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A man totally disappeared after the 1st date... Posted: 9/9/2009 8:19:33 AM
What exactly is the big surprise? You don't like him, and he figured that out. How long do you expect people that you don't like to be attracted to you???

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Is he rejecting me, I'm just not sure where I stand anymore Posted: 9/9/2009 8:16:14 AM
If he was interested, he'd find time to see you, or at least explain why he was so busy. Let it go. He's not interested.

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How far are you willing to go on a date? Posted: 9/9/2009 8:14:20 AM
Probably about 300 miles, comfortable driving distance one way. I wouldn't date someone that I would have to fly to, because honestly, over a year or two it would cost way too much to see them every week, and it would wind up eating away at my savings. By the time I could decide if we should get married and figure who should move to who, I'd probably be broke. 300 miles or less is just a tank of gas and maybe a room for the night.

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Why do women ask if they have to pay for the date? Posted: 9/9/2009 8:04:53 AM
I think women want to let a guy know that she's willing to contribute, and on some rare occasions to let him know that he's not 'buying' any rights to her in any way, especially if she isn't interested in seeing him again. Still, I've never taken someone anywhere that I couldn't afford to take her, and I've never even considered the possibility of a woman paying for her dinner. I invite her out, I'm paying for the night. If she really wants to reciprocate, she can buy tickets to a play, concert or something and surprise me with them. That's nice. And of course, I'll take her to dinner on the way. Just because that's how I do things.

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Hot girls and Not so hot men- the best match Posted: 9/9/2009 7:55:56 AM
It's not all about to what degree someone is considered 'hot' by the rest of the world. We each 'bring to the table' the sum of who we are; looks, talents, demeanor, personality, and it all comes into play. What someone else looks like has little to do with what they are looking for in another person. We match best with someone who is looking for what we are, and is someone that has what we desire. And that can be any combination of qualities.

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Verbal Rejection vs Silence Posted: 9/9/2009 7:50:29 AM
While I used to think silence was worse, I now believe it's the lesser of the two evils. Yes, when you think you've connected with someone and then they obviously don't feel the same way, demonstrated by their lack of interest, we kind of want to know what was wrong, but very often it's just a matter of incompatibility for one reason or another, and it may be something about yourself that you can't change, so why would you want to feel bad about it? Or get angry because you think it's something that the other person shouldn't think is important? There are all kinds of silly, little things about us that we'd like to think shouldn't matter, but do to someone else. So, let it go. If someone is interested, they'll make it known. If they disappear into the night, let them go. There's always someone new out there. Try again.

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I can't hear you guys. Posted: 9/9/2009 7:43:45 AM
Alright, I will admit to not reading the whole thread. But most guys grow up masturbating at home, usually when there is family in the house. So, we learn to come 'quietly', and that never changes. Teenage boys masturbate often; how many women have ever heard their brother's moans and screams of 'I'm coming I'm coming I'm coming!', or 'Ooooooo, ohhhhhh, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!' from the next room? Probably none. And most married men also masturbate. How many get caught doing it? Few; we're quiet. For us, moaning, groaning and chatting during sex usually doesn't really enhance the activity all that much.

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Can you ever become attracted to someone your NOT attracted to? Posted: 9/9/2009 7:35:25 AM
Unless their situation changes, attraction is unlikely. It usually takes seeing different qualities in a man for a woman to start seeing him as attractive if she does not initially. Example: A guy she has known for a while at work, and is a casual friend; she discovers that he climbs mountains in his spare time, and he then takes her rock climbing. She sees his expertise and he becomes her 'teacher' in something. They go back to his place, and she discovers he has published articles in periodicals about all the mountains he has climbed. So, she then sees him differently, as a more 'accomplished' man, which is an attribute that most women find attractive. Being 'secretly' rich also often seems to work wonders when a woman finds out that you aren't broadcasting your wealth. So, yes, it can and does happen. Not often, but it happens.

