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chembk

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Msg: 150 (view)

Do men really like submissive women? Posted: 3/22/2008 4:48:11 AM
^^^^^^ When does clue mating season occur, and how does one go about catching one??

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 3/12/2008 6:09:43 PM
Hi Fightdirector- my uncle did some bit parts on Spencer for Hire, years ago. I know he played a priest one time, pretty vague, I know! LOL. He has that same look as you, Irish-American w/ the silver hair. I know it a couple 23 years late, but welcome to MA!!

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Does the number of members favoritelist a profile appear on matter? Posted: 3/7/2008 6:18:16 PM
"""There is no wink function on this site. So if a guy wants you to know he is interested he might add you."""" I wish, wish , wish there was!!! Why won't they add one? I asked, but they said no.

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

Msg: 92 (view)

Where can I meet a guy other than the internet? Posted: 2/23/2008 3:41:44 PM
fish1999- thanks for the tip!! I love Sci Fi, Alt. History, etc, and I LOVE bookstores. Problem is, most people in there have their nose in a book, lol.

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

Msg: 91 (view)

Where can I meet a guy other than the internet? Posted: 2/23/2008 3:40:32 PM
JadeM- almost any time of the year, you can go to hockey/ice skating rinks and fill up a truck w/ "snow", ice shavings really. I've had some GREAT snowball fights in the summer from doing this!! Really though- I took my kids "tubing" today, looking around, said to my sister "I'll bet a lot of these guys here with kids are single Dad's, but how am I supposed to know who?" I did try smiling at and chatting with a couple who seemed to be unconnected to any woman, but it's just SO HARD to get anywhere!!!

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

Msg: 88 (view)

Where can I meet a guy other than the internet? Posted: 2/22/2008 12:59:09 PM
I know that every day, I am probably walking past potential dates, and we have no way of initiating contact! All of us single, available interested people need to wear some sort of secret symbol, as a code to one another; "I am interested in meeting someone- feel free to talk to me!" LOL In Hawai'i they wear a flower behind their right ear if they are unattached and looking. The flower would be behind the left ear if they are married. Just in case you ever visit the islands :) ^^^^^^^ Hmmmmm- I'm in Massachusetts, in February- how 'bout a big icicle or snowball instead!!

chembk

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Do married men ,women have a shot on this site? Posted: 2/21/2008 5:33:39 PM
I sure hope not.

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Where can I meet a guy other than the internet? Posted: 2/21/2008 8:57:52 AM
I know that every day, I am probably walking past potential dates, and we have no way of initiating contact! All of us single, available interested people need to wear some sort of secret symbol, as a code to one another; "I am interested in meeting someone- feel free to talk to me!" LOL

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

Msg: 87 (view)

What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him? Posted: 1/24/2008 6:03:59 PM
ActTwo nailed it. To me it means that when I feel vulnerable-either physically or emotionally-he would never take advantage of it and he'd not let anyone else either.

chembk

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Msg: 79 (view)

Do you really think that it's that important for me to smile Posted: 1/21/2008 8:50:53 AM
iId say that 75% of the initial contacts that I get start off with "You have such a great smile'" or something of the sort. I think I look goofy and cheesy in it, with my eyes squinted shut, but it IS genuine- I was laughing when a friend took it. On the other hand, no one ever writes when they AREN'T interested, right, so we'll never know just how many of them there are!

chembk

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Anybody here gone Speed Dating? Posted: 1/6/2008 6:00:24 AM
"Have had several female friends who've tried it in Vancouver, BC and according to them lots of well dressed, attractive women show up, but the guys are the dregs of the earth - badly dressed, homely, no social skills, etc... " See, this is exactly what i'm afraid of! Anyone else here have this experience?

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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what would u ask admin for if u could? Posted: 1/5/2008 6:46:37 PM
Some sort of winking, or flirting, or general "I'm interested in you" button, so that you don't always have to write out an e-mail??

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Anybody here gone Speed Dating? Posted: 1/5/2008 11:24:58 AM
I've been thinking about doing it- in the Boston/Providence area. It seems to be a better deal for the guys. Like someone said, lots more women sign up, and htere's always a waiting list to get on. The ones I've looked into around here are about $40, 6-10 minutes per person, meet about 8-12 people. I can make small talk with anybody for that long, so I might give it a shot. Will probably try to get a friewnd to go with me though!

chembk

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Single Midlife Women: What do they want? Posted: 1/5/2008 7:18:45 AM
Alright, I'll bite! I don't post on the forums a lot, but this one caught my eye. I think I'm pretty typical of what you are discussing. I entered into a LTR at 18, after very little dating experience. Stayed in it for 20+ years, most of it married. Although the ending of it was NOT my decision, I'm starting now, after 15 months, to see it as an opportunity. I know that eventually, I do want to be in anothewr committed, long term relationship. I miss that feeling of being special, the one and only, the security. But for now, I'm getting a chance to learn and explore things about myself that I didn't do when I was younger. Maybe even if I HAD done more of it then, I would still feel this way, as I'm such a different person at 40 than I was at 20. I'm much more open to dating somebody that doesn't fit into my typical "mold", because I'm not screening everyone as a potential life partner. At the same time, I'm so much more secure in who i am, that this ends up as an automatic filtering device. I know that when I was younger, I would adjust my personality for the guy. Now, I let the chips fall where they may! OK, I'm gonna go back and read everyone else's responses, and see if I'm out in left field!

