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maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Widows and widowers...Is there a best way to get out there? Posted: 9/2/2008 2:49:37 PM
Hi rswscion: I talk to my spouse all the time, especially when something happens I know he would have gotten a smile out of, or if it has been a long, hard day and I want someone to talk with - again he is there for me, as he was in life.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Widows and widowers...Is there a best way to get out there? Posted: 9/2/2008 11:34:47 AM
Hi Cyberbloke: So sorry for your loss. It must have been awful watching someone you love slowly slip away. In a way, I guess I was a bit more fortunate (if there is such a thing in our circumstances). My husband went off to work, was shot by a stray bullet from a gang fight, and was dead before he hit the ground (according to the medical examiner). Either way - no one can take your wife's memory or love away from you and your family - and as long as you remember her in your heart, she is there.-- Maybe that is what guys and gals who run from us are afraid of. The warm memories we have of our past life chapter that they do not. Maybe they are a bit jealous or intimidated.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Widows and widowers...Is there a best way to get out there? Posted: 9/2/2008 11:29:07 AM
Hi Cyberbloke: No - the men who run definitely don't know what they are missing. The women who run also don't know what they are missing either.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Widows and widowers...Is there a best way to get out there? Posted: 9/2/2008 8:43:28 AM
Hi Cyberbloke: Babygirl47 is right. I have the same problem. Men have a difficult time dealing with me being a widow - they even ask right up front "how'd he die?" - I want so much at this point to be a wisenheimer and say "Well, I didn't kill him, if that's what you are worried about!", but I don't , I tell them - they make a quick exit one way or another - and that is that. It is more common than you think for guys to run from widows. Too bad too, because if anyone knows how to value life and relationships, it is a widow or widower.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Wait...what??? The Honeymoon is over?? Posted: 8/30/2008 3:40:07 PM
I beg to differ - doing little things and putting effort into a relationship has everything to do with who a person is. This shows that they respect each other and are not afraid to do things for each other. As for your post being "don't be something you're not" in a relationship --- I don't know about you OP, but I wasa tought that by my parents long before I even entered into one.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Wait...what??? The Honeymoon is over?? Posted: 8/30/2008 2:55:15 PM
In answer to the OP's question - There IS a honeymoon phase to any relationship, and as you stated, it does not last. However, that is when it is up to the couple in the relationship to start to go to work. Yes folks, relationships do take work and imagination, you can't just slide along. When you feel the honeymoon ebbing, think of little things to do for each other, perhaps she could make a romantic dinner with music. After all, there is no better dance floor than the private one at your (or her) home. Perhaps one evening invite her to watch a movie at your house and surprise her with something like perhaps a movie she has been wanting to see, or if your relationship has progressed to intimacy, having her arrive to find a bubble bath for two with candles and some wine! Use your imagination - that is what makes the working at a relationship not seem like work.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Picnic/Blood Drive in Philippe Park, Safety Harbor, Pinellas. August 31 Posted: 8/29/2008 4:31:24 PM
Hey Fit and 63: Just wanted to give you a heads up. I am thoroughly looking forward to the picnic Sunday. However, I just found out I "might" have to work Sunday. It is not definite. It depends on how busy our department is this weekend (I work for a hospital), and I won't know until around 5:00 AM on Sunday morning. I am crossing everything that won't freeze that way that they will not take my only day off away. Hope to see all you guys there. This will be my first POF event.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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The more they like you the less they communicate. Posted: 8/22/2008 4:32:07 PM
Women share a common bond somehow and as our friendships grow we tend to strengthen the bond and do share our feelings. That is the nature for the majority of women. Guys, on the other hand, also have a brotherhood. However, sharing feelings in any way is considered not to be masculine. It is sad, but that is how the majority of men seem to be. The few that are not afraid to share feelings and innermost thoughts are few and far between - and considered keepers by us gals and "on the feminine side" by other men. Anyway, JMHO from what I have observed in a large Irish family consisting of Marines, Police and Coast Guard.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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A weird e mail on here I just got Posted: 8/22/2008 4:22:20 PM
Dear OP: Your best bet is to go with your instincts. If they are sending up red flags, then go with them. Your instincts are usually right. Don't report him, as you have no positive proof he has done anything wrong. But do not go near him in any way shape or form again if your instincts about his being "out there" are that strong. - Stay safe. Anyway JMHO.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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My last boyfriend passed away sends them running... Posted: 8/22/2008 3:38:23 PM
You think your line sends them packing -- Saying your spouse passed away does about the same thing. I actually had one guy who almost instantly wanted to know how my husband died. I wrote back - not to worry, I did not kill him if that is what you are worried about. Never heard back from the guy. If someone you meet has problems with the fact that someone you cared about has passed away, then they need to move on and you need to be glad they do! The right one is out there - just give it some time.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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How poor are you? Posted: 8/12/2008 12:30:38 PM
I am sure at one time everyone has "month at the end of the money". We do what we have to do and get by as best we can. That is what makes humans so interesting, how we are able to cope and deal with situations that arise in our lives. I remember when I was putting myself through school dinner was a 50 cent (back then) Swanson dinner and a glass of water, breakfast was air, and lunch was whatever was in the break room and free. You are not alone Jasman, you can bet on that.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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goodbye thudpucker..you will be missed ! Posted: 8/12/2008 10:44:31 AM
Ron has always been a source of laughter and wit for as long as I have been here in the pond. He will be missed by this old fish. My heartfelt sympathies to his family and my prayers as well. Ron: May your road to Heaven be without stones and your arrival be joyous! Look down on your old pals from time to time and smile, will you please? Rest in peace good friend.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Curious about influx of email activity on Wed and Thursdays.. Posted: 8/8/2008 5:10:54 PM
E-mails???? Heck, the only e-mail I get is either from a friend I have known for a long time who is also on here or the lady who plans events in my area. I had no idea there was any other kind! - This is news to me.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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His Daughter Was in Charge Posted: 8/8/2008 5:06:23 PM
Well OP - I can honestly say I deal with that type of situation every day. My sister has been divorced since my nephew was a new little baby. Over the years I have watched her treat him more like a mini dad or room mate rather than her offspring, letting him make decisions along with her on things she as a parent should do. He is now 22 and still is treated that way. She is just now trying to take back control and of course it is too late. This type of situation could be what your date is going through. Some parents have a hard time being "the parent", they would rather be "the buddy".

