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NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 468 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 10/26/2009 6:07:56 PM
I own my own and paid for my own car.. had my own apartment, but gave it up. Mom has her own car but isn't able to drive herself around at the moment. I have my own phone and don't use my mothers line, I still don't appreciate late night phone calls. judge not lest ye be judged.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

Being approached while with your child Posted: 10/25/2009 10:03:53 PM
Is this really a question? Why can't you come over and say hello? I'm trying to teach my child to meet friends his age, why can't I talk to someone my own age? At this point it is nothing more, Now if you don't have kids and are hanging at the playground.. I'd be questioning your true motives..

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

over protective or just cautious? Posted: 10/25/2009 10:01:17 PM
They don't needs to meet your child until you are comfortable with them doing so. If they don't like it then it's thier choice to stay or not and yours to be the best daddy you can. If you are ready to date then date, if not then don't. Noone but you can answer that question.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Datable????? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:36:37 PM
ha ha my 10 year old cooks me breakfast and dinner at least once a week and he does his own laundry.. perfect child? Not yet... but I'm aiming for it

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 465 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 10/25/2009 9:27:37 PM
one rotten apple spoils the bunch. sigh I saw calling after 10 mentioned a few times. Don't you think that's a matter of respect to not call a woman (or visa verca) after a decent hour? Unless of course that person says to call that late or you are in your early 20s 10pm is awful late to call someone.

Notinnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 439 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 10/23/2009 7:26:32 AM
Post above me: Your post pin points the problem. Assuming there is inherent baggage issues solely because someone lives at home is sterotypical and ignorant. Why is the fact that someone lives at home mean there is baggage? Mom doesn't go on date with the other person and in most cases the person can still go out without mom, maybe not for an extended period of time, but for an evening or two. I don't see how this is any different then a working person. A person can't just take off for a week without arranging things at work. So is working also baggage? Clearly I am exaggerating a bit, but am doing so on purpose to illustrate my point more clearly. 2 posts above: I pretty much agree with you wholly.

Notinnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 435 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 10/19/2009 8:42:45 AM
I would be so bold as to say the people like the one described 2 posts above are the minority. Some of us would much rather be in our own apartment or house, but circumstances necessitate otherwise. What I think people fail to do and fail to teach thier children is to "judge not lest ye be judged". No one wants to be judged or sterotyped, yet we all do it. I don't tolerate it, judge a person for who they are, not thier circumstances. Understandly thier circumstances are a byproduct of the type of person they are. In some instances an uncaring, selfish adult is the one who didn't move back with mom and dad, and in other instances the opposite is true. Irregardless of the reason one lives with mom the impact on both lives are profound. Privacy is gone, independence is gone, relationships are strained, roles are confusing. Before declaring a blanket statement "all people living at home are ________" step back and think about the person behind the circumstance.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 324 (view)

what is child support meant for? Posted: 9/25/2009 8:57:49 AM
Big pacific.. Child support is intended to give the child the same QUALITY of life they had prior to the break up. The system is not perfect and I know it doesn't always turn out that way, but that is it's intention. If the child is participating in sport prior to the break up then sports money is part of the child support. If you did not pay for that while together then child support won't cover it. It has nothing to do with the parents and their ability to live and everything to do with the child and their quality of life. ( I do NOT think there should be extenuating circumstances unless there truly is a NEED for extra such as a child get really sick and has tremendous medical bills, or truly needs therapy, bootcamp or something like that.) If a person is living within their means then child support being taken out of their check should not put them on the streets (again this is how it is supposed to work, i understand there are problems with it). I think alot of people needs to step back and reevaluate what is needed versus what is wanted. I go into a lot of peoples homes (married and single) and can't believe all the extras they have that they think are necessary. / soapbox

