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mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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How and when do you know when you're with the one you wanna settle down with? Posted: 11/22/2009 11:35:12 PM
When the person is the one...you just know...if you have to ask how do you know and you don't know...then he's not the "one"...although a lot of people do make the mistake of settling prematurely based on lust, infatuation, deep love/care for someone...but the "one" is in a league of it's own and there will be no doubt in your mind because you just know...alternatively...while you may know he's the "one" it might be wrong timing...and that's when other things or time may need to happen before both parties can finally commit to happily ever after...just my 2 cents based on experience.

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Have you found and then lost your soulmate? Posted: 11/22/2009 12:05:50 PM
I've had many and have also lost many. Some were women, some men, some children, one furry friend and even one complete stranger that touched my life in such a profound way that I will forever think of him at times. No doubt...soul mates come in many shapes and forms...I had a friend...she knew and understood me so well like no other person...she knew what I was thinking/feeling without me having to say anything...but I lost her to drug and alcohol abuse...but despite our fall out...she wanted to tell me she still loves me...it's tough losing someone to addiction...I had this kitty...I don't like cats...actually it was my soulmate friend that wanted a cat...after we got it...I just fell for the thing but had to give it away...sometimes I wonder where it's at...how it's doing...I miss that thing and would love to get her back.

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Have you found and then lost your soulmate? Posted: 11/21/2009 3:43:57 PM
That's the funny thing about soulmate and that's when you know it's real ...because you have strong feelings for this person and you always will without even knowing them...you just do and not falling for them based on set of criteria or if they are your perfect fit, it's about a spiritual connection that transcends what's going on in the real world, and you always will regardless ie. serial killer, abuser or not....you don't get to choose your soulmate...they just are regardless of any external factors...but you can choose to be with them or not...if you do not understand this predicament...I would guess you've never met yours. Sure you get along great and there's a deep care there...but there are also other factors that have to be contended with in the real world...we do not live in a perfect world...life on earth can be very complex and problematic...like I said...you will always love/care for them...the care will never ever fade/die...but being with them may not be what's best for you...and so you have to let them go.

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Have you found and then lost your soulmate? Posted: 11/21/2009 3:27:00 PM
I would have difficulty encouraging people to stay with their "soulmate" regardless of circumstance or situation...your soulmate is not based on a set of acceptable character or circumstantial traits...they just are irrespective of external situation...if he/she were standard folks where your life would not be put in danger and not have to go through anything severe in order to stay and be with your soulmate...then you are very fortunte...he/she could be a serial killer, an abuser, an alcoholic, drug dealer...yes such people have soulmates too...all too often people stay in these abusive relationships in the name of "love" and in some cases to their death...foolish. No one needs to or should put up with such treatment...for love or not...sometimes love just isn't enough...and you have to move on.

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Love and being in love Posted: 11/20/2009 1:18:20 AM
I would say cya I agree with with your theory about "loving" someone and being "in love" and how it transforms over the course of the relationship. She may be someone where simply "loving" someone isn't enough but needs the rush of being "in love" as you feel at the beginning of a relationship, hence, her need to seek out other people. With maturity/wisdom in time she may eventually be content with simply loving the person instead of needing to feel the high of being in love to be satisfied/happy in the relationship.

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/19/2009 11:51:52 PM
if you want to make a movie date, you can call her up and say "I'll get the tickets and you can buy the food." If she balks at the suggestion, then it's clear she's not the woman for you. This is good advice

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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I am heartbroken, women, please tell me what u think Posted: 11/19/2009 1:41:59 AM
I never could understand it when a guy still calls you baby, honey (coming from someone who's never ever called a gf/wife a pet name in his life) and crying and breaking up with you at the same time!?!? But you can only accept their wishes and move on....

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Have you found and then lost your soulmate? Posted: 11/18/2009 11:28:25 PM
how is it your soulmate then? You just know...I just didn't want to live the kind of life he was leading and I suspected he was the cheating type...a bad boy...not exactly the traits you want to do happily ever after with...I want a simpler life for myself...you don't get to choose who you fall in love with but you do get to choose who to spend the rest of your life with...so choose wisely On another note...if he was your soulmate...he should feel the same way...although as previously stated may not necessarily mean ending up with each other due to other external factors ie. their character traits, circumstance, etc.

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Have you found and then lost your soulmate? Posted: 11/18/2009 10:48:25 PM
Yes but I did not want to marry him but I would take a bullet for him...does it make sense that you would die for someone but not want to marry them!?!?...marriage is a life long state of existence...so I say yes if it will significantly effect how your life will be :) consequently you might find your soulmate but might not be the "one" for you.

