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Domestic Violence
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:36:13 PM | | I AM A SURVIVOR OF SEVERE CHILDHOOD ABUSE AND THOUGH IT CEASED WHEN I WAS 15, I'VE SPENT MY WHOLE LIFE DEPROGRAMING MY MIND AND SPIRIT. I'VE COME TO SOME SERIOUS REALIZATIONS IN MY LIFE AND HAD TO ACCEPT CERTAIN NEGATIVES IN MY LIFE JUST TO KEEP ON SURVIVNG MY LIFE. SUCH AS, I WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE A GOOD FATHER, HUSBAND OR MATE CAUSE I WAS TAUGHT ALL MY LIFE HOW TO FAIL AT THIS. I RECOGNIZE MY FAULTS AND TRY TO FIX THEM ACCORDINGLY YET, IF I DON'T ACCEPT CERTAIN THINGS SUCH AS THE STATEMENT I JUST MADE, I'LL CARRY TOO MUCH WEIGHT OF MY SHOULDER, AND I WON'T MAKE IT. I COULDN'T ESCAPE, I WAS A CHILD. I WAS AT THE MERCY OF THE OTHER ABUSE VICTIM, MY MOTHER. SEE, I BELIEVE IF SHE WOULD OF FIGURED OUT A WAY TO ESCAPE, IT JUST MIGHT OF SAVED US SOME HEARTACHE & LIFELONG PAIN, THE WAY I SEE IT, IF A SITIUATION THREATENS YOU TO THE POINT OF YOUR VERY LIFE, WHAT IS THERE TO LOSE IF YOU TRY TO ESCAPE? I MEAN IF YOU FEEL YOUR LIFE IS GOING TO END WITH THE ABUSER, AREN'T THE ODD FOR SURVIVAL BETTER IF YOU ESCAPE? ME, I WOULD TAKE MY ABUSER WITH ME, TO MY DEATH BEFORE I WOULD ALLOW MY CHILDREN TO BE HARMED IN ANY WAY. ABUSE IS ALSO A STATE OF MIND, IN MY OPINION. FOR EVERY POSITIVE ACTION THERE IS AN EQUAL NEGATIVE REACTION, IN OTHER WORDS, THE ABUSER NEEDS THOSE WHO ALLOW (YES, ALLOW) THEMSELVES TO BE ABUSED. MY MOTHER STILL THINKS WE HAD A GREAT UP BRINGING. NEVER MIND THAT ONE FIVE MINUTES, ONLY 5 LITTLE MINUTES OF MY LIFE WHEN I WAS 10 YRS OLD AND MY STEPFATHER BROKE BOTH OF MY WRISTS IN ONE OF COUNTLESS BEATINGS, WITH A SHOVEL HANDLE CAUSE I DIDN'T BACK UP THE TRUCK TO HIS LIKING, OR THE TIME WHEN HE BROKE MY LITTLE SISTER'S JAW BUY KICKING HER IN THE FACE WHEN SHE WAS 7, FOR FAILING TO DO THE DISHES. HEY, BUT THAT EARNED US A TRIP TO DISNEYLAND THAT YEAR. THIS WAS ALL TAKING PLACE IN A SMALL TOWN IN ARIZONA, EVERYONE KNEW, NO-ONE STOOD UP FOR US KIDS, AND I THINK THAT IS ONE OF THE SOLUTIONS AT HAND. ABUSERS ARE COWARDS, IF EVERONE WOULD JUST STAND UP THESE COWARDS, THEY WILL BACK DOWN MORE OFTEN THEN NOT. IF YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO IS BEING ABUSED, LET THAT COWARD KNOW YOU KNOW, AND REPORT IT TO THE POLICE SO THEY KNOW TOO. CAUSE IF YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS BEING HARMED AND DO NOTHING TO HELP, YOU MIGHT AS WELL BE THE ABUSER, WOULDN'T YOU SAY? AND REMEMBER, NEVER TURN YOUR BACK ON A CHILD. | | | |
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