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lebensbaum

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Do (social, beautiful) women (or you) really respond to negative openers? Posted: 6/21/2009 8:27:31 PM
I would run, run, run simply for self- preservation. I interpret cutting, edgy remarks or teasing as a danger to my sensitive little heart. I love positive teasing and banter! That's the good stuff that opens me right up and wins my trust and appreciation.

lebensbaum

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Starting Pilates at Home Posted: 5/1/2009 8:08:32 PM
Pilates work is done barefoot or in socks so you don't have to worry about the shoes! I highly recommend BASI pilates series of DVD's. You can get all three for about thirty bucks: beginning, intermediate, and advanced. I love them because the first one is very basic and takes about twenty minutes. I am past the beginning level, but sometimes I only have twenty minutes and I can do the DVD and feel great. If I'm having a great day I go for the advanced DVD which takes quite a bit longer. The instruction and demos are absolutely precise and they are high quality productions. Of course, I'm biased since that if where I was trained. :) basipilates.com

lebensbaum

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The “^v game”, Texas style (again) Posted: 4/4/2009 12:46:29 PM
^ Sleeps as he boot scoots. < Isn't that where the hay is? It's rumored that a good sleep in the hay does wonders. Or is that a roll? v Has a funny sleepwalking story.

lebensbaum

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The “^v game”, Texas style (again) Posted: 3/10/2009 11:59:00 PM
^ And maybe teeter tottered? < Wonders what the distinction is between weeble and wobble, teeter and totter, pitter and patter, etc. Thanks to ^! v Knows how to distinguish rockin' from rollin'.

lebensbaum

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The “^v game”, Texas style (again) Posted: 2/20/2009 6:37:03 PM
^^ Devil's food cake! < Did someone say chocolate? I thought I heard chocolate calling me from this forum. I'll take the chocolate and leave you ^ the vanilla. v Must like strawberry cuz that's all that's left.

lebensbaum

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Tai Chi, kenpo, shaolion boxing and other martial arts Posted: 1/22/2009 8:32:17 PM
When I first lived alone I felt the need to take some self-defense training. I called a good friend who had studied several modalities of martial arts and he recommended Kenpo. He said that in open tournaments the Kenpo guys kicked everyone' s behinds. Fortunately for me I stumbled into a great situation for practicing Kenpo at a neighborhood studio with a world champion instructor whose hey day was in the "Kung-fu fighting" days. An unexpected benefit was that all the kicking and punching helped me let go of old anger and resentments. Very cool.

lebensbaum

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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married? Posted: 1/7/2009 11:39:24 PM
It's a compliment and a sign that they love you and have concern for your well-being. You have a twenty year relationship with these friends so it's not like they're nosey strangers. You have a twenty year relationship with these friends so it's probably not going to jeopardize the friendship if you simply state that you want to move on to another subject. If you don't want to talk about it stand your ground and be nice. There's no need to misinterpret their motives. They ask you questions and you get to say yes, no, or let's move on. I like msg 48's response, but I add "...who also wants to marry me." Or something along the lines of that being a miracle

lebensbaum

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what is the best complement you have ever recived. Posted: 12/6/2008 9:57:40 PM
I was in the home of a client who was hosting Wally Shirra, the astronaut. My client introduced us and as I shook his hand Wally said, "That's a great handshake you have there, young lady." I almost fainted.

lebensbaum

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The “^v game”, Texas style (again) Posted: 11/20/2008 7:30:57 PM
^ Must have PSE. I mean SEP. No, no, it's ESP! I've been wondering why I was having a hard time falling asleep. < Favorite joke is: What does an agnostic, dyslexic, insomniac do? Stay up all night wondering if there is a Dog! v Can help me with this perplexing riddle of what would make you smile if you were a cheese?

lebensbaum

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Half Naked... Posted: 11/19/2008 2:13:20 PM
You make my point for me beautifully with that torso of yours. Obviously you've spent many hours in the gym pumping up those pecs and abs and you're proud of them. You're marketing effectively for attracting a woman who'll appreciate a man who puts that kind of work into his body and who you are will make her happy. You won't have to change a thing. Your decision to post a picture of your carefully crafted headless torso is the decision that lets me know that you are not marketing to attract me. That's why I pass on profiles with pictures like these, not because of beautiful torsos or proud men, both of which I like, but because it's a matter of how much a man reveals to the world and how he chooses to do that that let's me know if we might be compatible or not.

