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burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Can you believe it ? Posted: 11/9/2009 10:38:20 AM
compensation??? uhm...get them a nice stapler ...hey nothing wrong with a good stapler

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Should I stay or should I go... Posted: 10/27/2009 10:18:58 AM
Let me just state it plainly - trust is the most important element in a relationship and after only a few short months you find you can't trust him. You may care about him but ask yourself this - is he deserving of that care? Stop giving this man chances, stop trying to change his immature ways...move on! Or you will find yourself once again the victim of a cheating boyfriend...if he isn't already. Stop playing the victim...stop being the doormat. Refuse this kind of behaviour and those who are worthy of you will come into your life. ...now that was a Dr Phil moment if I have ever had one

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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This woman leaves me confuzzled Posted: 10/23/2009 7:13:20 AM
You realize by now that there is no answer and no advice that could be given to this predicament. You will just have to be patient and see what she has to say. Just make sure you listen quietly, don't interrupt her and let her get everything out that she needs to say before reacting. The fact that she requested that you" set aside time" means its something serious and she wants to choose her words carefully. Only she can answer your questions. I hope things work out for the both of you...it's rare to find that true connection with a person.

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Why do big cities have the best looking girls? Posted: 10/7/2009 6:44:37 AM
more shopping malls = more fashion to choose from = a girl who's dressed well simple economics

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Am I just being mean??? Posted: 10/6/2009 7:57:47 AM
Why don't you just suggest what you said in your last sentence...recommend that instead of silly gifts everyone pool their money together and give to charity...maybe a local children's hospital or buy toys to donate? That is certainly more in the spirit of the season than "a see through piece of material" that ended up in the bin. ...geesh, it's coming up soon, isn't it? edit: and, no, you are not being mean...no one likes useless crap presents

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Credit card rejected on first date. Posted: 10/4/2009 1:40:39 PM
Well first of all I would question dating any one who has to be taken to some expensive restaurant in order to impress. I like to be treated well also, but that comes from the behaviour of my date, not the restaurant he chooses. Food is food. But that aside - I always come on a date ready to pay my half...that's just good manners. However, if my date insisted on taking me to a place that was expensive and insisted on paying then he better make sure beforehand that he has the $$. I will be rather put aback to have to then shell out money because he couldn't be more mindful of his credit balance. JMO

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Should I give this woman a second chance? Posted: 10/4/2009 1:31:54 PM
I'd give her the heave-ho if I was you. It certainly shows that her son is the priority and you certainly are not. If she was that interested in you she would have told her son to come over some other time, simple as that. Move on...spend your time on a woman that really WANTS to see you. It just sounds like she sees you as "filler".

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Why Some Woman Remain Single... Posted: 10/1/2009 8:19:46 AM
OMG! Y'know...I think we have all met this level of douchebag-ery

Burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Will women ever grow out the mindgames? Posted: 9/29/2009 6:44:31 AM
Not sure how she was playing mind games. She went out with you to see if there was a spark...there wasn't one and she said so. Sometimes you know before a date that the person isn't quite what you are looking for but you want to proceed with the date to be hopefully proved wrong. Do men ever grow past the stage of whining because a girl decided he just wasn't her type? Get over it.

Burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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10 things I hate about you. Posted: 9/11/2009 12:00:42 PM
Ahh, I little Friday vent...first 5 for the first ex, next 5 for the second ex: 1. I hate that you promised that I "couldn't get rid of you that easy"...when apparently, yes I could 2. I hate that you made me doubt myself 3.I hate that you believed others before me 4.I hate that you didn't have the courage to face me and break up with me like a real man 5.I hate that it was hard to stop loving you 6.I hate that you stole from me 7.I hate that you could never seem to hold down a job but had plenty of time to play pool 8.I hate that you left me without warning and scrambling to pay the rent 9.I hate the threats you made to steal Tig away from me 10.I hate that I even met you...you big waste of space hey...that felt good!