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Ordering food Posted: 8/7/2008 1:34:40 PM
In answer to the OP's question: I have had gentlemen order for me and I absolutely HATED IT!! I do not mind if they ask what I am thinking about ordering, but when the waiter or waitress comes for our orders, I prefer to order my own, as sometimes I change my mind at the last second. I think it was rude of her to do that without your asking her to. You are not being unreasonable. It bothers me too.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Vets with scars Posted: 7/30/2008 9:49:06 AM
OP - the scars probably bother you more than others. My father was a career Marine and fought in WW-II, Korea, Santo Domingo, and even Viet Nam. He had shrapnel scars on his legs, and even still had some shrapnel in one of his legs. No one seemed to have problems with it. I have scars on my leg by being hit head on while I was at a stop sign by a drunk driver. I got a compound fracture of my right leg and have a scar. No one minds or even notices - it bothers me more than other people. I think you are being too self conscious about it. Give people a chance.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Is my failure to find a girlfriend related to lack of calling her? Posted: 7/26/2008 9:56:40 AM
Well OP - You pretty much answered your own question. If you are talking with a lady whose company you think you might like in real life - then let her know it and ask to meet somewhere for a face-to-face chat. Women get tired of waiting for someone to ask them out, and move on to someone who will ask them. Remember the motto - YOU SNOOZE, YOU LOOSE.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Disguisting Manners On Dates Posted: 7/26/2008 9:45:50 AM
Have to admit Jacksonguitars, those were pretty bad. I had a first date with one guy who ordered a big steak with double mashed potatoes. When it arrived, he proceeded to pick it up with his hands to eat it, and as he ate dipped the huge piece of meat in his mashed potatoes !! I am afraid I was not as polite as you were. I told him he was a pig, left money for my dinner, and made as inconspicuous of an exit as possible. Thank God we met there and I had my car! Another guy I met brought his big Irish Setter dog everywhere and I do mean everywhere. Our first meeting was at a little Chinese place and he left his dog in the van. As we were leaving he said, "I would like to see you again, but remember, wherever I go, my dog goes too". I thanked him and his dog, but declined any further dates. Next ----