lebensbaum

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Half Naked... Posted: 11/15/2008 9:27:30 PM
I pass on profiles with bare torsos. It's not because I think they're conceited, (which I had to find a synonym for because this site doesn't accept the term that refers to a rooster and describes his strutting behaviour) because I like confidence in a man, but I interpret it as an indication that our ideas of what is appropriate initially are so far apart it's not going to work, so why try? I'm looking for a man in whom I delight just as he is and vice versa.

lebensbaum

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The “^v game”, Texas style (again) Posted: 11/3/2008 11:00:57 AM
^ When he was bad he was very, very bad. < Gold stars are the water in which she swims. She knows no other way. v Knows another way.

lebensbaum

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MARS/VENUS... Still the Gold Standard? Posted: 10/28/2008 12:41:43 AM
After that masculine note I will add a feminine recommendation. "Venus in spurs or why women head for the hills when love comes to town." I can't remember the name of the author, but she is a woman and it was a great read. She writes from her own experience and epiphanies and also those of her girlfriends. I like the highly unscientific and non-authoritative way it is written. I found value in the Mars/Venus books as a fixed point by which to compare things. I also find it unfortunate that many who read the books will think that all men are "this way" and all women are "this other way". It seems to me that it would be most productive for couples to learn how each other communicate, learn, and react instead of the pigeon-holing approach. But what do I know? Here I am fishing!

lebensbaum

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The “^v game”, Texas style (again) Posted: 10/27/2008 11:20:49 AM
^ Is riding the rapids as his stream of consciousness flows into the river of dreams. < Ready, willing, and able to bob for apples with the condition that there is no wet T-shirt contest afterward. v Reminds me of a York peppermint patty--smooth and cool.

lebensbaum

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The “^v game”, Texas style (again) Posted: 10/23/2008 6:31:06 PM
^ Inspired the creation of the words "Stoofy" and "Grange". < Doesn't even recognize her old friend "v" and can hardly be expected to call the funny farm after her harrowing escape. v Has grand, G-rated plans involving heavy whipping cream.

lebensbaum

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The “^v game”, Texas style (again) Posted: 10/23/2008 10:45:56 AM
^ Flatliner in near death by chocolate overdose. < Loves German, Swiss, and Belgian varieties and believes everything is better with heavy whipping cream. Below: Can tell me how to find the arrow that points down. :-)

lebensbaum

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What buoys women's viewpoints of women in the public. Posted: 10/4/2008 4:52:59 PM
I admire women who are smart, get things done, and stand on principle. Class acts. In politics: Elizabeth Dole, Condalisa Rice, Susan Hankinson, Susan Golding, Angela Merkl, and YES! Sarah Palin. Commentators: Laura Ingraham, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, and Ann Coulter, although I will concede that sometimes Ann can be really mean. Business women: Laurel Langmeier, Shari Dew, Oprah Winfrey, Sandra Arledge Actresses: Emma Thompson, Cybil Shepherd and I have to concur with the above posters with Jamie Lee Curtis and Susan Sarandon. For me the tragedies that occur with women in the public eye are when those women choose to believe the lie that their greatest value is as a sexual object and they abandon their true beauty and talent to pursue sexual object-hood.

lebensbaum

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Odd Little Things The Opposite Sex Does You Find Sexy or Attracts You Posted: 9/19/2008 10:23:33 PM
I go weak in the knees when a man takes my hand and bends over it to kiss it in that old-fashioned way you never see anymore. Even when it's done in jest, it is effective nonetheless.

lebensbaum

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Kneecap pain - from running Posted: 9/16/2008 10:50:37 AM
Your original post says kneeCAP pain. If it really is around the knee cap you need to get it looked at by someone who knows physical medicine before you go on a quad strengthening program. If it's BELOW the knee cap and to the inside of the leg it probably is a tight hamstring. The medial hamstring wraps around the inside of the leg and inserts at the inside front lower quadrant of the knee. 90% of the time when my clients complain about their knees that medial hamstring is the problem and it goes away with some simple stretching. If that doesn't help take it easy and get it checked out. Whoohooo, for Pilates!

