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michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Do You Want Children? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:10:02 PM
I think it is asking exactly what it is asking. At the moment in time that you are filling out the profile questions, do you want children or not. I don't understand the undecided...either you do or you don't. I notice that alot of men put that down that are in their 40's and I just wonder how come one doesn't know if they do or not by that age. I know I wouldn't want anymore in my 40's but then I am a woman and women tend to be the main caregivers, so that can be very tiring. I think if one is undecided, they would be undecided in their 20's or even 30's but after 40....I guess a man in his 40's would have children with a younger woman who has the energy to care for children and he wouldn't really have to worry about the day to day stuff much.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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How has on line dating changed the way we look for love? Posted: 9/29/2009 10:39:00 PM
I think one thing that online dating has done is that people are losing the ability to interact with people in the real world when looking for a potential partner. People are forgetting how to flirt, how to communicate with someone you don't know in person, and how to pick up on any qeues there may be if someone is interested in you. I have become more shy and introverted than I ever was now.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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1.5 million in Olympic perks....... Posted: 9/28/2009 10:23:37 PM
Ironic how the government is cutting back grants on childrens sports, so that in the future we will not have future athletes to be able to participate in Olympic games as our own Olympic games have destroyed the future of so many of our children. What a shame, they should be so ashamed of themselves. I don't know how they can hold up there heads in public and think it is okay to make cutbacks like they have. It is just so unfair, indecent and just so not right. Our government needs a good kick in the ass and then some!

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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1.5 million in Olympic perks....... Posted: 9/28/2009 10:19:10 PM
Absolutely wrong. I don't believe they will be for just customers or for any of the regular public as I have also heard. In these times, crown corporations should not be spending any money on tickets or suites for executives. The government is just putting us further in debt which to me is why BC is in the financial trouble in the first week. Those damn Olympics are going to be the death of BC. This is going to be a negative legacy just the way Montreal was. I can see no benefit from the Olympics at all and especially at the time that the world is in it's most financial distress ever.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Do you remember....??? :)) Posted: 9/27/2009 12:00:33 AM
I used to have a higher functioning memory in certain areas but I have never been one to remember a lot of details about things that really don't seem to matter to me, until I meet a Virgo that needs to know every single detail that I just never thought was that important, especially at the time. My memory has become below average I would say as I do not remember like I used to and I doubt everything I do remember and foolishly say with out thinking.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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MIND BODY MATTERS!!! ;) Posted: 9/26/2009 11:54:51 PM
I find that spending the 30 minutes or more everyday in some sort of exercising being cardio, weights, walking, floor exercises and yoga also helps me to take care of myself mentally. My mind feels so much better and not as stressed out when I am exercising, it is amazing what a litte bit of exercise can do for a person's whole body and mind.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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What has most changed your life journey? Posted: 9/26/2009 11:49:42 PM
I would have to say my child as I was not planning to have children but am very glad I did. So that totally changed my direction in life and it was a good thing it did. The other thing that changed my life was having a heart attack, having to have a triple bypass operation last year and all the complications and issues that came along with it for me. Has really changed my way of thinking and what is important and what is not and I have certainly mellowed out in the way I think.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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HST! Posted: 9/10/2009 6:55:22 PM
Well I know it sounds good for businesses, governments that get full rebates but again, the public tax paying people are getting shafted again. The average person is not going to be able to afford an extra 7% on top of all the other increase in prices. And the government is offering very few tax exemptions/incentives for it to matter for most of Joe or Jane public. When ever I go to the store, I always think my bill is wrong but it is all that bloody tax we must pay. This tax just makes me friggin' mad...when will the middle to low income households ever get a chance in this province. I think never and that this province doesn't give a damn about it's people or what they want or need. The Olympics are one of the major factors that have made us in debt and in trouble with our provincial finances. I cannot see the Olympics doing much good for our economy...maybe a bit...but people around the world are hurting as well and don't have thousands of dollars per night/week to spend just on accomodationg and that is not food or any other events they may want to see or pay for. Just my two cents. Thanks.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Why am I always attracted to Scorpios? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:42:32 PM
Well I would say that Scorpios are just one of those signs that astrologers would say you are compatible with. If you look up a site about astrological signs, in particular love signs, I will bet that you will find a whole lot of very interesting information, that you will go WOW to....

