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becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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What would you say to your first sexual partner right now if you saw them on the street? Posted: 2/5/2008 11:10:24 AM
To tell you the truth, I'm not sure if it really counted. Geez I'm not even sure if he got it in, he was scared and it was really soft.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Should women write first? Posted: 2/5/2008 11:06:52 AM
The same thing happens to women, they write to the guy and 1)he doesn't write back 2) he says he is already dating someone and he wants to see what happens, or 3) you get back a message of a sexual nature, because he thinks you are gonna be easy because you are so into him that you wrote first. I have yet to get a date from writing to a guy first.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Keeping someone on the side Posted: 12/14/2007 11:42:45 AM
It's cheating. Plain and simple.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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what do u think of this? Posted: 12/14/2007 11:38:45 AM
Something got lost in the communication somehow. We are only getting ur side of the story. I saw it on a daytime talk show where they were advising women to make a fake profile in order to catch potential players. The lady probably didn't understand "man-ese" that "let's take it slow, let's just be friends" translates to "I don't want a relationship, but I'll have sex with you if you want, but no strings attached". Which is exactly what you really meant, right?

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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helpful books Posted: 12/13/2007 10:39:28 AM
"He's just not that into you" can also be helpful to males. A lot of the advice can be applied both ways. For instance, if she won't return your phone calls, won't date you, or says you are just a friend, she's probably not that into you.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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She Needs time? What does that mean? Posted: 12/13/2007 10:36:50 AM
I'm sorry to tell you this, but maybe you were really terrible in bed.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Dating, is it like going through hell to you also? Posted: 12/13/2007 10:32:36 AM
There could be something else that is driving them away. You'll have to figure out what it is and fix it.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Fly guy or Shy guy? Posted: 12/13/2007 10:26:00 AM
Female friends are ok, as long as it is just a friendship. But I've found that guys with many female friends tend to have quite a bit of mutual flirting going on. It often appears that at any time the relationship could turn sexual. It gets very annoying when the guy I'm with runs into a female "friend", he hugs her, kisses her on the check, rubs her arm, laughs at an inside joke with her, tells her he loves her, then says he'll call her later. And I'm not supposed to feel jealous because they are "just friends".

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Beggars or Choosers? Posted: 12/13/2007 10:19:31 AM
Most often a guy won't just approach a woman "cold turkey". She has usually given him some sort of indication that she is interested.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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what does this mean? Posted: 12/12/2007 9:04:49 AM
As a matter of fact, yes, it's the older brother.

becca4u

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Do women want super short hair on their man? Posted: 12/12/2007 9:03:31 AM
It's not about long hair or short hair, but "right" hair.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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what does this mean? Posted: 12/12/2007 8:56:34 AM
I had been dating a guy for 3 weeks, I know it seems soon but he asked me to be exclusive and I agreed. Last Wednesday, he told me he was going out of town for the weekend to take his son to a sporting event. Saturday, I text messaged his son to wish him luck at his tournament, but the son didn't know what I was talking about, he said his dad hadn't picked him up, and he was staying with his mother all weekend. Which meant my "boyfriend" lied to me. I didn't confront him about it, but I asked him why he hadn't called. He said he tried to call repeatedly but my phone must not be working (however, several other people called that weekend and my phone was working fine.) Monday he asked if I wanted to go to an office Christmas party this Friday, and I agreed. Then yesterday (Tuesday) he said the party was cancelled. I said fine, we could do something else. He asked, "Will I sleep with him?" I said that it's only been three weeks and I wanted to get to know him better first. Then yesterday he called and said he thinks we should take a break. Is this "relationship" over before it really got started?

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Could you translate this for me? Posted: 12/3/2007 12:11:14 PM
"It's gotta be all about me" means she's just not into you. She isn't worth your effort. Move on.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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What's wrong??? Posted: 11/30/2007 1:54:53 PM
I've always wondered: If a guy is on here supposedly trying to find a love connection, why doesn't he want to present himself in the best light possible? That includes demonstrating that he has knowledge of the written language.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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How do you handle it? Posted: 11/30/2007 1:52:35 PM
I checked out your profile. Everything is looking good. I'll bet you find that special someone real soon.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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help.Im curious Posted: 11/30/2007 1:50:21 PM
It could be that the distance between you when you are on the phone makes him more comfortable saying it. Could be that he's so into you he gets too nervous and shakey to tell you in person. I would need more info. How long have you been seeing him? How many times has he told you he loves you on the phone?

