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Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

Messy house or apartment... Posted: 6/7/2009 7:19:08 AM
wow...ummm..I have never had this happen to me but I would like to think that I would be nice and polite and say nothing. I'd make the first excuse I could think of to get the heck out of there and I probably would be turned off beyond belief no matter how gorgeous or amazing he was. He needs a maid...not a girlfriend!!

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

kidz become main issue Posted: 6/7/2009 7:10:54 AM
If she doesn't have kids of her own then there could be a few reasons. She could feel like a 5th wheel in an already made family, she might feel like you will never love her enough because your kids come first.....she might be concerned of her role in the family....it may not be the kids at all but more the ex-wife because as women we know sometimes they like to cause drama when they see the ex-man in their life happy or..... she's just a selfish bitter woman who expects you to take care of her and put her before your own children. 7 months really isn't all that long and you should introduce her to your kids before she moves her...what if they don't like her??? Sorry but then she's gotta go....figure it out before you waste your time moving her here.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 126 (view)

Would you live with someone you want to marry? Posted: 6/7/2009 6:57:58 AM
I don't really see your logic. Wouldn't you want to know if you can live with someone before you actually marry them? Everyone has little habits and ways of doing things that you don't discover until you live together. It's alot easier to just move out then it is to get divorced because you were not prepared for the living experience.

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men? Posted: 3/14/2009 7:10:57 AM
I guess the only person who is gonna fully know the answer to that question is a transsexual...someone who has experienced sex as both a man and a woman...but then again..if they were happy with the first performance then maybe they would not have wanted to switch. I'm really no help at all..lol There really is no way of knowing which, male or female, have the better orgasm but for my own personal happiness...I am just gonna assume women and be happy with that.

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 61 (view)

Is there a RIGHT way to simply ask for sex??? Posted: 3/14/2009 7:06:17 AM
I agree with InkedNova. Women love their shoes...and if you love our shoes then you must love us. I have alot of shoes...some that have never left my bedroom. ;) So yeah...If she is just into casual sex too then 'Nice shoes..Wanna Fcuk?" works like a charm. You could even ask her to keep 'em on!!

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 320 (view)

What do you NOT like about sex? Posted: 3/14/2009 6:57:18 AM
I'll be honest about what I don't like. I'm not into S&M. Handcuffs and the lighter stuff is cool but if you have to wear a leather mask on your face while I whip you bloody then I'm more likely pissed off at you than turned on by you. If you are into this..you're just too kinky for me!! And this to me is GROSS...sorry but the whole thing with some people being into golden showers (this one is tame but still..yuck)..or having a woman spread her poo on you or vomit on you is GROSS. That is not a word I use often when it comes to sex but those are just not things I can or will EVER view as sexual. Eewwwwwwwwww!!! Those are it for me. I'd like to think those 2 things don't make me too much of a prude!!!

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

Would you watch? Posted: 3/14/2009 6:41:10 AM
I'd have to leave and give them privacy... unless they paid me to watch and then it would depend on how they looked and what they paid me and all the specifics haha I must not be a perv I'm kinda laughing over here...you aren't a perv because you wouldn't watch UNLESS THEY PAID YOU!! hahahahhahahahahahahaha hahahahahahahah hahahahah And then it depends HOW MUCH??? hahahahahahahah hahahahahahahahahahahaah wait...am I being harsh??? hahahahahahahahahahahahah Who cares!?!?! WOW!!!! I think I'd rather be a perv and watch for my own entertainment rather than get paid to be a spectator of a sexual sport. Maybe you didn't mean it to sound sleazy but it kinda, really, sort of, might have, maybe, just a little, obviously did. Thanks for the laugh...I needed a good pick me up this morning!!! lol

