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Since women will only have casual sex with... Posted: 5/2/2009 5:52:21 PM
I'd like to reiterate that this thread isn't about me so much as it is about the countless guys out there, many of whom are decent-looking and socially adept, who just don't make the cut (with the monopoly on women being as competitive as it is) and so are forced to avail themselves of certain services more than occasionally while being unfairly maligned for it. It just seems like no one wants to talk about this subject. Women can't even conceptualize it, and the vast majority of guys won't acknowledge it, being the poseurs they are. ok so I haven't had sex with anyone in years and I don't avail myself to said services, what does that make me? I see it as if I cross that line of paying for sex, then sex really isn't that sacred moment you share with the other that I want to believe that it is, personally I find it totally worth it to wait for some who is deserving of such pleasures. Maybe I'm totally wrong in this though, and have 'old fashion' percpectives on sex and sexual pleasures.

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Since women will only have casual sex with... Posted: 5/2/2009 5:44:00 PM
to me casual sex is such a waste of time, its more like self gratification than anything else, selfish....takes a few sessions to get to know the person properly to administer max pleasure :D

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I need your help to decipher his behavior of 2 messages Posted: 4/30/2009 10:58:46 PM
Why would anyone use their friend to manipulate their boyfriend, one has to wonder how she attracted his attention in the first place. Can you imagine how hurt and betrayed the guy would be when he found out that you did this. As for proof of a cheating lover or whatever, the big problem here is that people have being trained to distrust their gut instincts, or their intuition..ESPECIALLY if you have a good connection with the person. If you suspect he/she is cheating he/she most likely is. Then again, I guess this would only work if you know yourself. as for the last sentence of OP, its because he was drunk and was feeling lonely

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If there is no possibility of meeting, why ask for more pictures? Posted: 4/30/2009 10:28:57 AM
mmmm because you are hot?

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What gives...Copy and Paste??? Posted: 4/30/2009 3:10:57 AM
lol, a lot of contradictions in it ie) If guys want to ask me if why am I single.. There's just one answer to that - Im happy being like this and definitely enjoying it.. and I dont like to be alone at ALL!!

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Why are so many women over 30 Cynical Posted: 4/30/2009 1:08:46 AM
OP, because they only have 10-15 yrs left to complete their mission?

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I am noticing a trend in women over 30 Posted: 4/30/2009 1:07:36 AM
OP, its called woman's lib, they have escaped the iron fist of patriarchal rule

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 4/30/2009 1:04:30 AM
all women I know ask me that question at some point, its annoying because if I knew why, I wouldn't be single right?

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What do you expect him or her to be by the age of 30. Posted: 4/30/2009 12:57:40 AM
Not sure if I can expect anything from anyone really, everyone has a different situation and you can't really judge anyone by any sort of standard, especiallywhen we in this side of the world are plump and well fed well 80% of the rest of the world is starving.

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What do you expect him or her to be by the age of 30. Posted: 4/30/2009 12:52:42 AM
Jeez, and to think I just 'grew up' at 30 and decided to go to university and get a degree. Some would say I sold out and that I should have stuck with playing music professionally. I was always a late bloomer though.

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The Emotional Toll of Dating. Posted: 4/30/2009 12:46:17 AM
Ive been on a total of about 5 dates in my life, so my experience in the matter is less than informed. Having said that, the very fact that I have so little success is a large stain in my life, and I do tend to take it personally, why shouldn't I? I know that a big part of the problem is that the relationships that I have been in, have always began in an intoxicated state. My friends tell me to go to the bars and and get laid, but that is less than appealing to me, first because I'm not much of a drinker anymore, and second, the bar scene is not that looking good to me anymore I try to just shrug it off and try and convince myself that once I'm done school and have a decent job and everything, things will fall into place and I will find the love of my life. The downside to that is I don't want to really wait for another 10 yrs to get into another relationship. done, sorry for the sob story ;)

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Am I right or wrong? Posted: 4/30/2009 12:35:34 AM
you shouldn't feel bad for making the right choice, I don't stand for that crap myself.

