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Budding Dreams

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If there was one thing you could change about the opposite sex... Posted: 1/8/2009 1:07:07 PM
I wish they were less into sports and more into talking about their feelings!

Budding Dreams

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What's Your Worst Pet Peeve About Winter? Posted: 1/6/2009 6:14:46 PM
Getting all suited up to go out and shovel the driveway only to discover I have to go pee! Needing to go pee out on the snow mobile trails and not making sure your hood is well out of the way Wasn't me but a good friend and funny as hell! The hood wasn't detachable so she had to wear it all afternoon. Seriously though I do enjoy winter. The best thing about winter is heated seats in my car! So cozy no matter how cold it is out or how badly the slush builds up on my windshield. Grabbing the iced up wiper as it comes up to the driver side, to thwap it against the windshield, only to accidentally pull it off... Ooops! "Guess I'll need to replace that."

Budding Dreams

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Your suggestions would be appreciated Posted: 1/5/2009 9:52:37 AM
Well done. Thanks very much; I am revising as I read your comments. Quite helpful hints for sure. Keep them coming. I don't have restrictions on my profile but I do wish not to get involved with any married people. Should I put that as a restriction in my settings? I figure it is assumed but that may be a mistake.

Budding Dreams

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Your suggestions would be appreciated Posted: 1/5/2009 9:32:01 AM
Once again I have revised my profile and would appreciate your opinions on how it reads to you. From the user name all the way down. How does it come across. What do you think I am seeking from reading it? Yes, I do need to get a body shot in there. I am working on it. Any other comments or suggestions let me know! Thank you in advance for your time and ideas.

Budding Dreams

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Is seeking my soulmate in a profile a turnoff for you? Posted: 1/5/2009 9:15:34 AM
EEeeeek! Ummm... I do read the rest of the profile but just out of curiosity. It usually confirms this person has fairytale expectations. I don't think that soul mates are an urban myth but it happens when two people are really in tune to themselves spiritually and bond on that level also. It's a rare occurrence in today's society that people take the time to develop themselves to that extent. To me, the term just comes across as needy. Hoping that someone comes along and fulfills them. Meh... to each their own, but it's not a driving force for me to hit the "contact this user" button.

Dear Santa...

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How do you tell someone you've been dating it's 'done' without all the drama? Posted: 12/19/2008 11:29:29 AM
I agree, not by email. 3 months warrents a more personal appraoch. In person, in a public place. That may deter some drama. Also keep it more civilized. No I don't think you should be informing him of what it was that made him less desirable to you. Someone out there may find those qualities endearing . As you have mentioned, he is a "seasoned dater" so it goes with the territory. Leave it to his friends to let him know those qualities. If he bothers to ask them. It is admirable to want to help him to find more success in his next relationship but I doubt it will be welcome advice given the rest of your message. Nor will he take it in and reflect as you hope he will. I have been there and it sucks! Easier to be cold hearted and just move on with out a second thought! Haven't mastered that one yet! Best of luck with it and let us know how it goes.

Dear Santa...

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Holiday Events and the single folk ..... Posted: 12/19/2008 10:54:00 AM
Nawww not pity at all! It was interesting to read your way through as you got closer to the date of the event. Then the follow up report to bring us up to speed! We have all been there. It kind of reminded me of Bridgett Jones Diary! I have something to share. A year ago my single best friend had a Christmas dinner and dance sort of thing to go to and she was flying solo at the time. She lined up one of her great friends to go with her (a woman). She was told that it would not be a very appropriate thing to do as it was a 'couples' event!! Grrrrr.. Singles are people too! Sigh ... Oh well she made up for it by getting pretty hammered and one of the sales men was seen heading home, the next morning, wearing the same outfit as he went to the event in! Not recommended for all but it worked for her and she never confirmed or denied the rumors!

Dear Santa...

