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callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Confused by my hormones - having sex with boyfriend for first time Posted: 11/19/2009 1:12:28 PM
I appreciate the positive suggestions, thanks! Believe what you want, I am in fact a 28 year old virgin, there are some honest people on here just looking for advice. Most of the time I do feel like a fricken 16 year old dating for the first time. No every girl out there is lucky enough to meet a guy she likes in her teens and wants to give it up then. I was the fat kid... I didnt have many friends, and boys certainly didn't want anything to with me. How the hell else does one get laid in highschool? And I'm not the type of person that sleeps with random people at a party in college 'because that's what you do' - like I said, I hated myself, I didn't want anyone looking at me. All that adds up to being an adult virgin. We are out there. I joined so long ago thinking this would be a better way to meet people, but I was in denial about the type of man I was attracted to, and disappointed in the responses I was getting. Call me a snob, or a **** whatever, but I was being shallow. My weight was my biggest detriment, and now that it is gone I can see that I was really just here to try to validate my feelings - that someone out there was interested in me. That's really all I was looking for. I rarely responded to people, and the ones I did, I probably lied to saying I was seeing someone or whatever. Lets just say I was pulling a bit too hard, and didn't have any lube, and no clean up plan. So he stopped me. Mind you, he was the one who encouraged me start, knowing I had never done it to start, so I do blame him a little bit :P Poor guy though, I do feel bad. Maybe it would be best to work on satisfying him in other ways before moving on to sex. I know part of my current situation comes from the fact that he is always hard around me. He is ready and waiting for me to say yes. A little make out, or fondling me and he's erect, a little more and hes wet. It feels good to know I turn him on. But he always knows when to stop, he knows when he has gone to far, and asks me if I want to continue, and it's always 'yes and no' He is right, you are right, if I'm hesitating at all, I must not be emotionally/mentally ready, even though physically my body is giving me all the signs to go for it. I just don't want to lose him by making him wait so long. I guess another month won't kill him. We'll really have to talk about this. Not just as we are making out. A real conversation to get my fears out in the open. He does know I'm a virgin, and that I'm tight as all get out, but he is helping with that, so he knows that he'll have his work cut out for him when we do have sex, I admire that he's sticking around. He truly is a decent man.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Confused by my hormones - having sex with boyfriend for first time Posted: 11/19/2009 7:31:47 AM
You're right Silken, it would probably help to have more information. It's not that I have been waiting... there was never an opportunity. I was overweight and unhappy up until this year. I hid behind my weight, and didn't date. At all. I have since lost almost 40 pounds and am still losing (he knows this), and I feel like a whole different person. I am happy, and confident, and finally feel pretty and sexy, so for me to even have a boyfriend is a huge step. I do live with my parents for a few reasons. I moved back from my second time at college, and have been working part time. I could move out, but they are happy having me home, and let me live rent free for a while to save up my money before I move out again (and also hopefully find full time work so I don't have to move back home for a third time.) I am going to see my doc in a few weeks, and I know that it takes a while for the pill to become effective. My period is very erratic, so even when I am menstruating, I could be ovulating again, as there have been months when I get it again 10 or 12 days after my last day, so there is no way we could guess when is safe. I will talk with him about this next time we get together. Very smart thinking, thank you. Vicworthy - you are right. I over think everything, and he knows this. Thats really why we stopped and started talking about it. He could tell that my mind was elsewhere and just told me to spit it out. It's been like this since we started dating. I think too much - try to plan things out to make them perfect - I need to realize that things wont be perfect. :) TOMic bomb - I've never given a bj, that's what I'm worried about... if I can screw up a handjob, how will that be any easier? He told me not to worry about doing him, as he knows I'm getting used to all of this physical contact, he keeps doing me so I will open up more and be comfortable with it. Plus, my mouth is so dry after he goes down on me... I breath through my mouth too much and I'm all cotton-mouthed... I don't know much, but I know that's not good. And yes... I have been studying how to do things, but browsing the net and actually looking at it face on is another thing. I'm intimidated, and I want him to enjoy it.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Confused by my hormones - having sex with boyfriend for first time Posted: 11/19/2009 6:37:07 AM
Ive been dating this guy for 2 months, and we have been going slow for my sake - I'm a virgin, and he's a really nice guy and doesn't want to pressure me. I am very confused by my hormones, or feelings, or whatever you want to call it. He came over yesterday, and all throughout the morning, I was talking myself up, "Tonight is the night. I have the house to myself, I want to have sex with him." When he gets here, we make dinner and then thinking about it, I think it's too soon... I'm not ready. When we are making out I feel good to go, like I could just take him to my room and let him have me, so I stop and we talk it out. (We hadn't really talked about sex at all, other than jokes here and there.) I'm not on birth control yet, he has condoms. Cool. He understands my hesitation, saying that I'm not ready if I'm hesitant about it when we are just hanging out. So we decide to just go to bed, no funny business. We have slept together before, so no worries there. I get hot and take my shirt off, and we mess around a bit (I couldn't get off though. It was kinda weird, even trying to finish myself off, I just couldn't climax), and he's rock hard, but I can't even return the favour (I've only tried to give him a hand job once, and I messed it up, so I'm nervous to try again), so we just go to sleep. This morning he leaves to go to work, and I feel sad that we didn't have sex. I feel like I missed a good opportunity, and probably the last chance to be alone in my house for a while. Can anyone relate to this? Or can help me figure out why I keep flip flopping on my thoughts about it? I am very attracted to him, and he drives me wild when we make out. I know I want to sleep with him, I want to do everything with him, but I can't seem to make up my mind on when.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Trying to find a nice neighbourhood to live in in Hamilton Posted: 7/21/2009 5:44:11 PM
I have lived my whole life up on the Stoney Creek mountain, and have been taught to be scared of the big bad 'downtown Hamilton' I have no idea what areas are safe for a single gal to be looking for a place to live. I am looking to find an apartment place in the city - upper or lower - where I will be living around people my age. My current area is all people in their late 40s early 50's with no kids at home anymore, or new couples with little kids. Any suggestions? I like the idea of westdale or Hess area, but again - dangerous downtown. lol Thanks