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 4/30/2009 12:26:14 AM
I 'dated' a 42 yr old woman when I was 24, but it was all about the sex, believe it or not I cut it off cause I was getting sick of the whole unemotional superficiality of it all, she thought I was crazy, I prefer to date women within 5 years of my age, but Im not opposed to dating younger or older woman.

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ladies, whats up Posted: 4/30/2009 12:20:12 AM
bon, changed my profile to reflect me and my interests and what I seek, I KNOW that it won't come anywhere close to the extremely high standards of this site, however it does show what I am after more.

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why the reply limit on these forums? Posted: 4/29/2009 11:39:15 PM
why are so many guys so BORING??!? because you haven't met me??

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Am i fighting a losing battle? Posted: 4/29/2009 11:27:59 PM
If he said he has to get back to you, I don't think he is that interested in meeting you. Either that or he needs to find sometime in between his wife and mistress and give you some time ;)

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what does it mean when there are so many messages? Posted: 4/29/2009 11:21:36 PM
Curious how a "really good email exchange or a nice conversation on MSN" now defines the quality of communication. Social science research established decades ago that only 8% of the sender's message is in the words. The grand majority of the communication is in the NON-VERBALS THAT ARE LOST IN ELECTRONIC COMMUNICATION - eye contact, tone of voice, pauses, blushes, proxemics, etc.... 8% is the new 100%. Whooppeee. For those of us who know the former 100%, 8% will always be just 8%. I prefer the light touch of fingertips, the slight change in breathing, the dilation of pupils (w/o roofies, thank you!), the scent of her hair, a shared dessert (dark chocolate, please!) or laughter.... so much is lost on the keyboard, but if that's all you're comfortable with, text away until you can't boogie no more...(whoops! wrong generation!) this is a great post, lots of truth and yearning for the social animal to be personably social, again I see this as a huge problem in the whole online thing, the human element is completely lost, almost I personally see msn/emailing as a thing you do with friends, or with girls from far off lands, not with potential lovers, I would rather meet the person right away so both parties know what the deal is, you really aren't going to know if you are attracted to someone until you meet them in person.

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What am I to him? Posted: 4/29/2009 11:10:27 PM
hate to be so blunt, but I think he sees you as a side dish

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Would you extend the date if you're not interested? Posted: 4/29/2009 11:08:37 PM
Isn't it the guy that usually asks for the first date? Does the guy always have to ask for the date? Personally, if I ask for the first date, it only makes sense if she asks for the second, to give some indication that she is genuinely interested. Now what about when she says, 'I really hope I can see you again' and then never talks to you again, whats that all about.

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How to say no? Posted: 4/29/2009 10:46:50 PM
first, I don't think there is such a thing as 'too far' for us, but if the guy really cares for you he would be just as happy kissing and holding you as he would be 'loving you second, you shouldn't feel apprehensive about communicating to the guy you are interested in and have been intimate with, if you are scared that he is going to get mad for telling him no, thats your mind giving you warning flags for me a 'I don't want to move so fast with this' works for me, Im not going to lie, I love sex and lots of it, but if she doesn't want to go in that direction thats fine with me now I would like to know though, is it wrong to expect a woman to initiate sex

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Taking it sl-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-w-w-w-w-w-w... Posted: 4/29/2009 10:37:01 PM
sounds like he is married/in a serious relationship and he didn't have time to dedicate to you, but see's you as a decent alternative....the give away to this is him not talking to you for a while then messaging you out of the blue

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Stopped messaging Posted: 4/29/2009 10:25:11 PM
do women wait around in case someone better messages and if not they go with prior 'interest'

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ladies, whats up Posted: 4/28/2009 11:59:38 PM
ok I see, I can understand that, I just thought it would be sort of obvious, the common interests, if she went and looked at my profile, thanks for the advice

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Why do women want to change men? Posted: 4/28/2009 11:56:57 PM
you know just as well as I do that you are not the same person you are when you meet someone for the first few times as when you have been together as a couple for 6 months, when you first meet them you want to impress them; maybe she is not changing you but wanting to keep you how you were in the beginning ;)

