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When GUYS cry... Posted: 5/14/2005 8:06:58 AM
about not getting any responses to their emails, people generally respond and say "suck it up, it'll get better", but I've noticed something as a woman: I'll talk to a guy, and we'll exchange a few really good emails and it'll seem like we really "connect", then suddenly, they just "disappear" off the face of the earth (so to speak, because they still participate in the forums, they just stop responding to your emails). I've thought about this and I haven't done or said anything that would run a guy off, but my experiences with this on this website lead me to believe that a lot of guys here aren't really looking for a geniune connection. So, my questions are: 1) Does any other woman get this kind of thing? Or is it just me? 2) If you are a guy that "hits it and quits it" via email, why do you do such things? 3) How long will it take before someone tells me to "suck it up"?!

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For Those of Us Who Are Used to Living Alone.... Posted: 5/14/2005 8:01:08 AM
I live alone now and have been doing so for years. I love it, and I relish the fact that I don't have to answer to anyone. I would however like to have someone to share my life with, but I realize that it probably won't happen, and I'm trying to plan my life accordingly in anticipation of a life without marriage and children. Anyway, that being said, I'll get back to the pseudo-topic: I've often thought about a fairytale land where I would get married, and I realized it would be REALLY difficult because I am so used to my own space and my own way of doing things. However, in my dreams, I imagine that the problems are solved as long as we're living in a space that's AT LEAST double where I live currently by myself AND we each have our own office/den/playroom where we can go and relax and get out of each others hair.

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Spandex and Women: Educate Me Please :-) Posted: 4/24/2005 2:34:04 AM
Can someone please explain to me why a guy who owns a pair of Speedos should be shun from society and condemned to a life of ridicule? Hey, CONTINUE TO WEAR YOUR BANANAHAMMOCK, I SUPPORT YOU & I WON'T SHUN YOU! In fact, I wish more tight, tanned, toned guys would walk around in tight little shorts showing off their package (but perhaps that's just me). I wouldn't shun you, and the guys that do are probably just jealous of your package! If your just swimming then get some swim shorts or at least get some like speedos with lose sides that are kinda like really high up shorts. What is the purpose of speedos with LOOSE SIDES? That's like swimming with all your clothes on! STAY TRUE TO YOUR TIGHT FITTING SPEEDO ROCK! Trust me, there are women (and gay men) that LOVE you for it!

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Uncontrollable laughter.... Posted: 4/24/2005 2:27:41 AM
Byrd, you DO have the strangest sense of humor!

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tongue rings.. Posted: 4/24/2005 2:26:39 AM
I guess I still operate on the "old stereotype" about tongue rings (i.e. if a girl/guy has one, they'll probably suck your ****), so for that reason I don't particularly find them attractive. As a woman I wouldn't get one, because I'd hate to send the wrong message. That, and I already have enough probably beatin' the fellas off with a stick with just my NORMAL cuteness! I've seen guys with them, but they don't really do anything for me. I've had friends tell me it can enhance cunnilingus, but that's still not a huge turn on for me when I think about the stereotype. I'm not a prude or anything, just don't really see the point, especially after a certain age.

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Cher Sucks, Village People Rock Posted: 4/24/2005 2:20:39 AM
It's funny how Cher retires every THREE years. It's kind of like how Madonna reinvents herself every THREE years. I think both Cher AND Village people songs are annoying, but I must admit, I've danced to both "YMCA" and "Believe" on a rainy night or to in my lifetime. I mean, while both are EQUALLY annoying, sometimes you want to shake your groove thang to "Macho Man" then folllow it up with a little "Gypsies, Trammps, & Thieves"! Okay, that's probably just me, but I have an eclectic taste for crappy music. Well, I'll say this in closing: I don't particularly care to see EITHER the Village People OR Cher in "butt out leather chaps". Though we all know they love to wear them!