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why the prettier the woman, the worse she is in bed or giving head? Posted: 9/9/2009 7:26:07 AM
why the prettier the woman, the worse she is This hasn't been my experience. The prettiest one was the best I ever had.

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A question about Oral sex Posted: 9/9/2009 7:22:41 AM
You know this is one of those subjects that usually polarize people. Some people like it, some don't. If you like it, find someone else who does. If you don't, there is someone for you too. Not everyone likes everything. Example: I like oral, don't like anal. Life can be pretty simple. I think the OP just wanted to find that she's not alone in not liking oral. OP, there's nothing wrong with you. I'm sure there are plenty of women out there that will welcome those of us guys who like to do it.

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Can you ask??? Posted: 9/9/2009 7:10:29 AM
I'm surprised this simple solution hasn't occured to you, BC. Have you said 'I love you' to him? If not, what makes you think he has to go first?

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When is enough...enough Posted: 9/9/2009 7:02:43 AM
I'm absolutely amazed that people are responding to a five year old thread as if it was posted recently.

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Toilet seat up or down- Relationship downfall? Posted: 9/9/2009 6:57:13 AM
I've always gotten the feeling that people who leave the lid (and seat as the case may be) up are the same people who don't make their beds and are generally sloppy about pretty much everything else in their lives, like having a sink full of dirty stuff or leaving empty containers in the fridge. So, lid and seat down. I mean, there's no way to know for sure, but that's how I feel.

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Death and the age of 50.... Posted: 7/3/2009 4:18:49 PM
Death at or around 50 is extremely rare unless you're obese or suffer from some genetic defect and even then, it's not that common. Nope. Lots of people die at or around 50. Check the obit's. Overdoses, disease, heart attacks, cancer, strokes, the list goes on. We just don't notice until it's someone we know. As far as 'taking care of ourselves', as another person posted, there are plenty of people in their 90's that have eaten what today's medical science would call a terrible diet, smoked, and drank, and still made it to 90. There's no sure recipe for a long life; it's all still a 'best guess' situation. I especially liked this one that I got in the mail a few days ago: Q: Doctor, I’ve heard that cardiovascular exercise can prolong life. Is this true? A: Your heart is only good for so many beats, and that's it... don't waste them on exercise. Everything wears out eventually. Speeding up your heart will not make you live longer; that's like saying you can extend the life of your car by driving it faster. Want to live longer? Take a nap. Q: Should I cut down on meat and eat more fruits and vegetables? A: You must grasp logistical efficiencies. What does a cow eat? Hay and corn. And what are these? Vegetables. So a steak is nothing more than an efficient mechanism of delivering vegetables to your system. Need grain? Eat chicken. Beef is also a good source of field grass (green leafy vegetable). And a pork chop can give you 100% of your recommended daily allowance of vegetable products. Q: Should I reduce my alcohol intake? A: No, not at all. Wine is made from fruit. Brandy is distilled wine that means they take the water out of the fruity bit so you get even more of the goodness that way. Beer is also made out of grain. Bottoms up! Q: How can I calculate my body/fat ratio? A: Well, if you have a body and you have fat, your ratio is one to one. If you have two bodies, your ratio is two to one, etc. Q: What are some of the advantages of participating in a regular exercise program? A: Can't think of a single one, sorry. My philosophy is: No Pain...Good! Q: Aren't fried foods bad for you? A: YOU'RE NOT LISTENING!!! ..... Foods are fried these days in vegetable oil. In fact, they’re permeated in it. How could getting more vegetables be bad for you? Q: Will sit-ups help prevent me from getting a little soft around the middle? A: Definitely not! When you exercise a muscle, it gets bigger. You should only be doing sit-ups if you want a bigger stomach. Q: Is chocolate bad for me? A: Are you crazy? HELLO Cocoa beans! Another vegetable!!! It's the best feel-good food around! Q: Is swimming good for your figure? A: If swimming is good for your figure, explain whales to me. Q: Is getting in-shape important for my lifestyle? A: Hey! 'Round' is a shape! Well, I hope this has cleared up any misconceptions you may have had about food and diets. And remember: 'Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - Chardonnay in one hand - chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO HOO, What a Ride' AND..... For those of you who watch what you eat, here's the final word on nutrition and health. It's a relief to know the truth after all those conflicting nutritional studies. 1. The Japanese eat very little fat And suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans. 2. The Mexicans eat a lot of fat And suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans. 3. The Chinese drink very little red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans. 4. The Italians drink a lot of red wine And suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans. 5. The Germans drink a lot of beers and eat lots of sausages and fats and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans. CONCLUSION Eat and drink what you like. Speaking English is apparently what kills you.

