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~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

Msg: 125 (view)

Would you take in your grandchildren??? Posted: 3/6/2009 10:02:41 PM
I've had my grandaughter for almost 6 months now. What was supposed to be a 'temporary' situation is dragging on. I work full time and have other children at home. They're started to feel neglected because my grand daughter is high maintenance. Children coming from dysfunctional homes all have problems. I haven't been able to enjoy my other children or spend much time with them since her arrival. Their school work is suffering and I'm exhausted. It's all coming to a head now and I'm spending this weekend trying to make the decision of letting the situation continue to fall apart or arranging to have her put in foster care. It's tearing me apart and the tears are flowing but I can't do it all. It may be the hardest decision I ever make but I'm not sure that I'm the best one for her. Life is hard and we do what we have to do. No one else should judge unless they've walked in those shoes. This isn't a decision you make because society thinks you 'should'. You do it if you can and if its in the best interest of the child. I doubt that I will have it in me to handle a teenager when I'm 60.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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I have Cancer,.... Posted: 6/10/2007 12:20:11 AM
After reading this thread, I see the general consensus is: When someone tells you they have cancer... ALWAYS FURTHER STRESS THEM OUT BY TELLING THEM HOW THEY BROUGHT IT UPON THEMSELVES! It thought this thread was started to offer support to people with cancer or other diseases but unfortunately, I see the people who are in need of support have been scared off thanks to the multitudes of ’the righteous’ who showed up to share their usual wealth of unsolicited preaching. Marita, I'm glad things turned out the way they did. The best to you and others like you.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Mid life recovery..... Posted: 10/27/2006 9:54:07 PM
Anyway, do I give the newspaper articles and court records I have copied to her adult children from her first marriage to let them know the real truth about the man she betrayed me for??? What would this achieve??????? This is an act of spite. Children, no matter what age, don't need to be dragged into a break-up. Bad mouthing a parent is never a good thing... even if there's a lot to say. Time will help you get over it but not if you get caught up in being petty. You weren't 'thrown away for a man like him'... you and your son were lucky enough to get away from a loser like her.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Girls' room his, too Posted: 10/27/2006 6:05:52 AM
^^^I think she was referring to straight guys who would actually use this as an opportunity to go into women's washrooms and do some peeping. That would be creepy. Normal straight guys don't do things like that.

~Deborah~

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Another 'Ban on Smoking' Policy that affects us all Posted: 10/27/2006 5:43:32 AM
They'll drive their pollution machines to "earth day" rally's and can't see the hypocrisy in themselves. What makes it hypocrisy is that they do see it but then.... why not blame their high cholesterol on people smelling like smoke instead of admitting to their years of bad food choices. Stop people from smelling like smoke so they can continue their junk food habit. There are way more pressing environmental issues but as you say, few people want to admit to their contribution to the big picture. They've certainly kicked the 'background radiation' issue under the carpet so they can take advantage of the electronics explosion.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Another 'Ban on Smoking' Policy that affects us all Posted: 10/26/2006 11:05:41 PM
Move move move! Don't create laws that'll satisfy your own personal needs. Well... now that you mention it, I'm allergic to latex so I'm recommending that they ban condoms. (I'm kidding) Can you imagine what grocery shopping will be like when all the food gets locked up? Shop in comfort at your peanut free, seafood free, egg free, wheat free, milk free grocers.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Another 'Ban on Smoking' Policy that affects us all Posted: 10/26/2006 10:36:38 PM
The most pathetic thing about anti-smokers is how they've managed to convince people that they'll be safe and healthy if only they protect themselves from second hand smoke. Of course the government goes along with this fable since they don't have to deal with the real issues. Here is a sampling of a real issue: 40 square miles around Sudbury (Ontario Canada) had been rendered completely barren of vegetation, 140 square miles around supported only shrub and herbaceous cover and vegetation had been in some way effected within a 1700 mile area (DeLestard, 1967). The extensive nature of pollution in the Sudbury region is due to the emission of sulfur dioxide, copper, and nickel pollutants into the atmosphere from the smelter stacks. While building the "superstacks" higher has decreased the intensity of pollution in the immediate Sudbury area, much more of the surrounding region has now become effected. http://horticulture.coafes.umn.edu/vd/h5015/96papers/msmith.htm Thanks to the 'superstacks' the surrounding communities can now share the title of having the highest cancer rates among men women and children in Ontario. Don't deal with the pollution... simply spread it around. What a novel idea! If you run from smokers in Sudbury... remember to keep on running for hundreds of miles.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Girls' room his, too Posted: 10/26/2006 2:21:31 PM
^^^Yes homes have unisexual bathrooms but they're also not for multiple users... and if they were, they'd not likely be strangers. If this happens everywhere... I want toilets with seats that automatically go down after flushing.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Another 'Ban on Smoking' Policy that affects us all Posted: 10/26/2006 12:26:23 PM
We have a no perfume policy at work as well. No sents I good sence, and that includes smoke. Assuming you mean 'no scent is good sense' and being the nurse that you say you are, surely you know that the no-perfume rule is for people with allergies or high sensitivity to chemical odors. Do you know of anyone who can have an allergic reaction to the lingering smell of smoke on a person?