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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What's the latest nice thing you did for someone? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:36:48 PM
A friend of mine had a very serious problem with her eye and she had to go back to the doctor for an appointment on Tuesday afternoon. We live on the Sunshine Coast so she has to go by ferry for one mode of travel and she was going to take the bus from Sechelt to the ferry. I was going to go visit her Monday afternoon and called to see if she needed anything. She said no but she was going to ask if I could drop her off at the transit bus stop and she was going to travel by transit down some windy roads that would take quite a while, so I offered to drive her all the way there. She said I didn't have to but I insisted, especially because she has always been a very good friend to me and there never has been much that she needed help with. So it made me very happy to be able to give her a comfortable ride and some conversation with a friend on the way down and she really appreciated it as well.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Common Sense, a lost art? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:29:25 PM
I don't think common sense is a lost art . I believe it is a natural attribute that someone has...you either have it or you don't. I have met a lot of very intelligent people that have no common sense whatsoever.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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HST! Posted: 7/26/2009 10:33:32 AM
There is also the the exemption for children's clothing that will no longer apply I imagine as well. It's already expensive enough to bring up children and the pst exemption was one thing that was kind of a bonus in a way but now we will have to pay an extra 7%...that is a huge expense especially to a long income family or single parent homes....that is just not fair. Looks like maybe businesses will get some sort of break but the regular tax payer will not, as usual.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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I know I will get blasted for this but... Posted: 3/22/2009 11:36:21 PM
I have to totally agree with you...not much more to say than that.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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What questions do YOU ponder in the middle of the night? Posted: 11/16/2008 11:24:59 PM
Unfortunately usually work....

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Does anyone here Really know what they are looking for in a mate? Posted: 9/15/2008 10:46:30 PM
I think in the past month or so I have really come to realize what I want in a mate. A boyfriend of mine from way back passed away recently and it got me to thinking about us and him and what could have been. And from this I realized, that if we had met now I would have been totally okay to committ to him and marry him....just as he wanted but when we met we were just too young...now is when I am ready for this but unfortunately it can never be him now, as he has passed away. He treated me so well and said I would never meet someone that would treat me as well as he did and it is the absolute truth, so I feel a bit sad about that....about the fact that I left him and hurt him and could have had more...he had a good life from what I have heard and that is great because he deserved it after the way I treated him and I deserve where I am at and the unhappiness I feel.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Independant Films Posted: 9/9/2008 11:02:47 PM
I saw a British film a while back that I thought was really well done...it was called "Death at a Funeral". It was sort of some dark humour sort of stuff which I like.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

Msg: 63 (view)

Why do YOU still make the effort. Posted: 8/3/2008 12:23:12 AM
Boy can I relate to everything you are saying OP. And I can't imagine at this point why so many still go that extra mile because the mile just seems to be getting longer. As far as I can see from my experiences and what I have seen posted in forums, I think the one is not a reality...just an elusive dream or hope to cling to. It would be nice if these observations could be made to be untrue but I have been on these sights for probably a lot longer than I should be and they are all the same no matter paid or not. Alot of the same faces keep popping up on different sites, me included, and it is starting to get depressing, frustrating and just a loss of hope for ever meeting someone compatible.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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To Beard or not to Beard ? Ladies ? Posted: 7/31/2008 11:37:00 PM
I am not attracted to men that have full beards (a closely trimmed one can be okay...depending on the person) but for some reason I am very attracted to a man that has a goatee.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Would you ever get your partners name tattooed on you? Posted: 7/25/2008 10:55:24 PM
Absolutely not because what if you end up breaking up and then you have that reminder there forever ...unless of course, you have it tattooed over if it can be done, or removed via laser....

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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First Dates - Signs Things Aren't Going Well Posted: 7/25/2008 10:51:22 PM
The fact that the other person has invited other people to join you when you are meeting them for a first time at a coffee bar. Hard to get to know someone when you don't even know all the people who have been invited to join you therefore, you cannot get a private conversation in and get to know the person. This is why I do not like first dates/meets that result in meeting for coffee...

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Mid life crisis Posted: 7/25/2008 10:41:18 PM
Thank you red_rum and I wish you all the best in your endeavours as well. I would love to hear your progress as you go along if you don't mind and I will offer up any info that I can as well. Take Care, Michelle.

