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darknight1984

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Msg: 52 (view)

Why are some men afraid to express their feelings? Posted: 10/24/2009 7:32:07 AM
because men think that it is unmanly and makes you weak if you show emotions.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 262 (view)

Senate refuses to raise minimum wage. Posted: 10/9/2009 1:07:45 PM
well said Jiperly and Rollergrrl. the old adage says it best. GIVE a man a fish and he can eat for one meal. TEACH a man to fish and he can feed himself and his family for a lifetime. let's teach our poor (though i feel many of them would rather have a check) to get the education they need and not drop out of school. let's teach them there IS shame in having MANY out of wedlock children from different men and let's teach them that there IS opportunity in hard work and a possible bright future if they're willing to put in the sweat and effort needed. designing woman, there's NO CRYING in economics!!!!! Everyone would get an education they needed if they could afford it. What happens when everyone has a degree and there are not enough jobs for everyone. There are some ignorant dumb people on this site.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 271 (view)

Why do people try and live off of minimum wage? Posted: 9/14/2009 9:12:36 AM
Or they can just be deadbeat and lazy and remain at the poverty level. It's all about the choices you make, everyone has the opportunity... So everyone who is at poverty level is deadbeat and lazy. Wow your ignorance continues to show.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 593 (view)

over 30 and still living at home Posted: 9/1/2009 4:12:47 PM
LOL, if I had to move back in with my parents at my age, there would be a homocide within days. I love my parents, but they drive me nuts. They are set in their ways, and so am I. Plus my mother would be all up in my personal business, and I would be insane within hours. I was talking to my dad hypothetically about this subject one time, and he laughed and said he would rather fork out money for my rent than have me move in with them...he said having me and my mother under one roof again would force him to move into the barn. LOL, God love him, he was probably right, too. There comes a point when you have to just say NO to kids moving back in with parents. Barring total financial ruin, or something that absolutely forces cohabitation temporarily, children over the college age should be on their own. They need that freedom to learn to live in the real world on their own and be responsible for themselves. Beth So if your kids do not make enough to live on there own should be kicked out? Wow you really have a heart. I guess they should become homless because that will sure make them responsible.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 269 (view)

Why do people try and live off of minimum wage? Posted: 8/26/2009 7:16:21 PM
Entry-level jobs (which minimum wage jobs usually are) are not designed nor required to enable a worker to support a household on. While there is nothing wrong with them, it's good, honest work, one is expected to achieve more if planning to support a family. Why not they are jobs are they not and the person doing them are contrubuting to soceity. I have never seen any evidence that the minimum wage was not designed to live on. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minimum_wage This link shows that miminum wage was created to make sure people were being paid a fair wage thare is nothing that says it was not intened to live on this is just some stupid crap someone made up.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 590 (view)

over 30 and still living at home Posted: 8/25/2009 10:12:05 AM
Leaving the nest is a necessary part of growing up. Those who don't are postponing an emotional growth stage. And emotionally retarded people are not well equipped to deal with things like relationships. Do you have evidence that is postpones emotional growth. This seems more like your opinion then actual fact

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

A new lack of ambition reason enough to break up? Posted: 8/17/2009 7:52:59 PM
Lack of ambition is unattractive. we women want a guy who goes after what he wants, has goals and a purpose. I personally dont want a lazy ass who has no drive, no ambition, no goals, nothing to strive for. If they wont try to better themselves/work towards soemthing for themselves as an individual, when are they ever going to try and work towards something for "US" as a couple? What kind of values are they going to maybe teach your future kids? Theres nothing wrong with wanting someone better. What if a guy wants to work at a dead end job beacuse he enjoys it? That does not mean he is lazy. IF soneone likes who they are and where they are they do not need to better themselves. It seems you are a materlistic person and I hope you do not have kids but I would not want you teaching your kids that.