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Do people not realize there are REAL people behind the keyboards? Posted: 4/23/2005 8:48:12 PM
Well, when I first started off online, I didn't really view people as "real" because to me they were "internet people". After some time, I learned that there are real people behind the comments and I changed the way I did things. I think A LOT of people come online to blow off steam and escape the real world OR they come looking for extramarital affairs OR just one-night stands. So for that reason, the way they interact is changed from how they would in public. I'm more into being "myself" online (as much as I can possibly be), but that doesn't mean that every now and again I don't get the urge to fall back into my old ways. It takes work as does any improvement.

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Having a Good Cry Posted: 4/23/2005 8:38:11 PM
Is it a good idea to have a good cry every now and then for no reason? Or do you need a reason? Does this differ greatly for men and women? I haven't had a good cry in a while, so I got to thinking, "Am I long overdue?".

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Stupidest Movie Ever... Posted: 4/23/2005 8:34:32 PM
Ok, there really isn't ONE movie that could earn this title, but I am in the process of watching "I (Heart) Huckabees" and I'm starting to believe it's one of the top contenders!! Other "Stupidest Movie Ever" contenders: Cat Woman Vanity Fair Garden State Changing Lanes Gigli Collateral Troy Mr. 3000 Taxi The Clearing This Boy's Life

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Another reason not to message someone back! Posted: 4/23/2005 7:24:21 PM
On a related note, I've decided I'm going to AUTOMATICALLY DELETE "Your Subject Line Here" emails WITHOUT reading them (unless they're from someone I already know). I get TONS of these a day, and EACH of them says the same thing "you're beautiful, wanna hook up" or something along those lines. I figured they're all the same when they don't include a REAL subject line, so I've decided to ignore them ALL. Thanks for listening (reading)! P.S. Ladies, I think we should picket! If you notice, you NEVER hear guys say "why are the ladies sending me these crazy emails", do ya?

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New Name on here Posted: 4/23/2005 7:14:01 PM
How about: TheORIGINALkristine (though I don't think it'll be a problem, since no one could ever replace ya!

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Do I NEED to get a CELLPHONE? Posted: 4/23/2005 6:58:09 PM
When I got my first cell phone years ago it coincided with the purchase of my first car. I figured I'd need it in case something ever went wrong on the road (I had 100 minutes a month, with no nighttime or weekend minutes, I don't know how I survived). I kept that phone for years and all of a sudden I could no longer make outgoing calls (except to customer service) who told me that if I wanted to continue to make calls I'd have to buy a $250 phone that worked on their new network (a network they didn't inform me they were switching too, but just up and changed it one month and excepted all their customers to blindly follow them - the company went under soon after). So then, I joined one of the "largest all digital networks" and stayed with them for a few years until they started ripping me off right after I re-signed a two year contract. The service got WORSE and I couldn't get anyone in customer service to address my concerns, so I left (sans the early disconnection fee). I then went to another cellular provider who now claimed to be the "largest collections of callers nationwide", they jerked me around too, but I decided to stay with them because I'm not under a contract agreement. During this whole process, I kept a home phone because I believed it was the "responsible adult thing to do". The bill continually kept increasing (upwards of $100/month for all their crappy servics - DSL, dialup, phone, long distance, etc.), and the services got worse as the prices increased (not to mention the contracts to keep the services). I started to realize that everyone I talked to (except telemarketers) called me on my cell phone when they wanted to get in contact with me. So I realized I kept the home phone only to keep DSL, and when I had other internet options, I disconnected my home phone. Now, that I have only a cell phone, I can be reached at all times, but I can personalize my ringers so I know who's calling, and when (much better than a home phone). And if I didn't talk on the phone so much (like you seem to do), I could probably have cell phone service for about $30 a month, which would include long distance calls, text messages, & wireless web. What I've learned throughout this whole thing is that you can either stay with the devil you know, or take a chance with the one you don't! Cellular phones can suck, home phones can suck. It's a question of which sucks the LEAST. For me, it was the cell phone because it gave me more options for making/receiving calls, and it was cheaper.

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Bickering Friends Posted: 4/23/2005 6:38:45 PM
This is why I don't have very many female friends. I've heard that this could be PART of the problem, but up until recently, non of my female friends had these petty or catty characteristics. I can't figure out what's gone wrong in the past few weeks.