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Started seeing someone who lives with their ex...... Posted: 11/30/2007 1:47:28 PM
This is gonna be trouble. One reason an "ex" is an "ex" is because you don't want to be around them. Wake up, Man!! She's still living with him.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Guys, What is up with this ??? Posted: 11/29/2007 11:35:43 AM
I agree ^^^He is either a player or a wanna-be player. Kick the loser to the curb.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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When is it too soon for a kiss ? Posted: 11/29/2007 11:33:18 AM
If the kiss was, like you said, just short and sweet, and she had been showing interest in you throughout the nite, then I don't see that you did anything wrong. Try backing off from her for awhile and see if she contacts you again. If she does, you are back on track. If not, wait a few weeks before you contact her again. If she's not interested, then move on. There are plenty of others who will want to date you.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Is His Brother Fair Game? Posted: 11/29/2007 11:28:44 AM
There are a few facts I didn't put in the original post. I met the younger brother SIX MONTHS before I met the older brother. During that time all that happened was occasionally we sent messages as friends (maybe a few times total). And the older bro DID know before our first date that the younger bro still liked me, because the younger bro told him he knew me but all we had was a coffee date. Probably all the advice in the world won't matter now because I have already decided to keep seeing the older bro.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Will I see her again? Posted: 11/29/2007 11:15:21 AM
If she kissed you on the first date, it's very likely she's interested in you. Don't move too fast right now tho, or you might scare her away.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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heart broken Posted: 11/28/2007 10:35:33 AM
There are too many red flags and mixed signals. Move on to someone who won't keep you on this roller coaster ride.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Too Much Too Soon? Posted: 11/28/2007 10:32:35 AM
All relationships are different. Yours just happens to be moving quickly, and there's nothing wrong with that as long as it is working for both of you.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Do you think i am being nieve? Posted: 11/28/2007 10:30:31 AM
I don't think she is saying she NEVER wants a sexual element again, it's just that so many males on here are only wanting sex and nothing else. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get to know somebody first before becoming sexual. She's new to the dating scene, she is just asking if the behavior she is seeing is typical. Unfortunately, in my experience, the answer is yes. However, there are some great guys out there who honestly want to get to know you as a person. Best of luck.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Is His Brother Fair Game? Posted: 11/28/2007 10:25:48 AM
I met a guy, all we did was have coffee, totally casual, no romance at all. He still messaged me and called me, he said he liked me and wanted to see me more. I didn't feel the same way so I politely declined his invitations. Then, at a sporting event, his older brother started flirting with me...but he didn't know I knew his brother. We chatted a little while, and the chemistry or whatever was there. He was so hot I emailed him, and he asked me to go to the movies. I accepted. The two brothers just happen to be roommates. The older brother said he had a date with me, and the younger brother told him he knew me and liked me. I told the older brother that yes, I knew the younger one, but nothing happened and I wasn't interested in the younger brother. Four dates and a lot of kissing later, the younger brother is really upset that I'm dating the older brother. They have started fighting. I hate to see this happening, but I think there is the start of a real relationship with the older brother. The older brother texts me or calls me almost every day, and wants to keep seeing me. What do you think? Should I give up a guy I'm really into because I met his younger brother first?

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Beware: eHarmony sucks... Posted: 11/19/2007 12:41:04 PM
ALL the pay sites suck. At least if nothing happens on POF, you got what you paid for. The only match Eharmony could find for me lived in another state!!!

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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THE FAST FOOD BOYFRIEND Posted: 11/12/2007 9:40:48 AM
guys are after "fast food girlfriends" too. It's very seldom that they will see you for more than 3 or 4 weeks. There are lots of guys who will drop you after the third date if you don't put out by then. From what I've heard, usually they'll drop you even if you do...

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Dating a girl who has a boyfriend? Posted: 11/12/2007 9:36:02 AM
Maybe you had best just be her friend until she breaks up with the guy.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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girl of my dreams on the rebound Posted: 11/12/2007 9:34:26 AM
don't tell her how you feel yet, it's too soon and she will pull away from you. maybe right now she just needs someone to listen. just take this slow and be her friend, she'll let you know if she wants more. In the meantime, don't quit looking for "The One" because she may not be it. Best of luck.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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What does this mean? Posted: 11/11/2007 1:47:46 PM
Follow up: Now he texts me asking me to set him up with my friend. OK, now what is going on?

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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I'm confused and need some impartial advice - please Posted: 11/9/2007 7:40:50 AM
When a guy sends you mixed messages, pay attention to the bad ones. I learned the hard way. Stop torturing yourself and find somebody who doesn't send up red flags.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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In need of some advice Posted: 11/9/2007 7:37:46 AM
Look at your chats or dates to see if there is a pattern for what you are doing wrong. Then fix it!! Then you'll have a girlfriend.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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does a really long deep but entertaining message deter women? Posted: 11/9/2007 7:35:03 AM
Make it short but interesting.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Just curious about girl's shyness... Posted: 11/9/2007 7:34:17 AM
if you are interested in her, write her back and ask a question. this way she will write you back again. she has shown an interest, now you have to keep the ball rolling. if you are NOT inteested, a simple thank you will do.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Am I doing something wrong? Posted: 11/9/2007 7:30:31 AM
absolutely nothin wrong with you, in fact ur freakin hott!!!