darknight1984

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for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Posted: 7/14/2009 6:57:18 PM
Of course money is a huge factor. The way a person goes about getting that money can tell a lot about his/her personality. Poor with no job? No ambition, and we wouldn't be compatible. Long term dead end 9 to 5 job? No ambition, and we wouldn't be compatible. Rich drug dealer? There's the ambition, but I doubt our morals would be compatible. Rich boy from a rich family that doesn't work? Not interested in that either, if he isn't doing anything with his life. Steady 9 to 5 with the opportunity to move up (ie, career) implies dedication and patience. Self employment could mean that he is unusually resourceful, productive or daring. Long-term investment means he is future-oriented; short term (and successful) could mean financially savvy and daring. These all assume that a person is physically able to work. Note that I DIDN'T mention any salaries. IMO, it would be foolish to say that there is any factor in a person that "doesn't matter" when looking for a mate. EVERYTHING gets judged, even if unconsciously! Some people will always be turned off by numbers, and others will not. lol at ambition? Why do people need ambition why can they not be happy with there job no matter what it is? Then again you are probably someone who needs a partner to be in a high position to feel better about yourself or tell your friends about your dates great position. How shallow.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 612 (view)

for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Posted: 7/14/2009 6:26:34 PM
Money isn't a huge factor for me. Since my divorce, I have made more money than most of the men that I dated. In some cases, I made a lot more money than he did. I simply think a man needs to be doing something productive for himself. I wouldn't date a high school dropout who works at McDonald or a 7-11. Since when is working at MCdonalds or 7 11 not productive. You are at a job and making money. You may not care about the money he makes but you sure care about his job status.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

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Why do men find it so difficult to date single mothers? Posted: 7/6/2009 4:25:47 PM
I would worry that the girl would want me to watch and take care of her kids. I am with you to date you not your kids.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 7/5/2009 2:20:08 PM
it depends there are always reasons....if their reason is cause they like living at home..then yes its a turn off!! I love my moms house, but I LOVE my own place more! Thats great if you do not like your parents or have problems with them some people love living with their family and enjoying the time they have together.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 7/5/2009 2:05:50 PM
Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 2/4/2006 706 PM i could never live with my parents. it's just not right. most other animals make their young leave the nest. it's not healthy for someone to stay at home. it doesn't seem to be a normal part of development. i have only met 1 guy that was still living at home at 40. i think he had problems. he didn't socialize much. We are humans not animals there is a big difference. We are a lot smarter and can think for ourselves.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 211 (view)

is it okay for kids to see you naked? Posted: 7/3/2009 7:54:32 PM
I have two kids and they still see me naked...I have a 12 year old girl and an 11 year old boy...my girl sees me naked all the time lol and my boy sees me half ways naked...and he will laugh and say gross mom...and i say oh sorry bud because i'm just so use to walking around the house naked or wrapped in a towel when i get out of the shower. Now for the dad of the kids i think its fine for him to walk around naked in front of his son but not his daughters. I just don't think this is right....and for any boyfriend to be naked in front of your kids is absolutely WRONG!! That is pretty hypercritical of you. You can see your son(opposite sex) naked but the dad can not see his daughter naked?

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 268 (view)

Why do people try and live off of minimum wage? Posted: 7/1/2009 4:57:07 PM
That's a bunch of BS. They choose not to do that. You want a college education? Go join the military, and quit ****ing about how it's everyone elses fault but your own. The same thing will happen if so many people join the military. The military will have to many people in it and not enough jobs or housing for people.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 265 (view)

Why do people try and live off of minimum wage? Posted: 6/22/2009 8:23:19 AM
That is exactly the point. Everyone has the opportunity to create a better life for themselves. It is the defeatists that say 'well we have to have a certain number of floor sweepers' when they really mean 'I might as well not try anymore, we need floor sweepers'. I was white and poor, I chose not to stay that way and I worked hard. Guess what happened? I'm still white but I'm not poor... It is funny how you avoided answering the question asked here. Yet it no suprise that you avoid logic

darknight1984

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 6/17/2009 1:26:05 PM
It seems that the alot of people here who live on their own need to put down the people who still live at home to feed there weak ego. They care more about what people think that if they live on there own people we think they are not losers.