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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cheating, how prevalent is it? Posted: 11/17/2009 1:01:41 AM
Interesting I was just having a conversation with some guys and all of them have slept with a married woman...I'm presuming alot of guys have had an affair with a married woman...evidently women are just as bad as men...what baffles me is that these men/women don't seem to see/understand the implications of their behavior...ie. potentially splitting up a marriage/divorce/family!?!? And I would say yes...cheating is very prevalent...I witness it more then I care to...we live in a sad sad world where the flux of the population have no integrity.

mnq

Joined: 9/2/2007

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What does it mean when... Posted: 11/17/2009 12:20:03 AM
I did that to someone then someone did that to me...kind of like karma...but at the end of the day the relationship ending was the right thing...here's the deal...when marriage is a real possibility with a person it can get a little scary and especially when there's a bit of reservation...so they want to take a break...they'll have a relapse and want to get back but things will be different...it's like once you break a bone it's just never the same...analogy for your heart/the relationship...but as you get through the relapse and see clear skies again you realize the original reason for wanting to separate still exist in the situation/relationship and why the break was the right course of action...that is why I never go back to exs My advice...move on...Good Luck!!

maw488

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Should I play hard to get? I'm not good at this though---it's not me! Posted: 11/10/2009 12:44:57 AM
I find games annoying...do you really want to be with someone you have to play games with to appreciate you...sounds like a waste of time...your energies are wasted in the game instead of focusing your efforts in developing a happy healthy relationship...go for a more stand up guy who knows what he wants and doesn't need the chase and play a silly game...Good Luck!!

minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Your two cents worth...... Posted: 11/9/2009 1:00:53 AM
Kinda reminds me of the show "The Ugly Truth"...in the beginning the guy is coaching her on how to land and keep her dream guy...so she does all these things that are choreographed for her to present herself as being the perfect woman that every guy would like a woman to be...which in reality wasn't her true character...in the meantime she's being her true unperfect self to the guy coaching her ie. angry with him, seen her without her extensions (fake long hair), not dressed to impress...yet he falls for her...evidently she's left with both guys having an interest in her...in the end she goes for the guy who has seen her unperfect self...because she realizes he loves her for her...who knows her true self and yet still fell in love with "her" and not the image of the "perfect" girl like the other guy...and I believe that's what Marilyn Monroe was looking for...someone who loved all of her...the good, the bad and the ugly.

minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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After Asking Girl To Be Your Girlfriend Posted: 11/9/2009 12:36:20 AM
OP...nothing wrong with stating it...good on ya for clearly communicating to her where you want the relationship to be...as for what to do after...how about a hug and a kiss...Good Luck!!

minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Falling in love too fast or at a good pace? Posted: 11/9/2009 12:24:41 AM
Oh, yeah, the feeling you get when you're first in that "roller-coaster OMG he's so great" stage is infatuation, not love. Love comes with knowing the other person, even when they do irritating things. It's easy to feel affectionately toward someone who hasn't pissed you off yet. Wow...interesting point...when you first meet someone there's that crazy infatuation...true...then as you get to know them better you fall in love with them even more...very true...except I can't say he ever did do anything irritating...unless I hadn't gotten to know him long enough...lol...actually it was the opposite...the more I got to know him the more I fell in love with him...although he was usually grumpy in the mornings...but once I mentioned it...he stopped being grumpy

minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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the guy who hangs back Posted: 11/6/2009 11:42:11 PM
I would assume you were either gay or taken hence not taking much interest in approaching me when your friends have already came over...if you want to stand out...the coolest/cutest thing that has gotten my attention is coming out of nowhere with a drink in hand...one got me a beer which I thought was cute...it was like treating me like one of the guys...then asked me to dance... but as equally endearing was a pink drink to recognize her femininity...and they were total gentlemens about it ie. introducing themselves and then asking for a dance. Try those tricks to get you to stand out from the crowd...Good Luck!!

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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What someone does that really turn you off? Posted: 11/5/2009 5:15:42 PM
Unreliable people...I've cut off friends because they're unreliable...it shows a lack of respect to the other person...another turn off...why be around someone who obviously doesn't respect you enough to follow through...alternatively when someone is very reliable...huge turn on ...and liars...I don't like liars and disrespectful people...

