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bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

Myth-busting the FRIEND ZONE Posted: 9/5/2010 11:35:09 AM
Reflection is most here don't talk about their last relationship partner that way- Funny! but reflect that she probably to this day has not grown up enough emotionally to know what it is to be truly loved by a man.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Myth-busting the FRIEND ZONE Posted: 9/5/2010 11:23:26 AM
Another friendzone thread wow, anyway the whole thing reminds me of a very unfortunate young lady I went to school with. She was mentally challenged and always walking around saying, "Hey BOYEE, YOU BE MY FWEND?"

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

Call me when you've lost 50 pounds Posted: 9/4/2010 12:08:56 PM
you must look exactly like your pictures LMAO, Sorry No Refunds. I mean why even bother to disrespect a lady like that? I don't care what he was unhappy about he could have just said, "I don't think things will work between us."

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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I need to know what happens on the other side of the phone Posted: 9/4/2010 9:41:51 AM
What were you thinking, go through, did you ever forgive or did you write the person off as an unstable psychotic Sure, I've "Loaned" money to someone I was involved with and never got it back, sure I forgave her, and YES she's an unstable psychotic. I might make the same mistake again if I feel it would help someone out, I don't know. Welcome to "No Good Deed Goes Unpunished." If he's really smart, he's probably trying to figure out how to get even more money out of you, so be careful.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 80 (view)

guy or girls-why didnt u date them anymore-reasons Posted: 9/4/2010 7:11:59 AM
She took me back to her place and there was Alabama Crimson Tide stuff everywhere! I mean drapes, bedspread, towels in the bathroom, the rug on the floor, even little things hangin from the ceiling fan over the bed. Okay, I thought maybe I'll stick it out, she's nice, we can turn off the lights. But when she came out of tha bathroom wearing nothing but a football helmet I got a little creeped out.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Call me when you've lost 50 pounds Posted: 9/4/2010 5:48:00 AM
What a jerk, sure you can do MUCH better. Don't waste another second trying to figure out a creep like that. And don't be disrespecting us blond guys okay?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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profile too intense? Posted: 9/4/2010 5:39:13 AM
Too many broken people to fix already, stopped reading at the first line.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Am I on the right track? Posted: 9/4/2010 5:30:08 AM
I like pictures that have the date taken on them. You sound very honest, but I'm not sure you have to tell about allergies , it doesn't seem to slow you down. Living with parents, I don't know that can wait for a phone conversation maybe? "However if I've just met you, it could take me a good 3-5 minutes to feel open up, so try and stick it out. :P" ^^^ That's an awesome lure, you might try and get that at the top, first sentence in a paragraph, or at the bottom, maybe in First Date section, which you don't have right now. Good Luck!

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

What Are The Reasons For Getting Legally Married? Posted: 9/4/2010 5:13:21 AM
Couldn't say for myself, but I think some people just grow up thinking you're supposed to get married. Too much TV?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Myth-busting the FRIEND ZONE Posted: 9/4/2010 5:04:41 AM
Whats up with the REFLECT, REFLECT, REFLECT are you selling something??/quote] Some people just aren't very friendly.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Did he really want to hear the TRUTH? Posted: 9/4/2010 4:51:25 AM
(This was when we were in a lovey-dovey mode cuddling in bed.) It's hard to hide anything when you're naked in bed. What kind of question is that anyway for pillow talk?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 99 (view)

Do you feel the need to live with somebody at our age Posted: 9/2/2010 6:28:10 AM
I enjoy living with a woman, but I think a man needs his own place. A separate house, garage, workshop, study or den, that is his own and is far away enough that she misses me, and close enough for me to do something about it before she changes her mind.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Dress Posted: 9/2/2010 5:10:41 AM
I think it's great if a lady makes a little extra effort to look nice, sure who wouldn't be impressed with that? Classy or trashy? well I like a little of both. To quote the great philosopher George Thorogood, "I like 'em tall, I like 'em small I like 'em all."

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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i don't understand the male brain... Posted: 9/2/2010 5:04:56 AM
At your age I sure would not be sitting at home worried about it. The male brain isn't the problem it's just life, sometimes it gets in the way. He might be really asking if you're going to see other guys while you two are apart?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 76 (view)

