Is the secret to making your man happy, showing him your happy? chat & forums.

Posted In Forum:

Home

MyForums

Show ALL Forums

Author

Thread: Is the secret to making your man happy, showing him your happy?

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

Is the secret to making your man happy, showing him your happy? Posted: 1/2/2009 10:22:48 AM
I think Diablera nailed it.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

Which foreign country has most beautiful women/men? Posted: 12/20/2008 7:39:38 AM
Ireland- gotta love 'em redheads or otherwise.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 492 (view)

oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 12/19/2008 12:10:54 PM
can we just stop all the hatred and realize that any woman that is willing to put their mouth anywhere near a penis is a hero...absolute hero.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 7 (view)

Why do guys stop talking to me after we meet? Posted: 12/18/2008 5:57:16 PM
I think what you are doing wrong is simple...thinking you are doing something wrong. Two people meet, they either like each other or not. I'm sure there are specific things these men didn't like about you, but that is their prerogative and there is nothing you can do about it. Unless maybe if like you showed up with your hair and teeth unbrushed, it was just a matter of you not being the right one for them. Trying to find out the specific reasons they didn't dig you and then changing those things is not going to lead you to the person you want to be with. Keep meeting potentials and eventually one of those will turn into something. The ones that did't work out...it's just that simple- it didn't work out. Move on and rock out.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 962 (view)

Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 12/17/2008 2:41:27 PM
I feel the need to say I've never, nor at this point do I really have a plan to take my teeth to a man's genitals I'm just glad to know there is at least one woman that would take the time and consideration to construct a plan to carry out any specific teeth to wang violence before actually committing the act. Cooler heads can prevail ladies...take note.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 50 (view)

Q about sex w/girl on top and guy going soft Posted: 12/17/2008 11:13:31 AM
kayliecat: Hey, I had this same problem with one of my exes...it was just something about her, i wanted to be on top and even though it felt good when I was on bottom, I would still not be able to stay hard, but then one time she was way more vocal than normal....did the trick...made me realize that I just felt kind of useless on the bottom there, if that happens to you again, try making him grab and pull you more, or be louder, something to kind of "boost the morale" a bit. totally worked for me.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 461 (view)

oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 12/17/2008 7:58:48 AM
Haven't you ever kissed a girl after she's given you a blow job and tasted it? It's a turn on for me when a guy is comfortable with that. I don't think it is natural for one to be turned on by the taste their own bodily fluids. It's cool if you like guys that like their own stuff....it just turned my stomach and I had to say it. Also, who cares if a woman swallows? The OP needs to stop watching so much porn, nobody wants to swallow your disgusting goo, get over yourself.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Does how you were raised dictate who you are attracted to? Posted: 12/16/2008 1:37:30 PM
pepsi: To go beyond myself, I think it has a huge affect on who you are attracted to. Just ask any run of the mill "abused by daddy and now I am a stripper looking for daddy's love by dating really old men" type girl, or a overprotected mommy's boy that tries to find a replacement for his mom- many even try to find a woman that looks just like their mom!

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

Does how you were raised dictate who you are attracted to? Posted: 12/16/2008 1:28:36 PM
I grew up with a dad that made sure to teach me to do things for myself, and to have responsibility for what I do, so now, I don't really care for an irresponsible type woman or a woman without a little independence. So, yes.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 76 (view)

If the sex aint mind blowing Posted: 12/16/2008 12:50:52 PM
I've always been of the opinion that great sex can be created as well as just appear. I think that if you have a good connection with the person in other areas, you can use that as leverage while you explore with each other and try to maybe devolop some sexual chemisty. because, let's face it, sexual chemistry doesn't last forever, not matter what you do eventually its just like... "I've put my thing into you every way imaginable." Then you can combat that portion of it however you can. So you might as well keep plugging along now to see if you can get the sex right while the other part of it is right. At some point, only one of the two will be working- this way just isn't the norm....and I think we all know how the "norm" typically works out for us.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 253 (view)

What words would you LEAST like to hear after sex? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:56:08 AM
"My mom said I'd never be able to sucker a man into getting me pregnant...I'll show her."

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Tight pants Low Cut Tops is it sexy or Skanky ? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:49:17 AM
bigdaddyjinx: That was hysterical. I would totally rock those, thanks for the heads up. Ladies...watch out...

