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cookie22222

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Msg: 31 (view)

Going alione Posted: 11/24/2009 1:04:30 PM
I'm absolutely astonished that this would bother anyone. I've gone and done things by myself since I was a teenager - from movies to a bite to eat, to out to a club to see a favorite band. If I want to go somewhere - I go, even if there isn't anyone else interested in attending, or available.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Finances and expenses - responsibility and commitment Posted: 11/24/2009 10:25:55 AM
Anyone I was planning to build a life with (piece of paper declaring it official or not) would be someone who wouldn't nitpick like that. Money is NOTHING...it doesn't bring you happiness...it doesn't hold you in the night during a bad dream...it doesn't rejoice in your triumphs, nor does it mean anything in your darkest hours...it doesn't comfort you on your deathbed. I don't care about money - it all gets blended together, when two people do. If someone doesn't love you enough to care as deeply as you do for your own commitments...then they don't really love you at all.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Was there ONE thing that made you want to meet? Posted: 11/20/2009 12:26:53 PM
A very witty, silly email exchange followed by the same on the phone...and a meeting less than 48 hours after the first contact. It would have been 24, but I had to work...both of us were just giddy with the whole thing. It was nice while it last...best relationship I had online. Miss that boy, I do!

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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why do people feel like they need someone in their life . Posted: 11/20/2009 12:12:34 PM
Well OP...for me, I learned what a good relationship really was (ironically after having decided I was a big girl and didn't believe in fairy tales anymore). Since he died - well, I would like to believe that maybe, just maybe, lightening can strike someone twice in a lifetime. Do I NEED someone in my life? Certainly not...I can live and find joy in my heart over many things...I can breathe and exist. And "someone" is just anyone...not good enough. But I WANT to find that special someone, sometimes desperately. I've found many people, in the last five years - most of whom I probably could have still been with today - who would have adored me, and loved me...who looked at me with it all in their eyes...and I felt like I was cheating them, because I couldn't give that back. SO - if I NEEDED someone - I would have someone. When I find the right one, the one that it's truly over the top, for us both - the relationship I WANT - then guess what? I will need him... There's nothing wrong with needing somone, love isn't a disease or a mental illness. I don't know when it became a badge of honor to declare yourself untouchable.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Is this a Hate Crime ? Posted: 11/20/2009 10:16:53 AM
Of course it's a hate crime...it's specifically the kind of things those laws were put on the books to address. Maybe the victim wasn't physically harmed per se, but she was physically assaulted. Even "just verbal" attacks can be considered a crime. Same thing with sexual harassment - it's "just words" - but it's a crime.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

He ran away... Posted: 11/18/2009 11:47:23 AM
OP - my fiancee died 5 years ago. Some people can't handle that. Since he asked - you told. I don't think it was "too soon", in fact I would say it took longer than it would have with me to talking about it. Although if it's anyone who reads the forums...LOL...they would know! People who date discuss their pasts - their histories, and how relationships ended, and why. Death totally freaks some people out. That's their hang up, not yours. Please don't feel badly about it.

cookie22222

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Is This a Good Reason For a Husband to Leave? Posted: 11/18/2009 6:39:17 AM
OP - any reason is a "good reason"...if that's the reason they choose to leave. Someone could leave over the cap not being put on the toothpaste - often the given reason is just the straw that broke the camel's back. I think you want to hear that you are right. People have different ideas about grown children, pre-existing family...yours did not match with his. Does it really matter what I think? Not at all. He shouldn't have drained the bank account. That was totally wrong - as it would have been had you done it.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Taking a Trip Down Memory Lane Posted: 11/16/2009 11:14:18 AM
My home has always been, and always will be, filled with things that I like, or have meaning to me. Things I love, things given to me over the years, yes by exes, by family and friends, by my children while they were growing up. A painting of a woman holding a baby, from my kids' father, after our first child was born. A painting in my dining room, bought by my fiancee who went and died on me...he laughed at me, because the darn thing only cost $10, but I caught sight of it in a thrift store window and just loved it. Another painting, of the lighthouse on Cape May NJ...sent to me in Illinois a few months after I moved out there, because my friend said she knew how homesick I was. She died the following spring. Pictures of my boys, with their dad, pictures of my deceased fiancee, laughing in front of the volcano in Vegas, pictures of "the gang" in high school, my mother and us "kids" when we were young...my memories, my momentoes, the things that I cherish because of where they came from, my life represented in those silly things - worth nothing, but meaning everything to me.