lebensbaum

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What if I'm wrong? Posted: 9/14/2008 10:22:48 PM
If for the sake of this discussion we strip away the trappings of religion and culture what are the things that are important to all of humanity? Life and freedom. Working to sustain and improve life can be approached from many angles: food for the hungry, medicine or improved medical care for the sick, economic opportunities to help people sustain life, etc. Working to preserve freedom fits right in with that. I couldn't figure out how to separate them from each other. Freedom is the necessary foundation for growth and expression that life seeks. Fighting oppression is a way to preserve freedom. Tolerance and rule of law is a way to preserve freedom. Too many "ways" to enumerate. I'll just leave it boiled down to life and freedom.

lebensbaum

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How can you comment on someone's appearance ... Posted: 9/14/2008 12:43:09 AM
When you tell her it will hurt her feelings, but that doesn't mean she'll take offense. I suggest being honest and giving her plenty of assurances about how much she means to you and how great she is in other ways. Hmmm, when I play out the possible scenarios I can see that this is tricky ground. New suggestion: Remember that if she asks you for your opinion how she reacts to it speaks to who she is. And, remember that sometimes it's better to be kind than to be right!

lebensbaum

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Why Bother Waiting for Sex? Posted: 9/13/2008 11:33:28 PM
Perhaps I should have phrased it differently. In an unguarded moment, with a sigh, he said, "Maybe sex isn't the best way to meet people."

lebensbaum

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Why Bother Waiting for Sex? Posted: 9/13/2008 9:51:14 PM
A dear friend of mine who is promiscuous admits that having sex might not be the best way to meet people.

lebensbaum

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Women hardwired for change Posted: 9/8/2008 10:28:11 PM
Amen, Avalanche!

lebensbaum

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Do you use alternative medical practitioners and have they helped? Posted: 9/7/2008 6:55:19 PM
Just to clarify the meaning of "allopathic". Some people use allopathic to mean anything that is not western american medical association approved procedures and treatments. The term allopathic is opposite to homeopathic. For example a homeopathic practitioner would use procedures and medicines to encourage the body to heat up when an individual has a fever. The idea being that the body is heating up for a good reason and they want to help the body do what it is trying to do. An allopathic practioner would use procedures and medicines to encourage the body to cool down and cut the fever. In this sense Chinese medicine is allopathic. They have different tools than western medicine, but they are allopathic. Chinese allopathic medicine saved my life, so I think it's a good thing.

lebensbaum

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Ego Wear Posted: 9/7/2008 9:42:37 AM
Addendum: Cowboy boots. Wow. I' m a native Californian and while we do have cowboy boots there they are not as common as they are here in Texas. I tried some on the other day... Comfortable. Sturdy. Made me feel like I could stomp on a water moccasin, dance a barn down and kick anyone's little bottom. :-)

lebensbaum

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Science proves it..we are stupid Posted: 9/6/2008 6:41:27 PM
I think that this decline leads to cynicism in dating, fixated habits, categorical thinking, these are all ways to save mental energy, shortcuts. Grand generalizations, extrapolating too much from past experience, firm expectations, stubborn responses to change, inflexibility, are all characterizations of the elderly. Knowing it all, refusing to see new ideas, becoming too comfortable and dependent on routine, these to me are all signs of aging. I see these same characteristics in people of all ages. Even in posts outside the over 45 set. Gasp! Being old attitudinally is a different animal than being old because your physical capacities are diminished.

lebensbaum

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NECK PAIN! aaaarrgh help! Posted: 9/5/2008 9:01:23 AM
It's great that you know exactly what is going on! Good call on going to the chiropractor. I would like to suggest that you find a great massage therapist who knows their way around deep tissue work. The body repairs the rips/tears that are created in the motion resulting in whiplash with collagen fibers aka scar tissue. As scar tissue heals it contracts which can result in some interesting limits on range of motion. A good therapist can make the scar tissue as effective as possible by breaking down adhesions that do not run with the muscle fibers. Quick recovery and happy trails to you!

lebensbaum

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Science proves it..we are stupid Posted: 9/1/2008 9:31:07 PM
I think it depends on the field. I remember reading about how major shifts in brain function happen around three, eight, and twelve, but adult brain development is largely uncharted territory. The psychology book presented as a theory that our brains do continue to evolve as adults and they used the field of mathmatics and history to contrast and compare the adult brain at different stages in life. According to this book, (It was a human development textbook from my college days. I have no idea what the name of it was.) persons who specialize in the field of mathematics burn bright and early. Persons who specialize in history accumulate information consistently throughout their careers and write brilliant books which give meaning to the facts and are rich with their interpretations of relationships at the ends of their careers. It could be true...but it's just a theory. It would make sense in the case of the actors mentioned that they would only improve with experience, and their days of creating unifying theories are behind them. Maybe.

