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Joined: 8/19/2007

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Why is it hard for women to express how they feel Posted: 11/3/2007 6:52:13 AM
IMHO, it could be due to a lot of reasons. I've been seeing a lady for a couple of months who was involved in a short but disastrous second marriage and has been separated for six years, divorced recently. I've known her for a long time but she wasn't available for me to ask out during the past years. Since our first night out together we've enjoyed being together and wanted to continue... We talked early about our “history” and recent marriages, and I didn't push her for anything other than our being together and having a good time, as she had told me that she was scared of becoming involved again after her poor choices previously. A few weeks ago I thought that she was ready/wanting me to kiss her... and she turned her head away at the last moment. I let it pass, hugged her goodnight, and left. The next day I had messages on my phone from her, crying, and trying to explain that she cared but just couldn't get her mental issues resolved. It was getting late in the evening when I got the messages, but I drove to her house so that we could discuss the situation face to face and I assured her that I was trying to understand and would wait until she was ready for further “developments”... and things now seem to be progressing slowly but surely. During our talks it has seemed that expressing her thoughts and feelings toward me was difficult for her. On the other hand, I have no problem letting her know my feelings, as best I can. But you should be able to read her feelings from her actions... from our first date this lady has done little things that let me know that she's thinking about me when I'm not with her, and concerned about what I've got going on in my life. And as we've spent more time together and grown to know each other better these things are easier to read... You should be able to figure out from being with your ladyfriend if she's worth your time. If you think she is give her time to develop or resolve her feelings. We're all somewhat confused about what we think we want occasionally, and if we aren't sure of our feelings how in hell are we supposed to communicate them to someone else?

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Your partner turns their back on you Posted: 10/25/2007 5:54:54 AM
The situation is ? the girlfriend is tired and wants a break rather and continuing, and the guy has his feelings hurt and turns his back and sulks? right? Seems to me that he is being childish and selfish... we should be understanding of our partner's needs, because surely we would hope that they would try to accommodate us. It would definitely be a red flag for me. Generally if you look closely enough, you'll end up getting what you see.

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In the middle of the night? Posted: 10/24/2007 5:59:30 AM
I've been widowed twice, and think of both of them off and on every day, at no specific times. Just things that happen or something that I see stirs a memory. Guess I'm doing OK... these memories almost always bring a smile. Hopefully things will get better for you OP.

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What does it mean ... ? Posted: 10/17/2007 12:19:06 PM
Sounds like he's comparing himself to the "Ever-ready Bunny"... keeps going and going and going and going... A bit of a brag. Me? The stamina of a 59 year old.

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Does a guy mean it when he says he doesn't mind waiting? Posted: 10/2/2007 11:30:47 AM
Several good replies here, and a lot of BS to go along with the good. BradPalmBay has written an excellent reply. (Msg 55) I've been seeing a lady recently, probably eight or ten times over the past four months. She has been out of her last marriage for six years but still has issues with herself and it's difficult for her to "let her guard down" for fear of being hurt again. I know that she cares for me and I also know that she is a keeper. If the situation tells me things could be right for us I'll wait until I decide otherwise. Good luck.

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 9/30/2007 10:33:38 PM
Nothing says "you'll play second fiddle forever and ever" like "My children are my top priority".. this is why I shy away from men who have kids. I know the children are important and their needs are paramount.. but at what point do I become important? At what point will my needs be taken care of. We should all realize that anyone with children, regardless of their age, will love them and do whatever they can to make their lives better. That does not necessarily mean that it will be detrimental to your relationship... just that you must accept it if you're going to partner with them. It's very unlikely that I'll ever face that situation at my age, but if I did I would certainly understand her feelings and wouldn't feel that I was playing second fiddle. Children are part of the package. If you can't deal with that and try to work in harmony with it you should avoid the situation. And if you displayed genuine affection and concern for the children it would certainly strengthen the relationship... too much petty jealousy when there should be teamwork.

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women marry down - men marry up Posted: 9/30/2007 10:07:30 PM
He's as crazy as a chithouse rat.

