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walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

I am really starting to hate dating Posted: 9/20/2008 1:06:58 PM
Well Mr ILPC... I don't think I ever started to LIKE dating....but after reading your story, I sure feel even better about not doing very much of it! I think I am pretty good here by myself these days......but better luck to ya buddy!

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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How do you tell a someon you don't find them attractive? Posted: 8/31/2008 3:57:48 PM
was that a compliment?...now I'm turning red...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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How do you tell a someon you don't find them attractive? Posted: 8/31/2008 3:32:13 PM
"Thank you for taking your time to write me, but I do not think we would be compatible." I think I got that same EXACT response the other day....or damn close! There can be lots of reasons that someone is not interested in you...can be a particular look that they like/dislike, or something about your profile, attitude, kid friendly or not, age....whatever, it is NOT always about looks...course if they open up my picture and their monitor cracks maybe it IS about my looks... Just because person A is interested in person B does not mean that person B has any obligation to be interested in person A...we can be nice and say that we are not interested, if the originator can't handle rejection, then this IS NOT the place for him! (or her).... Personally I would like to hear just what it was about me that the other person didn't like....I know I'm not gorgeous, but I'm not hideous either...but we all have our preferences...one man's(woman's) trash is another's pleasure...... Can't get too upset about this stuff ya know....

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Would you open you marriage to save it? Posted: 8/25/2008 3:15:56 PM
I always thought the basis for marriage was monogamy... If a married person wants to be dating/seeing/sexing someone else they should get divorced from their spouse....and then if they want to continue seeing the ex-spouse plus the others then that is their business...maybe it would make the relationship better for them who knows... But if they are married...legally.....I just thought there really wasn't SUPPOSED to be a third wheel involved...shows how much I know I guess... Personally, I don't believe in marriage any more anyway....I just think it is impossible for 2 people to grow through the years identically to each other...one usually just has to be submissive to the other's desires/dreams is what I think normally happens....thinks they need to stay, just because of "the kids" and all....but not really because they still love and adore the other like they did once upon a time... Roaring fires do seem to burn out.......and start to just smolder...and finally just go out alltogether.....

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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home made salsa Posted: 8/10/2008 5:53:35 AM
The smoke thing is what I really like...it is easy to smoke peppers...charcoal grill...doesn't need to be a big fire...just smoldering for like all day..try to keep the temp 200-250. I usually cook with my firewood anyway...just put a good size branch on the fire, put the peppers on the side, not directly over the coals... Those chipotles make some really good hot sauce too....

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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From Russia, With Love???? Posted: 7/30/2008 2:02:37 AM
Dear young girl from Russia...18 years younger than me and picks me out from the millions of other old guys on here... You want me to send you money?, how bout you send me naked pics instead huh? signed, "random old guy here in the USA"

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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What are you last words? Posted: 7/15/2008 2:21:01 PM
here lately... I think I would get in even more trouble if I say..."hell huh...first time there...wanna give me some directions?"

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Charcoal BBQ Posted: 6/29/2008 3:48:51 PM
or just wrap the wood in some aluminum foil and poke holes in it...it'll smoke

walker1960

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It's Time To Bring Out The Grill...... Posted: 5/25/2008 4:16:45 PM
Try some Pico de Gallo on those peaches...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch? Posted: 5/18/2008 1:09:18 PM
The name of the business is "It's Just Lunch".....sounds like they told the truth anyway... Somebody has $1400 to pay for just meeting 12 people for lunch....lives on a different planet than I do....sorry...just doesn't make sense to me

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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I caught my date peeing in the shower!! Posted: 5/18/2008 12:28:39 PM
Apartment manager says to Mr Polaski- "Mr Polaski, we have to take away your pool privilage..." Mr Polaski to the manager- "How come?" Manager- "because you been peeing in the pool" Mr Polaski- "oh yeah? Everybody pees in the pool!" Manager- "yeah maybe so, but not from off the diving board!"

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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i truly believe a mate for life does not exist Posted: 4/27/2008 5:42:39 PM
I think folks just naturally change over time...and not always exactly the same as each other....one zigs when the other zags every now and then.... Sometimes Mr/Miss Perfect is only perfect for a short time.....they turn into Mr/Miss Normal a little bit later.....and sometimes life would just be better if it went ahead and took that curve in the road instead of crashing into the woods just because that steering wheel feels good in that spot..... If 2 people are actually friends...they seem to talk about things a little more honestly...instead of just wanting to place blame.... Unless one person is totally submissive these days....I don't think a mate for life exists either....

