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.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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What do you think of video messages? Posted: 11/4/2009 11:51:42 AM
OP: I would find this odd from someone that I just met online. And would wonder what "type" of video is he sending me (i.e. sexual, etc.......)......... I have to chime in here. It depends on how long you've known her and whether or not she reciprocates your feelings. I met a guy recently (different site) who was older than I go for and he knew this before he even sent me a message. He is 2 yrs younger than my Mom, definitely not my type. He was nice, normal, all that jazz and he'd be a good friend to have but I wasn't interested in dating him at ALL. This he knew upfront. After one yahoo IM conversation he asked for my number and I gave it to him - being friends is cool with me. The next morning, literally first thing bright and early, he texts me. Then again during the day and then again at night saying he's waiting for me to come online. I'm immediately annoyed, clingy doesn't do it for me. I'm done and it's been a day. The next morning he sends me a video message to my cell saying he wanted to wish me a good morning and he wished he could be there to make me breakfast in bed - holy creepy as fVck batman! I told him, blunt, plain and simple, you're weird knock it off go away. I'd advise against the video message unless you know she likes you. It felt intrusive to me to click that link while I was still in bed half asleep and have this stranger staring me in the face. Idk, maybe it's just me, but it was just so weird..

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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How to handle cursing Posted: 8/25/2009 6:13:54 PM
Regarding Head Start... I've worked as a teacher's aide, a sub, and a summer sub in several Head Start schools (and Abbott, which is also a preschool for 3 year olds) so I'm familiar with how they run. Head Start IS for low income families, but for some reason it's different w/ the link OP provided (I'm confused, maybe it's a whole different program with the same name???). Anyway, everywhere else in the country, it's a low-income family program, that's the whole idea of Head Start. They're found mostly in inner cities. Nothing wrong with that, though. Head Start is an amazing thing for the kids, they learn so much! When I was in school and my son was 3, he was able to attend Abbott and it was amazing how much he learned and was capable of at such a young age because of it.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 8/25/2009 5:33:38 PM
I love watching a man play guitar. When they're really into the music, he gets this intense look on his face, he's totally caught up in what he's doing and you see how passionate he is, THAT gets me going! My most favorite date ever was an ex taking me to Guitar Center to watch him try out new basses. That was a night HE will never forget.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Strangers Touching your Babies. Posted: 8/23/2009 10:26:04 PM
Pitch Blease, your attitude is disgusting. Why did you even post in here if you don't have or even like children? Thank God you don't like kids, I wouldn't want you anywhere near my BLESSING (who is NOT a broken condom or a lack of birth control). Maybe we should all be grateful you won't be reproducing anytime soon. Oh, you're "that girl" who yells at strangers' children and you say that proudly? If you yelled at my kid or even tried to discipline him, you'd get the beat down of your life.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Strangers Touching your Babies. Posted: 8/23/2009 3:10:53 PM
That pisses me off, when people think it's ok for them to touch my kid. My son is 9 now and we still hear everywhere we go how cute he is, what a gorgeous young man, how he'll be a ladies man when he gets older, and it's been all his life. When he was little, people would think it's ok to pat him on the head, "Ohh what a handome little man!" or approach him and tell him he's so cute. That bugged the crap outta me, we teach our kids Stranger Danger and these people just don't think clearly when they approach a little kid like that. I always say "Thanks" but then firmly add "Do not touch my child". Give them a good glare too if they're overly creepy looking.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Help me here - what to do after meeting a psycho? Posted: 8/23/2009 1:14:19 PM
Why do so many people seem to think it's the hip new thing to have a "stalker"? You can block a sender's address so you no longer receive their emails. You can block specific phone numbers from texting you. You can block usernames on all IM clients. This is unnecessary drama. Block everything and move on... though I've noticed when people start these "stalker" threads they seem to enjoy the attention otherwise they'd take the simple steps to prevent their so-called stalker from contacting them. Call the police lol.. they'll probably have a good laugh at the naivete of someone who doesn't understand how to block people on the big scary internets.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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what do you see when you look at a 'viewed you'? Posted: 8/21/2009 1:41:47 PM
I don't look at the "viewed me" link because what exactly is that link? A list of people who didn't contact me, soooo why would I care who they are. If they're not contacting you, I'm sure they have a reason so who cares who looked?