cookie22222

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/16/2009 10:38:14 AM
hibiscus - I'm not going to bash you...just bring my own view to the table...maybe it's not a question of reality, or looking in a mirror - perhaps it's ego, confidence and a bit of "it's all in the attitude"? I'm approached IRL all the time by younger men, as well as online. OP - how much older are you talking? I was with somone long term who was 7 years younger than me (and on the flip side, the father of my children was 16 years older). For me, it would be odd to have someone in my life who is the same age as my children. I have been asked out by men who were close to my eldest son's age (24) and it's just creepy so I say no. Not because of what anyone would think! Personally I'm not really worried about even what my family would say (keep in mind at 20 I brought home a 36 year old man). My family might say something to me, in private; but they would never presume to attempt to pressure me to do what they saw as proper. They'd shake their heads and say - if it makes her happy....

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Christmas already? For Christ's sake... Posted: 11/16/2009 10:14:14 AM
I love Christmas, always have and always will. I love the feeling that comes with it...peace on earth, good will towards men. I love the smiles, the joy in children's faces, the family get togethers, the silly Christmas specials. I love remembering my childhood, and how it all felt then - magical. Sure - people try to rush it in, and retailers try to extend the "buying season". My lights go on the day after Thanksgiving...and the decorations in the house go up then. I spend weeks baking cookies...not so many people do that anymore I hear. I play the carols and sing along. My "kids" are 21 and 24. There aren't any little ones in the family any more. We usually do Christmas Eve now - and so Christmas morning, do I wake up disappointed, let down? NO. I run the donation drive at my place of employment - I've been working on it since October. By Christmas day, I will have worried and run around like a nut for weeks - I'm already going home just brain dead every night. But Christmas morning - the joy in my holiday was almost hearing children's voice - kids who woke up and knew that Santa didn't forget them. Christmas is what you make of it. If you make it tawdry, and without soul - then that's what it is. If you find the joy...there's nothing better.

cookie22222

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Suicides increase as foreclosures rise Posted: 11/16/2009 8:49:30 AM
FL CO You are lucky that your company is like that. Not many workers have jobs (because there aren't many out there) that have a lot of sick/vacation time anymore. And of course - if you are hurt at 22, you haven't had time to work your way up or out into another job. Or rack up months of sick time, for that matter. I think you are getting the brunt of the responses on this thread because you are, for the most part, showing such a lack of empathy. "I did this, I have that"...that's great. But not everyone is in your position. You go back and forth from "take any job, some money is better than nothing" - to "if someone takes a job with no or bad benefits it's not my problem". But you don't allow that sometimes - THINGS happen. Sometimes - they happen one after another, no chance to recover from #1 , before #2, #3 and on and on. Back to the OP's subject though...I think it's awful how desperate people become. I think that we are all so busy looking out for ourselves that the milk of human kindness, that empathy and compassion, are dying out. Oh, I know - it's not true of everyone (and I pray it won't ever be true of me!), but I think it's a lot more prevalent these days.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

Suicides increase as foreclosures rise Posted: 11/16/2009 6:13:45 AM
Post #39 If I got hurt on the job I'd get workers comp, and have a few months worth of sick/vacation time saved so I wouldnt be struggling. Think so? My son got hurt on the job - Jan. 2, 2008 - and hasn't gotten ANYTHING yet. Except a laywer...and a lot of grief. Almost 2 years now! As for having "months" of sick/vacation time saved up - really? How are you going to do that with a job that gives you NO sick time, and 5 vacations days a year?