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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telephone numbers reverse look up question Posted: 10/26/2006 12:12:21 PM
Sometimes no news is good news. Would he have felt better if pages full of FBI files showed up saying things like....10 most wanted, have you seen this person, do not approach, call police immediately, considered armed and dangerous, associated with multiple missing persons.....etc.

~Deborah~

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hmmm does this make since?? Posted: 10/26/2006 11:34:43 AM
It means they're too close to psychotic for my comfort.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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am i doing the right thing Posted: 10/26/2006 7:28:38 AM
I agree with the people who recommend keeping their dating private. Remember that as children, we view our family (in whatever form it is) as a complete unit. It's hard for very young children to comprehend that their family actually formed at some point and that they weren't always as they were. Young children live in the present and for that reason, they don't need constant visuals that there are strangers who may invade their space and disrupt the stability that makes them feel safe (their viewpoint). Certainly they need to be aware of your needs as an individual and that there's the possibility of the family expanding but they also need to know exactly how that'll affect them. Meeting the occasional person won't really hurt them but having a stream of strangers sitting on your couch, eating at your table and sleeping in your bed is not a good thing.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Italic tag not being closed properly Posted: 10/25/2006 5:38:29 PM
Sorry... I don't have an url. I had to use the italics tag in my profile to see what he meant. Then I did a basic search that would include my own profile in the results. I didn't close off the italics though so I'm not sure if users are just forgetting to do that.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Italic tag not being closed properly Posted: 10/25/2006 5:32:09 PM
I THINK he means... When you do a basic search, multiple profiles show up on the screen. Each profile has the headline and only the first several lines of the 'about me' section. The remaining text is cut off so... any closing tag that may have been used is also cut off. The result being that all the rest of the profiles on the page are in italics also. Hope that helps but if I've made things worse... this post will self-destruct as 'Late' drifts away into a fog shaking his head and yet again wondering why he ever learned to read in the first place. (or... you can just delete this post).

~Deborah~

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Where do you think people have more success finding dates Posted: 10/25/2006 3:27:22 PM
^^^Yes but not everyone wants to 'date squares'! (Damn this is some baaaaaad humour... and it's not even late).

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Girls' room his, too Posted: 10/25/2006 7:42:36 AM
Halloween is really gonna become a field day for all the freaks who are gonna take advantage of this.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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do you fellow your gut or heart? Posted: 10/25/2006 7:40:55 AM
A heart jsut gets all goo-goo ga-ga at the drop of a hat which seems kinda dumb. Besides it needs to be pumping blood...NOT fooling around in my love life. I agree we shouldn't be foolish but sometimes... ...don't we need that 'goo-goo ga-ga' feeling first (initial attraction) before we use our heads to decide if it's feasible to follow our hearts?

