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upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 390 (view)

Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/21/2009 12:55:29 AM
I had two experiences along this line... Invited a man out for a drink on his birthday. When I got to the restaurant he picked out...he had already had a drink. Then..he ordered dinner..said he didn't have a chance to eat earlier. I had ice tea. When the bill came..he handed it to me! I was speechless. total $80. A man invited me out to his favorite restaurant. It was ok..nothing very special...when the bill came he told me what half of it was (including his drinks and the 20% tip. Handed me the bill and his half. .. my half.... $40. For a meal I wouldn't ordinarily have paid more than $15 for at any diner. Needless to say....didn't answer their calls after that.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Love,Quality of life and who pays Posted: 11/21/2009 12:42:38 AM
Well... I supported a man. Ended up losing everything to his bad investments. He managed to talk me out of my all my savings. Supported him, supported his "business" venture. Lost everything, including my good name. He took off...probably to find the next victim... NEVER AGAIN will I spend one minute of time with any man who looks for ANY money from a woman. Please... don't go on and on about gold diggers! The con men who take money from a woman are just as bad if not worse. AND JUST AS COMMON.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Safe dating in the internet age Posted: 11/4/2009 9:44:14 AM
Name calling is the argument of a person who has nothing concrete to offer.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Safe dating in the internet age Posted: 11/4/2009 9:33:54 AM
Well... applying that "critical thinking" to myself and the hits I got when I googled myself.... Even knowing the city and state didn't bring anything correct up. Looks like I am involved in land disputes and law suits all over New York!! (needless to say...I am not). Since the ONLY document out there that actually has anything to do with me is only one line in a HUGE document about sales receipts... Do I conclude I used a false name? Do I conclude that I have had many many professions all over the country? What exactly does critical thinking do for me when the hundreds of documents have nothing to do with me? Again... If I cannot even find myself in all those documents (one little line in an old receipt)... how can I rely on this for anyone? I do not have a deadly common name, btw.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Safe dating in the internet age Posted: 11/4/2009 7:23:43 AM
I googled my own name... Got hundreds of hits. Doctors, Environmentalists, Teachers, etc Found links to high schools all over the country. Found links to city records all over the country. Somewhere on page 40 there was one mention of me. Just a little document about a purchase I made 7 years ago. How much value can a web site offer if nothing you find can be counted on to be anything about the actual person in front of you? Tell me... how can you rely on this source?

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

who gets your stuff? Posted: 11/4/2009 5:02:22 AM
Everything I have (will have) has been "assigned"...except the large collection of hand crafted Christmas bulbs. I collected them, one each year; over 40 years. The collection is probably worth some real money. BUT, there isn't anyone to give it to! At this point in my life, my family is Jewish... kids married and their households are observant. Probably see if there is a friend who would treasure them.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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What does it take for you to Block someone on POF? Posted: 10/28/2009 8:45:16 AM
Only did it once. He sent a message suggesting a coffee meeting. I agreed...suggested a day and place... He read the message. The day I suggested comes and goes...didn't reply Then... days later, sent another message suggesting a coffee meeting. I agreed...suggested a day and place.... He read the message. The day I suggested comes and goes....didn't reply I deleted all the messages, deleted him from favorites and blocked him Twice thru that mill was enough.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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when a new guy you've met tells you he needs space to think Posted: 10/24/2009 5:50:38 AM
When a man is interested.... you know it! The fact that he was moving WAY TOO FAST is a red-flag. Get you hooked... then throw in another line. I think he is checking out the dating pond, but..wants to have the backup in case he doesn't find the BBD (Bigger, Better, Deal). I would suggest to you that you move on. Maybe not close the door totally on him, but... move on with your life, and treat him like a poisonous snake.... ie: Keep your distance.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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What do you think of this? Posted: 10/17/2009 4:45:05 AM
I think you need to work on writing sentences! You know...with periods and the end of each separate thought. That monolithic block of text it just about impossible to read.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Profile Themes Posted: 10/8/2009 4:12:53 AM
I bought the profile theme.... Now.. I no longer get any points when I log on.. I didn't realize that it was not only going to cost 5000 points ..but..I would never get any more points from then on. Is this a 'bug'..or what?

