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Joined: 8/28/2007

Msg: 79 (view)

Partner to share which bills? Posted: 8/4/2009 2:15:27 AM
Damn...I hope he's paying you for the BJ!?! LOL! I seriously considered keeping track of maid services and other services (nightly) and presenting him with a bill at the end of the month! He packed a bag last night and claims he is gone for good - damn, how in the hell can a guy go from sweet, loving man to screaming, yelling stranger in less than 3 months! WE WEREN'T EVEN MARRIED FOR 3 MONTHS! We had agreed to the Suze Orman method prior to getting married -

Joined: 8/28/2007

Msg: 77 (view)

Partner to share which bills? Posted: 8/3/2009 7:16:07 PM
I am interested in this question as well! I drive a school bus. He works in store. He accepted a job up here & moved in with me. Apt. too small, we moved to a nicer place. He makes 2X what I make. We DID get married. His home is 2 hours away and sits empty - can't rent it out, not up to code, neglected for many years etc. He demands that we split all living expenses 50-50. I offered to pay: all electric $240 month summer rates, pay his health insurance - $200 month Pay almost all food costs, cleaning supplies, toiletries, my gasoline, my car insurance $200 $300 towards rent (I find people looking for apartment and I get discount on our rent) Cell Phone $70 My summer pay is $750.00/month It is usually $1100 during the school year. He earns $750 every 2 weeks He pays: Cable - $19.00 basic cable Internet Access thru Cable - $71.00 - he uses the internet and I cannot use it when he is home - his rule. He will not allow me to network my computer to get internet Water $40 month Cell Phone $70-90 Our rent with a referral is $470 - without a referral - $730.00 He insists that I am to do 100% of the chores in the house - I dont mind that, but if he makes twice as much as I do, why should he expect me to pay half of everything and all of the cooking and cleaning? He LOVES playing America's Army online - will play 10-14 hours when he has a day off! Then he jumps in bed and demands a BJ!

Joined: 8/28/2007

Msg: 103 (view)

ok, here's the question........ Posted: 1/23/2008 5:18:55 PM
Whenever I go on a 'Meet-n-Greet', I always offer to pay my share. Always. If the other party insists on paying, I offer to leave the tip (I always tip well with anything above lousy service). If he again declines my offer - and insists on picking up the whole tab - I gratefully thank him. If I had to get a meal for my child, and he offered to pay for that meal as well - I would accept only on the condition that next week it would be on me. At this point, my guess is that he has enjoyed our Meet-n-Greet - why else would it have last so much longer than expected. Also, I would also enjoyed the Meet-n-Greet - or I would have politely bailed out long ago! Therefore, I would assume there would be another gathering - longer than a Meet-n-Greet. And I would keep my word. Why in the world would I look at this man that I spent several hours with and say that I see no further need for contact? That just does not make sense to me. Belly, if this was your experience with a lady - cut your losses and run! And thank whoever that you discovered early that she just 'ain't all there'! What a Looser Lady - JMHO!

Joined: 8/28/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

Good grief ! my date turned out to be a tranny ! Posted: 1/13/2008 10:58:49 AM
ok, just had to get that out... First of all - many men have confided in me that this has happened to them! Some wig out and some are embarrassed, some really freak out and some are silly enough to think that is actually may be a reflection on their own sexuality! Personally, I think that you had gone on a 'meet and greet' with this person - you had not been dating awhile and then 'discovered' the goods - right? Just be grateful that God has a sense of humor... cause this is proof! Look at it like - you only date blondes and discovered that she isn't a 'true' blonde! or: You thought the gift was a flower in a box until you opened it and discovered it was a chrome kickstand! and best of all: THIS TOO SHALL PASS

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Msg: 352 (view)

Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters! Posted: 1/5/2008 10:19:40 PM
I saw the title of this thread - and read 'trick you into sexual encounter' and I jumped on this!! WOW! I could actually trick someone into having a sexual encounter with me!! Why didn't I think of that! Celibacy is for the birds - it really sucks! I have been forced into a celibate lifestyle and it just ain't fun! Imagine my disappointment when I discovered that this was not a thread that provided instructions on how to trick someone into experiencing a sexual encounter with me - but was a thread suggesting that our great government should be invited into our sex lives one more time! We can create a special division of the City Police Dept. - call it the POKEY POLICE! or in the poor areas of town - THE POKEY PO PO! and we can have POKEY COURT! and we can fund all of this through the POKEY TAX! uh - wait a sec... somehow that could be twisted and it would make sexual encounters cost money which is just another way of saying prostitution... ok.... er, never mind.... bad idea..... On a serious note: example for you if a car sales man told you ..you can buy a car from him for 10 grand but really meant 20 grand after agreements have been signed n sealed would you feel conned....i rest my case Last time I watched someone buy a car and used the dealership to obtain financing... well, the car was purchased for a little over 10 grand and according to the contract he signed - 5 years down the road, after all the finance charges were added up - he paid almost 20 grand for that damned car!! Did he feel conned? I doubt it - but that is why I always pay cash for my vehicles! And I am still living a life of forced celibacy - ya know - that oughta be a crime!!!

Joined: 8/28/2007

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Why did this have to happen to me? Posted: 11/9/2007 3:13:19 AM
OMGawd! De Ja Vu all over again! THIS WAS ONCE MY LIFE ! What the real problem is: as living beings, we have IONS in our bodies. When the body, spirit, mind or soul have been traumatized, these ions get miscombobulated. All ' dry spells' or 'streaks of bad luck can be directly traced back to a primary incident of trauma. Our magnetic field goes haywire and we begin to attract dysfunction. And more dysfunction. Which causes further trauma, which results in more miscombobulation etc. A very nasty cycle develops and over time, can create a magnetic groove which is off kilter. That is the really dangerous and pitiful segment... the 'off kilter' eventually becomes more comfortable than the healthy groove in which our life once combobulated. SOLUTION: Recognize the Situation and re-align the ions in your magnetic field. PLAN: Several plans of action are available. I will continue after I return from the morning drag race.