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Feel that there is no reason for me to live Posted: 4/7/2008 3:36:39 PM
MradDiction... I personally believe that we all ultimately have to help ourselves out of whatever mess we may be in at the moment...of course, preventing that mess from happening in the first place works pretty good too... "Self fulfilling prophecies" are called that for a reason as well......we frequently make or at least participate in making our own mess....I'm just as guilty of that as anybody else... At the moment it sounds like you are heavily contributing to your own current negative situation. Quit whining about your personal bad luck streak, clean yourself up, think about the kind of person you WANT to be, get some personal self confidence, work on having a positive attitude and start making some new friends....you may be surprised...some of them just may want to kiss you...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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My dog is dying Posted: 2/27/2008 5:14:35 PM
Sometimes the most difficult things we do, are the most important things that we do, we will appreciate those moments years later...

walker1960

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My dog is dying Posted: 2/27/2008 4:48:10 PM
I said goodnight to my Black Lab last June...I cried for days, she was almost 16, and all but her first 9 months were with me..mostly within just a few feet, she went everywhere with me...I am sooooo lonely without her now. I feel privileged to have had her so close to me for so many years...literally...all vacations, to the store, just sitting out back... Any one of us should feel honored or proud to have been able to have had such a good friend for their whole life.... I finally got the strength to try again (my ex- wife kept telling me that I was too good of a dog-person...I got a new lab puppy, (2 months old)but she already had parvo and did not make it a week..I was crushed..had her almost housetrained in 4 days! so much of a future...lost! take your time and pay your respects to your lost friend, let some time go by, they deserve the honor of rememberence....time will go by, and if you have the desire, be a friend again.....

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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How do you tell a scam (female) Posted: 2/17/2008 7:06:56 AM
I found this webpage www.dotsilver.com/dating-scam maybe that helps? If a pretty 20 yr old wants to get lucky with me....well there's gotta be somethin wrong with that!

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'? Posted: 1/8/2008 12:36:21 PM
I think a better way to put it is....For how long have you been called "THE ONE"

walker1960

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How long should you wait before moving on? Posted: 1/8/2008 12:30:53 PM
Now, or next year, your first few "outings" are going to be awkward no matter how you look at it...just be honest with yourself, and others, go out and start trying to have some fun...and before before long you will start having some....and probably some fun too...(just had to say that) really, just be honest...and start starting over...gotta do it sometime

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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i can believe everyone has been ditching me because i don't have a picture .... Posted: 1/7/2008 5:53:48 AM
When someone does not want to show their picture on the profile page here on POF , they may have several good reasons for that. Hopefully the profile describes them accurately, and their body type description is accurate. If they sound like a person that someone is interested in then maybe some conversations may begin and a friendship may develop. After the conversations begin however, if that person still does not want to show a picture, then it starts looking like they are hiding something and all of a sudden the possibility of ever meeting can start going away. I mean who would ever imagine that a person would describe themselves as body type = avg, and in reality, that person is 40 lbs overweight. It is just a matter of honesty at that point. If someone is not being honest in that phase of a new relationship, then that relationship should probably progress no further…talking on the web is one thing, but meeting face to face is another. Not saying that everybody that meets face to face is only looking for sex or anything physical, just saying that meeting face to face denotes a new level of trust that is required now that the 2 people will be in the same room with each other. Personally I would probably like to look like I did about 17 years ago, but I don’t. I tell myself the truth however and my pictures here on POF are current…if I had a reason to hide them on my public profile page, I would still send them to anybody I started talking to ….presuming of course that they even wanted to talk to me based on my profile…..

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Profile Pics ... post edited Posted: 1/7/2008 4:23:28 AM
You know, looking for fake pics, and obviously fake profiles is one of the things I enjoy doing on here... I think its a hoot to read about some dud who obviously is trying to appeal to as many woman as possible,,,you know the type...he frequently takes long moonlit walks on beaches....(I just giggle every time I read that somewhere...sorry..) And women too, describing some kind of wonderful,beautiful, and really want to take care of their man...generally too good to be true..... Yeah a little common sense in a place like this can go a long way for ya.....just keep your eyes open...and as referred to above....keep your "shyt" detector turned on...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Using a forum to drop a hint on your profile. Posted: 1/6/2008 9:44:31 AM
"OP are you suggesting that someone would lie about their views in the forums in order to manipulate someone who reads their profiles and checks their forum posts into thinking they have different opinions to the ones they actually have? " Naww, nobody would do that...and if a pretty girl lists "loves wine, and taking long moonlit walks on the beach", you just know that some Arizona dude is gonna be able to dream up his favorite Chardunno, and how the beaches always are moonlit where he lives. I think this is one big marketing place...with a whole lot of deceptive advertising going on... Using forums to drop hints?,,,,just another marketing ploy...but usually it is so fake sounding that it should be obvious to anybody with ears...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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What should I bring? Posted: 12/28/2007 7:38:10 PM
Don't take a guy flowers....at least don't bring me any... If you really like the guy, and if you know some of his interests...do some homework. Get an idea about his interests and get some questions to ask about them...show him that you thought about him/his interests and wanted to talk about some things that he is interested in. But be fair, talk about things that interest you too...if y'all continue to see each other, y'all will be dealing with BOTH of your interests with each other...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number?? Posted: 12/16/2007 9:23:56 AM
My cell phone is my only phone too