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How come some people worry about being bored? Posted: 7/3/2009 3:52:47 PM
People who are easily bored are generally boring to begin with. I agree. All too often, they expect others to entertain them. They don't have a single thought in their heads. And there are a lot of them out there!

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looks or profile, what attracks you first? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:53:42 PM
Looks will usually be first. When you walk into a party, and scan the room, you quickly determine which people you want to get to know better. You know nothing about their personalities. But you do know who you'd be sexually attracted to, or more important, which ones turn you off. After all, why start getting to know someone who has something obvious about them that turns you off? That would be kind of stupid now, wouldn't it. And before anyone gets upset by this idea, please remember, we don't get to choose what turns us on, nor what turns us off. It's not a decision. After all, if I had my choice, I'd choose to get turned on by fat, ugly, smelly women with nasty attitudes. I'd be having so much sex that I'd have to quit my job.

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Dominant vs Submissive, for real Posted: 7/2/2009 11:28:26 AM
Like everything else in life, there is a range of behavior from complete dominant/submissive and just those who prefer to lead and those who prefer to follow, but are flexible enough to do either in any given situation. And you're going to find every variety of relationship exists. The hard part is to find someone who 'fits' into our lives with just enough of each.

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Heart Ache Posted: 7/2/2009 11:20:39 AM
You'll get over the pain of breaking up. Yes, it hurts. Bad. But the euphoria of a new love is worth the risk of the pain.

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Hey do ya personally know any happily married people in real life? Posted: 7/2/2009 11:13:49 AM
I think we're all disillusioned about the 'happily ever after' myth. Most marriages, at best, approach a long term friendship, while carrying the baggage of having to deal with the little things that drive you nuts because you are around that person's normally tolerable bad habits every day. Long term romances are rare. A long lasting 'head in the clouds' feeling simply isn't reality for the vast majority of couples.

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i cant beleive someone would talk about their mother like that Posted: 7/2/2009 11:09:37 AM
Despite what some women might like you to think, not every mother is angelic. There are some real horrible ones out there. Now, I don't know your GF's mom. But perhaps calling her a ho was the least objectionable term she could come up with. Go with your gut; if your GF is decent about everyone else, perhaps there's more going on there between her and her mom than you really want to know about.

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 7/2/2009 11:05:13 AM
I'm not surprised this question comes up. After all, everyone is out for everything they can get, right? So, why not ask other people to pay for everything? You never know, they might go for it. There are a lot of suckers out there, another one born every minute. My opinion, it's your body, it's your responsibility. You get pregnant, you get to make all the decisions on whether to keep it or not, or whether to try to force a guy to pay for a kid he doesn't want, because you might want it. That said, it's your responsibility. Just like it's mine to make sure I don't catch a disease from you; if I don't choose to use and pay for condoms, it's my own fault, not yours. It's called personal responsibility. We're responsible for ourselves and our own behavior. Something undesirable happens based on one of our decisions, we don't get to blame someone else just because they were with us when it happened.