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

Contact After The First Date... Posted: 12/30/2007 6:18:50 PM
I usually wait a day or so, and then e-mail with a thank you for the evening. In today's fast communication style, 3 days is an ETERNITY!

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

Msg: 126 (view)

Let an accomplished screenwriter rate your profile. C'mon. Try me! Posted: 11/11/2007 10:25:38 AM
Ooops, found it- thanks Chris. Patience, yeah. Doesn't come under my list of my "Very best things", but I'm workin' on it

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

Msg: 124 (view)

Let an accomplished screenwriter rate your profile. C'mon. Try me! Posted: 11/11/2007 5:26:43 AM
Hey, I think I got skipped!!! God, is it THAT boring that you didn't even notive me???

chembk

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How long before women consider you separated? Posted: 11/10/2007 12:28:57 PM
^^^^^^ "When one's house is in order and happy with oneself, then and only then it would be long enough to consider" But who are you, or anyone, to determine when I feel like I have MY house in order, am happy, and ready to move on? One person may be ready after 6 months, another may still not be after 6 years. I really don't think the amount of time OR the legal status of the situation should be the determining factor in whether or not someone is ready.

chembk

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Let an accomplished screenwriter rate your profile. C'mon. Try me! Posted: 11/10/2007 10:07:32 AM
Help, help, help!! I really need a GUY'S opinion. Women who review my profile say it great, but I get have any e-mails or responses from men. So...what's up??

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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How long before women consider you separated? Posted: 11/9/2007 4:32:40 PM
OP- I agree with many of the messages posted by some of the other "older" ladies on here (as one of them refered to us as!, LOL) I'd date a separated guy, but it has to be more than 4 months, the divorce needs to be legally in the process and I'd need some info. on the circumstances. This is pretty much where I am at. I spent close to a year working on a marriage that HE had already moved on from emotionally, and it is now over a year since we've physically separated. I worked on my own issues for close to a year after that, and have been on here for a few months now. I'm not looking for a rebound or someone else to heal me. So , to quote my profile "I'm divorced physically, emotionally and spiritually. Our legal system just takes an awful long time for it to happen legally." So, to make a long posting SOMEWHAT shot, LOL, I'm open to the same in a man.

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Online Posted: 11/9/2007 1:48:16 PM
When a person's info says they are online Now, Online Today, Online This Week, etc...Does that mean they have gone online AT ALL, or that they have logged onto POF? Does it work the same way at all sites?

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Need a second look? Posted: 11/1/2007 5:28:46 PM
Thanks for the feedback.

chembk

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Baby Boomer profile reviews...get 'em here! Posted: 11/1/2007 3:24:09 AM
Really?? Ii looked, can't find it anywhere.

chembk

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Need a second look? Posted: 10/31/2007 12:02:07 PM
I'll take you up on that offer. Thank You

chembk

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Baby Boomer profile reviews...get 'em here! Posted: 10/31/2007 12:01:02 PM
OK, give it a whirl please!

chembk

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svj: Profile help! Get yer profile help here! Posted: 10/30/2007 4:00:07 AM
Yes, yes, me- the one over here jumping up and down waving her hands!!!

chembk

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Started this question on another thresd- guys opinion? Posted: 10/16/2007 12:46:30 PM
^^^^^ It does help, thank you. What if I just cut and pasted the explanantion that I gave in my first meassage?

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Started this question on another thresd- guys opinion? Posted: 10/15/2007 1:01:01 PM
For scorpiomover- I understood what I was doing when I got married, and I understood the rules. I didn't want to get out of it. BUT, what's done is done. Women in my family tend to have very LONG lives, and and I'm going to live it! I didn't set out to change the rules, and I kind of resent the implication. I think I'll leave my status as is. Would it be TMI if I took my statement from my earlier post about where I really am at, and put it in my profile?

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Started this question on another thresd- guys opinion? Posted: 10/15/2007 12:52:56 PM
Wow- lots of good answers and stuff to think about. It never occured to me that by putting "Must not be Married" that I was filtering out Separted guys! Again, since the drop down gives you both options, I assumed the program treated them as different. Need to go back and look at that. A perfect lesson in how you see the world through your own lenses. I am so NOT MARRIED in my mind, that I was assuming other's definitions were the same as mine. For the record, in my case it means : he moved out a year agao, the papers were filed soon after. I don't want to go into TOO MUCH detain in my profile, as , honestly, I don't think long winded details abut a past relationship are what most guys want to read about when they come on here, LOL.