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 68 (view)

LAST SEX EVER..B4 U DIE Posted: 12/16/2008 10:41:18 AM
Ann Hathaway...those doe eyes would get wide with excitement and we would make beautiful love to be demonstrated for the masses via a Times Square video screen, and all of my exes would be standing in the middle of Broadway watching the monitor and realize how underapprciated I was and simultaneously long for my touch. Yep, that's exactlly how it should go down.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Tight pants Low Cut Tops is it sexy or Skanky ? Posted: 12/16/2008 10:02:34 AM
I think it's fantastic. Hang your ass out, boobs out, make sure we can see that lower back tattoo. Whew that's all hot. I will look and not aplogize. That said, in my experience women that dress that way make awful girlfriends, but as far as exciting me and trying to get the attention of men...well nothing works better than showing off what you got. I just wish I could hang my balls out have the same affect on women.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Attraction to a Client Posted: 12/16/2008 9:52:30 AM
Thanks for the response everyone. I've look like an idiot plenty in my life, no risk in once more, so I am going to give it a go. Kind of odd how both the men said not too, and like every woman says go for it. Thank everyone.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 62 (view)

Am I to wait for him to fall for me? Posted: 12/16/2008 9:07:41 AM
Men are not that complicated really. Its as simple as if he wants you his d ick will go up, if he doesn't his d ick will go down. Don't complicate it. That is why I say men are useless unintelligible cratures. They don't really think about relationships. Me eat meat. Me have hard** Fire HOT! AARRGGH!Hard. Me ** lady hard. ARRGH! fire...hot?

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

Attraction to a Client Posted: 12/15/2008 1:10:30 PM
Ok, so I'm sure there is some type of addage about this situation, but I want an honest opinion here. I had a client recently that I am just totally into now. We got to know each other quite a bit. One night she was in my office very late going through her finances and we were flirting a bit too. I would have just said, "let's grab a drink," but would have been mortified at my own unprofessional behavior, but that was the ONLY thing that stopped me because I was about on a 85% notion that she would have said yes. Now, our business relationship is over...Wednesday will be one week since the finalization. I don't know a ton about her, but enough to know that she is a decent girl and quite a lot of what I am looking for. Initial attraction as well, at least on my part. She, I think, exhibited some signs of this too...kind of nervous around me- like we would interrupt each other a lot and then both apologize- that kind of fidgety thing, you know. Is this a situation that I can call her now and ask her to have dinner with me as a date? Or will I just be the creepy guy that took a polite business relationship too far? I don't really think this is the case, but any advice on making a good transition into possibly winning her favor? Thanks, Matt

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

Am I to wait for him to fall for me? Posted: 12/15/2008 10:58:01 AM
Confused Lady: Let me decode this for you in as simple of terms as possible: "Hi, I wrote this email because I wasn't quite sure if I should have made a move on you last night. I also kind of like you and I don't want to you to think that all I want to do is sleep with you, but I very much want to sleep with you. From here on out, I will be waiting for you to make the move on me so...soon as ya want some of this...lemme know." Make sense? I used to make this mistake all the time- trying to put the ball in the woman's court on everything. I don't think it's a bad thing, I just think he probably likes you and/or is not confident enough to make a move. I mean, the worst thing that happens now is that the woman (you) make the first move and the man (him) turns you down....oh wait...that's never happened in the history of man.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 150 (view)

He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/14/2008 9:07:17 AM
What if You think You're hot, but no one else seems to?" I think balance is probably the ideal. People should have healthy self esteem. But people need to also be self aware enough to realize where they stand in the world and how the world in general will value them .... or not value them. Wow...that's just...wow. This sounds like Hitler's beauty and style opinions brought to you via GQ magazine. I don't think you can ask people to look at their own body and judge their own looks with a "know your role homie" attitude. Frankly, anyone that does this would be extremely unattractive, fairly stupid, and completely shallow. Also, check out the peole that run/have ran America. Most of them, the most powerful people int he world-- ugly as sin. I don't think Janet Reno said to herself, "I shouldn't try to become Attorney General because I look like a dying horse. And I am sure she ended up pretty happy with her value and place in the world. JMO.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