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Older women are less inhibited? Posted: 3/14/2009 6:26:41 AM
I'm 36 and yes...I am more sexual now than ever before. I agree with Pitch Blease...in your 30's you definately get a better sense of who you are...what you like and your comfort level with yourself is amazing. I know 20 year olds will argue but they will understand the difference in a few years and then they will be like...oh yeah!! I have dated my fair share of younger men...the youngest being 23 ...guys as young as 18 have asked me out but that's just a bit much. I always wondered, at first, why these young, attractive, atheletic men who could probably get any number of younger women in a club were more interested in me...so I asked a few of them because curiousity got the best of me. The reasons I got...and this is what they told me just so the young girls don't have a drama filled hissy fit that I'm bashing them..lol 1. Older women know what they want and have no trouble saying it. 2. Older women don't play games. 3. Older women tend not to be jealous or possessive. 4. Older women tend not to be drama queens. 5. Older women are more open minded about sex and enjoy doing things the younger man never has. 6. Older women carry themselves with a certain sense of class that demands respect. 7. Older women don't need the man's reassurance all the time to feel good about themselves. 8. Older women are more confident in their sexual abilities and don't need to ask how sex was...we know we blow your mind. ;) 9. Older women tend not to check up on their man or ask alot of questions like 'what are you thinking? If he says nothing...he really means nothing. It's not a ploy to make you stress or guess. 10. Older women are more interested in pleasing themselves which younger girls have not learned yet..that a real man gets off by seeing us get off. It's a huge turn on for a guy to see a woman orgasm and fully enjoy every moment she is with him. Again..this is what younger guys have told me...so I can only assume since I have heard many of these many times that they are true. And thinking back when I was in my 20's...I can honestly say that for a long time...I fit that typical 20 year old category that they described. Don't worry girls...you'll all grow out of it too...unless you are and enjoy being a jealous, possessive, insecure drama queen.

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 63 (view)

Sucking during and after sex? Posted: 3/11/2009 6:20:36 AM
Hmmm..I didn't realize men see this as weird or bizarre. I mean...why wouldn't she suck you before, during, or after? You were in HER body. It's hers. I know I taste good so I enjoy doing it and now I know why it turned my guy on so much. I guess I just see this as normal sexual activity. As for her swallowing and you kissing her after...that is just HOT. Please know...if a woman is willing to swallow your cum and you refuse to kiss her after...that is somewhat insulting. After all...it's your stuff from your body....so you should have no trouble with it in your mouth if it can go in mine.

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

Making moves that won't be interpreted as creepy/sleazy? Posted: 3/11/2009 6:05:38 AM
Simple: Be AFFECTIONATE. Soft, warm and loving. Touch her often in an affectionate way. If she reciprocates, simply respond to whatever she does. Maybe you'll get closer and the lust will emerge-! And you could always say things like "this feels really good to me...you?" This is a perfect example of creepy and desperate when you don't know where you stand with a woman. This is more something that you do/say when you know she's into you but you just need a bit of reassurance or an ego boost. Since you have been dating a bit then it should be fairly easy to know if she's into you...Just find that nice moment and kiss her...it's all in the kiss.

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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question about interracial dating ... Posted: 3/10/2009 7:59:12 PM
Theplush1innc...Thanks for seeing things my way...he obviously has issues that Dr. Phil couldn't resolve. I wish all women who posted were as supportive as you. :) KP..you obviously have a problem with how certain people want their wedding to go down so don't take their money and they can find a photographer who will appreciate the work. It's THEIR special day and they PAID you to do a job on THAT day. Do you really expect a couple on their wedding day to work around your desires and schedule? You are not a priority...do your job!! If you expect their wedding to go down your way....then you might want to rethink your profession or at least taking money from couples who you were quick to JUDGE because based on their race you have already decided they are gonna be a headache. They deserve better than a cranky, impatient photographer who is gonna do a half-assed job because he is pissed off he had to wait for the bride!

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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question about interracial dating ... Posted: 3/10/2009 6:40:21 AM
lolpdose..one more thing....should I imply that you only date skinny woman because you are so scawny...I mean..a guy should be bigger and taller than a woman because he should be seen as the protector..so I guess if YOU really want to feel like a MAN then that would explain why you only date skinny white girls...or am I wrong? Generalizations and assumptions are never good and rarely correct...so grow up, kiddo!!!