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 311 (view)

what is child support meant for? Posted: 9/21/2009 9:48:45 AM
KoacNation They aren't going to take the kids away from her if she's a good mom.. You said yourself that she is. But you could probably get them for longer then 1 night. Lots of men are screwed over, I just hate that it is extrapolated out to the majority of women. Most of us aren't like that.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 410 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 9/15/2009 11:51:42 AM
I agree with forums001. People need to take a look at people and who they are before judging them. I just moved back home to help my mother who is now going to be on disability for the rest of her life. It is NOT an easy move to make. It is very difficult to turn your world topsy turvy in order to help your parent/s. I COULD have called in a home health nurse, had her apply for government financial help and visited on Sundays. But I CHOSE to suck it up and be here for her. It is a very difficult move to make and a person is a stronger person for making that decision, rather then calling a stranger and pushing your FAMILY off on a stranger (or group of strangers) . If a man won't date me because of my decision then I would assume he is a selfish person who I wouldn't want anything to do with anyway. Anyone who can walk away from their family when they are in need is a despicable person who is in need of morals and ethics. I have no respect for people like that. Also what would it be teaching my child, if I just walked away from my mother when she needs me? That family is not important? That is a truly horrible lesson for a child to learn.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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TOO MANY SINGLE MOMS Posted: 9/9/2009 11:15:40 AM
A temporary restraining order will be filed if you go to the police and tell them you fear for your life or that the other person threatened you, you feel threatened by them or are afraid they are going to harm you and/or your children. They will schedule a court date where both parities have to appear and if the charges are false the person who lied will be held in contempt of court and fined and the restraining order will be lifted. Also if the party who filed doesn't show the restraining order will be dropped and they will be held in contempt of court. If they did not lie, but whatever allegation is brought to the judge does not require a restraining order, then the order will be dropped. You do not need proof until the court date.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 225 (view)

How come single mothers don't want single fathers Posted: 9/8/2009 6:10:03 PM
hannity: I don't have much of an issue, my issue is finding someone I like enough and who treats me well enough for me to want to stay with. Thank you for sending me luck though. Men online are way different then when you meet them in person. I don't put much stock in what men say on here or women for that matter. :~p I am happy with myself and my choices and decision. Those who don't like them, well that's their issue. :~)

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 220 (view)

How come single mothers don't want single fathers Posted: 9/7/2009 4:38:20 PM
I prefer men without children simply because I find they have more time and are available to go out and do things. I can't stand it when they use their child as an excuse not to go out. Give me a days notice and I can usually get out of the house, barring any prior commitment of course. But I don't discount a man based on his child status. Of course if he (any man)referred to my child or his own as baggage I'd tell him to move on. I can't stand that term. If I had my choice? I'd pick one without children. But as it stands I will pick the man who treats me best, regardless of his child status. I've never had to run home for a child emergency in the middle of a date. I did have a sitter not show up once, but I managed to find another at the last minute. So many single fathers will not go out until their child is in bed and sleeping, which wouldn't be so bad if bed time was 8..but many time bedtime is 9, 10 or later. How late do they expect to go out?

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

TOO MANY SINGLE MOMS Posted: 9/7/2009 4:21:30 PM
wow.. gee.. to late.. kid is here.. its a moot point...felonies are already committed and (supposedly) they have both been punished for them.. also a moot point... now how about some advice that he might actually be able to USE?

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

Child Support and last names Posted: 9/7/2009 9:48:57 AM
wow.. 350 a month? I got a lot less than that.. if you're not out for his money than why do you care? If he can't afford his truck payment then he won't be able to work.. is that what you want? Truck drivers are essentially self employed even if they work for a company. It costs somewhere around a grand to fill the gas tank in a semi. Insurance is ridiculous and it all comes out of his pocket. They can't force you to change his name. You can't blame him for you not standing up to the woman and changing your child's name. My advice. Change his name back (or don't whatever you want to do) and be happy if the dad pays his support and is part of your child's life.( Isn't that what is more important anyway?) PS: My son wants to have my last name.. so i'm going to go and see about changing it. If I remember i'll post here how easy or not easy it was. I live in jersey. I didn't look to see where you live.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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TOO MANY SINGLE MOMS Posted: 9/7/2009 9:35:20 AM
OP: You can go pro se in a court house. I called legal aid (which I believe is federal and every state (or maybe county) should have a legal aid office) and while they wouldn't help me (because they are income based) they did send me a rather large packet of information regarding how to represent myself in court, including what to say and what not to say. It is not hopeless. If you really do want to see your child you can't just sit on your butt and complain about it. You have to do something about it. It is going to be a long hard journey, but in the end you get to see your child's smiling face and it's all worth it. To some of the other people. On behalf of all single parent out there I would like to thank you for the ever so helpful wisdom that you bestow on us daily when you say "well you shouldn't have had a child with that person" or "you should have thought about this prior to getting yourself pregnant" Because we all know that every single parent out there is a welfare recipient who's main goal in life is to live off the the meager child support ordered by the court. We also managed to get ourselves pregnant, as the other parent had nothing to do with the act.. I think I'll change my name to Mary.. (SARCASM if you didn't get it.. that was riddled with SARCASM) And the child is already here, so telling us we shouldn't have had it, is a moot point. If you want to help us and have a legitimate suggestion then great! Otherwise keep your mouth quiet.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 114 (view)