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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What if the woman makes more money than the man. Posted: 7/21/2008 4:07:05 PM
I agree Redkatt: If a guy makes enough to take care of himself - that is all that is required by me. I have also had the same issues as you. They figure out somehow what I make and get a "complex". I actually had one guy tell me that women should never make more than a man, no matter what they did for a living. I have definitely seen "the south end of a mule heading north" on more than one occasion regarding this subject myself.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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What if the woman makes more money than the man. Posted: 7/21/2008 3:59:38 PM
No - That is what my husband called it. His sense of humor was a bit dry - but once people understood it. They laughed right along with the rest of us. I personally do not care how people think of it - bottom line, we had a good time and were happy - and would still be had he lived. JB had a good time naming it GW and that is what counts. My married friends who knew us as a couple do the same thing, and call it GW as well. Take it how you wish - but life is too short to be cynical and take things too seriously. I for one would much rather see the funnier, happier side of life as often as I can.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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What if the woman makes more money than the man. Posted: 7/21/2008 3:45:51 PM
I would have to disagree with you on that one. The OP is not thinking in the right way as far as the relationship. If two people are right for each other it works out. The best example I can give is myself and my husband. I made considerably more than he did. So, we worked together. Since he made only half of what I did, that went into savings, groceries, gas, things like that. Since I made more, I covered the house, cars and utilities. We both kept a certain amount of spending money for ourselves, and were always able to have a wonderful time on the weekends going to a movie, out to dinner, or just taking a drive somewhere. Most of the time he would pay for dinner or breakfast, but once a month we had "Gigilo Weekend" where I paid for dinner and movies, etc. - We had a lot of fun with the waitresses on GW! -- LOL It is not about who makes more - it is about if you are right for each other. JMHO.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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The role of texting in a relationship when you're over 45 Posted: 7/21/2008 1:58:03 PM
Personally, when I pay for a phone I want to be able to talk into it, not sit there frantically hitting keys like a crazed weazel in heat. My phone has all kinds of "toys", including free texting. However, all I want my phone to do is be there when I need to make a phone call and that is it.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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COMMUNICATON, CELL PHONES, ETC Posted: 7/21/2008 1:10:58 PM
Dear OP: I am confused on something - Does he now have 2 phones or just the new plan? If it is two - perhaps being a single dad he got one for his kid. If it is just the one plan - nothing wrong with getting only what you need. I have what is considered a good job and I have a pay as you go plan. Why pay for what you do not need?

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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How many men vs women have been stood up? Posted: 7/19/2008 4:07:27 PM
You give them 2 chances ArchAngel? Heck - my philosophy is, you stand me up - you stay gone! See, you are a much nicer person than I am.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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How many men vs women have been stood up? Posted: 7/19/2008 2:43:52 PM
Personally, I have never stood anyone up. Although, I did meet one or two that once I caught a glimpse of their personal hygeine (i.e. one had not showered in months and you could lube a car with his hair; the other looked like he had slept in his clothes for a week) - I wanted to bolt. I have been stood up two different times by two different people, who phoned to say they were going to be there to meet. So, I headed off, got there - no show, no phone calls, no return of phone calls. Now, if I even think the person I am talking with is a gamer - I don't make a date to meet - live and learn!