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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When should I tell him I'm a virgin? Posted: 7/6/2009 5:57:59 PM
Thanks for all the responses. I haven't been waiting for anything really. I just wasn't dating in high school and college. I was overweight and very self conscious, and didn't think that anyone would want to date me, so i didn't pursue any relationships. Since then, the guys I have dated has all bolted when I told them I was a virgin, so I don't want to bring it up too soon, and scare him off. I want to have sex. I'm ready now. I have been scared of what it would mean when I did have sex - make me a different person emotionally or whatever. If he doesn't turn out to be guy I'm with forever, then I don't think I will have wasted it. At my age I don't see it as something sacred to lose... its something to share with someone you care about at that time. We haven't had the past relationship talk yet or even hinted at having sex yet, and that is probably be the best time, so thank you for that suggestion. I'm not planning on waiting until I am 'in love' with him. I don't know what that is, or how long that will take. I just want to know that I care about him deeply, and that I am happy with where the relationship is going. I think more than anything I just want to enjoy my first time as much as I can. Have it be fun and exciting rather that for him to feel like he's under pressure to make it perfect for me.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Why don't men and women -- by and large -- like male-pattern baldness? Posted: 7/5/2009 12:19:03 PM
I could care less one way or the other. It's just hair. If your losing it, just keep it looking tidy, and whatever. I see no reason to shave it all the way off just because of a bald spot. Unless you like it that way. If you are confident about how you look, then I'd be happy with it too.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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When should I tell him I'm a virgin? Posted: 7/5/2009 12:15:08 PM
So I have just started seeing this guy, and at our ages, I know that I won't be making him wait months for sex. If I like him as much as I think I do, weeks might be all I can hold out for. Thing is I'm a virgin for a variety of reasons. Not religious, or waiting for marriage, but just not dating much, and not wanting to have a random hook up with some stranger. When's the best time to bring it up? I know he's not a virgin, and is probably very experienced. I do want him to know beforehand so he knows to be a little more gentle, and so I can enjoy it too. Should I tell him right off the bat now, or wait a bit until it seems like we are heading in that direction for sure? I don't want to be in the middle of a great make-out session and seem like it's going there, and then pull away, and say 'oh, by the way, I'm a virgin' and freak him out. Thanks