lebensbaum

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Science proves it..we are stupid Posted: 8/31/2008 9:26:46 PM
Learning any new skill like playing an instrument, dancing, gardening, playing new games, and solving new problems are all supposed to help. Change as in travel or moving to a new area is also supposed to help keep our brain on its toes and grow new neural networks. I heard somewhere that "they" calculated how many possible synaptic connections fire in the life of an average person and that the number is only 1% of the possible synaptic activity of our brains. If I have more than 99% of my brain to use in approaching anything new and challenging, I say, "Bring it on!" Wait, did I just say that? Famous last words. :-)

lebensbaum

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Do you use alternative medical practitioners and have they helped? Posted: 8/31/2008 4:43:46 PM
I tried the traditional medical route for a life-threatening situation in my own life almost twenty years ago. I was told that they didn't know what was wrong, on paper I should work fine, but they would be happy to take out my uterus if I wanted to do that. !?!? I said, "No, thank you." I went looking for answers. I read everything I could lay my hands on about my situation and realized that traditional western medicine knew very little about what was what. I tried treatments from different practitioners of various modalities. Some made an impact and others did not. Eventually, I found healing in acupuncture, herbs and kenpo karate. Sure, I'm thrilled to be healed, but the real blessing in my life was the journey. I would never have learned what I learned about myself and others and I would be sans uterus if I had done what the doctors recommended. I agree with the above poster that becoming the decision maker and taking responsibility for your health is essential. I would also add that working with knowledgable and skilled practitioners, in any modality, WHO BELIEVE YOU WILL YOU WILL GET BETTER is just as essential.

lebensbaum

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aspartame a poison to your body?? Posted: 8/26/2008 8:15:57 AM
I'm sure whoever made the movie about artificial sweeteners has very strong opinions about their use in our food supply. At the very least they've made a great contribution to the overall dialogue about health. My own experience is that aspartame gives me a splitting headache. So, I avoid it.

lebensbaum

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What Would Compell You To Marry After Age 45? Posted: 8/22/2008 2:46:02 PM
If I found a man so delightful I wanted to spend the rest of my life having a married life together with him and he felt the same way about me I would choose to marry him. This is the same answer I would have given when I was nineteen. Age seems like a silly reason to choose to marry or to choose not to marry. Circumstances, obligations, and emotional trauma may diminish the drive to marry. It may be more complicated to manage creating a union as one ages. But, marriage is what it is. Love is what is it. Sacrifice and selflessness is what it is. It doesn't matter how old you are. Whatever the benefits of marriage you have to BE married to realize them. Anything else might be great in many ways but it is not a marriage.

lebensbaum

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Fitness Trainer Advise Only Plase ~ Ab Issues Posted: 8/22/2008 10:07:54 AM
Of course you can work different parts of the rectus abdominis! I know I'm going to be crucified for this, but here I go. Banzaiiiiiii.... Flexion of the torso that targets upper abs is lifting head neck and shoulders off the ground. Flexion of the torso that targets lower abs is lifting pelvis and legs off the ground. Sure, the entire length of the rectus abdominis is engaged, but different parts of it are doing different work. You can emphasize the work in different parts of a muscle depending on how you train it. (This is for the benefit of those who are planning to crucify me: http://harvardscience.harvard.edu/animal-vegetable-mineral/articles/research-highlights-muscle-s-many-motions) I also recommend a variation on the "vacuum" move for the TA. Instead of "sucking" or "pulling" you can think of it as a press or compression from the outside. Edit: I just realized that I did not specifiy that the legs are in a static position in hip and knee flexion so it is just the lower rectus abdominis that is flexing the lower torso to lift the pelvis off the floor.

lebensbaum

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Clorox detox bath Posted: 8/20/2008 7:50:52 AM
I've heard of a clorox bath and it was one cup of bleach to a bathtub full of water. I never tried it, but I remember where I read it. Here's a link that will help you find it. It has several sections on therapeutic bathing. http://www.amazon.com/Live-Better-Longer-Parcells-Longevity/dp/0595163610 I have tried the apple cider vinegar and the epsom salts and they were both helpful in recovering from days of heavy physical activity.