darknight1984

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Msg: 263 (view)

Why do people try and live off of minimum wage? Posted: 6/9/2009 11:34:33 PM
Why do people try and live off of minimum wage? Posted: 4/17/2005 1219 PM I tried to make the analogy simple so I wouldn't lose anyone, seems that effort failed. That is why I didn't make any claims as to how much revenue or profit the business took in. This was just simple economics and the chain reaction a minimum wage hike causes. Be that as it may, a business owner has a right to make more than their employees. After all they started the business, worked all the hard, long hours before there were any employees, made all the sacrifices and took all the risks. That is true but they do not have a right to pay slave wages and put there employees in poverty this is just immoral.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 261 (view)

Senate refuses to raise minimum wage. Posted: 5/28/2009 9:07:02 PM
>>>Small business do not employee a lot of people so they would not be paying that many people more money. If you can not do good enough business to pay your employee better get rid of some or get out of business Who are you to determine who can and cannot hold a business? Just because its a small business, it doesn't matter, eh? How does beliefs and actions like those help society? Business's close, people have no jobs and, eventually, no homes, and food costs more because the farmer, the truckers, the grocery stores who DO pay their employees more have to get this money from someplace other than the air, and thus are forced to charge more for their products- food- and suddenly you have an increasing number of people in the country who are without food. How do business paying people not enough to live on help people? If you are a good business owner you should be able to figure out how many employees you need and be able to run a business enough to pay them well.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 4/15/2009 4:03:07 PM
You see Darknight, that's just one poor excuse, stop blaming the economy, stop blaming the government, stop blaming Wall Street, stop blaming period. Millions of people live in the same economy, same government, same conditions yet there doing it on their own, I don't know the stats but I suspect a high number of them who live at home don't contribute to their parents finances, its more like a take take take attitude. Yes they're exception to the rules but those are rare, too many parents make it convenient for their kids and they wonder why the kids have no independence ?? There are tons who arn't making who may be homeless what is your point different people have diffrent oppurtunities. When you work hard and doing the best you can and still do not have enough to live on you have to blame it one someone else

darknight1984

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Would you date a [b]women[/b] if [b]she[/b] was unemployed and living with [b]her[/b] parents? Posted: 4/13/2009 10:08:45 AM
depends on the situation if the girl was looking for a job then yes I would

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

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Would you hire a male babysitter? Posted: 4/13/2009 10:01:43 AM
No, I would never have hired a male babysitter ... no offence intended. If you enjoy children's company, maybe you should sign up for "Big Brothers and Sisters" or a similar program ... good idea i will have to look into that

darknight1984

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Would you hire a male babysitter? Posted: 4/9/2009 2:33:28 PM
First, Darknight, please take note that it's not because you call it sexist that it makes it so. The fact remains that most of the child abuse being done in our current society are done by men, not by woman. So, it is not sexism. Sexism isn't when things aren't equal for men and woman. Sexism is when the dominant person uses his privileged position. When the victim is reacting and protecting herself from that dominant position, it's not "reverse sexism", it's just a normal reaction of self protection. I don't know if you are ignorant or not, but you certainly are clueless. Second, if you are truly interested by children's well being (and not only intersted by your own self), your first reaction should be a basic understanding about why parents are more likely not to trust a male, grown up, jobless babysitter, or why your age matters. It doesn't mean YOU aren't trustworthy, but frankly, the very fact you don't seem to be able to be empathic and understand WHY it may be freakish to a parent MAKES it quite freakish. I understand they have been listening to the news and are paranoid. I do understand why they think it is freakish I just do not agree with it. Being paranoid is just going to hurt your child by being to overprotective and suspecitng people of things they never did. I do not care if they think I am freakish I know I am not. I grew up with a brother and sister I would never do anything to a child.

