.............some guys leave things in place for women who are naturally 'curious' to snoop in their things.....I have read threads where women looked into the history of their bf's computer...cell phone. Just to see traces of what they were doing when SHE is not around. But to erase his OBSESSION...his creepy obsession of hearing your voice in such a traumatic state. It's better to detach from him and go about your business....just too creepy .

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Unsure what he wants... Posted: 9/1/2009 1:18:12 AM
What did he do with his kids...when he was thinking that he wanted to be single again? Someone sent me a say.. and it goes like this..."Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket - keep it in your own."

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Broke up Posted: 8/31/2009 1:21:09 AM
Yeah..it sure sucks..............your still growing up kiddo...keep your mind on your studies and get your degree. Find a fantastic job ...wear a white shirt and tie...clean your hair up and let miss twit know she missed out on a hottie...her loss right?

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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What would you have said? Posted: 8/31/2009 1:15:11 AM
You have to admit...in this depressed job climate..there is a WHOLE LOT of guys out there looking for a hard working stable woman with a good job...to casually cozy up to and make himself comfortable in HER space. Happens more than you know...

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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ok a little input Posted: 8/31/2009 1:08:28 AM
I think she was still seeing this guy behind your back...but it didnt get serious until she decided..she could not see two guys at the same time...she chose him.... Unfortunately, HE probably was cheating on her..and when she found out..she retreated back to you for safety. That song.."Love Stinks..." always come to mind

my2cntsin

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Renaissance Festivals Posted: 8/29/2009 6:18:09 AM
I went a couple of times....the first time was awsome..got some good pics... The second time..it rained..it was hot/humid..some artist's from the last visit was not present..(THE LIVING TREE)...I liked the joust..and the turkey leg experience. Costumes and craft items were a bit pricey...For those who have not been there but would like to venture once.........buy or make your own custumes. Come early...the parking is vast..and you may have to walk a half a mile to a mile to get to the festival. Turkey legs sell out fast....

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Micheal Jackson's death a homicide Posted: 8/29/2009 5:56:55 AM
Goes to show you..........when your filthy rich.......money can't buy you happiness.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Living for 18 years in someone's back yard Posted: 8/29/2009 5:55:40 AM
He broke her spirit.........enslaved her.......slaves don't have rights. He took that childs life away.....but now...she has to face the rest of her years forging another life...sad. I hope justice prevails..........but then........justice gives HIM rights. We shall see..

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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the instant messaging breakup Posted: 8/29/2009 5:47:19 AM
I was dump via email. once...he was not all that anyway...he was MIA for a week..didnt' answer the phone..never at home.. I ended up calling his brother to see if he was o.k.? Because he and his brother was going out of state for a few months on business... His brother answered...he said he is o.k. and will have him call me.. Well the next day I got to work and an email....scathing me for contacting his brother.. I had no right to contact his family (we were seeing each other for NINE MONTHS).. He was seeing another woman that he met on the internet...she was going through a bad divorce and he wanted to BE THERE for her in her time of needing someone..on top of that..she had a boyfriend on the side too she was trying to break up with... Drama momma wins ....she got kicked out of her apartment and moved in with him along with her two kids.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Who knew Posted: 8/29/2009 5:38:38 AM
Some jokers hide....so when you there..HE IS there...he is hiding to see what you look like than leave...lot's of jokers out there. Lesson to learn......Call him before you leave..if he does not answer the phone...don't go.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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10 things I hate about you. Posted: 8/28/2009 1:33:15 AM
I love this thread..... 1. I hate it when we are chatting online and your getting on another site to chat with another woman ...AND saying brb...while you chat with HER for 10 minutes... 2. I hate it when you repeat all your (getting to know you) stories..over and over and over again..like it's a rehearsed tape ..sometimes when your chatting and meeting other women..men do have this rehearsed conversation. I hear it TOO MANY TIMES. 3. I hate you lying to me..you know your lying..I know your lying..and when I call you out on it..................you say.."I am not dating anyone.".... "I am not looking for a serious relationship"...."we are not a couple".."I dont' have the money to date ANYONE"..........then go out with me and have ME pay for the dinner. (as I bang my head on a door...and asking WHY? WHY do I keep doing this????) 4. I hate it when he thinks he is all that and a bags of chips to think HE can find an upgrade.........then when he get's shot down by women on this site.. He tells me he feels like he is an old man..he is too fat....and get's depressed. Like ..I am nothing but a sound board for his unsuccessful online dating failures.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Leaves You Totally Up In the Air Posted: 8/28/2009 1:14:11 AM
My guess is....your messages were purely fantasy and not much of anything else... A dime a dozen on sites like these.....maybe someone ACTUALLY asked her on a date instead of an intimate encounter.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Breaking up first time that I do it, any advice? Posted: 8/28/2009 1:08:18 AM
Start picking your nose and wiping it things around you....eat onions..garlic..and then give her a BIG>>SLOPPY KISS. don't wear deoderant when your with her.. Become someone SHE does not want to be around anymore.. I would say there will be a time..you will miss her...but when you break up with her..don't waffle back and forth..it's not healthy.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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help??? Posted: 8/27/2009 1:22:27 AM
You sure she is not bi-polar? Sounds like it......... Sex can be a tool to keep you by her side..then emotionally/physically abuse you .. Don't take it...do not walk...RUN