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Young engaged woman needs advice... Posted: 10/8/2009 4:04:13 AM
My grandfather had a saying which I think you should take to heart: Marry in haste and you will repent at leisure. You know in your gut this is the wrong move for you.... believe me.. if you don't follow that gut feeling you will (WILL) regret it. I understand you don't want to hurt him. BUT, you must understand that this is a train-wreck coming down the track. If you marry you will be unhappy, and the hurt that will be caused by breaking up a marriage is much much greater. If you cannot break it off... (I understand the feelings you have)...then delay. Put off the wedding date. Take a long long time before setting a date. Be sure: heart, head, and gut.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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i think i have a stage 5 clinger Posted: 10/7/2009 7:58:38 AM
Want to have some fun with this scammer? Go to 419eater.com The site will guide you on how to lead a scammer on... how to scam the scammer. How to enjoy playing with her... you will be doing a public service. While you keep her occupied believing that she has you hooked...she will not be scamming someone else.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Narcissitic Personality Disorder or Psychopath Posted: 10/3/2009 8:30:23 AM
I also went thru a "recovery" from an abusive relationship. Not all abuses are physical. Tell yourself about the times when you just couldn't stand any more. Remind yourself every day (every hour, if you need to) about the worst of it. Promise yourself and all the caring people around you that there will never be any further contact.... NEVER. You cannot move forward if you let yourself be pulled backward into that again. If you want to... email me. I know what you are going thru... maybe I can be support..help you vent. I found that venting was the single most important factor to help me remember why I am lucky to get out in the first place. Stay strong.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Was it loosing your s/o or the habit that was upsetting Posted: 10/3/2009 4:08:15 AM
I was so un-prepared for the major change...I spent years packing and unpacking tons of "things". All the little parts of that former life. I just couldn't give them up. They were my security blanket. Then, finally, I put all of it on ebay. Sold off the "stuff" of a life that was long gone. I guess I had to get out of the habit totally before I could do that. Now I have only the small number of this which are MINE. Unlike Ron, I had to live on my own for a good long while before I could do it.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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what's up with this? Posted: 9/21/2009 3:57:47 AM
I am sorry to say..but, I very much doubt he will learn anything at all from your message. I too have met men like that. Any attempt on your part will get a nasty reply from him. Let it go.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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A story I thought I'd share Posted: 7/13/2009 5:03:53 AM
I'm glad you posted this. It will remain in the history section of your profile for everyone to see That is good because, any woman interested in your profile will read it and know that you are an A$$. Please do not delete this thread.... let it stay.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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When the bill comes on a first date... Posted: 7/13/2009 5:00:40 AM
The simple solution is.... I get there early, order and pay for whatever I am having BEFORE he arrives. Neat and simple.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Just some thoughts from this Old Gizer from the Interior Posted: 6/20/2009 3:19:51 AM
I think the OP has an axe to grind! Geez... did she dump you? That must be it... (unless you are the DAD in this story), I cannot figure out what business it is of yours, and why you would be attacking others who respond makes even less sense.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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care and bi-polar Posted: 6/19/2009 11:57:17 AM
Quazi 100, yes... I read your response. I don't know that it really makes much difference if it is bi-polar or BPD... each share many of the same symptoms. However, you really nailed it. I can't tell you the number of times he has told me that his illness is more severe than anyone has ever experienced before... etc, etc, etc, etc. I have told him point blank that he must get help. He has ignored this. I am going to end this torture today. He won't seek help, I am done. It has totally driven me out of my mind dealing with this.... I will be a long time putting this all behind me.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 258 (view)

care and bi-polar Posted: 6/18/2009 8:10:00 AM
One thing that gets me is that this bi-polar man talks about himself all the time! I mean ALL THE TIME. It is like he is so totally into himself he is unaware that the world around him isn't interested in each and every observation he has about the details of how he feels right now..how he felt and hour ago and how it relates to how he will feel in the next hour. How is body feels right now. How his body felt last night. How his bowel moments are going (I am not kidding!!). He watches himself so closely (and expects everyone around him to do so too). This is self absorbed on a level that is nearly impossible to believe. Even interrupts conversations (waving his hand in the air to get attention...then...) to talk about himself. Is this unique to this guy or is it a typical bi-polar thing?