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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If it was July 14th 1983..? Posted: 7/25/2008 12:27:55 AM
That's a really interesting question OP....I think I would been working that day for my first real job that I obtained after getting out of highschool but other than that, I don't remember specifics as I was already 20 years old and just working and partying ....

michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Mid life crisis Posted: 7/25/2008 12:21:12 AM
Hi OP, I do believe in mid-life crisis....for me it hit a long time ago but I never did anything about it, I actually just thought about it ALOT and now at the age of 45 I have decided that I would like to take action starting now. Because of my health problem, it has really opened my eyes up to what I have always wanted to do. So once my issue has been rectified and I am healthy again with a bundle of energy I will start to put my plan into action. I would really like to go back to school as well, so I think that while my son has 6 years of school left, I am going to plan to have something in place by the time he graduates highschool and goes into some sort of post-secondary education. I would love to move back to the lower mainland (preferably Burnaby but we'll see) so that will be part of my plan as well. I want to try and plan my life changes as easily as possible and I figure by the time I am 50 and have finally grown up lol...I should have it all figured out by then and where I am going. Thanks for the topic OP, as I was just discussing this with my best friend that lives in Burnaby, so this was an appropriate forum for me to speak to tonight. Cheers, Michey63

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Turning 50, 40, 30 ... Posted: 7/20/2008 5:19:39 PM
I don't mind the so called milestone birthdays because, except for my physical aches and pains that I started noticing after 40 (and my present heart condition), mentally I still feel 18 (but I have matured emotionally).

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Do men like it when women contact them first? Posted: 7/20/2008 12:06:33 AM
krlb4...I can relate, I have had the same experiences....so needless to say another reason why I shy away from calling men.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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OK- this was just RUDE, and gasp I'm offended!!!!! Posted: 7/18/2008 10:57:27 PM
She's just stupid and ignorant, there was not need for her to email you at all....she sounds a bit off....

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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deadbeat moms Posted: 7/18/2008 10:55:41 PM
Unfortunately, there are more men that don't have custody of their kids than women but I would say the same thing about a woman that didn't pay her share if the man had custody and that would be Deadbeat Mom...it goes both ways, as far as I am concerned.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

Msg: 189 (view)

Women's Choice=no support from fathers??? Posted: 7/18/2008 10:52:54 PM
If you played, you should pay...it takes two to have a baby, so if you don't want one, then you should make darn sure that you have protection because if you don't, then you have to be accountable for your actions and support the baby.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Should men color the gray Posted: 7/18/2008 10:42:52 PM
As long as it looks fairly natural and not too shocking, I think it is okay. There is a commercial for men for some hair dye that somehow leaves some grey peaking through which makes it look a bit more natural.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

Msg: 172 (view)

Do men like it when women contact them first? Posted: 7/18/2008 10:38:35 PM
I am like you OP....I never make a first contact as I am old fashioned in that regards as well. I have a really hard time calling a man on a phone...just an old habit from way back. So I must say that I do not feel comfortable making the initial contact....fear of rejection thing I guess.....

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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People Watching Posted: 7/1/2008 10:34:52 PM
I like to people watch anywhere I may be that I have time to kill...it is really interesting to say the least.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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What to bring on a camping trip Posted: 6/29/2008 11:14:46 PM
I forgot newspaper and lots of it plus a hatchet to cut kindling to get a fire started.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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What to bring on a camping trip Posted: 6/29/2008 11:13:24 PM
My friend taught me to bring paper plates for meals and then you can burn them on the campfire after. Also a portable clothes rack to dry towels, clothes etc on. An umbrella is always a good thing to have on hand as well.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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second chances Posted: 6/21/2008 11:26:51 PM
I tried once but it just couldn't work. There was too much mis-trust already established and that wasn't going to go away any time soon. I don't regret it at all, just glad we were able to try one more time and it was a good choice to do what I did.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Family Trust Posted: 6/20/2008 11:21:43 PM
I would approach from the angle of asking her outright but not in an accusatory way. Just say something like you had about $35 in your purse and you had to pay for pizza and when you went to get your wallet the money was not there. As I was only with you today, I am just wondering if you needed some cash and were too embarrased to ask for the help because I was already helping by buy the baby carseat, so you thought I might not notice if you took some? If you ask me, I have no problem helping you but stealing from a relative or anyone for that matter does not build trust and you need to be able to ask for things that you need help with instead creating animosity. I know you probably didn't mean to create any animosity but things happen and it is better to own up to your mistakes and be honest. You really do need to say something before it gets any bigger than what it is right now. Good Luck!