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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How do I get ink out of clothes? Posted: 11/13/2009 12:51:02 PM
I actually keep some in my desk at work, to use on ink not my hair! Just get whatever is cheap...not sure what in it that gets out the ink, but it has always worked for me.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Problems with ex's church Posted: 11/13/2009 12:47:03 PM
Yes Joy that is something people don't understand - that child abuse (legally) may not encompass every act against a child. It is important for people with children to know, so that they understand who to call if there is a problem - CPS for some things, the police for others (although many overlap). CPS varies from state to state, and county to county, in what laws they follow, and even procedures in individual counties...

cookie22222

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Potatoes help me lose weight Posted: 11/13/2009 12:09:39 PM
Wasn't there a potato diet around like 25 years ago? You could eat all the potatoes you wanted - put whatever you wanted on them, butter, cheese, sour cream (no veggies or meat)...boil or bake... I lost 13 pounds in like 8 days on that...then was violently ill for a month....go figure...

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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How do I get ink out of clothes? Posted: 11/13/2009 11:56:27 AM
Hairspray - works every time!

cookie22222

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Problems with ex's church Posted: 11/13/2009 11:50:52 AM
This is NOT child abuse here. Child abuse, by law (in Pennsylvania, every state reads somewhat differently) can ONLY be when the perpetrator is in a caretaking position or is a household member. CPS won't get involved in the situation you described. It is however, assault, engangering the welfare of a child, etc. - a police matter. I'd agree that you should try to talk to the father - if that doesn't work, then you need to go through a lawyer and/or the courts.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Tips and Tricks of the Trade Posted: 11/13/2009 6:41:09 AM
OP - great idea with the bathroom, LOL... I found that getting things ready (as much as possible) the night before helped. I also found when kids got to the "no" stage I would give them choices...not "what do you want for breakfast" (too many choices) - but "do you want oatmeal or eggs"...or the red shirt or the blue. That helped a LOT with my boys - I think they felt like they had more control over their lives, and giving them two things to pick from didn't put them on overload. Meals - well, silly me, I cooked, a lot. On Sunday I would make an early dinner, something that would have leftovers (a whole chicken, a huge pot of meatballs) and then later in the day might also cook some other things, so that when I got home with two hungry kids after work - dinner wasn't a huge issue. Planning really helps - so does a sense of humor!

cookie22222

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Ditching a person that's Bad News Posted: 11/13/2009 6:31:30 AM
OP - tell him you changed your mind, that's all - if you haven't seen him in 19 years - then why all the worrying about an explanation? Just tell him no. If he contacts you after that - don't answer.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Are there women/men who wait as long as 6 mos. before sex? Posted: 11/13/2009 6:29:37 AM
I don't walk into any relationship with a timeframe, or God forbid rules, on my mind. I do what feels right, when it feels right. But I have to say - can't imagine waiting that long with somone I was truly interested in.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Empty promises Posted: 11/13/2009 6:24:51 AM
I don't know OP, if it's just a first meet or a date or two - in conversation if I mention I need to - paint something or whatever - and they offer to help, I take it more as a provisional thing - IF this works out, I'll be around. Sort of like - having an event coming up in 6 months - IF we are together I'll go with you.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Disclosing certain information Posted: 11/13/2009 6:18:33 AM
OP, you don't need to pour out every detail of your life immediately. I think when talking about your ex, just "he was abusive and I left" ought to be good enough. When a relationship develops, certainly things will be discussed in more detail, that's just the natural progression of getting to know someone. I personally believe in honesty - but there is no reason to pour out every dark corner in your soul when just meeting someone. Balance....

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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sweep me off my feet? Posted: 11/13/2009 6:14:06 AM
Hmmm...don't know that I want to be swept off my feet - but might like to be swept away together!

cookie22222

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Living expenses and pride.. Posted: 11/12/2009 1:03:24 PM
OP - are you afraid of being accused of being a "golddigger"? Your "pride" may be that old "I don't NEED anyone, I can do it myself" thing rearing it's ugly head. Sometimes a good thing (wanting to be able to pull your own weight, wanting to feel you aren't "using" someone) can be a bad thing when it goes too far. I had trouble at a point in my life, accepting help in many different forms, in different types of relationships. Someone said to me - "you've spent so much time doing things for other, and don't you think that the people who love you wouldn't want to do for you when you need it"? OP - I'm leaving him out of this discussion. What is it in YOU that makes you hesitant or afraid to talk to him about it? And - don't you see that in a relationship that is healthy, you should be able to discuss anything? Sure some things are uncomfortable...but they have to be done.