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Know Your State Motto - America Strikes Back!! Posted: 4/23/2005 6:36:40 PM
Isn't Canada's national motto: "Give us your tired, your hungry, your poor, your american criminals seeking to be free of the huddled masses of prison"? I'd go through the motto's of all the providences, but as an american I don't know them!

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Bickering Friends Posted: 4/23/2005 6:24:44 PM
Ok, I've noticed lately that with a couple of my friends, we're constantly bickering a lot. With one (Friend A), I made a joke similar to one I've made for years, and all of a sudden now, she's got really sensitive about it and uses that to express a bunch of feelings from some event that happened months ago. I was totally blindsided by the whole thing, because the incident she referenced happened months ago and it really didn't seem to be an "incident" (however I have since learned she perceived it as one but didn't mention it until now). With the other one (Friend B), something similar happened where I jokingly said made reference to a comment she made. The subject that I joked about is a sore spot for her, but we've been able to "make light" of it in the past. I have a similar "sore spot" topic and she's always made fun of it and made light of it like I really don't have a reason to get upset since she's only joking. She's now using this event to distance herself from me in a way that hasn't happened before. I think that part of this may be due to the fact that she owes me money and she's been avoiding me for months, but I've never heard her as angry and upset as she sounded the last time we spoke. I can't tell if she's really angry and unwilling to forgive me, or if she's just being dramatic and looking for an exit to the friendship so she doesn't have to pay me my money back. Finally, my best friend (Friend C) has been questioning my association with both A and B for some time. She suggests that I cut ties with both of them and move on, but I feel as if I've invested a lot of time (and money - though that's not really a big issue) in both of them, and I'd hate to see years of friendship just dissolve other petty things. Aside from that, Friend C will be getting married soon, and I know that'll mean we'll talk less because since she's been with her fiance' we don't talk as much as we used to. I don't have tons of friends, so losing 2 would be really missed. So, here's my questions (thanks for getting this far): Am I missing something? Is there something going on in these two scenarios that I just can't pick up on? Should I stop being friends with A and B? Is it possible to work these things out, or are both of these people letting me know (in not so subtle ways) that it's time to part ways? P.S. I figured this was the right forum, since "friendships" are "relationships". Thanks.

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Do Cover Bands always suck? Posted: 4/23/2005 2:16:12 PM
Or is it just me? I recently heard a Huey Lewis & the News Cover band, and I thought "wow, take something BAD and make it WORST"!! Do ALL cover bands suck or is it just that they're choosing sucky bands to cover?

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I just realized Reese Witherspoon is a terrible actress! Posted: 4/23/2005 2:10:24 PM
I can only say , They must be doing something right! There get paid that big money! That's not true. There are PLENTY of WRONGS and EVILS that exist in the universe that are unchecked! A few more evils: ANY SINGER/RAPPER THAT TRIES TO ACT!! -Treach -DMX -Ja Rule -LL Cool J -Eve -Jessica Simpson -Janet Jackson -Mandy Moore -Mariah Carey (She should have been locked up for 'glitter')

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Why is Poker a Sport? Posted: 4/23/2005 2:06:56 PM
Ok, I admit, I'm not much of a sports fan, but I just say that some Poker tournament/championship is on TV and there are commentators explaining all the details! It's listed as a "Sporting Event" in the TV listings, and it's brought to me by "NBC Sports". Is this normal? Is Blackjack a sport too? If so, I'll have to start calling myself "athletic".

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Can you tell by reading the profile? Posted: 4/23/2005 6:24:56 AM
from ^^^^^^ this post, I'd say she doesn't sound like too much fun, but just the headline title on her profile implies she's a fun gal! It's obvious she has a sense of humor. The use of the church signs is hilarious!

