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ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Asking-a-guy, about Dating over 45, & holiday expectations Posted: 11/25/2009 3:38:55 PM
OP...you are such wonderful woman!I love your passion for what you are doing and your true enthusiasm! Well...give your Sweetheart time to re-think everything... I wish you the best!

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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starting over...again Posted: 11/25/2009 8:11:10 AM
You are happy...you are optimistic by saying that! For me it is a matter...for who I want to have any desire!Because I don't need someone...I want and need the right one. I'm not looking for someone...who will look always for someone... Big mistake...and again mistake...so...starting over...again!

ankkka

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/25/2009 7:24:26 AM
I think...people who have that famous ED and want to be honest from the start of dating should have a nick name Eddie plus age number... However...I'm not and I was never familiar with any ED... But never say never...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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starting over...again Posted: 11/25/2009 6:45:32 AM
I'm not dating...I'm just observing your experiences. I count only on my life and people around me.However...before I came here...on dating site...I had hope...that people my age are looking for "home life"...for healthy and strong relationship.If you are really happy...home is a place where you are happy... I was wrong.People are looking for fun and temporary excitement...and don't care about their partner feelings when fun is over... Sad but true. "Home life"...for my hungry heart...but I know...that you need two people to the Tango...

ankkka

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Listening to our children at our age Posted: 11/24/2009 11:50:31 AM
Are you talking about dating strangers? I think you are OK in your mind!

ankkka

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 6:42:59 AM
It is no end of life... not yet...I think! You can always sing..."Somewhere over the rainbow...bluebirds fly...Birds fly over the rainbow...why then ...oh why can't I?"

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 5:50:34 AM
"Wives are young men's mistresses,companions for middle age,and old men's nurses."by F.Bacon Well...when is no other choice...I could be a nurse...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/23/2009 8:29:02 AM
It is not honest choice... if you know...that everyone is corruptible...just depends on price...

ankkka

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/23/2009 6:41:16 AM
Monogamy has nothing to do with any pledge or commitment with your partner. My monogamy is part of my morality.I appreciate that I have something just for one person. My body is not available to all. However...divorce or separation is no good for my pure morality...and it is going to be forever my open wound... Anyway...the idea to run in circles...trying to find different partners...is a concept at a very low level... Every man contains within it the essence of all men...every woman contains within itself all the women... "See me...hear me...join me...call me...as upheld by the rhythm of the dance..."

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/22/2009 1:44:25 PM
It sounds like primitive instinct...perhaps with stranger...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/22/2009 8:31:10 AM
Everyone has expectations.If your expectations are not realistic -no commitment could help. Anyway...who wants "handcuffs"?

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/21/2009 8:50:13 AM
Nice explanation and I agree with you.No one can be happy because of any commitment. People are together because they choose to be together...no forcing or something else. The only real commitment is self commitment.

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/20/2009 7:08:40 AM
Well...so now I know why nobody wants to run with me...on dating site... I came here as naive as inexperienced person... waiting in my true shyness for a man with healthy brain and good heart...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/20/2009 6:02:53 AM
I don't like word"commitment"...I'm free and creative spirit.I don't like cages! I'm not perfect...because no one is perfect...just unique.I don't believe in pledges. I do...because I want. Anyway...if you are divorced...you have your past commitment forever.You can change your name...place where you live...job...but not your past.Don't make commitments...offer honestly your left over...

ankkka

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Let's get naked Posted: 11/18/2009 2:07:05 PM
Let's get naked and play volleyball...

ankkka

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What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/15/2009 3:58:53 PM
To have your real freedom and don't use it.Waiting on dating site to meet real gentleman...divorced and looking only for sex!

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Letting the walls down Posted: 11/6/2009 7:41:06 PM
I'm really sorry for you! You are beautiful and educated woman! Sad love story...or hope for love story... Anyway...I think on line dating site is working this way! Where are the good single men?

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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friend afraid of her age Posted: 10/29/2009 2:15:21 PM
A desperate wife...looking for trouble?Let her stop chasing virtual affairs...perhaps with lonely married men! It is not healthy for her .Right now she's hungry for love and sex... which she could have in her relationship...with her husband(not enough information about him)...or divorce him.

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts. Posted: 10/25/2009 5:57:55 AM
Dancing and drinking?Such ugly duo... perhaps sweating too??

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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How do I find her? Posted: 10/24/2009 4:12:34 PM
Well...dating site is like the bunnies play... chasing those who are afraid of closeness and dependency...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Is it possible for men to flirt Posted: 10/24/2009 8:09:52 AM
It is impossible for men to flirt with unapproachable single beauty... But anyway...to flirt with a man make us always more beautiful...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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What's in a kiss? Posted: 10/18/2009 3:40:53 PM
What's in a kiss? Sexual pleasure or sexual desire? For sure...a lot of viruses... "Love starts with a smile,grows with a kiss and ends with a tear."

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Why mature people make wonderful partners Posted: 10/16/2009 8:06:54 AM
Simple answer...because we lay dawn the rules...we have control over our life and emotions...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 10/14/2009 7:09:39 PM
Someone may have clear and strong character...but bad character such as Stalin or Hitler...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Show some intelligence when writing someone. Posted: 10/13/2009 4:41:58 PM
It is very big "A"plus...showing intelligence when writing...it is like killing me softly! But I prefer cleverness !