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How has your experience been with POF? Thumbs Up or Down? Posted: 6/23/2009 6:22:26 AM
Sort of thumbs up; I've written back and forth with a few very nice people, even though I've not been able to meet anyone. And while I suppose I'd like to date some of them, I unfortunately feel pretty sure none of them would like to date me. Thumbs up. Sort of.

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ever think about giving up and just be happy and single? Posted: 6/23/2009 6:20:30 AM
I don't really know how to be happy and single. The only times I felt content in any way was when I was in a relationship with someone. It's not that I'm miserable or anything, but there's no real enjoyment to life; it seems more like I'm just going through the motions when I'm alone.

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Have you gotten to the point where you just don't care? Posted: 6/23/2009 6:16:39 AM
I think a lot of people get to the point where we feel like we have to stop caring so much. Otherwise, it would drive us insane. I'm sure that I'm not the only person out there that wants a relationship, and is afraid of it at the same time. And, I think anyone who as been very badly 'burned' in the past might have the same fears, sometimes to the point where we wind up feeling stopped 'dead in our tracks' when trying to meet someone because we just can't see it working out. So we wind up with a self fulfilling prophecy of failure. Then, without any way to develop confidence in ourselves, the cycle continues; contact, start to get to know someone, then shut it down before we can be rejected again. Care about that and it'll eat you up.

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Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice in Dating scary music swells Posted: 6/19/2009 10:18:47 AM
The problem I have with the very vast majority of so called pro life people, is that they basically just want to tell other people how to run their lives. If you're really 'pro life', then vote with your feet. Get out there, and help the children who are already alive. Adopt. Stop telling other people to raise kids. If you're pro life and don't have any adopted children, then just STFU.

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BBW...Why is it so hard to be full figured?? Posted: 6/18/2009 1:33:07 AM
Warning, politically incorrect post below. Alright, now up front I'm going to admit that I haven't read the entire 11 pages of this thread. But to answer the obvious question, men are most attracted to women with a waist hip ratio of approximately 70%. The further you get away from that, the less men who will be attracted to you. Sure, there are some men who get turned on by fat women, but there aren't enough of them to go around for all the fat women out there; and if we can't get turned on being with you, why would we want a romantic relationship with you? I know most women think love causes sexual desire, and I understand why love and sex are so connected for women. But for men, it doesn't work that way. We can love you and still not have any sexual desire for you at all. Just like women prefer men who have jobs, the very vast majority of men want women with a waistline quite a bit less than her hip measurement. We don't get to choose what turns us on, or off. Lots of people are turned off by fat. So, if you are overweight, stop using euphemisms like BBW, curvy and full figured, because you're not going to fool anyone but yourself. Be honest with yourselves. Fat is fat.

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Is it just me or.... Posted: 6/18/2009 1:15:22 AM
At some point, you did or said something that caused him to lose attraction to you. It could be anything; and often, people won't tell you what it is anyway, because then we get an argument about why we aren't interested anymore. He's no longer interested, sorry. Best to just chalk it up to experience and move on.

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What Do You Look For In a New Partner? Posted: 6/18/2009 1:11:09 AM
Physically, long hair, somewhat slim. Mentally, someone who's nice to me. Yeah, that's pretty much it. A few things in common would be nice. Age, race, religion, who cares. We don't have to share everything. That's what having other friends is for.

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Question Concerning Body Type, Smoking or Religion? Posted: 6/18/2009 12:56:11 AM
People are a sum of everything they are. Body type, smoking, and religion are just a few of those, but are important because they are deal breakers for most people. Why date someone you find physically repulsive? Religion is at the very core of most people's belief systems, so naturally they want someone who feels similar to the way they do. Smoking is borderline; most smokers don't understand that they stink of smoke, and think non smokers should be attracted to them; they never for a moment understand that their smokey odor is as repulsive as bad hygiene because their scent receptors are so used to it that they can't smell the odor of cigarette smoke anymore (that is, unless they quit; THEN, they 'get it' because they can smell the stink). I tried an experiment once; I went to the smoking area at work, and lit up one of those really smelly cigars. The cigarette smokers quickly became offended, and complained about the smell. Where upon I tried to explain to them that as bad as the cigar smells to them, that's how cigarette smoke smells to non smokers. None of them, not one single person, would admit that cigarette smoke had any smell to it. They can't smell it. And so, they don't understand those of us who can.