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I just realized Reese Witherspoon is a terrible actress! Posted: 4/23/2005 6:14:31 AM
See, I want to take people off your list too, but instead, I'll add more to mine: Ben Stiller Debra Messing David Hasselhoff (despite the fact that I LOVED Knightrider) Carmen Elecktra Either of the Olson Twins (though they're great businesswomen) Pamela Anderson Ryan Phillippe (in case it wasn't clear the first time) George Clooney (sexy but overrated) Mark Wahlberg (he should get back with the Funky Bunch) Ben Affleck Keanu Reeves Britney Murphy

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I just realized Reese Witherspoon is a terrible actress! Posted: 4/23/2005 5:59:27 AM
I just finished watching "Vanity Fair", and I came to the realization that Reese Witherspoon is a TERRIBLE ACTRESS!! I've seen both "Legally Blond" and "Legally Blond 2" and you'd have thought I would figured it out then, but no. Now, I've seen a hefty bit of major motion picture crap, but I just thought I'd point out this little tidbit that I noticed about Mrs. Ryan Phillippe (who's also a terrible actor). Since I'm at it, I'll give a short list of other overrated actors/actresses: Halle Berry (I like her, but she's still overrated) Vin Diesal (even with his shirt off, he's overrated ) Ashton Kutcher (and Demi Moore for that matter, has she acted since "Disclosure" ) Selma Hayek Johnny Depp Penelope Cruz Any others you'd like to add?

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Ok question ? I know this is silly for a guy my age to ask... Posted: 4/23/2005 3:30:59 AM
Do any of you guys and gals believe in love at first sight ? Well, I'm not even THAT much of a cynic, but I have to say NO, it's impossible. I wish I could be more optimistic and say "yes, it can happen", but realistically, anyone that I SEE and immediately feel "in love" with, I'm just acting superficially. How can you possibly fall in love with someone that YOU DON'T KNOW? It's just lust. Even if you hear about a really great person from a third party, and think you know this person, once you SEE them and then feel "love" it still isn't real because you truly have no real knowledge of this person. Despite all the fairytales I've been told and all the soap operas and TV shows that would argue otherwise, I just don't believe it's possible to have "love at first sight". Now, I do believe you can SEE someone and find something about them attractive and therefore you attribute many good things to them because your mind has already been predisposed to believing this person is good, and from there a love grows, but again, this isn't "love at first sight", and I think ultimately this kind of relationship will end because eventually you'll "see" that person for whom he/she really is sometime later on down the line. Ok, sorry for being such a cynic and raining on you happy people's parade. If I could fool myself into believing in love at first sight, BELIEVE ME I WOULD (because ignorance IS bliss). I wish I didn't know the ways of the world and I wish I could be oblivious to the realities of life. What I wouldn't give to be 10 again!! Alright, I'm done. Go back to your happy thread!

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Anarchist turned Bureaucrat Posted: 4/23/2005 2:35:21 AM
Okay, maybe I'm thinking this way because it's late and I should be sleep, but I've started thinking about "anarchist turned bureaucrats" that used to be so ANTI-ESTABLISHMENT and "against the machine" but have now had so much success and gained so much wealth that they have BECOME "the machine". A few examples of these would be: Matt Groening (of simpsons fame), Michael Moore (always exposing some higher up corruption of some sort), and Bill Gates (ok, maybe not, perhaps he ALWAYS had a plan to take over the world and I just didn't realize it until recently). Just curious what everyone thought about this. Is it possible to still be an anarchist once you've gained so much money and power that you actually become the "power" you once fought against?

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The Ned Flanders Appreciation Society Posted: 4/23/2005 2:11:18 AM
Hey, I'm a Simpson's fan, and I think Ned is both the typical portrayal of a Christian, and what typical Christians strive to be. Anyone that watches the show and TRIES to look at it objectively (Like me) will see that ned flanders totally believes everything that the Bible says (without question) and when he (or his children) have a question, he dismisses it as the devil or something they shouldn't know or even ask questions about. This has been my experience with people of this faith (though I admit it may not be the norm). For some reason, I like Ned, where in reality if I came across a person like him I'd walk the other way or avoid him because I really can't stand religious hypocrites. Now, I call ned a hypocrite based on a few of the things he's done over the years (i.e. getting drunk and married in vegas, having a beatles collection that clearly represented idoltry, having sexual relations with a woman outside of marriage, etc.). He's done all these things, but he still went to church ever sunday and continued to be "old faithful ned". He's said swear words (in Flanders' speak of course), and on occasion he's been mean-spirited, so I guess some would say that he's about as real as anyone else. Okay, I guess this is enough to be said about a fictional character. I'm done. Hope this helps your thread.