Dating Site Fatigue Posted: 9/1/2010 4:05:02 PM
I have noticed the good ones do not last long, check new users.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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calling back advice Posted: 9/1/2010 8:00:26 AM
If I think about calling her more than twice a day, I just call her. Make it short, make her laugh, and see if she mentions or hints about another date, if she doesn't you should, why not? Let us know how it goes.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Tell my friend or let sleeping dogs lie? Posted: 9/1/2010 7:42:46 AM
I don't see what you have to gain, why is it your business who she sleeps with? Why is it "talking crap behind her back?" He told you they have some kind of arrangement, so what? Sounds like you don't have much respect for her calling her easy in the first place.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Is this any better? Posted: 9/1/2010 7:29:59 AM
If it's getting you some decent responses it's great, but when I read ads like this I wonder... She's wanting a casual first meetup Wears fluffy socks to bed likes to snuggle on the couch and looking for long term? and then I think writing to a lady like that would be a little strange, because I already know some intimate details that probably would have my imagination going. I would probablyask what color fluffy socks do you like? Is that the kind of response you are looking for?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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I'm not passing with flying colors anymore... Posted: 9/1/2010 7:14:04 AM
I don't think your chances sound too good. Maybe try an endzone pass and tell her you're a pirate, and it's time to surrender the booty. oh yeh and always be prepared if she jus happens to say yes.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Why ask for a number and then not follow up with a date?? Posted: 8/31/2010 7:05:55 PM
And it's reinforcement for what I have learned about the basic nature of so many women. Those are the wrong women, you can have them, that leaves me the rest.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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I'm confused, any help would be much appreciated Posted: 8/31/2010 12:20:56 PM
She has a name, use it. ^^^ best answer

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Why ask for a number and then not follow up with a date?? Posted: 8/31/2010 10:54:01 AM
When you give out your number, tell him you will be expecting his call within the next few days, or that day, or whatever you feel comfortable with. If he misses his calls, he won't be a reliable date anyway. I usually ask for a day and time, and I make my calls. It's the right thing to do, no brainer there, anybody can jot down a name 10 digits a day and a time. p.s. "anytime or sometime" are not good times to call.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

guy or girls-why didnt u date them anymore-reasons Posted: 8/31/2010 10:46:13 AM
She started playing phone games, not returning calls, calling me up to complain about whatever she was ticked off about at the time.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 165 (view)

over 45 men and marriage??? Posted: 8/31/2010 10:07:43 AM
I admit to wanting to be important to someone and I want to add to their happiness Caught redhanded showing feelings of an almost human nature... This will not do.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 163 (view)

over 45 men and marriage??? Posted: 8/31/2010 6:35:01 AM
It's just a piece of paper but it seems to often make enemies out of pretty good friends eventually. I hear there is one food guaranteed to decrease a woman's sex drive by 90% - Wedding Cake!

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

Dating Site Fatigue Posted: 8/30/2010 2:29:11 PM
I've had email correspondence with what initially seemed wonderful, to only discover that they were borderline bonkers. And that is exactly WHY I wouldn't spend three weeks on anybody on here without a face to face meeting. Slow and cautious weeds out the nutters? No, it really just lets them waste your time, doesn't it?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Why do people not tell the truth upfront? Posted: 8/30/2010 2:22:01 PM
The real question is, "Why do I keep clicking on all these, "Why do people..." threads?"

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Is he interested or just trying to see what is out there? Posted: 8/30/2010 7:06:47 AM
Just wondering why a lady would be interested in a man that could keep his hands off of her for so long? Keep fishing

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Why do men find it hard to be friends? Posted: 8/30/2010 7:03:01 AM
There are REASONS people choose to spend time with people they aren't related or obligated to. I think some women use their friends like married men use stripclubs, but in reverse. They get their emotional fix in one place, and their carnal needs met somewhere else. Sort of dysfunctional to me, but whatever makes you happy.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

Is he interested or just trying to see what is out there? Posted: 8/30/2010 6:34:07 AM
I have even stayed at his house ( no sex). sounds gay

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 48 (view)

Guy driving 1.5 hours for a coffee date? Posted: 8/30/2010 6:14:20 AM
The suspense was killen me so happy I could cry, I even watched the commercials.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

Why are Americans so Judgmental? Is that why we can't stay married? Posted: 8/30/2010 6:03:08 AM
most American men are not good looking at all but rather plain looking Funny! But everybody is rather plain, except on TV and the internet. I have met a handful of people in my life that I would consider truly remarkably beautiful and they weren't b*tchy at all. And at least one of the sexes has an organ they can rely on, personally I think with my stomach it has never let me down. What organ are women thinking with?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Playing it cool? Posted: 8/29/2010 8:59:17 PM
If you go on a date and you like the girl, what do you do now? Depends on how the date went but always play it cool! A week isn't cool, just call her.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

guy or girls-why didnt u date them anymore-reasons Posted: 8/29/2010 1:49:51 PM
Happened again last night, another "almost divorced" first date, come on girls. You can't lie to my face why try on the phone? p.s. and yes she bought her own soda

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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What sort of opening conversations gets your attention? Posted: 8/29/2010 1:41:09 PM
what sort of replies and conversation would make you more interested in that person? Does smutty flirty talk make you think she is easy No of course not, actually most of the dirty talkers are just talkers, get them alone and they wouldn't know what to do if you pulled it out. What I look for is responsiveness, like if I tell someone my name, and they don't tell me theirs I just move on. If I comment on something in her profile and she says, yes I enjoy that but I haven't done it in awhile, I think, wtf is it on your ad for? Asking questions is always a good sign, but asking have I ever been married scares me off like she pulled a gun. Too personal questions or replies with too much information bother me too. I think it depends, I just have fun and get a phone number as soon as possible without wasting too mch time. Humor is always good!