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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care and bi-polar Posted: 6/4/2009 10:24:40 AM
So... I've been reading all the threads.. and various web sites as well. Over and over again I read that this mental disorder isn't the fault of the sufferer..... Here is the question Because he suffers from bi-polar... does that excuse the behavior? I don't just mean the blow ups.... I mean the list of normal day-to-day stuff: * demands more and more time and help.. demanding that I stop working to help him * anger over my not dropping everything to do whatever he wants. * disregard for my comfort and my needs * requiring the topic of all conversations be him * interrupting conversations to talk about himself. * disregard for my future well-being * everything is my fault. * telling the neighborhood that I am a terrible person when I get mad at him * seems to think that if he buys my some little item (which I try to refuse)..that makes it ok for him to treat me badly. basically... such an a$$hole that I cannot believe it myself. Is this all typical?

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 237 (view)

care and bi-polar Posted: 6/4/2009 10:10:26 AM
I have been seriously involved with a bi-polar man. It has been a long roller-coaster ride of 8 months. He keeps insisting that he doesn't need meds. He can act so totally normal most of the time... then a blow up. Is this typical? He demands more and more of my life, my time, my energy...but.. gets really mad when I insist that he give something back. I think this is making me crazy. He had a stroke about 5 months ago. I just couldn't leave him when he wasn't able to take care of himself...now, I believe he is choosing to not work on recovery so that he can keep me trapped in the mode of being 'mom' and personal servant. How do I end this without feeling like the world's greatest monster for leaving a "helpless" man?

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Why Must It Always Be the Man Who Make First Contact? Posted: 5/8/2009 2:02:25 PM
It has been my experience for many years that I am wasting my time to make first contact. Not in any single case have I received a reply. I have no trouble getting dates. No trouble finding men who are looking for the same things I am.. just never when I make the first contact.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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betrayed Posted: 3/14/2009 4:26:56 PM
Thank all of you so much! It means a lot to have someone offer support and pray for me. I know only too well what the stoke can do (did do)...but... the lawyers have probably convinced him he will get millions. I put my statements to him in the simpliest terms. Please help me. I have lawyers and have been talking to the litigators for the insurance companies. I can certainly tell anyone all about the process and the likely results...if anyone want to know... it looks like I was thrown overboard for about 70k. (I can explain that number if you want to know) Sadly, I know he will be back out of rehab very soon... and have no where to go. I think he will end up in a nursing home..where he will be left to rot. It breaks my heart!

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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betrayed Posted: 3/14/2009 3:09:34 PM
I met a man more than 2 years ago. He had a lot of baggage... messy divorce, medical problems (diabetes, neuropathy, gout, etc), and anger problems over a police incident. We remained just friends... he simply had too much drama going on. Then late last summer we started to date with long term commitment in our minds. He was closing out the last issues with the divorce..the anger was put behind him. We became very close. Spent nearly every day together. Drove to Florida together..never once turning on the music...we talked the whole way and back! We have always had great conversations, never bored or tired. Laughing much every day. I December he moved in with me. We spent our days and our nights together..each other's best friend. We both said how great it was that we were good friend first for so long. In January he had a major stoke. I fought for him every day while he was in the hospital..I fought to get in the care he needed to get him transferred to the best rehab care. In February he entered rehab..I was there every day. Learned to do the things that Physical Therapy taught so that I could walk with him while he re-learned to walk..help him up..into the bathroom..bath, etc. I did everything to make him comfortable and to promote his recovery. Knowing he would be a year or more before he would be recovered enough to be independent..I worked for this goal with him. We agreed to be married in coming summer. He was released from rehab... still unable to do most things without help... so at home we learned to work together. We laughed everyday. We loved much and cared for each other. Then we were in a major car accident just 7 days after he was out of the rehab. He was seriously injured and it was life threatening! I was driving. He survived the surgery and was well into recovery... I was at his side the whole time. Then last Monday he told me that he was suing me. I understood that he was seeking the 'pain and suffering' damage from the insurance company and completely agreed with him that he should have it.... but... I also asked him to help me prove that I wasn't at fault in the accident. It wouldn't change the amount of money he would get...it would only protect me against the other driver deciding to bring a lawsuit and come after me personally. He refused to help me. Told me that I was stupid and this was the way of the world! Told me to go away. I left him hospital room stunned. I called him the next day and begged him to help me. Explained it wouldn't cost him a thing! He refused to even answer me. He has refused to talk to me. After 3 days I had to accept that there is no longer any relationship between us. I cannot stop crying. I didn't deserve this. I have never before asked anything of him. This one time I ask him to help me... I am abandoned. I just needed to write this down.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Dating someone who still signs on to POF Posted: 2/18/2009 4:42:10 AM
It seems to me that if you are interested in someone, then you talk to them. If you didn't discuss this with him, then I think you should assume that you are on the same page. I hang out in the forums too.. but... notice that my profile is hidden. Simple..I like to come here too...but... no longer here for dating. If the profile is still visible and doesn't indicate dating exclusively...then... HE IS NOT DATING YOU EXCLUSIVELY.... it is easy to figure out.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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At 57 &64 is one yr dating long enough to expect marriage? Posted: 1/24/2009 3:54:13 AM
I agree with you Kimbnr. If he doesn't want the responsibility, then he is saying that he wants a FWB. If you are not willing to be the "benefit" provider, then you should move on. Make sure he is on the same page as you before you waste a lot of time and get too 'invested' with him. If he wants friends... tell him to go to the local senior center. If he wants "benefits" without commitment..tell him to go pay for a hooker....otherwise he can spread it on the lawn. I thought this sort of crap was just the youngsters!

