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halofork

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Cute Doesn't Cut It ... Posted: 11/1/2009 6:41:55 PM
I haven't been married 20 years, but have been with the same person for almost 3 years now. You know what? In almost every profile I've read, people want someone to complement them...and up till now, I've struggled to find the right word to describe the chemistry between my man and I, but I think he and I complement each other. All the OP suggested: trust, compatibility, sense of humour, personal happiness and financial success do apply in my case, but they all fell into place once he and I realised that we think and react alike on most things, plus he's a (one) woman's man who knows what women want! Lucky me

halofork

Joined: 8/3/2007

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Motivation Posted: 10/31/2009 7:30:26 PM
Unlike the OP, I haven't been active my whole life; only started to in my early 30s. What's similar is recently with the arrival of colder temperatures (close to zero degrees C and below), I've automatically switched to hibernation mode. Unlike the previous years when it only lasted as long as I became numb from the cold wind, this year I'm finding it difficult to snap out of it. I got a cheap motorized treadmill and I have to force myself to wake up earlier when I'm already staying half hour later in bed than when I used to hit the gym religiously. I just couldn't get my groove back until... This is the second year that my workplace has this health/fitness challenge where anyone who signs up can log steps walked, or any activities like shopping (!!), housework, soccer, swimming etc that use energy. The competitiveness I never knew I had before got me on the treadmill early in the mornings, walked around whenever I could at work, hit the gym at lunch, so on and so forth so that I can log as many "steps" as possible in this 6-week challenge. I got thinking this afternoon, wondering how I lost my motivation in the first place as I was sweating it up on the treadmill on a Saturday (crazy? yes). So what I'm saying is, you gotta find the thing that will get you back into your game, be it a gym partner, a goal (my coworker wants to look fabulous in a string bikini in the Bahamas), that cute guy who shows up at the gym...whatever it takes! Good luck with getting your groove back!

halofork

Joined: 8/3/2007

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Passing wind & dating Posted: 9/1/2009 5:53:24 PM
Only if the lady does it first. True story.

halofork

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Where is he and did he do it? Posted: 8/23/2009 2:03:59 PM
On topic: I'm trying not to hear any of it cuz it's another story sensationalized by media on both sides of the border simply because it involves someone who is known on both sides, especially due to his previous participation on a reality show i.e. Hollywood. But it's tough when many talk about it wherever I go as it's been front-page news since it happened. Off topic: I've heard a mother once say "He's my son" after he did something wrong, so I can empathise with the parents IF the they did help him flee. (I don't have any children, so I wouldn't know what I'd do in this situation should my child ask for my help) At the end of the day, I hope whoever committed the murder gets caught.

halofork

Joined: 8/3/2007

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What's The Best Pizza In Calgary? Posted: 8/21/2009 6:16:33 PM
I also have a hidden gem, which I don't want to make public to make sure it doesn't get too busy. Boooooooooo!

halofork

Joined: 8/3/2007

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Emergency Food Stores Posted: 8/17/2009 5:46:10 PM
I have no food stores, except the half-digested chum in my belly. Seriously, if I had any stashed away in the pantry, it'd be gone before the weekend's up. Yes, I have a eating disorder. Let's just hope that there won't be any emergencies in my lifetime.

halofork

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Instant Messenger Has Been Discontinued By The 3rd party Vendor Posted: 8/9/2009 8:10:22 AM
Noticed another area that mentions the now-defunct Instant Messenger: Profile > Edit If a profile is hidden, the message will say "Hiding your profile disables many things such as the Instant Messenger. "

halofork

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Instant Messenger Has Been Discontinued By The 3rd party Vendor Posted: 8/3/2009 2:58:20 PM
Last trace of "IM": There is a line, "Last 10 people to check their mail, in your state. IM User= Instant Message a user online right now.", on the top of photos after I've clicked the link, "My Matches". Maybe Admin would like to remove that since IM has been discontinued.

halofork

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What lessons have you learned from online dating? Posted: 7/6/2009 6:22:40 PM
Let me see how many lessons I remember... 1) "Chemistry" online can be great, but you have to meet to see if it flows in real life 2) If you happen to progress into a relationship with the online find, you'd still have to work at the relationship - no shortcut from "click" to "happily ever after" 3) Same kinds of people are online as if in real life: good, bad and the ugly (i.e. online predators, people who're looking for the next best man/woman, etc.) 4) Just as exhausting looking for a match online 5) You never know when your match will find you or vice versa, so bear hope! Good luck!

