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Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 101 (view)

I am breaking up with BF Today! Had ENOUGH Posted: 11/22/2009 2:55:25 PM
Gawd does this story sound familar. Girl I just went through something like this....almost 2 yrs ago. I'll share a little and maybe through that you can get something that can help. I met the man through a family member. He lived about 50 miles from me. We talked on the phone for about 2 months and then we finally met. I went to him. It was fantastic. It was the classic fireworks, racing heart, sweaty hands, weak knee'd. Not just on my part but it was mutual. So, on the weekends I'd go to him. (notice he never came to me). Spent the weekend having fun, fishing, traveling, becoming best friends and in the mean time...he (broke the cardnal rule..He dropped the L bomb. I was beside myself and overjoyed....but then I'd go home on Sunday, and I'd be the one to make the calls during the week, leaving messages. Sometimes he would call back but mainly he didnt. I'd be left at the end of the night feeling and wondering what he was doing, did he really love me,,,blah blah blah. Then it came. The "call". He called and said he didnt love me, didnt want me and that he was Gondi. WOW....now here comes the stupid part....We were "broke up" for 5 months and he calls me outta the blue. "I made a mistake", "I miss you" and like a dumb ass I took him back. We moved in together ( I went to him...DUH) and the same behavior continued. I could do nothing right. Littlest infraction he would BLOW his lid. I lived on eggshells. Now on a serious note. This continued until he physically attacked me and held me at knife point. The point of my preaching is this. See the warning signs. If he cant treat you with respect now, he never will. If he tries to control you or situations now..it will ALWAYS be that way. (I use the word "he" here for obvious reasons, but it could be a she as well) I waisted almost 2 yrs of my life on someone that was never could enough for anyone. Break it off if you feel you need to , but use this break up as a learning tool. =) Much love, Silver

Joined: 9/16/2007

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Would like your opinion Posted: 11/22/2009 1:44:37 PM
Sweetie I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you, but you know i'm sure we've all had this simular situation arise. Acutally I was the one that ran...said time out. He was perfect in everyway and I knew he was the one for me, but I got really scared of the feelings and emotions. That relationship is the one that even when i'm 90 i'll sit back and kick myself in the ass for running away. That was way back in 94 and I still miss him. For me personally I just felt he was too good for me, and I wigged out, made the call and told him I was bailing out. Isnt that terrible? Maybe he'll come around, maybe he wont, and maybe one day you'll think of that song..."thank God for unanswered prayer" and smile to yourself. Good luck, Sil

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 872 (view)

Plentyoffish Music using IMEEM.com - How To Use Posted: 2/22/2009 1:50:12 PM
Ok, the problem I'm having now, is that I'm trying to remove a song that I have on my profile. I know longer want music. Every time I get rid of the code and safe my changes, it pops right back up. Ive done it over and over, with no result. Any suggestions? I'm almost at the point of removing my profile and just starting over....SOS..lol.... Silver

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 154 (view)

First Date Pet Peeves Posted: 10/8/2008 2:41:07 PM
Well, you know you would think the obvious would give some people a clue as to first date no no's. I'd say, if you come to the door fellas and you introduce yourself and remove your front teeth and put them in your shirt pocket...i'd say you've hit rock bottom!...lol...I actually had this happen to me on a blind date....i left him standing in the door way and went to the bar! So if you got false teeth..keep em in..LMAO

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Msg: 629 (view)

Long hair on older women Posted: 10/10/2007 1:31:48 PM
I dont think a woman's age should be reason for her to cut her hair. My hair is past my waist and I love it. You dont see many women with very very long hair, but it does get noticed. Where was it ever written that when a woman ages she should cut her hair? My grandmother would ask me all the time, when I was younger .."When are you going to grow up and cut that hair"...lol..God love her...I guess it was just the generation.

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 459 (view)

Do women prefer men with long hair or short? Posted: 10/10/2007 1:26:05 PM
Oh man, long hair on a man is simply hot!! I was raised around men with long hair so to me its the norm. I dont base my opinion of a man on his hair, but it does get my attention. Ive known alot of arse's with long hair, but have also with short hair. In the end it depends on the man and his character.

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 70 (view)

His dog bit my son.... Posted: 10/4/2007 1:25:08 PM
Oh yeah, the BF is an idiot!!!! My youngest daughter was attacked in our front yard by a 150lbs Rott. She was only 6 at the time but she has never forgotten it. Will someone please tell me what dog trainer would approve of a dog being praised for attacking this child ???? The dog that bit my daughter was treated bad by its owners and I could almost understand the dogs behavior. But approving of aggressive behavior tells me that the owner has a real problem.