darknight1984

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Msg: 221 (view)

Would you date a man if he was unemployed and living with his parents? Posted: 4/9/2009 2:17:21 PM
lol for alot of people living with their parents is not exactly a choice now is it? They do it because they can't afford to live anywhere else. A friend of mine got laid off from her job. She went to the local unemployment office there were over 200 people there. People are losing jobs everyday. Students who are out of college and university can't seem to find work and it's been a year after they graduated. In today's shitty economy It's going to be a more common thing. Excatly I live in a small city in the South and even though it is considered a low cost area it is still a lot for a decent place. The job I have does not pay enough to live on my own or even with a roomate. Before someone says why don't you get a better job I would if I could find them and I can not afford to go to college. We do not live in the 1950s when everyone made enough to have a place of there own. Some people do not understand this.

darknight1984

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Msg: 403 (view)

Minimum Wage Posted: 4/5/2009 9:45:46 AM
Im sure if the move up and manage their money well they could live decently. it takes a long time to work your way up years and years even if you are working hard. Not everyone can work there way up at the same time. Once again you are showing your lack of knowledge of the real world

darknight1984

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Minimum Wage Posted: 3/31/2009 8:50:51 PM
Words like "greed" and "selfishness" have no place in serious economic discussions. Please make an effort to be somewhat mature in your posts. "Greed" and "selfishness" have no inherent value in the market. They could be good or bad or neutral. It merely depends on how independent economic actors ascribe their own subjective value to these characteristics of other market actors. You choose to ascribe negative value to them. Fair enough. Take your dollars elsewhere. Forcing the rest of us to see your opinions as economic fact by way of brute government force is authoritarian. they have everything to do with the economy when the most of the money is being transformed to the top and very little to the bottom. That slows down the economy because less money is being spent and going to the employers

darknight1984

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Minimum Wage Posted: 3/31/2009 8:35:43 PM
My job as a tandem computer system operator took over 18 months to learn. Then again, I make far more than the minimum wage as I possess a marketable skill and a college diploma. As such, we are compensated annually with raises so we don't walk out the door for greener pastures. However, it takes a lot less time and skill to learn how to operate a deep fryer or a coffee machine, so the turnaround in minimum wage jobs is always going to be high. These jobs pay the minimum because they require a minimum amount of skill to perform. If it takes you 3-5 months to learn how to cook McNuggets properly, it goes a long way to explaining why you are in such a poor financial position in the first place. So if only kids in school do these jobs who is working these jobs when they are at school? So what if they do not require much skill they need to be done. If the people who are doing these jobs do not get payed well they will have no reason to want to do them well.

darknight1984

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Minimum Wage Posted: 3/28/2009 1:19:04 PM
I wonder if people realize that when they say they do not want to lose there hard earned money to the poor that it will go to the poor anyway to pay for welfare and food stamps

darknight1984

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Why do people try and live off of minimum wage? Posted: 3/28/2009 12:41:27 PM
lyrical - excellent points about older people in the workforce. i was relating specifically to entry level positions where young people are getting their start or developing work experience on their resume and how that related to minimum wage jobs. i think it's shameful that we don't value those of our citizens who have contributed a lifetime of work to society. the fact that so many seniors have to live on what they're given at food banks or worse is deplorable. however, i have to disagree that increasing the minimum wage for many jobs currently paying said wage is not going have to a negative impact on the economy. it will if it's done across the board. States like California and Orgeon have raised there minimum wage and had little to no negative effects.If you can not pay your employees a decent wage you need to have less employees or just not be in busines. With so many jobs being cut more and more people are having to get minimum wage jobs many who have college degrees.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