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Eight year age gap ok? Posted: 8/27/2009 1:18:45 AM
Been there...done that...twice. Older women become stepping stones...build up their confidence in themselves(because a younger girl hurt them in the past). Until they are ready to go back out into the world of dating. I was engaged to a guy that was ten years younger than I was..I grew up...he didn't.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Why can't I get him out of my head? Posted: 8/27/2009 1:12:48 AM
It's amazing what idiots can do even when they are not around... It's your pride/ego that has been flattened..you can keep busy BUT from time to time..treat yourself to something NICE. The overtime money could go for a spa/massage treat. Go swimming your local rec club..go to the gym and have your favorite music/mp3 on..and walk/run on the treadmill for an hour. You need to pamper YOURSELF for the time being. Do something NICE for yourself EVERDAY for now ..even if it's a small treat to build up your self esteem.. Hope this works...take care

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Wondering if that's all there is Posted: 8/26/2009 1:29:36 AM
I don't call it experience....I call it fantasy. The internet is a powerful tool but if an individual does not use it in a healthy way...they can detach from all reality and get lost in a virtual world. When they meet up with an "equal" ....meaning someone who has common ground with them. They will find flaws and nitpick on trivial human characteristics...even though THEY themselves have just as many flaws. They look into the fantasy aspect and if it does not match the PERFECTNESS of fantasy..........they will detach and remain addicted to internet "simcity"virtual relationships. Make up what they percieve as a PERFECT relationship ..online only. This is unhealthy ..but it happens in thousands of homes , offices. Everything is good within limitations. Trouble of it is......weakness prevails.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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What's up with..... Posted: 8/25/2009 1:08:01 AM
My friend is on there....he says it's a site for intimate encounters...I say..."whatever".. for adults only..