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 209 (view)

question about interracial dating ... Posted: 3/10/2009 6:13:35 AM
No offense but you tend to like black men because white men dont tend to go for you...black men prefer heavier women and you fit that mold..so ever since you were younger black men and not white men have approaced you so since then you have built that attraction to black men...but you even like hispanic men but those are black hispanic men at that...tell me if i am wrong lilpdose...I see how you might put this little story together unfortunately you could not be more wrong. I grew up in a town in Cape Breton where black men are very rare. All I ever dated was white men then I moved to Ontario where it is very multicultural. I only dated white men for a long time because it was what I was use to..but then one night I met this really attractive black man in a club and we started dancing...a year later we were married. It wasn't because he was black...it was because he was special. I don't regret my marriage but after 10 years we grew apart. I have been single for 4 years now and in those 4 years I have dated alot of different races because I was more open minded than when I was younger. I'm sorry that you seem to have enjoyed your somewhat insulting narrow minded comment as if to imply 'I can't get a white man so I settled for a black man'...No my dear...I just perfer black men...that does not mean that I ONLY date black men. A man is a man and I care about the kind of person he is on the inside...I'm sorry if you want to judge me and place me in a neat little category but in my case..you could not be more wrong. Oh..and btw...just cause I'm a little curvy now doesn't mean I always have been. I go to the gym daily because I want to look and feel better and when I am slim again...guess what...I will still perfer black men because I personally find them sexier. It's called personal preference.

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

Hey....I really need help Posted: 3/1/2009 6:01:45 AM
I would never send those kind of pics but recieving them is cool. I kind of think of it as buying a used car and getting to see all the knicks and scratches on it. hahahahah

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 143 (view)

Cum placement Posted: 3/1/2009 5:41:46 AM
My man can cum anywhere he wants to. If he asks, then I will tell him what I'm in the mood for...sometimes my face...my breasts...my mouth...just depends. I think in a relationship very few things should be off-limits. There is no bigger turn off then hearing the world 'no' to something that turns me on.

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 126 (view)

question about interracial dating ... Posted: 3/1/2009 5:32:46 AM
I have dated alot of different races...it's not the race that turns me on or off...it's more so the culture/religion/lifestyle behind the race. I could never be one of those submissive women who walk 3 steps behind my man or dress covered up from head to toe with only my eyes showing...it's just not me...I really don't care how gorgeous or rich or perfect he is...he can walk next to me or by himself. I will admit that physically I tend to find black men more attractive. It's the same thing as a man liking a woman because she has bigger breasts or a nice butt. There is just something very sexy about a black man...especially from behind...his shoulders..back muscles...nice butt....MMMMMmmmmmmm

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 293 (view)

having sex with 2 guys at the same time!! Posted: 3/1/2009 5:23:56 AM
I have never done a threesome with two men but it's a huge fantasy.

caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 391 (view)

Over 30 -- What is your biggest turn on Posted: 3/1/2009 5:04:12 AM
Initially...a nice face..but then....an open mind. ;)

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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would you date a guy from another country Posted: 7/29/2008 9:17:58 PM
Relocating is completely out of the question for me. If I have to drive more than 30 mins to meet someone then most likely it will never work because I know I am not willing to move for anyone.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

Profession: Would lying break the deal either way? Posted: 7/29/2008 9:08:00 PM
I can understand some people misleading others with their job description...especially if they are wealthy men who want to avoid the gold diggers of pof. It would only be a deal breaker if he kept the lie up if occupations came up in conversation or if he was not honest with me once we realized that we were compatible and interested in seeing each other again.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

I thought I was I being funny ... Posted: 7/29/2008 8:53:27 PM
I think she needs to get a sense of humor. Had that happened to me I would just have laughed it off and told you that I couldn't contain myself so I just had to follow you around for the rest of my shopping spree. But eh...some women take little things too seriously and really just need to lighten up. I'm with you though...I would have giggled to myself watching her squirm with her head down.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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sleepless nights Posted: 7/29/2008 8:45:40 PM
I'd love it!! I wouldn't have to share the bed...I could sleep soooo comfy and be able to move around...awesome!! I'm not a cuddler and I love my space so you'd hear no complaints from me! :)

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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fell for a someone who is spoken for Posted: 7/29/2008 7:35:09 AM
Oy vey...poor you. I guess if you want to be with her then you can just be there for her because it sounds like her relationship is not going to last. But...I'd be real careful with my heart because she is young and you might be setting yourself up to get hurt.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Do men fall harder, faster? Posted: 7/29/2008 7:27:32 AM
When men say "the L word" too fast... I can't help but question if they really mean it or are just trying to manipulate me to get what they want. I don't fall in love quickly and I guess I don't understand how others do. So I can't say that I don't believe they are sincere but I can say that it makes me suspecious of their motives.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