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Why are guys attracted to confident women????? Posted: 4/23/2005 1:23:49 AM
why is it guys are always attracted to confident women? Well, in my experience (as a confident woman) this hasn't ALWAYS been true. I've noticed that some guys tend to be initially attracted to confidence, but then those turn out to be the guys that are either testing to see if I'm really as confident as I portray or the ones that lack their own confidence and want to "feed" off of mine. For some reason, recently (on POF) I've noticed that I get a lot more attention in a bikini (even at my size) then I ever did before. Some of the guys respond with "hey, I admire your confidence", but MOST respond with some sexual overture or invitation. In any event, I've recently started to rethink the whole "confidence through swimwear on profile" thing, because while I thought it was a display of confidence on my part, I'm starting to feel like a "piece of meat". I will say this, I have considered myself to be a confident woman for QUITE a while, however despite all my confidence I really didn't get men's attention (at least on POF) until I "took my clothes off" (so to speak). This little experiment I've done on myself actually makes me more cynical about the prospect of actually meeting a genuine person (either in real life or online), so to answer your question, I really have NO IDEA why guys are attracted to confident women. But I know in my own experience a person that LACKS confidence is very unattractive because their personality tends to bring you down (i.e. no one really wants to be around a person with no self-worth since they seem to always throw "pity parties").

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Does ignoring a guy really get his attention? Posted: 4/21/2005 6:25:53 PM
Are you purposely ignoring him because you're not interested or is it because you're playing hard to get. I'm a bit confused by your question. I'm not actually doing this, I saw it given as advice on TV, and I thought "that sounds like a stupid idea", but on the show it worked. I wondered how well this adapted to REAL life, and thus the post!

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Are U in love with Prince Charming/Snow White? Posted: 4/21/2005 6:23:17 PM
Your friend is similarly idealistic. I say check your cynicism in at the door and listen to her. It's not cynicism, it's REALISM. How can you base your ideal on something that you've never actually experienced or seen? I understand the idea of having faith, but if you've NEVER seen an example of the "ideal mate" that you envision, don't you think you're being unrealistic? Or do you still cling to the hope of "wishful thinking" in hopes that the unseen person will one day become a reality?

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Does ignoring a guy really get his attention? Posted: 4/21/2005 6:14:52 PM
Or is that the best way to insure that he NEVER pays any attention to you?

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Are U in love with "Prince Charming"/"Snow White"? Posted: 4/21/2005 6:13:52 PM
I was just wondering, how REALISTIC your "dream" person is? When you think about the man/woman of your dreams, have you ever thought "have I EVER come across a person in real life that have these qualities I so desire in a mate"? I got to thinking about this as I listened to a friend of mine drone on about the kind of man she wanted. It occurred to me that the only place she'd find him is within the romance novels she reads every night. Feel free to share your thoughts.

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What tapes do you play in your mind/self talk (good or bad) Posted: 4/21/2005 6:10:04 PM
I often think of the words of Stuart Smalley when I wake up in the morning: "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and Gosh Darnit, people like me"! Can't go wrong with that daily affirmation!