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Fun places to walk around in Hamilton? Posted: 5/11/2009 7:09:43 PM
I've lived in Hamilton most of my life, but I don't really get out exploring much, so I know very little about my city other than the few spots I normally go. I'm just looking for a few suggestions of places to go solo to walk around, not necessarily to meet guys, but that would help things out, I suppose. I love taking a book to the park near me, but it's an old neighborhood, not too many young people to strike up a conversation with. What are some fun spots to hit on a sunny afternoon? Or a weekday night? or any time at all? lol Thanks

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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What does your profile name mean? Posted: 10/20/2008 6:11:36 PM
A while back I got tired of people I got to know quite well on a forum calling me whatever cutesy name I had at the time. So I would go around on the different boards saying 'just call me Jen guys'. The next few places I joined I used that name, and it stuck. It's kinda nice on here when guys contact me and say 'Hi Jen, saw your profile....' instead of 'Hi Freckleface, or readhead' or whatever else.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Wii Fit - Will it make a difference? Posted: 8/4/2007 8:22:25 PM
I love Wii sports... I box almost everyday, and it does make a difference. I don't think that I will buy the fit thing though. I pay for a gym membership. I think its a good idea if you arent able to get to a gym/can't afford whatever. The video/ commercial thing for it looks intriguing, and I don't think they could market it as a fitness tool if it didn't deliver. It's like anything else though. If you are dedicated to weight loss, and make a routine including it along with proper diet, then yes... it probably will make a diffence.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Ontario Apartments Smoke Free !!!!! Posted: 7/16/2007 8:46:39 PM
I think in apartment buildings where there can be a high turnover rate it is a good idea. Being a non-smoker, and an apartment hunter it is very annoying to find a great place, but have to turn it down because of the smell of smoke in everything. I have no intention of bringing my belongings into a room and suck up the smell. That said, it is your right to smoke if you wish to, and I'm not going to be the one to tell you to stop. But being curtious of others who dont want to smoke is kinda nice.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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What are you reading? Posted: 5/4/2007 6:15:10 PM
I just finished Mailman by J. Robert Lennon , and will be starting Detour by James Siegel this eveing. Mailman was an incredible book. I loved it. It was so random and jumped all over the place.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Silly Pet Names Posted: 4/5/2007 10:56:50 PM
I have to say that I do like being called babe or hun. 'Babe, can you give me a hand?' 'Want to go for a drive hun?'. I love it. My dad still calls me toots/tooties. I really love that he does that.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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May 24 Camping/Paintball/ Clinic at Ranch?????? Posted: 4/2/2007 8:57:31 PM
This would be soo much fun if it weren't on a ranch. I'm horribly allergic to horses. :(

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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What is this video game? Posted: 3/26/2007 11:18:04 AM
Hooray!! Thanks a million!

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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What is this video game? Posted: 3/25/2007 9:12:10 PM
I recently had a memory of playing this video game with a friend like 15 years ago, and I'm going mad trying to remember what it was called. All I really remember about it, is that you were a human and had a thing with you... a blob or a bubble or something. You had to feed it different things to get the thing to morph into things to help you along your way ... say a chocolate bar to make it a ladder, or licorice for rollerskates. I think it was on Sega Genesis. Anyone have any clue as to what it was called?