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Like a guy, but mutual friend(ex bf) doesn't want us to date..what to do? Posted: 8/21/2009 12:36:11 PM
^ Not all men have this "locker room talk" about the women they see. Indeed. But I didn't say "all men" :) A gentleman doesn't tend to get into the specifics of it all unless it's necessary. A gentleman also doesn't chase his best friend's ex girlfriend, so my opinion of the guy wasn't too high to begin with, hence the locker room talk warning. Most "locker room talk" is bullshit machismo... which is why it doesn't last much past high school and early college OP is 21 so we can assume the two guys involved are also young, again, locker room talk is prevalent at that age; whoever scores the most tail is the coolest guy in the room (I so don't subscribe to that idea, but the youngins usually do).

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Dating a dad of an undiciplined child Posted: 8/20/2009 1:43:12 AM
^^ OP is single now, 2 years after this thread was started, so I think it's safe to say she isn't with that guy anymore.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Like a guy, but mutual friend(ex bf) doesn't want us to date..what to do? Posted: 8/20/2009 1:40:58 AM
are there any ideas of how to get rid of his jealousy? Ya: Don't date his friend! Thank God I don't know any chicks who would do this to me.. Any ideas about how to breach this problem and still have both of them in my life? Good luck with that... and don't forget that men love their "locker room talk" just as much as us girls love our coffee chats. They'll be comparing notes. Ew.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Dating a dad of an undiciplined child Posted: 8/20/2009 1:32:26 AM
I'm curious as to why someone would dig up a 2 year old post and then pop that baby back up to the top...

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Single moms and pictures of their kids on profile Posted: 8/12/2009 2:02:11 AM
Some of you sound like paranoid crazy people. The way some are talking we should cut off all television shows with children in them, remove all printed ads with child models and lock our kids up in the house so no one looks at them until they're adults. Get a grip.

.Selena.

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Hard Economic Times Posted: 7/31/2009 12:29:54 AM
That was CLEARLY a spammer. Anyone who took the email seriously is a fool.

.Selena.

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Middle Eastern Dating Posted: 7/28/2009 12:08:42 AM
OP, I don't know the exact heritage of the man you're interested in, but if you watch the movie Not Without My Daughter, you might have second thoughts. The scary part of the movie is that it's based on a true story and the laws depicted in the film are really laws in Iran. Be careful.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Date Advice anyone? Posted: 7/26/2009 3:53:52 PM
OP sounds like a 12 year old on her first date.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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MSN/IM phobia prevalence causing people to go POOF! Posted: 7/23/2009 10:01:27 PM
So I tend to exchange a decent (say 10-20, as an example, but its not a hard limit) number of POF emails and I eventually ask the person I'm talking to whether they have MSN. The mention of MSN or any other IM program, in my experience, ends any further contact - i.e. instant cutoff of all responses. This has happened with over 80% of the people who I've chatted with on POF. Some of my acquaintances "in real life" who uses POF - both men and women of varying age - report similiar numbers. If you're waiting 10 - 20 emails before you ask for a phone number then you're just wasting this girls time. You would go from 10 - 20 emails to how many IMs before you ask the girl on a date? When I'm actively looking for someone I don't waste my time on those guys who are interested in just email chatter or wasting hours and hours on IM. You want to get to know a girl? This is what the phone and face to face meets are for. If you're looking for just friends, then fine, go for the email/IM relationship but if you're looking for a date, don't wait 20 emails before making a move. That's just lame and the girl is tired of waiting.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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stood up! Posted: 7/19/2009 1:36:06 AM
It's not the first date but the fourth or fifth. When did this happen? If everything went well for four or five dates and all of the conversing in between (phone calls, emails, etc) was good, and the guy gave me no indication that he planned to disappear, I wouldn't assume he was an ass if all of a sudden he didn't show up for a date. I'd first worry something bad happened. I'd wait a reasonable amount of time to hear from him, but I wouldn't just jump the gun beforehand and think he was evil. After a reasonable amount of time passes and you don't hear from him, THEN he is an ass.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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haven't heard from her in 2 days. Posted: 7/19/2009 1:17:11 AM
People online disappear. It happens all the time. Most of the time you'll never know why, nor should you care if you barely know them. Move on to someone new.