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Pity Party---Come one come all Posted: 4/21/2005 6:05:59 PM
Will there be punch & pie at this pity party? MORE PEOPLE WILL COME IF THERE'S PUNCH & PIE?! (Sorry, I was having a "South Park" moment)

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Your Subject Line Here... Posted: 4/18/2005 4:13:11 PM
I'm just so excited to get e-mail that I hit reply and start typing away. I forget the subject line sometimes because I am too excited about the person I'm e-mailing. You know, it's not so much the REPLY to the email that was the issue, it was the INITIAL email being sent out with no subject line filled out. I can understand that in some cases it's an oversight, so I guess I won't make that much of a big deal out of it. Now, something I have noticed is that guys that take the time to send a thoughtful email (introducing themselves or saying something interesting or asking an interesting question), are also the same guys who take the time to fill out the subject line. Just following the last 10 messages I've received, most of the ones with "Your Subject Line here" have either been trying to solicit explicit pics or some other sort of sexual exchange. All the ones with a REAL subject line, tend to include something that's worth responding to. Subsequently, I've found myself responding to the REAL SUBJECT LINE emails more often. Perhaps the next time I come across one of those "women don't return my emails" threads, I'll suggest that maybe you should check your subject line!

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word misuses that irritate Posted: 4/17/2005 10:14:49 PM
It irritates me when people say "pacific", when they mean SPECIFIC! That, and I've only heard the word "viaduct" used and pronounced correctly TWO TIMES in my whole life!

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What would you do if... Posted: 4/17/2005 10:12:45 PM
Roll over and go back to sleep. From my understanding of "morning wood", I believe that would be easier SAID than DONE!

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new here (still) Posted: 4/17/2005 10:11:32 PM
Thanks to everyone that made me feel welcomed today. Most of my questions got answered, and I think this site is GREAT! I've had a great time, and I can't wait to come back tomorrow.

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What would you do if... Posted: 4/17/2005 10:07:25 PM
You woke up tomorrow as a man/woman (the opposite of what you are now), and had to stay that way for a day?

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Chest hair Posted: 4/17/2005 9:59:53 PM
You'd have to take your shirt off and model for us before we could make a decision! (j/k)

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Hotties in the Midwest... Posted: 4/17/2005 9:50:44 PM
Hmm, I really haven't gotten out much since I got here, but if this site is any indication, Michigan is FULL OF HOTTIES! All these guys are so cute. Why didn't anyone tell me this? Why are all the cute guys apparently sitting in Michigan single? Someone give me some background on this state please. Anyone know the man/woman ratio, so I know what my chances are?!

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What Songs Describes Your Mood Today? Posted: 4/17/2005 9:40:17 PM
Default - Wasting My Time

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Men and Multiple Orgasms Posted: 4/17/2005 9:13:15 PM
holy shit The science of busting a nut or two or three I do what I can to try to help man, or in this case WOMANkind!

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fat chick eating twinkies Posted: 4/17/2005 9:10:40 PM
Craww, I think you want a hug. Come on over here and get some of this CHUNKY LUV!!