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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My girlfriend is talking to my ex-wife... Posted: 1/13/2009 5:40:39 AM
THIS IS A TROLL! PEOPLE... the story changes all the time The profile changes to hide the fact that he was trying to date while with her TROLL. People... pay attention. DO NOT FEED TROLLS

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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unhappy i have to leave Posted: 1/12/2009 12:57:52 PM
Oh my. You just described classic controlling behavior. Please separate yourself from this situation. The longer you remain the more of your self esteem he will destroy. We teach people how to treat us... and this has gone on so long he has no reason to ever change. He is trying to keep you under his thumb. He believes you cannot live without him so he can do whatever to you he likes, including the threat to leave you or drive you away. (That was designed to get you to fawn over him and beg to stay). Pick yourself up and leave. In fact.. RUN

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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My girlfriend is talking to my ex-wife... Posted: 1/12/2009 12:50:05 PM
If all you want is to read/write in the forums.. you do not need to have a visible profile... (notice I do not.. I really am here for the forums) and your profile states you are single!! Just here for the forums? BULL. then why are you advertising yourself on a dating site? Buddy... you know better and so do we.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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OH WOW !!! Anyone ever ..... Posted: 1/9/2009 4:54:52 PM
Without a doubt the wedding is off. I didn't know any of this before accepting his proposal. Luckly for me we had decided to wait till next summer to set a date. After reading all the responses.. (THANK YOU, EVERYONE!) I think I will see if he ever gets out of an institution again (he might not). I am thinking that if I can get to a point where he and I can have a long conversation and talk about all of this, and he understand that the trust has really been lost....then... I would consider staying and helping thru the coming rehab. BUT.. and it is big but... I am realizing I cannot ride this rollercoaster again. There has to be some assurance that the future doesn't look like this. After reading the first hand accounts.... I believe that I am going to totally back off the marriage thing. If we can be good friends, I will help him all that I can...but.. I cannot trust him with my future.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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OH WOW !!! Anyone ever ..... Posted: 1/9/2009 7:29:30 AM
Has anyone else ever dealt with something this serious? Did it work out? How did you navigate the pit falls? What should I look out for if I decide to continue with him? I guess I am looking for the voice of experience here. I am a very strong person... and need to get to a point where I can talk with him while he is NOT in a psychotic state... ie.. out of the hospital setting. That could be a very long time.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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OH WOW !!! Anyone ever ..... Posted: 1/9/2009 7:25:56 AM
From what I gather.. his friends tell me... this is the only violent action they have ever seen in him (some of them that known him for more than 20 years). With that said... there are other issues that correlate to periodic psychosis.... such as being very irresponsible about things in his life. irresponsible about money for example (again.. I am only just learning about it). I didn't know the extent of it till now.. but... I have known people who didn't handle money well..and figured we would end up with me handling the finances... and he understood I would require that given his past. BUT... until now... I didn't start to pull up information about this condition and start digging info out of his friends. All this behaviour is "of a piece".