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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How to dumb myself down? Posted: 12/5/2007 5:30:57 PM
Why don't you just keep the mouth shut, and the ears open....If you are working/dealing with someone you care about, let her talk, and if you are so smart, then you should be able to convey your thoughts in an easy to understand manner anyway....

walker1960

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If something will turn you off the most on a first date what would it be? Posted: 12/5/2007 7:32:22 AM
yes...Yes...YEs...YES...YES!!!!....LETS"S MAKE A BABY!

walker1960

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How do you learn to trust again? Posted: 12/3/2007 10:47:34 PM
I'd say don't worry about it...you need to trust yourself first... Take this time to work on personal things that you want to do, or learn about, and learn to be self-sufficient, and get some self confidence. Don't worry about the whole gotta-have-a-guy thing.... You will run into somebody sometime whenever the time is right...don't get all hung up on it...it's an old game..."play hard to get", but add a new twist..."BE hard to get" It's kinda like politics....don't depend on the government to take care of you, learn to take care of yourself!

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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The one thing you miss most when you are single Posted: 12/3/2007 10:02:40 PM
What do I miss most when I'm single? Ring, Ring,....hey, I left my pocketknife on the dresser...or maybe next to the coffeepot...I'm not sure...would you please bring it to me? O'h and would you make sure I turned that coffeepot off?

walker1960

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Woman going on a trip to meet male online friend for 1st time Posted: 11/25/2007 2:34:22 PM
Krillbee, "I'm dating someone right now " Are you dating this someone or are you married to her?

walker1960

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What To Do In A Small Town.... Posted: 11/11/2007 5:07:38 AM
I don't do much dating, so I am surely NOT an expert by any means.. Think about the interests that you have and just do them..hobbies, and maybe things that you just want to learn about... My interests are mainly camping/hunting/cooking/outdoors stuff.....so I would first think of target shooting with pistol or rifle (pellet guns are fun too)./archery/woodswalking/carving/grilling...and sometimes just watching trees grow...I know, I'm a pretty boring dude by most folks standards, but I'm happy enough here by myself..

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Sexy?????? Posted: 11/8/2007 6:01:19 AM
"And I get told by guys that I meet that I am sexy, just trying to figure out why." There you go! It seems that whatever you do, however you do it, does the trick for who you have met.....you don't need to figure out why. I guess you'll just have to accept that whatever your doing is working!

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Sexy?????? Posted: 11/8/2007 5:10:55 AM
Sexy? Ann Margret! wearing one of my flannel shirts! TeeJay...good lesson on communications...it is EASY to do that at the beginning of a relationship...and consequently kill it by accident...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Opening lines Posted: 11/4/2007 7:15:19 AM
Here's me when I first asked my FIRST wife out for a date...she was a haidresser in a shopping mall. Me: You wanna go out for a drink after work? Her: Sure, come get me at 9:00. I came and got her and took her out to my car....and poured her a drink...whiskey in a coffee cup. she said "so this is 'out' for a drink?" I said yep... We did end up getting married, so it must have worked well enough...looking back now maybe I wish it hadn't of worked so well...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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How can you tell if your ex has mad a mistake and wants to come back Posted: 10/20/2007 2:11:45 PM
Sounds like the cheater, is all upset because the one he cheated with has maybe started cheating on him....and he wants to go back to his "safe" place...aww, ain't that a sad one.. We've all made mistakes, at least in my case, I've had to pay for making them...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked.... Posted: 10/17/2007 4:12:05 PM
She was a 2 at 10, but she was a 10 at 2..... Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder, and that eyesight changes as time goes by,,,right now i can't be sure i just spelled everything correctly.... This is just a website for people to see each other online and if you don't think looks play a major part in things at that stage of the game well then happy hour is over for you buddy! Take this for what it is, don't get too serious about things on here....if you REALLY HAVE to meet the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE....you will probably bump into that person at the store or the gym, or at work...something like that...but probably not your own living room! This can be fun, but you can't get too heart-achy about it...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Cast Iron, Aluminum, Stainless Steel, Teflon.. Posted: 10/7/2007 3:29:23 PM
cast iron for me for most everything. (I do have a club aluminium pot that I bought at a garage sale for boiling pasta) mainly the problem with aluminum is with acidic foods... I have some larger stainless double boilers also, but I use iron for most everything I ever cook. I have zero teflon....

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/3/2007 4:01:58 AM
How's this... Back when I was about 25, I was at the Hardees speakerbox at the drivin...I flirted with the girl taking my order....I drove around to the window, where I actually "met" her....we went out that night after she got off work and we dated and had fun for quite awhile!!! So yes I have "met" someone with out a "pic"!