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Fish Personalities..... Posted: 3/14/2007 2:18:28 PM
I was thinking it was going to be a quiz you take to tell you what you are like. This is kinda fun too.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Weight watchers Posted: 3/6/2007 11:22:01 PM
Weight Watcher is one of the few programs out there (that I am aware of) that follows Canada's food guide. It helps to start you on a healthy path of eating without having to buy special foods or medications. Yes, it is expensive, but it works. And measuring all your food sucks at first, but you quickly learn what servings look like. Once you have the frame of mind that you know how to eat healthily and properly, you can leave. If you keep your books, and continue to re-visit them you will continue to have success. It allows you to eat 'junk food' in moderation, because, honestly, how many people can cut it out of their lives entirely. The points system lets you eat out, and have alcohol, and yes, have some chocolate or chips from time to time. It believes in "anything in moderation". You just have to know your limitations, and plan the rest of your day if you know you will be having a less than healthy meal later on.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Honeymoon Suite 3/7/7 Jackhammers Who's IN??? Posted: 2/19/2007 5:10:55 PM
One of the guys from honeymoon suite came and spoke to my class in university. We found out a day in advance and downloaded a song. When we walked in the class we played it. He went beet red and chuckled abit, but told us to turn it off... very sternly. lol.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Do woman like Guitarists? Posted: 2/15/2007 5:46:04 PM
Yes yes and YES! I love guitarists! When a guy sits down and plays for me it's like an instant turn on. If they write their own music/lyrics its even better. It shows that they are patient and creative and emotional. I have a good number of guy friends that play guitar, and it took me a while to get over the instant attraction to them because of the guitar to just be friends with them.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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What to wear at bedtime. Posted: 2/12/2007 7:14:21 AM
It depends on the night. I like to sleep in the nude most of the time. I have flannel sheets, so even on cold nights I'm warm. I do have flannel pj bottoms that I wear if I'm really cold, and just a tank top with that.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Exorcises to help with snowboarding. Posted: 2/10/2007 3:50:39 PM
I got the snot kicked out of me today on my first time out. My thighs and calves couldnt take more than about 45 minutes with the trainer. Are there any things I can do at home to build up those muscles for the next time I go out?

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Snowboarding at Chickopee Posted: 2/7/2007 11:15:18 PM
I just signed up for basic lessons on Saturday. I'm excited, and nervous about going alone. I have never snowboarded before, so I'm a little worried that I am going to hurt myself, which is a good possibility as I am the biggest klutz. Has anyone been to Chickopee before? What are the hills like?

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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What kind of people do you attract? Posted: 2/7/2007 11:10:18 PM
I have to say that 75% of the people that contact me are more than 10 years older than me, and of the guys in my age range, a good number of them are looking for sex, and the rest just tell me I have a nice smile and never contact me again. lol

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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women make sure he reads your profile Posted: 2/7/2007 11:08:31 PM
I put in the first line that I don't want a guy that smokes, so when I check out their profile, and it says they smoke, I know they didn't read it.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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I'm going snowboarding for the first time on Saturday. Posted: 2/6/2007 8:30:40 PM
I'm taking lessons/beginner class at Chicopes on Saturday. Any tips? I have my dress down, but I honesly don't know what to expect for the actual snowboarding. Are there any stretches I should be doing?

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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My wrist just snapped in half! Posted: 1/31/2007 7:07:14 PM
I'm almost ashamed to admit it... since no one knows this. I haven't told a living soul, but what the hell. None of my friends or family will be looking here. While having fun with a pillow when I was 18, I wanted more friction, so I just kept arching my back more and more, until I heard a slight snap. When I woke up the next morning, I couldn't stand up. I could walk, but I was bent almost to a 45°. I blamed it on lifting something wrong at work, and no one was the wiser. Becuase I claimed it as a work injury (I didn't file a workers comp or anything since I already had 5 days off), my parents wanted me to get checked out by a doc and get some x-rays. I didn't tell anyone, not even the doc. I made the work thing hurt me in the same way (lifted a 50lb pound bag of popcorn kernles worng - which I actually did that night). I still have issues with my back to this day from it. lol

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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things you love about ontario? Posted: 1/31/2007 6:51:51 PM
1. Algonquin Park. Need I say more? You can day camp, rough it with no electricity, or go all out and get right into the interior canoetripping, and it's like 4 hours away. 2. Canada's Wonderland! 3. From where I live, I can get to some pretty awesome places in about an hour - Toronto, Niagara Falls, London, Buffalo... I know there are way more, but none come to mind at the moment

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Dating your parents... Posted: 1/31/2007 3:56:00 PM
I deffinately look for some of the same qualities my dad has in a man. He's super funny, and a big kid at heart, and all in all, a very good guy. With out sounding gross, I would love to end up with a guy just like my dad. At the very least, I know they would get along.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Typical age of event go-ers? Posted: 1/30/2007 5:47:43 PM
Thank you all for the responces. I am deffinately glad to hear that there are a few younger girls from my area that do go to these events. I will start looking at them a little closer - if nothing else, it's a night out!