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Your Christmas Wish Posted: 12/19/2008 10:39:24 AM
First I wish for all the soldiers and peace keepers to return safely waving their countries flags high in the air also. No more bloodshed... BrockOOO send me a note and I will set you up with my sister in Sudbury! That would answer her wish and yours all in one! She is on here too. Pink Hamilton... if you can work that one out let me know how and I will get my Dad back for one more. He loved Christmas! Ozymandias... If you are up to the Lindsay area I will give you a fantastic hug without you asking! 1/4 to 1 and DreamerPaul I will be wishing good health for you guys and for my Mom! For me I wish for spiritual richness. And a sexy fella with kind eyes and silly sense of humor waiting for me when I get home from family Christmas. Not Christmas morning! I will be hanging with the family that would just be weird! Country Music fan.... good question. Safe and happy holidays to all!

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Turning back the hands of time Posted: 12/19/2008 10:13:21 AM
Sounds sappy but I am content with were I am in my life today. I agree about the base ball bat comment though. There were a few times in my life when I made terrible decisions. Yes, I was aware at the time that they were not really the best way to go but ... sigh.... I learned the lessons! 'School of Hard Knocks' for me. I believe the tuition was cheaper!

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I need a lady's opinion? Posted: 12/17/2008 8:54:49 PM
Hmmm... Yah! What gives with the lack of pic in the profiles?? This was on OP profile I'm also interested in becoming friends with any ladies I meet. More like interested in being friends with ladies if they put out!! If not watch out! Why the hell would anyone want to coherce an other person into having guilt sex with them. That is just broken!!

Dear Santa...

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What does this mean? Posted: 12/17/2008 8:43:13 PM
That could mean that she is not into you as some said but there is the possibility that she is not good at communicating in text on a computer. Not everyone shines in this atmosphere. I agree send out your number and see if she would like to chat. Honestly I think it is a remote possibility but if you feel the need give it a try. NO call means she is not for you. Good luck phoenix.

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Montel Video Question Posted: 12/17/2008 8:24:02 PM
I am jaded or at least this will come across that way. I couldn't even listen to the whole video! Get me the barf bucket. Way too unrealistic! Lust happens. Occasionally if your looking with your eyes wide open you will be able to make it past the honeymoon stage (foking like rabbits) then move to the get to know you stage. If your awareness of what you desire and have an unobstructed view of who you are dating, you probably have a fighting chance. This is where the work comes in. Choosing to continue and work towards building a lasting relationship/ friendship.

Dear Santa...

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How long will you stay? Posted: 12/17/2008 8:14:52 PM
You started out asking how long would you stay if you were getting no results? What are results? NO responses, few responses, responses that you don't want? I would stay as long as it was still fun for me. Change up your profile. A quick write up can not accurately represent the many facets of a persons personality. Take inventory on your self? Get some friends going here to help get feedback on your approach. As for looking in other venues, groups or social outings. YES!! Seeking a partner on here is like only having one line in the water when ice fishing. Total craziness! Get out and mix it up and make sure you have fun in it. It's not only the goal but the journey that's important.

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Recall sex situation Posted: 12/7/2008 4:06:32 PM
YES........ Ohh sorry got lost in thought for a moment there.... Umm.... thinking about those select moments has given me an idea on what to do this evening! Thanks!

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Are more women turning to women because they're fed up with men? Posted: 12/7/2008 3:56:25 PM
This was an interesting post to read! Not quite sure where all these women came off boasting how much they love, desire, want, men only?? Seems rather self serving on their behalf and came off as defensive. The question is "Are women more pliable in regards to orientation?" Answer: YES I wish I could remember where the report was posted that stated just that. It was a 5 year study and very enlightening. Women and their make up emotionally and psychologically sets them up as more apt to being bi or gay. Women who state they are lesbian because of the way men treated them previously are striving to have an excuse that their family, friends or co workers will find acceptable. Blame transferal. "It's not my fault I am lesbian/bi. Instead it's the fault of the men." Mabey giving them an excuse to make it more acceptable to themselves also. None can turn anyone on to the same sex. That's ridiculous! Pair O Docks: I love your posts and you are a fantastic fella but don't be dissing the Sex and the City ladies! The show is mainly about female relationships and the it presented the ladies at fault for as much of the demise of relationships as the men. If you want to, pick a program like the L Word perhaps! As hot as it is, they do more male bashing. That's the one thing I can't endorse about the program, not into gender bashing.