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 223 (view)

Proper Blocking etiquette Posted: 8/29/2010 10:20:16 AM
I would like to do that with all the "Looking for Mr Right" ads, I mean that is not a dater, that's a girl who wants an extremely long online fantasy followed by a one-night-stand. Blocking ads pre-emptive would be handy too, but how do you block someone without getting an email from them?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 80 (view)

Why Must People Lie? Posted: 8/27/2010 1:45:20 PM
Women's intuition is a great thing, wish I had some. They seem to all be wired up together like some big mainframe supercomputer, if you try to input data to the wrong one they all find out about it before you can log off!

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

How soon is too soon to exchange phone numbers? Posted: 8/27/2010 1:09:21 PM
I was willing to meet at Starbucks for coffee before work later this week, I just wouldn't agree to give him my number. I think that's a reasonable offer for a lady to make, I usually ask to exchange numbers pretty quick, maybe 4-5 emails, or at the end of a longer exchange. I'm 45 and expect to be contacting grown women who can size me up pretty quick, so if they decline with no other alternative, I just usually hit block and move on. I don't think you can be wrong by being too careful, do it your way and if they don't like it, tough.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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why do guys ignore instead of just saying no Posted: 8/27/2010 9:38:35 AM
Rude people like that aren't worht the effort, it's not a guy thing it happens to me all the time I have a phonebook full of them.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Is it reasonable to exclude the person you are dating from things? Posted: 8/25/2010 10:52:42 AM
The women don't care if it's ask a guy. Women? Just cuz she has a female pic, doesn't mean she has the correct plumbing. Anyway, yeah maybe I was too hasty, depends on how serious it is. If he doesn't want you hanging around just try getting a hobby. I think a person should be happy being by and with themself before trying to be happy with someone else.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

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Is it reasonable to exclude the person you are dating from things? Posted: 8/25/2010 7:19:14 AM
I felt that if he was sincere about building a relationship with me, and also about it being his “professional” life, then he should have gone and made an appearance for an hour or so, and then left. Trying to control someone's time and behavior isn't sincere it's controlling. If you were sincere about "building a relationship," you would have been watching Dr Phil while he was taking care of business.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Why are Americans so Judgmental? Is that why we can't stay married? Posted: 8/25/2010 7:01:47 AM
The irony, of course, is that the people with the biggest issues with sexuality are the ones who walk around with sticks up their asses. Yes that does seem to be the way things work, and there's nothing funnier than the expression on her face when you reach under her skirt and pull that stick out.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Asking for phone no. a dealbreaker? Posted: 8/25/2010 6:43:50 AM
now all that hope and anticipation is down the tubes. Reactions???? Yes I would say reactions are definitely called for in this situation.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 149 (view)

over 45 men and marriage??? Posted: 8/24/2010 10:12:27 PM
Perhaps you don't find me attractive, Please allow me to pick up that ball and say, I think your presence here makes all of us gentlemen much more happy to be here, thank you.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 68 (view)

Why Must People Lie? Posted: 8/24/2010 7:50:11 PM
asked this exact same question of "how is work" before, he always answered with some description of what he had done that night, was doing, or was about to do. Depending on time, mood and mode of communication, sometimes these descriptions were lengthy and detailed Subtle, well played. I appreciate that, sometimes I find it hard hard to detect deception.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 61 (view)

The 5 Languages of Love: Which Is You? Posted: 8/24/2010 7:18:37 PM
Sexual touch very sexual why isn't that in there?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 156 (view)

Did Your Expectations Change Since Your First Day On POF? Posted: 8/24/2010 6:35:10 PM
omg that's fatal attraction are you one of those> ? I like basic instict too, great flick.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 145 (view)

45+ men and fashion Posted: 8/24/2010 5:20:42 PM
Women keep buying me pink shirts or pink/blue stripes wtf do I throw them out or what?

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 154 (view)

Did Your Expectations Change Since Your First Day On POF? Posted: 8/24/2010 5:09:01 PM
Bunny burner? I bet that's a good story.

bw123

Joined: 9/9/2007

Msg: 217 (view)

Proper Blocking etiquette Posted: 8/24/2010 4:54:53 PM
also people that right off the bat just say, "can I see your picture?" I block them too. Why? I can see if it was 1995 or something where that'd be hard to come by, but it's 2010... looks is a requirement for more-than-just-friends They're pic collectors and gawkers not daters, and not even good at chatting most of the time. If you send them a pic, it wouldn't matter if it was Brad Pitt or Quasimodo they'd shy up on you. If looks is a requirement for anything in life EXPLAIN GEORGE BUSH! p.p.s. oh yeah bikini/underwear shots on your profile, but you just want to be friends or hang out, block them too.

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