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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I have a friend working for me who I may have to let go of pretty soon.... Posted: 6/15/2008 12:38:45 AM
I had a friend that I had refered for hiring. Well, it didn't work out too well at all and I was very embarassed that she was not a good worker at all, in all areas. Needless to say, I learned a lesson there that I would never recommend or refer a friend for hiring ever again. There can be such hurt feelings and it can scar a relationship. It's kinda the same idea as "lending" friends or family money....if I do that, then I consider it a gift, because I usually don't get it back and the stress of the situation trying to get repaid is just not worth it to me...so I just don't make a big deal out of it anymore for my own sanity. I know when I am going in, that I might not get repaid so I make sure that I can afford to lose the money and have a positive attitude about it. I get the sastifaction of having helped someone out of a tight situation for them. If the situation were to continue, then there is a problem and I would have to deal with it at that time. If I get the money back...bonus and if not...oh well!

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Spider Phobia. Posted: 6/7/2008 12:28:08 AM
I can totally relate to your fear of spiders. I am deathly afraid as well and have no one to help me destroy or dispose of them. So if I see one, I vacuum it up, mind you with a LOT of anxiety, and once I get it sucked up into the vacuum, I put paper towel in the end of the hose so that if it just happened to live from that ordeal, it couldn't sneak out and terrorize me some more. I just hate the thought of them, my stomach just turns when I see them and the butterflies start going crazy but I just leave the room and eventually they go "somewhere" and I don't see them again but I am always very wary about where it might be but then I have my trusty vacuum ready to go.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Hockey Night in Canada Song Posted: 6/7/2008 12:19:34 AM
I think it is a travesty that that song will no longer be used or played. They absolutely should keep, no question about that. It is our tradition and right to the canadian people and our committment to hockey.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

Msg: 369 (view)

do men actually like curvy women vs the skinny pencil one? Posted: 6/4/2008 11:30:12 PM
Nope I'm not pencil thin, just don't have the type of body for thing but it's nice to hear you like curvy women, and that I am, but would you be willing to take them out in public? That's where I think there is fault....men may love curvy women but, only in private not in public. Just my experience...too many times actually.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Frightmares Posted: 6/4/2008 10:52:19 PM
My worst nightmare was the night that I dreamt my son died....it was really, really heartstopping and scary. I woke up just as it was happening, I think he had fallen from quite a height and it woke me up. I had never experienced a dream, or nightmare in this case, that was just sooooooo very real and frightening. I have never forgotten it. I used to have another one when I was a young child. My mom and dad had split up and it had been awhile and we never saw our dad, not to my mom's or us kid's wanting, he just never tried....we also lived in different parts of the country. Enough about that but I believe this is part of the reason I had this recurring dream all the time. My mom, brother and I were walking in a dessert or flat place (could have been manitoba because that is where we left my dad after he dumped my mom for another woman). Anyways, we are walking and walking and get to this mall in the middle of nowhere and for some reason they chopped my mom up but put her back together as whole but you could see she had been chopped. I remember being in the building...it was like a doctor's office building and no one would help us. And, that is all I remember now but I do know that I would dream of this quite consistently and I would always wake up scared. I never told my mom because I didn't want to worry her...you know how kids like to protect their parents. I haven't had that dream for many, many years now and am glad I don't.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

Msg: 367 (view)