halofork

Joined: 8/3/2007

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any ideas? Posted: 4/18/2009 7:59:36 PM
Did she mention more about needing money? If she was born here, and serious about wanting to be with you, she could look for a job here. As for the initial funds to get here, what happened to old-fashioned saving for the trip? Not going to the "you're getting suckered" since I don't know either you or her. Good luck!

halofork

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Motivation... Posted: 4/16/2009 7:09:09 PM
In this case, the end (health) justifies the means (losing weight, in a healthy way of course). As for the reason, the one that is most effective is the one that will keep that person motivated. My b/f told me recently about his coworker who lost 110 lbs because he wanted to get laid again (he was 6' tall and over 300lbs before). It worked for him, and yes, he has a g/f now.

halofork

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Loving someone ENOUGH.... Posted: 2/2/2009 2:08:23 PM
...how do we know if someone loves us enough? That someone's actions should reflect whether it's enough, too little, or too much (subjective to the recipient), IF our receptors are working well. What are the signs? Words matching the actions. When you find yourself reciprocating as long as you're not like the person that Mon Cherie described in "unconditional love" even when abused. ...is enough the wrong word... I believe in giving your all when you've given your heart / loyalty to someone who's shown you the same...no holding back, so "enough" doesn't exist in my vocabulary of love. What word do you all think would be better to describe Love? Um, love?

halofork

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I just got asked to Move to edmonton from Vancouver any advice. Posted: 1/28/2009 5:05:28 PM
He's not stuck in Edmonton all the time; he can travel to neighbouring cities, like Calgary, Banff, Drumheller, etc. and before he knows it, the year's over. He may (no guarantees) meet someone nice in Edmonton or anywhere during that year too Really, 365 days isn't a long time.

halofork

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do you really know what you want ? Posted: 1/28/2009 4:52:43 PM
Orphis: I'm not sure how your subject line links with the latter part of your post. The latter part of your post sounds like a rant (no offence). Don't get me wrong, I work with someone whom I like to repeat what you had posted. Are you directing it to someone in particular, someone you know will be reading?

halofork

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Why do people hate instant messaging? Posted: 1/21/2009 5:12:41 PM
I don't hate the IM feature. I do, however, dislike the fact that people who initiated IM didn't read my profile. The impression I got was they clicked the IM button as soon as they saw a female online...kinda like pressing the buzzer first on Jeopardy The most memorable experience was someone who IMed while I was still filling out the survey when I signed up for POF....no, I'm not dating him. As the other ladies have mentioned, sometimes one can feel like they're bombarded with the popup boxes.

halofork

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Built for strength OR endurance, but not both? Posted: 1/11/2009 4:56:47 PM
Jaxi_2008: I feel like you're describing my situation when reading your original post I'm in the exact same position as you. I'm glad that you started this thread as I'm taking notes as I read. Ditto on the fact about the limit on cardio is drastically different than limit on weights. Last week, I've tried 4 days of running on the treadmill before I could run without feeling death knocking on my door at the very end of my 20 mins on the 5th day. I've had my health checked twice last year, and once this year (2009) and all results came back normal.

halofork

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Are you getting a flu shot this year? Posted: 11/27/2008 6:08:28 PM
I did. I have been getting a shot every year for almost 10 years now, and ever since that first one, I haven't had the flu since 1999.

halofork

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Moving long distance for a guy??? Posted: 11/11/2008 1:33:55 PM
This thread was first posted more than 2 years ago, and the OP is currently in Calgary: does that mean she moved to Tofino & back, or never moved there? Just wondering...

halofork

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long distance charges... Posted: 10/15/2008 4:30:25 PM
Here's why I think long distance charges still exist: -People are still making long-distance phonecalls -The existing infrastructure needs money to maintain/upgrade -Not everyone uses the internet distance-calling tools -At times, the internet technology, like everything else, can fail I used to Skype, but with a computer upgrade, and no one to talk to now, I don't use it or any other tool you've mentioned, OP.

halofork

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How tall is tall? Posted: 10/7/2008 7:11:43 PM
Off topic: There are advantages to being "grounded" For instance, not hitting the branches - my s/o walks into them constantly On topic: Tall is when I need a ladder to reach...cupboards usually Good thing I only suffer from mild acrophobia Short is when I hit midget status in a few decades' time!

