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goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Our 15 year long relationship ends and he meets someone on here and starts a family in 9 MONTHS! Posted: 11/5/2009 9:28:17 AM
Sounds like they were closer in age, possibly also in maturity level. They were keeping it real in realizing that they don't have a lot of time left and they both wanted to do it. I don't see anything wrong with that. Sounds to me that even if they don't work out as a couple that child will still have 2 great parents that love them. I know she may seem like the other woman to you but at some point you have to let it go and move on.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Our 15 year long relationship ends and he meets someone on here and starts a family in 9 MONTHS! Posted: 11/5/2009 9:23:15 AM
The way I see it he could have done this for a couple of reasons. One maybe he didn't feel you were the one for him. Two maybe he felt you were pressuring him to make a major decision that he felt he should make on his time when he felt he was ready for it. In fact if you go back in your mind and replay some things he may have said to you when you were dating all the evidence and info will probably be right there. Maybe you weren't the one for him but the one that he met to put the idea in his mind, to plant the seed so to speak. I know thats a hard reality if you wanna be with the guy and you thought he was the one but at times reality sucks. If you try to get a man to do something when he is not ready or willing to do it that will make us want to do it even less, especially if you make an issue of it but if you chill out a little and give us time to decide how we feel about it and not make somewhat of an ultimatum about it we may just decide to do it the thing is you present us with the idea and let us decide if we want to go for it or not, its still a mutual decision. Now as you put it you "lost it" if a man sees a woman as mentally unstable he is very unlikely to want to have a child with her and be stuck together with her for the next 18+ years. I know it may sound harsh to you, but I'm just keeping it real. Would you want to have kids with a person that you thought was trying to push a family on you and had problems controlling his emotions, probably not.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Is a person cheating if the are 'seeing someone yet maintain a open profile Posted: 11/5/2009 9:04:56 AM
No my friend she is not cheating at least not yet, now she may be setting herself to cheat in the future but at this time unless she has struck up a conversation with someone in regards to meeting etc, or has in fact done so or gone further then she is not cheating. That is not to say that she may be miss leading people, weather on purpose or not is all in her mind.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys? Posted: 10/18/2009 10:08:32 PM
"Then the women were told that the shortest man was kind, caring, dressed well, etc.....still no takers. Finally, the women were each told he was a millionaire. They STILL wouldn't date him." Yeah you had me going there for a moment till you said that the women wouldn't date a short man even if her were a millionaire. I think we all know better don't believe me ask woman how many of them would date Tom Cruise, still don't believe please check out an Episode of Flavor of Love. Even 2Pac said that he used to go to the club and the women would all just look passed him, then once he made it big and struck it rich the same women were all over him, and he was the same dude. All these men are 5'7" but trust me men look alot taller to a woman when he is standing on fat wallet. It may not be all about the money but it helps. (Heck if I were richer I probably wouldn't need to be on this dating site lol)

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Do i stick with it for the kids Posted: 10/8/2009 12:04:58 PM
While everyone here seems to be busy berating this lady and telling her how bad her life style choice is it seems that no one is addressing the question she asked. I'm reading lots of soap box and seeing little help. Come on people stick to the question and try to offer some advice that will help her in her current situation, not just talk about how you feel about how she got in the situation. Answer the question as to what should she do from here?

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Do i stick with it for the kids Posted: 10/8/2009 8:51:42 AM
Being in a relationship just to please your kids is not for the right reason and I doubt it will ever work. I would say there is no reason for him to move in right away. Let him have his own place and you two date each other for a while. Try to see if there is still something there for eachother. If you have a candle burning for one another then try to make a go of it. But if it feels like going through the motions it may be time to try something else.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Do women want to have kids after 33-35ish? Posted: 9/22/2009 9:11:09 PM
Almost every woman I've ever met wanted to have kids in there 30's or not. I'm thinking maybe you have met a few that have already been there done that and are looking forward to the day the kids move out the house so they can enjoy their freedom. Many women crave kids and freedom its only after they have kids that they realize you can't be a good parent and have both.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Faith, Morality, & Politics... Posted: 2/5/2009 10:59:59 PM
Just as what you think affects how you live and the actions you take so Faith and Politics are related and thus inseparable. If I for me my belief in God is a chief governing force in my life and living in a way that would please Him , then of coarse I should think it important to those who have rule over me too. If you are one that doesn't believe in God then why should you care if others do, if you believe there is a God then it would only make since that you would want your leaders to believe as well.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Report: Nearly A Thousand False Statements In The Run Up To The Iraq War Posted: 1/27/2008 3:10:43 PM
"Wag The Dog" Yes Clintons bombing of Iraq during his administration was termed "Wag the Dog" its a term that means that he was using it as a distraction. Congressed had recessed at the time and had caught him with his hand in Monica's Lewinsky's cookie jar, He attacked Iraq because he figured that his chances of being removed from office were far smaller if the country was in a time of war at the time. Its funny one of his first acts of power was to reduce the size of our military by a third, terrorist bombed one of our battleships he didn't do anything, Usama Ben Ladin declares America the enemy and threatens a holly jihad against us, our solders inform him of that and tell him we have Usama in our radar scope and he didn't do anything. No military attacks, when was the only time in 8 years Clinton ordered any kind of a military attack, it just happened to come during the impeachment inquiries. I see it like this when his but was on the line Bill wagged that dog for all that it was worth. (And thats a fact)