Benefit of Dating Single Dad. Posted: 8/25/2009 6:04:36 PM
Sorry.. I can't. I've experienced the opposite of what you are claiming. The single fathers I've gone out with lacked many of the qualities you list. Their child free counter parts that I have dated, have their act together. I respect single fathers and haven't met one that didn't love their kids and treat them well, it's the other areas they are lacking. I don't want to turn this is to a negative thing, so I'll just stop there. Maybe it has a lot to do with age and area you live in?

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 112 (view)

Benefit of Dating Single Dad. Posted: 8/25/2009 9:21:26 AM
Yep.. just as you have said you've met irresponsible custodial single mothers.. Not all of them on either side are irresponsible of course.. but to say that fathers are better simply because they are fathers is ridiculous. Making a blanket statement like that about any one group regardless of what group it is or the statement being made is ridiculous.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Would you heed another’s woman warning about her ex (your new bf) or just presume she is bitter? Posted: 8/25/2009 7:01:07 AM
OP.. people change.. my sons father has nothing to do with my son or his daughter (by another mother) but he is with a woman who has 2 kids and he is a great role model and dad to them (as far as the woman says anyway) I haven't seen him in years, so that could have changed. I know another man who did the same thing. Signed away his right to his own child, but takes care of his new gf kids and their child extremely well. Also.. my friends father was a crappy father to them growing up and is now married to a woman with 2 girls and he is an amazing "dad" to them. None of it is right, but you are with the right person I believe it works. Also.. to hear him say it.. I'm an overbearing psycho *itch of a liar and everything that happened was all my fault. I'm sure that's what he is saying to his new woman. So he hates me and is taking it out on my son. Stupid? unfair? yup. His loss. I can't worry about his choices I can only worry about mine.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Dads - how can a mother help a son deal with a bully? Posted: 8/25/2009 6:27:35 AM
I got bullied by a boy until i punched him in the face.. it stopped promptly.. Also got bullied by a group of girls.. they used to get off at my bus stop and beat me up.. 4 or 5.. somtimes 6 on 1.. I met a group of friends and found my nitch and wasn't scared of them anymore. They eventually went away. Just be careful with the punching the boy stuff. With the zero tolerance laws hes going to have to do it on the sly or off school property.. Although I do agree, he needs to beat the crap out of him and he will be left alone.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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Benefit of Dating Single Dad. Posted: 8/25/2009 6:17:24 AM
There are good things a single father has to offer. But that's only true if the woman is interested in the man himself and is willing to deal with his child. I'll date single fathers and those who aren't. I've met single fathers or are more irresponsible then their child free counterparts and vica versa of course. No one is better then anyone, it's completely dependant on the persons involved. I'm not knocking single dads. You could say the same about any person who has a child and any person who is a little bit mature.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

I need advice regarding my daughter... Posted: 8/25/2009 6:10:36 AM
He drinks in the morning? He's college student?? The best cure for a hangover back in my college days was a beer... Not exactly the smartest thing.. but.. it's what we did...