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let's define exactly what supporting your partner is Posted: 3/19/2009 5:15:05 PM
There are many, many women who don't work. They stay home and take care of the house and the kids. Do you think for one minute that those women don't work their ever loving asses off each and every day of the week? Do you have any idea what it is like to clean up after everyone else, to do laundry, to plan and shop and cook meals, to drive kids to soccer, to school, to Scouts, to care for them when they are ill, to take them to the doctor or spend hours with them in the ER and still, still these warriors have to somehow pull sexiness out of their ass and be all that to their husband when he gets home. They work seven days a week,, not five. They work from sunup to sundown and rarely get a break. I'd like to see any man do that with no end in sight. That woman earns every Tbone steak that's set in front of her and paid for by the man she loves and who is supposed too love and appreciate her. So, emotional, physical and spiritual support are just as important as financial support. Neither a man or a woman should enter into a relationship until they have all their ducks in a row I am not going to say staying at home is easy but you make it sound like it is just as hard as some people's jobs and this is simply not true. Why don't you try working outside in the weather on your feet all day? . Doing laundry cooking driving kids to school is not hard work it takes effort but that does not make it hard. You can sit down for a few minutes if you want to no one is making you stand up.

darknight1984

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Msg: 264 (view)

WHO PAYS? Posted: 3/11/2009 2:44:55 PM
That's because you were raised right. ;) or do you mean you were raised to think like you still live in the 1950's

darknight1984

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WHO PAYS? Posted: 3/6/2009 10:35:53 AM
call it whatever you like. i have been around long enough,and have been on enough dates, to know, that men who have issues with paying for their dates, always have far larger issues than that. What about the issues woman have with always letting a man pay? By doing this you are acting like a child not a grown up.

darknight1984

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Msg: 216 (view)

Is living at home with parents such a turn off for dating someone? Posted: 2/17/2009 9:22:57 AM
I guess girls would rather you live in a crappy apartment barely making it then with your parents and being able to save up. No wonder divorce rates are so high

darknight1984

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Msg: 60 (view)

What makes kids think they're welcome into their 20's and 30's? Posted: 2/10/2009 10:29:32 AM
As a parent ,your job is to raise your children to be productive members of your society.This means they will be independant and will ,in most probability, start families of their own whereupon the cycle continues anew.\ You can be productive adult and still live at home. If everyone could afford to live on there own they would but housing costs are so high now it much harder.

darknight1984

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 1/20/2009 9:52:53 AM
MO, I think that adults living at home with their parents for the sake of convenience or they are too lazy or too scared to live on their own is wrong, to those I say " the umbilical cord was cut off at birth" Of course there is the exception to rule , like the poster above with her Autistic child , or a adult who was wiped out from a messy divorce and I hear from my American friends you could be wiped out from Medical bills ( Im soooo glad I live in Canada) Or Adults who move home to help out a ailing or aging parent, to that I say God bless you, You're doing the honorable thing, but for the others who are lazy, no ambition, too stupid, rather party then work etc etc, to that I say shame on you and shame on your parents for putting up with your lazy a$$. what about the people who just can not afford to move out? Yeah they could get a second job but then they would probably get burned out and have health problems. With the economy how it is I am suprised more people are not understanding about people living at home.

darknight1984

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Minimum Wage Posted: 1/14/2009 4:21:46 PM
Nope. http://www.cnn.com/US/9709/01/minimum.wage/index.html: Hank even when you post evidence they will come up with some lame excuse based on ignorance. You can not really get through to ignorance not even with facts. I have been trying this whole thread.

darknight1984

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Msg: 356 (view)

Minimum Wage Posted: 1/12/2009 1:00:29 PM
Listen... I've read some things from you that make me believe you are a good person... but... this... is hands down, the stupidest thing I have seen from you to date. Are you honestly going to tell everyone, that you don't think people - regardless of their economic status - have the ability to make positive choices in their lives? That for the vast majority of these people, it's a go-nowhere situation for them, 100 percent of the time? Look at the millions of people who live in the ghettos of the world. People whose families have been poor for decades. You really gonna believe that they all do not want to get out of poverty they could? They do not have oppurtunities to make there lives better if it was that easy we would see less poor areas. You posts just tell me you have no idea about the real world and how it works.