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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WTF ? WAS HE THINKING? IN A SPIN Posted: 1/4/2008 8:08:11 AM
Tell me again why you want to stick with a philanthropist. If there is no trust there is no relationship. To stay would make you the victim. If a man shows you who he is, believe him. Quote the Raven Never More.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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POFer's who won't date? Posted: 11/22/2007 8:28:11 AM
Well I understand a ladies need to be cautious when it comes to meeting people on line, (we men have to be cautious as well) but there is such a thing as being too cautious. If you are at a point where you don't feel its a good idea to date then don't set an arbitrary date to start dating again. If you are not ready to date now and you want to use this site for forums only it would be better served to remove your pictures and state that on your page. I can't tell you how frustrating it is for a man to finally come across a lady that will respond to him on this site, actually start to get a little conversation going in hopes of starting a relationship someday only to hear the I'm just looking for a friend speech. I say this on behalf of all guys, trust me it is not cool. We put a lot effort in trying to meet Mrs right, and if you are not ready to be a candidate for it it should say so in your add or for people who date outside the internet when you first get the since that this guys trying to hit on you. Its not right to tell a guy you are ready for dating while you are on a date, especially if its a date that we are paying for. You may not mean for it to be but its a slap to the face and again Not Cool!

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Why Do Women Care when a Man dates a Younger Woman. Posted: 11/11/2007 8:22:28 AM
You know not to turn up the heat but for some reason this seems to be an instant sore subject to some women. If a man sees a guy with a woman thats younger we either don't care or we just say well good for him, but this seems to bend some women all out of shape why is that?