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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OH WOW !!! Anyone ever ..... Posted: 1/9/2009 7:14:12 AM
He is not on any meds for his psychological problems. He was in to get knee surgery done. He was given no meds in the hospital before this started....... He started screaming the most violent language and foul language at the nursing staff. He refused to allow them to touch him in any way. He required certain medial procedures and IV...he started fighting like crazy. Finally after a couple days of the craziness...they declared him incompetent... they have to tie him down screaming to do anything. This isn't the first time this has happened!! (only now do the friends tell me about this)

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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OH WOW !!! Anyone ever ..... Posted: 1/9/2009 7:01:17 AM
The man I am living with and agreed to marry turns out to be psychotic. This is the literal truth. He was hospitalized for a routine physical problem and this triggered full bloom psychosis. I've known him for a couple years, but only recently began getting serious..and only now starting to live together with marriage in mind. He was good at keeping it hidden. His friends of 20 years never let on to me. No one clued me in. I was in total shock to go thru the week from hell while he was strapped down and drugged out by the hospital. I am now learning that the hospital setting ALWAYS sets off a psychic break in him! However, looking back there were some other little signs along the way too. ( we all see much clearer while looking back) I am struggling with ... do I stay and help him or break and run? Has anyone ever had a situation that is this serious... what did you do? What happened?

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Long term relationship continuing after Korea? Posted: 12/23/2008 7:55:00 AM
With the recent large increase in men going to China to get a bride it has become MUCH more difficult to bring the new bride back into the USA. I know of two men who went to China to find a wife in the last 2 years... each got married there...each has yet to be able to get their bride thru the US state department into this country. They get constant cases of 'lost' papers..need to refile. "missed" filing deadline.. must start over... etc. Either the State Department is manned by total idiots, or they are actively seeking to prevent men from having a marriage in this country to a bride of a foriegn, "arranged" marriage. I am guessing that there are more than just a few cases where she divorces him as soon as she has the green card.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Do you really like being totally left alone? Posted: 11/24/2008 10:20:30 AM
You should walk away from this guy. He isn't really interested in you...only in himself. Never make someone a priority in your life while he keeps you as just an option in his. Let this man find a woman who isn't interested in him either. They would be a perfect pair...you, however, should keep looking. If you decide to try to stick it out with this man you can expect more of the same.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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the reason why so many relationships fail theses days Posted: 10/8/2008 6:39:06 AM
I think that hiding your profile because you are dating someone you are interested in is pretty straight forward. Doesn't mean I already believe he is the "one"...does mean I am going to give it a chance and stop "looking" in the meanwhile. I don't believe in the business of dating more than one at a time. I don't "get in line" for anyone, and I don't want to be involved with anyone who is either willing to do this to me or willing to have it done to themselves. If you like the person and you are dating.. then I think it is right to hide the profile and give it a chance.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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lack of conversation Posted: 10/8/2008 5:44:55 AM
Once the initial contact is made in email how I do get someone to understand that they need to be involved in a conversation with me. This has been talked about before... where one or the other seems to only answer questions and contribute nothing toward the conversation beyond that. I seems to show that the other person isn't actually interested in learning about who you are. OK... I know it's been done to death... but.. how about we offer up some ideas on how to fix this? I have tried to send back an email that says "you don't seem to be much interested in me since in all the emails we have sent back and forth, you have never asked me anything about myself". This never got any response at all. (did that prove he wasn't interested to begin with?) I have tried to send back an email that said "I wish you were more involved in having a conversation with me instead of just answering my question and nothing more". This never got any response at all. I have tried to send back an email that said "if you want to keep my interest you need to show me that you are interested too". That got a rude response with a block. So.. tell me... everyone....what have you tried that has worked? what else have you tried that didn't work (save me the trouble for going that way too)

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Favorites List????? Posted: 10/3/2008 12:58:59 PM
said this before.... If you are on a lot of favorites lists..you are going to turn off some people. You CAN delete yourself from those lists.....if you don't it looks like an ego trip. I don't contact any man on a lot of favorites lists....they are collecting women and it is a turn off.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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E mail returns...when? Posted: 10/2/2008 8:56:09 AM
so true. If I don't hear from them within a short period of time, I remove them from the list. I don't contact anyone on a lot of favorites lists... it is just collecting women and that is a turn off.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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Actions speak louder than words Posted: 10/2/2008 8:52:46 AM
AMEN. I've said it before. If you don't respond right away to me it is because you are not interested...and I will close off any further contact. I lose interest when this game is played. If you log on, read my email and don't respond..then it is obvious you aren't interested. If you don't call when you say you will... again, I totally lose interest. Why would you expect someone else to keep interest when you demonstrate your lack?