~Deborah~

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Girls' room his, too Posted: 10/25/2006 7:35:07 AM
Yet another situation where everyone else's rights get overlooked just to appease a few. Why is it that the rest of the world always has to go out of their way to accommodate anyone who is different rather than them trying to fit-in in spite of their differences? I don't want men in my washroom and I especially don't want ones who 'feel like a woman'. Maybe I'm wrong and I'm just thinking like a man. Does this mean I have to use the men's washroom now?

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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do you fellow your gut or heart? Posted: 10/25/2006 7:24:56 AM
Sometimes I want to gut my fellow and rip out his heart. Does that count? Seriously... I think you should listen to both because either one can lead you astray if used alone. Maybe that's why we have both.

~Deborah~

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Where do you think people have more success finding dates Posted: 10/25/2006 7:14:22 AM
The best places for women is anywhere that large amount of married men gather without their wives. just kidding (I think). BTW, I know of actual situations where couples have hooked up while hospitalized on psychiatric wards. But, believe it or not, the relationships tended to be short-lived... I know couples who've hooked up in rehab but that may be a time consuming way if you're not already a full-blown drug addict. Might be worth a try though. I don't get the church thing... are you supposed to sit there flirting while the priest is talking? Doesn't that defeat the purpose of going to church unless that's the only reason you're going and that seems almost sacreligious. I'd be afraid it'd be just like talking in class. All of a sudden, the priest points you out and sends you to the front seat to stop you from disturbing the rest of the people who are there to learn.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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How to not catch a cold... Posted: 10/25/2006 6:49:56 AM
^^^True they don't always know they have a cold until symptoms show up but then colds really only become contagious when the symptoms appear... then there's no excuse. Some people can't afford to stay home from work or it's not always feasible but there's a certain degree of prevention they can use to avoid spreading it. We can do what we can to avoid catching colds but it would help considerably if the ones who already have one would exercise their responsibility as well. Going to work is one thing but why do we see them window shopping at crowded malls??? Even worse are the ones who have their obviously sick children in tow, runny noses and all. It really irks me that some people stay in bed when they're not feeling well but they can't extend that courtesy to their kids. I agree with golden lovers in that respect.... 'grrrrrrrrrrrrrr'.

~Deborah~

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why do woman say Posted: 10/23/2006 8:07:59 PM
PROCEEDED TO CALL ME AN UGLY SKANK.. NEEDLESS TO say i had as i said not ever written this nasty person.. and hit the delete button.. Sweet N Louisiana Too bad hitting delete doesn't delete jerks like that off the planet.

~Deborah~

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why do woman say Posted: 10/23/2006 5:56:21 AM
^^^Well just because looks aren't important doesn't mean they wouldn't take Brad Pitt... and who's to say he's not good hearted and performs like a porn star?

~Deborah~

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why do woman say Posted: 10/22/2006 7:45:50 PM
the question was why do women say that looks are not that important.not blame the poster.duh Read all your posts dude.. negative all of them! You even get mad at the people who try to help in a most polite way. You're not looking for advice are you? You're old enough to know that looks matter to some degree but you're also old enough to know that plenty of not-so-good looking people are never without a date. Well gee! It must be something else you're doing then.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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why do woman say Posted: 10/22/2006 6:25:28 PM
I agree with Rador's post. The profile is a real downer, the pic is not of very good quality but most of all... I can't bear that 'I'm nicer than all the other men poor me' attitude. What makes these guys think that whining is attractive to women???