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better??? Posted: 11/11/2007 8:19:20 AM
I'll save you some time and energy on this post. Younger, Older, we just don't care much either way men are interested in better looking. In fact in my opinion I think what would make most men happy is if we can find a woman you is attractive and treats us right, once we find that we just say to hell with this rat race.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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funny how time doesnt heal any wounds Posted: 11/11/2007 8:00:30 AM
If he cheated on you for this woman then it probably was never meant to be. Remember everything happens for a reason if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. He cheated on you with her, then tells you that everything is fine with her but it should have been you. Sounds like he was trying to cheat on her with you. Any guy that has ever been in a good relationship knows that the proper thing to do if you see an old flame is to turn around and go the other way. If his relationship was going so great with her he would have done that. They are probably going through some issues because he has a way with ladies and can't be trusted. So when you are going through the remembrance of this emotional connections, think back hard and remember exactly why it didn't work out with you two. Remember what he made you feel like, what went wrong. Instead of looking back with regrets ask yourself which would you rather be, the ex-girlfriend of a man who cheats or the wife of a man that cheats. The answer is obvious.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Is Water-Boarding 'Torture'? Posted: 11/6/2007 9:26:57 PM
Initially I wrote : If hurting them mean saving American lives then hurt'em. Jemune responded with. The unpleasant irony being that it's a false notion and the reverse is true ........ My response to his reply is to say apparently what he didn't know is that we (Americans) did in fact used water boarding on Khalid Shake Mohammad and as a result he coughed up enough info for us to stop at least 10 different terror cells that where ready to strike. It also lead to multiple weapons catches and the prevention of since less slayings on American soil. This is already a fact, so the use of water boarding has saved American lives. What will not save our lives is if the terrorist think that even if they are captured that we wont do even the slightest bit of harm to them. If they have none thing to be afraid of then what incentive do they have to narc out their plans. With that type of thinking why not just shut down gitmo and just put them all in the closest Holiday Inn, give me a break.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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High sex-drive/Low sex-drive. Can it work in a relationship? Posted: 11/6/2007 8:40:57 PM
Sit down with her let her know how you feel honestly and openly. You two should be able to come to an understanding so that in the future if she sees that you are not being quite yourself she'll know what time it is. Just pray that she is not one of those that will try to use it as a weapon against you. For all those that say that it will never work and just move on (cause trust me no matter what thread is posted the greater majority of the time people say the same thing 'it ain't worth it, it can't work, dump her and get on with your life blah blah blah, very few people say to weather the storm and work it out, and then we wonder why we can't seem to get in a relationship that last for any amount of time, but I digress. Just want to say that it can work, I was more in her shoes where I was the one that said I don't need it that much. (Thats right a man with a low sex drive we do exist) none the less once I got with a girl that really did it for me, someone I was really in love with I swear it seemed like every time I turned around we were doing it. I think it can work it just depends on if you got the right person, cause if there is passion there will be plenty of sex.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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WHY DO MEN HEAVILY PURUE, THEN ONCE THEY SEEM TO HAVE CONQUERED THE PREY, LOSE INTEREST? Posted: 11/5/2007 8:59:31 PM
Well thanks for the ((cyber hug)) hug nen. No I'm not saying I didn't learn my lesson in fact the 2nd time was way different from the 1st. I'll try to tell this one without being so long, drawn out and detailed. The second time happened when I was 27 exactly 10 years later with a completely different kinda of girl, as a matter of fact I would say they were polar opposites. The first girl was a girl more my kind of personality sweet, happy mildly flirtatious but in most cases an all around good girl, I met her in church. The second was more of the rebel rousing hot headed redneck type who despite how rough and tough she could be on the outside there was another side to her that was just as sweet and lovable. It was part of her that people saw that were very close to her, in retrospect I think she showed others the tougher side because she had been hurt very badly by the guy she dated right before me and she was putting on a strong front so that it wouldn't happen again. Whenever I first met her I saw the sweet side but after I fell for her she would just keep doing things that caused problems in her own life. I got to understand that she was passionate and tough as nails and became very used to dealing with her crap. (About as used to it as you can get anyway) Long story short I kept being me and our relationship worked like this, she would start a fire and I would put out the fire. Every time I turned around something else was happening and she was tough through every bit of it. I told her time after time again that the foolishness had to end, until finally one day she looked at me all starry eyed and started being all sweet and lovable from out of no where. No I didn't up and leave her because of it because trust me I was in love to my eyeballs but for some reason that even I can't figure out for a moment once she started being extra nice and everything I just wasn't as attracted to her as I was before. Now trust me I wanted her to just act right for so long that when she finally did do it it was like dealing with a different person. I didn't know what to think, I tried to cover but she caught on to me quick. She started acting like a hooligan all over again when I finally did get her to settle back down again and tried to make since out of why she started with the crap again she told me it was because she could tell that I didn't love her as much when she was acting right. Sheeesh it was continual ups and downs with this girl, we finally broke up for the last time because she was supposed to leave town for an extended period of time, first she said it would be for 6 weeks, then it was supposed to be for 6 mos to a year. Now I had just gone 90 days without seeing her because she had gotten herself arrested, she had been out for 2 weeks and was planning on leaving again. So I told her that I love her but when ever she left the relationship would be over, she said that she understood. We spent the most perfect night together in a hotel room recollecting all that we had been through, knowing that we where holding each other and doing everything together for the last time. In a sentence it was pure love and it was pure bliss. When I put her on the train to NY the next afternoon I had no regrets. Whenever she left I told her that despite her plans that I had a feeling she'd be back in 6 weeks she laughed. Six weeks later she called me from her home and told me how things didn't go as they were supposed to in NY and how she wanted to see me again, but this time I just explained to her that I had moved on with my life and told her that I couldn't continue with the running back and forth any more. She tried to apologize even bought me flowers but I never took her back. Do I regret it to this day, well my head says no but my heart says yes. As troubled as it was I've never known love like that before or since.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Is Water-Boarding 'Torture'? Posted: 11/5/2007 8:16:21 PM
No I don't think its torture, as a matter of fact I am baffled as to why anyone in this country would be concerned with how terrorist are treated. You have to do things that are unpleasant to a terrorist what do you think they are going to cough up info if we just ask them nicely, or tell them if you don't give us the answers we need Mr or Mrs terrorist then we'll put you in time out. Give me a break these people have very little regard for human life, could care less about inalienable rights we don't need to worry about giving them protections that they do not receive in their own country. If hurting them mean saving American lives then hurt'em.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Why are women so hung up on a mans height? Posted: 11/5/2007 4:47:47 PM
