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cuteredhead128

Joined: 9/1/2007

Msg: 68 (view)

Why is it more accetable to be divorced rather than never married if someone is 30+ Posted: 9/8/2007 9:47:40 PM
My question to you Route8Traveler would be, what have you experienced to make you ask this question? Someone must have made some type of statement to you regarding the 30+ never married deal. Personally I have several guy friends that have never been married, never had children and are in their 40's. They have all been in serious LTR's. Some have been hurt terribly, others are looking for a person or perception of a relationship that doesn't exist, some are very set in their ways and I would doubt they could share an enviroment that they perceive as their own. As an outsider looking in, maybe I can see emotional flaws they do not see in themselves. I don't feel it is more acceptable to be divorced rather than never married. However I do look at it in a perspective that as a 48 y/o woman, I've been married, had children, been divorced, gone back to the dating scene, etc. I have been through all of the things in life that a never married, no children, 47 y/o man has yet to experience. I don't have an answer to your question, however I have to agree that there is a perception that there is something wrong with someone over 30 that has yet to be married. I don't know why that is but it's there. I also agree with the other posters. You need to ditch the wedding photos. Just crop out the other people in the photo. I realize you were attendants at the wedding but it gives the viewer checking out your profile that you may also be a couple.

cuteredhead128

Joined: 9/1/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

things were just warming up and then he sent a POF rose...only not to me! Posted: 9/8/2007 9:13:00 PM
ROTFLMAO Are you exclusive?? My god you are only in cyber space and I'm assuming haven't even met yet. More than likely he is continuing to troll for other women while chatting with you and you caught him. You should mention to him that, "Wow something must be wrong with my mail. It seems you sent out a POF rose but I haven't received it." See what he says to that lol.

cuteredhead128

Joined: 9/1/2007

Msg: 256 (view)

Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 9/8/2007 9:01:06 PM
Yep, has happened here. Had been dating off and on for a year or so. Got the email to break up because he had his class reunion coming up and thought he could hook-up with some old classmates that he used to have crushes on. Guess I should be thankful that he was moral enough to break up before cheating. Funny tho, since nothing came of the reunion, he tried to come back. While laughing, I said NO.

cuteredhead128

Joined: 9/1/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

how do i get the man i love to forgive me for the awful things i said?? Posted: 9/8/2007 8:36:13 PM
That is what happens when people play games. You played games and he played games. You hurt me, I'll hurt you. People need to learn once those hurtful words come flying out of your mouth, there's no taking them back. Sometimes things can never be made right after that has happened. BTW, why did you get angry with him and say hurtful things?? What did he say to you to make you retaliate (and no PMS is not an excuse)? Who knows if he was even telling you the whole truth about who he was. Maybe he is already married with a wife and kids and this was all fantasy to him until the reality set in that wow, she is coming here, I need to end this before it gets that far. Wait the two months and see if he calls. If he doesn't call then move on. No calling him or emailing him.

cuteredhead128

Joined: 9/1/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

MOM OF 6~WHeRe ARe THe Men?!?! Posted: 9/8/2007 7:57:43 PM
Why would you even want to date? Granted you may have been miserable in your marriage for years but spliting up is a big adjustment. After I left my husband, I didn't date for 6 years. I only have one child but she is mentally disabled and my focus was on raising her and tying to live on my salary. Once I did decide to date, I never ever let my child have interaction with that person until I felt it was someone I was serious about. There is nothing worse than bringing men in and out of a childs life. I think you truly feel that you need a man and that love in your life but I agree with all of the other posters, you need to get out to work. Not only for additional cash but to also have normal adult interaction. Then perhaps you wouldn't crave finding a man to fill a void. Most men wouldn't want the responsibility of dating someone with 6 kids and frankly I don't blame him. Lastly, if you do find someone to date, please oh please go on birth control so you don't have a 7th child.

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