My place or yours? -translation- My bed or yours? Posted: 12/13/2008 1:30:50 PM
have you ever seen the way 90% of single men live, we have no clue. I still don't know what a pillow sham is...i've heard of it...but I couldn't tell you how to place it in order to make a woman feel comfortable. So if he wants to make you comfortable enough for a possibility of lovin...it's your place. Plus Men's Health tells us in like every issue that this is our best play.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

What would your EX say about you to potential SO's? Posted: 12/13/2008 1:15:22 PM
my ex would have positives and negatives: on the good- he writes one hell of a love letter, great with my child, so funny. And then she would add in- but he fondled my ass way too much, was too loud too often, and was overly jealous about the guys I hung out with. Oh well, some lessons you learn the hard way.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

debating politics Posted: 12/13/2008 7:36:59 AM
A woman that can intelligently debate politics....that's hot. I just would be careful of ranting or getting upset, that is annoying on ANYONE when you are first getting to know them.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 459 (view)

Is being woke up with sexual favors rape or not? Posted: 12/13/2008 6:41:39 AM
namreal: Again, I have no issue with this if people have given prior consent; but sex without consent is sex without consent, and that's not okay. Wow...that's hot.... So, do I have to sign, initial, and date each page of the "Intention to Possibly Engage In Surprise Sexual Activity Based on Prior Consent without Implying Continuation Upon Awakening Clause"? I guess I think there is a world of difference between what the post is about- a boyfriend/girlfriend thinking it might be a nice surprise, and a guy in a ski mask holding a knife to your throat or a frat boy getting you black out drunk.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 144 (view)

Guy Refuses to talk on cell while driving & also at work Posted: 12/12/2008 11:12:19 PM
I refuse to talk on my cell while driving. I have a V8 with a stick and the cell just doesn't mix with that. I would say that a living lover is significantly better than a dead one, the same as an employed partner is probably better too. And yes, I have read your other posts...but I think you should also ask yourself if maybe you are asking too much. I don't know..I thought people chilled a bit at 40...go fig.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Do men ever change? Posted: 12/12/2008 11:02:58 PM
I don't want to sound rough here, but if someone would do this sort of thing to you in a time of need, why would you want him to change? Maybe you need to change. Change the way you hold on to someone that obviously doesn't have your best interests at heart. Change your vision to include new possibilities...like including the possibility that someone that does have your best interests at heart will come into your life. People change constantly, that's what we do...I just think that wanting someone to change in a specific situation is a failing enterprise. Know your value and change your own goals to include a man that will value you on the same level.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 456 (view)

Is being woke up with sexual favors rape or not? Posted: 12/12/2008 10:54:50 PM
Jaxi: Agreed. I just hate hearing such a word used in such way. I have awakened womenlike this before and in my experience I would be very offended if a woman used that word against me in that situation. I just feel like you should trust someone's intent before you put them in a position to make a decision like that. I can kind of see if a guy was just thrusting away on a poor girl like "yeah take it all, take it all." I just have the feeling that any guy that would do that sort of thing could be screened from miles away. If i am kissing your neck and telling you how beautiful you are when you are just waking up...well if you don't like it just say, "inappropriate," and smack me with a newspaper...don't file charges.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

Is it ever too late to say no? Posted: 12/12/2008 9:56:16 PM
When I was an x ray tech from time to time men would sexually assault men, by shoving que balls, as well as beer bottles up the back door. were there a medal for dealing with this disgusting of a thing, i would totally give it to you, or perhaps nominate you for "having to look at stuff shoved in butts personnel of the year"

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 454 (view)

Is being woke up with sexual favors rape or not? Posted: 12/12/2008 9:34:35 PM
The issue here is that, if you wake up and your lover is already having sex with you, you've been given no opportunity to say "no" or "stop". Your lover has assumed consent. If you've previously discussed this and s/he has permission, then that's fine--consent has already been given. If you haven't, and your lover proceeds without obtaining your consent, then that's a violation if it's not something you're okay with. It amounts to having sex with someone who is unconscious, who is unable to give consent. And that's really not okay. You think this is the only post that makes sense? Jesus...wtf ever happened to only sleeping next to a person you know you would be comfortable with waking you up to sexual favors. Seems like you should put this type of thought into a sexual relationship before someone ever has the chance...I don't know, maybe that's a crazy thought. I could see you waking up and finding it irksome and breaking up with someone over it...but to use the word rape...control who you let under the sheets in the first place.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

