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Joined: 8/23/2007

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Why don't people just screw ? Posted: 9/9/2007 2:20:03 PM
Casual sex... no thank you. If I'm not in a relationship, I have the best sex in the world with anyone I want - In my mind - while I take care of business on my own.. I've slept with Matt Damon, Brad Pitt, the cute guy I saw in the grocery store, whomever I want... all without the worry about pregnancy, disease, etc.. and they were all great - making love to me just the way I like it - the mind is a powerful thing... LOL Making love with someone in a committed relationship is where it is at... hands down. It takes a while to really get to know someone... and part of the richness of a committed relationship is learning more and more about them as time goes by... learning how to please them, them learning how to please you - it's about wanting to give to another, sharing with another, creating something very special. I believe that people who engage in casual sex and claim that "it's better, hassle free, etc..." are only fooling themselves, and perhaps fearful they are not good enough to find someone special. To those who claim they only sleep with people who are "clean".. I find it hard to believe you've gotten a doctors note from them. In addition, an HIV test is not 100% unless it is done twice, with a six month window free of risky behavior in between. I doubt people who engage in casual sex are waiting six months in between for their "clean bill of health".

Joined: 8/23/2007

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lets go slow? Or any others you heard! Posted: 9/9/2007 8:05:45 AM
I've only said "we need to slow this down" to one guy who appeared to want to jump into "relationship mode" after knowing eachother only a few hours. He translated my request to "slow down" as me "having issues and not really being open to a relationship", which is far from the truth for me. I can't decide in a few hours if I want to be in a relationship with someone. I translated his response as "I'm desperate and lonely, help me." If I'm not sure, I say "Hey, I'm not sure if there is chemistry here, but like you enough to want to explore this further." We are adults here - what is wrong with good old fashioned honesty.

Joined: 8/23/2007

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Are there ANY fishes in Maine? If so...please reply and be counted! Posted: 9/9/2007 7:47:59 AM
I'm pretty new to this cite. I'm really enjoying it so far. I have not spent a lot of time reading the forums, I prefer to spend some time here "fishing", then get back into the "real world" outside of the computer. I used to read the Sunday paper on the weekends - too much sad news in the world, so I find myself enjoying my morning coffee on the weekends reading here.

Joined: 8/23/2007

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men making less money than women...can the relationship work? Posted: 9/9/2007 7:42:35 AM
I believe the relationship can work. Some people can make a lot of money and have none leftover due to their spending habits, and vice versa. It's not about how much money each person brings to the table, what is important is their ability to communicate and agree on how it is going to be used. As an example, I dated a man who believed that spending money on a vacation was a waste because the pleasure of the trip only lasted as long as the vacation. He believed the money is better spent on something like new living room furniture, which would last many years. I, on the other hand, have a passion for traveling and believe the experience of learning about another culture and enjoying a vacation is priceless. It also creates memories and adds to my overall understanding of the world, which is educational and valuable. Given the choice between a new living room set and a vacation - I would take the vacation. Needless to say, our relationship did not work out.

Joined: 8/23/2007

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Dating Someone With A High IQ Posted: 9/8/2007 11:14:49 PM
I have not read all responses to this question - so I apologize if I'm repeating a comment that may have appeared somewhere between page 3 and 12..... Intelligence does equate to educated and vice versa... That being said - As an intelligent woman (I don't honestly know my IQ, but graduated with honor in my undergrade and masters), I find intelligence extremely attractive.. which is why I don't judge a book by it's cover. I have met men that were not initially attractive, and then... they talk... and I findthat their level of intelligence can spark an attraction for me... So - for all you so called "dorks, brainiacs.... etc..." there are some woman out here who just need to hear you talk.... and we can fall for you... so take a chance... we are not all superficial....

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