halofork

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First Date Thoughts????????? Posted: 9/28/2008 6:48:07 PM
^^^ Doesn't that thought pop up whenever a man meets a (new) female

halofork

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Are you a pack or a solitary creature? Posted: 9/27/2008 6:30:06 PM
Was pondering over this subject today before coming across this thread...and like many posters before me, I'm like OP. With age, however, I'm also less tolerant of situations that irritate me so I usually enjoy my downtime alone, especially during work hours. All in all, I am more solitary than gregarious

halofork

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Should people judge others on spelling and typing skills? Posted: 9/27/2008 4:48:16 PM
Not judging...but reading all the mis-spelled words is making me spell like them/questioning the correct spelling

halofork

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divorce and friendship Posted: 9/27/2008 9:13:32 AM
Is having a good/stable/healthy whatever word one might wanna call it relationship with the mother of my child a good or bad thing? It's definitely good for everyone involved. I thought it was good since it would mean no drama but I'm starting to think it's not so true. What made you say that? Not getting any response to your profile? That happens to most people on POF. Takes a patient fisherman to get the catch of the day/month/year! Starting to figure out that dating is very complicated. Definitely! There is after all, plenty of fish in the sea! Good luck, and don't give up!

halofork

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Generational differences in the workplace and in the dating world Posted: 9/21/2008 6:59:25 PM
Funny how you brought this topic up, mon cherie, as my current supervisor seems like a Mature (though she's probably a Boomer). Most of my coworkers are Millenials while I'm a Gen X'er. As you probably know, everyone on the team do not like how our sup operates, and yes, I do know it's due to age difference, as she behaves like my elementary school teachers (micromanaging and wants total control). This knowledge does affect how / whom I may date, but I was never looking for someone too much older / younger than me anyway. Thanks for the info, mon cherie.

halofork

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How are you liking the new 'ages' under peoples little pictures? Posted: 9/20/2008 7:51:28 PM
Finally the mystery has been solved! Ages, eh?

halofork

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First Date Thoughts????????? Posted: 9/20/2008 6:45:16 PM
My thoughts during my first date? -Why did I say "Yes" to eating? -Am I talking while eating? -Am I blowing chunks of food on his face when I'm laughing? If he's cute: -Repeat above thoughts If we don't click: -Why do I go on dates?

halofork

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OMG... Is that your ? NO come on.. I'm over 30... they're my ??? Posted: 9/13/2008 2:31:45 PM
To get some things out of the way first: what do the middle aged call their whatevers Over 30 is middle-aged? No way, Jose! Life is tough enough without spending sleepless nights over what you call him/her. So just stick with "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" depending on the gender you're partying with (or not ). As for the other labels: "partner" reminds me of a business partner; "significant other" is such a long, and cold term, like "diplomatic"; "slab of meat" only applies to FWBs...so yeah stick with b/f or g/f is your best bet. And you don't have to answer any other question you don't want to answer after the labelling answer; just say "You're nosy!" if they ask any other questions

halofork

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Where are you from...originally Posted: 9/13/2008 2:16:16 PM
^^^ Technically you're not from a placenta. I'm most likely from a night of liquor-enhanced merry-making

halofork

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Self Diagnosing Posted: 9/7/2008 1:47:58 PM
2 thoughts: Be careful about reading health books. You may die of a misprint. Mark Twain On the other hand, it's good to be concerned if something's not right. But your friend is taking it to the extreme is what you mean, isn't it? But if If you can name it she has had it as far as illnesses go , can't blame her for being concerned. And yes, people do generally like to believe the worst.

halofork

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He's just not that into me? Posted: 9/7/2008 1:21:23 PM
I agree with msg 67: talk to him, instead of asking us, a bunch of strangers who have different life/love experiences from you or the guy you're talking about. Furthermore, I'm a firm believer of actions, not words. Actions always give the words away if the person's lying. Time and actions tell the truth. He's stuck around this long, so that means he's interested to see you/spend time with you again and again. This may not apply in this thread, but your relationship is still in its infancy, and couples don't know each other very well, as with any other type of relationship (e.g. friendship), so maybe that factor plays havoc on your mind a little? Take it this way: it is a time to get to know each other better, and this can be a great time as long as you don't bog your mind down with what-if situations. There will be a time when you know each other so well that you may think your relationship isn't exciting Humans: can't live without them; can't live with them

halofork

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Does someone's occupation matter to you as a potential date? Posted: 9/6/2008 3:44:34 PM
mysterious1 (msg 43): Your comment about some cops thinking they're above the law reminded me about the story about some network administrators thinking that they're gasp God. Thanks for liking my name. I used to work with this lady who said the opposite: she thought that the perfect husband would be one who worked out of town all the time but sent home the paycheques I guess that would work if you couldn't stand the spouse.