lebensbaum

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Obliques and Ab training giving you a thick waist? Posted: 8/17/2008 10:15:52 PM
Sigh. Okay, okay. The OP said she didn't want to get thicker in the middle and I posted advice based on my education and personal experience with my own body and the bodies of my clients. I stand by everything I said. If anyone ever has a chance to experience private instruction in a fully equipped Pilates studio I strongly encourage them to give it a try.

lebensbaum

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Obliques and Ab training giving you a thick waist? Posted: 8/15/2008 10:45:18 AM
Muscle mass does have something to do with strength, but more importantly, at least for functional fitness, is how many muscle fibers are recruited for the movement. I don't understand the controversy over my statement of training a muscle shorter and bulkier or longer and flatter. ??? I see it happen all the time! But then I'm not in the world of weight-lifting. I'm in the world of Pilates and massage. That's what muscles do, sportbikes4life, they get shorter and they get longer. How they develop and how they wear themselves when you're at rest is a result of how they're trained. What is controversial about that?

lebensbaum

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pulled muscles Posted: 8/14/2008 9:24:43 AM
Be careful. Is the area where you are sore hotter than the surrounding tissue? If it is, that inflammation is your body still working on repairing it. In that case you don't want deep strokes, you want ice and rest. If there is no inflammation and the area is harder and/or cooler than the surrounding tissue then massage/manipulation or hot and cold therapy will help get fluid there so your body can repair it. The tennis ball is a great idea if this is the case.

lebensbaum

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why don't woman wear pantyhose anymore? Posted: 8/14/2008 12:58:29 AM
Hot and constrictive in two words. I gave up pantyhose in 1989 for long skirts with knee highs. D'ya think knee highs will ever be considered sexy? Here' s hopin'!

lebensbaum

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what would YOU make? Posted: 8/12/2008 2:30:28 PM
I attended an event like this a few years ago. I took the path of least resistance and brought scalloped potatoes because of my Irish heritage. Interestingly, a friend made the comment that potatoes are actually native to the Americas. He thought it was ironical--the full circle--from America, to Ireland and Europe to save millions from starvation, and then, because of the potato blight back to America. If I were to go now I would bring Ebelskevers, spherical pancake thingys from Denmark.

lebensbaum

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Obliques and Ab training giving you a thick waist? Posted: 8/12/2008 10:23:04 AM
I will not hold your youth and inexperience against you, Crazytimes. :-) I think it's interesting that you morphed my statement of "thicker and bumpier" into "ugly and lumpy." I also never said anything against concentric contractions. I pointed out that most people focus on shortening and miss the balance that comes with controlling the lengthening as well. I have nothing against thicker and bumpier, it's just a different look than longer and flatter. A swimmer's body forms itself completely differently than a body builder because of how it is being used/trained. Some people want a bulkier look and others don't. Whatever works for them is great! I respect differences in opinion. Try it sometime, you might like it.

lebensbaum

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Obliques and Ab training giving you a thick waist? Posted: 8/12/2008 6:34:09 AM
LOL. If you call Joseph Pilates a crackpot, then, yes, I am a crackpot. That is one of his principles that now is scientifically supported. If someone only focuses on the concentric contraction (shortening) they're missing half of a really great work out and setting their body up for all kinds of problems. It's the difference between training the jump and training the landing of the jump.

lebensbaum

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Under Arm Flab Posted: 8/11/2008 10:54:03 PM
I'm not sure what people mean when they say spot reduction is impossible. Spot reduction is such a silly term anyway. Silly. Silly. If you have flabby arms there are all kinds of things you can do that will change your arms! Have you ever tried Pilates armwork? The tension is created with springs and it's great for all the supporting structures of your shoulder and arms. All the support moves in yoga are fantastic for arms. Swimming does wonderful things for arms. Heck, kneading bread dough can be great for any part of your arm depending on how you do it! Forget any negative comments on here and go for it. The body is a miracle and it does change! Medical journals, schmedical journals!