cookie22222

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Suicides increase as foreclosures rise Posted: 11/12/2009 12:27:41 PM
I work in a building which also houses the county morgue...I have no stats to back it up, just that security here was saying last spring the number of suicides was way up...from 1 or 2 a week the year before to 1 or 2 a day. It stands to reason that people who are prone to suicidal thoughts may have more to push them over the edge with things being what they are these days - and that those who never had those leaning might, in the midst of their worlds collapsing around them, decide to end it all. It will be interesting to see how much the child abuse rates are up - the feeling here is there is a lot more reports coming in, and unfortunately - many more deaths and very severe injuries.

cookie22222

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P.P.& Rapists Posted: 11/10/2009 6:09:04 AM
High profile cases generate stiffer sentences...but having worked in the local child welfare office on and off for over 20 years - I often used to say, if you want to get away with murder, kill a child - your own, and the younger the better. Things are gradually changing, but crimes against children are, I think, in general under-punished.

cookie22222

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Why do women have issues with time ? Posted: 11/9/2009 10:53:43 AM
Personally - I think the chronically late are either self-centered, or undisciplined and scatterbrained. Either way -

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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Visitation: Dos and Don'ts Posted: 11/9/2009 10:50:57 AM
I agree with what WindRoper said...I'm staying out of the flu battle! If you want to pass a message to your ex, hand him a note if you don't talk, or are afraid of an argument, if you can't call on the phone. Verbal messages back and forth through the kids are a no no! Leave them out of it as much as you can. His time IS his time - what he does with the kids, where he goes, who they are with - all up to his judgement. Remember - that is a two way street. How would you feel if he questioned your calls about the kids? As to him saying what he did - been there done that OP...you can't control what he says. You can only control your response to it. Don't stoop to that level.

cookie22222

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Msg: 56 (view)

would you date a guy who doesn't believe in education-content with his job Posted: 11/6/2009 12:58:07 PM
I don't think a degree is necessary to have a good income/job/career - intelligence is important, ambition is important, and neither of those come from books (I said "intelligence" NOT knowledge). As long as someone has a trade or skill, and is employable - what difference does schooling make?

cookie22222

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ok,,its gone too far...welfare cell phones? Posted: 11/6/2009 11:49:22 AM
This has been around a little while - I'm going to say I heard about this at the beginning of the year. They give you the phone and a nominal amount of minutes (I believe 30), if you don't use them they roll over; if you need more you can buy them (phone cards for minutes) at many stores. You pretty much automatically qualify if you get welfare, and many elderly people also qualify (I don't have so much of a problem with them getting these though). I think it's crazy. Since when did a phone become some sort of necessity? It's an inconvenience not to have one. I heard it said you "need" one more now because pay phones are being removed everywhere, since "everyone" has a cell - if you reverse that, what it means is in a REAL emergency all you would need to do is scream and "someone" would call 911 for you... I was raised by grandparents who lived through the depression...I know the difference between what is a necessity (food on the table and a roof) , what you should put as a secondary priority (phone, car), and what is just an out and out luxury - cable TV, computers....

cookie22222

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women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time... Posted: 11/6/2009 8:45:36 AM
Well OP - for me, I've got it right on my profile that I'm not really here to date at this point. BUT - I might give it a whirl at some point...this is my busiest time of year - I do holiday donations at work, and right now I'm trying to find Christmas presents for a thousand kids. A friend and I were discussing this a while back - we both sort of pinned it as, I'm tired, I work hard, there's always so much to do...errands, cleaning, family...and what we really both want is to get past that meet & greet, into a relationship - have a boyfriend that you are at the point where they just come over, you have a pizza or something and do the grocery shopping. LOL - of course you have to go through the dating to get there! I guess you can't take all that "I'm so busy" at face value, because as true as it might be - if you get past that beginning part (when you may not see each other much) you may hit the melding together. Totally different story there.

cookie22222

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Trust and Autonomy in a relationship Posted: 11/6/2009 7:27:33 AM
^^^OutMind makes a good point - you may have had trust in yourself, and your judgement, but it gets all knocked out of kilter when someone betrays you, and unless you deal with it within yourself you carry those things on to other people - maybe subconciously but still there? I think OP that trust in yourself, love of yourself, belief in yourself - all play a part in how a relationship turns out.