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is she leading me on? Posted: 12/7/2008 2:50:25 PM
I agree go 'quantum' on her. Find yourself a girl who is all in, not teasing you at the end of a leash. Why do girls/guys do it??? Have not idea, as it's not something I do. I'm way too up front for that crap. If I get vibes that are leading somewhere I am not going to go, I let them know straight up. If their feelings persist in an unhealthy way, I remove myself from the situation to avoid misunderstandings.

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How to tell if you're a friend or something more Posted: 9/16/2008 7:53:35 AM
I agree with the most common response here....ASK! I recently ran into a similar situation. Consulted with some friends and their suggestions were the same. Stick your neck out and perhaps you may get the response you want. Don't ask and you both will be tap dancing hiding your feelings and waiting for a signal you both are not giving out. Sometimes you have to go out on a limb. Just do it!

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What does your profile name mean? Posted: 9/1/2008 2:42:53 PM
Means Yes, Please.... contact me, chat with me, lets go out and meet each other, hug in greeting, kiss goodnight if it goes well, meet again if we hit it off, perhaps more....... again if it goes well! Oh and people say I am damn polite. Often I get teased for saying "Thank you for asking." Interpret it as you wish!

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Dating vs Long term Posted: 9/1/2008 2:30:26 PM
Pretty nascar3fan, the thread may have been done a dozen times but the same people may not be participating so the info shared may be fresh! Thank you for sharing that. I know I have not responded to one of that subject. I have dating selected on my profile because that is what I want. I'm in no hurry to enter a long term relationship for personal and professional reasons. Tomorrow I start college and imagine spare time will be limited for the coming 4 years. If I find some one I wish to share more time with we can negotiate needs and time commitments and see if it is we can compromise. Not my goal though. Simply meet people and enjoy sharing fun conversations and time spent together. In my opinion, if your looking for long term put on your profile and I won't contact and waste your time. We have different needs.

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are women 'really' looking for a date? Posted: 9/1/2008 2:09:10 PM
Well stated Lori. I would like to add to those experiences. I am not seeking long term or anything really serious right now. Life is full of change and I want to keep my personal life simple. Therefore I have dating listed. I'm pretty up front about what I looking for time wise. Just because I contact someone, I do not expect to have a connection. It's just an opportunity. Further conversation will confirm a mutual interest. If it takes a few conversations, so be it. If it goes nowhere that is part of the steps in our quest. I accept it. As for draining. Yes I find it that too. I take breaks from here frequently. I agree, everyone on here is a real person. I find it rude to not reply to all emails. To me it is like meeting someone on the street and saying, "Hi. Nice day." The other person turns their head and looks away. So insensitive. But I guess it's a part of the site. Hang in there OP and don't let it get you down. We have all been there and will be there again.

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No Picture = More Responses? Posted: 9/1/2008 1:52:00 PM
No, I disagree. My sister had to pull her photo as the influx of mail was impossible to keep up with. If you have poor or bad photos perhaps it will but not if you have attractive pics.

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going to cinema on own Posted: 8/31/2008 10:19:53 PM
Those boys are goofy! No you are not weird! I too go to the movies alone. It's by choice. I do have friends who I could ask but often choose not to. It's usually a spontaneous thing I do by myself. It's rarely without interesting moments. I often end up in great conversations with people there in the line up or at the refreshment stand. Having said that, when I went to see Titanic alone the theater was backed and I had to sit beside this fella. During the hot scenes he was clearly breathing heavily and it was pretty creepy!