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Boxers or Briefs or Boxer Briefs? Posted: 7/18/2009 11:08:57 PM
Boxer briefs are the best

.Selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Rude people Posted: 7/16/2009 2:23:04 PM
RyRy863, you do look like Stephen King. If you haven't seen the first part of Creepshow (part 1) then you should look into it. In any case, why not just delete the first message? Clearly a person like that needs to start trouble and insult someone because she's insecure.. and a loser.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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I might as well ask. Posted: 7/7/2009 3:14:00 PM
Profile review forum: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingForum94.aspx

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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What constitutes a creapy guy? Posted: 7/7/2009 9:36:39 AM
This: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12693084.aspx

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Ladies is it really that bad? Posted: 7/4/2009 11:08:14 PM
OP, MMA fighters are sexy, I'll give you that, but I can tell you from experience why they're a turn off. My ex boyfriend was into MMA and also jujitsu and when I first met him I had no idea what it took to actually be involved with someone with these interests. The injuries seem to be permanent, I worried constantly when he was going to the Dojo, it's just stressful. I hated seeing him in pain.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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'Quality' of messages? Posted: 7/4/2009 10:53:43 PM
What percentage of mails that you receive do you a) read and b) are nice messages that you would want to respond to? I get several emails a day and I do read all of them, but don't reply to all. The "nice messages that you would want to respond to" are few and far between online. Additionally, I would be interested to know if there are any repetitive phrases that have you rushing for the "Next" button? Yes and this one is so annoying: "I loved your profile" but no clarification as to what they actually supposedly loved about it. A smarter man would follow up that sentence with something they actually did love on the profile, but alas, it's almost always the first sentence in a copy/paste form letter.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Do Smart Guys Intimidate Women? Posted: 7/4/2009 10:38:44 PM
Intelligence = turn on. Intellectual elitism = MAJOR TURN OFF.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Deceptive profile text Posted: 7/4/2009 10:34:12 PM
My profile, as it is currently written, depicts an accurate description of me when viewed in it's entirety. Come on now.. lol.. it is not completely accurate. There are lies, plain and simple. I don't think that just because you explain the lies further down on the page that makes it ok. You didn't answer my question, would it be ok for the fat girls you dislike so much to post their skinny pictures as long as they explain in the text that they're not skinny anymore? But anyways - sticking to the topic at hand, in my personal experience (and I'm sure most women have noticed this) with guys online "must be open-minded" almost always means "Must be willing to fall on your back on date one."

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Deceptive profile text Posted: 7/4/2009 10:18:51 PM
OP, so you're saying it's ok to lie on your profile as long as you clarify in the text? So all the fat girls you despise can post their formerly skinny pics as long as they state in the text that they are not skinny these days, but what the hell, they're working on it so that counts, right? I don't think so, but that's jmo... ETA: I'd never ever judge anyone for weight alone, but OP another discrepancy in your profile is you have Average listed, yet you again contradict yourself in the text portion by admitting you're a few pounds over.. Why not just make your profile entirely accurate before you post something like this topic? I was laughing at your posts, I thought they were funny, but with the hypocrisy..

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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do women really know what they want? Posted: 7/4/2009 8:06:21 PM
Oh Jesus - the word "want" is in 4 thread topics near the top of this forum right now.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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He's Missed So Much Already Posted: 7/4/2009 3:41:16 PM
I feel sorry for your daughter after all if she misses out on a good dad, she only has you to blame... no one else... This statement is wrong on so many levels. OP did everything she could do to contact the guy and let him know she is pretty sure he is the father. This is a tiny helpless baby, a human being who he possibly created - he is a grown man and needs to put drama aside and get tested to see if he is the father. If he is, then he needs to step in and take care of his daughter. Letting petty drama get in the way of that would be HIS fault, not the OP's. She is not stopping him from seeing the baby, quite the opposite actually. If we go by your statement, then all fathers in the world can walk away from their kids and say "Well, too bad, the Mom started drama so I had to walk away" and they wouldn't be wrong for doing it.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Advice on a woman who is taking it very slow Posted: 7/3/2009 11:57:23 PM
some women are like a fine wine, its worth the wait if you want a nice smooth drink ^^ I like that answer.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Michael Jackson dies in LA Posted: 6/25/2009 11:06:36 PM
i mean jezz whose next patrick swayze (he is looking more sick everyday here) its aweful... That's when I have my nervous breakdown. I'm a huge fan of his, 20 years of love for his work, namely Johnny Castle. I've got to be the biggest Dirty Dancing fan in the world, no one can possibly love that movie more than I do. I can't think about Patrick's illness, it just breaks my heart.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Michael Jackson dies in LA Posted: 6/25/2009 9:49:36 PM
I remember when my daughter was a baby...less than a year old...sitting on my knee, and just bouncing away to the song ''The way you make me feel''. And later when she was about three dancing and singing to "Smooth Crinimal''. And the beat goes on... we teach our kids to love good music and not the garbage being thrown around today. My son does love Miley Cyrus but it's mainly because he thinks she's the prettiest girl he's ever seen lol.. other than her, he loves GOOD music (when he was 6 he was walking around singing Message In A Bottle and Carry On My Wayward Son). He likes Michael Jackson because he first heard Beat It and Smooth Criminal on one of those Guitar Hero games and because Back To The Future (his favorite movies) have 2 MJ references. My son watched CNN with me for an hour before he fell asleep, which is cool because most kids wouldn't have a clue what happened, or why it's even so important.