cookie22222

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IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/6/2009 6:57:49 AM
Honestly...this stuff drives me nuts. Why can't we just be who we are and do what we want? And why do women say - oh my what if he doesn't like me, I may feel rejected and foolish...good lord!!! So that's ok for men but God forbid you may take that chance? And - is your ego so fragile it wouldn't withstand a polite "no thanks"? Beam me up Scotty - there's no intelligent life here.

cookie22222

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Tubal Ligation Stories Posted: 11/5/2009 8:38:25 AM
Oh dear Lord... I had one about 15 years ago. Had two small cuts (maybe an inch long) neither of which I can find. Had a bruise about the size of of a tennis ball for maybe a month. I was sore for a week or two (think - bruise - that level of "pain" if you want to call it that). Please note that I end up allergic to everything under the sun, and that every "minor" thing I have done ends up being a big long ordeal - this one was the only one that I would say was NO problem at all.

cookie22222

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V.....Y? Posted: 11/5/2009 8:33:02 AM
I loved the original - even bought and read the BOOKS for Gods sake...the new one was pretty good, watched it with my son who really enjoyed it... I am very funny about TV - usually don't start a show until it's "established" because - they ALWAYS cancel everything I like!!! American Gothic, Jericho, now this year (already) Trauma.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

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smell me Posted: 10/30/2009 8:26:05 AM
I agree with Msg #2 - there is just something about a man's own smell, that either is a turn on or a turn off...under the cologne and soap or whatever. Wonder how the stuff you got will work?

cookie22222

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Quick and Easy for the Kidlings Posted: 10/30/2009 7:10:27 AM
When my kids were little, I'd make "egg in a hole"...cut out the center of of slice of bread, and stick it in the pan...the egg gets cracked in the hole. The piece you cut out can be toasted. Homemade breakfast burritos...scramble some eggs and add whatever you like, wrap in tortillas. Snacks - believe it or not I'd make a dip - the packaged, powdered soup mix, with either no fat sour cream or yogurt - and fresh veggies. Broccoli, cauliflower, green pepper, carrots, celery...my boys loved that. Or - ants on a log - celery sticks with peanut butter and raisins on top. It's not always a matter of getting kids to eat - it's getting them to eat something good for them! I'm with the gentleman who said he actually cooked - not "out of the box". Sundays when my boys were small, I'd cook a large Sunday dinner early (2 PM) and then make something else - one week it might be a roasted chicken for dinner, and chicken soup from the leftovers. Meatballs - a hundred at a time, freeze with sauce in meal sized portions, next week, big vat of beef stew - again, leftovers for another meal or two to freeze. If you plan, you can avoid a lot of that packaged crap.

cookie22222

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Doing the opposite Posted: 10/30/2009 6:31:32 AM
ROFLMAO - I was just telling a friend who had a good first date to do exactly that, called it the George Costanza thing - because if she screws this one up, I'm going to have to kill her!

cookie22222

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Is there a stigma associated w recent widowers? Posted: 10/28/2009 8:08:31 AM
Post #2, especially the long part - very insightful. I lost my fiancee 5 years ago now, after 6 very happy years together. I often thought that the anxiety people found around me was because I was a walking, living, breathing reminder that in the end - we have absolutely no control over the things that really matter - like life and death. Some people can't face that. If you are newly widowed OP, I would be concerned...and I say that having gone through it myself. Not everyone is the same, the path you walk will be different than anyone else's - but a lot of people rush in to fill the void in their life because they can't deal with the pain. For me - I know it's not everyone who does that - but it would be in the back of my mind. Just remember OP - you can find someone wonderful, the love of your life for the second half of your life - but if they can't deal with the fact of what your experience has been before they met you - then you just won't work together. I try to explain to people, using whatever they like - ice cream, cookies, pie...You love banana cream pie...it's your favorite, you have it always, never look at apple or cherry or Boston cream. Then one day - it's gone. It doesn't exist anymore. You mourn it being gone from your life. Eventually you try the other kinds. WOW - key lime! Woo hoo...it's wonderful and fulfilling and you love it. Once in a while you will remember banana cream - sometimes, you will miss it dreadfully - but it doesn't mean that you don't love key lime...and in the end, that's what is at the center of your life now.