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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would u date somebody who has a child they havent ever seen Posted: 8/24/2009 8:43:04 AM
Everything you wrote is just an excuse. I'd not date you because you aren't handling your responsibilities. I was young when I had my child and irresponsible. I had lots of jobs and attended school to fix the situation I created for myself. You need to accept that YOU created this situation, it is YOUR problem and YOU need to deal with it. Stop trying to blame others! YOU created this situation. You and the babies mother. You do not have to talk to the grandmother. So don't. Write everything down that happens, dated and time it happens. Never stop trying to get in contact with your child. Do NOT yell, scream, argue or name call. It accomplishes nothing and only makes you look like an a$$. Get a JOB, ANY JOB. If you are working you are a better person in the eyes of a court. Do not worry about what she is doing. You can't change it, you can't control it. You can only fix yourself. Get a paternity test. Once paternity is established she can't deny you access to your child. She can't refuse the test either. The court will issue a subpoena, but you have to start proceedings and probably pay for it. (the test) I can't believe there is nothing free or really cheap for a person who is low income or not working. You need to do more research. Makes me think you don't really care about the child, you just care that you aren't labeled a deadbeat. I could go on for a long time.. but good luck..

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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I need advice regarding my daughter... Posted: 8/24/2009 8:23:23 AM
Do you know this boy or are you assuming things about him? Is he a bad person? Could he hurt her? Make sure there is actually a problem before you go create one. I know when I got out of highschool I went a little wild. Boys were my reason for living. I drank more then I should and did other things I shouldn't have done. Hooked up with a completely controlling loser and couldn't breathe if I didn't see him everyday or talk to him 50 zillion times a day. Point is I out grew it. Nothing my mother did changed a thing, but I always knew she was there for me. When it came down to it, I chose my family over him and I fought to get away from him for myself. And once i made that decision, my family stepped in and helped me.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 107 (view)

Benefit of Dating Single Dad. Posted: 8/24/2009 8:05:28 AM
mddog... there are plenty of men who have ridiculously low child support ordered and don't pay it and the courts do nothing about it. It's all about which ones know how to play the system and how persistent the CP is. It has nothing to do with gender. I know a good father who missed a payment because he was in Iraq fighting in the war and they issued an arrest warrant for him. I know of a deadbeat dad who owes a ridiculous amount of money, the state knows where he lives and they do nothing. The whole system is screwed up.. but that's another thread..

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 106 (view)

Benefit of Dating Single Dad. Posted: 8/24/2009 7:54:35 AM
How is being a housewife BS? I know lots of married couples where the woman is home with the child and it was the decision of both parents. Before you were divorced did you work? It's a lot easier to build credit back when you've had uninterrupted work and experience doing something. It's almost impossible to find a job that will pay the bills if you haven't worked in 10 years, regardless of possessing a degree. I could see your point if the woman was hiding behind the fact and not pursuing a career or trying to better herself because she was a housewife for so long. But it's not as easy as, OK.. I'm now divorced time to get a high paying job and support my kids. snaps fingers poof it is done. I would suggest that you need to meet better people if the ones you know do not have the things you describe. I don't generally meet people like that and I live in one of the hardest state to make it in. I know the type of people I want to be friends with and those are the people I choose to befriend. It's all a choice. I'd argue that the majority of single parents fit into the categories you describe yourself as fitting into. Yes there are more single mothers on assistance, as there are more single mothers out there. The housewife thing is not BS and most who are on welfare are on it temporarily. It's a small percentage of people in it who are abusing the system, for you to assume otherwise tells me what kind of person you are. I agree with sweetness.. I'll forward you my bills as well.. :~)