halofork

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The not-so-new TV show called Heroes...back on Sep 22, 2008 Posted: 9/5/2008 7:45:34 PM
Cptn Incognito: Have you gotten your copy of Season 2? It's out now. Anyone started counting down the days (hours and minutes) to Season 3 yet? Hope the new writers' contract means better material this season

halofork

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Opinions on the meaning of holding hands Posted: 9/3/2008 6:48:50 PM
Aside from what everyone has mentioned, here's my hand-holding evolution with my sister: She's several years younger than me, so everytime we were out of the house when we were much younger, I'd hold her hand. I remember the time when she was lost in a bookstore - the distraught look on her face made me vow never to see that again. Then as she grew up, we became best friends as we are very close in personality. We continue to hold hands as we're so used to it. Now that she has a boyfriend's hand to hold, I wonder if she'll remember to hold mine next time I visit As for someone of the opposite sex, I will only hold my s/o's hand, not a best friend's. But that's mainly because I don't have a male best friend, and I don't know if I'll ever hold his hand if I have a male best friend.

halofork

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Shovelgloving-- an alternative crazy fun workout for men and women Posted: 8/31/2008 4:09:32 PM
Will need those shovelling muscles in a couple months' time in Calgary! <--- warm up

halofork

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'Normal...on a dating site... Posted: 8/30/2008 7:22:57 PM
I'm getting confused here over the definition of "normal" from reading all the posts First of all, which word came first: norm, or normal? Based on my very short stay on this online universe called POF, or Earth for that matter, "normal" is what is the "norm". Get it? If the majority of people walk around topless, that's "normal" for this particular time; but people who've lived through another era where everyone's fully-clothed, then it's not "normal". Along with everything else, it depends on the person making the "normal" / "not normal" statement. Like a previous poster commented, seems like bad dating behaviour not tolerated in real life is "normal" for online dating...once you get used to it

halofork

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Does someone's occupation matter to you as a potential date? Posted: 8/28/2008 4:42:40 PM
mysterious1: Is that just transit cops, or all cops? mrtom: Do you get to bring the leftover chicken home? Now, if I were ever to need a b/f again, I'd have to ask myself 2 things: as long as he's happy with his job, can I put up the greasiness he brings home with him every time he's working? mrtom, if that someone says "Yes", that'd be the person you want to date!

halofork

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Where to find a good handyman? Posted: 8/27/2008 7:09:12 PM
Thanks, Duffster, for your clarification of the term, "clean run". And yes, I have that installed at least. (I think that extra vent in the roof is the reason why I'm freezing right now) I'll look into HOMEWORK, because when I've called for estimates, the companies either take a long time to get back to me (yup it's vacation and home renos season), or quote me sky-high estimates in a lackadaisical tone So much so that I've given up to just 2 things I really, really want to get done now - the bathroom ventilation and more attic insulation. Not too sure if I want to hold a party in this work-in-progress house yet. Thanks, everyone, for your input.

halofork

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Where to find a good handyman? Posted: 8/26/2008 5:21:51 PM
This is a 30-year-old house. The gouging contractor quoted me 850 to do everything from ducting to putting a dedicated vent in the roof, but he's gone back to S. America now to tend to his biz there. But he won't change the fan for me (which is what I really, really want). Right now, I only need the ducting done, but waiting for another contractor to call me back. By the way, what's a "clean run"? Thanks!

halofork

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Does someone's occupation matter to you as a potential date? Posted: 8/24/2008 4:53:19 PM
Did a search and didn't find anything relating to my topic, so here goes: In my time-killing spree for the past few weekends, I did an unofficial survey of the relationship between the number of Favorites and the occupations. Seems to me (or I may be skewing the results by looking for it ) that in the Alberta profiles, if one's an engineer / business owner (and other professions that are deemed glamorous/have a good income), that person has a high number of favorites, with or without a picture (of course, if the person's athletic, that helps too). Is it just a matter of finding someone who is established in his career, or looking for someone who's well-off, or...? Let's hear it

halofork

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Where to find a good handyman? Posted: 8/24/2008 2:03:19 PM
Thanks for your posts, fishingthinkingwondering. I have no experience whatsoever with home renos so that's why I was looking for a handyman here However, the exorbitant estimates I've received so far are enough to send me to HomeDepot to find out what I can learn to do for myself . But I will look on kijiji - never thought to look there. Thanks again!