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Very curious as to what guys think...? Posted: 8/31/2008 10:00:12 PM
Aside from the already mentioned leg humping, I think the drool is a dead give away! It used to be so simple to interpret. pull your hair: You're cute gross you out by putting a bug in your sandwich in the lunchroom: Pretty smile trip you in the line up to the cloak room: Lets meet in the playground after school throw sand at you: I want to kiss you stick gum in your hair: you are hot... lets hook up fling spit balls at you: Self explanitory!!! Sigh ... those were the days

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SEX ADDICTION!!! Posted: 8/31/2008 9:26:32 PM
If rehab doesn't work for David can I have dibs on helping him with his issues!!! Mmmmmm....

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Boyfriend on dating sites... Confused.? Posted: 8/31/2008 9:17:58 AM
Lots of people are on here and state in their profiles they are happily in a relationship. If you have both decided to be together exclusively then he is being a dork, if that is not listed in his profile. What is the point of making him do it. If he was a the same stage in the relationship as you, he would do it. Move on girlfriend. Find someone who want's the same as you. OR stay and let him play while he is with you. I don't think the updating the profile and changing pictures is the issue it's the lack of the letting people know he is in a committed relationship.

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having needs vs. being needy Posted: 8/31/2008 7:18:31 AM
"Dont walk in on him masterbaiting to porn and **** that you feel ugly because they're hot chicks on his monitor! Because we aint even looking at her soft flat tummy anyways!" ... ain't looking at her soft flat tummy anyways!.... Thanks IrishGod!

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can u fall in love over the interent Posted: 8/31/2008 6:58:38 AM
No. You can fall in love with the way the type written words washing over you makes you feel. Or, as stated, you can fall for the dreamy bubble you built up regarding your possible prospect. After spending some quality time together, getting past the honeymoon period, there could be a strong foundation to build a loving relationship. But not before that happens. Up till that takes place, it`s just a beautiful dreamy bubble to escape to. You will fill in the blanks as you want them to be not actually how they are. If you keep your life the way you want it you will be less susceptible to creating an imaginary relationship that will make you feel good. Keep it real.

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Why do you take the birth control pill? Posted: 8/30/2008 5:15:11 PM
Worked for me for 17 years. NOT a waste of money! Good try though. the pills effectiveness will be affected by antibiotics and there is human error to take into consideration. IMO not a conspiracy. Next forum...

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are you really happy being single? Posted: 8/30/2008 5:08:13 PM
Guess no axe yet! I have dating on my profile because I want to date! Going back to college presents some obstacles and changes and a change in perspective. I am happily single. Yes, happily single! Eventually I will enter the life of someone who I connect on the levels I aspire to but till then... happily single. This site presents opportunity. Long term or a relationship is not a goal. My goal is to have a satisfying full life and meet up with someone who compliments me.... and I them. Till then happily exercising my privilige to date. It's an option on the list. Not seeking long term but if it happens So yes happily single. Occasionally I spend a night here checking the forums instead of cuddling on the sofa but where would we be without each other!!! Forumless!

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If you meet someone who claims to have been cheated on by thier last few partners.. Posted: 8/30/2008 4:57:16 PM
Thanks for responding NotGivingUpJustYet. Sorry, you experienced that.Grrr... My last statement didn't stand on it's own. One who accuses others of cheating may be one themselves. Just attaching attributes they have to the ones they are with and won't stop till they prove it to themselves. Projecting. That's the way it goes.... At times. NOT always! OK I am going on a limb here. Usually I keep tame in these forums, but I believe if a person (male or female) trashes their ex's you will be next! Not on topic but similar. "My ex was such a cheater...Blah Blah... You are so loyal!" "My ex's were so cold and uncaring....Blah, Blah... You are so warm and kind." It's the comparison that is a red flag.

