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Vintage VB Mermaid

Joined: 8/6/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

How do you get over someone Posted: 3/31/2008 9:53:00 AM
When I get there - I'll let you know

Vintage VB Mermaid

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Va Beach Get Together Feb 16th 2008 Knuckleheads Posted: 2/16/2008 7:57:29 AM
Had planned on attending tonight but my daughter is coming down from Richmond today and spending the night so I will have to pass until the next "get together" - sorry I'm going to miss meeting everyone. Carolyn :o(

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 1/31/2008 5:48:25 AM
Yep! That's how I meet the most wonderful man I've ever known. Unfortunately, 10 months later he took off without a word. Jeez, I miss that man

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Hairs the story... Posted: 1/30/2008 9:45:11 PM
Sometimes any excuse will do . If a person wants to bail on a relationship they are just waiting for you to do something they can jump on with both feet as a perfectly good excuse - no matter how trivial, stupid or silly it might seem. That way they don't feel guilty for walking out (for no reason at all), they feel totally justified.

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Vigil for...tiger at SF ZOO that killed a man.WTF? Posted: 1/19/2008 8:41:51 AM
Maybe the whole point is: People should have enough common sense, compassion and respect for animals not to taunt or harass them no matter where they encounter them (i.e., whether they're caged, behind bars or roaming free in their own habitat). They are all God's creatures and were never put on this Earth to be amusement for us humans. The tiger, unfortunately, did what it could do to survive what it perceived as a threat to it's life. They act on pure instinct and have no knowledge or understanding of our human created rules, regulations or codes of conduct. In other words, it didn't know the guys were drunk, that it should just shrug it shoulders, shake it's head and walk away. And because of that was forced into a situation that cost the tiger it's life through no fault of it's own. What a sad state of affairs - whenever animals come in conflict with humans the animals always loose their homes, their freedom, their dignity and/or their lives. Find it very hard to believe that the Good Lord is pleased with how we take care of the world he made and gave to us.

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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The one thing you miss most when you are single Posted: 1/15/2008 11:40:32 AM
Most of all I miss that profound feeling of being safe, protected and knowing someone is there to take care of you - if and when you should need it.

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat? Posted: 1/9/2008 8:25:24 PM
HELL YES!!!! Matter of fact I quit while he was in Florida last year as a home coming surprise. I proudly marked the days on my calendar since my last cigarette and waited for him to return. Only problem was that I never saw him again - I got dumped! But I continued counting the days, only now they had two meanings: how long since my last cigarette and how long since the last time I had seen him. I hung in there for about 45-days and then the heart breaking reminder just got to be more than I could bear. I want to try quitting again and it's hard enough to do all by it's self but just not sure I can handle the still painful reminder that goes with it. I always remember him telling me he would never start smoking again because it was just too hard to quit. I always think about that whenever I light up.

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Ahh... forget it! Posted: 1/6/2008 6:30:31 AM
Yeah, been there and done that - the first time I ever set-up a profile on a dating site. Tried to make first contact with just one guy and have no idea for sure why I chose him. He didn't even have a picture, but there was just something in what he wrote that got my attention. When I didn't get a response by the time I thought I should (how would I know - never done this before) I just freaked (embarrased and feeling very rejected) and deleted my profile. Hadn't been out in 5-years and just knew there must be something terribly wrong with me and right then and there said "FORGET IT". Long story short - he did get around to replying (so then I really felt like a idiot), we met and dated exclusively for 10 months. Lost him some where along the way about a year ago and have just finally gotten up enough nerve to subject myself to possible embarrasement, rejection or what if the next one hurts me worse than the last one. But still have optimistic and pessimistic moments. Won't even mention how many times I've hidden my profile on POF so no one can contact me. That way I can rationalize why I still haven't found my fish

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Why do guys put DIVORCED when they SEPARATED... Posted: 1/4/2008 9:33:23 AM
I don't think "most" guys are trying to be deceptive when they describe themselves as divorced when instead they are separated. In case any women out there haven't already figured it out - guys don't think like we women do - LOL! I think we tend to be much more specific about everything than men do. If a guy is to the point in his marriage that he is separated, as far as he's concerned, "It's over, done with, he's already gone and probably ready to move on".