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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Single Parent Vacationing Posted: 8/24/2009 7:38:38 AM
I have a son and have taken him all over since he was 6 weeks old. I have never had a problem. I have had to wait for my morning coffee and had the dirty looks as I drug my son into the ladies room. You can't let that stuff bother you. Just look into that sweet child's face and know that it is worth it. What I love about vacationing with my son is we get to do what we want to do. He picks something and I pick something and we get to do both because there is normally time! I get to spend a ton of quality time with my son and I don't miss anything because I'm not distracted by another person. If your daughter is that independent then get a leash. I guarantee that esp at 7, she wears that once it will be enough to keep her next to you. Tell her you either stay next to me or I'll put you on the leash, betcha she'll stay next to you! My son likes to wander off and I actually lost sight of him for 2 minutes in Disney because I stopped to watch the parade and he kept walking. He scared himself so bad that he didn't let go of my hand the rest of the trip and he was 8 at that time! All but one of the vacations I took since he was born would have been suitable for children. I think I've had 3 child free vacations and only my trip to Cancun wouldn't have been kid friendly. Although there is a ton of family activities to do there. I think I'd miss him too much if I took a week vacation without him.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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God Forbid That A Single Parent Still Have a Life! Posted: 8/24/2009 7:24:14 AM
Flame.. I agree with you.. I am looking for my future husband, but I am slow going and don't need a man to make things work for my son and I. I have been doing on my own for a long time and I could continue to do so for a long time to come if need be. The right thing for you to do is not care what others say. That double standard is there to stay for a long time to come. I've been asked who gave me my car, who pays my rent and people always assume that I'm on welfare and haven't attended college. Well golly gee willikers.. I bought my car, I pay my rent, I'm not on any government assistance and I have a degree that I paid for myself. Imagine that. I just smile at these people and ask them the same questions back. I do not care anymore. No matter what you do someone is going to criticize it. and you know something else? I'm know people who are on some government assistance and they are good people, who just need a little help. Nothing wrong with that. I've had CPS in my home a few times, each time the worker walked in my home, met my child and told me they have no idea why they are here as obviously there is no need for them. I could swear they were only called because I'm a single parent and I decided that I was going to go on a date, so I left my son with the neighbors, but of course they don't tell you who called or why. I kinda look at these visits as a good thing. They affirmed that I am doing right by my child and I am taking care of him like I am supposed to be doing. His father is not in our life so I can't help you with the drama other then to say, just don't feed into it. It's your life, she is your daughter. If she is healthy and strong and happy and you don't beat on her or neglect her, then you are doing nothing wrong and don't let them tell you otherwise. I always find that the ones who criticize me the most are the ones who are jealous of me. I don't have a ton of money laying around, but I have freedom, creativity and imagination on my side. I don't have conventional day trips, but I have memorable ones. My child, while he has his faults, is overall very well rounded, more traveled and better behaved then a lot of other children I know. I was criticized for taking my son out of school so we could go see Colorado springs last winter. Guess what. He learned a ton about mountain life and came back in a much better mood, he needed the break. Not to mention.. He will remember seeing the mountains for the first time for the rest of his life, he was so impressed. That to me is more important then anything else.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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have you ever !!!!! Posted: 7/30/2009 8:10:56 AM
ha.. well you're not going to put on a profile that you are a self absored jerk who mooches off the government!! LOL! Of course you only post your positive attributes! But yes the profile is worth reading. I've read so many where men contradict themselves and I can tell they aren't being entirely forth coming. Just have to pay attention.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Did you keep your wedding photos? Posted: 7/30/2009 8:08:41 AM
My ex kept them.. and he shows them to everyone. He won't go back to his ex-wife, but inists it's an important part of his past and any woman who wants to be in his future should know his past.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 392 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 7/30/2009 8:07:02 AM
Exactly! Living at home is not a bad thing unless you are doing so, so your parents can take care of you! That's a huge turn off. If you are home with your parents taking care of them or for some other reason or as a temporary (truly temporary) fix then that is OK. How can you judge someone unless you know them??

Notinnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 380 (view)

Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 7/1/2009 6:47:35 PM
You have to look at circumstances. I face the prospect of moving back home with mom. It's not a certainty, but it's definately a possibility. Not because I want to be there but because she may need someone to live with her. I also could be taking care of my grandmother. I love my own place, I don't love my moms place, but I can live at moms if she needs me to. It's all about the circumstances surrounding a situation. Have to take things into consideration.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 161 (view)

Best question ever asked. Posted: 6/30/2009 9:41:44 AM
I've got a friend in Colorado Springs. She says there are biking and hiking trails everywhere and most people are very physically fit. I believe they were rated one of the fittest cities in the nation or so she said anyway. It's beautiful there. Of course Jersey has some good looking women, but I wouldn't advocate moving here. I've been a lot of places and out of all of them I would move to Colorado springs, if I could move that is.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

Anyone notice the new feature, Want a date on Friday night? Posted: 6/29/2009 6:02:42 PM
Ha ha forget Friday.. I need something to do tonight! LOL!