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If you meet someone who claims to have been cheated on by thier last few partners.. Posted: 8/30/2008 3:59:07 PM
Cheating has so much more to do with the way the new quest fills the void in a cheater. It's emotionally based. The cheater is lacking some emotionally in a way the new quest is filling. That's it that's all. A history of being cheated on is a red flag for me. Yes, trying to work double time to prove I am into this person and justify valid platonic relationships is not way to live. There is also the phenomenon of projecting. Someone who has their own cheating issues will project them on their partner. If they have a wandering eye it may mean they will view the world that way and assign those attributes to their partner. Regardless of if they are present in their partner or not.

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Should I take offense? Posted: 8/18/2008 4:31:29 PM
Grrrr.... Yes bodies and attraction go hand in hand. "Jazz and Bourbon" has a good point. Toss a full body pic up so it will weed out those who have a specific body type in mind. My profile has none and I am rethinking it. Suggestions: Don't take it personal! People have restrictions in mind based on their ideals not on you personally. Remember mates bring their issues to the table long before you enter the picture.

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Why does animal instinct have to be scientific! Posted: 8/18/2008 3:33:44 PM
I just looked at that. Yes I omitted the "Trying" part. But it still stands.... them leaning more about the chemistry part will not eliminate the mysticical part. Can't see how it will hurt to let them go on looking into it? What is your question, really? Share. Just because we have sent people and a monkey into outer space doesn't make it any less mysterious?! Am I mistaken? No matter. I will be continuously mystified and mesmorized by the chemistry of love and lust.

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Why does animal instinct have to be scientific! Posted: 8/18/2008 3:26:16 PM
Oh gawsh I think I am flattered you got a bit of my point. But you put words in my mouth... "...understand love is worthless along with passion..." Love is not worthless nor is passion. It keeps us foraging forward. We are emotionally driven. Love, hate, pain, joy, sadness, lust, satisfaction..... enjoy them all. Try feeling a few on for size. I am not sure where to get fitted for them but I will goggle that and get back to you. I am now feeling a little nausious over the words shoved in my mouth. I think I will take a Gravol and rinse with mouth wash!

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Why does animal instinct have to be scientific! Posted: 8/18/2008 3:06:44 PM
Oh Elastoplast you should have kept Pamperpooch000. She could have helped you with these issues. She has some reasonable ideas. Re read the post. It may sink help you out. Unless you didn't really have a question after all and wanted to bandstand about your views on this issue.

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Why does animal instinct have to be scientific! Posted: 8/18/2008 3:02:05 PM
I have read a few scientific journals and many books outlining the basis of chemistry. None the less I am still susseptable to its magic. Perhaps it's a choice to learn more but willingly stay susseptable to the woos of hormones. It's all in how you choose to live. I think it's more about identifying than understanding, when we are referring to scientific discovery. When emotions are involved science falls to the wayside. Sensation and sentuality is personality based, not subjective to journals. Love, sensuality, and lust will always be wonderous no matter what the scientists unearth.

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Can you answer me this Posted: 8/18/2008 2:43:54 PM
Let's see now. You are ready to get out there and start dating. He keeps blowing you off. My big question for you is "Why not get on with things?" He seems to have issues and is not really showing you he is ready for spending time with you. Why hang around. There are pleanty more fishies in the pond. Take your pole and move on. You can not fix him. He has to fix himself. He is not he last man who will show an interest in you. He may instead be the one who drags you along while he sorts himself out. Do you want to go through that? End it and go forth to see what is waiting for you. Something more suited, to what you desire, awaits you. I guarantee that!

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needing time? Posted: 8/18/2008 9:38:18 AM
Doesn't sound to me like he is ready to step into the relationship you are ready for. He has reservations and they may not have anything to do with you or what you are offering at all. Especially nothing you can fix or change about yourself to make it work. Super fantastic fella or not its not for you. Try to see it for what it is, as sad or disappointing as it may be to see, it is not a very well suited match. I am sorry you got hurt. <div class="quote"> How can he still mean those things he told me... Really only he can answer that but, I am thinking it means when you were spending time together, you made him feel as good as he made you feel. Be satisfied with that and move forward. <div class="quote">Every woman needs someone to make them feel special and important. Men and women should find a way to make themselves feel "special and important," which comes from within. The excitement our mates bring to our lives should be icing on the cake. I wish you speed in ending this relationship and opening yourself to others who are ready like you are. His reservations likely have nothing to do with you at all. You deserve a mate who will put as much into a relationship as you do. He is out there waiting.