Momma's boy Posted: 12/12/2008 9:17:56 PM
He may be the best guy to ever come into my life, except I can't date his Mom too. I have to take the heartbreak and get over it. It just sucks. I am 38, never been married. I feel like such a loser. 1. Obviously he isn't because you were not his priority 2. Life is full of lessons...don't date a man that can't hold down a job, place to live, car, and at the very least his own plant life...you learned it the tough way. 3. Head up, no tears, there is no required marriage age unless you are looking to attach a required divorce age. 4. Don't learn this one the tough way...THROW THE STUFF AWAY, NOW!.What he is looking for is you to take over the role of his mother and a nurture him through this spat the way mommy would. don't. can't. won't help. don't. 5. Head up, no tears.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 135 (view)

Unconditional Love Posted: 12/12/2008 9:06:00 PM
also note: parent with unconditional love does not mean necessarily mean a biological parent, because I have unconditional love for children that are not mine.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 134 (view)

Unconditional Love Posted: 12/12/2008 9:04:38 PM
I don't think you can expect unconditional love in any situation but from a parent to a child or a person to an animal. I mean if your child tried to kill you a bunch of times you might be like "that's effed but I love them and am worried about them," you keep love and focus on sympathy of a changed dynamic. But if your "one true love" tries to kill you..probably even just once...would be the end of that chite. I think you just dated some selfish people, or expect too much. Unconditional love does not exist in what we call "love" between two people, it can't. Strong love yes, but there is always a condition...at the very least- if you bury me alive I won't love you anymore.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Is it ever too late to say no? Posted: 12/12/2008 8:34:05 PM
I think you should calmly ask her what the guy's name is and if she knows where he lives. and then you should rape his face with a crowbar and tell them that you are sorry but once the crowbar sees his face...it just can't stop. if she's your friend anyway, but I'm kind of a jerk, you might want to call the cops or something that works too. If you know some guys that know some guys that like to fight...that works best.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 12/12/2008 8:14:33 PM
Also I am not sure this is really true, I can't possibly be the only one that knows some good old fashioned sluts...well maybe it's a Flint thing.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 12/12/2008 8:09:22 PM
We only have one....where men have 2 and some do most of their thinking with the small one. You trying jamming that much blood into that amount of space and ignoring the distraction. And it's not small...it a good size.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Would it make me picky? Posted: 12/12/2008 8:04:24 PM
Personally I think if you can't hold down a car you can't hold down a woman, i don't know...basic responsibility and viability. Can't afford a car? At some point you have to have a big boy job and get the essentials.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

communication Posted: 12/12/2008 7:58:22 PM
Man, I talk on the phone like 4-5 hours a day and I get it, but the person you are with is supposed to be the one that shuts all of the other stuff off for you. I understand how it gets sometimes though cuz I have had to deal with this same thing a lot in the past. It may sound stupid, but what I did was took a nice long hot shower as soon as I got home from work. It was like starting my day over for the night, gave me some quite time, it was perfect. Find that thing for you and just ask her to respect that hour right after you get home to do what you want to do to clear your head. If that doesn't work, it might be the relationship itself...

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 128 (view)

He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/12/2008 7:50:14 PM
Hell yeah, I rock my package regardless. Sometimes I think the only reason I ever get a woman is because I am so in love with myself they see it too! hehe.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 223 (view)

What words would you LEAST like to hear after sex? Posted: 12/12/2008 10:03:29 AM
Whew, that really took my mind off the itching and burning.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

Red flag? Posted: 12/12/2008 9:57:56 AM
A red flag that she wants to see you wave your red flag...does this upset you?

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 55 (view)

I am kinda falling in LOVE with you and I don't know what to do! Posted: 12/10/2008 1:34:13 PM
He is only 22 and his idea of love is probably infatuation and not the real thing. If you were 36 and he was 29, I'd say go for it. Infatuation isn't the real thing? I don't understand why so many people make- L O V E - out to be some kind of boring thing. If he makes you tickle in the heart, the stomach, the pants, whatever...keep on having that feeling until that feeling isn't there anymore. Then find someone else that gives you that feeling. You know why? Cuz that feeling is great!