Glad you brought this thread up, its a joy to know I'm not the only one going through this lol. But if you think that its a challenge looking for a woman when you are short, try being short, black and looking for interracial dating, and to that being a nice guy and not a thug and then you have my situation. Women often act surprised when they find out that I'm single because some consider me attractive but at 5,7 when the average height for a guy in my area is 5,10-6ft 1in, they look right by me. I do see some guys that are my height or shorter that have good looking women but they seem to be more that thug type for some reason or another women go for that. When I approach them like a regular human being that wants to strike up a conversation and they hear me speaking good English and see that my pants actually comes up to my waste (where my belt is coincidentally), they see a low hair cut no braids or dreads, and regular teeth not a grill again they look right past me. I don't sweat it though cause the way I see it, I'm going to be me and if the real me is not the guy they are looking for then they aren't the girl I'm looking for. I know there are good women out there that interested in a man for the content of his character and not just because hes tall or hes a bad boy lol. PS on a side note I just got out of a relationship with a girl a couple of months back that left me for a taller guy, then she turned around and left him for her original boyfriend who had just gotten out of jail. And one thing that she taught me unintentionally is that it makes no since to fret over these women that do that. It didn't work out with me and her because she had no sense on what the meaning of faithful was. So when the taller guy was dating her she was still unfaithful, when the ex-bo/ex con got out of jail and she went back with him, the main problem they had is with trust because he already knew he couldn't trust her because she has been unfaithful to him so many times. So it makes no since to fret over these ladies that past you up because sometimes the lady that seems to be the key to your happiness is just another door way to even more hard times.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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WOULD U DATE A TRANSIENT???? Posted: 11/5/2007 3:53:24 PM
Doesn't sound like you are being paranoid or shallow to me sounds like you have some legitimate concerns about this man, and if he is showing up drunk all the time it sounds like the concerns are well grounded. Even if he is the first guy to show you attention in a long time look at the long term. If he is in this living state on and off for 20 years or so then it sounds like his drinking is a major problem. And if you let him into your life it becomes your problem and your kids problem as well. I don't know maybe hes a charmer or a smooth talker, maybe hes ruff and rugged but whatever the case may be if hes not handling his life very well don't give him yours to mess up. Some times the question is does he make you happy, I think a better question is... is he good for you.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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WHY DO MEN HEAVILY PURUE, THEN ONCE THEY SEEM TO HAVE CONQUERED THE PREY, LOSE INTEREST? Posted: 11/5/2007 9:03:02 AM
I've done this twice and it baffled me when it happened to me cause in both cases I was still very much interested with the woman. But I would say that in my case the first time when I was 17, it happened because I had put the girl on such a high pedestal I had already ruled out the possibility that I would ever be able to date her, I had pretty much stop trying and started to accept us as friendship nonething more. Then she turned around and was interested in me and told me if I were to ask her out she wouldn't say no. That night was magical, it was like living a dream, after it ended I was as high as a addict on any kind of narcotic. But then reality set in, I thought she was too good for me and that sooner or later I would do or say something wrong and she would realize that and dump me in a flash. So I couldn't figure out what to do so every time I saw her for the next 3 weeks I was frozen, barley spoke I was too afraid of making a mistake. Needles to say after 3 weeks of silence I was sure she was going to break up with me so the next time I saw her I broke up with her before she could give me the ax, it was so the opposite of what I really wanted to do but I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it if I were the one getting dumped by the girl of my dreams. As soon as the words came out of my mouth I was devastated and wanted to take them right back but it was too late. She was confused, very hurt and devastated she never gave me another chance, and to be honest I don't blame her. Guess I'll talk about the 2nd time later.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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I don't do separated... Posted: 11/4/2007 3:52:37 PM
You are not wrong for this in fact this is the smartest thing you can do in that kinda situation. A person that is not divorced could get your heart involved then turn around and go back to their spouse at the drop of a hat, leaving you to deal with the emotional baggage while they are back with their spouse thinking to themselves ha ha I still got it. If they are ready for a another relationship they will make sure that they finish the last one first.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Weirdos and Freaks Posted: 11/4/2007 3:47:00 PM
Eddie0221 Wrote :"for every 100 idiots that you meet here, you may come across 1 guy worth giving your time to." My response is I'm kinda thinking that the good guy to weirdo ratio is a little better balanced than that, the sad thing is women really believe this type of thing to be true spouting off some made up pseudo statistic like that is making it harder and harder for us good guys to find a woman because the women "I think are a little to scared that although you seem normal at first something must be wrong with you if you're a good looking guy and you are still single, hmm he must be a weirdo" Hey Eddie stop hurting the brotherhood leave your made up statistics to the census burrow bro.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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If someone asks, Are you married? Posted: 11/4/2007 3:38:35 PM
Carpe_Diem is right I'm 31 and single, never have been married and I just don't see how someone asking if I'm married or not as an awkward question. Maybe its an awkward question if you are married and you are some place by yourself when you should be there with your spouse. (I.E. a bar or club or something of that nature) But generally speaking single people aren't afraid to say we are single.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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What happen to the Jacksonville get togethers? Posted: 10/29/2007 11:25:24 PM
Just Checked out the other website that was just suggested, it seems like they already have a little something going for them, but I don't really see a reason why we shouldn't go ahead and do our own meet and greets with the folks specifically from P.O.F. maybe we can meet with them every now and again but I think the P.O.F. crowd is more oriented in singles meeting and getting to know each other in efforts to get relationships and friendships started. I'm feeling that more than just a group of folks meeting to talk about local clubs, or movies, or discussing****ails. I think it might make a good compliment but we should try to get our own thing up and going first.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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What happen to the Jacksonville get togethers? Posted: 10/29/2007 12:08:59 AM
Well I'm pretty busy too but I since this is a thing that I think we really need in Jax I don't mind helping grab the bull by the horns and helping to get this thing started. I don't really think there is that much work that would be involved, all we need is an central meeting spot, where we can squeeze a few tables together and kinda sit in the same area, then just a few people to put the word out that that is where we are and I think people will show up. The rest will figure its self out. I'll be honest the crowds have been small on Wednesday nights at Mudville so we can start it out there on that night so the group kinda has the place to its self and has room to grow. Since its a sports bar we can eat and drink as we please, shoot pool, throw darts etc and just kinda chill. Plus they do karaoke on Wednesday night, I've been here for a while and I think Jax must be the karaoke capital of the south cause its everywhere here. Hopefully a few good singers and something to do, then next thing you know we've built that up and can pick our next spot to have a meet and greet on another day of the week. And this may come as a surprise but NO I Do not work at Mudville its just where I hang out at from time to time and there are a lot of good people to meet there. javascript:smilie('')