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Men and Multiple Orgasms Posted: 4/17/2005 9:08:48 PM
Sorry to "barge in" on you guys topic, but I figured I'd add a little information (since I believe it's against the rules to post a link in a thread): --- What is male multiple orgasm & how can the average guy learn it? Were you ever able to get it up again and again each night after orgasm? For many, recovering following ejaculation is uncommon. The older you get the harder it is. Or the softer it is. For some, quick recovery is an impossible dream. The delay in getting turned on enough to do it again, called the refractory period by sex researchers, is a natural part of physiology. Is getting or staying hard after squirting what multi-orgasmic men learn?[Ilana Arazie] [Can you use this section to introduce the feature? Write something like, "Follow these listings to explore the male multiple orgasm and learn how to ..." We need some copy here that will make users want to click on to the next page. What Is Male Multiple Orgasm? No. Multiple male orgasm means learning to have a series of phenomenal climaxes without ejaculating. Yes, orgasm and ejaculation are different things. Let's take a close look at the difference and how you can use it to become multi-orgasmic. Through Tantra, the ancient science of sacred sexuality, you can learn to extend your sexual stamina and virtually go all night. Here's what Patrick from North Carolina wrote: "Before I took up Tantra, I couldn't last for more than 4 seconds. Now that you have enlightened me about Tantra, I can go for hours. After 4 months of practicing Tantra, I can now go for 7 hours! I just can't believe that it is just that powerful." Men, aren't you just a little curious? Women, don't you want to help your lover go on and on? The pay-off of longer-lasting ecstasy is definitely worth it. Orgasm To The Western Scientific Mind Masters and Johnson broke sex down into four stages: arousal, excitement, explosion, and resolution. The explosion phase, ejaculatory orgasm, is a two-step process. First, after reaching the point of no return, the muscles around your prostate gland contract and empty semen into the urethral canal. Second, the smooth muscles around your pelvic floor rhythmically pump the released fluids out the end of your pleasure stick. If you're interested in teaching yourself multiple orgasm, a great way to start is to become more aware of these processes with this enjoyable exercise... 1) Self pleasure up to the point of no return. (Nothing to feel guilty about, doctor's orders!) 2) Relax completely. 3) Pay close attention to what happens as you ejaculate. 4) Can you feel the involuntary spasms around your prostate and the contractions that propel your semen outward? With a little practice, you'll notice each distinct change and sensation as they happen. Some students repeat this exercise over and over in the interests of scientific inquiry. Good for you! Tantric Orgasm, A Different Breed Of Ecstasy Tantric adepts view ejaculatory orgasm as building energy in the erogenous zones, getting swept away by passion, and exploding with ejaculation. When the excitement climbs higher than you can contain, all your juice finds the path of least resistance out through the genitals, releasing built-up energy and the inevitable wetness. What could be better than the rush of that fantastic 10-second squirt? The Tantric Orgasm is a long series of slow, intensely pleasurable, full-body vibrations accompanied by surge after surge of orgasmic energy. If they continue without ejaculation, the waves of ecstasy climb to unheard of heights. By conserving energy instead of throwing it away by ejaculating, you get higher and hotter all over your body. To experience Tantric Orgasm, you just pump built-up sexual energy away from your genitals. When you recirculate intense arousal without explosive release, you can still feel those exquisite smooth muscle contractions around your pelvic floor. The slang for these inner energy climaxes is "dry orgasms." Actually, they feel more like implosions, the explosion of unrestrained sexual power inside your body. After a dry orgasm, excitation typically decreases enough temporarily so that during intercourse you can enjoy more vigorous stroking without cuming. Tantric lovemaking rises slowly to a peak, stops to savor the pleasure, pumps fast for a bit, reaches another ecstatic peak, and then repeats over and over. Sound like fun? I'm Convinced, Where Do I Sign Up? There are many ways for men to interrupt ejaculation just before the point of inevitability. For example, if you press on your prostate gland through the perineum (the soft spot between your testicles and anus), or squeeze the base of your penis, you can prevent the fluid explosion. You can learn this kind of control, but Tantric methods are by far more pleasurable. To learn multiple Tantric Orgasm, first, learn to relax completely while you're highly aroused. Then, sensitize yourself to sexual energy, you know, that inner vibration like electricity that stimulates your nerves, warms your body, and titillates your erogenous zones. Instead of focusing on the Big O, the next time you make love, try this... 1) Start slowly without a goal or agenda about what's going to happen. 2) At each moment, concentrate on what you're feeling and where. 3) As the energy collects strongly in your genitals, slow down, breathe deeply, and relax. 4) Visualize your sexual fire streaming up your body away from your genitals. 5) When the excitement surges, stop all movement and enjoy it. Through dedicated practice, which is loads of fun, you can learn to monitor your level of arousal, relax when you're too excited, interrupt ejaculation, and spread sexual energy for full-body orgasms. Fortunately, these exercises, when done regularly, are proven to be 95% effective. In Summary: Remember... Orgasm does not have to equal ejaculation. Relax your sexual muscles at the right time. Go higher and higher by conserving energy, not exploding. Circulate sexual energy inside for implosive orgasm after orgasm. You see, it's not a myth. You can cum again and again while you last and last. When your female lover learns to savor this same pace, you can ride the wave of bliss together to unimaginable peaks. Hope this helps! -- P.S. I really should stop READING about sex, and start practicing it.