Burnleybabe

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Why does it seem like the Canadian women here are so smart? Posted: 9/11/2009 11:47:08 AM
...no one likes a suck up

Burnleybabe

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Married. So Why Is My Home Not His Home? Posted: 9/11/2009 11:44:48 AM
I concur with what others are saying that he needs to be kicked to the curb. I find it unusual though that the big question is where HIS heart is at...when your the one with "looking4my1love" as a screen name. I think you have already mentally left this marriage...maybe it's time to do it physically? Just my thoughts. BB

burnleybabe

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For the ladies =) Posted: 8/28/2009 9:14:36 AM
Your profile doesn't say much about what kind of girl catches your interest...that's a thought. And I am going to pray that the tattoo in your pic is fake...sorry dude, but it looks like someone drew on your with a crayola marker....maybe not the best pic to be presenting. If it is indeed real...might want to go to a more reputable tattoo shop and get it fixed up a bit. Gotta wonder though, if you aren't looking for love, just fun, and you like to go to the bar...what do you need a dating site for? I never had any problems having my fun back when I was in my early 20's and going to the bar...never a dull moment, that's for sure! JMO

burnleybabe

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Dating a New Girl...Need Some advice Posted: 8/27/2009 5:22:37 PM
I would say outright to her that in the past your relationships have moved quite quickly so you are unsure of how to take it slow, so ask that she lets you know if you are going to fast for her because you like her and you want to get to know her better. I think she'll respect you for your honesty and feel confident in moving forward in getting to know you. Kudos to you for wanting to be respectful!

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Is this true? Posted: 8/27/2009 5:15:51 PM
Gee, such a bunch of cynics. C'mon it's romantic...that kind of you're-mine-forever kinda mushy stuff...not always a bad thing ...not always logical or correct...but darn romantic

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Problems in the bedroom :( Posted: 8/26/2009 10:23:49 AM
Hint? Why would you want to waste time hinting? TELL HIM. Guys are always saying that they want a girl to tell them what they want. You say you have "great communication"...how is that so when you don't discuss a very important part of a relationship. If he ain't satisfying you I don't see how your relationship can be "perfect" either. His actions reek of selfishness. Like you are there to serve his sexual desires... but screw your needs. Speak up and ask for what you want. Plain and simple.

burnleybabe

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Profile Review Please Posted: 8/21/2009 9:11:02 AM
The only thing I would correct is that Mozart does not have two T's. Otherwise I think it covers all the basics and gives a sense of what you are looking for. BB

burnleybabe

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I am using the right bait? Posted: 8/21/2009 9:06:35 AM
Honestly....WAY too much detail in your profile. Talking about your numerous divorces isn't actually a big seller either. Chop it down a bit and leave the details for the woman to ask about on the first date. Good luck to you! BB

burnleybabe

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Please review Posted: 8/21/2009 9:02:34 AM
I understand your a soldier, but ditch the pic with you holding a gun. Automatic weapons aren't really that sexy....just scary and slightly violent. Enjoy Italy and stay safe. BB

burnleybabe

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Can You Feel The Loneliness? Posted: 8/18/2009 12:06:14 PM
I can feel it too. Those chilly nights that will soon be upon us...sitting at home with no one to snuggle with. Yeah....geesh...now I'm depressed. I don't know where the hell my man is either! Dammit.

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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What to Do With it All? Posted: 8/18/2009 11:55:20 AM
Take everything and put it in a big box. Tape it tight. Stick it in a corner of a closet or whatever. If in 6 months you have not had the desire to "slip down memory lane" and open it....trash it....or have a garage sale to sell the stuff that could earn you a little cash. Good luck...letting go of a long term relationship is hard...but I think you learn a lot about yourself in the end. BB

burnleybabe

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WHAT IS THE NEXT STEP? Posted: 8/18/2009 10:01:05 AM
I think however initiates contact should be the one to start the topic of conversation - simple as that. It's not like a person would come up to you on the street, say "hi", you say "hi" back and then they just stand there. No, they would introduce themselves or make a general interest kind of comment to get the ball rolling. I have had these types of emails too...and I don't bother with them. When they have something interesting to say, or at least indicate that they even read my profile I see no reason to waste keystrokes...JMO. BB

burnleybabe

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Trying to figure women out Posted: 8/17/2009 9:52:48 AM
Well I can't say that I can find anything wrong with your profile. But I got to ask...what's with the cowboy pictures???? Maybe you are reveling too much on the first date? Could be a number of factors. Good luck in figuring us out though...I don't think any man has ever succeeded!