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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How to not catch a cold... Posted: 10/22/2006 5:48:12 PM
Also...the advice that was giving about washing your hands etc. When you're out in public be careful to not touch your face, nose etc. unless you have washed your hands This is the key. Growing up my mom constantly 'nagged' us about keeping our hands away from our face. Annoying then but I thank her now. I always carry pocket-size hand sanitizer and use it often but just recently... I had stepped away from my shopping cart to look at items on a shelf. Then I hear someone coughing uncontrollably. I turn just in time to see a young woman coughing into her hand and THEN.. grab MY shopping cart with the hand she just hacked into. YUCK! How many times does this happen to door knobs, telephones, etc. You don't know who touched things last so in addition to washing often, KEEP YOUR HANDS AWAY FROM YOUR FACE so you don't introduce colds via your nose, mouth or eyes.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Advice! A woman in need Posted: 10/21/2006 1:16:34 PM
s286... This is only a woman he knows from this site. He didn't say if he's even met her but I assume not if they live a 24 hour drive apart. Her story could be bull and she's trying to get a free 'relocation' out of him. It's likely a scam since she's more than capable of contacting women shelters on her own.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Advice! A woman in need Posted: 10/21/2006 1:09:31 PM
She's not your responsibility. There are organizations who will help her but it seems she's trying to USE YOU! She got herself into this mess and she should be the one to get herself out. Maybe it'll prevent her from being so irresponsible in the future. Her 12 year old child needs a mother with some sense. I understand your desire to help but you're not in a position to rescue everyone who gets themselves in trouble. Don't feel guilty over this.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Married and in-love with someone else Posted: 10/21/2006 12:23:51 PM
does any one know if she was cheating with the other man or even having an affair,,, people do fall in love with some one else with out cheating,, I agree with you Jameis... but we also don't fall in love at the drop of a hat. Attached people should not be putting themselves in a position to fall in love with someone else until they've resolved the issues in their present relationship. Sometimes that means ending the relationship and sometimes it means waiting it out for whatever reason. Either way, the issues will never resolve themselves particularly if you bring in a third party. If we're already in a bad situation, aside from the devastation we can cause the other person, why allow something to happen that will only set ourselves up for more problems. She may not have been cheating per se, but certainly she's emotionally left the marriage.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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How do YOU handle rejection? Posted: 10/21/2006 9:33:55 AM
Some people just can't be pleased. You're polite enough to to give an explanation so she's not happy. If you hadn't given an explanation, she wouldn't have been happy with that either. The woman was rude and vindictive so your instincts were obviously correct. Be glad you caught it before things went any further and now you're done with her. Lucky you! Lord knows how she would have treated you if a relationship would have developed.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Why can't ment show respect for a women Posted: 10/20/2006 11:07:38 PM
You know what they say about dogs and there owners, trouble is, I'm not sure who's rubbing off on who, lol Ahhhhhhh... so this is why dogs are a man's best friend. They can train them to do the disrespectful things they'd like to do but can't. I see you're training Spaz to cut people off in traffic. I'm not sure who's rubbing off on who either. hmmmmm... which one are you? I'm kidding edit: to mlake... I seen a few things wrong with Ron's comments but didn't mention it. Maybe he misunderstood Sans point?

~Deborah~

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Why can't ment show respect for a women Posted: 10/20/2006 10:18:24 PM
OP... maybe you need to get things into perspective. People who disrespect their SO are just plain disrespectful people who disrespect everyone. It has nothing to do with gender. The best way to measure a person's ability to treat you with respect is to watch how they treat others. If they drive around cutting everyone off... race past old ladies so they can beat them to the chair... and knock kids out of the way so they can be first in line for ice cream... then don't expect them to treat you any better. They simply don't have it in them. Thats what I was taling the tail of...Lol. Your tail is taling too Midwest.... or is that tail wagging, or could it be your tongue is wagging, or maybe your tail is tailgating. God.. this is all getting so confusing. LOL

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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would you still love him if... Posted: 10/20/2006 9:44:01 PM
Hypothetically, you could get some retractable/collapsible type leg extensions. Then if she's not okay with it, you can just shorten yourself back up. And since you're already on the chopping block... consider doing one or both arms too. You'd never have to get up to reach the remote control! Another option... if you get a 10 inch tongue extension, she may forgive the leg issue.