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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What you bring to the table Posted: 10/9/2009 4:17:13 PM
I don't know...why dinner should be a part of any dating relationship... I like only home made meals...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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What you bring to the table Posted: 10/9/2009 1:42:17 PM
I think...a man at my age should be financially independent! Of course...I'm not going to be charity for a man...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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False I.D. to Proove We're Younger?? Posted: 10/5/2009 1:35:00 PM
Well...be care full with your false I.D. age... I remember...over 15 years ago I went to Chinese restaurant with my husband(couple years older)and our children... The very nice waiter said to my husband...you have nice daughter and beautiful grandchildren... It was really funny for all of us...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Women who have more education than the man whom they are dating Posted: 10/4/2009 4:20:32 PM
junipermoon... I don't know...why you are blaming educated women... do you know them and live their life? I have many female friends in Europe... high educated ...and they are such wonderful women...happy and married with their high educated husbands...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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WOULD YOU DATE AN ALIEN? Posted: 10/2/2009 4:09:07 PM
I want an Alien from the Moon... but if I'll meet one special Alien from Mars...I'm ready to relocate there...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Gentlemen - this works ... Posted: 10/1/2009 4:07:44 PM
Sorry...it is not working for me... Perhaps...over 40 years ago...but not now...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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How Slow Is Slow Enough. Posted: 9/26/2009 2:34:07 PM
So...don't pick up anybody from the curb...

ankkka

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need to drink alcohol to enjoy sex? Posted: 9/26/2009 6:08:28 AM
Well...I just mention UK...because it was about British women... Of course...I know problems with alcohol in Europe...because I travel there a lot...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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How Slow Is Slow Enough. Posted: 9/26/2009 5:49:18 AM
If you know your destination and you are not looking for any other option...you don't feel you drive slow or fast... You are happy all the way... But for me...sex is not a destination...but a person.

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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need to drink alcohol to enjoy sex? Posted: 9/26/2009 5:41:54 AM
The UK adults and children have already problem with drinking alcohol...so is nothing new.

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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LOVING Posted: 9/26/2009 5:06:43 AM
If you really love you care...a person you love is your 100% priority.

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Where's Your Happiness Come From? Posted: 9/23/2009 5:52:53 PM
Interesting question... First my thought was...my happiness comes from my confidence...but confidence has many sources... sources of happiness. It is wisdom and knowledge...courage...kindness...fairness...self-control...transcendence... I know my strong and positive virtues...and I try to keep them growing...to feel happy...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Walking Posted: 9/18/2009 8:43:57 AM
Walking...but not on the beach. I like to walk on the streets...evenings...night time...in beautiful romantic European streets. Discovering new cafeterias...restaurants...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 9/16/2009 5:55:29 PM
Patience...great virtue...however...I'm not patience. All my life...I hate to stay on the line...or wait for something.Right now...or never mind.

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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If you were to marry again, would it HAVE to be with your children's blessing? Posted: 9/15/2009 3:38:05 PM
Not blessings...but perhaps acceptance. Of course...big YES.They are not only my family...they are part of me.They are my love. I think about LT relationship with a man...not about marriage.

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 9/14/2009 1:22:46 PM
Are you honest...or just ordinary cynical? I like cynical people...all kinds of people!

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 9/13/2009 9:14:48 AM
"Faith,hope and love"...the fundamental virtues of the spiritual life of secular Franciscan... But love...as virtue...can be even worst than curse...bad love...controlling etc.

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Dating a couple people but not having sex at our age Posted: 9/12/2009 6:13:53 AM
Well...at age 41 I had my best time of marriage...my youngest child was still a baby...but sex life was wonderful... so I can't even imagine how you can date a lot of people... where are your criteria to meet the one...right man for you? At this age I thought I'm the only ONE in millions...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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Trying to make the shoe fit as we age Posted: 9/10/2009 4:25:45 PM
Trying to make the shoe fit as we age...of course...thinking about Cinderella's shoe... Be realistic.Don't start your relationship from compromising.Do you want to be from the start unhappy?

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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SO???? Just how modern are you old farts????? LOL Posted: 9/8/2009 3:33:38 PM
I'm not only old...but I'm very old fashioned! I don't use cell phone...I love home made food...romantic dinners...at home... nice clothing...classic music...classic movies...and old fashion romantic men...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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celibacy in late life Posted: 9/8/2009 2:29:41 PM
SoldierByte... you are right... don't use it(for long time)...lose it...sounds worst like celibacy...in late life...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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If you could do it all over again... Posted: 8/29/2009 9:39:06 AM
I'm not dreamer... but I wish do not work...and have enough money for my passions... and compassion... But seriously...my passions( when I was younger) were to bring health and smile on poor people faces...in the third world...or anywhere.

ankkka

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celibacy in late life Posted: 8/27/2009 5:00:10 PM
Sex is a spice for celebration...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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celibacy in late life Posted: 8/26/2009 4:46:47 PM
Sounds like your relationship and sex life was a torture...not a pleasure... How about magical romance and making love? Well...I never wanted to be a nun...

ankkka

Joined: 8/29/2007

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are you still sexually experimenting? Posted: 8/25/2009 4:19:18 PM
Not really... First...I need to have regular sex... three times a day...

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