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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FREE Patio BBQ & Meet'n Greet Aug. 15th Le Skratch! Posted: 8/13/2009 7:06:38 PM
Just moved back to the 'shwa a few months ago...looking forward to meeting some new faces

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Is college really date central? Posted: 8/13/2009 10:15:21 AM
Three words = live in residence I didn't date at all in college. For me it was about partying, doing things I shouldn't do and oh yeah, getting that pesky diploma Don't stress so much about it and don't be so focused on meeting someone to date. Let it happen if it's going to happen. Just enjoy your college/university experience. There is plenty of time afterwards to get serious.

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Why do women use me for sex??? Posted: 7/21/2009 12:24:05 PM
Wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!

burnleybabe

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What are the odds...really?? REALLY???? Posted: 7/21/2009 12:09:09 PM
Oh, jrjdallas, you must be reading my mind because it is EXACTLY how I am feeling about online dating these days. It's just a big crap shoot with bad odds.

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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so, how many girls have you been with? Posted: 6/29/2009 5:46:26 PM
Women actually ask you this question on a first date? Geez. Personally my response would be that it's a very personal question and not one I would be willing to share with someone I barely knew. I think it belongs in that "none of your business" category...I am surprised that people would think this is an appropriate first date question. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned???

burnleybabe

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Well, at Least I Find Myself Amusing Posted: 6/26/2009 11:37:42 AM
Yeah, I think people take my sarcasm waaaaay too seriously. Like one time this guy emailed me and I was interested so I emailed him back. Before writing I noticed that he had a pic of him and some girl. I jokingly said "does she come along on your dates?". He got mad and fired back that she is his best friend and if she wants to come along she can, anytime. Uhm, right...I didn't bother responding. Makes me think of that Friends episode when Rachel is dating that guy who has a reeeeeeal close relationship with his sister. Ew. I guess that's what I need in a guy...someone who gets my jokes and knows when I'm joking.

burnleybabe

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The why not of an engagement ring Posted: 6/26/2009 11:08:15 AM
I think someone agrees: http://gilletts.com.au/index.php?cPath=6 Hey, I think it's a great idea and I don't know why more men don't insist on a ring for themselves. Cuz jewellry is never a bad thing.

burnleybabe

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Does it affect you at all? Posted: 6/24/2009 7:04:09 AM
I don't' quite understand this. So if he was the one driving and paid for everything you would have looked past his bad manners, lack of language skills and burping? I'd have to agree with a previous poster and say that I have never attributed "manliness" to a guys ability to pay or drive. Sorry if I misinterpret but your post seems to have an element of shallowness. JMO

burnleybabe

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Cut all contact? Posted: 6/23/2009 1:10:22 PM
Simple - you weren't the only guy she was seeing...she decided on other guy...didn't want the drama from you in her saying that there is another man. Cowards way out, really. Move on, my dear JMO

burnleybabe

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Being 30 Posted: 6/19/2009 6:50:30 AM
I don't know if it necessarily a trend, but it can be understood to a point. It's true what Bonspeed said - when a woman is in her 30's there is some baggage present. It can cause resentment and suspicion and an overall mistrust of men. I think this can especially be true for woman like myself who are still single in their 30's. You've pretty much seen it all at this point - the players, the jerks, the waste-of-time boyfriend's, and you wonder if there is really a decent man out there. You don't want to have that bitterness, but sometimes it can creep up on you. I'd have to agree with your point of the reason might be that we are shifting from the fun 20's towards the stable 40's. It's definitely been a transition time for me...but I don't think that is an excuse for game playing and laying on the drama. That's really a personality thing, I think. At the same time, cinsay, I would suggest that maybe you rethink who your dating. I have noticed that some people get into a "slump" of dating the wrong people. Maybe a different approach or going out on a date with someone that you don't normally see as your type might bring about a change in who you are attracting.