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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What happen to the Jacksonville get togethers? Posted: 10/28/2007 2:08:13 PM
By the way the Wednesday night at Mudville will be a costume contest so if you show up in costume you got a shot at winning $50.00. Just so you know I'm judgeing the costumes and going by crowd response so dress to wow us all. lol (um umm especially the ladys lol) javascript:smilie('') j

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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What happen to the Jacksonville get togethers? Posted: 10/28/2007 2:00:57 PM
Thanks Ebony queen for the free advertisement lol. Yeah we do have a regular Karaoke night at Mudville Grill on Wed's night its in the Arlington,Regency,area kinda where Beach and Atlantic criss cross each other. But I would say that if there is a need and desire to have singles get together in Jax but distance is an issue why not have more than one get together. You could have 2 or 3 weekly meets in different parts of jax and then try to hold a big get together where all the parties meet in one place every now and again. Or you could just have folks meet in certain areas on certain days. You could do Mandarin Mondays as a theme and do it at Harmonious Monks, Playing in the Mud for Mudville on Wednesday at Mudville grille. you can do a Bash at the Beach on Saturday or Sunday. Give people a chance to pick their night, pic their spot, pick there activity it may start off slow with a small crowd but I think once people come along and see that jax already got a plan going they'll jump in for something to do and can meet new friends in the process. Plus I would think there would have to be activities and games to get people that would otherwise be strangers to break the ice loosen up and get to know each other. Thats my thoughts anyway. javascript:smilie('')

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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So I get a few nibbles... Posted: 10/27/2007 12:09:29 PM
Hey Amy I'm not an expert on this but I will offer just a couple suggestions from what I read of your profile. But First let me stress the importances of pics. You need better pics and more pics. Show some off of your smile, something that makes your eyes glow. Do a little posing show a full body shot or two in a nice pants or a pretty dress, nothing slutty but something fun that catches the eye would be perfect. Then as far as your profile goes it is just too wordy, there is no need to mention things that you don't like to do to the degree that you do, and completly no reason to mention things that you don't know if you like to do or not. Shorten it up a little, make it about a paragraph or so of your positive points and interest and leave the rest to future conversations. We will know you as we get to know you. Good luck and happy fishing.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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Pointers Needed All help appreaciated Posted: 10/27/2007 11:53:02 AM
Opening yourself up for anyone on the site to critique your profile takes great cahonas Ese, I just read your profile and there ain't a damn thing wrong with it. Happy fishing my brotha.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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'Shiny' people Posted: 10/27/2007 10:17:36 AM
Depending on the room I can shine it up with the best of em. Let me introduce myself, Hello I'm goodmandkeepingitreal shiny man at large! javascript:smilie('')