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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you just know Posted: 11/4/2009 9:31:46 PM
Yup...it's true. When I was in a 5 year relationship I used to go around asking married people...how do you know...and I always got the answer..."you just know"...and I didn't understand/couldn't relate....until I met someone the night after the 5 year ended...and within 10 days something told me he was the one...from that I learned...if you have to ask or don't know...then he ain't it...because you just know.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Our 15 year long relationship ends and he meets someone on here and starts a family in 9 MONTHS! Posted: 11/4/2009 9:19:07 PM
I hear about these stories all the time...person was in a longterm relationship with no marriage in sight or hesitance on his part and date for 8-10 years...then once out...they meet someone and marry within a year...or a longterm marriage and don't want kids...they get divorced...within a year meet someone and have a baby. Actually it's happened to me...I was in a 5 year relationship...and just didn't see marriage but was comfortable in the relationship...the day we broke up I met someone that night and would have married him after 6 months...something told me he was the one...I couldn't even figure out what I was feeling...but just knew he was someone special...so I broke off...stupid me...I wasn't ready for happily ever after and got cold feet But he did say...he was going to marry me one of these days...he knows it...altho I don't think that's going to happen anymore...so I always say...it doesn't take years and years to figure it out...you know pretty darn quick.

minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)? Posted: 11/3/2009 7:55:57 PM
You're missing my point...the poacher doesn't care so much for the guy...she'll leave him as soon as the challenge is over...it's more about the relationship/interaction between the women. As for the single guy...perhaps he refuses to "settle" with a less then ideal woman...his self-esteem/self-worth is higher then that and is willing to hold out.. Hey may have had plenty of women who wanted to marry him but he didn't ...as I have...but I wasn't going to say yes just for the sake of being married and some of them were great and wonderful guys but just lacked the true love factor...I want both...and this may apply to women too. They're independent enough and secure enough that they don't need/want to settle. I see so many marriages...and you know they've settled hence the increasing numbers of problem marriage because it's not based on true love...rather marriage is based on other conveniences like a belief they don't think they can get any better or marry for other reasons like financial security, someone willing to have kids, to gain citizenship, etc. The belief that people in marriages are the better people is a myth...in fact they are people who are insecure and feel a need to be with someone/anyone...I say only 10-15% of marriages is based on true love....and the rest have settled. If said husbands are so great...I am mystified when I talk about the great and wonderful things my exs have done for me...these married women truly believe I live in fantasy land and I'm shocked that their husbands don't do these great and wonderful things that my exs have done for me...their husbands won't help out with the cooking, the kids even though she herself also works full time...let alone serve her breakfast in bed or prepare a fancy dinner for her or prepare a bath for her after a long days work. I can only conclude and advise these women...Refuse to marry him...and he'll treat you like a Godess. BTW...if I came across a guy who was great and wonderful and was single...I would think...what luck!! And thank my lucky stars I've found such an awesome guy...and available!!

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)? Posted: 11/3/2009 6:28:17 PM
And almost 70% believe that the best guys are already taken. I fail to believe that...more like 70% of married men are cheating....no thank you. Great husbands/men period are few and far between. I think I've met more awesome available guys then watching the behaviors of married men...outright appalling because they are married men with kids. I believe they wanted to get married early because she was willing and unsure if anyone else would be willing to put up with them. Married women complain about their husbands incessantly...and once again thank god I don't have to put up with that and truly don't understand how she can continue to tolerate it. This poaching behavior, I believe is irrespective of the quality of the husband...he could be the worst dud/husband...perhaps this type of behavior is more indicative of catty/competitive behavior by the woman...once all is said and done...it's not so much about the pleasure of obtaining the man of her dreams...moreso the victory of being able to steal someone from another...hence the characteristic of the man is totally irrelevant in this mind game...the innocent party should just back away...and when the game is over have the remaining parties just look at each other and say...now what...and will probably have little to do with each other thereafter when there's no more competition to be had. So ladies, if your guy chooses to play the game...don't participate...you're better then that and move on...leave him to his poacher...see how long that'll last...meh...why do you care ;) By then...she's probably off and running to poach another...

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Unsure if she's interested... Posted: 11/3/2009 4:01:58 PM
She doesn't sound interested....maybe as a friend...hence agreeing to go to the concert with friends...as for the lying bit to get rid of you...not everyone is prone to lying...lol...like myself...so her answer is just being honest without any intent to play any games. So if you're willing to enjoy her company as a friend, just keep it casual and don't attempt to take it any further or she'll just try to avoid you like the plague. Good luck!!