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Home Alone For the Posted: 12/24/2007 6:26:00 PM
No you are not the only person who is alone tonight. This night a year ago I thought I was the luckiest and happiest woman in the world, exchanging gifts with the man of my dreams. Well he's gone now, still don't know why and no one I've met since even comes close

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Best place to meet some one other then the internet Posted: 12/21/2007 4:39:10 AM
Good Place To Meet: Home Improvement Stores like Home Depot & Lowe's. Bought a house and go in both a lot and could sure use some helpful advice when I'm standing there, scratching my head, trying to figure out which one to buy of whatever I came in there for. Always so many choices and prices and have no idea which one I really need and naturally there's never a "store associate" around when you need one. Not A Good Place To Be Hit On: OB/GYN office! Some guy on here thought it was a great place to meet (sure hope he was joking) but personally I'd think the guy was some kind of weirdo and be wondering why he was there in the first place (would likely think he was there with his PG girlfriend or wife?) Definately not a turn-on for me!

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 12/19/2007 5:37:46 PM
And where exactly did you get your information from to form these opinions about woman and internet dating? Hate to blow you out of the water but since you are not a woman you can't possibly be the "voice of experience". I know that isn't how it works for women, at least in my personal experiences on dating sites. I have tried on numerous occasions to make first contact and that pretty much proved to be an extremely humbling experience with no reply, deletion of my message without being read and just never read (i.e. ignored) until it fell off after 30 days. On several occassions actually got a surprisingly nice response that never went any further but they almost always looked at your profile, so it's pretty obvious that you are being rejected - apparently not what they had in mind! Even the one's that contacted me first have yet to materialize into an actual face to face meeting much less a "so called date". I may not be considered gorgeous by some men's standards but that's ok because some of the men who describe themselves as attractive or good looking and provide a recent photo (or so they say) definately aren't in my book either. Guess that puts us all on an even playing field! Internet dating isn't a "piece of cake" and "sucks" no matter which sex you are. It's no fun to be rejected or ignored and very hard to place an ad on a site announcing to the computer literate world that you are alone and looking for someone to be with.

Short Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

How do you learn to trust again? Posted: 12/15/2007 9:53:01 PM
It's really a tough decision to make! To stick your neck out again - not knowing if some "a**-hole" is going to come along and chop it off again. But for me it comes down to 2-choices: (1) Never trust again to insure you don't get hurt but you are also guaranteed to spend the rest of your life alone or (2) Take a chance and maybe, if you're very lucky, find someone that is just so wonderful that you can't imagine what you ever saw in that other guy in the first place. I think I'll take door #2 - but to each her own. Good luck :o)

Skinny Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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No one knows what they are getting into Posted: 9/25/2007 5:08:45 AM
Dating sites are "like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get" to quote a famous quote. But it's absolutely true. Met the man of my dreams (even though I wasn't really looking) on another site but lost him along the way somehow - guess I'll never know why! So here I am, sticking my hand in another chocolate box - LOL Not looking for dreams anymore just someone to make me forget my troubles and cares, laugh and enjoy life again. But you're right, it's a long, slow and often times very disappointing process. It just takes time no matter how big a hurry you're in -" it's out of your control" so relax and try to enjoy the ride

Skinny Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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The correct etiquette when posting a 'favorite' on POF? Posted: 9/23/2007 7:21:39 PM
I don't think there is any "right" answer here. Everyone has their own idea of when they do it and why. I do it after I've been contacted by someone I am hoping will contact me again. Probably not worth the energy to try and second guess why someone did or didn't do it to you - you'd probably be wrong at least 50% of the time.

Skinny Legs 1949

Joined: 8/6/2007

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It's Just As Hard To Make Male Friendships!!!!!!! Posted: 9/22/2007 2:56:45 AM
I've been on this website for a while now and have tried to communicate with men who said they wanted: Friends, Just Hang Out, Activity Partners and even just Talk/E-Mails with absolutely no success. When I read their profiles it says, "Contact Me" so I do but most look at my profile first, apparently decide I'm not what they had in mind and never read my e-mail, or read it but never respond or respond and then I send them a photo and they never respond. Talk about giving a girl a complex! I'm not sure exactly what a woman has to say, do or look like to be worthy of being considered for friendship, hang out, etc. but apparently either I just don't have it or that's not what they really wanted in the first place. I have no idea what some peoples preconceived ideas (be them men or women) are for meeting others but I think they are missing some wonderful opportunities. Peoples looks change, at least for me, as I get to know them. Some that I was so impressed with at first don't end up looking so great once I get to know them and others that I thought were kinda borderline or so-so turn into beautiful people from the inside out. This website is such a great opportunity to make new friends and meet new people. Nobody says you have to sleep, have sex or fall in love with them - just broaden your horizons. I think a lot of members are selling themselves short and disappointing the hell out of me Carolyn :o)

RU Looking 4 Me?

Joined: 8/6/2007

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Dating more than one person on here? Posted: 9/7/2007 7:11:51 AM
MSN had a great article about that this morning: "5 Tips For Dating On Line" It provides guide lines for when it's ok and when it's probably not such a good idea to be dating more than one person at a time. I pretty much agree with what it said!

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