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Typical age of event go-ers? Posted: 1/30/2007 2:32:10 PM
Thats the thing... I would like to go to some events, but I don't want to be the only one there my age. I'm shy enough as it is, but put me in a room with people older than myself, and most likely with other interests/priorities (families, careers...) and I will become more of a wallflower than I already am. I would love to see a 20's event or something.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Typical age of event go-ers? Posted: 1/30/2007 1:09:11 PM
Anytime I check out a singles event, they always seem to have an older crowd. Is it just me, or are there fewer people here in their 20's. Maybe I'm not looking at the right events. Does anyone else feel the same way?

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Getting a good start to losing weight Posted: 1/28/2007 10:20:09 PM
What is the 1 - 2 - 4 diet ratio? I have never heard that term before.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Getting a good start to losing weight [CLOSED redundant] Posted: 1/28/2007 9:05:41 PM
What is a good way to start a healthier way of eating? Go with the 3 square meals, and healthy snacks? Following Canada's Food Guide? Finding a pre-planned meal guide? I am really stuck at finding something that I will stay with, and would love to hear how others have done it. Thanks

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person. Posted: 1/28/2007 7:23:39 PM
Yep. I've had that. 3 people I have met off these sites, and none of them looked like the pictures. One pic was from far away, and 'didn't have a camera, so couldn't take a better pic'. That just turned out horribly. One pic was a few years old, and he looked completely different. The other was easily 40 pounds lighter in the pic. I've always stated I'm not shallow in the least, but physical attraction is a huge part in a relationship. If you aren't attracted to them, no amount of 'personality' is going to make up for that. You shouldnt have to say 'if you look like that picture again, then I will like you more'. I want to like someone right now. How they look, how they act, etc. Yes, thing's will change, and who knows how they will look in 5, 10, 20 years, but please please, use a try representation of yourself. It could save you from an unpleasant reaction, and get attention from people who are truely attracted to you.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 1/28/2007 7:13:10 PM
Turn on: I man playing guitar to/for me. Does it every time. Turn off: Nasty teeth. I could try to explane, but it would only make me seem meaner.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Masturbation Tools Posted: 12/30/2006 11:04:55 PM
I do have to agree. I was in our shop one day finishing up a project, and ad been feeling a bit randy all day. The virbrating in my hand was not helping. I put it on an old block of wood, knelt on the floor aorund it and very quickly found myself grabbing for the wall. I only did it that once, but damn. My main instrument is Crest spinbrush that I pulled all the brissles out of. Good for clit and insertion, and in the tub (not submersed, but tip in) I'm excited thinking about it already.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Any women left with body hair? Posted: 12/30/2006 6:45:31 PM
Its just a matter of hygene. With hairy pits come more smell when i work out. I only shave my legs when im wearing a skirt/shorts. And I prefer to be shaven down south. It feels cleaner, and sexier. I'd get it removed permanently if I could afford it.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Okay, This is a serious problem!? Posted: 12/28/2006 10:56:08 AM
I just found the OP's next thread... this was solved last december. lol. He said a thank you in a completly different thread, which was locked a few months back. Meanwhile... we all still go on giving advice. I love it.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Okay, This is a serious problem!? Posted: 12/28/2006 9:05:11 AM
First off, I despise the thought of cheating. I think that when you are with someone, you are with them... not only in the good times, but the bad as well. However. If you truely love her and don't want to lose/leave her, then you need to explain to her that lack of intimacy is causing you to consider extramarital sex. You are a sexual person, and obviously no sex for as long as it has been is hurting you, physically and emotionally (and financially). Once she reasizes that your marriage is in jeopardy she might be more willing to find some other options. You need to ask her to listen to all your concerns and not coment until you have finished. You don't want to start getting defensive and arguementative. That will cause her to have reason to be even more upset. She will be upset with the fact that you have even considered cheating, but will be relieved that you haven't. When the words actually form that you want to cheat, she might be more verbal with why she is no longer interested in sex. I honestly think you do need to talk with her, and deffinatly a couples therapist. Just be sure to pick a day to talk to her when she hasn't had a hard day at work, or has an evening planed out with friends or whatever. You want to make sure she is in a good mood to start off with, because she will be more likely to give you honest answers. You also don't want to bribe her - taking her out or making a special meal. She will think you were trying to make her overly happy so that she would be more likely to give you the answer you want. I wish you the best of luck. You're going to need it.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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How do you find other women to hang out with? Posted: 12/26/2006 9:45:17 PM
I'm in the same boat as you. Too bad it isn't as easy as the 'Hi, I'm Jen. Wanna play?' when we were 5.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Restaurants in North York Posted: 11/13/2006 6:41:30 PM
I am planning a mini class reunion for the weekend, and I was originally going to make reservations at the Keg, but they don't take them. It's a party of 15, so there is no chance we are going to get a table without waiting forever. Are there anyother simelar restaurats in the North York? I'm not from Toronto, so I really have no idea what is out there. I would appreciate any suggestions you might have. Thanks