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Michael Jackson dies in LA Posted: 6/25/2009 9:41:31 PM
How many of you were huge fans of his music when he first started getting really big? He was my first celebrity crush, I was about 7 years old. I loved scary movies even as a very young child so I loved Thriller. Anyone else remember watching the Making Of Thriller on MTV (back when MTV was actually good..)? I used to dance outside on the sidewalk squares pretending I was in the Billie Jean video (so lame lol) and when the red jacket with all the zippers came out, I HAD to have it. I loved that jacket, I couldn't believe my parents bought it for me lol. When I lost that jacket a couple years later, I was devastated. I stayed a fan until New Kids came on the scene and I don't remember looking forward to any MJ stuff after the Black or White video. I remember being so excited for that video, watching the premiere.. but after that, nothing. Then it was teen lust for boy bands and The New Mickey Mouse Club. Anyway.. anyone else?

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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You know you're getting old when ... Posted: 6/25/2009 6:07:01 PM
4. I walk into a room to get something and forgot what i came in there for by the time I walk in. I then proceed to walk back into the original room i was in to remember what i wanted and have no idea . Seriously, I do this ALL the time. If I go to get a bottle of water, I'll wander out to the living room and just end up doing something else, then something else, then head back to my bedroom and much later think, Hmm where is that damn water??

.selena.

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Michael Jackson dies in LA Posted: 6/25/2009 3:43:56 PM
Ok, who clicked delete on this? It isn't redundant. Some people...

.selena.

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When should the woman offer to pay? Posted: 6/25/2009 12:21:53 PM
LOL - wouldn't that be funny? If your guy lives in the same city as I do, we might be on to something here..

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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When should the woman offer to pay? Posted: 6/25/2009 11:55:11 AM
I think it depends. I had a boyfriend years ago that flat out refused to let me pay for anything for the first 6 months of us being together. He wouldn't let me buy him a cup of coffee, or pay for a DVD rental...nothing. He wouldn't even let me pay for him on his own birthday... I dated a guy exactly like this a few years ago. I tried, in vain, to pay for things but he refused every single time. Wouldn't even let me pay for pizza or a simple DVD rental. It was also the same with his birthday. We broke up before then, but a couple months prior I'd been talking about what I wanted to do for him and he said if we go anywhere, he's paying. He wasn't all macho about it, he was just.. I don't know, he acted like it was unheard of for a woman to pay, it was second nature to him, and that it was the gentlemanly thing to do. I didn't necessarily agree, but he was so sweet and I thanked him every time and never took it for granted. You're in Jersey, and he is around your age - maybe it's the same guy lol.

.selena.

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Can pot smoking really be a turn-off? Posted: 6/25/2009 11:35:37 AM
Greenpope, one has to wonder why you even posted the question in the first place. You don't seem to want opinions that differ from yours anyway. Anything anyone has said in here has been countered with all of your reasons why pot is not that bad. You asked for opinions, we gave them. Accept them. To answer your 2nd question, about whether I'd think the same if I didn't have a son: Yes I would. It's still a crime. Why would I want to be around people who break the law and could end up in jail. I hate drama and I try to lead a very simple quiet life focusing on just the important things right now and adding a criminal to the mix would be.. not good.

.selena.

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What is the common thought of a mixed race person? Posted: 6/25/2009 11:20:33 AM
Sorry, I stopped reading at the word "God". I'm not religious and I don't believe in all that mumbo jumbo. This is exactly why I am not one to post anything personal on the internet, people love to give their opinions, and they love to do it even moreso when someone isn't asking for one. I really truly do not care what anyone else's opinion is of MY choices and MY beliefs and MY experiences because they are just that - MINE. Don't like it? Too bad. I won't come back to this thread again and I won't comment on anything else directed at me in this thread, so to reply is futile. I also see you emailed me and it will be unread/deleted because you don't want a discussion, you want to preach. No thanks. Have a good day.