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

Msg: 135 (view)

Ever have a crush on a cartoon? Posted: 10/14/2007 4:15:50 PM
I looked for a long time to see in anyone else said Speed Racer!!! But I liked Racer X. Go bad boy, go!! You know we're giving a way our age here, right? LOL

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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Started this question on another thresd- guys opinion? Posted: 10/14/2007 2:09:18 PM
Just to clear a few things up. I DON'T have Divorced posted on my profile. I have been honest. I too have my standards about this sort of thing- part of why I am getting divorced. It's just frustrating that there is only one-word options that are so vague. I'm not in nearly the same position as someone who got separated a week ago, OR someone who's been separated for 5 years, and just can't be bothered to go through with it. You're right- a lot of guys just skim and don't read the whole thing. And what they are looking at is that one word. But what this goes back to is this: Am I being hypocritical, in my situation, to say I don't want to be contacted by men who are married? I don't think so, but some out there do.

chembk

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Started this question on another thresd- guys opinion? Posted: 10/14/2007 8:53:41 AM
I have people questioning why I have "Must not be Married" in my settings, when they say that technically, I still am. On the settings, "Separted" and "Married" are listed as two DIFFERENT options. I thought that was for a reason, ie- "Married" is for people who plan on staying that way, but, for whatever their own reasons are, want to meet somebody In my mind, "Separated ' is where I happen to be LEGALLY, and that's the most honest thing to post. Unfortunately, there is no option to chose that says "Divorced in mind and spirit, but our court system takes forever to get anything done. Will sign papers testifying that the last relationship is over and done with, and will not lead you on and then go back to him" Should I put "Divorced", and then be up front right away that it's not qute official? Opinions from guys- which would send you running and screaming from the "room " faster?

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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My turn Posted: 10/14/2007 8:49:37 AM
Any other opinions on this?

chembk

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What really you think when... Posted: 10/14/2007 8:37:51 AM
^^^^^ Awesome answer!

chembk

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I dont beat around the bush if you want it straight? Posted: 10/14/2007 5:15:42 AM
Oh- will you review mine before everyone else sees that you are back?? LOL

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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My turn Posted: 10/13/2007 4:41:02 PM
OK, good point, one I've meant to ask about. On the settings, "Separted" and "Married" are listed as two DIFFERENT options. I thought that was for a reason, ie- "Married" is for people who plan on staying that way, but, for whatever their own reasons are, want to meet somebody In my mind, "Separated ' is where I happen to be LEGALLY, and that's the most honest thing to post. I find it interesting that you can tell where someone is in the healing and unpacking process based simply on where they are in the legal process Very different kettle of fish, IMHO. Unfortunately, there is no option to chose that says "Divorced in mind and spirit, but our court system takes forever to get anything done. Will sign papers testifying that the last relationship is over and done with, and will not lead you on and then go back to him" Should I put "Divorced", and then be up front right away that it's not qute official? Opinions from guys- which would send you running and screaming from the "room " faster?

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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My turn Posted: 10/13/2007 12:22:47 PM
Anyone else?? Please - feel free to be as blunt as possible.

chembk

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My turn Posted: 10/13/2007 9:48:47 AM
OK, I've taken the suggestions and made a few changes. Found another photo too. Whaddaya think?

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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My turn Posted: 10/13/2007 8:51:19 AM
OK, good. This is the sort of thing I'm looking for. I do have a hard time keeping my eyes open in pics, cause they "crinkle' shut when I smile or laugh, and I wnated the pictures to look cheerful. Hmmmm- I'll go back and look at my profile. I thought my sense of humor came through in what/how I wrote, but maybe not. you're right thought- It's better to bE funny than to SAY I'm funny. Thanks

chembk

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My turn Posted: 10/13/2007 7:39:14 AM
OK, I think I have my profile where I want it, LOL. What do the rest of you think?? I am getting a few responses, and unlike some of what other people on here report, most of them seem to NOT be psycos. Althoug in my mind I am "Divorced" not "Separated" (it's the lawyer's fault, LOL), I do feel the need to be honest about that. Could this be limiting who contacts me, or respond back when I contact them?

chembk

Joined: 8/30/2007

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What are your pet peeves...... Posted: 9/9/2007 6:22:18 PM
Please- would some of the people who do these things, and KNOW that they tick us off, please repond and try to explain WHY you do it? WHY do you refuse to use your blinker? WHY do you throw your butts out the car window? WHY won't you say 'Thank You' when someone holds the door open for you? And all the rest of them.

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