halofork

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Squats Posted: 8/24/2008 10:54:06 AM
Just an update to my clicking knee while doing squats, and the recommendation by many here to squat a few as opposed to 20: My knee clicks from squat 1 and doesn't stop. Must likely due to poor form, but I won't try it again. Furthermore, I've noticed that the muscles around the knee tense up while doing the dumbbell-squats. Soooo may be heading out to the dr's office sooner than I had procrastinated to. Thanks again to everyone for their advice!

halofork

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Do you ever get bored with dating, sex, and everything else? Posted: 8/22/2008 6:43:48 PM
I think it's a combination of age, boredom from meeting similar personalities, lack of stimulating dates, and maybe health (have you talked to your doc lately?). I felt like you, and most of the posters here for a while (before I met my current boyfriend) when I was dating: I dreaded going on the first meet as my patience for the same run-of-the-mill dates thinned. Dating was definitely a chore. (The part about dating a lot may apply here) So my diagnosis is, you just haven't met the right person yet.

halofork

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Top row pics when in forums Posted: 8/22/2008 6:28:20 PM
It was all Calgary's pics when I was logged out of forums earlier this evening; now it's back to Vancouver/Burnaby/Maple Ridge area again. I have no issue whatsoever with the pics on top of the inbox or Local Event Thread. But no worries, it doesn't really matter what area's up there. That last post was an update.

halofork

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Top row pics when in forums Posted: 8/21/2008 7:01:19 PM
Just an update: The top row pics are all of Calgary's now. Bizarre, unless Big Fish made a change somewhere. Cheers!

halofork

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HOITY stagette & bridal shower Posted: 8/17/2008 5:37:25 AM
Change is part of life i.e. traditions are always changing according to the times, and of course, no one can always please everyone no matter what function/event it is. So what I mean to say is, your son & soon-to-be daughter-in-law have officially decided what they want to do for the ceremony/gift portion of the wedding. Not that you can't have a say in it, but it seems to be a lil too late since the bridal shower is today. I like what my former mom-in-law did (I went along with what she wanted, and she made sure that I knew what she didn't like but she also knew that it was her son's and my lives to live/make mistakes and mistakes we made ) in order to gently give a guiding hand and keep the peace. I'm not saying you're trying to stir up trouble. This is a forum and people are allowed to air/vent their minds (politely) and this is what everyone here has done so far. I know as a mom, we'd want to take care of our children...if we could, pick the perfect spouse for them...but there's no such thing as "perfect", is there? So sit back, and enjoy the celebration (if it's all paid for), cuz that seems to be why there is a shower/wedding, isn't it? Congrats on being able to give your son away (what my former mom-in-law said God love her)! And remember, ENJOY!

halofork

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HOITY stagette & bridal shower Posted: 8/16/2008 3:09:57 PM
Off-topic: Who, or what is HOITY? On-topic: I agree with wedding registries...how many have received 2-3 toasters as shower/wedding gifts, please raise your hands

halofork

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Squats Posted: 8/14/2008 6:05:58 PM
~~BP~~: I hate waiting to see a doctor, because I have to wait even when I'm on time. That being said, I will go have the clicking issue checked out...before the end of the year Should I see a GP for my problem, and wait for a referral, or go to someone practising sports medicine? By the way, what does "FWIW" stand for?

halofork

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Squats Posted: 8/12/2008 7:25:46 PM
umm...dave: Thanks for your suggestion. However, I'd be hard-pressed to find a spotter since I'm a loner at the gym. Nonetheless I'll try the squat machine tomorrow. lebensbaum: I'll keep in mind the lengthening/shortening of the hamstrings when using the squat machine. I have noticed that I'm more focused on the quads when squatting. Thanks!

halofork

Joined: 8/3/2007

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Squats Posted: 8/11/2008 7:01:56 PM
BP, and um...Dave: 20 was just a number I pulled out of nowhere Right now, I stop whatever I'm doing when my left knee starts clicking. I'm doing one of these compound squats where I raise the dumbbells above my head after I stand up from the squat. It's my mind/fear that's stalling my progress right now.

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