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 10/17/2007 7:40:14 AM
To meet the diagnosis of a personality disorder, the patient's problematic behaviors must appear in two or more of the following areas: * perception and interpretation of the self and other people * intensity and duration of feelings and their appropriateness to situations * relationships with others * PARDON MOI? PLEASE READ AGAIN! * ability to control impulses NPD is defined more specifically as a pattern of grandiosity (exaggerated claims to talents, importance, or specialness) in the patient's private fantasies or outward behavior; a need for constant admiration from others; and a lack of empathy for others. The term narcissisticis derived from an ancient Greek legend, the story of Echo and Narcissus. According to the legend, Echo was a woodland nymph who fell in love with Narcissus, who was an uncommonly handsome but also uncommonly vain young man. He contemptuously rejected her expressions of love. She pined away and died. The god Apollo was angered by Narcissus' pride and self-satisfaction, and condemned him to die without ever knowing human love. One day, Narcissus was feeling thirsty, saw a pool of clear water nearby, and knelt beside it in order to dip his hands in the water and drink. He saw his face reflected on the surface of the water and fell in love with the reflection. Unable to win a response from the image in the water, Narcissus eventually died beside the pool. DSM-IV-TRspecifies nine diagnostic criteria for NPD. For the clinician to make the diagnosis, an individual must fit five or more of the following descriptions: * He or she has a grandiose sense of self-importance (exaggerates accomplishments and demands to be considered superior without real evidence of achievement). * He or she lives in a dream world of exceptional success, power, beauty, genius, or "perfect" love. * He or she thinks of him- or herself as "special" or privileged, and that he or she can only be understood by other special or high-status people. * He or she demands excessive amounts of praise or admiration from others. * He or she feels entitled to automatic deference, compliance, or favorable treatment from others. * He or she is exploitative towards others and takes advantage of them. * He or she lacks empathy and does not recognize or identify with others' feelings. * He or she is frequently envious of others or thinks that they are envious of him or her. * He or she "has an attitude" or frequently acts in haughty or arrogant ways To the folks making the jokes and claiming that 'personality disorders should be obvious', your ignorance is showing! Particularly with NPD. They are their own best cheerleader! When in the beginning of the relationship, they are very believable in their claims! I endured 17 long years of marriage with someone who was ultimately diagnosed with Narcissistic/Borderline Personality Disorder. It was hell and with a diagnosis like that, the prognosis was/is very poor. When they feel abandoned - notice I typed FEEL abandoned - they become enraged and the one closest gets the brunt of it all! Run for the hills lady - and don't look back! Geeeze Criminey! Isn't there anyone left that hasn't been diagnosed with something??? Where are they hiding???

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Msg: 195 (view)

Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 10/8/2007 9:07:56 AM
There is a HUGE difference between a Personality Disorder and Mental Illness, folks! Personality disorder, formerly referred to as a Characterological disorder is a class of mental disorders characterized by rigid and on-going patterns of thought and action. The underlying belief systems informing these patterns are referred to as fixed fantasies. The inflexibility and pervasiveness of these behavioral patterns often cause serious personal and social difficulties, as well as a general impairment of functioning. - i.e. An enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it. Here are examples of several types: * Antisocial personality disorder * Borderline personality disorder * Histrionic personality disorder * Narcissistic personality disorder The basic character of the person has been fractured in early developement but this doesn't become apparent until late 30's --> early 40's or when a traumatic evident takes place such as death of a parent. Drugs and/or counseling and/or Religion(debatable, I know) will not bring this condition under control, folks! As far as they are concerned, everyone else has the problem.... not them! Usually, almost always... there will be another disorder attached such as: Narcissistic/Borderline Personality Disorder. This was what my ex had been diagnosed with... He would create his own problems every day! He would cause problems in my life and then act like the Knight in Shining Armour and come to my rescue.... he just would not accept that it would be better if he never created the disaster that he would save me from! I consider him to be a Drama King - the lies, cheatings, thefts, arrogance has been out of my life for 3 years today!!! Oct. 08, 2004 is the day my divorce was finally granted! Run like Hell folks... they will suck your spirit dry and then become enraged with you when you are 'all gived out' !javascript:smilie('') javascript:smilie('')javascript:smilie('') javascript:smilie('')

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Msg: 92 (view)

Does a woman/man have the right to ask this of a potential partner? Posted: 9/28/2007 7:52:33 PM
I was in an exclusive relationship for 5 years and he had photos of his ex - family photos. I had no problem at all with what he had on his walls or anywhere else - it was/is his house! Sure, she was his ex... but she is also the mother of his children! And if no other reason than that... she deserves respect and civility. JMHO

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Met This Guy On Here.... Posted: 9/28/2007 2:03:11 PM
Put yourself in his wifes' place. would you be ok with your husband cheating on you as you lay on your deathbed? I should hope not! You don't even know for sure that he is telling the truth about her health, do you? But you DO know that he is : 1. MARRIED 2. FATHER figure to his grandchild 3. MINISTER (as if it should matter) What part of this equation spells OK to you? He knows that you are vulnerable and weak spirited and he has preyed on you - sounds like a PREDATOR to me! This really is a NO BRAINER ! If you were really ok with this idea, you wouldn't be posting this question, silly!

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