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)? Posted: 11/3/2009 10:40:20 AM
The most attractive man in the world, is someone else's husband. Dang...not to me I see how so many women's husbands behave and am completely turned off by them and not to mention not attracted to them at all...I don't understand how or why these woman married them because I sure as heck wouldn't...they're terrible partners and thank my lucky stars I don't have to put up/live with that for the rest of my life. I feel bad for those ladies.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Confused & upset - Why do men do this? Posted: 11/1/2009 11:11:49 PM
I'm guessing the first one was already in a relationship...he was probably curious about you and bored...and considering you guys did have a super date...had that happen to me...it was my longest date ever...blading the wall, turned to drinks at a pub, to a drive to whistler up until dinner the following day...turns out he had a gf/fiancee...go figure...she just hadn't moved here yet...which I didn't find out until months later when he pulled a disappearing/not as available as he used to be act...and this was someone who would say to me "be good" when I was off somewhere!?!? As for the second one...atleast he communicated to you his situation...

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Did I do the right thing in telling... Posted: 11/1/2009 9:24:26 PM
wow ! i think u didi the right thing hon1 they should change this site to plenty of idiots! ...all kidding aside...OP you did the right thing...if I was the other person I'd want to know...and nothing wrong with asking a person if they're "dating" other people...I usually ask at the beginning and until the exclusivity conversation has been made or it can be implied ie. he's pretty much set a place for you in his place, it shouldn't be a surprise if he is. We like to know early on so there are no surprises down the road. A guy who isn't a coward would be upfront and honest about his current situation.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Persistance can wear a girl down til she gives in - Does it work for guys? Posted: 10/31/2009 10:53:27 PM
I broke up with one ex a thousand times...but he refused to end the relationship...it ended up being my longest relationship (5 years)...so persistence may work...but he was also a really good bf...but at the end of the day...it will end sooner or later...meaning she may/will still have her reservations subconsciously and so it may never become happily ever after. Hence, chances for a happier ending may work out better with a more agreeable/less resistent partner.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Say anything you want! Posted: 10/31/2009 10:29:03 PM
I actually ran into my ex a couple of months ago...I hadn't seen him in 2-3 years and he only lives a few blocks from where I used to live...but we didn't exchange any words even though he was standing right beside me while his gf stood behind me glaring at me apparently...lol...his gf denied him from having any communication with me and I had known him for over 25 years although we didn't date until in our early 30's for 3 years...but I was just respecting her wishes and so we didn't speak to each other at all...oh well...but if I could have said anything...it would have been just the standard idle chit chat...but if I could get into the nitty gritty I would ask why he's not talking to his family considering when I was dating him, he made big efforts for us to visit his brother and his family on the island and his sister-in-law even thanked me for bringing him around even though he was the one initiating the visits...I don't understand why he's stopped communicating with his friends and family when they were so important to him.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Friendship into relationship. Posted: 10/30/2009 11:42:44 PM
Yes, it's very possible...I had one ex who just stayed as my friend for 3 months as I was getting over another relationship...but he was patient and didn't pressure me or anything...and that ended up being my second longest relationship and he actually suggested marriage a couple of times...I find relationships that start out as friendships last longer because they have a stronger more stable foundation.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Still friends? Should they be? Posted: 10/30/2009 10:55:26 PM
No...he wasn't open and honest with her...you have to be able to trust your friends too to be completely honest with you

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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mate poaching (women who insist on taking another woman's man)? Posted: 10/30/2009 10:44:02 PM
This poacher I knew was my exs roomate...he lived in a house with 5 other people...and she was a recent divorcee. But my ex handled it soo well that I never felt threatened or jealous at all...she went so far as asking him to go into the bathroom with her at a party after me and him were just teased for being in there for awhile. He wasn't flattered by her aggressiveness he was freaked out by it and so she didn't get too far or anywhere for that matter with him. The outright aggressiveness was so bold...I think she was jealous of the healthy relationship we had and because he was such a good bf...flowers for no reason, ironing my shirt. Another time was when me and my ex were out for Valentines dinner and the waitress would stick around and chatt up my ex?!? I was thinking...is this waitress clueless...it's Valentines and we were obviously trying to have a nice romantic dinner and she wouldn't leave my ex alone or is this another jealousy issue?? Because we were out for a nice Valentines dinner she felt compelled to ruin it as she did mention having a bf...why she was telling my ex her personal information is beyond me...not very professional. But once again...the ex handled it well...after awhile she seemed to forget I was also at the table...lol...she would only offer to pour my ex more wine...but then my ex would turn to me and ask if I would like more as she wasn't acknowledging me...unbelievable Does the article explain what types and why these women do this?