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Working hard vs working smart Posted: 6/18/2009 12:46:27 AM
But it seems that not feeling the need to work to my maximum capacity is not looked at very favorably. See, if a guy does that, he's automatically eliminated from consideration because he's 'not ambitious enough', even if he makes a comfortable living. If you read through some of the older threads about this, most women expect a man to work to his limits, and anything else isn't acceptable. So in your case, the worm has turned. Welcome to our world.

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Why men prefer prostitutes to wife/gf Posted: 6/18/2009 12:41:47 AM
They are young and new. They give him oral or whatever he wants without complaint. Lots of men are more sexually stimulated by a new woman. Most likely he always has a new hooker and not the same one all the time. That pretty much says it all. We're biologically wired to want sex with as many different women as possible. Most of us don't act on that urge, but some guys do. Your husband is one of those guys. The reason he goes to prostitutes instead of trying to date someone is simple; it cuts out all the aggravation of dating someone for a long time before they will have sex. In the long run, it's just cheaper and faster to pay for it up front rather than spending time and money on dates that can go nowhere and not get him what he's really after. Women want relationships, but for the most part, men often just want sex.

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 6/14/2009 8:15:05 AM
In my opinion, decent men INCLUDE men we'd like to sleep with. So I guess I'm talking beyond decent. David Beckham decent. Yup, there it is. You aren't looking for 'decent'. You're looking for great. There are plenty of decent men out here, but most women don't want us. They want that one in, oh, a hundred thousand guy who every other woman wants too. So that means there will be 99,999 women out there still looking 'because there are no decent men out there', because they think that the rest of the 99,999 guys aren't 'decent enough'. Which explains why there are so many single women on dating sites. Nothing has changed. Maybe I'm going to change my name here to something like 'good enough', or 'one decent guy'. 99% of the men who have contacted me on POF have all thought that I was great until I sent them a pic. We don't choose what turns us on, or turns us off. Men are for the most part visual creatures; we seek mates that turn us on, or at the very least, don't turn us off. Women think that's superficial, but have their own things they won't compromise on when looking for a guy. Would you rather have one of those guys date you, and have to think of someone else when he has sex with you? Probably not. Most guys have one or two things we want a woman to have; the rest isn't real important. But women are more selective. One of the big ones is income; most women want a guy who makes at least as much or more than she does. Since 1990, the income of college educated women averaged 101% of what college educated men did (Wall Street Journal article reference). There are going to be a lot of unhappy, single women out there.

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Plastic surgery turn off or don't care? Posted: 6/4/2009 12:24:59 AM
My preference is you should be happy with what God gave you. So, if 'god' gave you a giant wart on your nose, you should keep it there? Are you nuts? Problem is, 'god' didn't give us all an equal starting point. Be all you can be. If you're not happy with what you have, change it. And if they screw it up the first time, fix it. After all, if you had a house with a sagging roof, you'd fix it, right? So why not fix your body? Many, many studies show that good looking people make more money and get hired faster than ugly people. Good looking people also have more options as far as romantic partners than ugly people. So, why not look the best you can?

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Favorite physical quality of the opposite sex. Posted: 6/4/2009 12:17:12 AM
Long, silky, shiny hair. Any color but orange. the curve of her waistline, from her ribs to her hips.

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Men, Does It Disturb You If... Posted: 5/23/2009 4:55:53 AM
The curtains matching the carpet is more important. Not important! I like my women like I like my hardwood floors, bare and waxed! Having to go for a pee really really bad and the darn seat is up! Agh! God forbid! What do you do when the lid is down too? It's just a toilet! Surely you learned how to work the parts of it when you were a kid!