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Past times having an effect. Posted: 6/17/2009 11:03:55 AM
No matter how much you like her you can't take on the role of therapist. Her emotional issues need to be addressed by a professional. I mean we all have baggage, and I even find that I am a little gun-shy when first meeting someone and trust takes some time to establish, but there is no "fear" there. She has some deep-seeded issues...she needs to get herself together before being with someone else. Might be best to step back for now from pursuing this relationship. JMO

burnleybabe

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How do you define overweight? Posted: 6/15/2009 7:33:21 AM
BMI means nothing. It is a calculation of height and weight. Does not take into account your build, body-type, weight distribution or overall health. It's all about how you feel about yourself and the overall health that you are in. I like my junk in my trunk

burnleybabe

Joined: 4/29/2005

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Pets and their Health Care Posted: 5/8/2009 11:24:47 AM
I have gone through this several times myself, most recently a couple of years ago with my cat Tig who developed cancer in his lungs. He was only 10 but had suffered through lesions in his throat and diabetes over the years. It crushed my heart to sign those papers giving the vet permission to end his life, but it was the last gift that I could give to him. To allow him to die with some dignity and in peace. There were "options", things they could try. But all I could see was the months ahead of him being dragged to the vet, force fed pills and having to endure needles. Not a life for a once vibrant and life-loving cat, so the decision, however hurtful to me, was clear. The whole situation is still hard for me to get through without getting choked up...feeling myself getting a little misty-eyed typing this. It's true, there has to be a point that you ask yourself, are you doing this all for them, or for you? There is that line of being selfish and wanting our "kids" to stay with us that us, as pet owners, need to be wary of. The greatest gift you can give your pet is love, and sometimes you need to love them enough to let them go. Ok, I need to cry now

burnleybabe

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Help me understand this girl! Posted: 3/3/2009 10:58:17 AM
I was going to make a comment but GTOmustang hit it just right. She continues the behaviour because guys, like yourself, allow it. I mean, she said out right that she knows she does this. If you know that you do something wrong, don't you usually try to correct it? Not in her case! Because she's playing that "oh, I'm so cute that guys will do whatever I want" card, and she plays it well! Move on, my dear, there are plenty of great, "cute", women out there who don't play these kinds of games. BB

burnleybabe

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Just a few questions. Posted: 1/14/2009 9:25:10 AM
For the smoking issue, go see your Dr. They can assess your present usage and put you on a program that is right for you. Congrats on wanting to quit! Never diet. Diets do not work in the long run. Modification and incorporating healthier foods into your life is key. There are a lot of exercise DVD's out there. Find one that has you doing something you enjoy (eg. if you like to dance, get a DVD that uses dance moves to exercise). Involve your baby in your exercises. Make it part of play time with her. Good luck!

burnleybabe

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I am a moron...(flirting problem) Posted: 1/8/2009 12:51:50 PM
lol....I can't believe this post found it's way to the main page again! Glad to see most sympathize with being tongue tied and missing the necessary flirt gene.

burnleybabe

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THE BEST FREE NEW YEARS EVE BASH AT CACTUS PETES DEC. 31, 8PM Posted: 12/30/2008 7:21:01 AM
Party pants? check Party hat? check Going to the best free New Years Eve Bash at Cactus Petes? check check!

burnleybabe

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Meat! Posted: 11/24/2008 10:11:09 AM
Ok, this is possibly the worst joke I know but it is the only one that I can fully remember..... What is the difference between a refridgerator and a woman? A fridge doesn't fart when you pull the meat out of it. Sorry, horrible joke.....blame it on the guys that I used to hang out with in high school. BB

burnleybabe

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stupid things that scare you Posted: 11/15/2008 7:07:06 PM
Ok, I apparently join Oprah Winfrey on this one... Balloons popping! I can't stand the noise of balloons popping! Other fears: -Big spiders (ok, ok, spiders eat bugs, good on them...doen't mean I have to be happy when one is crawling on my wall) -Clowns (I also find them irritating and not even remotely funny) -Heights (big time! I cannot stand on the glass floor in the CN Tower.....hmmmm...maybe it is more a fear of falling?) -A drawn shower curtain (damn Psycho movie). Everytime I use the washroom in the middle of the night, I have to check behind the curtain.