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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When You Aren't Attracted to Someone Who Seems Perfect For You Posted: 10/30/2009 2:54:58 PM
Yes...he was a model from Toronto and evidently was asked to model here as well...he had the James Dean look without the bad boy attitude...he was perfect...such a sweety, total nice guy...just the conversation lacked...so it was kinda boring...he didn't stimulate me intellectually...very frustrating to not have the passion when he was such the perfect guy...hot as heck and so nice/kind.

minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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How to build chemistry with the nice guy after always going for the bad boy? Posted: 10/29/2009 11:34:52 PM
It's a matter of just growing out of the bad boys and sorta getting tired of them really and truly appreciating and finding nice guys far more appealing...but at the end of the day...if you're not feeling it...you're not feeling it.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Psycho Girls--- who's had one Posted: 10/29/2009 5:22:33 PM
I was just going to comment...perhaps it's the men that are making these women psycho as I mentioned previously that I see many men married to psycho women ie. in relationships with them...but perhaps they are that way because they're partner causes them to be irrate, controlling, b**y, etc...if their partner were reliable, responsible, faithful, considerate, compassionate, attentive, romantic...a good bf/husband...perhaps these women's demeanour would be more calm, relaxed, in control and less **y ie. happy ^^^Okey, the above posters gf are an exception...I think they're clinically psycho...

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Is it me been insecure or she up to something with her ex? Posted: 10/29/2009 4:45:17 PM
Alls I know is...if you feel there's something fishy going on...there probably is...I had an ex...he started talking about his neighbour...next thing you know she was calling him asking him to help her out...sure enough he broke it off sometime later and came crying back a couple of weeks later...seemingly devastated cried for a week, worst feeling of his life, etc...oh well...and no I did not take him back despite being the most perfect bf I've ever had!! My point is...go with your gut As for friends with exs...there are some exs you can be friends with but then there are some where the chemistry will always be there and has the potential to get out of control...so they are not all innocent so to speak.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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What does it mean when she doesn't want to be in a relationship but Posted: 10/29/2009 3:24:10 PM
Here's the deal...the foundation is there ie. the love then it's the reality of the person that you have to contend with...the difference between the guy I'd be more then happy to do happily ever after with compared to someone who I wouldn't has to do with how good of a partner they'd be ie. trustworthy, considerate, domesticated, doesn't do drugs, not an alcoholic, not in bad business ie. gangs/drug dealings, faithful, kind, reliable, compassionate, etc. You're ahead of the game compared to other guys because she does love you...but she has to be realistic and also consider the possibilities of how good a partner you'll be to help ensure a happy/secure/less drama future...if she's smart So reflect and think about how good of a husband/father you realistically could be...if you pull it together you might have you're happy ending after all...Good luck!!

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Here is my theory on why I am the ONLY one he has ever been faithful to Posted: 10/25/2009 9:51:40 PM
As someone mentioned earlier...a serial cheater is not so much dependent on external factors ie. attributes of his/her partner but is based on an flawed internal character condition...it's only about his needs, his wants...and seasoned ones get better at it...I was dating someone and even proposed when he was found out...so despite wanting a future with me...he messed up and cheated...but prior to being caught...he gave me absolutely no reason to believe he was cheating...I could get a hold of him anytime, anywhere...we spent every second we could together...but my gut was telling me otherwise despite the perfect condition/scenario he had set up. So, despite what appears to be perfect on the outside and what he's telling you...you can only really trust yourself...and chances are...you are bang on.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Psycho Girls--- who's had one Posted: 10/25/2009 12:18:06 AM
Interesting...I've seen so many guys married to said women...am I right or am I right My last ex is even currently in a LTR with one...rumour has it he's been cut off from his family, friends and I was probably the first to be cut off from his life...as they say...men love B****...and nice girls get taken for granted

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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When a man marries because his partner got pregnant does he ever trust her? Posted: 10/24/2009 11:57:40 PM
In a number of situations I've seen couples get pregnant and the guy was more then happy to marry her...I would assume than that he always had the intention of marrying her...getting pregnant just saved him from the fear of asking...it just became the natural next/expected step