~Deborah~

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/20/2006 10:01:46 AM
Am I missing the point of the thread here??? Certainly it's okay to leave your profile up to participate in forums or to stay in contact with established friendships (or yes even to make new friends) but IT'S NOT OKAY TO ACTIVELY SEEK SOMEONE ELSE! That's what the guy did. Does anyone think that's okay? Winds of Change said... I wish I hadn't found her little black book and after a year, it was a striking blow to the heart. 5 (FIVE) active profiles!! Absolutely! It happens to both sexes; it hurts people; it robs them of the time they devoted to someone who didn't deserve it, and it messes up their stability when they've began arranging their life around a relationship that was never what it seemed anyway. Maybe we should bash 'windsofchange' because he 'snooped' in her stuff... afterall, she has the right to keep a book! Why is it that when we enter relationships and the world of online dating that we forget to negotiate what is important to us. I didn't take this as meaning the OP feels people shouldn't be on dating sites... I took it as a friendly reminder on the importance of coming to an understanding early on in the relationship. The OP was kind enough to share her own painful experience in an effort to keep others from having to go through the same thing. Thankfully that loser wasn't able to break her spirit. edit: 'ClassAct'... I believe you can still use the forums if you hide your profile.

~Deborah~

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HELPHELPHELP!!! Posted: 10/19/2006 10:39:58 PM
^^^It may seem like censorship to you but for many of us it seems like they're trying to protect us from possible scams so we're okay with it.

~Deborah~

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Married and in-love with someone else Posted: 10/19/2006 10:31:37 PM
^^^or maybe she fell in love again since she posted. Maybe even with someone in this thread. Has anyone else gone missing here?

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/19/2006 10:07:54 PM
It is difficult to get along with a person who cannot understand the intent of a simple sentence without running it through a lawyer, an accountant and the etiquette POLICE first. This is the truth and seems to happen here all the time. I actually had to agree with your post in the sense that sometimes it's good to err on the side of caution with all people. Doesn't really mean that we're grouping everyone in the same category. On the other hand I can't agree that she was wrong to look into the situation a little further. There's a certain point where people give up their right to privacy. She mentioned 5 different dating sites so I doubt he was on them for the forums. People who stay on here for the forums are open and honest about it and their SO knows about it. That's far different than remaining on here actively looking for other people. It seems she did trust him up until he gave her reasonable doubt. I ask anyone to claim that they wouldn't investigate the possibility that they're being used if they had reason enough to believe that. The OP mentions that she was using the thread title as an attention getter so that's not an issue. The issue is that the guy took advantage of her big time and it's that behaviour in the dating world that makes it hard for men and women to trust each other. Personally, I would have stayed in the house! He did give her permission to live there.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Married and in-love with someone else Posted: 10/19/2006 8:51:55 PM
Have you considered smacking some sense into your head? Does the 'new and improved' object of your affections realize that you may just 'haphazardly' fall in love with yet someone else while you're with him?

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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Why is love not unconditional Posted: 10/19/2006 8:13:34 PM
Dont beg him to come back. I suggest you buy this book why men love **es. Its the best book i ve ever read. It tells you men dont like to be treated well. They want to be treated bad. Treat them as the dogs they are** and they will respect and love you. Dont give them the time of the day. If they dont put up with it? Find somebody else. Joyce1000... are you alright??? God I hope you don't have sons... yikes!