darknight1984

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Msg: 345 (view)

Minimum Wage Posted: 1/9/2009 1:24:40 PM
I do believe in having a set minimum wage, as determined by each state what the base-line of wages will be. I think it ridiculous though, that the person who chooses not to do anything with their life ior have the ambition to go beyond earning that minimum wage, will sit there and cry that its unfair that the rich people, or anyone who does well for themselves, are living better than they are. Of course they are. They 0bviously made choices in life that worked well for them. I worked for minimum wage once, and never was bitter or unhappy about it. It was a great experience, as it was my first lesson on managing money. I set some goals on where i wanted to be in 10 years, and now 1 year short of the 10, i just met the final goal, buying a home on the water. Life is good. Had a few setbacks along the way, an unplanned pregnancy, job-layoffs, family illness, death of my spouse, but i never ever gave up or sat around waiting for life to be fair. Anyone with drive can succeed. No has to better themselves if they do not want to that is your opinion and only yours that people shoudl do that not the general publics. Poor people do not have the oppurtunities or the choices to make there situation beter. Saying anyone with drive can succed tells me you are stuck in your own narrow minded views and are not paying attention to the real world.

darknight1984

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Msg: 337 (view)

Minimum Wage Posted: 1/7/2009 8:51:59 AM
One thing I might add; whenever you increase the minimum wage, you have a correlating increase in cost of living in a given area. There have been numerous books written about this phenomenon... and it tends to render the increase moot. There is more that causes raises in cost of living in an area then miminum wage. The minimum wage has been around the same for a while and yet cost of living has gone up so it has to be something else causing high cost of living.

darknight1984

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Minimum Wage Posted: 1/4/2009 11:19:33 PM
I think poor people are poor because they choose to be that way instead of bettering themselves, they sit around waiting for life to become "fair". It wont. Life wont ever become fair. Gotta get some ambition and get out there. Life wont happen FOR you. Said so on talk radio. Which i never listened to before in my life, but im sure it said that. Right because you are the leader of all poor people and you know that all of them are there because of bad decisions. Many people who are poor have ambition they just do not the resources to make more. You need to stop relying on talk radio and open your mind and think for yourself.

darknight1984

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Msg: 307 (view)

Minimum Wage Posted: 1/1/2009 11:56:31 PM
Hey man, I lose about 40 percent of my gross income to taxes (state and federal), health care deductions and the like. I've known people who make about a fourth of what I do (Gross), and they get subsidised housing, that looks a whole lot better then were I live; and it costs them about a tenth of what it is worth. If I wanted to live in the same type of dwelling these people do, it would cost me about one third to one half of my net pay. So you know what? Screw 'em. NO, I do not want to pay for these people so they can live at a higher standard then I do, and make considerably less then I. Booo hoooo hooo, for low income. There is a reason why some people get paid more then others. Usually it involves more knowledge, risk, stress, and responsibility. Maybe they get paid lower because they have not had the opputunties you were given. You ever think of that.

darknight1984

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People With Freckles Posted: 1/1/2009 11:54:04 PM
Actually the low self-esteem is not another topic because instead of working on that, you choose to see your freckles as the bane of your dating life. The difference between you and someone else with freckles is that the other person does not see them as a liability and as a result attracts people because they are self-confident, happy and full of life so people want to be around them. That is true I know I need to work on my self esteem I just always felt ugly and that girls would not like me. It if funny though that I still feel this way even though I have had girlfriends before.

darknight1984

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Msg: 166 (view)

What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for? Posted: 12/28/2008 11:21:10 AM
Probably if they guy does not have a high paying job and makes a lot of money.