How Late is TOO Late to Have Kids? Posted: 7/29/2008 7:21:55 AM
After 40, it is more risky so most women have 40 as a deadline to have children. I want children so I refuse to date men who put on thier profiles that they don't want kids...frankly that is a waste of my time. No kids is a dealbreaker for me. I think you should date whatever woman you're attracted to regardless of age as long as you both want the same thing.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Cologne? Posted: 7/29/2008 7:17:08 AM
Yes..definately!! I absolutely love 'Boucheron' for men...it's a very nice and clean smell. :)

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Annoyed with women who initiate contact, then disappear Posted: 7/29/2008 7:14:42 AM
Men do this just as much as women...you really need to not take it to heart and just move on. I refuse to be one of those people who look at my send message folder to see if someone has read it...and I got no response or they just deleted it...I don't bother...I talk to the people I want to talk to and that is it.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

We can be friends. It's the phrase that all guys fear the most. Posted: 7/29/2008 7:05:13 AM
I will be honest and tell you that is a phrase I use when I feel the man is too aggressive and too much in a hurry to meet me. I can't help but feel suspecious when they are so anxious to get their foot in the door so to speak...and their aggressiveness only makes me take a step back and that is when I say..we can be friends. I'm not saying you are too aggressive with women...I can only speak from my experience...but whatever approache you're using then maybe you could tone it down and see if you get a different response.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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I'm going on a 2nd date with a rebound girl Posted: 7/29/2008 7:00:34 AM
I think you should just be there for her...be the friend that she needs...and let her know that you're interested in her and willing to wait until she is ready for more. Let her know that you care for her...want to take care of her...and you will not abandon her like that man did. If you can make her trust you after he broke her heart then that trust will put her heart back together only for you. :) Good Luck!

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Would this be appropriate? Posted: 7/29/2008 6:53:46 AM
It depends how long you have known her and how comfortable you are around each other. There are other ways to let her know you like her...you could ask her out to dinner or a movie...you could get her flowers..compliments are always a big clue. There are lots of ways...Good Luck!

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 78 (view)

Girls often say 'Looking for a compassionate, honest man.' Aren't we all? Posted: 7/29/2008 6:45:59 AM
You know what???? You're right...all women want a man who is honest, compassionate, attractive to them and can financially take care of himself. OMG...what a sin!! NO no...wait....why don't I look for..... ...........a guy who is completely selfish, lies every chance he gets, so unattractive to me that I have to close my eyes to have sex with him and on top of that, please..oh please...make sure he is broke and too lazy to work so I can take care of his stupid ass!!! Oh yeah...that is what all women should want!

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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cold approach Posted: 7/29/2008 6:35:44 AM
I think it's all going to depend on how you approache her...if you are able to make her feel comfortable and if she is single, you will get a yes...but if she feels that you're creepy or just looking to hook up then most likely she is gonna walk away.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Buy flowers or pick them? Posted: 7/29/2008 6:29:31 AM
As a girl who absolutely loves flowers...whether you pick or buy them doesn't really matter. It's the fact that you thought about doing something nice for me just to make me feel special and smile.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 175 (view)

Do women really need guys other than sex? Posted: 7/19/2008 7:18:21 AM
Not that I want to sound old fashion or anything...but I need a man to make me feel secure and safe. I sleep better at night with a man in my house. Then again...I don't have a man right now and I sleep pretty well since I have a big dog for security...so hmmmmmm...Nope...I guess we only need you for sex...we just WANT men for more.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 61 (view)

Ladies - what about unconfident men? Posted: 7/18/2008 11:31:56 PM
I use to have alot of empathy for men who are shy and lack confidence...that was until I met this one particular guy. He fit the bill...he was shy but sweet, he didn't have alot of confidence and rarely kept eye contact because of it. Regardless of his lack of confidence, I thought he was cute, funny and charming. I liked him alot and I thought he was someone I would enjoy getting close to..but after a few dates...poof!! He later told me that there was no point in us dating because I would only end up leaving him for someone who was better looking and he would end up hurt. Ironcially...I'm the one who felt hurt..and I doubt he missed a wink of sleep over it.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

women approaching men Posted: 7/18/2008 11:18:36 PM
She only asked you to dance..no big deal. So yeah...you're a bit miserable!! Whatever poor woman asked you to dance probably ended up feeling bad when you refused. It's always nice to have your ego knocked down a knotch when you get the courage to step out of your comfort zone and ask a guy something simple and he says no. Men ask us to dance all the time...and we don't always want to dance with that particular man because we may not be attracted to them but nice girls say yes...they dance...then after they say 'thank you' and return to their friends. No harm done!

