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Joined: 8/13/2007

Msg: 241 (view)

why are hot guys so mean ???? Posted: 1/5/2009 4:01:21 PM
Some girls are attracted to mean guys. Also guys tend to become very mean when a woman tries to trap them (if you leave me this relationship is over!!). Guys always need their freedom, if they love you, they will never use this freedom against you, but they need to know first that you trust them with it, and that they can isolate themselves when they need to be lonely (and they need it from time to time).... Women have to understand this.

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CHEATING as a self defense, protection tool.... Posted: 9/23/2008 9:44:24 AM
Switching partners might not work well though, because person #1 will be broken hearted and betrayed and leave the relationship, and person #2 will have trouble trusting the cheater since he saw her cheat...

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CHEATING as a self defense, protection tool.... Posted: 9/23/2008 9:39:36 AM
Some persons will cheat their way out of a relationship that scares them, because of fear of commitment. They would be in a serious relationship with a very nice guy, and be pressured by family, partner, society, and their assimilated values (girls must marry a nice guy) to marry him... Since they cant consciously accept the idea of breaking up with with no valid reason with a guy that is so (too?) nice and well settled (a "golden catch"), they will unconsciously weaken it by going to work in a another country... cheating...

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TRAVEL OR SETTLE DOWN? Posted: 9/23/2008 9:28:29 AM
But ultimately the choice is yours. Dont do the mistake of living your life following other people advice. Just do what you feel like doing , ohtherwise youwont be happy. Dont be afraid of missing opportunities to travel or to settle, beware of fear, if you act on fear, the thing that you fear might become reality. Dont be afraid of anything, there's plenty in this word, and you will be able to do whatever you want, and realise all your dreams. Just concentrate on what would make you happy now.

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Msg: 33 (view)

TRAVEL OR SETTLE DOWN? Posted: 9/23/2008 9:13:07 AM
Say you find the love of your life... have a great time... want to marry... but then u suddently feel terribly anxious... why? Because you now have to give up your dreams of freedom. Travel and be free while you can (i'm assuming you are not seing anyone)... Love will come by chance, and you will have the wildest romantic adventures while travelling (girls love the lonely travelling man, and will do everything to keep you). If you find that great girl while travelling, then I hope you will have the courage to settle. But do travel, in my opinion it makes the settling only easier... but what do i know... I havent traveled too much yet, but i met a wonderful girl during 1 month, but when i had to leave the country she wanted to commit... but I was very scared of doing that... I went bezerk with anxiety and fear during a month and a half... and she now think that i am a dangerously unstable nutcase. I hope i did not do the mistake of my life. I figured that if i had travelled before, I would have had less fear of settling with her... or maybe if i had a better career, I'd have more confidence to commit?? I'm still not sure... but you dont seem to have that problem, you seem to be doing well on the professional level, so you can travel in confidence... you have nothing to prove... enjoy freedom while you can.

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Is this commitment phobia or just selfishness (or both?) Posted: 9/2/2008 1:18:38 AM
Some people only love something when it's far and inaccessible maybe And that could be a form of CP... But hey... maybe CP is not an illness... maybe some people just like to explore

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WHY ARE MEN SO MEAN Posted: 8/27/2008 11:02:10 PM
Cry me a river. Women just like mean men... If it's too good to be true, then it probably is... This man probably realised that his best way around women is not to give them too much importance, and that is true. Moreover... what are you whining about... when did this man mention commitment or anything... what does he owe you? If you have a one night stand and you love him, does that mean that he has to dedicated his life to you now... you build too many castles in your head. Earn his love. Wait for him to call back. Thats how it normally goes. But dont trust him too much. Chances are this man hates commitment and will run away as soon as you ask anything from him. Lots of men are like that... they only want sex, and while having sex they come to know the other person, and eventually fall in love with her.

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Msg: 39 (view)

this girl likes me but has a boyfriend Posted: 8/19/2008 12:53:52 AM
If the bf is in the same town and all, it's tricky. If it's long distance, then it's in the pocket. If you decide to stick to her, make sure she leaves her bf after a couple of weeks max, otherwise you'll feel used, and she will be in a situation where she can choose between him and you... you're bad she goes to him, then when they fight she goes back to you... believe me some girls (most?) would love to be in that situation. And you will loose face big time. Just make sure she leave him soon enough. Also, expect this girl to dump you for someone else later... just as she did with her bf now. But it's ok, happens all the time. gd luk

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Msg: 34 (view)

Help!!! In love with a commitment phobia! Posted: 8/18/2008 6:07:16 PM
Why do u insist on commitment. This guy is afraid of commitment, but if u treat him right, he'll probably stay with you forever. He wants unconditional love, that is u love him without asking anything back. And that is what real love is... but noone does that nowadays. Just act like his mother, and love him whatever he does, and he'll always stay with you... Commitment phobics never had that from their mother... but i know it's hard to do But he just cant commit. At his age, it's gonna be hard to change a lifelong pattern. So do you want to break his heart (and yours too)... or do you want to give him unconditional love... Also ask... why do you want to commit??

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