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

One one one dating Posted: 12/10/2008 1:16:58 PM
OMG.......people communication is the key. If I am talking with someone I am talking with them........ Sounds like the OP should have been talking to his girl. Not everyone plays by the same rules, actually a lot of people don't even play by the rules they tell you that they are playing by. But, if there is something you want to know about the relationship, you should ask upfront instead of holding grudges. Ignorance to their wants, needs, habits...that's no excuse.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

The habits your ex had that make you glad its over. Posted: 12/8/2008 11:43:21 AM
Amen sister...some people like to live like that...they also would prefer for you to live like that so they latch on an drag you to the bottom like your name is Hoffa or something. Ridiculous...smile and get over it. The worst was going through all the different things and trying to convince her to be happy. Well...you want to go out for dinner and drinks? No. We could rent a movie...No. Let's play some scrabble! NO! I'll buy you some new shoes? No. I'll take you to the mall...No. At some points it's just like...well you go be unhappy then and I'll sit over here and laugh at you.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 44 (view)

The habits your ex had that make you glad its over. Posted: 12/8/2008 10:07:39 AM
This habit- Me-"What's wrong baby?" "I'm just upset" Me- "Oh, I'm sorry, wanna do something fun or try to turn that frown upside down" "Do you even know why I am upset?" Me- "No idea" "Ugh...well if you don't know, I guess there is no point telling you...I'm going to go sulk for hours now and wish I knew how to feel better."

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Dating online is the new BAR scene... Posted: 11/28/2008 5:19:31 PM
I get all these same messages, bra size, how I like to do it, my favorite position, how sexual am I, do I give it up easy, etc. Which finally brings me back to my original point... do you give up easily or what? I'm already tired of all this back and forth forum banter.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

Dating online is the new BAR scene... Posted: 11/28/2008 7:22:42 AM
The OP seems right on the button here. But, I would say that if so many guys do it, it must work, in which case i have no idea how to tell you to fight against it because the behavior obviously gets reinforced somewhere. I started doing the online thing because I thought it would be a good way to get to talk to women and actually get to know them without them being in a meat market atmosphere and feeling like "this guy just wants to have sex with me." It just always makes me uncomfortable and creepy flirting with a woman in a random public place. If I were you and you were me and you came up to me at a martini bar asking me questions and talking.... I'd be laughing on the inside and would totally mess with you just to have a story to tell about the weird guy that told a stupid story about his dog to try to get my attention. Now it's just the same on here, because it seems like every girl on here either posts in the forums or have on their profile that tons of guys contact them directly about sex. Like criztine, guys ask you what your bra size is or requesting oral sex? That's just redunkulous.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Why do you love me? Posted: 11/28/2008 6:41:57 AM
Just reference his secual prowess, either way he'll feel good and drop it- no matter what kind of guy he is.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

What is it that makes you hang on to your lover despite red flags? Posted: 11/28/2008 6:37:38 AM
desperation, fear, and sometimes selfishness

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 253 (view)

What if Prostitution was Legal? Posted: 11/24/2008 2:10:35 PM
yeah, well put, I think a better question is what if cloning was possible? That way we could flood the market with hot cloned women, thus increasing the value of penis as a commodity...now that would be interesting. Let's face it, vagina is gold and penis is iron at best.

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

Women and Fetishes? Posted: 11/24/2008 12:33:11 PM
That's crazy cuz I have a fetish for women that have a fetish for men that have foot fetishes. I think women are just as likely...but I think fetish is waaaay overused these days...it used to be that it was only associated with an object that was absolutely necessary to experience arousal. Nowadays it seems like everyone goes around saying "I have a hot chick fetish" or "I have an oral sex fetish."

mattw357

Joined: 8/17/2007

Msg: 225 (view)

I am a man and I refuse to shave my pubic hair. Posted: 11/24/2008 12:24:37 PM
yeah, there should probably be some hair...I mean at least some like a dime sized spot?I mean, unless you are super into sexual partners that remind you of children...which is gross.

Show ALL Forums