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fat chick eating twinkies Posted: 4/17/2005 8:47:24 PM
Oh Whatever, I know you just did it for the attention. So there, you have it. Now I'm done. You may now LEAVE the thread. Thanks for stopping by! ...NOT.

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fat chick eating twinkies Posted: 4/17/2005 8:32:10 PM
You know, I wondered how long it would be before someone would come and "rain on this parade". So, craww, I ask you, what about this thread bothered you so much that you felt the need to inject your negativity?

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what would you say is the one trait a future partner might have problems accepting Posted: 4/17/2005 8:29:58 PM
Perfection. It permeates itself into ever aspect of my life, no matter how hard I try to keep a lid on it. I can't be wrong (even when I try). -- Okay, if you haven't figured it out yet, I have what some have called a "dry wit" or strange sense of humor. I find weird things funny or can find the comedy in otherwise unfunny things (not like totally WEIRD things, just regular, run-of-the-mill weird things). Sometimes I say things that get intrepreted the wrong way, or come out wrong. I've tried very hard to overcome it, it's difficult because I've been this way for so long. Another thing that might be equally problematic is the "tough exterior" I've developed over the years. Because of the many things that have happened to me, I often put up many walls to keep certain people out, unfortunately at times it backfires. Maybe if that "special someone" was able to get to the "future partner" status, they'd realize why I act that way, and help me work through it.

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Addicted to Informercials... Posted: 4/17/2005 8:13:31 PM
OMG 21 your my long lost soul sista!!! lol I LOVE INFOMERCIALS lol...thought i was the only one hehe...the magic bullet, grip and flip, the one with the same lady that makes lil pocket sammichs...i could stay up all night watching them lol......rarely order anything..being broke sucks...although we do have one of those "as seen on tv" stores at our local mall......i still want one of those perfect flip pancake pans! Hey Kristine, I know what you're talking about, I think that thing was called the GT Xpress. It looked pretty good at first, but then I noticed that some of the food she was cooking was burnt! I couldn't believe they'd actually show it and not edit it out! It made it much less appealing, I was all for it, until she started uncovering some of the stuff and it was visibly burnt. It was funny how she'd say "hmm...all nice and golden brown"...That doesn't really work well for ANGEL FOOD CAKE (which was dark brown on my screen)! Up until then, it looked like the coolest thing. I no longer believe the "non-stick" part either unless you pay at least $100. As a person that REGULARLY tests the non-stick theory pans, I can say that only the EXPENSIVE T-FAL ones hold up!!

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fat chick eating twinkies Posted: 4/17/2005 7:56:32 PM
ok, yell at me. stop with the twinkies..... they won't make you happy. LET'S SIT ON HIM GIRLS!!!

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How to give the best head... Posted: 4/17/2005 7:49:03 PM
I am disappointed that you only gave "19ways" - you're 2 short (no pun intended) Actually it was ONE short (you have to include the first initial question), so technically, I was missing 1. I wrecked my brain for a 21st one, so people wouldn't think I was an underachiever, but I left it that way, in hopes that no one would notice my imperfection. Now that you've shattered my forum persona, I'm thinking I'll go and change my name now. And finally, allow me to repeat what I've heard TONS of guys say: SIZE DOESN'T MATTER! (pun intended).

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Would you, or have you, ever cyber-sexed? Posted: 4/17/2005 7:44:58 PM
I've had guys try to talk me into it, but it never really works. At least, I don't seem to get anything from it. I don't see where the fun is in typing what you're doing. In fact, I'd think it would be hard (no pun intended) to do half of the stuff you claim if you're actively typing right? So, I guess if I have technically "had" cybersex, I can no longer claim to be a cybervirgin, but my friends have told me that if you don't cum, you didn't really have sex anyway...and since I left all those experiences with a bewildered look on my face and a laugh in my throat, I'd say it wasn't worth it, and it was creepy. But perhaps that's because I don't know what makes it good!

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How to give the best head... Posted: 4/17/2005 7:25:08 PM
I never thought I'd see the day when men would get tired of HEAD. Wow!

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