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

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She had another mans baby Posted: 10/23/2007 7:21:44 AM
I wouldn't worry about it much, after having a child a woman goes through alot of emotional ups and downs and a lot of times say and do things to their men that they would not do ordinarily. Remember for some strange reason we always hurt the people closes to us the most. Give it some time make sure you apologize to her, do something sweet for her to show your love and go reclaim your love. Love goes through ups and downs, got to cherish the good along with the bad.

goodmankeepingitreal

Joined: 9/5/2007

Msg: 129 (view)

Why Is it you do everything for a woman and then you get thrown to the curb like a piece of trash? Posted: 10/20/2007 1:04:47 AM
Its a people problem we want what we don't have if you do all you can to show a woman you love her and she does not appreciate that then that may be a maturity problem on her part. However it may also make her feel conscientiously that you are less of a man cause she can walk all over you and you won't do or say anything about it, in short you are conquered. Remember its ok to say no at times at to just say you don't feel like it, if she does you wrong call her on her crap show her that you are not an easy person to walk over, by doing so she will respect you more and be less likely to find that next guy. (IE that guy that is a jerk whom she will work tirelessly to try to make happy and her will treat her like shes expendable and will not appreciate a bit of it. A little back bone goes a long way for respect factor.

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Msg: 124 (view)

My BOYFRIEND wants to wait for marriage to have sex. Posted: 10/18/2007 9:16:05 PM
Why wait so long to get married? If you too are ideal in just about every area then hes worth keeping. Since sex is an already over rated experience I'm sure you're gonna get a lot of people on here that say if the sex ain't good then split to which I will say they are dead wrong. Think about it like this if hes not sleeping around with you then he won't sleep around on you. What you have is a good man that will be faithful that you find yourself very compatible with, take it from a 31 year old man that is more precious than diamonds and does not come along often, if you have it keep it. Regarding the sex it will get better over time, as times goes by your natural desire with each other will increase, the joy of knowing that you both are with someone you can trust will lead to experimentation, which will lead to better sex. As a side note if you make him go longer without any form of sex (ie oral pleasures) it will cause him to want it more, make sure you don't nag him about it or keep bringing it up that will cause him to want too less. Be flirty, wear perfumes that get his attention, be sassy, make him want it and want it bad without saying anything or making advance and trust me nature will take its coarse. javascript:smilie('')

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Msg: 10 (view)

Why do highly beautiful girls scare me? Posted: 10/15/2007 10:19:44 PM
I try just glancing at them at first then in my mind get my composure, then just kinda talking to them as I'm looking around the room. I'm primarily interested in the conversation so I can see what type a person she is, if she seems like good people then I can look at her and relax while caring on the conversation. If not such a great person I find a reason to bring the conversation to a end and tell her to to take it easy. Beauty is only skin deep but every guy wants to be with a girl that makes his eyes dance.

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Msg: 19 (view)

Has anyone here had this happen? Posted: 10/14/2007 5:22:39 PM
Last weekend made for 3 in a row for me, I took this weekend off and didn't make any plans, this whole thing is very frustrating for us all, the only thing that keeps me going is hope for a better day, and hope that I will finally meet that good woman that will want me for me and that I want so I can put all these hard trials behind me.

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Msg: 111 (view)

Finding Out Your Wonderful BF has a Record and a Dark Side Posted: 10/14/2007 5:10:26 PM
It sounds like he has the classic sounds of bi-polar disorder. Take it from me it is very hard to be with a person like that. Dealing with the constant bad decisions and the lies they tell to try to cover them up. With Bi-polar people its either all heaven or its all hell, they contain both parts equally. Not to be mean but it'd probably be a good idea for him to seek help and get the right meds and therapy before he tries to pursue another relationship.