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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such a thing as Too Fast? Posted: 8/25/2009 1:03:53 AM
It all depends on what your intentions are...what her intentions are? You have to look at it this way...It's like a match...the sparks fly...it ignites into a full flame ...it smolders..than it cools down..and the smoke trails behind it..and then it's thrown away. I have read threads on here ....instant relationships...by the third month they are living together..then in six months they are fighting and cheating on each other. Have hobbies in between visits...keep busy..don't live together after a few short months.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Anyone else not see the value in diamonds and other jewelry? Posted: 8/24/2009 1:30:55 AM
It's take millions of years to create a masterpiece.....Gold on that ring or necklace will be an investment for the future. Value will never go down. Unlike spending thousands of dollars on a car and it's value goes down the second it is driven off the lot.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Is he really a gay or just playing tricks on me Posted: 8/24/2009 1:26:19 AM
Don't be messing with your housemate...could mess it all up and one of you will be leaving. Don't take anything sexual about it....find a new hobby like cooking or something.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Cheating Posted: 8/24/2009 1:22:55 AM
Because once a cheater starts cheating..it's a habit that is hard to break. Don't forgive cheaters...they call all the rules up and you have to follow them..or they leave. Don't have kids with cheaters.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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she says she needs space?? How much is enough? Posted: 8/24/2009 1:19:32 AM
When you decided to move in...it would have been nice to have a short but sweet ceremony of both of you deleting your dating profiles on ALL sites you both have accounts on...it's not a real good idea to move in only after 90 days of knowing each other either...but it happens more than you know. Apparently..SHE still had her profile up on a few and found someone online that she would like to meet .....she met him...she liked him .. and now finds the hard part is....to get some SPACE between you and you know who.. The question is....is she mature enough to handle a relationship? Even though she has been in a relationship before...and there has been some past issues about cheating. I feel that if she feels the need to cheat now....than she is not mature enough to handle a long term relationship. Yeah it does hurt but then....when a woman brings a man in her life with kids in tow...and get's all froggy about it so soon...it's not healthy for those kids to be brought up in that kind of environment. It's the kids that get's hurt too in this... all because SHE can't make up her mind on what man she wants to spend time with.. Selfish isn't it?

my2cntsin

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Caster Semenya's gender is more complexk??? WHAT?? Posted: 8/23/2009 10:17:51 AM
For some reason...Annie Oakley song.." I can do anything you can do better..I can do anything better than you...no you can't..yes, I can..no you can't...yes I can.." come into my mind. I just don't really care one way or another...even if he is a she..she is a he... He/She was conditioned better than the rest. I am not going to loose sleep over this subject.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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He/she is smart... Posted: 8/23/2009 6:39:04 AM
Verbal smarts..and common sense ..can be mixed with apples and oranges. I know a few people who basically have the verbage of a genius..but have not enough self esteem in themselves to take care of themselves. They are great company..can carry hours of great conversations but tend to be a bit lazy and will give in to any worldly weakness there is out there. They talk others into inviting them to stay a few days to their homes and they stay months at a time ..eat their food, wear extra clothes they give them and all this time..the conversations are flowing . I call them parasites........others call them free spirits.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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online Posted: 8/23/2009 6:28:01 AM
Then you are letting him set up all the rules...and you must follow them or...else. It's like climbing up a ladder and he knocks you down a few rungs to keep you behind him...not beside him...but behind him. To keep your ego low and question your self esteem. Look into yourself for the strength...don't let him knock you down. My advice...he is doing it to hurt you.....detach from him..do your OWN thing and make him aware that you don't give a dam what he does. Find a few girlfriends and enjoy girls night out ...let him play his games alone. He will get the message..and his game will get boring...if there is no reaction from you.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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A Knights Prayer Posted: 8/23/2009 6:17:57 AM
This fair princess has tons of issues that YOU may not be aware of..it's but all a fanstasy. YOU need to walk the portal of reality...she is married....she knew she was an ogre when she married him..therefore..it is her cross to bare. While other women are free...........you put yourself in a sitution that you put blinders like an a$$ to watch the undatable dancing in her hole she dug a long time ago... detach and take the blinders off.....stop the fantasy and get with the wide world web program.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Classified as Un-datable Posted: 8/22/2009 1:13:58 PM
Undatables..are people who have no job..living with friends/family..has no hobby to think of..and trying to get on social security disability because they think they are bi polar..but not yet sure because they have been to fifteen drs..and no one will tell them one way or another what is wrong with them.

my2cntsin

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A corrupted mind... Posted: 8/21/2009 2:52:25 PM
Yep..the broken hearts club understands.. I think it's the ego and pride that is humbled.. the investment into a relationship that was just an option on their part. Really messes your mind up. It's does go away...little by little ...you must learn from the experience and not be duped into being used the next time around..