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POF Meet and Camp over at Sunset Cove Marina - 16th August Posted: 8/17/2008 2:06:16 PM
I'm glad I had the time to get out there. Next event I will bring my trusty tent and make a night of it. I met some more fantastic people. Thank you to all who put the time into organizing it. Rest assured I will be back as often as my homework will permit. "Yes, Please: I like your way of thinking!".... Well, all I can use as an excuse for that, is I was born that way!!! Thank you. Hugs

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POF Meet and Camp over at Sunset Cove Marina - 16th August Posted: 8/15/2008 5:44:30 PM
You guys sound like a great group. Looking forward to meeting you all and having a fun evening.

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Smoking, non smoking, with, or without children seating in a restaurant? Posted: 8/11/2008 4:10:27 PM
Sorry, I must have worded the post incorrectly as I do not endorse smoking in a closed area with children. We now have laws about smoking with children in your car. It is a punishable offense. What I meant was 4 choices or 4 separate places in a restaurant to be seated in. I recall taking my son out of a local diner when he was young with him tucked under my arm like a sack of potatoes. That happened twice and once in a retail store. While in the restaurant, we had not even finished our meal. I simply stated 'that is not appropriate' and if he continued we would leave. He continued and we left. It was worth it, for me, to pay for the meal and not eat it if he understood that disruptive was not accepted or tolerated. No anger no yelling, just the facts. He wanted to discuss it and wined to go back but I held firm. The message was clear and unmudled by tones over talk. You behave this way and we don't go out for special meals. Clear. After that, I felt confident to take him loads of places and he was well behaved. I took him to some of my lectures and labs at school and he had things to do or he could listen if he wished. But, rest assured, he was not disruptive . Granted I had the dynamics of one child as a single parent. Some have more. I guess I do agree if your children are disruptive deal with it. Remove them. Bring them back when they have developed more skills necessary to behave. I am sure the kids would benefit from successfully experiencing adult environments, rather than having them in one and constantly being reprimanded. No one wins in that situation. Oooh I guess is was just band standing.... forgive me!

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Smoking, non smoking, with, or without children seating in a restaurant? Posted: 8/11/2008 12:00:28 PM
A few weeks ago a friend and I had a discussion about children in a fine dining atmosphere, specifically regarding misbehaved children. I am not talking about diners or fast food joints but in a place where they have a wine list and the bill would be excess of $50 plus for one person. Often a component of the price goes to ambiance, which should exclude a negotiating parent constantly unsuccessfully bribing a child in hopes for god behavior. Is it right to have a special area to seat children and their companions? Or a few people, I spoke to mentioned that misbehaved children have no place in a fine dining establishment at all and the insensitive parents are to blame due to their terrible judgment. Thank you in advance for sharing your experiences or thoughts on this matter. I know this can be a touchy subject so keep it civil.

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Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/7/2008 2:23:32 PM
NO!!! Many of the posters had it right it will harbor bacteria which will take you out of commission for a bit. Not to mention uncomfortable. The latex condom is also an issue. Wouldn't want that rain coat to break down and end the fun before the big finish. Word to the wise, it will break down latex toys too; if you are so inclined. I must have read that somewhere. Buy cheaper pantie hose or shampoo but don't skimp on expenses in this area!!