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 10/1/2008 4:57:20 AM
When I read (or try to read) the first sentence and I cannot make out what the author is trying to say...I don't read further. I usually just ignore the message. If it is an email, I don't respond. If it is a posting here on the forums, I just skip over it. Like it or not, being able to communicate effectively is a base-line requirement in society. This is a dating site....meaning; we all want to meet someone that we have a chance to be in a serious relationship. If the person cannot communicate (or worse..will not!) then it is a clear indication of lack of compatibility. I love the idea of writing back in a foreign language...I am going to do that in the future.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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The Ultimate Dilemma Posted: 9/19/2008 5:20:08 AM
Well.. you do have to get another roommate to sub-let your part of that lease to. Your name was signed on the lease. You need to take care of that. The landlord (and your roommates) can hold you to the monthly rent payment to the end of the lease no matter where you live. You signed the lease for a year. I agree that her drama has led to this, but...it is you did sign that lease. The court isn't going to care why you are moving...as long as you are making the CHOICE to break the lease..you are responsible. BUT... If K demanded that you move then you would have a case. Consider staying and making her life unbearable. I had a friend who did just that... made a mess everywhere...all the dishes were dirty all the time..never a clean place to sit. She made his life h*ll. It took a month...but... the roommate demanded she move. Sorry for your trouble. Take a lesson from this. Make sure you have your business in your control.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

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are women willing to look past a mans flawed teeth. Posted: 9/13/2008 8:49:02 AM
ICK.... Remember, you are hoping she is going to be kissing that mouth!! Get them fixed. It is very hard to have romantic feelings toward anyone who has a mouth that makes you sick. Think about it. Get them fixed.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 70 (view)

Seeking Advice Posted: 9/13/2008 5:38:08 AM
How can you be missing the obvious here? She is in a relationship with Mr. Japan... and he is coming home. You were great for a fling when he was away. But.. time to put an end to it Can you really not see where this is going? Here... try this. Tell her you are going to have a talk with Mr. Japan about the time you have spent with her while he was away. You are going to tell him that you are both dating her, and may the best man win. After all.. that is what she has told you.. why not be sure he also knows the deal. I don't mean that you actually do it... just tell her that. She will be frantic to figure out how to keep you away from him!! why? Because: HE IS HER BOYFRIEND and you are the fling!

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Sexual Harrassment Harrassment Posted: 9/9/2008 9:24:19 AM
Rarely will a person admit (even to themselves) that what they did/said was wrong. When retelling the story to a friend.. the truth is very often white-washed so as to make themselves look better/look the victim. Your friend was not telling you the truth.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Sprint Says Buh-Bye to 1000 High-Maintenance Customers Posted: 9/2/2008 6:05:20 AM
I had to get rid of Sprint. I think they sold the cell tower near my condo, and I couldn't get a signal at all when I was home! Awful service, and even worse customer "service". Horrible. Went to Cingular just in time to be AT&Ted. The "new" AT&T deleted my mail box and discontinued the voice mail service... this was for more than a month! never told me. Finally, someone told me they couldn't leave message. Customer service told me that it wasn't a billable service item so they were not really obligated to provide it!! I had a terrible fight with them! Now... I cannot hold a conversation without "network busy" causing me to lose the connection. Every conversation! sometimes 2 or 3 times in the course of just 30 minutes!! Awful service...Awful. I had verison for a while a couple years ago... but.. they had no service coverage in most of the places I travel to. I got rid of that service within the first month. So..it seems there isn't any provider that has coverage and/or service. We are all forced to pick the lesser of multiple evils.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 91 (view)

Am I obligated to go through with it? Posted: 9/2/2008 4:41:33 AM
OH wow... Did you meet him from here? I think you had a date with the same guy that I did. He turned out to be easily 100 lbs heavier and 10-15 years older than his pictures. He still has that old photo on here too. He approached me (I would never have recognized him!!). I told him point blank.."you lied in your profile!" and walked away. I didn't say a thing more...mostly because I was mad.

upstate-gal

Joined: 8/15/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Need a guys persepective Posted: 9/1/2008 10:18:12 AM
HUH??? You are here looking for an intimate encounter... and.... YOU are upset cause he is going to go and party? WOW Before you cast that stone.... clean up your own act!

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