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Ex Posted: 10/24/2009 9:00:52 PM
Ex's are an ex for a reason...and will likely be an ex again for the exact same reason...the ex/kids will continue to be an issue for him/your relationship...make his decision/confusion easy for him...bow out and get on and go forward with your life...don't let him hold you back in a no go relationship

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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flipped turned upside down...? Posted: 10/23/2009 9:22:10 PM
Nothing wrong with calling her out...it's actually quite impressive when you do...gives her an opportunity to reflect and correct her behavior as well thereafter...not sure why you'd be in the doghouse...she has to be real with herself too and take ownership for her actions...if you don't...you'll never learn and improve as a person nor your relationship/interaction with your partner.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Stay In touch ? Posted: 10/22/2009 8:36:55 PM
It means keep in touch...like call/text once in awhile...she assumes because you're going to be apart or too busy to see each other to keep it casual and call whenever but if you want something more serious and committed to making an effort...let her know :) Good luck!!

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

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Is this man for real Posted: 10/22/2009 7:10:55 PM
Now that's romantic!! If she feels the same way...wow...that would make one beautiful story These things happen...for some...they know pretty darn quick

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him? Posted: 10/22/2009 6:28:15 PM
Things are different these days with women in the workforce...I have friends who would much prefer the guy to stay home and take care of the kids...granted it's a mutual agreement...I wouldn't have an issue with this arrangement...however, in another case my friend was depended on to be the breadwinner and not out of choice as her husband refused to get a real paying job and contribute...in which case she resented her position for years. At the end of the day...it should be a team effort with no one expecting the other person to assume a specific role but simply expect to share the roles unless one is truly more comfortable with one role then the other which is agreed to by both parties.

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

Msg: 411 (view)

Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man? Posted: 10/21/2009 9:46:15 PM
I know...my bad...I could learn a thing or two from some of the guys I've dated...but I'm not that bad...I've planned a really nice ski trip for his birthday with champagne and roses waiting for us at the hotel and it was all a surprise

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Loss of trust Posted: 10/21/2009 7:21:43 PM
I think you have enough evidence to justify moving out of that situation. When ex-lovers are still in the picture, no matter how good their intensions...it can cause friction and anxiety among couples. If he really loved you, he would in a polite way tell the ex-lover that in the best interest of his relationship he cannot see her. I agree...

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Are people that have been in FAITHFUL ltr's better lovers? Posted: 10/20/2009 7:44:40 PM
I don't think cheating is so much indicative of bad sex in the relationship but moreso the result of a number of other things such as a bad relationship, getting involved with someone who's inclined to cheat and/or the cheating person's own insecurities...alternatively someone in a monogamous longterm relationship isn't because of great sex but is attributable to marrying a faithful partner who is not prone to cheating and/or are in a happy healthy relationship that both parties feel secure in. It could also be stated that this theory is further false in that the cheating person should already know how good or bad a person is in bed prior to marriage...why would someone decide to marry someone knowing it was going to get bad sex for the rest of his/her life...doesn't make much sense does it?!?! At the end of the day...the cheating type will cheat...regardless....

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

Msg: 257 (view)

The Game and its effectiveness Posted: 10/20/2009 6:00:56 PM
Hmmm...wondering if this is one of the tactics....really cute guy comes up to you and says my buddy thinks you're cute...he waves you wave...but in effect it's the cute guy that approached you (aka the wingman) is the one you're attracted to....I was soooo tempted to say...I think you're cute...but didn't...too shy Or maybe not...I've actually acted as wingman for my friends and the guy says...I like you...but no I wasn't going to go for it as it was my friend that was interested in him even if I did think he was cute... Moral of the story...don't take the zig zag/long/with the potential to get lost route...to get what you truly want...you need to make a bee line for it so the goal doesn't get lost in translation!!

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

What makes a lunch 'date' memorable to you? Posted: 10/20/2009 4:55:37 PM
Be a gentleman...she'll notice it and see you in a very positive light...and that is what she'll remember most about the lunch date...how you behaved...be it good or bad...unless the dessert was that insanely good...then that might take the cake...excuse the pun

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

The Stand-By Posted: 10/19/2009 10:46:31 PM
Now that would be the type of guy I'd want to date...he was being respectful to his current relationship and was being honest with you

Minau

Joined: 9/2/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

tell me i have done the right thing and that i'm not crazy! Posted: 10/17/2009 10:48:15 PM
How could you take someone back who left you for someone else?!?! Good riddance...move on....another reason why I don't take back ex's PS. Dating someone at work is never a good idea....another rule I live by

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