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Where should the line be drawn about friendships with ex's if you are in a relationship now? Posted: 8/21/2009 1:30:20 AM
I don't think your selfish at all...on the other hand she might be looking for a free vacation..a free ticket to the beach..and probably ..no strings attached sex w the ex. There is a trick to this....let her know that you can make arrangements to accompany her as a couple to spend some time on the beach in Florida.you need some R&R too....hypathetically of course to see what she would say? If she says that she would prefer to go alone? than you know two is company and three is a crowd...and you would be the third wheel in this situation. Who is selfish then? ON THE OTHER HAND...IF you are only chatting with this woman online..never dated her ..never held her hand. ..a long distance computer friendship....kinda thing I would just let her go have sex w the ex....... he has the baLLs to step up to the plate and show her a nice time on the beach..than so be it.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Do people really believe there is only one right one ? Posted: 8/21/2009 1:17:10 AM
Out of a few years I spent on the paid sites...I truely found....a half dozen THE RIGHT ONES.. However,in the wide world of instant social connections ......creates distractions from forging a significant relationship with anyone. Not a lot of people out there that are strong enough to withstand temptations ..disciplined enough to maintain feelings for just one partner. Internet dating.....even the most beautiful people on this earth will question what is wrong with them? When they can't seem to find THE ONE AND ONLY person that will accept them for who they are? And those who are not all that and a bag of chips anyway....feel the need to be picky and choosy about what they want in a partner...and live a life of a hermit because they are looking for THE ONE. ..and someone that is THEIR EQUAL in life is shunned and rejected because they feel they are worthy of an upgrade. I believed I found the RIGHT ONES but they were so distracted by others that they got lost in the maze of social connections... they are content with just sitting in front of a computer monitor..in the dark.. and fantasizing.

my2cntsin

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Dealbreaker? How to handle in casual dating?? Posted: 8/21/2009 12:54:42 AM
Well at least you are a gal that can find the red flags first.....this guy is trying to make connections for drugs. A junky ...is a junky..is a junky. Your right in keeping your wits about you...if he is targeted by law inforcement...your name might pop up as one of his connections.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Chatting and online sex, Is it cheating? Posted: 8/20/2009 4:40:56 PM
He is addicted to the internet..get's lost in fantasy. Sometimes men get a bigger kick out of fantasy than the real thing. This causes distractions in the real world. He know's where to draw the line......but then it may hinder your love life because he is too busy........relieving himself in front of the computer.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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what to you is the meaning of dating Posted: 8/20/2009 4:30:17 PM
Dating....when someone asks another person for a movie, dinner, theme park, festival, concert and it is paid by the dater.. Would be expensive for the multiple dater... Friends go to the park, biking, art fairs.....places where there is no financial duties....no expectations...as they say..can't have too many friends. If someone is interested enough to keep dating and paying...I would think they are investing and leaning towards that one person to get serious about.. The friends ....are friends..casual.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Hey, gardening buddies -- I want to keep my gladiolus! Posted: 8/20/2009 4:21:19 PM
take them out ...cut the tops off and put them in sawdust/moss/wood chips ...do not put them in plastic bags.prefer paper bags..hang them up by a wire or string. do not set them down on concrete.

my2cntsin

Joined: 7/30/2007

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Ending an affair Posted: 8/20/2009 1:29:36 AM
And that's where the terms...Psycho ..crazy....nuts..comes in when you call them out on this behavior. I have had a few experiences where you think everything is rainbows and roses.. The hugging, the kissing, dinners, movies, laughter...and then the "door" is shut up tight and the emails blocked...and your there scratching your head on what happened? I think they had no intentions on a long term relationship....they are chatting and meeting other women and the plate became full all of a sudden and it was time to shove you off the plate to make room for more. They are not going to tell you that....because they don't have the ba@@'s to tell you. I had four experiences like this and wasting nine months to a year on each of these experiences made me wonder why people get online and string others along like that ..when they have no real intentions of keeping the relationship going from the get go.... That's why I am just here for the forums...

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