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ladies, whats up Posted: 4/28/2009 11:39:19 PM
IE) of an email: Hi, I just read your profile and you seem like an interesting person, can I learn more about you? or your profile is fascinating, and we seem to share a lot of common interests, shall we dance? usually something to this affect, or if there is a filtration mechanism on their prof, for example tall men only! Ill ask how tall is tall with something witty following The one time I was successful my first contact email went something like, how tall is tall? What are we doing tonight? Imagine my surprise when I got a response. So should I be more 'forceful' and aggressive with my emails instead of staying the safe respectable side? I'm not looking to 'shack up' or one night stands I'm looking for something with substance with positive growth and all that good stuff Perhaps because your profile does not come across as super interesting to them... yea this one is a difficult one to accomplish, since I really have no idea what women are after when they come online to these types of sites, and I am really bad at selling myself; the current prof is short n sweet, me in a nutshell Sure an artist doesnt usually mind discussing their work, but as a rule they dont want or need someone whose more like a lost puppy but not really on the same page. I wouldn't expect anyone to share their work with me until they knew me well enough to know I wouldn't steal their ideas, I'm a musician and I know way too many people that would eagerly steal one's ideas and call them their own. Maybe its your half man/half animal comment in your profile that turns them off. honestly if they can't relate to that comment I don't think they would be as interesting as I initially thought thnx!

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Men are visual?! Posted: 4/28/2009 11:00:01 PM
first, who is the beholder if not oneself, second, there definitely needs to be a physical attraction to take things to higher levels As an on the side, there was an interesting study that showed women can detect immune system differences in their preferences in natural male scent: if you are interested this study its outlined briefly at the bottom of the page of this link http://www.macalester.edu/psychology/whathap/ubnrp/smell/attraction.html

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ladies, whats up Posted: 4/28/2009 10:38:39 PM
I am curious to know why women who come off as super interesting in their profiles never respond to my emails, I mean, some of the profiles I read make me want to at least know her intellectually/creatively if not more. Is having a lot in common/feeling a connection from her words a bad thing, or do men like myself scare women off in the same manner that an intelligent dog is a lot more hassle to own than a dumb dog?

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Why am I Having Irrational Thoughts? Posted: 4/28/2009 10:22:20 PM
Op, you are obviously still emotionally attached to her. I suggest you cut this connection so that you can move on with your life.

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my boyfriend may be cheating and i want a guy's opinion Posted: 4/28/2009 10:12:35 PM
****, no offence, but you are a woman, if you feel it, its true. Also if you KNOW he sent those messages and you KNOW he lied to you about sending them, what more is to know about this sleeze bag

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If not interested remain friends or and end it? Posted: 4/28/2009 9:54:16 PM
since none of us knows the real reasons why you want to end it, you should just be honest with her and tell her you wish to remain friends with her, hopefully you will have a decent excuse lined up; if you two had great chemistry, she might be 'smart' enough to know the situation.

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How do I tell her I on value her frendship? Posted: 4/28/2009 9:41:00 PM
uhh, there is no real nice way to reject someone, so you would be best just coming out and saying it straight to her face, honest like. She will probably never talk to you again, and hopefully you will learn not to string women along if you have no intention of getting into a serious relationship with them. I suspect its a physical attraction thing, and I know how this society places intrinsic value on aesthetically pleasing arm hangers, so perhaps you should reevaluate if you can have this cool of a friendship with another girl, cause you know, every good relationship requires a good friendship, especially in light of the fact that you say she is your favorite person to hang out with.

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She's married but wants to go out Posted: 4/21/2009 8:10:20 AM
just more proof that humans are a polygamous species

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location Posted: 4/20/2009 1:03:56 PM
its not about being rejected because one can't be rejected by that which one has not met

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location Posted: 4/20/2009 1:02:35 PM
well the other possibility is that canadian women simply are not interested in me.