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Girl suggested activity for first date... Posted: 7/19/2008 2:37:32 PM
I don't see the problem with the mini golf, I think it is rather fun myself. I had a guy last week (who I never even talked with) e-mail me and ask me if I wanted to go see the "American Girl" movie - which is geared to 8-15 year-olds. Not my cup of tea even for a 10th date. Obviously, I did not accept.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Qu for all ladies with a low sex drive Posted: 7/19/2008 2:28:05 PM
OP: Everyone has different drive levels. Desiring sex every day in a relationship is a bit high on the Richter Scale, but it is not totally out of line. On the other hand, your lady has more of an average sex drive. You are both young, if you care for each other you will work things out and come to some type of agreement as to the nights you "hit a home run" versus perhaps taking a few nights to just be "casual". If having sex every day is a major requirement for you in a relationship - perhaps you need to let her down easy and move on to someone with an appetite more compatible with yours.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Girl suggested activity for first date... Posted: 7/19/2008 2:20:39 PM
It does not sound like either of you did anything wrong. You had suggested dinner and perhaps something outdoors initially. Then, on the day of your date suggested a comedy club and mini golf. Comedy clubs can be a bit "iffy" not everyone likes them. Besides, on a first date you should go somewhere to talk and get to know each other - can't do that at a comedy club. Anyway, JMHO.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Birth control at this age Posted: 7/8/2008 3:48:48 PM
Gee OP - must be a slow day. In my opinion, the best birth control is abstenance until you find the right person. However, if you must make whoppee try condoms. Even they are not 100% guaranteed but if the easy way is what you want, that is as good as it will get.

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Horses in pictures???? Posted: 7/8/2008 3:45:38 PM
Bassman: In answer to your question: Yes, I did go on long rides. But I planned them when he had things he needed to do. Plus back then I got off at a reasonable hour. Besides trails, there was also a huge outdoor show ring. So, even when we were dating I was able to still ride my horse and do something on a Saturday or Sunday, there are 7 days in a week. Where I boarded my horse I had been best friends with the lady and her husband. My husband became friends with her husband who also was a non-rider. So they did stuff togeher from time to time as well. I also do not now, nor did I then get both weekend days off, I had one weekday off - perfect to ride my extra long rides. Like I said, my husband was an avid reader, and read constantly. If the weather was nice he read outside under a tree. He came and went I am sure to the 7-Eleven or something like that. If he needed to visit his mom and help her with some chores I would go riding he would help her. Like I said, horses are no more of an obstacle than motorcycles, fishing, boating or any other hobby, you just need to work things out.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Horses in pictures???? Posted: 7/8/2008 10:07:43 AM
Hi Bassman: Actually, a horse woman living in the city usually has to board her horse out - which means the time spent cleaning stalls, feeding, etc. are handled by the stable. This cuts down on the time you spend with your horse. There is still grooming and being there for vets and blacksmiths, but all in all I would disagree that a man has to have a hobby that takes up a similar amount of time or that you have to be with another horse person to be happy. When my husband was alive, he was the quintessential bookworm, he did not have any hobbies, except cooking. When we were dating he came out to "meet" my horse and would come out with me to the stable, bring the dog, a book and a Big Gulp and sit under a tree and read. He enjoyed helping to brush and groom my horse and thought it was like having a big dog - LOL. Even though a woman has a horse, if she cares about the man she is with and he cares about her and does not feel threatened, it does work out. As they say - all things in moderation.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Horses in pictures???? Posted: 7/8/2008 9:07:20 AM
I have been around horses for most of my life, and I have noticed that men seem to have an issue with them. I have had many friends who were told if you want me - you get rid of your horse. Well, the horses are still there and the guys are gone. If a man feels so threatened by a pet then he may want to reconsider his self-confidence. If a man feels he cannot compete with the love and devotion of a horse or any other pet, then maybe he needs to retool his emotions and soul.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Fighting for your honor Posted: 6/27/2008 2:22:52 PM
You absolutely did the right thing Capricorn. Your best weapon was the element of surprise. If you had gone up to try and reason with them, who knows what would have happened. Kudos for caring for your lady enough to defend her physically.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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She tried to come between me and my family, so I dumped her. Posted: 6/27/2008 2:16:47 PM
She was only dating you for three months? - You are validated, you did the right thing. Family is important and the woman in your life should blend well with your family, not mix things up.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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You've been THIS long without sex, why is it still a solid requirement? Posted: 6/26/2008 12:00:15 PM
I can say for myself it is not a #1 requirement - however it does make the tope three. That's as low as I am willing to go.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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CROSSDRESSING Posted: 6/18/2008 5:05:16 PM
I have a very dear friend who is a man and a cross-dresser. The fact that he dresses up in women's clothes will never make me care for him as a friend any less. In fact, I tell him many times I would be happy to go shopping with him. That way, if something makes him look hippy or makes his butt look too big I can tell him so . He is a straight guy, and believe me, if we were more compatible on other issues of life, I would snatch him up in a New York minute. Anyway, just my 2 cents.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Question for women with professional careers Posted: 6/18/2008 4:05:00 PM
Being a professional woman, and a bit of a workaholic, I can honsetly say that you can devote enough time to a relationship. The only requirement is that you truly care for the person you are involved with and he cares as much for you. Then, you both will be able to work things out and spend quality time together. Just remember what your mom used to say - "Where there is a will, there is a way". PS: Yes, I am a bit (notice I said bit) of a workaholic, but my job requires long hours. After all - would you want somebody saying "oops, time to go home", in the middle of your operation?

Maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Does anyone use Paid dating sites? Posted: 6/18/2008 2:57:22 PM
I have tried most all dating sites. There is one "pay for" dating site I have been on since 2005 and absolutely love. I have met some great people and had some wonderful dates over the past 3 years. I love their message boards as well. The site is American Singles. This is a perfectly straight-forward site that offers a lot of choices to meet people for the money - matches, profiles, message boards, chat rooms. You may want to check that one out. For the record I am dating someone from that site now.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Why do women appreciate motercycles but not airplanes Posted: 6/18/2008 7:55:16 AM
In answer to TheLimey's question - my car wreck responses are few. I dealt with the really bad sites, plane crashes, murders, suicides, etc. I dealt with the mortocycle accidents where they were doing over 120 mph and smacked into a tree, or hit a bridge barricade and went over a wall, mostly the extreme speeders. Like I said - I would not get on a cycle or in a small plane, and it is not about having anything against small planes or cycles - it is about my not being comfortable with either of them.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Ladies, would you be more or less likely to date a chef? Posted: 6/17/2008 4:43:09 PM
In anwer to the OP's question - No, I would not be afraid to date a chef. In fact, I married one! The one thing I learned was - having a small amount of food with a rich flavor is far more satisfying and your brain thinks you are full quicker than if you eat fast food or something bland. I actually had no problem back then keeping my figure, even though he did all the cooking and planned balanced/gourmet meals. Being married to a Chef is a good thing!

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Why do women appreciate motercycles but not airplanes Posted: 6/17/2008 4:32:07 PM
For the record - I would like to let the OP know that there is a third kind of woman - the one who is afraid of motocycles and small planes. I am one of those women - I don't fly in small planes, and I definitely do not ride motorcycles. I have responded to too many motorcycle crashes in my career and too many light plane crashes where picking up body parts was part of the job!