cookie22222

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All the way in, or all the way out? Posted: 10/28/2009 6:20:27 AM
OP - I'm with you...but I don't do the halfway thing anymore. For me (and yes I know not everyone prescribes to this notion) the idea that something can "grow" doesn't work - I tried, God knows, and only ended up hurting perfectly nice men who I truly like and respect - but the woo hoo, over the top thing wasn't there. Some people on here call that "infatuation" and say it fades - for me, that hasn't been the case. I know it can last, and I want it again - because having had that, anything less would feel like settling. Maybe for a while it works...but I couldn't live like that forever.

cookie22222

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When is it okay to start having adult sleepovers? Posted: 10/27/2009 1:14:10 PM
CPS is not the morality police.

cookie22222

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What is your expectations of the perfect man/women for you??? Posted: 10/27/2009 6:08:18 AM
Expectations? You never know what's around the next bend in the road...expectations are an illusion, I think. The perfect man - there is no perfect man, and I'm not perfect either (although I come close - see, there's my fault, ego!)...but sometimes two imperfect people can come together and make a perfect relationship. That is my hope....not my expectation.

cookie22222

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Does Sex Change How you feel ? Posted: 10/27/2009 6:03:58 AM
Every time I read the word "rules" - I seriously consider poking my eyes out. Maybe - just maybe - if every was themselves instead of putting on fronts and what have you - we'd manage to connect better. First date - twenty-first date - what difference does it make? Every man, every woman, is different, and everyone acts different in each relationship they have, because every relationship and the feeling involved are different. Different levels, different purposes, different timetables! If a man is judging me on when we sleep together - well, I think we probably wouldn't sleep together at all, because I would ferret out what he was like, and that would end it. I don't mesh with people who put stuff into little boxes and slap labels on everything. They are the kinds who use their heads - I am all about going with intuition, feelings, and the heart.

cookie22222

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Msg: 47 (view)

Closed Minded Sugarcoated Love Posted: 10/27/2009 5:50:28 AM
OP - you are 27 years old. You entered a rebellious stage - and it sounds like you never came out of it. You drink too much (your words), you've lost jobs because of that, you have a failed marriage and a daughter to take care of, bounce around from place to place...what mother wouldn't worry? Your mother loves you, whether you choose to believe that or not, and she is worried - about you, your future, your happiness, and probably your child. You live in her house, so suck it up. End of story. And if she's being nice to these random women you have in and out of your life - then saying to YOU she doesn't like them - that isn't being "two faced" it's being polite and acting friendly for YOUR sake.

cookie22222

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Are you better at finding or being found? Posted: 10/26/2009 12:34:06 PM
Hmmm...I'd have to say I'm better at finding - been found by too many people who I didn't click at all with...I wonder why that is???

cookie22222

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you just know Posted: 10/26/2009 12:30:25 PM
I "just knew"...and thought, oh, it can't be, won't last (the feelings, not the relationship). People come and go in our lives, sometimes...and forever has connotations of one year rolling into another into decades...sometimes a person's forever is only a year or two. I believe "you just know" when someone presents with the potential for "forever". Call it soul mates if you want - we have more than one I believe.

cookie22222

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Msg: 32 (view)

Heart Strings Posted: 10/26/2009 6:43:18 AM
OP - I've seen that commercial...it's awfully effective isn't it? How about on Saturday mornings on GMA - your week in 3 words...some of them are really touching. Here at work we know something really bad's gone on if someone is crying (child welfare office); we are hardened to a lot here, but when you see a hardbitten veteran of abuse investigations sobbing - you know it's going to be bad.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

when did coffee become a first date? Posted: 10/26/2009 6:32:29 AM
Semantics! Date/first meet...whatever you want to call it. Coffee (or a drink) is quick, long enough to get a sense of someone in person, and whether or not you want to spend any more time getting to know them.

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

more sex Posted: 10/26/2009 6:05:36 AM
Hmmmm...what about the other way round?

cookie22222

Joined: 8/4/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Gurgle gurgle what? Posted: 10/23/2009 11:36:35 AM
My neighbor asked how my son got "cheetah" bites...LOL...he had been trying at the age of 4 to say "mosquito".

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