do men actually like curvy women vs the skinny pencil one? Posted: 6/4/2008 10:31:19 PM
MSG 365...I believe what you say is true in respect to "POF is superficiality at it's finest" but so are all the other dating sites, if not worse. From my experience, I think curvy women have attitude because they know that men would rather have a thin person than someone with curves, so it just plays on a woman's psyche and they have to put this facade up. I do have a good personality, I know that for sure, and I am very curvy and agree that lots of thin, good looking women have no personality just like a lot of good looking men that are in good shape have no personality either. What's up with the proper use of "then and than" in sentences....there are a lot of spelling and grammar errors on here as is other sites....it drives me bonky and bonkier if I type something that is incorrect and don't catch before I post but I just try and let it go now, it is really not a big deal in the whole scheme of things.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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should the US apologize for slavery Posted: 6/3/2008 10:48:41 PM
I don't think the US should apologize for slavery or any past historical event that no one is alive to hear. What would the apology achieve....it was a different time...life and society were so different. In Canada, they gave an apology to a boat of refugees that wanted to land in Canada in the early 1900's but I just don't get how it solves anything. It's just the government saying sorry for something that the present government was not involved in or had any say in it. I just think all these claims of retribution and apologies should just be let go. Are the governments sincere in their apologies? Maybe they are but it is not the same as coming from the government that committed these atrocities and being said to the people that these injustices actually happened to.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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do I have to return old BF's call? Posted: 6/3/2008 10:35:21 PM
No I don't think you have to and I wouldn't. If it wasn't that great in the first place then who knows what it will be like now. He says he has "fixed" his problems, but do you really want to waste your time if you are not interested. And no I wouldn't return the call to be polite, he might just try to talk you into meeting him or something and then that just makes it harder. Just let it go and carry on with your life.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

Msg: 364 (view)

do men actually like curvy women vs the skinny pencil one? Posted: 6/3/2008 10:31:48 PM
I think alot 0f men like curvy women but won't admit it to friends. I think that they don't want to be seen with curvy women because they think their friends may laugh or make fun, so I think they want a pencil thin/perfect woman to take out and show off and not be ridiculed. That's just the sense I get from experiences.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Do Your Friends With Children Expect Too Much? Posted: 6/1/2008 9:51:34 PM
I have experienced alot of the same situations as you and can totally understand where you are coming from. In regards to people coming around with stuff, on behalf of their kids or whatever, and asking every single person, we dealt with it that if people are going to be soliciting anything they must leave it in the lunch room for people to look at on their break. One day at work, there must have been 3 or 4 different people coming around asking for donations (even some with their kids which is hard to say know to0) and it was for the same stuff that my son's school was supposed to raise money for so I had already given then and wasn't going to give for another school...it could just go on and on...and I just don't have enough money for that. I personally (and our school) do not encourage kids to collect money by going around the neighbourhood and would never bring him to work to ask. Finally, I just told someone that I am a single mom and cannot afford to be contributing as I have my son's school to think about. Sorry for the rant but just wanted to tell you my experience in that regards. I tell one thing that bugs me as well, is that I only have myself and my son and sometimes we are expected to pay more for our share and what I mean by this is, when going camping with some friends who have two kids and two adults, we are expected to pay for half the groceries, but hold on here....they had two more mouths to feed, I think it should be diveded 6 ways and not 2 but it is what is expected and I just don't want to make waves with it, I am just not that way, even if it isn't fair to me....the other person doesn't just doesn't think about it....(PS BTW they have two incomes coming in as well, where I only have the one income).

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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What was the name of that movie?..... Posted: 6/1/2008 9:38:53 PM
It was called "Witness" with Harrison and Kelly McGillis with a mirriad of other fairly well know actors. I was released in 1985. It's about a small Amish boy that sees a murder and Harrison plays a cop that goes undercover in the Amish community until the trial... Hope that is what you are looking for!

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Sensuality in your 50's..... Posted: 6/1/2008 12:09:21 AM
Well I know that my sex drive is wonderful at this age....better than when I was in my twenties! I would like both though....a companion long term with a very good sex life!

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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No time for coffee dates, at my age Posted: 5/31/2008 11:50:21 PM
OP...I totally agree with you in all that you say. I haven't had very successful coffee dates and just don't want to do them anymore and it is just a waste of time.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Birth control at this age Posted: 5/31/2008 11:46:44 PM
I used to have an IUD because I smoked and I was over 35...which was not a good combination for birth control pill and shot but it would hurt me when making love because the head would bang on the IUD and it would really hurt. I heard today that there is a class action law suit against the company that makes the birth control shot (depoprevera) because there was not a lot of studies done for them and they are now realizing that using this particular drug can bring on osteoporosis. I think the best way at our age is condoms.

Michey63

Joined: 8/19/2007

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Hindsight, what if's, and if only Posted: 5/31/2008 11:32:46 PM
Yes I did....I didn't finish my post secondary educatioin due to being recalled for a job that I had been laid off from...I wish now that I would have stayed studying and not broken up with my boyfriend at the time. Things would be so different for me if I had done the things above. It all would have changed the course of where I am now and I think I would be a lot happier now.

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