~Deborah~

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Why is love not unconditional Posted: 10/16/2006 10:17:16 PM
He had the nerve to bring up your health! Did he think verbal abuse was good for your health? Maybe his treatment of you contributed to a lack of self-esteem. Regardless, he's an ass. You really don't want someone who treated you that badly. Work on improving your self-image and when you come to realize your own worthiness despite the imperfections, then find a real man.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you Posted: 10/16/2006 9:40:08 PM
what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you Be thankful I never give out my address so readily. But if I happened to give it out because... oh I don't know, let's say I was excessively intoxicated, then I'd have to get plastic surgery, change my name, consider the witness protection program. One way or the other, he's not finding me again.

~Deborah~

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Why dont men apprechiate a good woman? Posted: 10/13/2006 8:00:56 PM
Wow! There's actually 'nice girl' threads too... the only difference being that this never got deleted???

~Deborah~

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do you read long thread messages? Posted: 10/13/2006 6:49:17 PM
nope i never have time just kidding

~Deborah~

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My husband left me and my 2 kids 6 weeks ago and now wants us back Posted: 10/13/2006 6:39:10 PM
^^^He's right you know! Your husband's not letting you go because you're allowing him to hang on and you're only 'back up' just in case he doesn't find those greener pastures. If he valued you and your children he'd be with you... not trying to decide where he should be. Run don't walk to that Al-anon meeting. Hopefully they can help you realize that you're worth way more than what you're getting from him.

~Deborah~

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PLAYER? Posted: 10/12/2006 9:27:46 PM
SimplyPeachy... the difference is that this guy wants her to have sex with him exclusively even though HE DOESN'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER! You don't have to agree with the OP's choice to have casual sex but you must agree that she doesn't owe him anything when he's admitted that he only wants her for sex?

~Deborah~

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PLAYER? Posted: 10/12/2006 7:08:55 AM
Follow your instinct Jensum... which seems to be telling you that a relationship with this guy isn't going to happen. By his own admission HE DOESN'T want a relationship. YOU DO want a relationship, soooooo... it doesn't matter who slept with who... the key here is that either HE WON'T give you what you want or HE CAN'T give you what you need. If someone asking exclusivity from another without offering anything in return is considered playing you then yes he's playing you and you know it!

~Deborah~

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How old is old enough to stay at home alone? Posted: 10/11/2006 8:04:29 PM
I would not leave my kids alone, I love them too much, and there is nothing so important that I have to run out and leave them alone. God forbid anything bad should happen to any child! Most parents leave their child alone when they believe that they've prepared them for it and the child is mature enough to handle it. I don't think they love their children any less than anyone else or that they don't care as much if anything bad happens to them. Responsible parents use judgement based on each child and the circumstances. Just like dating, bedtime and when they can go out at night... all depends on the child. I don't want anything bad to happen to my children but I do want them to experience the independence they crave and to learn responsibility... also because I love them.

~Deborah~

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Dealing with not knowing.... Posted: 10/11/2006 7:10:25 PM
First off, you're just assuming that you're the father because you two were dating and secondly, if you really do believe that you're the father why would you need to ask strangers if you should be concerned about your own child? Obviously you need to find out. If she didn't want the child to know who his/her father is (which of course isn't fair to the child), she wouldn't be referring to him as a 'sperm donor' on a web blog.

~Deborah~

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How old is old enough to stay at home alone? Posted: 10/11/2006 1:26:03 PM
The government should butt out of families lives unless their is abuse or negligence going on. Agreed! This 'throw them in jail for this and for that' attitude just confuses parents and makes them paranoid. Most parents try to do right by their children but it seems now they always have to second-guess their own better judgement. Next thing we know there'll be guidelines on the thickness of their blankets and we'll need to check the 'dressing them for the weather' temperature charts.

~Deborah~

Joined: 4/17/2005

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How old is old enough to stay at home alone? Posted: 10/11/2006 11:18:02 AM
We can't be with our children all the time and sadly we can't protect them from everything. It's easy to become overly protective (especially soon after depressing media reports) but we really don't have the right to withhold them from developing their independence. It's a fine line we walk when some children need to be gently pushed out of the nest while others need their strollers reigned in.

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