.selena.

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Ex-girlfriends boyfriend.... Posted: 6/25/2009 10:13:22 AM
Zaidensworth, if your page is private then it's simple: He wants to see your page so he can see what she's saying, commenting on, etc. If your page is public, he probably just wants to keep his enemies close..

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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Why don't women delete the responses from men on this forum Posted: 6/25/2009 10:09:55 AM
5) And finally: This is where the ladies hang out.

.selena.

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Can pot smoking really be a turn-off? Posted: 6/25/2009 10:04:47 AM
Well then regardless of whether or not I could end up in prison, I have a son who I devote my life to raising and I don't want him growing up thinking it's ok to break the law ~ setting a good example means showing him through my actions what is and isn't proper. Associating with people who break the law is not proper. Just my opinion...

.selena.

Joined: 9/3/2007

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What is the common thought of a mixed race person? Posted: 6/25/2009 9:59:31 AM
and claiming to be Caucasian (a ridiculous word, as the majority of "Caucasians" do not hail from the Caucasus) when you are self-evidently not entirely Caucasian is a bit silly So putting Hispanic on my profile when I am not entirely Hispanic would NOT be silly? You make no sense. It's my personal choice, and frankly it is none of your business. I really don't give a rats ass whether or not you approve. Moreover, as a self-appointed spokesbeast on behalf of Puerto Rico (province of New York), We officially protest your Daddy Issues. Daddy Issues because I don't like my father? Umm.. ok. You know what I think is silly? Your entire post.

.selena.

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Can pot smoking really be a turn-off? Posted: 6/25/2009 9:50:42 AM
If a guy smoked pot, but was honest and publicly discreet about it would it really be that big of a turn-off, and if so, why? Huge turn off. I have a child and don't feel like going to prison for someone else's mistakes. If I'm with a guy who does drugs and his house gets raided or he gets pulled over while driving, if I am there at the time I'm going to be in trouble. The fact that pot smokers think it should be legal is irrelevant, it IS illegal no matter what your opinion is.

.selena.

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You know you're getting old when ... Posted: 6/24/2009 9:24:13 PM
- Remember actually getting out of your chair to turn the knob on the TV.... for the 5 channel selection. And our parents' volume remote was the kids. Mystie, this one made me laugh lol.. Just today my son and his little "girlfriend" were watching TV and during a commercial complained it was so loud. I said "So lower it" and he says they can't find the remote. So they're looking all over my bedroom for it rather than doing it manually and when I went to the TV to lower it on the actual set while they look for the remote, my son turns around and says "You found it?" I say "No, I lowered it myself" and they're both like "How'd you lower it?" I told him back in the ancient days when dinosaurs roamed the Earth, people had to use the little buttons on the TV to operate it! I mean, they're not stupid kids, they're aware the buttons are there, but in this day and age it simply does not occur to them.

.selena.

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You know you're getting old when ... Posted: 6/24/2009 7:46:29 PM
Oh! And my son having computer class in Kindergarten. We didn't even have computer class in high school. At the last preschool I worked in, the 3 year olds knew how to work the computer. I brought some of my son's old babyish computer games for the class and was surprised when they all knew how to load the games and what to click on. It's amazing how advanced kids are these days.

.selena.

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You know you're getting old when ... Posted: 6/24/2009 5:31:13 PM
You know you're getting old when ... your child can't believe that not everyone has a cell phone and some people actually do use this ancient thing called a public telephone.

.selena.

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Grey Hair: Distinguished, or EX-tinguished? Posted: 6/24/2009 5:13:59 PM
It works on you OP. Leave it be and whoever doesn't like it can go pound salt.

.selena.

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How do I know she's not open-minded enough for interracial dating? Posted: 6/24/2009 5:10:53 PM
I don't know where you guys might have gotten that from in the forum. It wasn't you specifically, most of us have dealt with crazy responses to a "no thanks" so we're just saying, you know, don't go there just in case you are crazy

.selena.

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how to tell someone it is best to just be friends Posted: 6/24/2009 4:57:46 PM
Am I the only one who realizes you can block incoming texts by going to your provider's website and/or calling your provider and telling them to block that number? They can still call, but if they do it continuously they can get in trouble for harassment. Anyways - just be honest with her. She'll be upset, but you have to do it asap. No point in dragging it out and making her think there's the possibility of a relationship.

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