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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How long untill you call? Posted: 11/12/2006 5:39:17 PM
If you ask for someones number, you are obviously interested in her, and she would assume the same, so why wait? Call her the next day. Then she wont get selfconsious that you aren't going to call.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Is ending a date early always bad? Posted: 11/12/2006 5:35:21 PM
If I'm on a first date, and a guy asks me back to his place for anything... coffee, drinks, movie - it basically makes me think he wants to have sex or makeout or something. I can totally see that you were just excited about your new system (as I would have been... those set-ups are awesome!). I would wait a week or so before inviting her back to your place... or at least until you have kissed her.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Scared of dating? Is that possible? Posted: 11/10/2006 7:21:21 AM
Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I think putting it into words really helped me realize that I do have a few issues, and I need to work on them. I'm super shy too, so getting out and meeting new people has always been difficult, but there are some activities that I love (bowling, Volleyball..) so I should look into finding a place that I can join.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

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Scared of dating? Is that possible? Posted: 11/9/2006 8:35:02 PM
I think I have realised that I am scared of dating. I never did much dating in highschool or college, and now, here I am, 25 and never have had a real boyfriend. The few guys I did date screwed me over in the end. So now, I find that when a guy does approach me I end up brushing him off, and being miserable. I don't want to be this way. I want to have relationships and have fun in my 20's. I think a good deal of my problem is that I don't have a lot of friends in the city... They all live an hour away so I neve get out. I know most of this comes from poor self image. I was told for a very long time that I was fat (by my parents) and I know this has made it hard for me to open up to people... I amd very nervous in a crowd of people, thinking they are all talking about me or laughing at me. I know they aren't, but I can't help thinking it. Does anyone have any tips as to how I might be able to over come this? I think i need to meet some people in Hamilton to get out more.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

Msg: 29 (view)

For the gamer gals... Posted: 11/6/2006 5:51:18 PM
I love Tony Hawk. Thats about the only one I can play. And driving games. I dont have the co-ordination for the shooting ones

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

Msg: 145 (view)

ladies, whats the kind of cologne/aftershave do you like best Posted: 9/14/2006 7:32:05 AM
None. I have a mild 'alergy' to scented products (they give me nasty migraines). So I prefer that they wear none at all.

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

shave or wax? Posted: 9/6/2006 9:04:20 PM
I'm affraid to get my bikini line waxed... let alone a full brazillian. I do my eyebrows from time to time, and my under arms. I can't let my leg get long enough to wax them. It would take 3 weeks of not shaving for them to be waxed. I can't go that long with hairy legs. I do want to try the bikini area.... i just don't know where to go. I couldn't get that done at the place I normally go... they are all girls I went to school with, and the thought of them working down there kinda grosses me out. lol

callmejen

Joined: 4/26/2005

Msg: 61 (view)

no driver's license Posted: 8/13/2006 11:31:06 PM
I went on a few dates with a guy that didn't drive. It was a pain in the ass. It's nice knowing that if something happens, get sick, drink one to many there is another person to take the reins. Knowing that I would always be driving was a bit of a downer. There are days where you just don't feel like it. I honestly wouldn't date another guy without a liscence.

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