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 139 (view)

10 yrs and 50 pounds Posted: 6/25/2009 9:34:53 AM
Ohhh.. Ice cream cookies!! With chocolate syrup and sprinkles?? YUMMY!!! I'll go get a bowl..

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 133 (view)

10 yrs and 50 pounds Posted: 6/23/2009 11:44:45 AM
I want a cookie!!

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Approaching 30 and still single .... Posted: 6/20/2009 9:43:39 AM
I'm coming up on 31 and single yet again.. Nothing wrong with it. I'm finding dating a bit more enjoyable now than it was in my 20s.. having said that.. I don't want to date anymore.. I want to get married and move on to the next step. One day my prince will come.. and he doesn't even have to be on a white horse.. LOL!

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

Any other grammar nazis around these parts? Posted: 6/20/2009 9:17:28 AM
HA HA! I made a mistake!! AHH!! I am shamed! LOL! Ah.. I know everyone makes grammatical errors. I don't judge by the small ones. Only the larger ones where people should know better. hangs head and goes to hide behind her English book

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 503 (view)

Do Women really avoid Scorpio's??? Posted: 6/20/2009 8:32:55 AM
I avoid scorpions at all costs.. I mean the stingers hurt I'm sure and they are poisonous; I want to live... I don't want anything to do with them!

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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Did he cheat on me? Posted: 6/20/2009 7:19:06 AM
Ohhh I'm gonna go make popcorn.. This is better than lifetime! Updates.. we need updates!!! (Seriously though... A month?? All this drama??? Do you really need to ask what to do??)

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

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Any other grammar nazis around these parts? Posted: 6/20/2009 7:01:55 AM
Grammar Nazi check Spell check is a God send. No excuses. Nothing is more difficult than trying to read something that is not written in proper English. Many of my friends are also Grammar Nazi's. When they find an error I make, I hear about it for a long time! lol. Semi-colon is difficult, but if you proclaim to have a graduate degree, you should know when to use one! (I've noticed an inordinate amount of people claim to have a graduate degree on this site... Amazing. HA!) I have come across cases where a person is very intelligent when it comes to overall knowledge and spoken word, but when it comes to writing they haven't a clue! I don't really understand how that happens, but I've seen it more than once! I've come to the conclusion that intelligence is in the eye of the beer holder.. err umm.. beholder. What is acceptable to one may not be to another. I do my best to refrain from going Grammar Nazi on the posts here, I just try to ignore and move on. (Grammar Nazi is an official title and is therefore capitalized! HA!) America doesn't value intelligence as much as you think anyway. As an individual we may, but as a country and looking at the corporate and government worlds, it's not intelligence we lust after, it's the almighty dollar. That's another thread altogether though isn't it?? I leave you with the following thoughts... In order to keep a true perspective of one's importance, everyone should have a dog that will worship him and a cat that will ignore him. Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups. Murphy's Law of Combat: "Never forget that your weapon was manufactured by the lowest bidder" and one of my favorite sayings... Professionals are predictable, it's the amateurs that are dangerous.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Too Many Starbucks? Posted: 6/19/2009 2:43:39 PM
Starbucks sucks! Their coffee isn't all that good and it's way overpriced! I would prefer to meet at a little café, Stewart's, maybe Rita's or somewhere on a boardwalk. And being specific is a wonderful idea! Exchanging cell numbers is a great idea too! No excuse in this day and age as to why you got your locations mixed up!

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 84 (view)

Women at Pubs by Themselves Posted: 6/19/2009 9:41:36 AM
I go to bars all the time by myself. If I didn't I would be stuck home more often then I want to be. I go to bars that have entertainment going on, because I am not one to just sit at a bar. Karaoke, band, dancing. It's all fun! Actually trying to figure out where I want to head to tonight.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

Common characteristic among mothers Posted: 6/19/2009 9:38:18 AM
My profile doesn't mention my child... other than the little "do you have children" question be marked off as a yes.. Am I a bad momma???