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Do men date ladies without children? Posted: 6/17/2008 4:22:13 PM
Hear, Hear dosomething!! Nicely put. I did the same thing. Before my husband and I were married my exact words were "If you want deliveries call UPS, because I am not making them this late in life". Turned out he felt the same way because he did not deal well with small children either.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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I do have a weird question Posted: 6/17/2008 3:28:47 PM
I agree with Kyn - the friend did not want to date the OP, probably because she felt he had a weight issue. Now, because this happened to a guy you men think it is just horrible - yet you do it to women all the time and think nothing of it. Feelings are feelings whether you are male or female. Think about it. Kyn made an excellent point here.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Are there ANY women who don't CHEAT? Posted: 6/17/2008 3:11:05 PM
In answer to the OP's question - YES, there are women who don't cheat and would never even consider it. As far as your problem with these 5 women, have you ever considered asking them (rationally of course) why they cheated? Perhaps is is something you did or did not do? Perhaps you focused to much on the physicalities and not enough on the inner person you were engaged to? There is more to a relationship than what someone looks like and how good they are in bed. There needs to be real depth in a relationhip. Also, perhaps focus less on YOU and more on HER, that may help too. Just my opinion.

maddie51

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Wearing Lingerie for no reason but to feel great for yourself! Posted: 6/17/2008 3:05:20 PM
In answer to the OP's question - I too enjoy wearing lingerie just for myself, including the maribou heels. I like mauves, greens, blues and ivory. Sometimes, after a long day at work on a Saturday night, I enjoy curling up on the sofa and watching a movie with a satin bathrobe, gown or pajamas, and my maribou slippers - got to wear my maribou slippers!

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 6/17/2008 2:57:56 PM
I agree with dbndon's statement - It's not the money you spend for a date, it's the thought you put into it. I too, had the most memorable times when I was dating with things that were free or cost very little. Just a couple of weeks ago I spent the best Sunday morning I had in a long time with a date who took me to the park. We walked to the end of the fishing pier, saw sting rays and a family of manatees that we watched for nearly 2 hours! (I have the sunburn to prove it ). We then found some shade and had some sandwiches and iced tea. It was the perfect date and we even got lots of pictures of the manatees! However, I do agree stingy is stingy and if that is how they wish to be - then the Ebenezer Scrooges of the world (male or female) can be that way on their own. There are more important things in life than money.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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sexless marriage Posted: 6/17/2008 1:30:04 PM
Sometimes a sexless marriage is not caused by the obvious reasons. People get so wrapped up with work, kids, home, and all the worries of life they forget the most important thing --- working at keeping the marriage young and fresh. Yes folks, it is work to keep the flame going in a marriage or any long-term relationship. After all, you are both getting the same menu every night (if you get my drift) and you need to change that menu around for a bit of spice from time to time, and always add a bit of romance - it can do wonders.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/17/2008 1:18:05 PM
As to the OP's question - I can only speak for myself. I am an independent lady and quite happy with it. Would I still like to meet someone to go out with? -Yes. Do I want to be married again or live with somebody? - Not necessarily. As I state in my profile a man in my life is not a necessity, but would be a welcome luxury. I am saying - I can take care of myself. I do not "need" anyone to take care of me. Men say they do not want someone looking to support them, when they meet one, they then say they want a woman who "needs them". One could ask what's up with those statements from men.

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

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Who is your favourite Sex and the City Male Posted: 6/17/2008 1:09:25 PM
Most definitely Mr. Big. I have been a fan of his since the late 80's when he was one of the stars of the original Law & Order. Also saw him on Broadway a few years ago - what a voice that guy has!!

maddie51

Joined: 4/22/2005

Msg: 285 (view)

Your Pet or YourRelationship? Posted: 6/17/2008 1:02:21 PM
I agree with your statement eyeluvny - I would never, ever give up my pet for a relationship. We are a package, love me - love my dog - or move on. I never have dealt well with ultimatums, and loving my pets the way I do - never will. I would never ask anyone to give up their pet for me either, after all, the pet was there first and deserves to be loved and have a home. Anyway, just my opinion.

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