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Does it show interest when Posted: 7/18/2008 11:10:02 PM
Just because she read the message and didn't delete it doesn't mean she will ever write back. I don't delete any messages I get...no reason really other than I can't be bothered..lol Some I reply and some I don't...I am guessing most women are the same....just don't take it to heart.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Question about First Date clothing? Posted: 7/18/2008 11:06:54 PM
The best advice I can give you..is dress for the occasion. If you are taking her for a walk on the beach...shorts and sandals are fine...If you are going to the movies...jeans are cool....but if you are taking her to a live theatre show then yeah...be best if you dressed up a bit. :) I hope that helps you.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Womens pics with men in them....... Posted: 7/18/2008 11:03:11 PM
Men do this all the time too. I love when they put pics of themselves with thin gorgeous girls. I realize they're trying to make themselves seem irresistable to beautiful women...but actually they're probably repelling more women than anything else. After all.... if you're surrounded by women like that then what the hell are you doing on a dating site???? lol

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

LADYS WHAT YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS??? Posted: 7/18/2008 10:56:50 PM
Maybe she lied to spare your feelings. Nuff said!!

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 123 (view)

Why is humor the #1 thing girls look for?? Posted: 7/18/2008 10:54:22 PM
It seems completely illogical and, frankly, rather immature to me that someone would feel that humor is so important in a mate. Just curious if you realize how boring, pompous, arrogant, not to mention close minded that sentence made you sound? Wow!!

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 111 (view)

guys that listen to heavy metal: are they dateable? Posted: 7/18/2008 10:50:17 PM
I really don't think it should matter...but I guess it would depend on just how big of a part music is in your life.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Tell me this is not the norm Posted: 7/18/2008 10:43:00 PM
I almost felt bad for you because of how she did seem rude...but then I read a bit more and saw where you wrote that you were just playing the field...and then it made sense. Most smart women can spot a player...so she is gonna get what she wants and not worry about you since you obviously don't care about anything other than having a good time. You expect her to be a lady but you have no intentions of being a true gentleman. Karma's a b!tch, baby!!!!

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Need your help ladies? Posted: 7/18/2008 10:26:36 PM
Heather...I'm sorry to hear that but you know...if you think about it... You brought something really good to his life...so you should be grateful that you now realize how important love is to share. What is the point of loving someone if they don't know it? You owe it to him and yourself to find someone to share love with again.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

When a guy says that he likes to stay active, what do you think? Posted: 7/18/2008 10:14:00 PM
In all honesty...when a guy says that he likes to stay active... I know he enjoys having a body that is fit/atheletic and I can't help but feel that is the type of woman that he's attracted to. I can't really say it's a turn off but I do back off because I believe he would perfer someone with a physically fit slim body . ..although I will admit...that I have been wrong quite a few times with this way of thinking in the past..lol Hmmmm...maybe I should change it?!!?

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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What would your ideal mans personal ad say?? Posted: 7/18/2008 9:56:47 PM
The doctor gave me one month to live...I'm a millionaire with no family. Will you marry me and claim my estate?

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Need your help ladies? Posted: 7/18/2008 9:43:24 PM
You definately need to tell her how you feel...if for no other reason then never having to ask yourself 'what if...' . The only things you truly regret in life are the ones you never did.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

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Dating and Drugs Posted: 7/15/2008 10:24:59 PM
I have a daughter so I know where you're coming from. The first problem is figuring out if he lied or not. If not then you have no problems...if he did then you have to figure out if you can live with not just a pothead but also a liar. Weed may not be a big deal anymore but I know I don't want a pothead as my future spouse or father of my children.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 116 (view)

I want my male friend to stay with me for a weekend but my boyfriend wont have it! Posted: 7/15/2008 10:17:33 PM
My best friend is a man who lives 6 hours away. When he visits, it is usually for a weekend and my boyfriend is cool with it. He trusts me and knows that I have no sexual interest in anyone beside him...so maybe you need to talk to your man about his insecurities and reassure him that he is the only guy for you.

Caper143

Joined: 8/2/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

Humiliation Posted: 7/15/2008 10:03:16 PM
You're a very submissive guy and I can assure you that there are lots of men who are into the same things you are. You'll find the perfect girl...there are alot of dominating women out there.

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