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Anyone notice the new feature, Want a date on Friday night? Posted: 6/19/2009 9:36:07 AM
pro.. I did the same thing.. I can't get myself off there. lol Although.. I would love a date on Friday... My experience with POF people hasn't been all that great. lol I believe it deletes and reset itself today at 2.. We'll find out I suppose. lol

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 412 (view)

Single Mothers W/ Children: Do you do anything to compensate for the extra work of dating you ? Posted: 6/19/2009 9:15:56 AM
Can we get single mothers to agree to anything other that their sense of entitlement to a good man ? Yes.. I will agree that I deserve a good man just like everyone else. I will also agree that if a man wants nothing to do with my child having status then he can walk on and I will think no less of him. I will also agree that just because a man thinks he is a good quality man, doesn't mean he, in fact, is. I will also agree that just because a person doesn't want to date a single parent doesn't automatically take them a bad person. Can we get single mothers to agree they must work a little harder to get and keep a good man ? Nope.. But I will agree the only people who utter this statement are those who have either been slighted by a single parent or those who have a huge dislike of dating single parents. I will agree that the men who utter this statement are probably the ones that fall into the not a good quality man category. Can we get you to agree to work harder at cooking and sex ? That is really all I am asking for on this thread ? Is that really all you are asking for? How shallow. Hear that ladies! All we have to do is cook and have sex and we can get and keep a good quality man.. DAMN if I had know it was THAT easy. (I wonder if he expects us to be barefoot while doing all this??) Is it asking so much for better meals and more sex to compensate for the fact that you want us to be accommodating to your special/additional needs ? Ah.. so.. the truth.. He is just bitter because his last ex had kids and wouldn't cook for him or sleep with him. Well I'm worth more than my cooking and my bedroom skills. You can just keep walking past me, I'll be much better off that way. Definition of good quality man # 329: NOT PPEInhibitor.. ha ha. ~~~~ Lesson of the day (pay attention PPE!) A good quality man would be more interested in getting to know a woman as a person rather than trying to get their clothes off. ~~~~ It's OK if you have to read it a few times. My ex boss said you have to repeat something 33 times before an adult will retain it. There may be some truth to that.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 411 (view)

Single Mothers W/ Children: Do you do anything to compensate for the extra work of dating you ? Posted: 6/19/2009 8:59:12 AM
~ Other women are not looking for a good man. Your man will never compare you with another woman. He will never think about the hassles you present. He will live in the same ignorant bliss that engulfs you. ~ HA HA! What?? Hysterical!!! All women are looking for a good man you dolt! LMAO! At least.. I hope they are.. Any woman worth her salt is anyway. LOL!! Um. I don't really know the minds of men so I don't know if he will compare me to other woman. I don't compare the man to other men, why would he compare me to other women? Is that something men do?? I don't pretend to know the mind of man and I don't pretend to understand them.. I just hope the one I am dating at the time tells me what he is thinking, so I can understand HIM (as an individual) I don't present hassles. I just say what time are you picking me up? And I'm ready to go. IF a relationship blossoms from dating, then we can talk more about my son and whatever needs to go along with that. I don't ever recall asking a man I was dating to do anything for my son. The few who did, did it of their own accord and I was very hesitant about the entire thing. Yes I fully admit that I live in my own world. But it's OK.. they like me here. LOL! I can't even answer the last statement without laughing. It's ignorant bliss to be searching for a good man?? LOL! OK.. Whatever!

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

Mothers Day/Father’s Day…..or better Family Day Posted: 6/19/2009 8:00:03 AM
Yea I did.. and they are all about an hour from me. I like church, but not enough to drive an hour for it. A few posters ago... You are correct, it is your right if you don't want to recite the pledge, then you don't have to. I don't make my son say the under God line. It's our right not to. It's other people's right to say it.

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

Mothers Day/Father’s Day…..or better Family Day Posted: 6/18/2009 6:06:05 PM
That's a great idea.. there are none in this area though. :~(

NotInnocent

Joined: 9/7/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

the best part of your life is ahead of you, dont you think? Posted: 6/18/2009 5:07:56 PM
Oh yes!!! Single and freeeeeee and looking forward to what tomorrow brings!!! Yehawwwwwww

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