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What is your expectations of the perfect man/women for you??? Posted: 5/23/2009 4:30:12 AM
what is your expectations of the perfect man/women for you Be considerate. I won't hurt you, so don't hurt me. If we get along, great. If not, well at least we're trying, and wish each other better luck with the next person. Is that too much to ask?

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Too Old, Too Fat, Too Ugly, Too Dumb! Posted: 5/23/2009 4:27:55 AM
Too Old, Too Fat, Too Ugly, Too Dumb! I think lots of us at one time or another feel like all of those apply to us. At least, I have. Then you add the crossdressing to it, and that's just the final nail in the coffin and I don't think anyone could ever be interested in me. Then there are other days when I feel just fine. Good days, bad days. Life has some of each.

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Why are so many attractive people divorced? Posted: 5/1/2009 2:57:39 AM
There are a lot of reason so many people get divorced, and it's not limited to the 'beautiful' people. Good looks will get you plenty of first dates, but you have to back it up with your inner charm to go any further. Many very attractive people don't need to invest themselves in compatibility issues, so their relationships aren't held together as well. After all, if you're ugly, someone has to really, really like you to go out with you. Not so much the other way around.

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Friends or what? Posted: 5/1/2009 2:35:43 AM
I'm always amazed at how much crap a woman will put up with, when she's attracted to a guy who's obviously a pr!ck. Use your brains, OP, yes, you find him attractive, but he won't make a good mate. He wasn't before, he isn't to his current GF, and he won't be for you.

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This is no picnic. Posted: 5/1/2009 2:11:20 AM
It's a common misunderstanding of basic human nature. I used to be a little uncomfortable with the amount of money I made, not because I'm poor, I actually do alright, but mostly because the women I met were also meeting guys who were borderline rich/very successful in business compared to me. Then I realized that the times we are happiest are when we are with someone else who we really really like, and it seemed it didn't matter what we were doing. Sure, you can compare lying on a lounge chair of a ship anchored in Monaco with a blanket on the lawn of the local park and think you are coming up short on the latter, but think of it this way: All those rich guys had to make up for their selfish, greedy, domineering, egotistical, controlling personalities with 'things'; cash, toys, cars, boats etc., because otherwise no one would be able to stand being with them for any reason at all. And those relationships are the most fragile, because they're based only on those 'things'. When women date guys in our income brackets, it's because they like US, not because they're thrilled by all the stuff that surrounds us. What do you think will impress a woman more: 1. brunch on a yacht, where all the things are geared towards what HE likes, or 2. A carefully planned out picnic, being certain that everything is what SHE likes? Expensive things aren't always automatically 'better'. They're just expensive. Be the person who cares about her, what she wants and needs out of a relationship. That's what she wants more than anything else.

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Going down on her Posted: 4/30/2009 3:03:54 AM
I've never known a woman who didn't like it. And, every woman responds differently; some like it harder, some softer, some slowly, some faster, some sideways, some vertical, some diagonal. Vary what you're licking; when you find something that works, remember that, but throw in a little variety once in a while, and come back to what you were doing before. As she gets very close to climax, do not stop what you are doing and change anything. But when you start, you may as well follow Sam Kinison's advice: Lick the alphabet (script is better than print). If you find a letter she particularly likes, remember that. English is such a strange language. Why is the most natural contraction for cunning linguist a word that describes someone who isn't cunning, and has nothing to do with speech?

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sex with older man Posted: 4/30/2009 2:51:46 AM
Age is irrelevant in this case. You're going to find good lovers of all ages, and you're also going to find bad ones. OP, you've got a bad one. Move on. There are plenty of considerate guys out here. Just try us.