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Msg: 78 (view)

Congratulations Al Gore Posted: 10/14/2007 10:52:49 AM
Montreal Guy asked : "So, Bush has stated essentially the same thing Gore has. Gore is a wadical , and Bush is .......still Bush . So, do we cut Gore some slack here , or do we add this to the long list of Bush's errors ?" My answer is this. First part in this Bush is playing politics with this statement none the less he is telling the truth. The President is saying that man is "PART OF THE PROBLEM, by way of Industry whereas Gore is Indicating that man through Industry is "MOST OF THE PROBLEM" both statements verify that there is a problem going on, Bush's statement is verified through the facts presented, Gores is not. So no Bush is not in error here he is just acknowledging that there is a problem and stating that in his administration he will do his best to help to be part of the correction. On a side note even the most jaded of scientist would tell you that Gore's movie fudges the numbers a little bit to come up with the conclusions they drew. There are places in an "Inconvenient Truth" where we are informed that we will loose as much as 20 feet or more of beach in a short # of years. But event he most jaded of scientist have said that at the worst it would be just a couple of inches, not feet. This movie was a fear peace, I think to make people feel even more afraid and shaky in this already scary time to live. I think it not strange that it came out near an election year.

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Msg: 25 (view)

Condoms When is it time to take off the gloves. Posted: 10/14/2007 10:30:30 AM
Where are ya at wrote: "I think every male should be forced to have a condom permanently melded to their penis at age 13. It's the only logical solution." My response to this is even though I know you are kidding (kinda lol) I think it only fair to rebut that its not only the men that do the cheating in this day and age. I've been Mr faithful time after time again only to find out that some times you can't take a woman at her word. Just cause she says that shes going to go hang out with her girls doesn't mean that thats the case. I wonder so much why men have the stigma of being nothing but cheaters when women are oooh so guilty of the same thing. In my opinion (based on life experience) I think women cheat more, because the opportunity to do so is so prevalent in their day to day lives. From fine women to the not so fine so many women get hit on in their day to day lives, and get offers of no strings attached experience, that it takes a women with exceptional discipline and restraint to just say no and be faithful to even the best of men. (but again thats just my opinion)

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Msg: 417 (view)

The illusion of online dating Posted: 10/13/2007 11:58:30 PM
This is a great post you make a lot of good points in it, but you do not take into account the other side of human nature. I'll give you the short hand of it, the same women you mentioned in your post keeps dating and she keeps passing up good guys, then she goes through a slew of bad guys, creeps, jerks and whatever else this causes her to actually change her taste in men and causes her to appreciate a good man when she sees one. She gets burned out dating one bum after the next wanting to give up until finally she finds a good man, and she appreciates him for whom he is. My friend I want to be that good man. Theres a second lesson to be learned from this for both guys and girls for the ladies learn to appreciate and recognize a good man when you see him and give it a chance, and men never give up. Don't try to become someone you are not just to catch the girl, be you and hopefully the right one will come along.

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Msg: 67 (view)

Congratulations Al the bore Gore Posted: 10/13/2007 8:16:21 PM
The Catholic and religion bashing is completely uncalled for.

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Msg: 15 (view)

Being too proper and polite Posted: 10/13/2007 6:27:43 PM
This is so my problem as well. People often ask me why don't you just walk over and talk to a lady, and when I don't they just assume that I'm scared. But I'm really not scared I just consider it rude to walk up on a complete stranger who did not show up in a place just to see me and interrupt her night by trying to come on to her. I want to be myself and not use a cheesy one liner, and even when I do give it a try I have absolutely no idea on what to say. I experience this problem all the time. My advice is to try to talk to her like you would a friend, try to get her talking about herself so you can figure out who you are dealing with. Try to find out if you have any mutual likes or dislike and try to head the conversation in that direction, then just relax and be yourself. (I hope this is good advice, and hopefully it will help)

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Msg: 65 (view)

Congratulations Al Gore Posted: 10/13/2007 6:10:15 PM
Outdoor2 You so badly miss understood me and miss represented me in the quoting me its ridiculous. When I said " Of course I wouldn't expect a guy who refers to Gore as president to see the hypocrisy in any of this." I was referring to the Hypocrisy of Al Gore getting out of a personal jet, into an SUV then into a public hall to lecture everyone on the dangers of global warming, and greenhouse emissions. Now if you read my comments I'm sure you understood that but like most who would support Al Gore instead of dealing with the facts presented in the post you chose to take the low road and just take my words out of context and make your own little bullet points out of them. Next time be a man and deal with the facts at hand sir. It does a better job speaking to your intellect. But then maintaining the integrity of written word is not a strong point for most liberals. javascript:smilie('')

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Msg: 21 (view)

Condoms When is it time to take off the gloves. Posted: 10/13/2007 5:44:07 PM
When you can't spell Condoms....it is time to double up. Well I guess you caught me napping on that one, Just for the record my apologies for the bad spelling on the title of the thread. Other than that the replies have made for a good read. I dated a girl for 18 months once and I don't ever recall not using a condom. She didn't complain for the longest time but when she asked me about doing things without protection I was very reluctant. This did not sit well with her but it wasn't a major issue at, she probably thought I was cheating (which I wasn't) I was more concerned about having kids that I was not ready to have. It didn't really cause a big strain on the relationship but I was wondering how long do most people wait.