darknight1984

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Msg: 202 (view)

Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking? Posted: 12/28/2008 11:18:27 AM
This is true to a certain extent. But there are some people that are generally considered to be attractive or unattractive. For example, check out the ratings on POF. The people with the highest ratings are considered to be attractive by most. This is not true because everyone has there own idea of good looking. There is not one standard of good looks.

darknight1984

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Msg: 214 (view)

Is living at home with parents such a turn off for dating someone? Posted: 12/23/2008 2:23:16 PM
Eventually everybody has to leave the nest. I would much rather date someone who has already left the nest. My ex was living with his folks when we first met. Several months later he bought his own condo and moved in. I spent a lot of time there but he did not know how to do anything as he had never lived on his own before. I had to do everything for him because he didnt know how. This lead to a lot of resentment and eventually to our break up as I felt like I was his mother, not his girlfriend. No one has to leave home. That is just your opinion that everyone does not a fact. People should do what is best for themselves

darknight1984

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Msg: 212 (view)

Is living at home with parents such a turn off for dating someone? Posted: 12/21/2008 9:08:34 PM
Why? Because it is true. I bet your mom does your laundry, cooks you meals, and cleans up after you. Like the other poster talking about how they got a condo together and she had to show him everything. Years ago I dated someone who lived at home and it was obvious his parents did everything for him. No she doesn't but you would not know that because you insist on making dumb assumptions about me without knowing me. Just because someone you know is like that does not mean everyone is.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 208 (view)

Is living at home with parents such a turn off for dating someone? Posted: 12/21/2008 11:16:02 AM
There are people that are taking care of their parents and doing everything at home - that's different. But for most of us, when we lived at home, mom cooked our meals, we didn't pay a full rent etc. - it was NOT independant. Independance in that area happens when you are doing everything yourself. The argument never was (for me) about whether someone would or would not be independant once out on their own. Some people don't read either it seems. That is true but living with roommate is not fully independent either. Not if you roommate does laundry, cooks,and pays some of the rent.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 305 (view)

Minimum Wage Posted: 12/19/2008 5:21:28 PM
I wouldn't want to pay a higher price just so someone can get a higher wage. oh no you would not want to pay a little more so someone else has enough to have a place to live or eat. You wouldn't want to think of someone besides yourself would you?

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 198 (view)

Is living at home with parents such a turn off for dating someone? Posted: 12/19/2008 5:05:57 PM
Yes it's a huge turn off. Mom doing your laundry, cleaning your room, and cooking your meals and you're 35 is a huge turn off. There seems to be an entire generation of mostly males, who are reluctant to grow up and leave the nest. They'll never see how utterly dependent and childlike they really were until they move out and be on their own. Good job lets make assumptions about every man who lives at home. Why do people make dumb statements like this?

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 944 (view)

Men don't like TALL women Posted: 12/18/2008 1:18:35 AM
I like woman to be at lest 5'5. Being 5 10 myself a woman taller then me is way to tall.

darknight1984

Joined: 8/7/2007

Msg: 304 (view)

Minimum Wage Posted: 12/15/2008 1:13:12 PM
This has nothing to do with their worth as a person, it has to do with what their job is worth. There is a distinction. I don't look down on anyone in a sense of personal worth. Just because an adult has to work as a clerk in a gas station, doesn't mean we have to feel compelled as a society to pay them 25 dollars an hour. (I have a very, very good friend who works as a clerk at a gas station and I do believe he is worth more as a human being. But, those kinds of jobs don't pay what he's worth... it's just how it is. And no matter how much I love him (and I do), if I'm being honest, he just doesn't want to step outside of his comfort zone to do more with his life at the present time. He is a very talented artist and can do things that neither myself, nor most people can do.) Why should he have to step out of his comfort zone if he likes his job and contributing to society in some way. These kind of jobs need people to work them.

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