lebensbaum

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Squats Posted: 8/11/2008 10:39:36 PM
Everyone has a dominant leg. Just because only one knee clicks is no reason to dismiss a very good caution to make sure your knees do not move forward of your toes. If there is no discomfort with the clicking I wouldn't worry about it. If there is any pain or twinges at all I'd say it's time to change something. Almost everybody is quad dominant which puts a lot of strain on the knee joint. Instead of focusing on bending and straightening the legs with the strength of the quads you can focus on allowing your knees to bend by lengthening the hamstrings and then pulling your legs to straight from the BACK of the legs by shortening the hamstrings. With free weights you won't be able to use only your hamstrings, but what will happen is you will be using your leg in a balanced way instead of relying mostly on the strength of your quads. This is a big knee saver!

lebensbaum

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Obliques and Ab training giving you a thick waist? Posted: 8/11/2008 10:17:09 PM
If you focus on the eccentric contraction of the muscle instead of the concentric contraction of the muscle you will keep the muscles flatter and longer. It will also help prevent injury. You train yourself thicker and bumpier by focusing on shortening the muscle. If you take your time while you are releasing and let the muscle do it with control resisting the tension as it lengthens you'll have no worries about getting thicker. :-)

lebensbaum

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Texas sayings Posted: 6/6/2008 7:13:56 AM
"Keep your finger on the trigger and your eye on the hog." Or maybe it's, "Keep your eye on the hog and your finger on the trigger." And, "He's a ring-tailed tooter!"

lebensbaum

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Dealbreakers not mentioned in the profile Posted: 4/26/2008 10:52:08 PM
Hmmmm. I'm with the girls who like to keep the profile positive. I'd rather talk about what I'm looking for than about what I'm not looking for. I have some things that aren't deal breakers, but they are red flags or huge flashing yellow lights! I notice and proceed with caution. --If his pictures posted are all of him in sunglasses or never looking at the camera. --If one of his pictures posted is a nude torso. --If he has a picture of his motorcycle posted. --If very simple facts are not truthfully represented. If someone with these things contacts me I still love to talk to them. I've met some great men this way! But, I've learned that these things say something about them and how they approach life that gives me pause. But we can still be friends!

lebensbaum

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If you HATE God Posted: 4/2/2008 11:48:16 PM
@ Clarence Clutterbuck Here's a girl in comfortable sweat pants with a reply that I find satisfying. The wage of sin is death both physical and spiritual, ie., seperation from God. If someone were responsible for my life because they created me then it would meet the demands of justice for them to pay that wage for me. That same being could also then be my mediator because he paid for me. The logistics of that? I have no clue! I find it unfortunate that your experience with Christianity left you laboring under a burden of guilt. It's good news that someone paid for your sins! You don't have to carry that burden around.

lebensbaum

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How is it that we go from a life in time into eternity? Posted: 4/2/2008 11:17:31 PM
It makes sense to me that we have always existed. Christian scriptures give strong hints that we existed before this temporal existence and that we will always exist. Eternal life is different than simply existing forever. Eternal life is offered as a reward to the faithful. Eternal is one of the names of God. Therefore, Eternal life could also be interpreted as life with God.

lebensbaum

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A world without the USA. Posted: 4/1/2008 11:07:23 AM
If the United States fails to live up to its ideals that does not negate the power and truth of the ideals. An ideal is an imagined perfection. A best case scenario. The individuals and their government who have occupied this part of North America have risen to the standard of their ideals often in the past, they do rise to it often now and I am confident will rise to it in the future. They have also often failed in the past, do often fail now and will continue to fail often. That's the ebb and flow of life and history. I am free. I get to choose what I believe, how I think and act and when someone else tries to take away my life, liberty or the ability to pursue my happiness I have recourse. The ideal in the U.S. is that we allow and wish that for everyone. One of the things that must exist then, if I am free to choose, is that I can also choose poorly or wrongly. I can choose not to act when I am needed. Freedom doesn't mean that everyone acts perfectly. It means they get to choose. The ideals the U. S. of A. professes have been promoted by other countries in the world and the results are imperfect just as they are in the U.S. I believe the USA is the best government/political vehicle this world has had to implement the ideals of equality and freedom and that it still is. That's my opinion, which I am fortunate to be able to express. I'm surprised that you're surprised that I mentioned Pastwatch. Of the billions of permutations that can be imagined if there were no U.S. this is one that is expressed beautifully and in detail. One of the themes of the book is that freedom is sacred and worth the sacrifice to obtain it.

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