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Msg: 31 (view)

What is she trying to tell you when she's complaining? Posted: 10/13/2007 5:09:23 PM
I've been enjoying reading the responses to my question but I just got to say that Genegem I've throughly enjoyed the piece you wrote, I laughed all the way through it lol. But not just because it was so funny but cause it was so true. Thanks for your lets keep up the good input but again I do want to remind everyone to try not to use this as an opportunity to bash the opposite sex. Just for the record ladies despite what the old adage says men are really not afraid to add for directions, trust me we do it all the time, (well at least I do anyways lol)

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Msg: 23 (view)

Things in Afghanastan- what Main Stream Media Is Not Reporting Posted: 10/12/2007 11:19:52 PM
Get Mad baby Wrote: There are no winners in war, only who loses the least. What good do you expect to come from this war? My response is this, where I can definitely understand where you are coming from about there being no winners in a war, I would have to respectfully disagree. I am reminded of the statement "that for evil to prevail in this world all that has to be done is for good men to do nothing." When I think of that I think that if good men did nothing then people like Stalin, and Hitler would have trolloped over millions and left a genocide in their wake. If good men did nothing then one of the flights of September 11th may have very well hit the white house and changed the future of a nation forever. If good men do nothing in Iraq and Afghanistan respectfully then the terrorist and warlords will crush the will of the people who really want a chance to live in peace and learn to grow a successful country. Women would continue to be looked at as less than 2nd class citizens, and more children will be taught that it is their goal in life to strap a bomb to themselves in efforts to kill innocent people with different religious beliefs. Yes its hard to see or think of a good reason to justify the slaying of a human life but if we do nothing and just leave these places alone the bad guys aren't going to decide to act right and treat everyone fairly and give people a chance to live a happy peaceful life. They will keep on raping the week, and killing the innocent in the name of their belief. And if our soldiers don't take stands to stop them, if we do nothing then who will stop them.

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Msg: 1 (view)

What is she trying to tell you when she's complaining? Posted: 10/12/2007 11:05:24 PM
Ok the first thing I want to say is that this is not another hate thread on the ladies, its actually an attempt to try to understand you better. If it helps out some of my fellow men out there then good for us all. Heres the deal I was reading the infamous "Men are from Mars ..." Book and one of the things it list as a difference in communication between men and women is that when faced with a problem men will tend to seek another's advice to try to find the answer or fix the problem, where as when women are telling you about a problem they are having they are looking more for empathy instead of actually trying to get help on fixing the problem. I have 2 questions on this first for the ladies is this really true. Then Second why just complain about a problem why not try to get help in actually fixing the problem instead of just trying to feel better. This may be one that helps us all out.

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Msg: 45 (view)

Congratulations Al Gore Posted: 10/12/2007 10:29:58 PM
edisto wrote :who cares that people will try to make light of this award and gore sharing the win, he will go down in history with former winners such as…. jimmy carter doctors without borders nelson mandela desomond tutu mother teresa anwar al-sadat amnesty international AND martin luther king jr " My response is this. With the exception of Jimmy Carter, Al Gore has done nothing deserving of having his name associated with anyone on this list. The personal sacrifices, even to the point of giving up their own lives to help others or their cause is much greater than anything he has ever done. My opinion is putting his name in the same light as these other winners has cheapened the award.

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Msg: 44 (view)

Congratulations Al Gore Posted: 10/12/2007 10:16:11 PM
President Gore? Ah president of what country because he was not elected here, it was red verses blue and about 3000 recounts here in Florida and guess what he lost every single one of them. That to the side I tip my hat to Al Gore for winning the award "The peace prize " if you will I'm just surprised that he got it for his contributions to the fight against global warming, I mean he should still be collecting a royalty check for creating the internet and all lol. Maybe this means that he will be giving Tipper another open mouth kiss in public as he walks out of his personal Jet plain, then gets in to his caravan of SUV's, then steps on stage and lectures the country on waistful use of fossil fuels and the dangers of greenhouse emissions. Of course I wouldn't expect a guy who refers to Gore as president to see the hypocrisy in any of this. javascript:smilie('')

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Msg: 1 (view)

Condums When is it time to take off the gloves. Posted: 10/12/2007 9:21:04 PM
Ok so the title is self explanatory but I think the questions merits an answer. How long into a relationship would you go before you would feel safe enough to use alternate form of protection? This one is for everybody guys and gals.

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