burnleybabe

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Emails her again? Posted: 11/14/2008 12:53:47 PM
UM has got it right. I always give someone a standard 1 week to reply, then move on. But I don't think you need email her at that point...I think her position would be clear on her interest in you if you don't see a response by then.

burnleybabe

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How many Purebreeds left in America? Posted: 11/7/2008 7:13:27 PM
I think your point is loud and clear. I too find it rather naive and funny that there are still people out there who perceive themselves in some kind of level of purity because they are white. We are ALL mutts in our own way. I am British, Irish and Scottish (and damn proud of it!). I am obviously very caucasian but if you go back in my family tree you can find a latino background. I think that is what makes us all interesting. Why would anyone want to conform to one particular idea of a person.....how boring! We are all shades or grey and we should celebrate our differences as they are what band us together as a people. PS - Slightly off topic....but congrats all you Yankees....FINALLY you guys make a good choice for president! I am looking forward to seeing what Obama brings to the table.

burnleybabe

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Music you like that's not really made for your gender? Posted: 10/30/2008 10:19:24 AM
I would say not so much for my gender, but for the image that I portray....I think most would be surprized to know I like AC/DC, Def Leppard and Van Halen. I don't think people see me as the typical Rock Chick. Hey, I display my AC/DC very proudly beside my Britney Spears and Girlicious!

burnleybabe

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watch porn while having sex! Posted: 10/1/2008 1:21:43 PM
i dont know if its normal to watch porn when having sex For some, yes, it can enhance the mood Watching Ren and Stimpy cartoons??...maybe not so much....but it kept me and my ex giggling between the hot and sweaty moments

burnleybabe

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What do you girls want from a first date? Posted: 9/30/2008 10:01:38 AM
To put it in my best mother-tongue possible.....she was a tosser! You did everything right and everything a nice girl would want. Don't let this woman's bad manners and inconsideration shake your belief in yourself. You seem like a great catch to me!

burnleybabe

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Strangest thing you've ever caught yourself saying Posted: 9/29/2008 3:02:26 PM
I was talking about smoking with one of my friends on the phone and instead of saying that I was sometimes a social smoker, I said I was a "smocial soaker". He couldn't stop laughing for a good two minutes. I seem to have some kind of dyslexic tendencies 'cuz this happens all the time!

burnleybabe

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When did you fall in love with music? Posted: 9/29/2008 2:43:43 PM
I would say around 10 or 11. My sister started to get into music and she was into a lot of unknown bands and artists. She would come home from the store and drag me into her room so I would listen to her latest find. It was around the time that music videos were coming out and we didn't have Much Music yet (took a bit of convincing by my sis to get my Dad to spend the extra $$ to get it). Instead, we would watch Friday Night Videos. It wasn't on til 11pm and my Mom would let us stay up as long as we got in our jammies first. So there we were, inches away from the TV, holding our breath to see what videos they would play that week. Since then music has become the soundtrack of my life. Especially 80's music. I hear a song and I am immediately taken back to the time and place that it meant something to me. Can't imagine my life with it.

burnleybabe

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Son of Pooh Bear..Do your animals control you? Posted: 9/29/2008 7:51:31 AM
I saw the words "Pooh Bear" and it made me smile. That was the nickname of my cat Tigger that passed away last year. I miss my little Pooh Bear! Yes, my animals control me. I'll admit it, and admit it proudly. My cat Layla is who I like to refer to as my "Furry Alarm Clock". When she wants her breakfast...she wants it NOW! She will bump me, stick her paw in my face, and try to pull back my covers to get me out of bed. Nevermind that it is only 5:30am and I don't get up til 6:15 - that's just minor details in her little cat brain. When it is time for dinner she will meow, tap my leg and generally just glare at me until I do her bidding. My other cat Chumley resorts to whining and following me around to get what he wants - which is either food or for me to turn the tap on in the tub so he can stare at the water and try to bite it. But he does earn his keep as he is in charge of security detail...he rids the apt of any unwanted flying insects. My cats are just part of my family. I love them and cherish them...despite the 5:30 wake-up calls.

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