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Kiss on the first date? Posted: 8/7/2008 12:36:47 PM
I have read the ribbing about your choice of words and I think you have learned your lesson so lets get down to business! Kiss on the first date??? Sometimes I have and sometimes I haven't. In my opinion, you will be more apt to turn a girl off by doing that before she wants to, so save it for the second date and perhaps settle for a hug . What's the hurry? As far as I know dating doesn't have an expiry date! Best to ask before doing either, unless it is painfully obvious she would enjoy it... like her lips are on yours!! Reading body language when you are nervous and she is too would be a disaster!! It's hard enough to do it when you are sane. Hint: the dive bomb technique is sooooo un KEWL! Practice at home with your pillow or a lamp post along your street to refine your technique! Oh ya... IGNORE YOUR BUFFOON FRIENDS!!

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One date, then the ship sinks? Posted: 8/7/2008 11:44:49 AM
Too bad you were so smitten with her. But the long and short of the story is for what ever reason she is not available for you. Best case senario: inktinblood walks away scratching his head to go home and answer an email from a new interested lady's on POF. Perhaps this time it will be the right girl for him. Good luck my friend you seem sweet.

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Making fun of girls...and they laugh! Posted: 8/7/2008 11:29:27 AM
Sure some people, not just women express themselves with sarcasm and insults. AND they seem to enjoy it. It' soooo not my thing. I don't do it to other people and expect the same from those around me. I love a good laugh and find tonnes of things to giggle at in a day without slamming another person. If that is the way you express yourself, go for it. It's just different than me. Someone suggested you don't do that if you are just meeting a girl. I disagree. Be yourself, especially from the get go. No sense pretending you are someone you are not. Eventually the cat will be out of the bag and you both will have wasted each others time and probably be wazzed off over it. Be yourself, and you will attract a girl who also enjoys the sarcastic digs. That's the goal isn't it?

Yes, Please....

Joined: 9/3/2007

Msg: 2 (view)

Attaching your pic to your first message? Posted: 7/25/2008 12:29:06 PM
I have no issue with an introductory mail that comes in with a picture attached. Valid question though because there are a few unwritten rules with this site that defy logic but I don't know the rules on this one?? It should be interesting to see the responses.

Yes, Please....

Joined: 9/3/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

thong tan lines on a guy.....Is it Ok Posted: 7/17/2008 1:24:08 PM
What the he!! are we talking about??? A nice azz is a nice azz no matter what the tan lines look like. And a not so good azz is a not so good azz no matter how much fabric is covering it. My vote is..... Whatever!! Wear what you like. If this is a deciding factor in dating just buy me a bunch of cats, label me a spinster for life NOW and put me out of my misery. So, tan line or no tan line, if the master of the banana in the hammock is talented, who the he!! cares!

Shell Seeker

Joined: 9/3/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Nervousness on a first date Posted: 4/13/2008 11:59:41 AM
I tend to have the mini-anxiety-attack before meeting new people, like "Redcassandra". But once the date gets underway, I relax and feel comfortable. No, I would not rule out a fella for being nervous provided he was not rude or mean. Usually before meeting someone, I get a good feel for who this person is. The second or third meeting is usually different, much more relaxed. First meetings can be such an intimidating thing, so I can easily see justification for nervousness and cut some slack. A little can be kind of endearing or cute. If that person can't seem to get past his nervousness, it could make me feel like I have to be more relaxed to compensate. So in that situation I would have to move on. "Strangerstill" LMAO..... great tactic! Very smooth! I am sure I must have dated you and sorry about the puddle.

Shell Seeker

Joined: 9/3/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

Introductory Lines- Lets Hear Em'! Posted: 4/12/2008 5:18:32 PM
Shay, you are not alone in your lack of skills in that area. I too am an extrovert, but when I meet a nice fella at the grocery store, gas station, library... I can manage eye contact and perhaps a "Hi" but then I blush and my brain scrambles for the door. It leaves me to continue on my own, while it waits in the truck giggling at how I fumble through the next awkward few minutes. NOT PRETTY! Here is one I have heard: "I lost my phone number can I borrow yours?" Good luck to all you little fishies out there; it's a rat race!

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