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how do you feel about getting old? Posted: 9/30/2007 10:04:33 PM
Getting old beats the hell out of the alternative! And I'm trying my best to enjoy every day of it, and a night here and there...

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Grown Men 40+ who live at home Posted: 9/30/2007 8:32:19 PM
I would encourage you to know the facts before judging, and don't just assume he's freeloading. I'm 59, widowed and retired. Have a place in LA and one in MS so I'm obviously self-sufficient, but should conditions for my mother deteriorate you can bet that I would live with her if it would help to maintain her quality of life for any length of time. If I was married I wouldn't be so quick to make that statement...

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Any Central MS People here Posted: 9/28/2007 5:23:25 AM
New Hebron... about sixty miles south of Jackson.

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 9/28/2007 5:12:08 AM
Hi everyone! I've been here a little while, but thought I'd toss my hat in here too. 59, widowed, living about sixty miles south of Jackson. Enjoy the forums, so maybe we can pick things up a bit!

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DOES THE G-POINT REALLY EXIST Posted: 9/27/2007 8:31:04 PM
The sensation that she has to pee is common. As the following post said, be sure she takes care of that before sex. Then if she tells you she feels like she has to pee just ignore it and keep working the spot... things will get better if you're at the right place. More in the attached link, but I wasn't able to get comfortable with his positioning the woman face down and using the thumb... seemed more like a medical procedure than we liked. The "come here" motion with the fingers is fine, lady on her back, and allows a little oral too. http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

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Age appropriate dress Posted: 9/27/2007 1:35:09 PM
Seems to me that you ladies should wear what you're comfortable with and what suits your body. Other than that statement, I'll throw in that I really enjoy seeing a lady in a dress occasionally. Slacks and jeans are fine, but not ALL THE TIME. 2cw

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Chemistry and declining hormone levels Posted: 9/27/2007 1:23:29 PM
"Authentic....is one of my favorite words...." from your profile, which says you're fifty. Here you're sixty... ???

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Chemistry and declining hormone levels Posted: 9/27/2007 11:21:30 AM
I really don't know about the declining hormone levels, but do realize now that I'm more capable of thinking with the head between my ears than in years past That might be due to experience and maturity or otherwise... whatever, I welcome it! Life is good.

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Rate New Images - Pictures with two or more people? Posted: 9/26/2007 6:01:29 AM
Thanks Ticket... I'll hush now.

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Rate New Images - Pictures with two or more people? Posted: 9/25/2007 3:04:09 PM
I've read your link previously, and it doesn't mention my question.

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Rate New Images - Pictures with two or more people? Posted: 9/25/2007 3:02:55 PM
Cropping the photo consists of selecting the area of the photo that you want to retain and deleting the remainder. In the case of a picture of multiple people you could select the area of the picture isolating the desired subject and delete all else. Quality of the results would be determined by the resolution of the original photo.

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Rate New Images - Pictures with two or more people? Posted: 9/23/2007 9:19:24 AM
Any guidance here? I've seen many pictures submitted with showing multiple people, and it often isn't clear which belongs with the profile... at times submitted as main profile picture. Should these be rejected outright or tagged as "needs cropping"? I would think that "needs cropping" would indicate to the person that it needs to be modified to show one person. Thanks.

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If Mr./Mrs. Right was terminally ill... Posted: 9/21/2007 9:25:13 AM
Wishing you the best with your situation. My late wife was aware that she had breast cancer before we married, and like your friend struggled to discourage me from the relationship. We were in love and had enjoyed a couple of great years together though not married, and leaving that just wasn't in the cards for me. We were married and even though she had some problems for a couple of years enjoyed each other and being together. The last three years were very difficult for both of us, with her suffering and me as caregiver watching her ordeal. I wouldn't change a thing if given a chance. I don't dwell on the unpleasant and memories bring a smile many times every day. Just be certain of your commitment before getting in.

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SO HARD FOR ME?? Posted: 9/20/2007 7:08:54 AM
The link below might provide some help. http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892 Good luck.

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