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts? Posted: 9/24/2007 7:25:57 AM
Same kinda thing as: Which shoes look better with this dress? Which dress looks better with these shoes? Which pair of pants makes my ass look smaller? Which hair color looks the best with my face? Which perfume smells best with my body chemistry? . . . We can't win, we might as well just smile a lot...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Sleeping alone Posted: 9/23/2007 4:07:37 PM
If life hands you a lemon, make adrink with it....if you are single at the moment enjoy being single at the moment...you probably won't be forever..and someday you may be complaining about having someone next to you all the time..

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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sexiest outfits ? Posted: 9/17/2007 4:01:02 AM
I have always liked a girl wearing my flannel shirts too. Showing a little bit of cleavage is a good thing. I like long hair just hanging down like in the shampoo comercials, and I like girls wearing perfume.

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Dating and medical issues... Posted: 9/14/2007 7:44:15 PM
I had neck surgery on a disc back in 1990, I was going out with a girl that I was kinda marginal on at the time. When I found out that I was going to do that surgery I broke things off before it happened. I knew she would have pure pampered me while I was recovering but I didn't think that would be right. I think it was the right thing to do. You would be putting a new potential girlfriend on the spot just meeting her and needing some help during recovery... Whatever you do, be VERY honest with anybody you meet...I'd probably stick with tried and true friends for the time being, start dating again in the next few months.

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Have you really ever felt really lonely? Posted: 9/14/2007 7:23:12 PM
Personally, when I put my dog to sleep, loneliest I've ever been, she was 16.

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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How many people can admit they have trust issues? Posted: 9/14/2007 7:00:50 PM
My wife left me after 12 years of a very good marriage..obviously not so good at the end I guess.. I was out cutting firewood one day and she was gone by the time I checked in to see if I needed to stop at the store on the way home..It seems I couldn't trust her after 12 years. How could I trust someone I've never even met. I could begin working on it for sure, but do you blame me for having a few grains of salt rolling around...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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My ex says I am a disgrace for being on an internet dating site Posted: 9/14/2007 6:26:27 PM
The simplest way to deal with someone that is harassing/nagging or whatever is just to ignore them…don’t answer any text messages, don’t answer any emails, don’t speak, don’t do nuthin… You’re divorced, only talk about whatever you HAVE to talk about (kids) and nothing else. When he finds out he’s not getting anything across, he’ll find out he’s not in the equation anymore. He’ll eventually quit.

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Dispelling some fitness related myths... Posted: 9/13/2007 3:44:44 PM
Far as the salmon is concerned, farm raised is bad because of the feed used...it ends up concentrating heavy metals in the salmon, and that's a bad thing, Wild salmon is excellent for you! Just remember that you may have to fight off a bear or two when your out there trying grab em....he he...

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Would u re-locate if asked by someone u were serious 4? Posted: 9/12/2007 10:38:12 AM
Thomas Mitchell (Gerald O'Hara): “Do you mean to tell me, Katie Scarlett O'Hara, that Tara, that land doesn't mean anything to you? Why, land is the only thing in the world worth workin' for, worth fightin' for, worth dyin' for, because it's the only thing that lasts.”

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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My ex is on POF!!! Posted: 9/12/2007 6:03:43 AM
I’d agree with the folks above saying to just leave it alone. It won’t benefit you to try to set the story straight with some new girl of his, or to confront him about anything either. I doubt that she’d believe you, and he would just go elsewhere anyway. Just learn your own lessons, don’t stress yourself and have a good life. Live positive, not negative

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Situation w/ competition Posted: 9/11/2007 6:13:06 AM
Got it!, I shoulda figured that

walker1960

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Situation w/ competition Posted: 9/9/2007 4:26:56 PM
what is a troll thread?

walker1960

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help, need to make awesome fall off the bone ribs Posted: 9/7/2007 5:57:04 PM
I pretty much agree with drhardwun above, ribs HAVE to be cooked in a smoker/woodburning grill, I mean they just gotta be! I'd say keep the temp even a little lower even..water boils at 212 so keep the temp as close to that as you can so they don't dry out. I'm not a fan of the tomato/sugar type sauces, I like dry rubs and oil/vinegar sauces. Try Carolina Treet cooking sauce, try adding some mint to a oil/vinegar Eastern Carolina type sauce. The woodsmoke does the job for you! cook them till mostly done and then wrap them in foil and let them rest awhile.. And remember to start them early. I always forget and I endup cooking and eating later than I intended to...not always a bad thing though!!

walker1960

Joined: 8/10/2007

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Have you ever clicked on a profile, only to find.... Posted: 9/6/2007 4:56:16 AM
kinda reminds me of that song years ago... Do you like pina coladas?, and getting caught in the rain....

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