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

Breaking the 'bad choices' cycle Posted: 9/26/2007 9:38:36 PM
Oh man bad choices...! Thats a huge subject to get into but I'd have to say that in my experience its taken me over the years to find quality men to spend time with. In my 20's I lack self confidence and it showed in the men I spent time with. At that time, the men I was with always left me feeling bad about myself . Now that I'm older, I base my decisions on who I'm with by listening to the inner voice. If I start to see old experience repeating...I make the choice to not be with that person....So , I guess my advise would be to listen to you inner voice..when the alarms start to go off...move on

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Which way do you fall first Emotionally or Physically? Posted: 9/26/2007 8:10:33 PM
"Head over heels. Ass over tea kettle. In a summersault or cartwheel. I guess Physically" Redneck176 LMAO....that was awesome...i'll have to remember that one. As for the question, emotionally or physically, I think my standpoint would be that I've had relationships that started both ways. I've met men that werent the best looking and I wasnt attracted to them but after sitting and talking to them, or spending time sometimes you see a persons heart and personality and you emotionally become attached. As for physically? Oh yeah, that happens. Its exciting to meet someone that there is an immediate physical attraction. But as far as what I prefer....let it roll as it may...i'm open.

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts? Posted: 9/23/2007 2:08:57 PM
Man I think we need to give men a break!...Its just breast ladies....Some of us have them and at times its hard not to show them. And if I man likes what he see's well....bless his heart...LOL... Like one of the other posters said...they are coming home with me at the end of the night..... Its all good

Joined: 9/16/2007

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guys that listen to heavy metal: are they dateable? Posted: 9/22/2007 8:31:37 PM
Dateable??? OH hell yes!!! I've been a "head banger" since high school. I love rock. I'm open to other forms of music, but my heart belongs to rock and roll. Nothing like a road trip with Pantera, Korn, Alice in Chains, or NIN playing on the radio! You just keep on listening to the music you feel the most from. Personally, I get nothing from N Sync or Spears. Not to say they dont have talent. I'm just not into them.... Rock On

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 201 (view)

short hair vs long hair Posted: 9/22/2007 8:04:16 PM
I've had long hair for most of my adult life. Currently its down passed my waist. Personally Ive seen the difference in attention when I have my hair up and when I let it down. Since my hair is so long and because of the line of work I do, most of the time my hair is in a braid. Now, when I go to the store , nothing. Men dont notice me at all. But let me let it hang when say i'm going out of the night, and the heads turn all over. Now, maybe its because not many women have hair as long as mine and so they look or maybe its because they really love it. I'm not sure. I think its an honorable thing you did to shave your head. You have more guts than I do. Many times I've gotten mad at my hair and thought.."today i'm getting it cut" and when I would get ready to leave to get it cut, I'd chicken out...lol.... Remember your beautiful with or without hair!!!

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Confused by this whole dating thing... Posted: 9/22/2007 7:55:00 PM
Dating can be confusing. I can completely understand where your coming from. I'm probably not going to be the most popular on this tread with what I'm about to say , but here goes...lol Women and men are wired completely different. We think differently, act different and are rasied with different attitudes about sex and what it means to have sex. Men are told "way to go"..and women are left feeling like they maybe a bad person for having it....Why is that? Sex is a normal function. Sure it can be mind blowing with the right person, and it can be a life lesson if its with someone that may have not been the right person for you. So you had sex with this guy, and it didnt turn out the way you wanted. Just live and learn and maybe be a little bit more picky about who you sleep with next. If your looking for a relationship, then someone like the guy you just had sex with wouldnt be good mate material. I've had this happen to me before and honestly I had to look at it this way...... Did it feel good? YES....Did he enjoy himself? YES...am I glad I didnt get stuck with a man that I wouldnt be happy with in the long run YES YES YES.....lol..so its all good...Sex, or love making is never waisted time

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

Well I just moved in with a single mother and kinda have a few questions Posted: 9/20/2007 9:21:59 AM
Having been a single parent for many years, I know the issue of children can be a heavy one on a relationship. But you know, I was reading your post over and a thought came to me. And please, dont take this wrong because I mean it in a respectful way. If there was EVER a doubt, about living with her, that should have been a huge sign. When there are children involved, making life changing decisons should always be based on the children. Kids dont pick their parents, their born to them. Single parent and children are package deals. I can understand that it would be a huge undertaking to walk into a ready made family.....Just seems like maybe moving in may have not been a good idea......

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 648 (view)

Re: Why do women post pictures of their breasts in thier profile? Posted: 9/20/2007 9:09:04 AM
You know I was just talking about this topic with a friend this week. I dont understand what women, or men for that matter are thinking when they post nake nude pictures. As for me personally, I'm as sexual as the next girl, but when seeing a almost nude pic doesnt do anything for me. Sorry, guys....lol..but it just doesnt. Give me something to imagine, or dream about anyday, and you'll have my attention. Besides....arent there sites on the net that are sexual in nature and welcome nudes as well as those that enjoy viewing them? Just thought POF was a bit different than those..

Joined: 9/16/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Has anyone ever started out just as friends and then later become a couple? Posted: 9/20/2007 9:01:20 AM
I think being classified as "just a friend", doesnt always mean that a woman has labeled a man and its over. I think that would be judging women to behaving at one standard. I was recently involved with a man that was a good friend for over 10yrs. It became a loving romantic relationship. Now, it did end, but I dont think just because mine didnt work out ,that others can have a winning relationship with a friend. Ive seen it happen with other couples.

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