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Are there jack of all trade guys out there somewhere? Posted: 4/30/2009 2:49:00 AM
I have a hard time telling a guy what to do in any situation Yup, there it is. When I was in relationships, it always seemed like it was my responsibility to 'entertain' the woman I was with, never, ever the reverse. And, most women seem to feel that way. When I've been in discussions about this, it's always presented as 'he has no imagination', or 'he always does the same thing'. But when I would ask if she told him what she'd like to do, the answer was always no. Most women expect their mates to read her mind, and then get annoyed when we can't. Ladies, if you want us to do something different, tell us. We'll do it! Really! We like sex! But we can't do that if you don't tell us what you want! You tell your girlfriends, you tell your hairdresser, you tell your sisters, but you won't tell us! SPEAK! ROAR! Tell us what you want! No hints, no subtle 'movements', no 'non verbal clues', WORDS ARE WHAT WE WANT!

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Msg: 88 (view)

Is this fair? Happened to a close friend of mine Posted: 4/30/2009 2:35:39 AM
Ricardo, I've been paying dancers for companionship now for years. Not sex, not lap dances; just a warm friendly woman to hold and have her head on my shoulder. Yet, there are an awful lot of people that think if you can't 'earn' someone to love you, that you don't deserve any affection at all, and I've heard people tell me what I'm doing is 'just wrong'. I think it's just the way people are brought up, and I don't know if you can change that. I think your wife is of the sort who believe that men who buy what we need from women are somehow less honorable than those who marry them, even if he then fools around on the side. But I don't think she will change her mind, and coming on here to ask for opinions isn't going to help you. Or him.

sometimes-miss

Joined: 8/29/2007

Msg: 374 (view)

HE BLOWS HIS LOAD IN MY MOUTH WITH NO ORGASM ALERT! Posted: 4/30/2009 2:28:48 AM
My own opinion is that if you are already giving someone oral and are successfully about to make him come, then they may assume you know what you're doing because you've done it before; that said, how do your blow jobs usually end?? Do you stop suddenly and yell 'Surprise!' just when he's about to orgasm?? I'm kind of amazed that anyone thinks their partner is always going to announce that they're cumming. I thought that only happened in porn films. I've never had a woman tell me when she was going to cum.

sometimes-miss

Joined: 8/29/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Are Russian Women Different? Posted: 4/30/2009 2:22:13 AM
Some people don't think it's proper for a woman to 'pursue' or act overly interested. Yet, if she responds when you make advances, pays attention to you when you're together, answers your calls, and looks at you a lot when you're together, touches you frequently (no, I don't mean in a sexual way, just casually), smiles when she sees you each time you meet, you really have to go with your gut and hang in there; she may never 'warm up', but she likes you quite a bit. On the other hand, if she is often 'busy' when you want to go out, always seems like she'd rather be somewhere else when you're together, or disagrees with you often, perhaps you will have to forget her. People who are interested in each other find time to be with each other, and enjoy it.

sometimes-miss

Joined: 8/29/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

What's in a name? Posted: 4/30/2009 2:04:00 AM
Wow, I guess we all have a little too much free time on our hands. Let's stop trying to re-invent the wheel and just do more 'dating'. It's a lot more fun than trying to figure out what else to call it.

sometimes-miss

Joined: 8/29/2007

Msg: 127 (view)

bend over. Posted: 4/26/2009 8:54:01 PM
Yup, nothing like a buttt sexx thread to expose the homophobes of the world! Live and let live. Try everything once. Or twice. Halloween comes but once a year, but you can come every day at home, in any role you can imagine. Enjoy!

sometimes-miss

Joined: 8/29/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

How to ask about oral? Posted: 4/26/2009 8:36:48 PM
"If and when it comes to intimacy, I love to give pleasure to her" Pretty vague. I'm not sure that would get the message across. Could mean anything from diamond jewelry to erotic toe sucking. Lots of guys 'love to give pleasure' but won't do oral.

sometimes-miss

Joined: 8/29/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

How to ask about oral? Posted: 4/26/2009 8:14:17 PM
O.K. ladies, so what's a polite way in a profile to say that I like giving oral?

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