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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No drugs---Are my standards too high??? Posted: 11/9/2007 7:25:34 AM
Obvious your standards are NOT "high" lol.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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He dumps me but wants to be Friends Posted: 11/9/2007 7:15:01 AM
There was this guy I dated twice, I thought both dates went well. No sex, but there was kissing and cuddling. Then he sends me a text message and asks if I had a good time. I said yes, I had lots of fun. Then he texts back, saying this isn't working for him. I asked why, he said I was a Barbie doll and he needed something real. I tried to call but he didn't answer his phone. I say, ok, I'm dumped. Then the next day he texts and says let's be friends. I ignore him, he calls and acts really nice and funny, and says lets be friends. WTF is going on?????

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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When a teen decides to live with their other parent. Posted: 11/5/2007 3:55:41 PM
I'm so sorry that is happening. It happened to me. The result is that the daughter kept playing parents against each other to see who would give her the most stuff and the fewest rules. It got to where the teen ruled both households. The teen years are tough on any parent, but I think divorced parents have it really bad.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Advice for my daughter Posted: 11/5/2007 3:52:48 PM
This is a strange situation. I'm a single mom trying to navigate the dating minefield, my youngest daughter is 14 and just starting to date, and my oldest just turned 18 and has dated some, but nothing serious. The 18 yo is interested in starting her own profile on POF. So far my experiences on here have not been good. Should I recommend this site or not?

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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How do women feel about being sexually rejected ? Posted: 10/31/2007 8:35:10 AM
There was this time I was in a bar and I asked a guy to dance. He turned me down, and I called him "gay".

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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why women like you more if you're with another woman Posted: 10/31/2007 8:33:28 AM
I guess I'm different, I avoid men who are already with women and try to attract the attention of guys who are by themselves.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Is he too controlling? Posted: 10/31/2007 8:26:35 AM
I have been seeing this guy for a month, he seemed great at first but now I'm wondering if he is getting contolling. Last night he told me I am seeing too much of my best friend, and called her "that brown lady" (she happens to be Latina). Also, I told him I needed to get some sleep, but even after we hung up the phone he called back twice and left messages, saying he wasn't finished talking. Another thing, he is pressuring me to have sex, I don't think I know him well enough yet. I like the guy, but it's certainly not love. How should I proceed?

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Need Advice for 12 yr. old Daughter Posted: 10/30/2007 11:59:27 AM
It sounds to me like you are doing everything right. I have a 14 year old and I understand just what you are going through. In addition to the grounding, I make my daughter earn money by doing extra housework when she runs up extra bills (she has her own cell phone). Most kids are gonna do dumb things and make mistakes no matter how much we try to teach them values. We just have to keep on trying to teach them how to keep themselves safe.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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He doesn't see me as his girlfriend, don't know what to do now Posted: 10/30/2007 11:38:05 AM
Exactly the same thing happened to me. I was stupid enough to hang around a year and still he didn't want to be my boyfriend. It sounds to me like this guy wants a "friend with benefits". You could be his friend, but NO BENEFITS (meaning no sex). At the rate you are going though, buckle up, you are speeding down Heartbreak Highway.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Mind games Posted: 10/30/2007 11:31:55 AM
I can see why you are confused. Have you made a really good effort to date her? If she is turning you down, it's probably best to move on.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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Body Types - Who is in who's league? Posted: 10/30/2007 11:27:48 AM
There really are women out there who look at a guy's personality, or "what's inside" to decide who they want to date. I personally would rather date a caring, sweet overweight guy than a buff jerk. Just don't give up looking, you'll find that special lady out there somewhere. And I hope you won't judge by body types.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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What is "going out with"? Posted: 10/30/2007 11:23:44 AM
My fourteen year old daughter says she is "going out with" a guy in one of her classes. From what I've seen, they text and talk on the phone a lot, and go to the movies or the park with a group. Have you heard of "going out with" somebody? Just what does it involve? Should I be concerned about it?

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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thx for playing Posted: 10/15/2007 2:27:51 PM
You are in the friend zone. Unless you are content to be her friend and maybe good for a shoulder to cry on, then you'll have to move on.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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he keeps coming back Posted: 10/15/2007 2:25:27 PM
He says he loves you and wants to marry you? Sounds like he's ready to commit. So what are you waiting for? Set the date, and congratulations.

becca4u

Joined: 8/17/2007

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I don't get it at all. Posted: 10/15/2007 2:21:19 PM
Sounds like another woman to me. Try totally backing off and see what happens. If he comes back around, get his home address, and find out if he's involved with somebody.

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