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location Posted: 4/20/2009 12:28:11 PM
'Ha ha, so basically "most" of the women in the world want to get with you. And they're the ones who are being truthful. So those local women are covering their real feelings for you.' I just want to know why local women are not interested in me whereas non local women are generally interested in me, and I suggest the distance allows them to be more open with their feelings cause they will most likely never meet me.

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location Posted: 4/20/2009 11:20:18 AM
why is that the farther away a woman lives, the more interested she is? I mean I have absolutely 0 success with local women, but most american, european, asian, african women find me to be very interesting and want to 'get with me'. Does the distance make them more confident to be truthful about their feelings?

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Signals? what is the deal with signals? Need more info! Posted: 4/20/2009 10:38:25 AM
'First of all, treating others with respect has absolutely nothing to do with being unable to read body language.' I would have to disagree, for me respect is all about not violating her personal space, so oftentimes she may be sending me signals but Ill maybe ignore them in favour of respecting her body and her space. I think respect kind of makes us blind to body language in some sense.

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Profile Review Posted: 4/9/2009 3:37:59 AM
and how is my pic bad, its a nice black and white with me, its all about vertical lines, the bottle is there to accentuate the vertical lines, I also think I look pretty good in it.

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Profile Review Posted: 4/9/2009 3:31:25 AM
alright! thanx! I mean it! I took yer advice to heart finally, I hope it satisfies profile criteria :D

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Dose the fact that I'm celibate really matter to you guys? Posted: 4/9/2009 1:28:43 AM
honestly if she didn't want to have sex with me I would take it like she isn't interested, and in that case I don't think things would get very far, I tend to be very sexual and passionate once I have the go ahead, but maybe I expect things like that too quickly

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Why Lie in the First Place? Posted: 4/9/2009 1:19:56 AM
Did he wait for a sec to see if you were going to invite him in? I don't know the whole scenario, or the context of the kiss, but my best guess is he was wondering if he was gonna get laid, and having failed in that respect didn't come back, I could be way out of line though, very difficult to judge character traits here :P

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Listen Up Guys Posted: 4/9/2009 1:01:33 AM
I'm always afraid that i'll offend some girl and she'll charge me or something, this has grown into a problem I think, where now I find it extremely difficult to approach women I am interested in, I don't want to invade their personal space or something ridiculous. Also, as pathetic as it sounds, I have only met women on a sexual level when I'm drunk; falling madly in bed together and that usually begins the relationship, now that I have quit the bar scene I find it very difficult to meet women as well. I haven't been in a relationship for 4 years, since they banned smoking in the bars, lol. I have since quit smoking and drink very rarely. Maybe this helps answer your question.

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Profile Review Posted: 4/9/2009 12:33:53 AM
ok thanx, I don't think Im cut out for this game, appreciate the tips!

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If you are a smoker. Posted: 4/8/2009 10:45:04 PM
I quit smoking cigs 4-5 years ago, I prefer to be in smoke free situations

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Profile Review Posted: 4/8/2009 10:41:08 PM
yikes, so you suggest I would have better chances if I sound stupid?

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Whats wrong with me??? Posted: 4/8/2009 9:38:48 AM
get rid of yer myspace details.

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Profile Review Posted: 4/8/2009 9:33:22 AM
Hi, I recently made some changes to my profile and I am wondering how I can improve it to attract that which I desire. I appreciate any and all suggestions and feedback. I have been a member of this site for a couple years and have had less than stellar success. I know that I am a good person and I know that I look good enough to date what I want. Thanks for the time taken to look at my profile!

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Can I have a profile review Posted: 3/23/2009 10:36:22 AM
thnx for the feedback all

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Can I have a profile review Posted: 3/14/2009 11:04:54 AM
Hi, I have been a member of this site for a couple to three years now and I have had very little success. I am wondering how I can improve my profile in order to attract responses from the pof female populations, I would appreciate both positive and negative feedback, Thanks for the time taken to read over my profile and give suggestions for improvement.

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People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/15/2008 2:30:05 PM
still not enough data ;) how to give more data? why would the results be better for women?

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